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How Trauma Gets Trapped in Your Body. Trauma is a mental injury, not a mental illness, but when that stress becomes chronic, it takes root in your body. In the last video we talked about how stress hurts your body. In this video you’ll learn how trauma gets trapped in your body. We’re going to talk about ACES and crocodiles and how Holocaust survivors passed down anxious genes to their kids. You’ll learn why you feel stuck in chronic stress. And in the next video you’ll learn what to do about it.
At its essence, trauma is in the nervous system. When your brain perceives a threat (like a crocodile), it turns on the self-protective fight-or-flight response. This is the sympathetic response in your autonomic nervous system. You move from a state of safety to activation - fighting off an attacker, running away, defending and protecting yourself. Your nervous system triggers a massive physiological response, pumping out adrenaline to jolt your muscles into action and the stress hormone cortisol to increase blood sugar to power your intense movement. But cortisol also turns off non-immediately essential functions like your immune system, your digestion, healing, and repairing systems in your body.
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[@Bachelour]

"Trauma is a mental injury, not a mental illness" and in the first 5 seconds of this video, you completely changed how I view myself.

[@hippityhoppity6313]

It actually is though. Different parts of the brain grow or shrink as a result of trauma. It is a brain injury like a stroke or concussion

[@Ninsidhe]

@@hippityhoppity6313 only if you don't factor in brain plasticity.

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Right, it's a legit injury, but injuries can heal. Humans have an amazing and incredible ability to grow

[@bridgetsieger2261]

My doctor said this to me literally yesterday. Good timing KZbin!!

[@margotaylor6157]

Amen!!!! 🙂

[@matiasse]

Just recently, as a 21-year old I've realized that for all my life I've been fleeing from my emotions instead of trying to deal with them. From a young age I learned that feelings are not meant to be shared or even felt, they're just an enemy. It feels so good to finally get to understand myself and maybe change things for the better. Thanks for the help, Emma.

[@skittles2055]

💕🌠

[@sriku1000]

A Calming Video On the Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y6bIqZ2vadiKq5Y

[@angelawatkins2789]

Same! Emma's videos have been super helpful for me.

[@matiasse]

@Rhoda Keprta Well said! And I'm so happy for you, it's truly never too late to change for the better.

[@nessalight8681]

Thats incredible for 21 years old. It takes some people til the end of their lives to learn that. Great work.

[@SandiTink]

I don’t know what it feels like to not be depressed or anxious. I have PTSD from repeated trauma starting from at least 18 months old. (Yes, I can remember it even though it’s through a toddler’s eyes and understandings.) I have MS (which is a hyper-immune disease), migraines, Meniere’s disease, severe allergies, arthritis, diabetes, fibromyalgia, and various neuralgias. I have body dysmorphic disorder. My brother has often joked that my shoulders could be taken for granite. I can’t relax, am always hypervigilant, and exhausted no matter how much sleep I get. I have terrible nightmares. But most people who saw my childhood think I lived a charmed life-middle class, beautiful home, private school, frequent new clothes and jewelry, my own car at 16, etc. They never heard the verbal abuse or saw any results of the physical abuse. They saw loving and supportive parents. They didn’t hear the vituperation whispered in my ear, the damning words uttered outside my bedroom door, the times I took care of my mother during illness or depression with no help from my father, the insults, accusations, or bizarre behavior. These days, someone might have noticed and intervened, but I was born in the ‘50’s and people didn’t interfere in those days. One woman tried, the mother of a dear friend, and she was ostracized for her attempt. If you see any warning signs of trauma or abuse in a child, please do what you can to help. You may save a life.

[@gretatheotherone4686]

I relate to your comments. I'm a kid of the early 60s, things were different back then. And here we are now. Life is hard, always was. May we someday soon find healing and peace🙏❤

[@jowyschwarz313]

I don't know why but i relate and understand because from your story i was on the similiar boat as you are

[@kathymyers7279]

My kids have this. I have to live with that. So I’ll never be healed. Are any of you parents?

[@gretatheotherone4686]

@@kathymyers7279 Yes, and I do believe our DNA carries and shares the effects of our trauma(s). There is alot of healing to do. God help us all.🙏❤

[@jennys.214]

Sandi, wow. This sounds similar, from the little bit you’ve shared, to my situation. I have Meniere’s too and also have an autoimmune disorder since age 17. Went through horrific abuse and trauma at the hands of my “parents”. I, too, can remember back to toddlerhood. No therapist can seem to help and the last one I did go to told me that my family was the worst he’d ever heard of in his many years of working in the mental health field. That made me worry that maybe he didn’t know how to help me. And I hadn’t even yet told him everything that had happened to me. I hope you, the other commenters, other sufferers in general, and I all get to the end of this long road of recovery to find ourselves healed.

[@nriqueog]

If anyone is suffering from constant body tension, that feeling that overwhelms the body with fear/anxiety, I recommend watching some videos on Vagus Nerve resetting. It's a simple technique that can put your whole body at ease with consistent practice. This really helped me overcome a feeling of fear that was with me from the moment I woke up.

[@Seek_Him]

Thank You

[@ifeoma_amaechi]

That’s what happened to me I went to sleep with a panic attack and now it feels like the symptoms are be stuck

[@nriqueog]

@@ifeoma_amaechi Watch this video and give it a try. Don't expect too much after the first time, you will start to feel results after a day or two. Do it before closing your eyes for sleep and after you wake up in the morning. If you feel like you need it during the day take a moment to lay down and do it. kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y4SbfIdtrJmol6M

[@mariem1438]

@@nriqueog I just watched it, thank you.

[@nriqueog]

@@mariem1438 You're welcome. Just remember to do it constanly & whenever you need it.

[@eboquansah6913]

Now I believe “the sins of the father” are a real thing. Being verbally and physically abused on a consistent basis as a kid, I have always been tensed up. I can’t seem to relax. I can’t seem to stay calm. Being young, whenever my father comes home from work, my heart begins to pound heavily. Cos for some reason, I knew that there was going to be some abuse coming down my way. This happened for so long that, even in my 30s I still feel this deep sense of anxiety and tension. I take things too seriously, I can’t face a confrontation even when the other person is so wrong. I easily back down from a confrontational situation and then I later get super angry at myself for not standing up for myself. Thanks to this video I now understand that it was because of the childhood abuse and humiliation I took from my father and mother. Thank you so much for shedding light on this. Best to know where I am at, how I got here to be able to see where I want to go. Your channel is really saving a lot of people. Again thanks, and much love ❤️

[@BigBossMan538]

Took the words right out of my mouth

[@19powpow91]

This comment made me cry. Because every word you wrote. I can relate to. My dad was the same. Everytime I heard that garage door open... Not only myself. But my mom and sister had the same anxiety. I can't relax. For shit. Ever. I hope we can find a way to calm down. I just want to relax.

[@amineHighTube]

@@19powpow91 same thing, as soon as I heard the keys I used to rush to my room or do something to keep busy...and now I suffer from anxiety because of that probably, I really just want to reach a state of calmness and clarity without being anxious all the time about all possible dangers in life...

