You're not alone my friend. The fact that you're looking this up means you have people in your life you consider important. ❤️
@user-zz5xl4np3r3 жыл бұрын
BAHAHAH same 😭😭
@PieDivide3 жыл бұрын
For everyone saying they feel bad for having to look this up: don't. You're taking the initiative to be a better person! That's pretty fuckin awesome, in my opinion.
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
Amen.
@yehaw99423 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@i.sharted81223 жыл бұрын
I Needed this
@zZiL341yRj7363 жыл бұрын
I just sat there like a fucking idiot, don't what to say or do.
@cvpiguy3 жыл бұрын
thanks bro.
@samuelimevbore58683 жыл бұрын
I'm proud of everyone here who cares enough for their friends 👏
@Ch40ticC4t3 жыл бұрын
Thank you ☺️
@UnknownUser-cg4tg3 жыл бұрын
Ty.. my best freind is crying over call saying he is so scared of this world and his gender dyphoria and everything and I'm trying to comfort him. We are making characters together and I'm talking to him
@3ggbert3 жыл бұрын
Thank you and I'm also proud of you being here too
@vanniee2222 жыл бұрын
Thank u:)
@paominlenlupheng13612 жыл бұрын
My malefriend is facing breakup.Hes totally hurt .Idk what should i do😔😔
@thankyoujesus28363 жыл бұрын
ONLY SAY THESE THINGS IF YOU REALLY MEAN THEM!!!
@greenbean5053 жыл бұрын
I’m not proud that I had to look this up um
@matthewreese77103 жыл бұрын
Be proud. You’re trying to help someone as much as you can.
@stenarsk68773 жыл бұрын
@@matthewreese7710 agree
@dannahloudesamparado68373 жыл бұрын
Same:(
@starish97153 жыл бұрын
Be proud
@namehere73093 жыл бұрын
At least you did look this up. It's better than nothing
@snowriver47243 жыл бұрын
I needed this every time someone cries or is upset I just stand here like 🧍♀️
@deepfry47352 жыл бұрын
Fr😭
@leah-rd1zv2 жыл бұрын
Lmaooo yeah and its just so awkward like tf do I do 💀
@ijustthrewouttheloveofmydreams2 жыл бұрын
I say I’m sorry. and I’m tired of saying that
@uridentityvmom93762 жыл бұрын
it makes me feel so awkward
@ajstyle60852 жыл бұрын
@@ijustthrewouttheloveofmydreams yeah absolutely I agree with you becoz whole world says that the term" I'M SORRY" on that situation and we do not know how to deal that situation and we tend to say the same cliche word without any EMOTION. And Just stand like a mute object.!!
@shukryustvolskaya47753 жыл бұрын
"I can't control the seas, the seas might be very stormy. But you are not in that boat alone." holy fakkkk :')
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
This always worked with my kids.
@shukryustvolskaya47753 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks Last night its worked with my fav person. Thanks!
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
Great! Happy to hear it.
@roderickcloutier28902 жыл бұрын
You were a ship in stormy seas. I am an island just in touch. You found yourself to me that night and shared each others warm embrace. I am an island just in touch. The time it came, to let you go, to sail away and a happy tear. I am an island just in touch. And if you find yourself in stormy seas spread your sails and think of me. I am an island just in touch.
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
Song lyrics?
@Phoen1xFeathers4 жыл бұрын
Thanks! My friends dog was run over and I want to give her some support but Im super introverted so Im terrible at speaking
@Pastelpinkplz3 жыл бұрын
I feel u im also introverted so it makes everything so hard
@PiSceS-38843 жыл бұрын
@DaBucci I'm glad that you acknowledged it. I respect you
@avo.avocado3 жыл бұрын
I’m the thearapist of the group yet I’m looking at this lol
@broskibrunches3 жыл бұрын
Your informing yourself, which is an okay thing to do :)
@ren57453 жыл бұрын
I- same
@athenakim75643 жыл бұрын
Same.
@user-ki1kv8rb3z3 жыл бұрын
fr
@TheBeanBox_o73 жыл бұрын
Hey bro, you and me both but that’s ok
@AutumnKat21194 жыл бұрын
I recently had a bad situation happen to me and my mom doesn't know how to comfort me, this video is everything I wanted to hear. I will show her this. Thank you.❤
@HowCommunicationWorks4 жыл бұрын
Did it help your mom?
