How We REALLY Met | Muslim Dating, In-Law Refusals + Wedding Drama | The X-Pod

You’ve heard how we met, but not the FULL STORY. Meeting the potential in-laws went terribly wrong. Families said no and called off the wedding. On top of that, jobs were lost and money was at zero. It’s actually a miracle that we ended up making it across the line!
Make sure you leave your thoughts in the comment section and please share your own experiences and any challenges you may have faced on the road to marriage.
We hope you enjoy the new setup! #XPOD
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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 - Intro
02:57 - Before we met, "dating" other people and pre-marriage
06:29 - Our first impressions and how we approached getting to know each other when single
10:09 - Meeting her parents and family for the first time
12:13 - Problem with growing up as a Muslim in the West
15:07 - Meeting his parents and family for the first time
19:12 - Distancing after family rejection and shaytaan
22:05 - Meeting parents again, family fall-outs and wedding plan problems
30:12 - Lost job, no money and calling off the wedding
35:44 - When one door closes, another door opens
38:36 - Where we went wrong, Muslim marriage struggles and final thoughts
I N S T A G R A M:
➡ @thexs.official
➡ @amaratheninja
➡ @whoissufyanx
M U S I C:
➡ Epidemic Sound
B U S I N E S S E M A I L:
➡ [e-mail]
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[@CalvinBoyce-rr5pz]

I love you guys and love the dedication to your religion. I’m Christian but really appreciate you guys. Much love ❤️

[@TheXs.Official]

The Christian and Muslim faiths are so intertwined in some ways! We have lots in common 😄 much love to you too ✨

[@rahatmohammed1508]

You've shared a very important lesson with young people looking to marry so thank you. Your rizq is written for you and your character was more important than your job to me. I think Allah swt put a lot of barakah into your lives when you married each other and even more when you had Amaya. Have loved having you as a son in law and Maryam has grown to love having a brother too alhumdulillah 😂

[@nazmed8141]

It sounds like you are the reason this marriage succeeded. Your daughter is lucky to have a mother who looked out for her happiness and didn’t care about cultural expectations or made things difficult. I relate to this as my mother supported me through the process of marrying my husband and it means the world . May Allah reward you .

[@Zazezoo]

@@nazmed8141l agree!!!

[@Yaab1]

I just watched with my daughter who is 17 and we discussed a lot of things in your video and hopefully things are noted , coming from young couples mouth like your selves . Thank you for educating our kids and my daughter in fact introduced me to your channel and now we love you more then ever. ❤

[@TheXs.Official]

This is sooooo sweet 🤗 I love that you watch and discuss with your daughter! 🤗 Ma shaa Allah ❤️ I hope you both really enjoy the topics we have coming up in shaa Allah. 🤲💖 Lots of love to you both xx

[@brittanykimber]

The transparency! 🙌 The X's dropping knowledge and changing lives. You guys always leave me wanting more. 😊

[@TheXs.Official]

🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@claudettegill8400]

What a lesson for me. I am years married, a Christian by faith but knew nothing about Muslim faith, and I am amazed how much I have learnt from you all. I saw your wedding video which was absolutely beautiful but now learning about the ups and downs before the wedding was eye opening to me. I love you all, stay strong in your faith, respect and love and I am sure you will be able to get through to the number of years I did. Hug the baby, she is so cute.❤🙏🏽🫶🏽🕊

[@WASABINIQABII]

This convo meant so much to me hearing this is truly what I needed to believe my engagement and marriage can work too InshaAllah. We’re biracial and also long distance and also have broken families so it’s very hard to stay positive ❤ Thankyou. Bismillah Alay MashaAllah

[@TheXs.Official]

Alhamdulilah 🤲❤️

[@Sabreen.1]

This is the truthfulness that the younger unmarried generations were waiting for ! The biggest Thank you for sharing

[@TheXs.Official]

Ameen wa iyyaki sis! 🤲 Thank you for this lovely feedback ❤️ we're so humbled. 🤗 & Ooooooo, we love this idea 😍 and will do it in shaa Allah! We're so excited for the topics we've got coming up, too. 🤓❤️ I love these kind of cosy, real discussions. JazakAllah for watching and keeping us and little Amaya in your duas! 💖 - Amara xx