[@19powpow91]

@@amineHighTube ugh same. I wake up with anxiety. I have anxiety at work. When I come home (I stress myself to death about everything) when my husband comes home I get anxious. (I assume that's from when my dad would come home. Even though my husband is amazing) It's just really saddening for me because I wish I knew what it was like to shut my brain off. I wish I knew what it was like to not feel tense. I'm constantly catching myself extremely tense. When I hold my husband's hand, he'll pull away sometimes and say "man that grip hurts" I grip his hand so hard without even knowing it. It's heartbreaking to feel like I'll never live an anxious free life

[@Theizzer]

@@19powpow91 Good thing you come to the right channel! I also learned a lot from Stephen Porges (about his polyvagal theory). He explains how you can get back in the 'safe state' and feel calm again after getting automaticly tense (you have no controle over it at first, its how the human body works). Try to pay attention to the reaction that your body gives when your anxiety kicks in again and try to calm it down (lots of tips on this channel! :) ). Processing trauma is a huge challenge... something I am trying to do this whole year. But I believe it with every cell in my body that it's worth it. Untrigger the triggers ;) Power to you!

[@arich20]

EDIT Again this time at the top: PLEASE stop commenting telling me to get another doctor or that 14 years is too long. I don't want to delete the comment because I don't want to delete this thread of shared information and perspective, but the constant notifications with the same messages is actually pretty painful. You have no idea how many doctors and therapists I've seen, what kind of therapy I've gone through, or why it has continued to take so long. I'm not the only person with this story. Multi-trauma complex PTSD is complicated and it can take a long time. I was also never prescribed medication for trauma. This was my original message: I've been in therapy for 14 years and no one has told me to think of trauma as an injury instead of an illness. I'm shook y'all Edit to add: I'm not sure what happened to the reply I made below, looks like it got deleted. I get why people are making the statements they are, but for some people therapy is going to take a long time. It takes as many therapists and as many modalities as it has to. I would hate for anyone to feel shamed by reading that they "should" be done with therapy by a particular amount of time. Some people have a lot of trauma. Some people have a lot to unpack, and it's okay if it requires time. "Still in therapy" does not mean "not making progress."

[@videoettaceo8900]

Ditto

[@stephenienoel106]

Double ditto

[@nopeIdontthinkso388]

I think the wording was a "brain injury not a mental illness" or a "response to injury not a mental illness" which is still profound.

[@gretatheotherone4686]

Triple ditto--

[@stephenienoel106]

@@gretatheotherone4686 lol🙂 Right????

[@tony7787]

This made me tear up, because I recognise this in myself. I've been a light sleeper with insomnia for years. I never felt safe so I always have to be aware of my surroundings even when asleep

[@JB4C89]

Thank you! As an African American I believe that trauma has greatly effected the health outcome of my community.

[@nubiandivegirl3316]

JB, as an African American I whole heartedly agree!!! Our community needs mental health healing. Our DNA carries so much trauma.

[@skateness]

I was looking for this comment. I totally agree!

[@so.many.obstacles]

@@Rollwithit699 let’s not “all lives matter” this person’s comment. They are talking about themselves and their community.

[@LindaMarie9]

@@so.many.obstacles and let's not cancel each other! Enough ego protection going around, don't you think?

[@theadvocate2782]

@@Rollwithit699 trauma does happen to all races. In my opinion, that wasn't the point this comment. How about stopping to reflect on what was shared and affirming the commentor's post instead of flippantly reacting to it? Her statement was accurate. The atrocities that were leveled against Black people in America was and still is a lived experience for some. Complex trauma ingrained in DNA for centuries without having safe spaces to let guards down will absolutely lead to a higher prevalence of both physical and psychological health concerns that eventually leads to higher (and earlier) death rates among the Black community. That's not even considering other socioeconomic disparities that contribute to early deaths in the Black community. I could go on but I'll leave it here: I do have hope that things can change and that more safe spaces will be available for Black people to heal. I'm committed to creating that safe space and would hope that @letitroll and others will commit doing the same.

[@Sarai71788]

I had chronic constipation ever since I was an infant. I was raised with a malignant narcissist father and covert enabling narcissist mother. I tried everything trying to fix the problem but it wasn't until I went no contact with my toxic family system that I realized my body was so tense from years of abuse. I literally healed my stomach with no outside forces but rather from releasing stored trauma from cptsd. Its crazy what my body naturally can do on its own after 30 years of a constant struggle and literal pain in my stomach which is known to be where fear lives. fascinating.

[@skylarsaysstuff]

This comment is so interesting to me. I too had chronic constipation and similar parents. Once I moved out, it became so much easier and my body just wanted to heal. I'm happy for you that you're doing better now. 💚

[@YouAlreadyKnow8424]

Thank you for this comment💜

[@soulsunshine108]

I am curious about people who say both parents are narcissists. Do you think that is what attracted them to each other? Or that one partner isn't really a narcissist but was traumatized and eventually began supporting the abuser, after their original personality was damaged and taken control over?

[@Sarai71788]

@@soulsunshine108 you nailed it! As he carved away her personality and empathetic traits, they were replaced by his narcissistic behavior and viewpoints which developed into an entire shift of character. It was an erosion that made way for a narcissist in and of itself.

[@cynthiaawino669]

I have the same problem bt I've not found help yet

[@khadijaali9045]

This channel is my healing space😊. I refuse to be a victim of my family's generation trauma. May we all heal and find peace.

[@2016FHS]

I don't need to be finished yet to know this is a video everyone needs to see so they can understand their brains better❤

[@sriku1000]

A Calming Video On the Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y6bIqZ2vadiKq5Y

[@luckytn]

At age 4 in 1954, I had two experience that I wonder if they caused trauma. First, I fell out of a tree and broke my pelvis. I was confined to be until the fracture had healed. Second, a few months later I contracted polio and had to be treated for months at a specialty hospital. My family lived 200 miles away, so I didn't see my parents but a couple of times. I've begun to wonder if those, especially the polio, caused trauma. I've always had a lot of anxiety and sometimes depression. Although I've never had any problems with alcohol, I did become a drug user in the 80s. At least I woke up one day and said to myself, "I don't want to do this anymore." I quit then and there with the drugs. I'm heading on to 40 years drug free.

[@DelightedSAfrican]

Yes. That makes sense. As a small child from a family that possibly could not afford to give you good medical care when you broke your pelvis, so confined you to bed until the bones healed, then, when you contracted polio they were compelled to remove you far from the family, not just for your healing, but to protect them from getting it too. You would have experienced profound rejection. Time is giving you perspective. Jesus wants to heal you. Ask Him.

[@staceyclark8796]

I’m so sorry you experienced those events.

