How your internal narrative affects your relationships with others

How your internal narrative affects your relationships with others | Peter Attia and Esther Perel

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5 ай бұрын

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This clip is from episode 172 ‒ Trauma, how narratives shape our worldview, and accepting uncomfortable emotions with Esther Perel. Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author who is an expert on modern relationships.
In this clip, we discuss:
- Developing and changing narratives about our lives
- The two most fundamental narratives rooted in trauma
- The importance of fostering relationships with others to better know oneself
- And more
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@roisinMphy 4 ай бұрын

What she says at the end about feeling worthy in the eyes of the world is soo spot on.❤

@tomdebevoise 5 ай бұрын

Again, brilliant analysis from Ester. The "walking wounded" read books and listen to material like this. Still, it is very challenging to get the conversations going.

@jayzee316 5 ай бұрын

I've never had to have better relations with myself, I just tried to improve myself and naturally at peace, or happy/calm, of course I have negative feelings, but I overcome them by going to exercise, drinking tea, learning something new, and believing that tomorrow will be a better version of myself. I do not compare myself with anyone else, we are all under different circumstances, but I can compare myself with myself and find a balance/middle path of demanding me to be better, but also accepting when I fail.

@joryiansmith 5 ай бұрын

Man, I think this discussion surgically pinpointed the two major cultural narratives/priorities in the human species: individualistic versus collectivist, or western vs eastern cultures. It seems to me that there needs to be a unification theory between the two because they're both obviously successful and have been selected by evolution for thousands of years. Much like physics of the small, quantum mechanics, and physics of the big, general relativity, need to be united somehow and scientists have been seeking that mathematical unification, or so called theory of everything, for decades.

@burtonlee22 5 ай бұрын

Delighted to see you hosting and engaging with Ester, she is so unique with a depth of insight into human relationships, and a wonderful gift with words

@ambraa5723 5 ай бұрын

This is deep ❤ Thank you Dr. Attia

@joanfrisinabowles1369 5 ай бұрын

It's true that *our narrative*.. may or may not ALL be l00% true. That's an interesting piece.. we rarely discuss. It has value.

@The10.000ThingsOfficial 5 ай бұрын

Very interesting!

@JustMe-ne5dw 5 ай бұрын

Dr. Perel’s description of “the bind” couples therapy, creates so many lost relationships. I can’t speak to the female perspective with any kind of authority since I’m not female, but there is a very entrenched idea for males that if you aren’t bleeding, throwing up, etc, you’re fine. So it definitely doesn’t help relationships in general.

@ChrisE1415 5 ай бұрын

7:36 Reading my mind in social interactions

@georgemichael1355 5 ай бұрын

Great video! Can you please explain the inner monologue in this context?

@littlevoice_11 5 ай бұрын

Maybe it's in the full episode linked in the description box below the video 172

@jalanj2053 5 ай бұрын

After this drivel I now have a firmer grasp on why the family is being destroyed at a faster and faster pace in our society

@thetrollpatrol8799 5 ай бұрын

Which aspects?

@Theotherlostprimarch 5 ай бұрын

Dr. Attia comes off much more chill on his own podcast. I love his Rogan Episodes, but I always thought this was a dude who was gonna yell at me for being weak if I met him irl. Now, not so much.

@NoahM.Angell-sd4ez 5 ай бұрын

God be with you all

@philipsimmonds1103 5 ай бұрын

.. authenticity.. >>. 'narrative'..

@davidross8233 5 ай бұрын

My ex wife read one of her books. It didn’t go so well for the family after that.

@britfrancis4967 5 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry but the tone of your response was funny. Sorry again lol.

@katarzynalindner594 3 ай бұрын

Do I hear you put a blame on Esther? Seriously?😂

@rainforestblessed5031 5 ай бұрын

With therapists, where do ethics and morality fit? And reality? Seems to me like therapists think everything that everyone does is just peachy. And if you don't go along with that, the disfunction is with you. I think the ethical values of the therapist should be explicitly clear at the outset. What is obviously right and wrong to them, if anything at all? Or does everything go? ... and just embrace acceptance of all the world's evil then you won't have any emotional problems at all.