How we met, getting married young, and taking chances | Ep. 1

Welcome to the first ever episode of Tangents with Tyler and Todd! Join us as we dive into the story of how we met, getting married young and taking chances together. Speaking of chances, in this episode, Tyler reveals the reason why he almost didn’t give Todd one and we share vulnerable moments about the first time we met in person and the challenges we faced early in our relationship. We also open up about the side-hustle we started in university, renovating our first house together, and what ultimately led to us to leave it all behind and start a new life.
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Chapters:
0:00 - Why we’re starting a podcast
2:30 - How we met
8:00 - Friendship as the foundation of our relationship
15:00 - How we started dating
22:00 - How we complement each other
25:00 - Moving in together after 1 year dating
30:00 - Our first business together
38:00 - Buying our first house after university
48:00 - Moving to the other side of the country
53:00 - Giving up our 20s to the grind
1:02:00 - Leaving it all behind to travel in our RV
Podcast Production By: Paige Cuthbert & Colin Steingard

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

We are so incredibly excited that the podcast has officially launched!!!...we can't wait to dive into alllllll the nitty gritty topics with you and share a different side than what you typically see in our Sunday videos! We do have 1 small request, if there are any topics (big or small) that you'd love to see us unpack, be sure to leave them here in the comments down below! ❤. We're so excited to hear the feedback and if you enjoyed this week's episode!

[@MrThomasandersen]

I think you are really doing so good, great flow and a super way of starting your first podcast. I guess you have listen to a few podcasts and maybe gotten some pointers from the Vanwives ❤ You are so pro and I love that you are being natural and emotional, just like in your vlog ❤

[@moshemordechaivanzuiden]

Thumbs up! 1M times.

[@Amani1611]

Okay, feedback time. I absolutely love it. You guys really did a great job. I'm absolutely looking forward to so much more. Todd, you did so well. Even if you did cry, we love the realness. Tyler, the side tangents were so good I didn't want it to end.. great job again. I'm looking forward to more ❤❤

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Let's get KZbin to get this 1m views LOL @@moshemordechaivanzuiden

[@BSGSV]

Wonderful to hear this more personal conversation! "He's not very good at playing hide and seek." You guys are adorable. 24:35 You both were a millimeter from crying again.

[@RT3319]

When Tyler reached for Todd's hand when Todd began to cry - that's when I lost it.... The power of the love that these two men have for one another is a beacon of hope for us all.....

[@mrs.p6128]

Absofrickenlutely! Your comment encompassed what I was thinking too!!!

[@judithbellink1194]

Agree❤

[@tracylynn8263]

❤❤❤

[@kathyanderson1509]

Most definitely the sweetest 💛 ❤

[@kathyself8816]

❤❤❤❤❤ Totally love you 2. And your 3 fur babies. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@carolynpayne5732]

BOYS! I have the attention span of a gnat - but I watched every single word and even texted others to watch. I love you two and have adopted you ( I'm soon to be 78). I live in Lexington, KY and admire and respect the two of you to the utmost. Your parents did well and you have done well on your own. What intelligent, caring and loving human beings you are and how I wish the world were like you

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Means the absolute WORLD! WE're so relieved, Carolyn. Thank you for this!

[@karenges2666]

Wow Carolyn - you are echoing exactly how I feel about T&T. Love, love, love them. Hate that homophobia exists, and hate hearing that - but boy oh boy, they have done so so well. Look at the beautiful life they have. They should be so proud!