@AutumnKat21194 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks I would say so. She is more responsive and understanding.
@ellanies4 жыл бұрын
I really do hope everything has gotten better for u!
@AutumnKat21194 жыл бұрын
@@ellanies Thank you, I think having open communication is best. I still have my good and bad days with my mom but reminding her to self reflect on the situation before reacting with emotions first has helped a lot. Good communication is a challenge and requires a lot of patience and understanding, but in the end there are moments that make all that effort worth it.
@scullcandy49483 жыл бұрын
I hope you’re feeling better now :)
@demoli56253 жыл бұрын
This video is really underrated, for everyone blaming themselves for having to look this up, don't be, please, just the fact that you are looking for a way to help a significant one is amazing and I am proud of you. Since the pandemic started I had a lot of friends, including myself going through a very dark moment, being the listener of the group wasn't a easy task lol, but it is amazing to see a professional talk about something so important and so well explained! Thanks!
@Lyrics_____1 Жыл бұрын
Just a reminder: If you are watching this video You are really a nice person and a good friend. Loads of love and respect. ❤
@patwieferich35412 жыл бұрын
Our son has been dealing with depression for a few years now. It has been very difficult to get him to open up with us about how he is feeling but it mostly seems to be due to the death of all 4 of his grandparents within a 5 year time period. Most recently another very close elderly "grandparent" figure passed unexpectedly in her sleep and since he is away in college, we had to tell him over the phone. It seemed like he was making improvements until this happened and now he is worse than ever. It didnt' help when one of the university's counselors invalidated his feelings. He met once with him and never went back because he made him feel worse. We have recently found a councilor that he is comfortable with so we are praying that things get better for him. Thanks for sharing this video, I will try to incorporate some of these suggestions into our conversations.
@euritakesonlife Жыл бұрын
if you don't mind this question, how is he now? about to pray for him and your family now ❤
@Mapqzs3 жыл бұрын
I feel bad I have to look this up, but I really just want to help my brother. Today I was going down stairs to get some milk, I was surprise my brother didn’t say anything because normally he knows I’m there, I walk over to the refrigerator that had milk and I saw my brother sitting at his desk with his computer in front of him, I started hearing noises that sounded like crying and so I walked out not even grabbing the milk because I thought he needed alone time. When someone is upset I know someone coming up and trying to talk to them about as if they know what your going through is annoying, because that’s what my parents try to do when I’m upset, they think their doing the right thing but sometimes people just want to be alone and listen to their self. I try putting myself in my brother’s shoes, my younger sister is annoying and when I’m frustrated and she’s their all sitting in happy it makes me lash out. I just know this by documenting myself, I tend to think back on when I’m upset out of habit.
@p_roduct92113 ай бұрын
Hey friend. That's okay, there's nothing wrong with that and don't feel bad to look these things up. These are uncomfortable moments and it's normal not to know what to do or feel helpless sometimes. It's important to just be there to make your presence known so they feel their emotions are acknowledged. It doesn't need comfort by words all the time like you said, or asking "are you ok?" because we know they're not. I do that for my partner who is very introverted and stoic person who doesn't recognize his emotions much, but is experiences pain. I ask about other indirect needs, or do stuff for them anyway. Make them a cucumber or ham sandwich, a cup of water or a warm pot of tea if that's what they usually do every day. If it's been a long day, draw a bath or put out clean towels and let them know to have a shower. Sometimes just pulling out of their sitting/lying position to shower and breathe the hot steam helps them process their thoughts and emotions. It's a release valve. Maybe offer to go for a quiet, wordless walk together. Or a drive around the neighborhood until they want to stop. Just being beside someone I think is just as powerful as talking emotions out like in this video.
@PoekietheJackRussel5 жыл бұрын
it really helped me comfort my friend, thank you
@HowCommunicationWorks5 жыл бұрын
So happy to hear that. That’s why I’m here.
@khushikaria6974 жыл бұрын
I am watching this video to comfort a friend of mine who is not really in a good situation.. And most of the things were similar to what i really did till now.. so i think it's a relevant video!! N the best thing to do is to say i m here for u.. by this the person feels really touched n gets to know that people love him...
