Tom Sandoval Finally Tells His Side of the Story | Howie Mandel Does Stuff

Tom Sandoval talks his side of the story and gives his take on Ariana Madix, Tom Schwartz, Lala Kent, Scheana Shay, Kate Maloney and Vanderpump Rules.
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[@melissahawk2744]

Tom listed plenty of valid reasons to break up with Ariana. He listed zero valid reasons for cheating on her with her best friend behind her back for a year.

[@angelapatino9582]

Absolutely...and I think he said several times he shouldn't have cheated. He did not handle this well at all but he is human and many people have made this awful choice

[@staceya7870]

Right?! He didn't make one mistake. He made a mistake everytime he crossed the line with Raquel!

[@myopinionmatters]

Spot on, and that is the part that it doesn’t matter all of the reasons he wanted to break up with her. I don’t care, agreed your relationship was not perfect if you were cheating. But that’s where you suck it up buttercup and you don’t try to get it your way all the way. Because let’s be honest, that’s what he was trying to do either he was trying to do this when they wouldn’t film, or he was trying to be clever to get her off of the house before he broke it up with her. I think he is a slimeball, he’s proved that before this, this just tops the sliminess.

[@erinh2775]

100% it’s ok that he wanted the relationship to end but how can the interviewers and Tom NOT see what’s so messed up here

[@erinh2775]

@lori martin which is fine - but you don’t cheat with one of her best friends

[@anitasquire9700]

Howie being an advocate for mental health while allowing Tom to trash Ariana's mental health is fucked up

[@tracyjohnson9000]

This right here!!!

[@nicolegrant2750]

So it’s okay for Ariana and her friends to talk about it. But he can’t! I bet everything he said is true. The only thing he is guilty of is NOT ending the relationship!! I’m sure it was already over!!

[@PhylLondon]

That’s what I was thinking. He’s navigate for mental health. Where was Tom losing his mental health? What he did to Ariana was awful for her. And how dare he say Raquel is hot. Her cringe. He voice that sounds like her vocal cords are inflamed, and on fire is awful. Oh, and the phone ringing in the middle of the interview how classless

[@OffToParis88]

Wait, this man advocates for mental health?? My mind is blown

[@mayam6444]

@@nicolegrant2750 ofc he can’t talk about someone else’s mental health! Are you tapped? Tf

[@clemmoh01]

“Never did I think I’d get myself in a situation like this…” You started out Season 1 in a situation like this.

[@tedamjoke]

Exactly..once a cheat, always a cheat. If you develop a relationship with someone who is already in a relationship, don’t be surprised when it happens again. Growing apart does happen. Tom didn’t break up with Ariana because the excitement came from the sneaking around. This interview was disgusting. Offering Excuses and acceptance of Tom’s vile behavior shows who Howie truly is.

[@KS-hi8vi]

So true EXACTLY like this.

[@erindelaney5690]

PFFFTTT- 😭😂😂😂

[@kimberlyjsantore617]

Lol, that's what I thinking.

[@sarahnorton1704]

Facts

[@missmigz6559]

Tom takes no accountability for his actions. He is blaming Ariana basically for him cheating! He is the crazy one here!

[@LexaTerrestrialx]

he's so self interested... He could do whatever he wanted but Ariana, I bet she couldn't.. And when she did Tom always wanted his name on it. "Ariana doesn't kiss my ass so... Lemme find a lackey stan." I don't use this term lightly because it's over used but Narcassist.... who finds himself needing to gaslight to appear more innocent and save his "image" and it wouldn't surprise me if he turned into a men's rights activist. He does things for his own ego.

[@Jubacca1313]

He told everyone his relationship with Kristen was terrible because he couldn't talk to her, and she was crazy. The twins in his apartment he slept with were crazy. Then he told everyone he loved Ariana because he could talk to her, and she wasn't crazy. Then told everyone Miami Girl they talked, but she was crazy. Then now he's telling everyone he couldn't really talk to Ariana anymore because she has mental health"issues", aka crazy. Now he got close to Raquel because he could talk to her. How long before he says she's crazy?

[@KS-hi8vi]

Ariana called Kristen bipolar & crazy. She said she was prettier, smarter & funnier than Kristen. She should have seen the signs. Raquel was Ariana S2/E4&15 the cheater.

[@UnderExposedKate]

Don’t forget how he claimed to have tried so many times to break up with Kristen and how she was just in denial too. He said the same identical things to justify cheating on Kristen with Ariana. Sad he hasn’t learned a thing in 10 years and how it’s always the woman’s fault when he cheats to move on with someone new. I’m sorry but I disagree with Howie. Sandoval hasn’t taken true accountability without lying and blaming the women he spent years with.

[@MsRocker961]

Lol 😂 she is crazy ! She supposedly checked herself in a mental health place . Hahaha . Ya right

[@rain3743]

Narcissistic Abuse 101. Gas lighting and a smear campaign.

[@sharonprice05]

That's what most men do when they are out to get into a relationship with someone else .....instead of just being honest ....they don't want to be label ed as a douche bag....and of course instead of saying he was having a identity crisis the way the average man in Hollywood rolls get money get a younger chic....

[@nlpm4904]

Bottom line...you have to end a relationship BEFORE you start another. It's the betrayal and disrespect that is hard to overlook

[@shalysophia8281]

People like Sandoval can't be alone, they have to constantly hop from one person to another. It's a codependency problem which is toxic.