[@siamsoup9071]

Hell yea, it sounds like it! being sick in a hospital miles away from your parents sounds traumatizing for sure. Congratulations on being sober

[@Chiroman527]

Dr. Emma said it Best: "Being Stuck in the Trauma is Exhausting". The Furnace (your Mind) is running all the Time. I suffer from numerous Spinal issues developed over the years, initially developing from having sustained a broken right Femur playing HS Football in 1966. I'm 70 YO now, that fracture resulted in a 1" shorter right leg. It was left unaddressed and that Took it's Toll on my Spine. So what I have found that Physical Issues Mixed in with Psyche issues, end up creating a state of Malfunctioning Mind Body Connection. Dr. Emma is very Spot On with the Trauma Stuck in Your Body. The spinal afflictions (stenosis , Scoliosis, disc bulges/herniations, arthritis) affect the Central Nervous System making it far more Sensitized. Then the mental traumas (and nor from just the Injury, but all he previous things you may have been subjected to), sit in you and eventually Come Out to Haunt you. Many people have their share of mental traumas... I do. Mentally ill mother from my birth where she was committed to a mental institution soon after my birth for 7 months, on until she committed suicide by Hanging herself soon after my father died of Colon cancer 8 months before. As a 7 or 8 year old child, I saw her be taken away form our home in a Straight Jacket. I saw her on a number of occasions get Shock Treatments and then have weeks of foggy behavior and poor memory. Brings tears to my eyes as I write this. So, it is No Wonder that I became an anxious child, nail biting started at age 6 or 7, then Anticipatory Anxiety would set in. School would let out at 3 PM. I was looking at my watch by 2.30 - waiting out the minutes. Later on, "It" (the Anxiety Demon), crept into everything...... anticipatory anxiety. Going to a Show, a concert, a BB game, you name it. Enjoyment of the activity was elusive. ruined by anxiety. I have been to Therapists, taken Prozac 2X in the last 25 years, but no one has really explained IT like Dr. Emma. Moreover, at 70 YO, and with the real advancement of the Chronic Pain and the associated anxiety / de[pression, I have come to do so much more research (Thank the Lord for the InterWeb). You Do Need To Help Yourself. I'm trying. I will leave one more point... Your Physical Pain is Real - at least for me it is - yes, some may be Masked and /or referred pain, but it is Real to me, not just "in my head". My spine is Twisted and Curved, my Hips & SI Joints Do have Arthritis, I do have IBS for 35 years , I do have TMJ and Cervical issues that affect so Much in your body {you would be astounded by how much is affected by the physical condition of your Neck & CNS - The Vagus Nerve is affected} and it is Intensified and magnified by the Psyche issues - You Bet. The Psyche issues is what contributes to the havoc in your Central Nervous System . An Over Sensitized Central Nervous System is a Thing - it is a Demon as well. By watching this and many others, and posting comments , it serves to Verbalize and possibly help "heal".

[@judyford8047]

B

[@norafox4789]

70 here also!!it was my mother,who put her insecurities,onto me!!forced to marry in the church,at 16,baby girl at 17,never any comfort or help,from family..I stayed away,only til I was called for,by my father..my friends were my only family,or feelings of family.which I was chastized for,only the mother,5 kids, I was in middle.I always felt,u can choose ur friends,not family.I trust+love my real friends,+try to understand,but she is dead now,there was never an apology for hurting me,nor my relationship with my daughter,who has been estranged from me for 30 years or more..This part hurts the worse,as I know the lies,and disgusting ways,they told her,from a small child..now she has problems with anxiety+stress,just like me!how do u forget?? YOU DON'T..EVER.

[@user-zl4rr1ic7w]

​@@norafox4789I am almost 70. Ask God to help you forgive.

[@thebluerose4179]

This came at the perfect time. I don’t really leave my apartment anymore but had to go for a physio appointment today. The noise and people and the constant questions from the physio coupled with the pain I was feeling made me start to cry and then I couldn’t stop and got even more overwhelmed and had to leave. She said my pain is due to my muscles tensing up from constant fear and being on high alert. It’s been like this for years. I have C-PTSD.

[@lumalove5543]

Hope u r fine. Take care. Consider chanting something.

[@kims1912]

There is a procedure called Stella therapy. It's Stellate Ganglion Block. It gets people out of fight or flight. They have great results from it.

[@Dandelion0962]

Stay alert in who and, or what is offering you counseling, or ‘help’, and how in locating your unintentional trigger points. For in and of fellowship with the holy spirit’s learning you may have overcome much in and for progress in the past, sources are reaccumullating old and new areas upon you, which can place you in complacency or feeling overwhelmed by noise

[@ellanina801]

I've felt this same way. It's so hard to go outside and even interact with people most of the time. I've been working really hard on it, and meditation really helps. I also take my cats everywhere that I can with me. It's so much stressful having a companion, and a furry one at that.

[@ZabXyzx]

Same

[@annbess5800]

Comfort is so important and so is being out of the threatening environment.

[@ellanina801]

We all need a safe place to feel/be vulnerable.

[@kgreene460]

My Grandmother was a Holocaust survivor and this concept that you've introduced to me makes a lot of sense, thank you so much! I do a little bit (or sometimes a lot) of yoga everyday and I feel like the stress that I absorb has no place to hide and it helps me emotionally and physically, it's a fabulous stress reliever - good for the body and the brain.

[@kariccio]

Trauma is so exhausting. Great video, super validating and informative. Thank you!

[@sriku1000]

A Calming Video On the Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y6bIqZ2vadiKq5Y

[@wendyhannan2454]

It sure is, I love this video it makes so much sense.

[@willowoodz]

i’m 15 and i’m realizing how much trauma i have been manipulated into forgetting/being ok w. i’ve been emotionally and physically neglected for long periods of time during childhood since my parents would have to work from either 5 to 5 or 4 to 4. toxic positivity and emotional invalidation ha riddled my childhood thoroughly. “you’re happy. just thought it out. you’re being too sensitive. ____ doesn’t cry about this as much as you do. you’re such a brat”. i also was gaslighted regularly into thinking that MY CHILD-LIKE BEHAVIOR was BAD. smh. imagine telling a kid that they can’t act like an immature kid 🤦🏽‍♀️. we lived in poverty and it got better around my adolescent years, but i distinctly remember days where my parents would argue bc they were afraid we’d end up losing our apartment. i also remember not being able to afford things most things could, or always feelings guilty for asking for anything. further into my life- my brother tried to take his own life 11 times. his first time trying to take his own life was in front of me when i was 8 years old. he threatened to slit his throat with a knife. i moved to my home country alone w my brother in 7th grade. i had to grow up fast bc my family expected early to know what to do with him and how to help him when he’d have episodes for his bipolar. i got bullied in middle school from 7th to 8th grade, and i got sexually abused in 8th grade. this all really hurts to type out, but i feel liberated somehow knowing that i’m not the only one who’s severely damaged haha.

[@barbaradejaynes7612]

Praying for you now

[@suzyjackson5514]

All humans are damaged....your parents were damaged, your brother was damaged. That's is why we need Jesus!

[@Bhappi137]

I have a Son just 2 years older than you, I feel so proud of you I honestly do, to be able to voice what has happened to you is one of the hardest things you will do, but it’s the turning point to getting help , being a Mother of 4 you are brave , what you wrote touched my heart , I never spoke out about my trauma until I was twice your age ,I wish you all the best Good luck in your life xx

[@ThisIsMe155]

I am so sorry. Thoughts and Prayers. Y🙏💕🙏💕xx

[@threeblessings575]

You sound very logical and self aware in spite of it..good luck going forward, I think you've got this.

