How We Read Other People's Minds

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Cues: body language (incl. facial microexpressions, eye pupils), voice (tone), body odors
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Empathy is a self-contained internal set of processes, triggered by the presence and self-reporting of another person.
It involves two misperceptions:
1. That the internal experience of empathy is actually external (has to do with the other person); and
2. That the experience of empathy is altruistic and focused on the other person when in reality it revolves mostly around emotional self-regulation (avoidance of shame, guilt) and cognitive processing. Empathy has all the hallmarks of - mostly healthy - narcissism.
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[@miadodson1938]

Survivors of childhood abuse and trauma grow up developing uncanny abilities of reading people, usually quite accurately, due to becoming very observant, as their lives depend on reading people and surroundings accurately, becoming vigilant in order to survive. This makes them very good at reading people's mind. They observe every muscle, every crease of lines on someone's face, every twitch, every inflection, the tiniest change in someone's voice, tone, expression, the changes happening in their eyes, etc. makes them incredibly good at 'reading someone's mind'.

[@unamel4282]

Been through so much trauma and you have described everything what I notice in second , nothing can stay hidden from me 🤯

[@andevrezme3059]

So true.

[@miadodson1938]

@@OldWizard. Unless you are a survivor of extreme trauma and years of abuse, you really don't have the right to be judging those who are, and my comments has nothing to do with you or anyone who is not. Secondly, reading someone's mind is not "body language" reading body language is another thing

[@Mystifrost]

I fall asleep listening to Sam like others listen to “deep healing chakra meditation music” lol 😂

[@jpex9]

This man is a genius.

[@angelaabramov468]

You have an unusual mind Prof. Vaknin, always looking forward to new videos.. I’m addicted to it

[@secretdiva9414]

Anyone who accuses you of living in the psychological past is clearly not living in the present and has no lived experience of what you and many others, know to be true, from your own. My lived experience tells me that you have been able to articulate psychological truth into a unified model... something all great pioneers at the cutting edge of knowledge aspire to but rarely achieve. As well as that, they must blaze a trail whilst knowing that their genius will possibly never be acknowledged in their lifetime. I love watching you mine your mind and the literature over time and how you have and continue to refine your work. Thank you.

[@christinasuarez8032]

You are such a deep diver. I’m with you the whole lecture. Excellent brain at work.

[@juancarlosv5136]

I don't know how many times I've listened and how many more times I'll do. Thanks professor, invaluable teachings

[@eiffeltower1266]

so sad... I carry so many of these wounds never healed. Your knowledge is vital and will certainly help many. Thank goodness Sam. Thank you

[@patriciawaters86]

Sam you’re literally apart of my daily routine. I truly enjoy all your invaluable information. Thanks 😊🙏🏽so much for providing us with all these videos 👍🏽Keep them coming!

[@barbarascoggins5239]

I'd say MeToo but Sam would be furious 😂 Beautiful Mind! I listen every day to understand the human mind, mine included! Thank you Sam! Invaluable!

[@maevey3]

Thanks for sharing this, Sam. Fascinating. I'll be coming back to this.

[@memecathar1263]

This was great. Not what I expected. Glad to be a viewer

[@tkm69u]

Very informative Sam keep the information coming...

[@sitascott8446]

As usual, thank you for explaining me.

[@sharoncannell1048]

Thank you...I love it

[@ellienick5613]

These videos have helped me so much . I’ve got avoidant personality disorder and unfortunately I’ve been attracted to narcissist all my life 🤦🏻‍♀️ now I’m learning how to avoid them through your videos so thank you 🙏🏼

[@eiffeltower1266]

"... the bleeding edge"... Thanks for shedding light, your experience and knowledge . Thanks Sam

[@minkiwillemse3357]

This delusion or fooling ourselves into thinking we know what other’s are thinking does, I suspect, also apply to reality. If we were to really comprehend hoe little we know and how insignificant we are, the mind would not be able to cope. It’s kind of a survival mechanism I suspect… a kind of “build-in grandiosity” that motivates us to live… in some this “grandiosity” has little limit due to massive imparted reality testing.

[@mandinamilosevic]

Now i want to drink a megapint of red wine

[@inferno3080]

What books would you recommend on this subject? I will watch the other videos! And essay thank you Sam!

[@Mystifrost]

His books of course 😊

[@elocat2511]

So you have to have a conscience and feel guilt or shame to develop empathy…aha!

[@ceci120]

When your cot was like a minature gaol! its so enlightening to listen to this, if sad. 😢

[@annettebirkin6249]

Would you be able to make a video about BPD in men?

[@samvaknin]

Watch my videos on covert borderline.

[@Adlerjunges83]

[2007 "The Independent" had an article about it called "Why do we yawn? It's all about empathy".]

[@2strokeorchoke496]

Million dollar question that would help change my life Professor Vaknin. Can a Narcissist self supply or become who they want to be in an environment with the toxic mother?

[@samvaknin]

Yes.

[@2strokeorchoke496]

What would you say the negative impacts are on person who uses success psychology? Progressional increase of a lack of empathy?

[@SadisticLifeTrap]

The last of the Brunnen G

[@YB-gh9rk]

Where do man find infinite love, only in the infinite

[@markkukoponen]

I had noticed this process of simulation (because I do it so much), but I didn't know there is an official name for it. However, I also think that most narcissistic behaviors are merely phenomena of a normal mind, where some particular feature is broken or removed. A normal person will allow the feedback of external reality to alter the simulation. Not absolutely every single time, because people do observably lie and misrepresent, but the external result is a first-class citizen for data, and the prediction of the simulation is a second-class citizen. The narcissist has simply decided that nothing can ever alter the simulation. If external result disagrees, then an explanation for why the simulation was right and the result was deception (knowingly or subconsciously from the other person), is immediately made.

[@SILVERSTRIPE_]

Can you talk by your mind

[@user-jt3so9kb1l]

Sir, don't you think "losses" are necessary even for the so called healthy people( if there are any )so that they can learn the art of " letting go"

[@samvaknin]

Listen to more of my videos.

[@user-jt3so9kb1l]

@@samvaknin sure sir...they all are very informative....deep occult knowledge

[@eliskamolteron4080]

I cried understanding why my sad childhood was damaging... Im broken .. i have a good mum but my father was mean narcissist... The first rememory was my father terrifying us and we all crying... I was 3

[@inferno3080]

my childhood was crazy to parents divorced when I was 8 years old mom was on illegal drugs, haven’t seen her in 14 years.

[@eliskamolteron4080]

Oh God

[@eliskamolteron4080]

Now i struggle.... I have to live but i dont wanna