[@KS-hi8vi]

He started screwing Ariana before he broke up with Kristen.

[@kps111]

@@KS-hi8vi I always thought so too, but it’s his pattern.. he says when his girlfriends (who are apparently only there to sexual please him)don’t give him attention he cheats, he than proceeds to convince everyone they were crazy.. he has a very clear disgusting pattern

[@briew6116]

Exactly- well said.

[@maddied58]

This interview was a joke…I’m insulted by Tom thinking anybody is buying his lying, cheating crap 😠. Except Howie…he’s buying the moronic crap 😡🤯

[@kendruhmusic6500]

"There were so many perks to the relationship...such as the image of it all" LMAO this dude is wild

[@thehapagirl92]

He didn’t take it seriously. He said the connection wasn’t there. Why did he date her?

[@kameronmcclintic3268]

This is so crazy to watch in the wake of the last episode before the finale, when we saw Rachel confronting Ariana about how she should want to have sex with Tom and questioning whether she’s even attracted to him. To hear the situation spoken about so casually is insane, as if it wasn’t a calculated, vindictive betrayal.

[@alouellettephd]

Here for the rewatch post finale

[@profhortsunlover1536]

Men lie to women. Sandy would have told rachel a right load of codswallop, about Ariana, and rachel so naive she trusts his word. "My wife doesn't understand me!"

[@jakestroll6518]

Also, notice he lies that all they did was kiss that first time. We now know they had sex in the car while Ariana was in the house and then he rang the bell for Ariana to let him in.

[@bedazzlejuju]

Rachel is the ICK personified.

[@Julie28Davis]

How do you know what he was feeling and thinking?!! Come on stop hating on this guy so much. You act like no one ever makes the same mistake twice! It doesn't make him a horrible person, he just made a horrible mistake.

[@Jay-wz8zw]

Love that Howie is preaching mental health while allowing Tom to shame Ariana’s symptoms of depression

[@jenniferwasko4540]

He is not lying. It is a part of his story

[@halocheetah6029]

That's sad.

[@ellebee5607]

​@@jenniferwasko4540 exactly

[@dees_good_vibes3391]

​@@ellebee5607 I'm glad to see reasonable comments here and there. The fans are definitely going overboard acting like they know these people personally.

[@Riclmnopp]

How dare Howie allow someone to speak about how they feel. Stop trying to silence people just because you don’t like what they have to say.

[@deltawhiskey1998]

So Tom started an affair with Raquel, started therapy to break up with Ariana but told her it was to work on the relationship, told her he was distant because of the new bar. She completely trusted him, she started doing the work in therapy, was supportive and doing everything she could to save the relationship and living in an entire different reality than Tom was.

[@victoriaguinn9024]

4 days sober, get some serious time being sober and take ownership of your stuff, make amemds for your wrong doing. Then go on talk show, your just owing smoke.

[@lateshabradshaw8515]

Oh Tom seriously what you both did was wrong plain and simple!!!!! you are an adult you know how to handle the situational and you should of ended things instead of trying to have your cake and eat it! !!! I don't buy any of your s..t oh I was depressed I know I will cheat on my partner of 10 years!!! yeah OK

[@amberrr3206]

THIS!!! Exactly!!! He was already moved on and emotionally removed from the relationship but gave her false hope by going to therapy and making her think they were working on their relationship together. How can he not see that?? That’s probably why she fought so hard and “wouldn’t let him end it”.

[@carolnogueira-messer6589]

And the fact that he dressed up like Rachel for Halloween is next level creepy

[@kaha5618]

So weird that she didn’t realise he was breaking up with her…

[@bethanyfregans6138]

Thank goodness Howies daughter is there and knows what's going on. This interview should have been done by Andy.

[@alouellettephd]

I love the shady comment Andy made about this last night to Arianna 😂 “thanks for talking to me and not howie Mandel”

[@rosk.wilburn5847]

​@ALLISON Ouellette its all an 'act' for ratings ...I dont even know who he is? Im so confused why his name is trending all over tmz

[@ArcherGinger]

Lies: More than a kiss💋 They hooked up after boys night out. It has now been revealed it wasn’t in the Back Yard and it was more than a kiss💋. They F’d in Raquel’s car outside his & Ariana’s home. He forgot his keys. He had to ring the door bell & Ariana let him in. They also F’d multiple times in Cancun @ the wedding! How messed is that! He just lied through this entire interview!! Raquel stroked his ego & they had an excited sex life because it was new & secretive!!!!

[@Queentay1995]

Yesssss

[@bedriddenbeauty301]

But it's just hilarious that it wasn't. It's Howie. No clue what is going on, and is trying really hard to say he knows him, sort of. THIS is how he tells his side 😅

[@palomacuevas6490]

Getting a ad of Ariana during this interview is GOLD!!! ❤❤❤ GO QUEEN

[@bronwyn117]

That was amazing!

[@lilyoconnor8118]

him blaming her for not noticing as if she shouldn’t trust the person she’s been with for a decade is DISGUSTING.

[@JennaCalifornia]

Right!?!?! She trusted him and Rachel and will probably now have a hard time trusting anyone in her life going forward all because of him. And he doesn’t even care what he’s done. It’s all her fault. SCUMBAG

[@Wen1515]

Him accusing her of both emotional and physical abuse on this forum (a podcast) is AWFUL! I’m looking forward to the record being set straight on that. 🤦‍♀️

[@AngelaMarie426]

Came here to say the same thing , this guy sucks

[@lilykat15]

100%

[@violetsky5202]

Gaslighting!!! He is such a piece of garbage!