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that
@imhotlol40993 жыл бұрын
The fact that I had to look this up to comfort my friend because I don’t know how to deal with emotions at all.
@lemonylea16073 жыл бұрын
As a person who has a hard time even understanding myself these videos can really help I’ve always had a hard time knowing what to say in any situation
@miyuki65673 жыл бұрын
My friends keep distancing themselves from me because I can’t console or comfort them without sounding like an asshole and I feel bad so this video helps
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
I hope it does help. That sounds awful.
@retr0ldude8582 жыл бұрын
Same but with my girlfriend, I really need to memorise these tips cause I want to be with her forever
@c7eye2 жыл бұрын
My friend has been in and out of the hospital. One stay was for 25 days. This video is awesome. I’m going to watch it again and again. I’m going to take notes and practice this in the mirror. If you knew my friend you would love him. He is so kind and sweet. I want to help him. Thank you so much for teaching me these ways of relating. My family didn’t know how to do this so I never learned. Now I also have more insight into my own challenges and the need to open feel my feelings and emotions. Self compassion and compassion in action. 💎💎💎
@horsemascot2 жыл бұрын
youre truly a great friend. i love you, have a good day random stranger
@HuskerTheCat Жыл бұрын
met someone online with suicidal thoughts and am trying to help them. this video really helped. thank you
@raadyusuf67634 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much man. I will use these tips to help comfort my friend who just got her heart broken by her bf.
@kurapika53143 жыл бұрын
How did it go ?
@Bdapachuau23032 жыл бұрын
@@kurapika5314 it went well ig
@dlull35393 жыл бұрын
I'm seeing a lot of comments talking about how people feel bad that they had to look this video up to comfort people and their loved ones. I hope that these people can realise that there's nothing to feel bad or guilty about. You're going out of your way to research how to comfort someone in the right way to not hurt them or make their pain worse. Thats just kindness. Why would you feel bad for being kind? And feeling guilty because you can't comfort peoing is no excusable reason to feel guilty as well. Everyone has something they cant do well. Wether that be drawing or talking. But thats not the point here. What we need to focus on is that you went out of your way to improve your skills after admitting that you cant do something well (some people dont want to accept they cant do something, so im already proud of you for accepting yourself) Hope yall arent too hard on yourselves! You're a kind and amazing human being! Believe it!
@ITSLIZZ1112 жыл бұрын
So true!! This is what a good friend would do
@rayeditsvsp3 ай бұрын
I’m glad this came on my recommend even if I’m struggling I still want to comfort other people I love
@waterloos3 жыл бұрын
The availability one is really true, I know from personal experience. I stayed on call alone really late one night that my friend was sad in case he wanted to join so that he had someone to talk with. It really helped and now we are even better friends
@RM-xw2xg4 жыл бұрын
I really wanted to tell my friend that I loved him, because he is depressed and shows signs of hating himself, but I didn't because I wasn't sure how to. He has a crush on me, and I didn't want to give him the wrong idea, but I really wanted him to know that I cared and loved him but HOW can I tell him???? Can anyone give me advice?
@HowCommunicationWorks4 жыл бұрын
“You’re so important to me. I value our friendship so much. I care about what happens to you. I’m concerned about you. I want to help you if I can.”
@RM-xw2xg3 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks That helps a lot. Thank you!
@AnuragVimal-ng2zj9 ай бұрын
I never wanted to see these type of videoes. But the time always shows me that I control nothing. And made me realise that these are part of life you can never escape.😖☹️☹️☹️😭😭😭😭😭😭
@W4SSP3 жыл бұрын
I wish I got to this video sooner. I tried to comfort someone but my words are just so shallow and uncertain. Now I feel like they're mad at me and I can't look at their account without crying.
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry. Is it possible to go back and try again?
@W4SSP3 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks I'm not sure I'm still scared
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
It’s okay to be scared. People normally appreciate kindness.
@muhammadsarumi45193 жыл бұрын
Same
@Alphacentauri8192 жыл бұрын
Even saying “I’m afraid that I wasn’t able to be there in the way that would’ve been helpful” “I’m unsure of what to say in situations like that”…that’s what true, vulnerable communication is all about. If we don’t face our uncertainties and avoid others due to them…we actually drive the thing we fear, disconnection. I would absolutely respect a person who said things like what I said above. We don’t have to all have it figured out. We are all learning. To be real about it, compassionate to yourself for not knowing…and reaching out, is the only way to really develop the deeper aspects of yourself and relationships.