[@rachelsmename6]

I'm the daughter of a holocaust survivor. This answers a question for me. Thank you for this series!

[@mikelisteral7863]

human beings copy each other - bad behavior gets copied and passed on like a virus

[@rachelsmename6]

@@mikelisteral7863 Hi Mike, did you mean to reply to my message to the poster?

[@ericadelnigro6780]

My mother is as well, and I am trying to heal our ancestral trauma for my child.

[@lynncohen2897]

yes, that is a real phenomenon indeed.. another interesting thing to note is how racism in general exists because of this. In America, for instance, blacks have trauma rooted in slavery and this trauma is generationally passed in the DNA similar to the successive generations of holocaust survivors. For whites, racism begins with traumatic firsthand experiences in childhood, usually at school or with peers that continue into adulthood. Sadly being aware of this information is not enough to overcome, even with knowing how the nervous system works since it involves alterations in the DNA. We Jews do tend to have additional burdens and neuroses from it.

[@rachelsmename6]

@@lynncohen2897 Thank you! That resonates with me.

[@benicio1967]

This describes my childhood. I’ve always known the terror I experienced as a child had caused “INJURY TO MY BRAIN”. I knew it innately because from the very point of trauma I kept reliving the horrors I went through over and over and over again..... I still relive them to this day. By the time I was over 35 I couldn’t cope with even the smallest amount of stress any more. For years I judged and criticized people who screamed when they were startled. I just couldn’t understand it. I am literally that person who screams when frightened now. Its embarrassing and it’s horrible but it’s an uncontrollable reaction when I’m stressed or startled. I have no ability to cope with anything that taxes my patience either. My reaction to stress must be absolutely unbearable for those closest to me. My sister says she understands but sadly I can see she truly doesn’t. How could she comprehend my stress when she has not experienced my trauma? I’m consumed with guilt for what she has to endure dealing with my anxiety. I do believe she tries to understand what goes on inside my mind but I also understand that she can’t possibly relive the trauma that I have experienced. I understand that she will never be capable of understanding just how day to day trauma or surprises affect me. I feel anxious about 90% of my day. The only time I feel completely relieved is if I have two beers or two glasses of wine. For years now I’ve been very careful not to exceed two because I worry about addiction. I don’t see how my anxiety will ever leave at this point. The thing that has perplexed me the most is, why did I seem to be able to cope with stress so much better at 20 and 25 when I had fewer years of experience and lacked maturity but I’ve learned that maturity and trauma never meet. Responses to trauma almost always bypass any opportunity to be rational or logical because of the lack of time. The brain requires a certain amount of time in recovery in order to be able to be rational, calm and logical. Trauma simply doesn’t allow the necessary time for how the brain reacts to a perceived threat. As I moved past 35 my stress levels only grew more intolerable for me. This is an awful thing to have to cope with every single day, especially when you know your inability to tolerate stress is effecting other people so negatively. I wish I could change, if only to make life easier for those I love.

[@edjachimowicz8462]

Thanx for the insight. I'm 53 years old and have been in therapy since I was 23. Only recently found the root of my problems. Emotional neglect in my childhood from a father that survived a concentration camp in WWII. Your explanation totaly complements this fact and explains why I'm still struggling so much in this life. The stress from my father's experiences in his life combined with his trauma that made him not the loving parent he should have been just messed my head up so much that only since recently begin to understand how I've become what I am today with all the survival mechanisms I've put in place. Not even mentioning the healing that has to take place to make this life worth living again. Looking forward to part 3

[@sthiel126]

I just barely found this book and have already found it very insightful and helpful. Hope it helps you too. "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents" by Lindsay C. Gibson.

[@Soltice-ty2nf]

Did you forgive him? Remember his trauma most has been horrible. Probably more than yours

[@Bitachon]

*So sorry to hear. Keep learning and healing*

[@julieg-b8910]

I have similar experience. My Dad passed a few years ago and I am now free and he is as well.

[@MiriamHernandez-cv7em]

I grew up being physically,verbally and emotionally abused my whole life . I’m slowly overcoming my anxiety and depression I’m ok , it’s a struggle every day .

[@magdadrague]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[@MiriamHernandez-cv7em]

@@magdadrague amen 🙏

[@peggirl152]

@@magdadrague in this case sick, chronically ill.

[@dixiehodges4802]

God bless you on your journey🙏

[@lovelyk1386]

Your not alone I've been struggling with depression and bad anxiety I've been diagnosed with it some months ago and I feel like it's eating me from the inside.. sometimes I'm scared for my brain health because I know it's dealing with all the emotions that comes with it...I try to find natural stress relievers instead of taking my meds but I try to just keep my hopes up for healing and keep praying through sorry if this is not helpful but I'm still learning to cope with it

[@dougcorbett4933]

So much has come at me in the last few years. First and foremost after the death of my 22 year old son eight years ago I divorced and have now learned that I was in an abusive narcissistic relationship and was unaware of it. This video hits home because I could never learn to turn off the trauma and the stress response because I was constantly hypervigilant. No wonder I could not see my future And I am trying to learn how to counter that. So thank you for putting out videos like you do. They are invaluable!!!

[@vincentvanpot4333]

Doug, thank you for posting that. I've have greatly suffered at the hands of many narcissists in my life. I believe that narcissists are a plague upon the Earth, they sow destruction and pain wherever they go.

[@lilasfaves7846]

So sorry to hear about your son 🤍💐

[@glendacollins2898]

It’s a relief when we understand that living with a pathological narcissist IS abuse…they never have to lay a finger on us to beat us to a pulp. You will heal… just keep putting one foot in front of the other and never wear blinders again💪🤗life can be good again. My heart goes out to you in the loss of your son.

[@ellanina801]

Losing a child, no matter their age, or the circumstances of the loss, is so traumatic. I am so sorry for your loss 💜

[@ellanina801]

@@glendacollins2898 and everyone seems to justify their abuse for some reason.

[@juliachesters5042]

Thank you Emma. 😊 I lost my son James at the end of October 2021 in a freak accident! He went into Anaphylaxis due to a wasp sting to his neck, and never regained consciousness. He was on life support for several days, he was left with heart and brain damage following the trauma of the incident. The shock to the nervous system set in from the onset, seeing him in ICU! Bereavement is individual and there's no right or wrong way, to go forwards only to slowly listen to your body, as it adjusts with rest, reflection and support of kindness and professional help etc... Your video today has helped me Emma at this time of great loss. 🌹

[@jillelizabeth478]

Oh Julia, I am so sorry for your loss...I cannot imagine the trauma it must have caused for you. Praying for peace which passes all understanding. 🙏

[@gillianm9367]

Reading this on Christmas eve makes me realise how especially difficult this Christmas must be for you Julia- though I know you will miss your son every day. Know that he would not wish for you to be sad, but to enjoy the holidays as best you can 💕 After several family bereavement s I gained much comfort from watching lots of 'near death experiences ' recounted on KZbin. Anita Moorjani's books and KZbin channel helped me also. Wishing you much comfort and peace 💕

[@douglasbrady6886]

We lost our son in 2018 4 days before Christmas. He was found in his room non responsive. I tried CPR before the EMSA came ant took him to The local ER. He never regained consciousness and was on life support for 3 days before he was declared brain dead. His Mother, Sister, and I were in shock and grief. We have all had grief and I and his Mother have been diagnosed and treated for PTSD. I am still in treatment and have continued to blame myself for not doing CPR correctly. The cause of death was aspiration of his own vomit, CAD, and sepsis pneumonia. There was no drugs involved. He had a severe viral infection and was to have gone to see his PCP the next day. I relive his death over and over. I have PTSD from military service. Thank you for your video.