[@mochacondulce]

If this EVER happens to Howie's daughter. I bet he'll understand the hoopla real quick. 😂

[@juliacallan5113]

Was literally thinking the same!

[@sarahrupert5320]

Ha! Exactly!!

[@Happylifenow781]

100%

[@louiseabsalom1832]

Maybe he's understand it better if his wife slept with his best friend for 7+ months and then left Moleman for the bestfriend.

[@mamabear8591]

💯

[@ellepowers89]

It is absolutely not the ending of the relationship that is worse, it’s the affair because now everyone feels betrayed, lied, & manipulated to say the least

[@ocesc6240]

What Adriana said in the finale was The best assessment of who Rachel is. This girl has no identity she’s looking for her identity in men. Something to that effect. Smartest line I’ve heard in reality tv. Adriana is smart and beautiful and will have her next act. I thought they should’ve separated when she didn’t want to have kids and he wanted to be a father. Best wishes to all in the situation!

[@sablank18]

Sandoval is a legend in his own mind and Howie is fueling his clearly inflated ego. I'm nauseated by this interview.

[@dextermoore278]

I can actually sympathize with how Tom is feeling. He turned 40 and he was depressed and unhappy in his life.

[@paigelette13]

Worst interview ever!!! I was screaming and hurling 🍅 🍅 🍅 🍅 's in the chat! Two disgusting misogynistic pigs!

[@sablank18]

@@dextermoore278 Then he should have had an ounce of integrity and left Ariana before he began having a relationship with a 26 year old.

[@dextermoore278]

@@sablank18 Raquel isn't 26. She is older than that.

[@sablank18]

@@dextermoore278 My bad. She’s 28 !

[@EdwardTGein]

Imagine being a 40 year old man being entirely incapable of taking accountability for your actions.

[@tc2904]

We don’t need to imagine, that’s what the entire show is about! A group of 40 yr olds (or close to) with none of them taking any responsibility for their horrible actions. They’re all trash but it’s entertaining and unbelievable to watch them in action.

[@tacham4533]

Perfectly said 🎉

[@kristina4395]

Imagine being a 39yo woman and being entirely incapable of taking responsibility for ones actions... being emotionally manipulative when you dont hear what you want (a woman saying "i will not Allow you to leave me"??...."i will end my life if you leave me"... not ok....)

[@Drake23x23]

To be fair he said what he did was wrong

[@patrickcorcoran228]

@@kristina4395 Imagine being a woman and saying this about another woman. Disgusting.

[@butterfliii73]

i am not mad at Tom for falling in love with someone else, I am mad that he cheated and basically blew up their entire friend group!!

[@imcharmed4evr]

But why are u “mad” at Tom or Raquel? Disappointed sure, but they’ll work it out, we aren’t their friends and it’s a reality show.

[@SamanthaReader]

He's a coward

[@bedriddenbeauty301]

​@@imcharmed4evrSandoval and Rachel trigger us all. Tom does the same thing in all his relationships, which is tell the new girl how she is so special and so different than his current gf...gaslighting the current gf about how their relationship is so bad, after he's been unfaithful multiple times and has moved on with someone new already. Arianna thought she was special, and different. Then Rachel thought she was special and different, because that's what he told her. But the difference is Rachel didn't think people were going to find out till they planned, and she wanted Arianna's popularity, fame, and her life. She sees women as competition. She never thought people would care, and saw no difference in what they were doing, anymore than James and Lala hooking up. 9 years of basically a marriage, may as well be 2 weeks.

[@robinsmith3987]

he cheated and Shagged Rachel in the home he shared with Ariana and while she was away at a funeral.

[@thehapagirl92]

He didn’t fall in love with Rachel

[@TheMusicmaker25]

I’ve been married 37 years and I can tell you that most relationships don’t stay hot and on fire like it does in the beginning. It will always ebb and flow. He turned 40, realized he was getting older and wanted some younger woman to make him feel like a man. A mature man will understand that his life is changing and so is his partners and will work towards finding a common ground. It doesn’t happen over night but you fight for what you value. I wish I could make these younger women understand that when a man who is in a relationship shows interest in another woman, it ain’t about her being special. It’s about him needing an ego boost. Never ever become too close with a friend of the opposite sex because you could start having feelings and you will start comparing. It’s human nature to be flirtatious and to see just how far you can take it. The saddest dumbest thing I’ve ever heard was when Rachel said we’ve been honest about everything but the affair. Relationships are a work in progress throughout the entirety of it.

[@beekaylong]

Amen!

[@operationpaperclip3952]

1. You DONT know for a fact that he was worried about age so he panicked and cheated. 2. What I believe is that he was tired of a cold fish, and wanted marriage + kids. Also, she suffers from.darkness + Suicidal tendencies. 3. She doesn't think having lala eat her wuwu, is cheating. 4. Ariana regularly ball busts Tom. BUT YOU NEVER NOTICED THESE THINGS BC THEY ARE INCONVENIENT TRUTHS.

[@bedriddenbeauty301]

Thank you, exactly. Problem is middle-aged married men are doing all the talking to young beautiful women. Us women aren't. But a lot of grow up into those married middle-aged wives who practically expect our huhusbands to leave us if we stop touching their dick for a few weeks. It's insanity.