@theseedoflife58253 жыл бұрын
You all show true empathy, love and maturity coming here. This person really means a lot to you!!!
@betti.w3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Im really bad at expressing sympathy and making people feel better, this helped a lot 😁!
@mycetro_ram7104 Жыл бұрын
I just love this person so much and it hurts me that I just froze when she was so down and sad and did literally nothing and I try to convince myself that isn’t my fault and I’m not the emotional type but I still let her down when she need me and I hate myself for that so I’m here to learn how to comfort her cus she means the world to me. Thanks for letting me share
@kdrama_clip_box2 жыл бұрын
Last night when i was talking to one of my friend who is really frustrated & psychologically ill, i was really feeling sorry for him but i couldn’t get any fine words to Console him thats why today I'm here..thanks
@bean51572 жыл бұрын
Watching this so I can comfort others properly and not say anything too hurtful this year. I suppose my aspiration is to be the kid who always lends an ear to anyone who needs it/provides comfort. Right now I'm a mess at it, though (neurodivergent introvert) but I want to be someone that others can rely on.
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
This is a very admirable goal you have. The great thing about empathy and comforting is that these are learnable skills. As a neurodivergent person, it might be a little bit harder to recognize feelings and make all the inferences, but it’s still quite possible to be good at this. People love to be listened to.
@bean51572 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks Thank you ❤️
@sonalagarwal724 Жыл бұрын
After texting these lines to a friend, i myself feel a lil more lighter. I hope he does too when he sees it. Lpve & light always ✨
@eileenmi29352 жыл бұрын
Such a gem. I am binge watching your channel. Your way of talking, teaching and even advising really clicks with me, as well as the actual content.
@army_blinky51922 жыл бұрын
"I can't control the seas, the seas might be very stormy, but ur not alone on the boat" Daaaannngg!!! That's so powerful!!!!!!
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
It works, too.
@army_blinky51922 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks yep, I'll try it, as the one I am seeing this is not well now, I'll definitely try it thanks for so much knowledge!
@mh-nc1bg2 жыл бұрын
My friend is going through a hard time, he almost cried but I had no words to say. All I did was to listen and hug him. I'm so upset at myself, so tomorrow I will see him again to check how he is doing. Hopefully I can comfort him better this time. Thank you
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
You did great. Listening and giving him a hug or two of the best things you could possibly do.
@88happiness3 жыл бұрын
@7:25 "Reassure the other person that it's okay to express any feelings that they have" I'm often surprised that they might not have the feeling that you expect them to in that situation. And it feels important not to assume or push the feelings you would have in their position, on to them. Our assumptions reveal so much about our own thoughts/feelings and might feel like judging.
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
Excellent point.
@chinuchan40193 жыл бұрын
When i want to comfort someone i feel its so dramatic so its really hard for me to comfort anyone.
@Ryan-Ellis2 жыл бұрын
yeh
@Cyborg_Lenin5 ай бұрын
I feel fake when I say these things. I don't really know why. It's not like I say things I don't mean.
@lilaxo Жыл бұрын
youre doing great, don't feel bad youre looking this up, youre helping someone and yourself.
@louisew76972 жыл бұрын
These are challenging times. I find most people are facing new difficulties and they are often hurting in ways they hadn't seen coming. It's really helpful to know how to support people during crisis, or when they are experiencing fears and pressure. Thank you. This was helpful.
@catortoisethoughts61523 жыл бұрын
This video is so simple and excellently structured that even I, a socially deaf autistic person, can follow along and tell when I should say different things. This video has been very helpful for me, thank you.
@lild73602 жыл бұрын
My friend told me something she never told anyone else before and it seemed to be hurting her or had hurt her before. I felt stupid trying to comfort her because I kept repeating things I had already said and just kind of standing there like🧍🏻♀️. I got home and decided immediately I need to find out how to comfort people better. Because I have always felt sympathy but never knew what to say. This helped so much thank you for this video!
@UC3rm0aNC4ysyZipDZotXnZA2 жыл бұрын
More people need to see this.