[@juliachesters5042]

@@douglasbrady6886 Hello 👋 Douglas thank you for your contact on UTube. My Compassionate Heart goes out to you and your family 👪 ❤️. I'm a Christian lady which helps me walk this journey of grieving for James my son who died October 28th 2021. I visited his resting place yesterday 💕 to spend time slowly coming to terms with the harsh reality. I started seeing Compassionate Friends last Sunday a voluntary group established in UK 🇬🇧 and Ireland 🇮🇪. Pat and Lauren whom I met shared their sudden lost of a young daughter and son. I pray 🙏 Douglas that you will be Comforted knowing we share your sorrows and I will continue to pray 🙏 healing for our losses and those I meet along the way!! I'm a retired qualified nurse, but the loss of your own child is very traumatic!! I send my kindest wishes and I will always remember you and your loved ones in prayer. Julia. 🌟🌹

[@maralinautube]

My myy myyy... Yahweh has been showing me this year as to how trauma stores in the body! I even mentioned this to my physical therapist in September & he agreed. We think it's a headache, backache; when it's chronic, it's stores in the body! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 This video is Confirmation of what The Holy Spirit has been showing me that an alarming amount of what experience in life, the source is some deep rooted trauma! This is also confirmation of generational curses being passed down!

[@maralinautube]

@Alex Higgings Shalom & Blessings to you! That's Awesome! Keep ALLOWING the Lord to deliver you & I will do the same so that way we can both walk in true FREEDOM!

[@meggrotte4760]

Amen, I found a lot of healing in chist I found christ when I was thirteen It's been thirty two years and he's still working on some things It is a lot better compared to before

[@maralinautube]

Amen... Just saw this message!

[@abellexoxo3638]

I've lived with C-PTSD for 30 years, thank you for explaining this detailed information in an easily processable manner! Great content!! 🖤

[@sriku1000]

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[@minupuningkotin]

Hi Emma, you have no idea how watching your videos have changed my life. I am mighty grateful to you for doing these videos and helping millions of people. May you be abundantly blessed.

[@naku4]

Love the channel. I'm discovering mechanisms in me that allow me to think differently. To break the negative thought loops about my perceived weakness/ sickness. More understanding = better handling of myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@d.k3.em.z.o.y.m.n.r.t.b.s.467]

your videos help more people then you probably even know! Thank you for being a caring soul in today’s cold and cruel world!

[@Nadiasalen]

It feels so good to learn more about how our bodies works! 👏🏻 thank you Emma for another great content 💜

[@amyasselstine8042]

I am thrilled I bumped into this channel. I have dealt with fear and anxiety since childhood! Always something bad happening. Toxic family upbringing, left home at 16, first relationship physically abusive, 2nd relationship I married a psychopath, divorced, 2nd marriage he was narcissistic!! Last job I quit in December was toxic, abusive, bullying. I had enough. I went to a new church and was prayed for by pastors that counselled my last marriage. They prayed against trauma and memory issues and memory loss to be restored! I was in shock! I instantly knew I wasn’t going crazy, but I had been through trauma and never had time to deal with it as I was busy raising three kids alone! Finally the darkness brought to the light! LET THE HEALING BEGIN!! Now I know what the problem is. Spent too many years surviving, and pressing through. It’s time for healing in this area of my life! Praise God! Bless you!

[@jamesmurphy3219]

Trauma doesn't have to be an event. It could be something learned and a general feeling of being unsafe. I feel like I experience this quite frequently in how my brain veers toward the negative 'what if.' But this mindset can be unlearned (neuroplasticity). Another very insightful video. Thank you!

[@iialleysparksii5297]

Intergenerational trauma truly is scary. I haven't experienced it myself, but it sounds horrible to imagine feeling the way I feel but minus the abuse. Not having something to pin point as a direct origin of the trauma, just feeling the "on edge" feelings sounds like a confusing and overbearing thing to experience.

[@desmondwaves]

So how does one actually unlearn something, do you know what the steps are to do that?

[@jamesmurphy3219]

Working to change the way I think about things might be the more appropriate way to put it than to 'unlearn.' Applying some of the mindfulness techniques towards my anxiety and negative thinking habits has started to really help me. To first notice what I'm thinking (as an outside observer) and then choosing whether or not to attach to the thought, depending on if it's helpful to me or not. It's definitely easier said than done but it gets better with the more active practice I give it, just like with anything else. Practicing these mindfulness exercises has really helped to create more space between my thoughts and better management of them. Especially the anxious ones.

[@alexgillo9233]

@@jamesmurphy3219 isn’t it great how things change. Once we start learning about how we can actually help ourselves rather than think: this is just who I am and to dislike ourselves. I practice mindfulness and inner child work have helped enormously. I’ve just ordered a book They F***you up which was recommended.

[@antonvannelli9085]

Exactly. It is all about how your limbic system perceives information and the "state" that it is in. And this perception is changed through past events and associations. Our brain creates positive and negative associations to everything around us and everything we do. Take the example of someone who can finally relax when they are on a massage table. The second they are finished with this treatment, tension and muscular pain start up again within minutes/hours/days. The reason they were able to "let go" at all, is because they perceived the massage as safe, and therefore OK to let go and relax. However, this is an anomaly for this person, and not part of their current homeostasis. Their brain jumps right back to the fight/flight (default) as soon as they are off the massage table. It is one thing to briefly find the parasympathetic, but another thing entirely to be able to program the brain into a new state of homeostasis (and convince it that this new state is safe!). I work in the field of neuro programming and address limbic system and muscular dysfunction/firing patterns. What she is describing here in her video regarding patterns and associations is exactly right and I see strong evidence for it daily.

[@jeanettewyspianski3539]

One of the best, informative, helpful videos I have ever listened too. Being and feeling under constant attack is exhausting beyond words. Thank you Emma🙏

[@sriku1000]

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[@boutalbimedchaker2534]

Thank you so much. I did experience many traumas in my life. It caused me to stutter and fear people. Now, I m way better than ever, but I still have some numb versions of me that don't lessen to me. I feel so much of body resistance. I hope I can find so guidence in your next video.

[@paulalane8638]

Thank you for this more than I can express in words! I'm 65 and grew up in trauma with alcoholic abusive mother. The family swept it all under the rug and I've lived my life with the "fallout". Some life!!! It is comforting to gain knowledge like this which helps so much! I've always sensed there was something very wrong with me, perhaps because others treat me that way.