[@Sabreen.1]

@@TheXs.Official of course, will do

[@hashtag9877]

you are both spo brave for doing this. you can see how emotional this is for the both of you. loved listening to this. may allah protect your family and keep you both happy

[@WASABINIQABII]

Thankyou for this. Many people think marriage and engagement etc should be easy and not always is, and that doesn’t mean the marriage can’t be great ❤ Barak Allah Feke

[@TheXs.Official]

Yesss 💯 ❤️❤️❤️

[@reenabegum4020]

Honestly I genuinely appreciate you guys for being so honest and making these kind of videos to show us how life is not always easy, especially marriage. You guys really covered the Islamic point of you as well as different realistic situations that can and will take place In life💕💕💕

[@lifeitself4377]

I really enjoyed this😊 thank you sharing with us, it carried so much value and lessons. Noted❤️

[@Noorinkaa]

May Allah swt bless you both 🤲🏻♥️ you’re the only KZbinrs I actually comment on, you truly deserve the best, any video I watch ends up motivating me to get better in Islam. Lotsa love from Paris!!!

[@miadaomer3958]

Loved hearing your journey!

[@rashadabdulazeem5387]

Thank you for sharing this experience with us. Life is not always a bed of roses, there are peaks and valleys but you two persevered and worked through your challenges. Al-hamdulilah, I hope your story will be a help for others who may face similar challenges.

[@marlynmorgan3658]

The harder the battle, the sweeter the victory! You were both worth fighting for, and that's why you were victorious! A lesson for many! 😊❤❤❤

[@rubymehtab8716]

You guys are pleasant and nice and truly genuine. It’s so nice to see people like you representing the Muslim youth. Mashallah may god bless you so much

[@aj__love5919]

I enjoyed this so much! JazakAllah for sharing your experience 😊

[@user-jl1wy3hy2r]

Thank you, enjoy the back story.❤much love.

[@rozaliaslaboiu7810]

I just loved this sincere discussion between you guys. I had much to learn from you both. Thank you.

[@TheXs.Official]

Thank you! 🤗

[@malehlohonolomokhele8339]

Love you guys, that DRESS is speaking to me oh my goodness

[@safiyassacredspace]

Beautiful conversation and beautiful couple. I love that while you guys are of a particular faith that encourages a particular lifestyle, your so relatable. I enjoy your content. Thank you for your continued transparency and sharing your life w/ us.

[@TheXs.Official]

Thank you 🤗❤️

[@nadia.c5]

very curious to know what went down when Amara came to visit, how could meeting someones family especially the first time go that bad

[@maryamk.5733]

This podcast is really inspiring. Sheitan can do anything to cut the link with your future spouse ... even when you're married it's worse . It's real tho. But if Allah reunite no one can break it (we have to do the right thing in order to have The Greatest on our side). May Allah protect love for all People who wants to get married and those who are married too ❤

[@genlang4782]

I love this segment guysss... It would be good to do dilemmas at some point! May Allah continue to bless your marriage and parenting to lil buba, Ameen 🤲🏾

[@annasingankutti5832]

I wanna hear Amaraaa talk more and her perspectiveeeee 💚🙏🏽 but loved the video. Thanks for the honesty.

[@TheXs.Official]

So happy you loved the video! 🤗 I'll talk more in another video in the future shaa Allah. ❤️ The run up to marriage was a super hectic, stressful time all around that I semi repress 😅 once I've fully caught up, I'll get back to you 😂 x

[@peace4ever786]

This was incredible to listen to. Thankyou for your honesty. Allahuma Barek!

[@TheXs.Official]

Awww, thank you! 😄

[@aqhasan]

Wonderful experience, finally you made it

[@rastakibzy2508]

This is honestly such a good convo especially for those who are trying to get navigated and are just as confused about how to go about it despite being muslims. Thank you for being real

[@einas1995]

Thank you for bringing up the topic. I’m sure many people pursuing marriage and getting to know someone are finding it beneficial.

[@narixoxo6448]

Being from the Carribean, I feel like I know how difficult it was for sufyan to communicate with his family about the wedding. Carribean parents are not the easiest at times, but Alhamdulillah we live and we learn for the future generation inshaAllah

[@Zazezoo]

I find Asians to be worst 😅 Isn’t he mixed and I think the Pakistani family might have been worst, but still our families regardless of the issues, they helped shape us and make it more beautiful!!!