@sannidhyamundra18343 жыл бұрын
Thanks helped getting a friend out of depression 👍🏻
@AmanitaTheFurry Жыл бұрын
Thank you my friend is freaking out because something bad happened and this is amazing advice thank you for helping me help my friend
@SimplySw33ts2 жыл бұрын
thank you for laying out these steps. just had a scary emotional call with an inconsolable friend and unsure if i did them right. i managed to do most steps
@Llyrdriel2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this excellent guide on how to talk to someone who is suffering. It helps me immensely when someone lets me vent and they affirm my feelings, but when I am trying to help someone else I worry that I will say the wrong thing and unintentionally hurt them more.
@dnaty89752 жыл бұрын
People need to understand they aren't born knowing things. YOU need to understand you're not born knowing how to do things, every single things we do we learn, we get r from those around us and we learn and educated ourselves. And to become better we need to LEARN. You need to put in the effort just as you learn English and maths, you need to learn how to be a good friend too because for.many of us it didn't come naturally and maybe didn't have the best surroundings when growing up. If you're learning that's amazing. That's genuinely such a human thing to do and shows mercy to those around you.
@bby.V4MP3 жыл бұрын
I’m just really bad at socializing and showing emotion, I have a really hard time with it so here we are.
@joannlcabreraa60413 жыл бұрын
Thank you For giving examples and how to respond. I would love to see more examples of reflective response. I have a hard time with that. I am really thankful that you made this video. Great job.
@Batophy3 жыл бұрын
I'm really glad I found this. I've never been good at any Conversations and since yesterday I make a lot of notes to hang on my wall just to kind of get these Tipps in my Head. I'm really thankful that there are people like you helping in such situations and share it with the world
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much.
@i8osoi2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this, I was called by a close friend a few hours ago and i didn't know what to say, i just listened the whole time and at the end of the conversation it was this silence that i think was my cue to say something comforting, fear not my friend, i will call him and try again, this time with this approach, thanks again!
@auntiebobbolink2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for helping in this way. This society is so obsessed with rugged individualism that we only hear versions of "how to heal yourself". We keep forgetting that we're all in this together and need to learn how to be there for each other. With more compassion we will reduce the use of pills and also the urge to self- medicate. Please continue with more of this. It's so badly needed!
@augieroncaglia22973 жыл бұрын
This is actually so helpful because I never know what to say win like someone’s crying but I really want To help them
@craig17842 жыл бұрын
Just watching this guy's stream of thought you can tell he is a master of his craft.
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
You’re too kind.
@jadelouise27893 жыл бұрын
I don’t know why I struggle so much at comforting people, I just never say the right things and feel awkward and cringe when I’m trying to ‘comfort’ them, I don’t really know what to do, so I took the initiative of looking this up, wish I could just be a natural at this kind of stuff …
@jasmeenkaur87373 жыл бұрын
My friend is passing through a very difficult time..... That's why im watching this.... And i think i have done all this....
@alghelis2 жыл бұрын
the fact i searched this up because my friend told me my crush was crying when i wasnt at school and i was the only one who usually comforts him even though he hurts my feelings he sometimes has a kind heart when i feel down. I searched this up because i realized how bad i am at comforting someone. recently he found out i have covid. He gave me so much advice its so sweet. 😭🤍 Thank you for this video! It helped me comfort all my friends :) Besides my friend suggested this video when I was crying uncontrollably in the bathroom and asked her how is she so good at comforting..😅
@darkmagician61923 жыл бұрын
Sometimes not saying anything is also some of the best thing you can do....people need their space.
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely.
@mikebingham97002 жыл бұрын
This video has helped me a lot in what to say to people that are in need of help and how to go about understanding their situation. Very good!
@unskxjsixy3 жыл бұрын
Thannnkkkkkk u!!! I got this whole social communication disorder and I didn’t know people educate on how to help with that and I thought I would struggle with is for my whole life 💖
@fineartlifestyling10 ай бұрын
The biggest thing about being present is truly being present physically and emotionally. Not through a text or a quick message, but to truly show up, offer yourself to serve your friend.
@mizanhalim7862 жыл бұрын
Omg, you (yes you) should be proud bcs im doing this effort to learn on how to cheer you up
@mr.jaymoon2 жыл бұрын
My friend is going through a rough time and most of the time I have trouble comforting him, because I feel like the way I'm used to comforting people doesn't always seem to work with him. I think this video gave me the right tools on what to do or say to him
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
Please give it a try and tell me how it works out.