[@BM-hb2mr]

Firemen like myself that have retired still look at almost every situation as a threat or something that could happen and have seen it first hand on a call. Most people won't understand those feelings or protections. Alot of things that we have seen, we put them in everyday life, because that's what we know. It never goes away

[@lisagouldson8373]

❤️

[@DelightedSAfrican]

How brave you are to explain how your career has affected the way you look at life! Many men will not acknowledge what they have been through, living in denial. That is so courageous despite your fear (alertness, watchfulness.) I had to be delivered of a spirit of fear before I was able to begin to recover. The differance in my case was profound. 2 Timothy 1:7 says "fear is not of the Lord. He gives us love, power and a sound mind." I had been filled with a demonic spirit of fear from the age of four. Jesus alone has been given the authority to cast out fear. I know I might sound mentally unbalanced, but I am 70 now, and have never been more aware that my experience was real and profound. Satan is the one who uses fear to weaken us all. Jesus came to set the captives free.

[@ellanina801]

My brother is a retired marine, and I imagine that you've experienced a lot of similar things on the home-front. Thank you for your service 💜

[@saphire60]

do you have physical symptoms as a result?

[@joceyno]

Thank you for this. I have ptsd(and push my emotions down all the time) , and I had been keeping in check - but after I watched my mom pass away, I started shaking and haven’t stopped. It’ll be two years in July. Watching stuff on trauma has been helping me a lot. I recently got diagnosed with cervical dystonia and the neurologist thinks the trauma is what triggered it for me. But watching these videos and the course are helping me wrap my head around it and force me to work on myself and my coping methods during tough situations. Thank you.

[@BigBossMan538]

I grew up in a turbulent household. My mother and sister fought a lot. My mother's father was also kind of irritable and insensitive. I think my anxiety and trauma are both genetic and learned. I'm now a confrontation averse person and I don't have a strong will or confidence. I feel frustrated with myself for feeling this way

[@kealivy]

i woke up today and thought to myself "if i put my gaurd down, somethings gonna happen" and you just said the same thing in this video. its so real. its so hard, and i so badly want to change it.

[@sweetjoyfulsoul9125]

I love your videos. I am a therapist and I love learning new ways to explain information to clients. I am so thankful you didn't stop making videos. Your page is valuable.

[@daviddanielsson3643]

This is so true. In therapy for C-PTSD. According to my therapist my nervous system is locked in freeze and still after like five months of therapy. Cronic constipation or the opposite, hypervigilance, muscular tension, extreme body pain and a history of functional seizures, etc. So much is about processing the body and teach the body that I'm not in danger anymore, which is difficult when you've been stuck in flight or freeze (mainly) for years.

[@Theizzer]

Im 1 of those abused boys you talk about in the video (like a billion other children, sadly). Since my burn-out I realized my childhood made me want to be too social desirable, hard on myself and I never compliment myself on my achievements. Because of my research of the past 7 months I finnaly discovered why people who got abused themselves will sometimes do the same to their children. In the case of my dad his trigger was when me and my little brother made some noise. So we couldnt play as children at home. When we did make noise my dad would be furious and his body would give him such a heavy response that his neo cortex completely shuts down. Ofcourse this odd response came form his trauma when he was a child. I know this because he talked about it all the time. I told my dad in a very safe enviroment (talked about his trauma first) that he beat me and my brother. Before I said that I said that I didn't judge him for what he had done to us. He said (in tears) that he had no memory of those events and that he never ment to scare us. Well... he did scare us 24/7, but he coped his trauma by working unhumanly hard. That made him extremely tired. And that tiredness would made him even more susceptible to the noise triggers. and the cycle continued... Because I know how everyone is stuck in some kind of behavioural pattern (especially traumatized people) where we dont think before we act, it became very easy for me to not judge people on the spot for their behaviour.

[@kathymyers7279]

You find a key to your own healing. (the noise thing. Me too.)

[@khakicampbell6640]

That's amazing you were able to have that conversation with him!! Good job! Also, cheers for the work you've done to understand yourself. Your self-healing is in turn helping everyone involved. Thanks for the story. 🙏🙌

[@Theizzer]

@@khakicampbell6640 My pleasure, thanks for your response! It was a conversation I never thought I would have :). I do think my approach worked because me and my dad already were on good terms (because I have always kept the peace). If our relationship would not be good I would probably have needed a lot more conversations then the one that I had with him ^^

[@sriku1000]

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[@Soo_Blessed]

Odd people that are triggered by noise or others being loud are some of the loudest people I've encountered

[@wishfulthinking9399]

I've been to many therapists, so it's clear to me that you have an extra special gift for explaining things in such a way that it all makes TOTAL AND COMPLETE SENSE. Additionally, your tone and phrasing about my anxiety and trauma doesn't cause me even more anxiety and trauma. In the words of Debbie Boone, "You give me hope to carry on." Thank you so very much for helping!

[@vyron.]

That makes so much sense. I have lived with quick anger responses all my life. It makes sense that that's tied to my chilhood experiences. Feels great to finally know what was happening to me

[@community1949]

A younger woman with a normal pitch voice - how refreshing. And just like I have suspected all along even if YOU did not experience the stress yourself your cells did pass it down from the other generations - the cells DO remember.

[@lydieuhh]

Definitely think I developed CPTSD in childhood from chronic bullying and lack of emotional support. I remember feeling constant overwhelming sense of helplessness and anxiety. I remember starting to hide myself and avoid people due to the fear of the unknown. Now as an adult I struggle with social anxiety, depression, anxiety, and easily overwhelmed which leads to panic attacks. Self soothing is new to me and I find it hard to do but since no one comforted me as a child, I have to learn to do it for myself.

[@jewelthemindfulgardener]

I am a student of clinical mental health counseling (seeking my LPC) and I love tuning into your videos for extra perspective.. thank you so much so doing this.

[@wildlifegardenssydney7492]

Thank you, this important discussion. This is just SO helpful. Your pace, face and expression are just perfect for me. I appreciate all your research and marvel at the density delivered so effortlessly (10 out of 10!). I have already rewinded bits a number of times. I will also revisit and watch again to absorb it all. I am 57 now, I imagine hearing all you just conveyed as a really young child from 3 onwards would have made so much sense! and changed my life trajectory. I am so glad you made this available to others.

[@magpie913]

Oh, I thought this was an older video, now I'm very much looking forward for part 3 ! Thank you so much for your videos and for choosing to share your knowledge with us

[@frankducett9]

Emma, you are a treasure. Thanks for all you do.

[@l.mowahed5928]

When I first watched one of your videos, I didn't want to know about the "why's" of what is happening. I was impatient to learn the what to do. I've stuck with them and now feel differently. Thank you do much for all your work to help people like me.