[@wasifurfan8627]

also 52 mins was gooooooooooooooooooooodddddddddddd lol need more long vlogs like this lol beautiful couple Ma sha Allah

[@starssobrightstarsk816]

Keep them coming alhumdulillah very informative

[@FazlinAkiemdien-mf5il]

Alhamdulilah just love this couple especially the wife love her bubbling ways and her openness ❤🙌

[@zahidanoor5340]

You guys made it. Alhumdullialh

[@rashadabdulazeem5387]

It sounds like your wife was really roasted by your family brother. That was really unfortunate. Sometimes we as parents lack wisdom and empathy and we go full steam ahead with a sledge hammer, instead of the olive branch. I couldn't imagine making someone feel uncomfortable who visits my home. We should treat them with kindness even if mistakes are made. Unfortunately, some Muslims have a "take no prisoners" mentality when it comes to mistakes by other Muslims and they hurt other Muslims with their harshness, this was not the example of our beloved prophet Muhammad (saws). Al-hamdulilah you two preserved as a beautiful couple.

[@yasminejenna8883]

Needed this video so so so much - currently going through a similar situation where it looks like the doors are closed for this person I want to marry. So JazakAllah Khair for sharing. The topics you guys spoke about are so taboo in the community. Most people think that everything went smoothly when they see the bride and groom on the wedding day, when really, they had to fight to get to that position

[@TheXs.Official]

So glad it was helpful or comforting to you xxx may Allah SWT make it easy on you and give you only what is best 🤲❤️

[@maxinehall5382]

What a wonderful and engaging couple❤❤❤

[@studytune1012]

Alhamdulillah you still found each other at the end

[@TheXs.Official]

Alhamdulilah 🤲💖

[@Rugiatu-kanu]

So amazing ❤ i really do enjoy it ❤

[@TheXs.Official]

Alhamdulilah ❤️

[@Fia-fn4ly]

This was so helpful. Makes me feel less alone in the tests we go through during our engagement.

[@TheXs.Official]

❤️❤️❤️❤️🤲

[@TheXs.Official]

Definitely not alone ❤️🤗

[@Hope-bn9xz]

SubhanAllah It's been a roller coaster ride for you both, but Alhumdulillah so glad you both came through ❤ JazakAllahkhair for your story so many lessons to learn from your story, hopefully it will benefit others In sha Allah 🌹

[@VirtuousJazzy66]

Humbling experience..beautiful family🎉

[@zahraasu6566]

She looks lovely in her dress abaya.. MashaAllah

[@winona43xp]

Very insightful video thanks ❤

[@karlenebrown636]

Happy Saturday ❤

[@WASABINIQABII]

41:13 REALLY REALLY TRUE!!! THANKYOU!!

[@MoMbarek250]

I loved this video, reminds me to further trust in Allahs plan for the future and not every obstacle/fault is a sign to leave but is a test. Definitely subscribing and can't wait to watch more of your videos. :)

[@AP-tz3tp]

Enjoyed listening whilst ironing

[@lydias5539]

Very nice video. You guys are a beautiful couple!

[@TheXs.Official]

That's very kind of you. 🤗 Thank you for watching!

[@sybilbailey5503]

I always enjoy and listening to you both. There is lesson in every vedio. Am a Christian but love your vedios🇬🇧🇯🇲

[@BronsonAlive]

Very real and wonderful story.

[@danyalbashir1648]

Wow and mashallah. This podcast was beautifully spoken. A lot the truth was spoken in regards to the authenticity and reality of pre-marriage life. May Allah Almighty make it easier for you and those going through similar situations. Ameen 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@TheXs.Official]

Thank you & ameeeeeen! 🤲🤲🤲

[@zeynebaali8292]

May Allah (s.w) bless your marriage and protect you from all bad circumstances .❤❤❤

[@swallace8765]

love this video I learn so much about your Faith, Blessings

[@TheXs.Official]

🤗❤️

[@hamidaalhassan9242]

Masha Allah I enjoyed the pod so much

[@TheXs.Official]

Alhamdulilah 🤓💖

[@Amzy_co]

MashaAllah MashaAllah wish everyone has what you have. May allah give you both a lot more and your families. You guys are cute

[@OfficialMNIB]

- Oh hello there long form content - 🙌🏼

[@TheXs.Official]

🥳😄

[@kingky2002]

Alhamdulilah, it all worked out

[@TheXs.Official]

Alhamdulilah 🤲✨

[@ijuneberry]

Subhannallah the part about university it’s really testing in so many ways. In the US it’s specially I believe it’s really harder. So many philosophies that are there to change Muslim youths believes.