[@noreenc1192]

So well said!! I agree 100%. Love you guys ❤

[@yoyoyomonica100]

Versailles Kentucky here. Howdy neighbor 👋

[@jackalfresco7059]

Amazing! We are a gay couple, 79 and 82, who have been together 44 years (by the time you reach our ages you will have been together significantly longer). As I have mentioned before in comments on your other channel, we learned skills ourselves to allow us to build a large house for our two sets of parents. What i find amazing about this podcast is how I see us in you two. In EVERYTHING you say about your lives,, and in how you interact with each other. In your ying and yang divisions, in your realness and honesty about your differences. In your little disagreements and in your major agreements. Most of all in your obvious and incredibly deep love for each other. Congratulations, you two, in all that you have accomplished, and most of all in your lived lives! You are wonderful examples of how very sadly wrong the homophobes are about what we call "members of the tribe." Thank you for being willing to bare your souls to all of us. Thank you for the gift you give to the LGBTQIA+ community. Thank you for YOU!!!! Love, Jack (and Al) 🌈🏳‍🌈❤❤❤❤❤

[@debbresnahan321]

Yay. Wife n together 20 in January. Both age 57. Congrats

[@ttbko]

I lost my soulmate in April of last year after 30 years. I never thought anything could hurt this much so to both of you, to Tyler and Todd and to others who love so totally, enjoy it, invest in it and treasure each other. Time is finite. Love isnt. 😢

[@katherinekelly5380]

Wow! Congrats Jack and Al !

[@jackalfresco7059]

Thanks, Katherine @@katherinekelly5380

[@Jessicafreeman8369]

Tyler saying it’s okay this is a safe place had me bawling right along with Todd . We love you guys to the moon and back times infinity this is a safe place we love your videos and this is just the icing on the cake . 😢❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊

[@frankvolz7021]

You two are what couples strive to be, gay or straight, hands down. This podcast is absolutely fantastic and amazing! Congratulations on the first episode of what I am sure will be many years of episodes!

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Thank you so, so much Frank. We're so excited for this new outlet!!

[@GeniusAlive]

Can't believe how invested I am in your happiness and all that you have to share. I am 76 and feel like a proud grandma.

[@lynnees9828]

Me too. I am a 67 year old heterosexual woman, married or together for 36 years soon, and I show my husband often what T and T accomplish, together. I also love their humor as my best friend, since we were 13, was gay. We clicked instantly because we both felt different but had the same humor that got us through. He'd ask me later in life if I thought many knew he was gay, as I knew it immediately. I am being honest here as my answer was, " Well, Donnie, you weren't a screaming queen but c'mon. You only hung with mainly girls and rather effeminate." You must know we had a very sick sense of humor so we both talked as such. We also attended art school, FIT in Manhattan, in 76' when he was first coming out. I hurt for him as he went through such pain trying to be what society and religious' ppl push in this world. I just lost him last April, having to call the police for a welfare check being I could not reach him for 24 hours. We were that close, never missing a day checking in on one another. Hey, that was a tangent I just went on just to say I identify with you.

[@AnteaterRae]

Sorry you're missing your friend 😔

[@rkobcan]

So great to see a couple in love and being their authentic selves.

[@Mitchyxo]

The part about Tyler saying how in love he was with Todd is making me cry! amazing episode guys looking forward to more! ♥

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Lol us too apparently!!!

[@forrestoliver9162]

Yes! He knew he had found his "person!"

[@annierouleau8688]

Todd, Tyler, thank you so much for this podcast. To see and hear you talk about your beginning with such raw emotions and honesty brought tears to my eyes. I feel so much privileged to be part of it.

[@patriciastarkey5930]

OH MY GOODNESS, you are both such a breath of fresh air. I am a 75 year old woman from Australia and you make my heart smile. I am a regular follower of your shows and they are so uplifting. You are open, honest and always fully yourselves. You are beautiful souls and I am so grateful to have found you. Thank you for sharing your lives I love you guys. Never apologise for a tangent they are the icing on the cake. ❤

[@AndrewMichaelRossi]

I'm a cryer too, and every time Todd would begin to cry I was right there with him. I just love you guys, my husband and I have been together coming in on 45 years. We had a business together and we can relate to all your stories.I'm the Todd and Jack my other half is the Tyler in the way we approached our relationship. We're in our 70s now and we wish you guys nothing but the best. We love your podcast and look forward to Wednesdays now including Sundays. Love you guys!

[@lovebertierose]

I feel like I am sitting with you in the dome and having morning coffee. Love this.