[@jennyfulcher8035]

I, too, have had years of therapy and no one ever told me to think of trauma as an injury instead of an illness. You really explained the nuts and bolts of trauma well and how it affects our body. Thanks! Jenny

[@catsonmars87]

Wow this video was a huge eye opener for me. I endured narcissistic abuse from my ex husband, and when I sought help my step dad attacked me instead of listening and consoling me. As a result, I'm terrified and traumatized of both him and my ex, they are one and the same in my eyes. I hope learning more about this will help me recover.

[@gretatheotherone4686]

My story, just replace ex-h with SIL, and replace step dad with his mother. I am determined to stop giving them my time. How? With God's and Holy Spirit's help❤🙏🌈✌👍🌈

[@catsonmars87]

@@gretatheotherone4686 right on 💐🌹🌻

[@Elle-qy6hn]

I appreciate the knowledge you share. There is so much comfort in your voice and demeanor, I'm looking for a therapist and when I find someone that gives me a smile and I see hope in their eyes, that's when I'll know this is the therapist i need right now. Not only have you informed me but you've given me hope. As a recent divorcee of a substance abuser, i know I'm going to be more than ok. God bless you and thank you.

[@hendrakurniawan338]

For people who have childhood trauma especially abusive relationship by close people like parents or sexualy abused and it haunts you i recommend you to read CPTSD by peter walker. It fully explain why your 4F(Fight, Flight,Fawn,Freeze) not functioning properly and how to overcome it. It's a self guide book and he have research it for 30 years and one of reason CPTSD finally acknowledge as mental illness by WHO.

[@peaceprosperity7549]

Thanks for book recommendation

[@sandym4317]

Yes, I’m reading this book now. I highly recommend it as a learning tool. It explains so much. Emma refers to parts of it too.

[@aces2342]

Great book

[@hippityhoppity6313]

Screenshotted your comment. Thank you so much!

[@SunnyDlite84]

But it's not a mental illnesss

[@zJDG]

I struggle with severe anxiety and I have a lot of chronic pain in my chest and backbones and this just made me fear everything a lot more

[@riddhivyas1200]

Try Hope and Help for your Nerves by Claire Weekes

[@zJDG]

@@riddhivyas1200 thank you I will

[@IvanaAndronica]

This really explains why Depersonalization and Derealization kick in

[@SimeonKirilovX]

Same. Trauma and anxiety for me triggered it when i was hit with my biggest trauma contributor seven months ago.

[@aslynnhallett7542]

Yes it brutal

[@Nature-yj2ey]

absoultely worse condition tats not really recognized

[@poet82n]

You have really described my symptoms and gave me a different outlook on trauma being an injury. I experience those moments where I "freeze" and can't talk or move, become paralyzed in the moment and feel "unsafe". It's always hard to explain but you did it very well. Childhood trauma is difficult...but it's helpful to better understand why my body reacts the way in does in certain moments.

[@karennoble3795]

Oh my gosh. I’m so thankful I stumbled upon your videos on KZbin. I’ve been working on myself, by myself, for 10 years now. After having the best counselor for six years, once a week, I found myself living in an area (in the mountains) with no one to talk to. Thank God she gave me some great tools to help myself, but a lot happens in 10 years. So, I’m really looking forward to watching more videos. You have a great presence, very genuine, real, even soothing. Most importantly, you are very easy to listen to and follow along.

[@JohnM...]

This happened to me a few weeks ago - a student teacher of maths, I was due to give my first 2 lessons. On the day, I walked into school, and after about 50 yards my legs wouldn't move. It was like I was outside of my brain, listening to my mind arguing with itself about why I couldn't and shouldn't do my lessons. Instead of realising I could take a few moments to breath, rat least reach the staff room, and calm down, my legs (not my brain) said RUN! I walked out of school because I was So Overwhelmed. Now I feel sad because I didn't have the courage to just accept that my first lesson might have bombed, but I'd still be ok, because I'd learn from it. 😪😢

[@nickjenkins23]

Your lesson will go great! I also want to be a teacher and am going to be going into teaching soon. Stay strong, I believe in you that you will do great on your lesson! Prayers too brother 🙏

[@susanwoods7242]

I have been through much in my life but esp last two years I have had host mental physical symptoms sometimes I really thought that's it I have gone but by grace God am still here xx

[@susanbrown2909]

Same here.

[@CassaundraBabe]

Thank you so much for this!! I had to tell a mental health nurse that PTSD was not a mental illness; that it was a brain injury. (I was diagnosed with PTSD after a fourth sexual trauma and being a former journalist and future lawyer I dig deep into research.) She literally argued with me and wondered why I was in panicked, frustrated tears her as I left the appointment. Thank you for this. It’s so helpful.

[@Lilleypad11]

When you said in the first 30 seconds of the video how stress gene can be passed down i instantly teared up. It confirms why i decided to click on this video. My mom was a teenage mom and had some issues with my teenage father and it has not been till recently in my 39 years of life i am having epiphanies that i suffer from extreme anxiety and i am now positive that even in the womb i had anxiety. Thank you for this video.

[@cindyvanwyk5320]

100% accurate! This is so well explained. Thank you! I feel so bad for the generation of the 50’s and 60’s , we millennials are product of that generation with so much trauma, but I feel this era has so much more information on trauma and how to heal so that we can break those parents with the hope to treat physical illnesses and mental health differently.

[@cindyvanwyk5320]

***pattern

[@ellanina801]

We certainly have a lot of built-up abuse and multigenerational trauma to work through though. Hopefully, better and better with each new generation. Everything is so easily broken, and takes so long to repair!

[@evonne315]

This video is incredible - so well put together, thank you! Its so important ro realize that doing the self-work can truly affect your own life in a positive way, plus future generations in both teachings and genetically. This is truly the work of the Divine, in loving kindness and graditude 💙

[@sriku1000]

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[@aurorasmama697]

I was just talking about this. I didn't realize that anxiety was passed through genes. It makes a lot of sense now. Thank you. I understand your way of explaining things more than any other on KZbin.

[@delilah9988]

This is the 1st time i hear something about trauma that just agree with my belief . I still suffer from trauma since my early adult age. I still cry over it and at 50 suffer from severe depression and that trauma is so deep in my flesh that it continues to spoil my life . I get panic attacks for no reasons and some nights I have to wake my husband because i’m scared . Years of therapy hasn’t helped . I have a heart disease, in fact my heart is both broken by disease and trauma. Nothing can heal me and leaving this world for me will be a blessing. Thank you for putting into words these facts for others to understand.

[@rosi9385]

This explains a lot. I was molested and now suffer from fibromyalgia

[@prittypandasmom6309]

Your 6 minute mark has validated me and I’m crying just to know I’m not crazy. Thank you so much

[@cdr9515]

I'm so happy I found this channel... I have been in a constant state of stress for years. The "crocodile" has been out of my life for a while now but the anxiety is still always at the back of my mind...slumbering....easily woken up

[@MsNovember05]

This is why yoga is so good for trauma within the body. Yoga helps to move stagnant energy around it makes you feel so amazing

[@Selfemployedmildautisticperfor]

True maybe also my birthday is the next day

[@shar0n4321]

Happy early Birthday! May all your wishes come true.