[@Dsomler]

beautiful love story

[@TheXs.Official]

Thank you ☺️❤️

[@halalpolice7544]

I really thought she is 21 or younger and he is probably 25 or younger. I wasn’t expecting her being 24 and him 29 before marriage👏🏾 Maasha Allah Allahumabarik ❤ May Allah SWT bless you both and protect your from evil eyes

[@wandaasgarali1737]

Barak Allah Hufeek. Thanks . Jazak Allah Khairun. Masha Allah

[@S4FX]

May Allah swt bless your marriage Ameen ❤️🤲

[@movieoks4726]

You guys are really great couple may Allah bless you guys more success and happiness and healthy life ❤🤲🫰

[@wasifurfan8627]

wow i cried and was happy for you both, absolutely love ur vlogs, the best on utube xx just real.. also it looks like u have moved in a new house lol your kitchen and living room look different. lol sorry abit nosey lol

[@violethimeezembikandjavera1712]

So amazing 👏 much love from Africa ❤

[@TheXs.Official]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@TheDufteLady]

You are such a beautiful couple 🫶🏾🌸

[@mrsamirza4392]

Yeah ❤😊

[@TheXs.Official]

❤️❤️

[@besmela2462]

Allahuma barik very honest

[@waldensiansylph4869]

That’s too bad that your parents didn’t help facilitate a wholesome process (Sofian’s). This is an innocent girl trying her best in life, with a desire to please those around her, and Sofian’s family is lucky he found a nice girl like you! Her shattered background does make her more vulnerable, but also with more depth. Protect her at all costs. For the West, this is so wholesome. God sees the sincerity of the people involved, not a thousand rules. He sees the heart and genuine desire to do things the right way, He sees that more important than rigid steps. If you are doing things in a pure way, no matter how you go about it, He will bless and He has blessed you both ❤️🙏🏼 On a side note, seems good you lost that job, because sounds like you were miserable there. you needed a new environment and to start of your make life freak with a new perspective, maybe it was a blessing from God in disguise.

[@zainaireland452]

❤❤❤

[@rejoicetsegah9079]

❤❤

[@ibrahsekandi8254]

❤

[@TheXs.Official]

🙏❤️

[@zainabomer7511]

I thought about this verse @min 33 ,Get married first then Allah will enrich you from him his bounty. Surah An- nur 32-43.

[@ibnfulan5716]

🤲🏾💯

[@Al-Aswad789]

Assalam aleikum The X’s

[@TheXs.Official]

Wa alaikum as salaam! Always lovely to see you in the comments ☺️

[@edmaureendixon3535]

Hi, remember when one door closes another one open bigger and better than the one before ie your new job after losing the other.

[@hennadesigns3845]

what’s the percentage of Muslim in Jamaica?

[@anonymousm3861]

Hey can you share your feet care routine

[@sara-bw2lk]

Brit his guy looks exactly like the dude from the show love is blind I thought he converted

[@asammushtaq956]

No such thing as Muslim dating Dating is dating and its haram Dont let anybody tell you otherwise You cant make something which is haram halal by adding the words muslim or halal in front of it

[@TheXs.Official]

It’s a tag. If you watch this video and the ones we have linked throughout, you will see that we clearly explain there is no such thing as dating in Islam. There is courting, however, which isn’t much of a tag word. This is KZbin. You missed the point.

[@fahadmalik8862]

@@TheXs.Official Courting is an decades old tradition upon without the parents guidlines and was later used in social uproars in streamlining the permission in culture.

[@user-jl1wy3hy2r]

Thank you, enjoy the back story.❤much love.