[@marysharvey]

I love the story of how you met for the first time. It reminds me of the way I felt when I first met my husband 53 years ago. I walked into the cabin, and he was standing there and my heart literally froze. To this day I can remember exactly what he was wearing and what we talked about. Still best friends to this day.

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Ugh, my heart. Memories like this are what life and love is all about. I hope you look back and think of it often...all I can hope for is that we get to spend 50+ years together!

[@oliveoyl1802]

Emotional connection is truly where it's at and you have that in spades. Let it all out and cry away guys. No shame in being sensitive. You're keeping it real and we're here for it.

[@christianncl6063]

This is amazing! I have never been this focused watching youtube. Finally we’ll get more of you guys bcs honestly one video a week wasn’t enough dose of your positive vibe.❤❤❤

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Means more thank you know xoxo

[@debbresnahan321]

Yaass

[@laurie4683]

I am a 61 yr old Grandma. I laugh with you. I cry with you. I'm so proud of you both. Your courage and love for each other is beautiful. Love you both...

[@stevec404]

Being (best) friends is a great way to start a relationship. Of course, becoming BFF's once in a relationship also has its merits. I'm ready for either one!

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Absolutely. Marrying my best friend was the best decision I’ve ever made.

[@miabrown1000]

Heaven on earth! having extra access to our beloved Tyler and Todd!! If I were a kitten I'd be shredding my pillow drooling and purringggggggg as I watch this!

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Hahaha awww you and squirrel would be in goooood company!

[@jeffgumer3784]

The wit & humor. The realness. I feel like I've met two new friends.

[@Edgoforit]

I absolutely love the two of you...I am a mature guy who very much looks forward to your Sunday episodes. This first podcast had me tearing up several times throughout. I too, like Todd, cry easily. You are genuine, and both possess incredible inner and outer beauty. I loved the "rawness" of this first episode. I grew up in an era when this type of podcast would never have been allowed so I am enjoying some vicarious thoughts through your stories. The way you two met is certainly synchronistic and divinely ordained, My late partner and I met when we simultaneously clicked on a dating site at the very same second 18 years ago and we were connected from then until he passed away. There are no accidents in the world; everything is as it should be. I know this is an enormous long shot but I would love to meet you in person....you would be welcome in my home in Pueblo, Colorado USA or I would be honored to travel to a city near you and enjoy dinner with you,, my treat of course. I have two little girls, shih-tzus, named Paisley and Willow....they watch the Sunday episodes with me and love seeing your furry children. You two are the living epitome of my favorite quote from a booklet titled THE LITTLE PRINCE...the quote is "it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye."

[@richardhoover4471]

OMG! I thought I knew you guys from your regular channel. This Tangents has deepened my understanding and appreciation for you both so much more! Wonderful first podcast! And Todd, by all means, do not fear a few tears in front of us. I am a real crier, too, and it took me a long time to get over feeling embarrassed about it. I’ve been kidded lovingly by friends that I can’t go more than 15 minutes before the tears start, whether I’m happy, sad, angry, or deeply touched! Love you both!! 🥰 Can’t wait for the next installment!!!

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

YES Richard!!! Let the tears flow, I think it allows you to experience life and love more deeply ❤️

[@JanitBianic]

You guys are so wonderfully real, makes me proud to be Canadian.

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

We’re a different bunch, aren’t we? 🇨🇦

[@SkyanYume]

We are a great bunch 🇨🇦

[@tackettrl]

Absolutely loved it! And I do love the tangents. However, I am hanging on, waiting to hear the rest of the proposal story.

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Stay tuned ❤️❤️

[@debbresnahan321]

Yes. Lol.

[@susannichols7409]

Yes!! Love the podcast, and all the tangents. {Feels like a convo in my own life!} But, wanting to hear the proposal..