[@Starburst75]

So glad this video came up. I haven’t even finished the video yet but what I’ve heard and read in comments, I relate and belong here. 🙏

[@sriku1000]

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[@Phuk_Yew]

I needed this right now ❤️ thank you again for sharing what you do, it’s a real blessing.

[@CSWhite1]

This video couldn’t be more timely. No coincidence I’m seeing it right now. Thank you for this info!

[@merrilieskinner733]

I really enjoyed your video. I’ve had a lot of trauma in my life and had experienced breast cancer and alopecia. You make it easy to understand and find it fascinating to know how to get better and heal. - thank you 🙏🏻😊

[@Vayra78]

You have your books 📚 in the background sorted on cover colors, I love that, so peaceful! 💗

[@mikevallente2735]

You’re the best! Looking forward to the next video. I’m a new subscriber here.

[@claredunn757]

Thank you for your channel! I have long covid and my autonomic system was greatly affected. I have come a long way in my healing. Finding healing with Vagal toning was a game changer. You break it down so I undestand the why and how of what has been going on. I can't wait to see more.

[@FSCHW]

This series is really hitting home. Thank you. If I understand todays message even though I don’t recall childhood trauma m6 parents may have and passed an anxious gene on to me.

[@xochitlduran4650]

Oh , gosh thank you I needed this info. God bless you.!!

[@Lisa_Fernandezhomeandlifestyle]

This always happens to me in work. It's not sustainable as clearly my body goes into reaction mode. Grateful for this video as even watching it when I feel in that state completely disarms my nervous system. 🙏🏾

[@m-elena.s]

You are such a blessing! I literally just found you this minute and I’m am ever so grateful… thank you 🙏🏻

[@karissastark3546]

Recently diagnosed with Functional Movement disorder. After two years of tremors, seizures, and dystonic posturing. You said the word functional and I got excited. Your videos really help me try to understand what my brain is doing to my body. I really appreciate it. Told my therapist my logic must be at war with my fight flight freeze response. She laughed and said I was probably right. Thanks for the videos again.

[@sriku1000]

A Calming Video On the Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y6bIqZ2vadiKq5Y

[@nicolebrown5987]

Honestly, these are facts! The woman who gave birth to me was an drug addiction. Found out from meeting the relatives(very traumatic and not in a good way) she was sexually abused by her grandfather or father. I've always hated being touched. I don't like hugs or any kind of physical contact. It's like my body is saying "no! Stay away from me!!! I don't like this!!" I need to start emdr therapy to get her trauma out of my body. Also, I've always hated men even as a heterosexual woman. I don't like being touched at all. My skin is really sensitive to other people touching me.

[@youtubewatcher6323]

EMDR helped me SO much with CPTSD, hope you commit to the whole treatment and wish you the best !

[@nicolebrown5987]

@@youtubewatcher6323 What's the whole process?? I'll admit, I'm terrified of it all.

[@kims1912]

That is sensory system issues. My daughter has sensory problems but we didn't realize until she was a teen and they say you have to get the help as a child. There are weighted blankets and other things that can help. I've heard Reiki and Kickboxing both help cptsd. You could also have attachment issues from being abandoned by bio mom.

[@youtubewatcher6323]

My CPTSD is related to different kind of trauma but I can tell you you should definitely try it. Make sure the therapist is certified on EMDR treatment of trauma. Mine had years of experience treating vets and others with CPTSD. Make sure your therapist gives you enough info about it, what it is, how it works and what to expect during sessions. Make sure you feel comfortable and trust your therapist, that's key ! Mine gave me a book, a big one, to read before starting treatment. Discuss any concerns or doubts you may have BEFORE you begin. Also keep in mind that results vary from person tp person BUT a good start is to be confident that you are always safe during the session and under the direction of your therapist. In my case, after treatment was complete, I was able to have no emotions attached to the memories and I can tell you it was liberating and empowering. Do not be afraid to explore that option, the benefits can be huge!

[@nicolebrown5987]

@@youtubewatcher6323 another personal...sorry if it's invasive...did it help with medicine? If you took medicine do you need it after this form of treatment?

[@charikloangel33]

Another brilliant video, Emma. Thank you!

[@Fragon123456]

Thank you for this video, the effort put in this video has convinced me that i am not inferior as a human being in a lot of ways. So thank you.

[@angelabolden5390]

This is an answer to a question I wasn't sure how to ask. Grateful for your addressing this! 🙏

[@yashvisharma5557]

Trauma is an injury..not an illness💙 and i got so much better after getting to know this🙏

[@KasiaZosia04723]

You are an amazing teacher, thank you!❤️

[@omaroba1490]

Finding your page helped me alot. To stop keepimg this street in my muscles, and allowing myself to release it without the guilt. Guilt is a huge setback to me,

[@sandralukacs4905]

I really didn't understand what Trauma was. Until later in my life. I literally thought that I was not normal and why this is happening in to me. I am 64 and it has surfaced back in my life which I have been struggling with for 4 yrs. I have seen many therapist's been off an on medications. Which I thought helped me but the Trauma is still with me. It effects my everyday life. Trauma started at a very young age. I was a baby, there was emotional, physical and sexual abuse that I remember from age 9. I am abandonment issues and I never felt loved and I still struggle with this. It's so debilitating and exausting. I am always hypervigilant, dealing with anxiety and depression. I just want it to stop so that I can live a fulfilling life and be happy. This is my story. Thank You for listening. Sandra Lukacs.

[@Rollwithit699]

Hi Sandra. Me too from around age 3 o 4. Am a little older than you. I don't trust anyone or feel safe. I'm extremely over-aware of my surroundings, hypersensitive to light, smells, sounds, textures, moods of others, startle easily have electrical burning pain and zapping throughout body, intense jaw clenching, migraines, my resting default state is extremely tense. Neurologist says I have central sensitization syndrome but doesn't know how to treat it.

[@TherapistReactsOfficial]

This is a great 3 part series so far. Thanks for making these.

[@imogenehopedesantos3833]

Where is the first please

[@debbielotus1073]

Thank you for breaking this down in simpler terms. I learned so much. Thank you!

[@sriku1000]

A Calming Video On the Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y6bIqZ2vadiKq5Y

[@debbielotus1073]

Hey, listening to it right now. I love listening to music to calm me down. Thank you!

[@kimberlydavis5034]

I was in the high alert mode for over 10 years. Protecting others, risking my life to save others lives, protecting myself and other serious traumatic things that happen to in my childhood and as an adult. Believe me I completely understand. I have complex-ptsd, trauma, major depression, anxiety and ocd.

[@GrassRoots-fp4ty]

Thank you. This begins to explain generations of problems.

[@klyrebird]

You are an amazing person. One of the best.

[@dawntreacy3431]

Thank you so much for this I.m glad you say it can be reset x

[@lyareys5434]

You're so sweet. Explanations so clear, we feel hopeful. Thanks a lot. Wish you all the best.

[@theologytherapist]

I really love how you've simplified and explained these into a way that is accessible and easy to understand. So much great information here!

[@louiseurbina7794]

Pls make the next one right away. Thank you 💖🤗