[@thehapagirl92]

@@beekaylong Meh she’s not that much younger. She’s two years younger than me. She’s 29. That isn’t young. I’m 31, not young

[@islabee94]

Ariana wasn't working on the relationship either to be completely fair.

[@aleks-vf3wj]

It's funny that he claims he had such a difficult time breaking up with Ariana because she was "in denial" and "threatened to self sabotage". Yet when she figured out about his affair with Raquel, she broke it off IMMEDIATELY. Which just proves that had she known the truth from the start, it would have resulted in the end of the relationship. So gross that he forced her to go to couples therapy and only talked in "hypothetical" terms when he was actively being unfaithful ..

[@kps111]

She didn’t have all the information when he was trying to break up with one of the most sane matter of fact ppl on VPR

[@filipefam6634]

This!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@Naejakire3]

According to him, he did break up with her and she wouldn't stop. He said they were done by the time she found out. She didn't break it off immediately, it was already done but she stopped trying to win him back the moment she found out he had been with raquel.

[@bodybeats5492]

Maybe couple therapy was her idea

[@Mattslittlesister55]

She is just one of them good women who trusted her spouse. And was trying to keep her mental together and didn't realize he was "distant" I don't understand how even if they were living "separate lives " he was living with her being disrespectful. Your supposed to break up first and then you can talk to someone like this isn't hard

[@woozyweasle]

"I don't need this house" ... proceeds to refuse to leave said shared house

[@katyhk5422]

I noticed that too lol he’s such a tool

[@silviaponce5237]

Exactly! Then GTFO!

[@onomonopoeia]

💯

[@certainzee]

Exactly! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@dextermoore278]

Tom said he couldn't AFFORD to buy a new place. They have to sell their house, first.

[@PaulDoe79]

What gets me is Ariana saw Tom was willing to cheat on Kristen with her and then admits she knew he slept with Miami girl but went out of her way to lie in order to protect Tom (or her ego as Kristen was right) so she saw red flags early on.

[@name8220]

Exactly. She def wanted to show that she was it for him. The cast has mentioned before how they were totally different behind cameras. I def believe Tom when he mentioned her saying that she wasn’t letting him breakup with her

[@PaulDoe79]

@Name she admitted it when he was talking to her 1on1 and reminded her that he tried to break up with her and she threatened to kill herself. Instead of denying it or calling him a liar she said "then you should have left". For years she talked about being suicidal on the show so she was emotionally blackmailing him. Tom is no Saint. I'm not even a fan of his but it makes me sick to see people pretending Ariana is some God incapable of being flawed like the rest of us. I remember the backlash when she insulted half the country by bashing Republicans and virtue signaling about "don't slut shame" only to slut shame Miami Girl, Kristen and Rachel.

[@name8220]

@@PaulDoe79 emotionally blackmailing! Perfectly said!

[@bedriddenbeauty301]

Because she got the Sandoval treatment- "you're nothing like my gf, you are so special, I've never felt like this with anyone..." So Rachel thought the same thing, with the bonus of seeing the life her friend had, that was going to be hers.

[@blazyblah1]

It blew up because Ariana was ride or die for both of them. She stood up for both and had their back no matter what anyone said. That is the ultimate betrayal regardless of what problems you were facing as a couple. Tom said they both had each others back but where in this situation does Tom have her back? It couldn’t be further from the truth. He not only betrayed her but he did it with her supposed best friend who she defended to everyone who hated Raquel. That’s why it’s blown up. It doesn’t matter how far you guys have grown apart in your relationship. You have self control, act like an adult with respect for not only yourself but the nine years spent that you shared a life together, and walk away with dignity. You don’t burn the bridge in the ultimate way by cheating on her and humiliating her in front of the whole world! How is that having her back? Tom doesn’t even have his own back because he humiliated himself. Raquel is irrelevant really. She holds nothing of value in this situation because she showed her cards and she’s disgusting. A snake in the grass and the tables will turn on her at some point in her life. The jokes on both Raquel and Tom because from this point further, good luck ever finding someone who will trust you. That alone will prevent you from having a healthy relationship in your future ever again. Hope it all was worth it!

[@jamiek143]

They asked him probably 5 separate times if he had a conversation with Ariana explaining that he was unhappy and wanting to end the relationship and he dodged it every single time. What a joke

[@babydeetx3]

i saw this comment before i watched. and you’re so fucking right!!! he never answers and they asked so many times.

[@kellycain7936]

He said they discussed it in therapy and what would happen if they broke up. He said she said she would quit the show. He also broke up with her and she blew up and said she was going to kill herself. She then acted like it never happened and asked if he was ready to check his sperm so they could fertilize her eggs. He did respond. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@nancysblessednest]

He said they had to consider “their brand”!!!!!!!!! OMG

[@nicollemcfarlane2286]

@@kellycain7936 The guy lied for over 7 months while he played house with her and cheated with a close friend. Maybe he is STILL lying???

[@kellycain7936]

The OP said “ They asked him probably 5 separate times if he had a conversation with Ariana explaining that he was unhappy and wanting to end the relationship and he dodged it every single time”. I pointed out that he did, in fact, respond to the question.

[@sararay03]

The irony of Howie talking about how stupid the TMZ interview was, as HE himself is conducting the worst, most ill-informed interview!!