@mr.jaymoon2 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks it worked for a bit, but he went into a bigger pit of despair
@mr.jaymoon2 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks never mind! It worked once they vented more and I was able to help! Thank you for the tips, I'll use them again for next time
@chadniakternahid2303 жыл бұрын
thanks a lot. I have learned many word, pronunciation and expression.
@DeepakSinghTanwar12311 ай бұрын
Didn't know ever in my life i would have to search something like this. I do i comfort her!!!!
@KyleDestroyer3 жыл бұрын
On 2 separate occasions my friends have been ill iv always said to them I’m always here for you no matter what I’m doing or no matter how I feel and I came here to see if I’m doing the Right thing
@HowCommunicationWorks3 жыл бұрын
Saying “I’m always here for you” is nice but actually showing up is better. People won’t often ask for help. We have to find out what they need and try to give it to them.
@dianenoblett60543 жыл бұрын
Really useful information. Maybe do a video on “what not to say” for example “I know exactly how you feel “
@c.r.k.71622 жыл бұрын
This isn’t as common sense for many people as it should be. I wish kids got lessons on this in elementary school, because many of us didn’t learn it from our parents.
@alroko4 ай бұрын
Thank yo I’m arguing with my brother over our child trauma and this helped a lot.
@leahwilliams36182 жыл бұрын
Great video. I'm part of a recovery group and I'm going to share this with them. Thank you
@alexandermoore80225 жыл бұрын
Good video, this really helped me out!
@HowCommunicationWorks5 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Alexander. I’m always happy to be of assistance.
@baya.baby.2 жыл бұрын
I care about my friend it can be hard for me to articulate that to him, thank you for this helpful video!
@starry3rrxr401 Жыл бұрын
my friends aunt is in the hospital and has a very low chance to live, i dont know what to say to her but i made her some oragami of her favourite things, i am going to give it to her when i next see her at school! so thanks for posting this because i want to comfort my friend but not sure how
@joycegreer93912 жыл бұрын
Oh new channel. So that's why I never came across you before. Really liking your content. Very helpful and practical info and advice. I'm always looking for social skills, communication, relationship development. I've always been more shy and quiet.
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
I started this channel in 2017.
@joycegreer93912 жыл бұрын
@@HowCommunicationWorks Oh, of course there are so many YT channels. I only just recently saw your videos recommended.
@innkblot52244 жыл бұрын
I have a “friend” who’s hurting. I don’t really know them that well, but I am worried. I don’t really care that much, and I’m afraid that makes me cruel, I don’t know if I can truthfully be earnest towards her.
@HowCommunicationWorks4 жыл бұрын
If that’s how you feel, perhaps best not to say anything at all.
@shirleytyree276 Жыл бұрын
This is so excellent thank you so very very very MUCH!!!!! Thank you!
@HowCommunicationWorks Жыл бұрын
You're very welcome!
@alisquin3152 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, because of your video I was able to talk to and have my friend open up about their problems to me, in the end making their night a little bit better.
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
It really works, doesn’t it? I’m very happy for you and your friend.
@SakuraKatya94 Жыл бұрын
I feel bad, that I had to look this up. I hope, I can help more when those around me are in need, instead of being a deer in headlights.
@miyopiii2 жыл бұрын
I'm pretty good at comforting people and am called the therapist friend but even i sometimes am at a loss for words so this video is very useful
@Sayuchq Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this im sure it helps many people struggling with comforting others
@HowCommunicationWorks Жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@layy_frr Жыл бұрын
thank you❤ this really helped a lot because I have many friends that are upset and depressed and I wanted to cheer them up
@zralproductions16683 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I need
@janistorchia51082 жыл бұрын
I am thoroughly enjoying your videos! I even sent one of your videos to my husband to explain/reinforce how much I need him to acknowledge me when I speak. Thank you. 🙂
@MysteryScheme3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I've gotten a better at socializing as an introvert for others sake also to not be so unapproachable lol. Now I'm getting to work on my comforting skills, because I've been in so many situations where I didn't know how I should react...😭
@amyagius1653 жыл бұрын
thank you for this! I'm not great at finding the right words to say when a friend or family member is going through something. so this really helps!