[@edwardulrich1515]

This was a long podcast, but I am not complaining. It was excellent, men, but I only just finished watching it today, even though I began watching it on the premiere. So, in essence, this is an apology for taking so long. I love how truly human you both are, Tyler and Todd, and I ask that you never apologize for showing emotions to us. The world would be a much better place if people reacted positively to human emotions rather than burying them or shaming others for outward displays. We all need to show our fellow man sympathy for life's obstacles and sorrows. Empathy can go a long way to understanding our brothers and sisters throughout the world, and it is an outward sign of a good Christian. I love you both, Tyler and Todd, and I send you a heart-felt embrace across the miles that separate us. I look forward to your next podcast. 🫂🙋‍♂️

[@LifeOnThreeLegs]

Loved this podcast so much. My husband just had surgery to remove cancer and amputate his leg and I am spending long hours in the hospital. This was the perfect way for me to pass the time while he rests and heals. I love you guys! Can’t wait for the next one.

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Tell him we’re rooting for him!! I’m sure there’s a long recovery road ahead, you two have got this ❤️

[@stephie4ever]

OMG I don't know if you are aware of this Todd and Tyler, but even in your responses to us, your viewers, many of whom you have never met and maybe never will (or who knows right? lol)......you exude and mentor your positivity, your encouragement and your caring for others. Just amazing, and so damn awesome to see and one can FEEL it as one reads it! No wonder I keep coming back! I wish everyone would sub to this channel...... @@tangentswithtylerandtodd

[@debbresnahan321]

Thinking of u both. Much love n healing thoughts. ❤️

[@KathyDennis-fy3bg]

You kids are terrific and I'm sure your parents, friends and family are very proud of you and that's all that matters.

[@rootbox]

I didn't think it was possible to adore you two more ! Great talk!

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Appreciate it so much ❤️

[@paddib6170]

I loved this!!!

[@janetstewart6977]

Did not think I could be any more prouder of you guys, but I am. This was so heartwarming and just…..wonderful. ❤️👍

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Thank you so much Janet xoxox

[@rickronandrews-ott4884]

Todd...cry... 43:17 life is worth every tear and follow the laughter every chance. You both have a life together and willing to share your "tangents" love it

[@discofun]

They are make their money on KZbin... what happens in 5 years when they are old and fat???

[@alaenke]

I loved it!!

[@Ryland-Powers]

Love this and love the longer videos!!!!!

[@cynthiaamitrano8915]

Well done, gentlemen. After listening for a bit, I thought, Tangents is a great title. You start talking about one thing and then go off on a tangent about another and this leads to yet another tangent. You may want to share a photo here and there, if you’d like. This would enhance the experience for the community of viewers. I was so sad at times to hear about your struggles. I knew they existed. So proud that you overcame them and are following your dreams. Such maturity at a young age really impressed me. I only wish you both good things.

[@margriet5004]

I was thinking the same but because it is also a podcast I guess showing pictures isn’t something you will do. But we can hope 😊

[@lynnees9828]

Agree on a picture here and there. Great idea. I'd be one proud mama if either was my son!

[@lynnestamey7272]

You two have so many people who love you, without ever meeting in person. I think that is because you are both real in your approach to life with all the ups and downs, trials and tribulations. You both know that the golden rule is a way of life, it's amazing what karma will bring back to you! I'm firmly of the belief that you get back threefold of what you send out. XOX to you both as well as your furry children. I'm partial to Squirrel AKA Lily. She's just lovely!

[@craigengelhardt1097]

Great job guys!

[@MyAbcdfghijk]

Love this new show,love you guys

[@igotmeonthis]

Couldn't have been more perfect first podcasts

[@ColletteC2106]

Every time you clasped each others hands I cried. Your love is incredibly beautiful…✨🧡🧡✨

[@barbiec4312]

Loved this so much. You guys are awesome.

[@dkizer9330]

Love you guys! ❤️

[@monicasgh68]

You guys killed it! Great 1st episode. My heart swelled with Todd feeling safe to get emotional and Tyler being so supportive. I really can't wait for next Wednesday. You kept my undivided attention the whole time. Thank you both for being so real, honest and raw.