[@MillyK04]

Amen 😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@porcelainproductions]

THIS. Thank you, took the words right out of my mouth. What a useless interview

[@nicoletonga5260]

👏🏽

[@marinadibona1038]

Ill informed, perfect description

[@ronallincey374]

I agree 1000% on top of the fact that he’s clueless he won’t even shut up and let Tom or his daughter finish a sentence. You’re the least informed person in the room and you’re doing the most talking. Unreal!

[@trish1324]

For 7/8 months Tom and Rachael were lying to Ariana's face constantly as they were hooking up There is no excuse for this whatsoever!

[@bethanyfregans6138]

He tried to break up means he tried to get her to break up with him so he could be the victim

[@IamLeaJane]

You guys had such an amazing opportunity to interview maybe the most sought after person at the moment and this felt CHAOTIC. Howie has no clue what’s going on lol.

[@carolinecampbell2370]

This is the short of it: Tom turned 40. He panicked because he’s getting older, real life is setting in, he’s not as attractive as he once was, he’s not as fun as he once was, the same things that used to make him happy and/or excited don’t anymore. He’s looking for an escape from his reality. In comes Rachel. The young, fun, new, exciting single girl that is giving Tom all the attention he so desperately needs. Classic narcissist. She feeds his ego and thinks he’s the best thing since sliced bread. This makes Tom’s brain feel really good, releasing dopamine, etc which is making him believe he’s in love with Rachel. This is called limerence. Tom’s brain is acting that of a child. One day he will wake up when the pattern with Rachel repeats. If he doesn’t get a grip on his mental health and the reason he is acting like this, he will continue to repeat the pattern. Thinking he’s found his true love of his life, reality sets in, his wandering eye is awaken, he cheats, and moves on to the next girl. Wake up, Tom! He honestly might have borderline personality disorder, but definitely Peter Pan Syndrome!

[@lojoinpoho]

Tale as old as time…

[@alisha_madariaga]

I agree with all points but one. Let’s be clear. He was NEVER attractive. Lol. Literally never . 😂

[@disneydreamer98]

CLASSIC NARCISSIST!!! 🎯

[@rvegas81]

Agreed! We all do that lol

[@colleensmart8340]

this is the best, most honest detail of who he is

[@kaylajett8054]

sucks to have a dad that supports a man like this. he sees himself in tom that’s why.

[@holleysmith1342]

Tom’s eyes give away the magnitude of lies he/they have concocted. His body language tells you all you need to know.

[@baileysaunders5667]

Good lordddddd the narcissism is REAL. The entire way he spoke about the scandal was ALL self-centred and took ZERO accountability for his behaviour. He justifies his behaviour by l deflecting and shifting blame to everyone but himself. The constant blaming of Ariana is disgusting. He betrayed his gf of 9 years with one of his gf’s best friends. Then they both lied and hid it behind her back for months… it doesn’t get worse than that. No wonder why Ariana lost interest in him, he lacks depth and awareness. He doesn’t have the capacity to consider others everything is only seen through his perception of what’s beneficial for him

[@leecarson3426]

Ariana is a cold fish who was not sexually attracted to TOM, HER BOYFRIEND. Tom should have dumped her a long time ago.

[@wearesofucked]

God shut up. Watch something else.

[@deltawhiskey1998]

Howie is completely missing the context of the fact that Raquel is one of Ariana’s closest friends- and the fact that Ariana was literally the only one of the group who embraced Raquel and supported her from the very beginning. And Tom is conveniently neglecting that fact. Gee Tom, it was a hard thing for Ariana to accept because you were lying to her and she was living in a completely different reality than you. If he had told her that he was having an affair with one her best friends she would have broken up with him. She DID notice that Tom was distant, he told her that he was working on the bar. She said multiple times how much she missed hanging around with him. Seriously dude, did she not notice you were distant or was she being super supportive and did a 180 because of the therapy.

[@amandashingar7029]

His manipulative narcissist personality shines bright in this interview. I agree 100% with everything you said.

[@melmc9672]

Ariana and Raquels friendship was only due to being on the show,people need to realize that

[@cristinamariacabral-corby9684]

Howie’s daughter is married to the drummer/manager of Tom’s band. This is a clean up job to stop this from affecting the band’s success.

[@amandashingar7029]

@@melmc9672 that doesn't discount real friendship being a result. Some of my best friends in life were forced on me by my jobs.

[@amandashingar7029]

​@@cristinamariacabral-corby9684 interesting how they don't acknowledge that at all.

[@julesfalcone]

If you go back and watch Seasons 1 and 2 you will see the exact same things were going on. Tom was living with Kristen and Kristen slept with his best friend Jax; while Tom was cheating on Kristen with Ariana. Then Kristen started sleeping with Tom's friend James. Then in the third season James admits to only sleeping with Kristen to get on the show. Then Raquel became a fan of the show, sought James out, started sleeping with him to get on the show; broke up with him; while pretending they were engaged; then Raquel started sleeping with Tom. So it's all a circle of everybody using each other sexually to get what they want. It is their group dynamic. It's why Peter doesn't have a bigger part on the show - he's too normal. He dated Stassi and Kristen; they acted a little crazy; he broke up with them. These people are incapable of relationships. They do not know this. That's why it is compelling.

[@Willjrockstar]

an expert at sitting on your ass watching tv lmao.

[@MeganLombardiMakeup]

The fact that Howie is babying Tom so much and has never even seen the show

[@vdlt78]

Howie please please do not ever interview someone, when you are clueless about what is going on. This interview could have been better!

