How Your Shadow Reveals Itself

[@kelly-annmaddox]

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[@MeAndMyStaff]

Kelly-Ann, this was such valuable information that you shared with us. Thank you so very much! 🙏🏼 Many blessings!🪶

[@SinergiasHolisticas]

Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@C.Yesterday]

KAM I am LOVING these collages backgrounds!!! 😍😍😍

[@nannetteblackwell6214]

I've been in therapy since I was 8 and I will be 42 in September and while I know myself and My Shadow I still struggle sometimes to know how to deal with not feeling the way I do and putting myself down but I'm to the point where I know why I do it

[@rachelpout8896]

I feel like you've just hit about 90 of my nails on the head. Witch in Darkness here I come 🐈‍⬛️

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@rachelpout8896 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@cosologia.practica]

I was faced with my shadow like that in many occasions. Ten years ago my grandpa was... the K word. That devastated me and all my family. I was faced with the horrors of this world. But I chose to go deep with that. That event built the life I have now. Gave me a sence of justice and community. It gave me the force to decide to leave my country for a better life. Here I am. Facing my shadow again. I believe shadow is worth experiencing it, as horrible as it might be. Even if it hurts, facing it from the heart. Makes us grow and expand, understand better ourselves and others, and the world arround us. 🤘🏼💜

[@kelly-annmaddox]

That is such a heavy thing to go through. I'm sorry for your loss. You should feel proud of the post-traumatic growth you created for yourself in the aftermath of that. ❤

[@nostromois]

How painful it is to hear the enablers and the indifferent having an opinion about how we should feel so as to make it easy for them. Thanks for another great vid. ❤

[@kelly-annmaddox]

So true. Thanks for watching ❤

[@queerlycrafty2628]

Madly in love with your screen of collage!!❤

[@MarisasMoonlitCreations]

I just wanted to tell you how much I love “Witch In Darkness’ I can’t put it down. I am actually rereading Rebel Witch on audible at the same time. Thank you Kelly Ann for two spectacular books

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@MarisasMoonlitCreations 🥲🥰😍 Thank you so much x

[@cookiesontoast9981]

I was always telling myself I don't have the willpower, authenticity or confidence to become Vegan for years, I kept pushing it down for so long and pretending that I didn't care when really I did. I was too worried about dedication and especially fearing what other people will say. Plus I feel that some of my problems with overeating far too much (especially from Mcdeath...) might have been connected to the denial of me knowing I'm not doing what I need to deep down. But 2 and a half months ago I just fucking did it and I'm never looking back. Some family members keep bringing up irritatingly uneducated and uncaring points when I never asked for them, but I'm not allowing their peer pressure get in the way of me being authentic to my own heart. One example of something from my Golden Shadow that I've realised I needed to recognise. Next I'm aiming to bring forth the want to volunteer for homeless shelters and stuff, another thing I know I want but have always been worried about acting upon. I always love your videos on Shadow Work, thanks for another valuable source to refer back to. ❤ Ugh, I wish I didn't always have the tendency to make messages far too long... 🙄 damn AuDHD.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Don't worry about long comments. They are a joy to read. ❤ From one vegan to another, massive congrats on making it over here. 👏 Veganism is a powerful and compassionate life choice. Respect for getting to the other side of your doubts and cognitive dissonance. Love this for you. 🥰

[@megadele65]

This video is so timely for me. My childhood trauma has been rearing its head lately, planting itself right in front of me, and saying “no don’t turn away, you need to deal with this now”. It’s been difficult, but also very revealing. I saw myself in that excerpt from romancing the shadow. I get so triggered by other people and then I overreact and get defensive or angry. “If it’s hysterical, it’s probably historical“…I had not heard that before, but it’s so true for me. Great video!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@megadele65 I'm so glad this one was timely. ❤️🫂 I understand you completely - I used to get sooo defensive about stuff that had nothing to do with me, really. I took things personally. My inner child was crying out. ❤️

[@Numina_]

Same for the past few months for me. I started therapy again. I’m seeing things I didn’t know I was capable of seeing. It’s sort of a rollercoaster, but I have support and awareness about what is happening so I can work on it..