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

It was so much fun, we were a little nervous at first but it all faded away to the point we forgot the cameras were even there. We LOVED it!

[@carolguthrie4143]

Great podcast. You guys are so open and real. Your ability to communicate with each other and with us is top level. I am 71 years old and feel like there were takeaways from this podcast that I can use to improve my communication and perspective. Really love you guys!❤

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Can't tell you how happy that makes us!

[@Mtnsunshine]

This was magical! Thanks, guys. 💜

[@yakcam1208]

Congratulations on your podcast launch! I loved it!

[@janemarriott3389]

I’m a counselor. This highly personal AND highly practical material we be golden to guide all kinds of people discovering their adulthood. I will use this gobs!

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

🥺😭🙏🏼

[@PatriciaStevens-rv6kn]

I love spending time with you like this!!! I feel like I have two brothers I never knew I was missing! Is that weird? Anyway, so great getting to know you both in a whole new way! 🥂🫶🏻

[@lindasuarez6339]

Loving the back story!

[@NickWallAU]

OMG guys what an amazing first episode. Thank you for being so authentic, vulnerable and so openly sharing your life experiences. You mentioned the internet can be a bit challenging at times, although sometimes it also showcases the best and restores a bit of faith in humamity. You are an example of the best: so much kindness and love, you stick by your values and be the change you want to see in the world. You two are such an inspiration!

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Thanks for this Nick ❤️

[@discofun]

They didn't talk about that they only make their money on social media and 5 years from know that will end when they get older and fat.

[@karenhallrodriguez9205]

Oh you made me cry! It is nice to see y'all talking about your lives like this and to see the emotion that you still feel for each other is just beautiful! I love Texas! ❤❤❤

[@andreapalmer3116]

I love it too!! Can’t wait for the next one

[@suzannehawkins383]

Love this!!

[@douglashoward5738]

This was fantastic!! I believe more couples should sit down and take a trip down memory lane together. It helps to strengthen a relationship. To reflect on the relationship then and now. It shows how growth happens between two people.Thank you for allowing us to share in your memories and get to know each of you as a person and as a couple. Will be tuning in next week for sure!

[@thecrazyswede2495]

Pinkie to pinkie - kapow!!! Big hugs to you both! And don't ever be ashamed for crying. The fact that you're strong enough, and wise enough to be able to handle crying is worthy of respect. The most frightening part of it all is - what if you had never been paired up for studying? Would there ever have been a Tyler and Todd? We would have lost a lot, but you would have lost it all. No Tyler and Todd. It doesn't bear thinking.😵❤ cheers! / CS

[@kathyhoop7546]

I loved this!!!!!!! So incredible! My Wednesdays just got so much better!!!!

[@ninabrink5680]

Loved it! Can't wait for the next one

[@GiyuuTomioka25]

Screwed up my maths exam, had an awful day, and felt more lonely than usual... All in all just plain exhausting. Watching the first episode of Tangents with T&T with my dog under a blanket is just the best cure for my soul. Thanks, really. Also, thanks for adding new English words to my vocabulary, cause I didn't know what tangents even meant lol Wishing you the best, -Jacob

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

I’m really sorry to hear about your Maths exam but the irony of you not knowing what a tangent is…literally laughing out loud. You’ll get ‘em next time, Jacob ❤️

[@WIB-gu8cq]

Come on now, let’s get this party started 😊❤

[@biga36695]

OMG!!! Love Love this!

[@katiehanson6253]

Such an amazing episode! Can't wait for the next one!

[@555pghbob]

You guys make me proud to be gay. I have watched you guys since you parked on the land and started building nearly 5 years ago and I love you more now than ever before!

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Can’t tell you what that means to us ❤️

[@carmelleabron4058]

Guys, thank you for sharing your life with us. I find it amazing the risks that you've taken TOGETHER. I've been married twice and would have NEVER taken risks like that. I find it awesome that you have that kind of trust and respect for each other. I've been subscribed to your KZbin channel for a while and I remember watching the RV renovations that you've posted. I think you guys are AWESOME and then some!