[@amalali504]

I feel like he was feigning ignorance. He’s either that lazy not to prep on a guest or has little respect for his audience that he’s willing to provide such half assed interview because he knows it’ll get views. Either way I’m not impressed.

[@bltpod]

Just because Howie wasn’t on the bandwagon to destroy Tom like many of y’all are doing doesn’t mean he held a poor interview. This is someone who has a personal relationship with Tom rather than us who have a para social relationship with him. Howie did a great job by not allowing the pressure of these bravo fans get to him, he was unbiased, and created room for Grace from human to human. Many people are so quick to discard this man and that’s ridiculous. Look at this contextually and not just off the surface. Ariana and Tom’s relationship sounded insufferable.

[@amalali504]

@@bltpod don’t disagree about para-relationships but turning up to work and effectively saying “I don’t have a clue what’s going on but let’s have a chat about whatever” is poor show for anyone. It’s insulting to his viewers. The relationship sounded insufferable from one side & ironically the scenario with Raquel is exactly the same thing he did with Kristen. Friendship, stolen kisses etc. Tom could’ve been anyone but Mandel needs to not waste his audience’s time if can’t be bothered to do minimum research.

[@bltpod]

@@amalali504 I think Howie came into it with a clear head and wanted to be informed along the way by the very man himself being interviewed. He doesn't need to watch VPR to feel "prepared" for this interview when the person there can literally walk him through the real life situation. I don't think it's insulting at all. I think people are trying to find more ways to discredit Howie and this is the lowest-hanging fruit to do so. It's just silly.

[@amalali504]

@@bltpod You seem to project a lot on Howie & your argument is a strawman’s. He doesn’t need to have watched VPL to not know that Arianna & Raquel were very close which may’ve put context into reason for the “Hoopla”. As an interviewer you prep so you know the situation & can ask informative & thoughtful questions that really add colour to a situation however controversial. As an interviewer you should have the ability to challenge & examine to get to the matter. Howie gets paid handsomely for his Podcast. He can’t short change his loyal viewers & not expect feedback. He needs to do better regardless of who’s interviewing because this was very poor indeed & not because he didn’t give Sandorval a hard time. I didn’t tune in for an annihilation session but for a balanced, truthful exchange. There are plenty of great podcasts out there & only so much time for us to listen & this was a waste of my time so has me pissed. You’re entitled to you opinion.

[@jessy638]

The disrespect he has for his partner of 9 years is truly disgusting. I hope Ariana knows how fabulous she is and he fades into the sad irrelevancy he deserves

[@JennaCalifornia]

THIS.

[@AC20133]

I feel so bad for her. I don’t believe half the stuff he was saying about her today, but, it was so sad to hear therapy was helping her and he basically said sucks.

[@keza04]

she is a hoor

[@travelfoodielove]

Ariana is Grumpy Cat

[@ZAE976]

What did he do to Kristen with Ariana… Hello are are y’all delusional

[@ArcherGinger]

❗️I rewatched this interview after the reunion & secrets revealed. Tom lied through this entire interview! Howie you truly missed the boat on this one!!!!

[@geethikaramesh15]

Sandavol makes Jax look like an angel 😂

[@terrisnider5402]

Oh, my! A bunch of 30 year olds acting like World War III bombs blew-up in New York City! “Much ado about nothing!” Wait til something really bad happens to one of these “players”…like, (example) someone’s fam member gets murdered by a serial killer! That’s bad stuff! But these 30-year-old overindulged, rich kids, are acting like this love triangle has stopped the sun, moon, and stars from shining! Juvenile! “Grow up“ doesn’t cut it! These people need some serious mental counseling to get their heads on straight, to know what is EARTH DESTROYING and what isn’t!

[@bobbi3254]

It's funny watching the other seasons and listen to everything Jax says about Tom was all true.

[@marleymescudi]

@@bobbi3254 Lol, Jax always ends up being right or coming out of a situation looking better than the other person and it's kind of hilarious.

[@bobbi3254]

@@marleymescudi Right!! Tom tried so hard to make everyone believe Jax is a liar but then everything Jax says is true so Tom would try to get close to him again. Just like after he got caught cheating this time and he text Brittany to ask her to come to his concert. The show hasn't been the same without Jax and all his random shit he says lmao.

[@kimiazomorrodi]

Howie should have just said “boys will be boys” and saved us 1:19:03

[@merose110]

💯💯😂

[@callieholeman]

Perfectly said

[@jessicastaton3982]

OMG FOR👏REAL👏🙄

[@codyhaas3544]

Exactly

[@codyhaas3544]

Gross .. the more I hear him and howie … so gross

[@thelittleavocado]

If someone could tape Howie's mouth shut and let his daughter just run the interview that would be amazing. He's giving NOTHING.

[@allisonjackson6142]

Seriously! Who does an interview and doesn’t do the smallest amount of background info?

[@keza04]

shoosh lady

[@cristinamariacabral-corby9684]

Howie’s daughter is married to the drummer/manager of Tom’s band. This is exactly how this interview is supposed to go… to try give him a chance to look good so it wouldn’t mess up Howie’s daughter’s husband’s band’s success. It’s intentionally bad interviewing and compromises the integrity of this podcast and Howie’s image.

[@thelittleavocado]

@@cristinamariacabral-corby9684 WOW! Thank you so much for filling me in! Talk about Nepo baby privilege!!!! Hope Howie lost his audience if this is the lazy faux journalism he wants to have on his podcast.