@pvrple74063 жыл бұрын
i really want to help my friend who is in a bad place, shes venting to me and i can tell shes in pain. I feel really bad because i have no idea what she is going through and i want to help but i dont want to make her feel worse or say something that could invalidate her feelings but i ended up not texting her back and looking this up to try to comfort her. somone give me helpful tips to make somone feel like they're heard but nothing thats like advice
@ericb83422 жыл бұрын
I am so deeply impressed by this channel, and so unfathomably grateful it exists. I clicked onto one video and I've been enraptured for...longer than responsible. When I saw "exactly what to say", I clicked on this video completely certain that I had found one I categorically disagree with. Grief, loss and emotional pain have been friends of mine since the age of four. I am accustomed to having the most direct, practical experience of anyone in the room on the topic of this video, and the title put my hackles up. It has been my experience that "What Do I Say?" is a fundamentally misguided question. The harder someone focuses on formulating the Most Bestest Comfort Words, the less attention they tend to pay to the bereaved themselves - it's a self-defeating mindset that inhibits active listening and other empathic skills, and breeds empty platitudes into habit as a fallback. And yet! I can't disagree with a single point in this video. I thought it was inevitable: in one way or another, most people learn to think that support is an action - this is utterly false. Support is an implicit agreement. One person requests or offers it, and the other accepts. From that point, the support exists for as long as the supporter is present. What they say (or don't) is effectively irrelevant, as long as the intent to support remains clear and sincere. Speech is an incidental manifestation of support, not the source of it. And yet! I've just been taught "exactly what to say", and the lesson was never once misleading. Absolutely glorious.
@HowCommunicationWorks2 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@shireenmuslim91842 жыл бұрын
Thank you I maybe can comfort my friend
@evildragon17744 күн бұрын
thank you for comforting me on comforting people 👍👍👍
@georgethalman1639 Жыл бұрын
This guy is the best very empathic and super straight-to-the-point love his public speaking❤❤❤
@GodsonNnabuko4623 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this. This is excellent information. I've been scouring the internet for this. I'm a doctor; just relocated to the UK and I do experience difficulty communicating empathy to people especially my patients, because of difference in culture. Where I come from, sorry is usually enough to convey empathy no matter how many times you say it in a single conversation, especially with the right voice tone and facial expressions. However here in UK, it is considered mostly an apology so when you say sorry to someone in pain they immediately tell you it's not your fault. I believe this teaching will help me be better at it. If you've got similar videos on this subject kindly direct me to them. Thanks.
@zaphrenehidalgo71493 жыл бұрын
My friend is going thru depression for a long time but I can't do anything but to listen and hug her :(
@meli_lemon_real3 жыл бұрын
i feel so bad that i have to look this up but i just wanna be able to comfort my bestie :(
@wikumrathnayake81933 жыл бұрын
Only true friends are here😊❤️
@birb21973 жыл бұрын
I always come off as aloof or laid-back it sounds like i’m not even taking the situation seriously, but in reality i just really dont know how to express myself
@bajadhuunyare3785 Жыл бұрын
Pretend like I never heard and run😂that's my method now
@dieselbstlosesuchenachwahr81513 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video. It was very on point and exactly what I was searching for. It probably saved hours and hours of research. Best Regards
@Hoppysjunkyardrally Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the knowledge. This weekend i plan to make a 700 mile trip to check on a friend thats been having a hard time for over 6 year's. This video has given me the tools and the confidence to proceed in the correct process to help find the underlying problem they are experiencing. Than you again!
@HowCommunicationWorks Жыл бұрын
You can do it!
@Hoppysjunkyardrally Жыл бұрын
@HowCommunicationWorks THANK YOU! 💙 Im going to give it everything i have!!!
@theobserver8 Жыл бұрын
@@Hoppysjunkyardrally Its been two months. How did it go?
@Hoppysjunkyardrally Жыл бұрын
@theobserver8 it went well. We hung out and reminisced on old times. Spirits seemed good! Now we chat every couple days. While he still may be depressed and a little down at least he knows im here. Plan on going back to hang out in a couple weeks! Thank you for asking and actually caring!!!!! ❤️ Need many more like you!!