[@wittyk8581]

You are so inspiring. Thank you for posting.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

That's so kind, thanks for watching ❤

[@ireallylovecilantro]

All I could think about was discovering I’m a lesbian. My mind went to pathology for several years and denying myself. Definitely many tower moments.

[@activistwitch]

This was such a gem! Unsurprisingly for me most of shadow 'enlightenment' comes from therapy. My psychologist has a great abolity to draw parallels between the things i speak about and i recently realised how some toxic behaviours i saw in my mother and thought could never been mine, my psyche jas adapted and justified for when i fihht for what i think is justice (keep going back to that video you made and pulled that justice card and i swear, you were reading me for filth! That was such a breakthrough moment for me!)

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Ooooh finding my mother's problematic behaviours within my own actions and mindsets is deeeeply shadow-y. I feel you. Sounds like you do amazing work with your therapist. ❤ My therapist is similarly excellent at drawing those parallels and helping me see things. X

[@IsaLinaLuna]

re addiction, i don’t think it’s any coincidence that the 12 steps are literally shadow-work. and causes of that can be buried well below the basement until it’s psychologically safe for them to surface. what you describe re emotional overreaction is also comparable to a CPTSD emotional flashback, which people tend to be less aware of than the “classic” flashback. not everything is Trauma™️ (despite what one might see on tiktok!) but there are some parallels.

[@whitemountainwitchery7240]

A big shadow that I am currently confronting is so painful. My nana died on January 2nd and her passing ment that I would be in a room with my sister whom I have not spoken to in over 6 years. Even though our relationship has been toxic and she has consistently shown me we will never have a sisterly relationship or even just a respectful relationship I still had hope. So when I saw her show up to our Nana's funeral (2 hours late btw) I gave her hug and even introduced my children to her. It seems like a nice encounter. I even texted her after the service to tell her my children were excited to meet her and it was nice to see her. This is when she texted me back trying to lecture me about "respect" (because our mother, other sister, and myself were wondering what was taking her so long to get to the service. Apparently this is me specifically being disrespectful to her but whatever) and how I am childish and a number of other things that I chose not to read. I replied simply with an "ok" because i was not going to do a back and forth thing with her which she tried to do. I have been going over in my head why I even thought extending myself to her at all would yield anything but I am realizing I did so because of that shadow part of me who is insecure and wants to be accepted. I am still working this all out obviously and have cried many many tears wondering why I let her rejection hurt so much when this is a pattern with her and I and i shouldnt have expected for things to be different. Any words of love by this amazing community would be deeply appreciated as well. I always find such comfort I your videos Kelly-Ann and in the amazing community that this channel has brought together ❤

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Babe, I am so sorry. I went through a VERY similar thing after my brother's death - having be in proximity to the sister neither of us spoke to and I certainly don't want much to do with. I was particularly kind to her, even factoring her into my speech at the funeral to make her feel included. But she lashed out and exposed her bitterness and bile once it became obvious to her that I was still maintaining understandable boundaries. It all became a total shit show which I really DID NOT need or deserve at such a delicate time for me. If nothing else, it does prove that we were absolutely correct in our instincts to keep the fuck away from them. Not all siblings are good siblings. 🫂 Do what you need to do to heal. Take comfort in the fact that you refuse to continue to take shit just because someone is related to you by blood. Fuck that. That cycle needs to be broken in two. It harms way too many people. ❤ You have my empathy. Xxx

[@whitemountainwitchery7240]

@kelly-annmaddox I felt so proud of myself for not going back and forth with her and not replying to any of her texts. That was my little win because I know that probably pissed in her puddle more than ANYTHING I could text back 😄

[@Reginacycs11]

A great video! Back in late 90’s, I was in therapy for some real terrible things in my life. I read on my own Romancing the Shadow, it illuminated so much for me. I used it to help me in my journal. I discussed much of my revelations with my therapist. I have recommended that book to many people over the years. Your videos are filled with such little good nuggets of wisdom and insight. Thanks for the content you share. ❤

[@fredbissnette3104]

Deep into shadow work myself great video , bright blessings

[@themarshmallowofdoom6777]