[@ItsFranny]

He gave a lot of excuses and justifications for it.

[@marks5926]

The lack of intimate connection between Tom and Ariana was evident from the start. They were clearly amazing friends, but Ariana's need to withdraw and protect herself was in stark contrast to Tom's need for extraversion and validation by others. It was painful to watch them continue to pretend they were in a great relationship - as a therapist I read between the lines from the beginning. It is terrible they felt they had to maintain the 'optics' and that they were a 'brand' - reality TV has a lot to answer for.

[@Ashley-dk2nd]

Insane howie didn’t do his homework. He didn’t get the full story. No wonder he didn’t understand why everyone is attacking him 🤯

[@carleymangine4221]

They way Tom tries to remain calm and articulate and then you see his true emotion come out in spurts of temper tantrums and hysterics of believing he truly is the victim before he catches himself and goes back to playing it cool is definitely something they study in psychology classes

[@StephandNia]

why did I read that as "psychopath" classes lol😅

[@zoeeeheheeehee9304]

yes from the beginning he had a attitude like he didn’t know what he was there to talk about it

[@dcastillo2008]

omg 100% -- I need a behavioral analyst youtuber to break it down..

[@gabriellegendron6784]

I've been waiting for weeks to hear something and this guy just bored the shit out of me. To be expected.

[@hellekimery9537]

100 %!

[@Kathi_3454]

The disgusting part is he allowed the mistress to be in his house, letting Ariana feel like they were best friends for months. She was allowed to be part of everything their group of friends did. This whole thing is not just a betrayal to Ariana, it’s a betrayal to all their friends and the people who watch the show. If Tom had been having an affair with someone outside of the friend group, it would be a whole different story. You and Rachel had an affair right in front of Ariana’s face. Stop gaslighting Ariana and take your punishment like a man.

[@walkwithrach22]

Oh who cares? My God, kids on this thread. Do you really care this much? You are so angry over a woman you don't know.

[@mebui9371]

@@walkwithrach22 people that actually have a conscious care. It’s easy to see the people who don’t, obviously like you.

[@leecarson3426]

​@@mindoablues How do you know? You don't even know Tom or Ariana. Grow the fukk up!!!!

[@leecarson3426]

​@@mebui9371 GET A LIFE, LITTLE GIRL 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@leecarson3426]

Tom has already been punished. Just leave him alone.

[@sylmor5931]

The commercial of Ariana for BIC on this is golden 😂

[@hannahcatherine4]

How are you gonna do zero research before a serious ass interview such as this 💀 cmon Howie 😭

[@bouk7898]

THE MOST PAINFUL THING FOR ARIANA IS THE ENDING OF THE RELATIONSHIP? No that’s the best part. The worst part is the betrayal.

[@user-vn9jm2gm7k]

Exactly!

[@marthamccray635]

She knew. She is a very smart woman! She said it herself that she is smarter than everyone!

[@dennafox3244]

this is the first and last howie Mandel podcast I will ever watch

[@kiaracorpetti5689]

His interviews are always horrible… not everyone should have a podcast

[@C.L.190]

I think it also blew up _because_ of the fact that Tom and Ariana hid their issues from everyone, and because Adriana had been going through so much already, AND because it was with her good friend. Plus, we were already all worked up about cheating having JUST watched Lenny and Lisa go through this.

[@julessb]

omg this is brutal to listen to honestly.... i could paragraphs to everything tom is saying, god i can't imagine how ariana felt listening to this if she was even able to get thru it

[@jannap.7936]

I love how no one mentioned that Rachel was very very close friends with Ariana. That’s a big huge part of the problem.

[@okayania]

like how did the daughter not bring it up !?!

[@Canev821]

Was she? These people change allegiance very day

[@gbarrera3114]

I was literally waiting for one of them to bring that up!! Pisses me off

[@rubyruby6358]

I think this is what makes it so much worse.

[@AnnetteGidg-fq5sd]

My opinion I don't think she was ever ever A TRUE FRIEND not at all I think she was jealous of her life and relationship and he fell for it because he wasn't getting anything I'm sorry not sorry .. for her to continue to rub it in Ariana's face by sleeping with gim in there hone still is beyond DISGUSTING 🔥😡 she didn't care who she hurt or playing the villain would get her her ten minutes of attention... " HOW DID THAT GO GIRL ..… this is so childish Ariana is so right just overgrown CHILDREN .. keep shining ARIANA 🌟💎🌟💜♾️☮️💜🥰😘🤗 can't wait to see your first movie ... Your beautiful inside and out girl ... BIG BIG HUGS 🤗😘💜💜💜💜🌺🍀💋💋💋

[@meganc769]

Man..howie just dismisses everything his daughter says and she's the one that actually knows whats going on.

[@blendedmomma3404]

Exactly my thoughts. Very dismissive, and unfortunate that a woman's perspective was not honored or brought to the table.

[@gige0156]

@@TR-IRL She didn’t get a chance tho

[@maryb9834]

Howie interrupted his daughter at every opportunity. Why have her as a co-host if you’re only interested in hearing yourself talk? She was clearly better prepared to run this discussion as a fan of the show; Howie should have taken a back seat.

[@jackiekupper4972]

Agreed! I was so annoyed!!!

[@BaxtersHuman]

@@TR-IRL I mean, she explained the story as Chandler cheating on Monica, with her very best friend Rachel.