[@lisamerrill55]

Love you guys so much! ❤️

[@Owen579]

❤❤❤ This was so fun. Can’t wait for more!

[@kathleenball2982]

What a beautiful podcast!!! Loved every minute of it. As a marriage counselor for 40 years, your relationship is what most coupes I have seen aspire to. What an inspiring and raw, real conversation. Thank you. Kathleen

[@dawnmuringer9286]

Tyler's right todd! Its ok to be emotionally open ,and yes youre in a safe plantform, thank you for opening up your hearts. Feelings and your journey with us ,i love you both..i struggled with some much the same things you both have. And i met my special person ,had 10 beautiful years until she passed away ,ive been single since ,by choice. Im loving being a mom and grandma!!!

[@mfnannygram]

Already looking forward to the next episode! ♥

[@polish-american8107]

Great start!!

[@willpoole7593]

Incredible background and perspective with you guys. I’m amazed that you guys have been connected since freshmen year at university!

[@pennywhitcroft1779]

If I could have sons I would want you two to be them..Oh and Max too… You two are so kind and loving…😘❤️🇨🇦

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

Means the world, Penny!

[@johntonks3474]

Fantastic podcast. Thanks for the sharing.

[@luminyam6145]

Omg I can't wait for the next episode.

[@sandraevans5540]

Love your honesty & truth..❤️ so refreshing!! Looking forward to more. 🥰You guys are beautiful together

[@anitaatwell8287]

Just finished the podcast and I love you even more than ever! Not only are you the sweetest couple ever, you are both such strong men. So proud of you 🎉❤❤❤❤

[@rwherendeen]

So exciting and exceeded my expectations! ❤

[@brendagreen4132]

Great Tangent guys! I really enjoyed it, can't wait til next week ❤

[@mrshadenoughofallthis911]

You brought us right up to date from when you two met to the bit where we came in and you were in the RV. Brilliant!

[@williej3831]

Great job guys !! Love your new adventure.

[@jennycampagna3100]

This was beautiful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@tamaraatkinson940]

Love you both. Keep it coming

[@3ll3hcim]

Congratulations! Would love to hear more about the proposal. Tyler, if you read this, I’m so fucking proud of you!!!!!! Listening to this brought back so many memories! Felt like we were teenagers again, creeping Todd on Facebook lol. Beautiful episode. Thanks for sharing with us all. 💕 Sending so much love from an old friend ❤️

[@tangentswithtylerandtodd]

LOL omg called OUT! Is this Michelle Russel??

[@jonathanjones5980]

You guys are awesome! Truly an inspiration!

[@julescaru8591]

That was great guys ! See ya next week ! 👍💕

[@jp-mmatthews7788]

Loved this first episode!!

[@barbarafann8133]

Thank you for allowing us to see the raw truth. I do love how you support the others thoughts yet allow each other to remain true to their roots, you clearly don't need to change each other.

[@happyashley4085]

So excited to be watching!!

[@margaretkrantz1469]

Very fun to learn about your history! Thanks for sharing it.

[@kerrycrowson2341]

Love you guys, you’re so open and honest x

[@claudiacampomar4361]

❤❤❤❤ Loved it 🥰

[@monasandin762]

Can't wait for the next one.

[@kristine1971]

Love to watch you guys and love your new podcast!

[@dalynroberts5765]

New favorite pod!!

[@mctcurious]

It is soooo cool to hear more about you both. 💗

[@mildredguarino4028]

Love it Guys!!!!!Can’t wait for more

[@danieledwards7565]

Spectacular podcast! Loved it!

[@michellerowe5726]

Can't wait for more!

[@mitsim]

This was so good! Looking forward to upcoming episodes.

[@shannonbayne27]

loved it!❤❤❤❤

[@nolaken6308]

Fantastic guys, you made me laugh and you made me cry, look forward to more pod casts from you two. Congrats

[@kelbyfrazier6849]

Omg i love yall more and more. Thank you for this

[@deniseatottawa2674]

Loved it. Congrats