Thank you so much for this 💐 the breadth and depth, not only of the subject matter at hand, but also that you've encapsulated in this video is immense 💞 going to be blasting this one for years to come!!! 😊 🙃 allll the shadow gremlins shall be brought to task, and have a torch shone Directly on their faces! But in all seriousness; I've had so many cataclysmic realisation tower moments, in the last half year especially, (feel too personal to share, sorry lol) and holy cow am I ready to just start Slaying shadows. (Aka integration, healing wholeness etc 😅Slaying sounds cooler, smite me). Having other peoples bullshit directed towards me (and their own shadowy issues as well... in this case, very ew, much icky 🤢) has actually had significant silver linings: pulled up a bunch of my own crap from the depths, including Massive Golden Shadow energy (big d who?? I only know....) 😂 may the golden shadow be upon us all. So heres to people being so weird that we're moved further along on our path 🥂 You know shits real when you're glad about how much you've been crying (catharsis, healing, actually feeling the necessary feels) and you're grateful for having a very intense time of it all. If there's no anguish, did it even matter at all? In my case, no. But it hurts, so it matters, so I try to work with it. Good luck to all on this journey 💜 your shadow's looking pretty cute today, why don't you go chat it up a bit? 😉

[@kelly-annmaddox]

'You know shit's real when you're glad about how much you've been crying.' Pftt YUP. This comment is so fucking real. ❤❤

[@themarshmallowofdoom6777]

@kelly-annmaddox I had to leave a little something something, couldn't tune in with the puffy eyes and NOT share with the class 🙃 And yeah, I know for sure you get it 💔 gotta let the rivers flow, lest we be swept in the floods. But sometimes the floods still find a way 😂

[@paris.c555]

All your videos are such gems! 💎 thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom, so priceless!! grateful to have discovered your channel!!! thank you!!!💖💖💖

[@yesterdaywheniwasmad]

Fantastic video, Kelly-Ann!! I really enjoyed the dark shadow and the gold shadow concepts. Very simply put, in my opinion, when our dark shadow is showing its teeth, we are judgemental of people, situations etc. When the gold shadow is playing up, we lack confidence and self-esteem. It's like when something triggers our dark shadow, we tend to have a noisy, bitchy reaction and when the gold shadow is triggered, we shrink and hold ourselves back. And the beauty is that we experience both sides, because we're not perfect. The secret of winning over the shadow is to be aware that we have it in us and then let the self dissecting begin 😁🤓🤔😳

[@taylorexploresmore]

You’re the sweetest dandelion! ❤

[@kelly-annmaddox]

🤗🥹🤭 nawww thanks pickle! 😍

[@emilymaggie89]

Thank you thank you thank you THANK YOU!! 🙏🏻🥹🥰♥️

[@marestellarum7894]

Love your look! ❤

[@kelly-annmaddox]

🥰😍💖 Thank you darling! 🤭

[@rubyred1ism]

Hahaha this is freaky 🤣 I have been focusing on shadow work a whole lot and now I get your video at the precise moment 😅 This happens to me so often recently!!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Perfect! I love being cosmically on time. ❤

[@rubyred1ism]

And ​@kelly-annmaddox even stranger still, I didn't know you were affiliated with Aura, and I literally just subscribed! You or I are definitely cosmically aligned! ❤

[@bridgetgibson9656]

❤❤❤

[@peckishpagan]

23:33 Face journeys don’t lie or hide😂

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Haha sooo true! ❤❤

[@acecarson3792]

IN THE MOUTH OF MADDNESS😮

[@anayrre2062]

"I've been friends with the monster that's under my bed Get along with the voices inside of my head And if you think I'm crazy Well that's nothing!" 🎵🎶🎵🎶🩷🫀

[@C.Yesterday]

Also, been having a huge Tower moment now realizing what's going on with the UK government 🫠

[@emilymaggie89]

The things that popped into my head as I watched: anger, speaking up, judgement, being present, relaxation, confidence, being told what to do, think or feel, unkind words. Now to start unpacking this bit by bit! 🫣✨

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Oooh good work! You stayed so attuned to your feelings as you watched. Happy shadow working ❤