[@mary1412]

I remember when they FIRST started dating on the show that Arianna would say they never had sex. She would say “yeah he tries to go down on me and I’m like ewwww no” and one of the other girls was shocked. I haven’t even seen the show in years and I vividly remember that. So if he’s been in that kinda relationship for 9 years I understand how it could lead to cheating. I don’t agree with it. And he should have broken up with her first for sure. But I do understand how that could happen.

[@jamiehorwitz1227]

She explained that this is due to trauma she has experienced.

[@jamiehorwitz1227]

I can’t with this guy. If they weren’t getting along, not spending time together, he lost his mojo or what the fuck ever - then break up with her!! Breaking up with someone doesn’t require 2 people. The other person doesn’t have to grant you permission. You decide and then your actions match it. This is exactly what he did to Kristin. He can’t stand to be alone so he lets relationships drag on until he finds someone else.

[@satchelmaloney123]

Wow, what a thrilling interview! Even with a generous interviewer like Howie, Sandoval still managed to dig himself deeper in his hole full of excuses and delusion. My heart breaks for Ariana who had to hear him say all this about her after everything he put her through. He and Rachel deserve each other!

[@elizabeth1toney]

Right!

[@HaileyLove11]

Exactly this was the easiest interview ever and he still managed to look like a 0 remorse unapologetic douche.

[@alexandrayanes4375]

There needs to be more compassion for people

[@elizabeth1toney]

@@alexandrayanes4375 how do we have compassion for someone with no compassion

[@ccluvslv1501]

😂 the gift that keeps giving, he just can’t stop failing

[@LeahSessions]

ENRAGING that Tom Sandoval sat here and tried to tell us that he finally broke up with Arianna 2 weeks prior to the scandal breaking. And then he has the NERVE to add that she told him that if he really broke up with her he would “effectively be ending her life”. He says this about someone who has been open about struggling with depression! 1. I don’t believe she said this at all. 2. IF she did, and you know she was struggling with depression HOW DARE you share that publicly!! Disgusting and vile. He is just treating her like Kristen 2.0 except instead of “she was crazy that’s why i cheat on her”. It’s “shes depressed. That’s why I cheat on her”.

[@kaitlinsmith458]

Everything he said about "what she said" apparently does not sound like things she would say hey! He knows she is so far above him, so any time to make himself look better he will. Such an ass. Team A

[@danimotherofchickens479]

Why are people acting like she wouldn't say this, she probably did. She's human. She had,entail health issues. He shouldn't have shared it....but people keep saying she wouldn't and she likely did it's a weird thing to lie about

[@low8739]

I get it. People grow apart. They meet other people and go their own ways. The part I will never understand is the bold face lying to everyone’s faces and to the fans. That just speaks so badly of Tom’s and Rachel’s characters/reputations. Stop blaming Ariana for your failures, Tom. It’s YOUR fault. And for lort’s sake, don’t give yourself applause for your performance. Nobody wants to hear that.

[@realdirtbagOG]

LOL I’m cringing this whole interview because Howie was CLEARLY the wrong person to have this conversation. He doesn’t know anything! And he’s defending Sandoval while knowing nothing! Genius idea

[@drs2994]

Pretty disgusting that Tom is discussing her mental health & her laying in bed. As if she hasn't been humiliated enough by him. He sneaky insults her. "I deal with depression by getting up and grabbing life by the balls, she deals with it by laying in bed all day." The best karma..watching the Universe open up to her & seeing her absolutely blow up!

[@pamelameadows9717]

It is horrible he's already done enough to break her heart now he's telling the whole world all of her private secrets he's disgusting

[@kalieoutlaw]

Even Schwartz on WWHL said he couldn’t even “leave the house” so either it was a ploy for sympathy or Sandoval is a complete gaslighting hypocritical liar. I’m going with both.

[@leecarson3426]

SO TOM ISNT ALLOWED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT ARIANA???? THEY ASKED TOM ABOUT ARIANA. THAT'S WHY TOM IS ON THIS PODCAST.

[@dawncampbell1284]

@@leecarson3426 No he is not! He should shut his big mouth and accept that he is scum!

[@bltpod]

I don’t think he said this to shame her instead he was simply pointing the differences in how they deal with their anxiety and depression. It can be taxing to be with someone who is isolating while you’re extroverted.

[@nameless.faceless.]

“Ariana’s way is just staying in bed all day and isolating herself”… wow. this is a partner who wasn’t emotionally there for their other half so the connection wasn’t there and she was on her own in her mental health journey. Men are just sad. The way some of them can’t account for their part of connecting to someone will always astound me.

[@maurafellman314]

A fucking men ! Everything is on the woman

[@bekind2416]

So the answer was No. he didn’t really sit down with arianna to tell her any of it. He started having an affair before actually ending things. He tried to find so many ways to beat around the bush but at the end of the day he was leadi mg arianna along and having an affair

[@waitwhat6056]

Here's the thing: People break up with someone pretty easily &move on quick all the time. Tom was hedging his bets. He wanted to sneak around with Rachel and keep Arianna-- that he had a house and money tied up with. He can say whatever he wants, but the bottom line is that he and Raquel are both sneaky snakes.

[@Msbutterflyzbabe]

Exactly! He should have broken up with Ariana when he realized he wanted to sleep with Raquel. He kept saying he tried, but he should have just done it. He wanted his cake and eat it too. I hate that he started complaining about Ariana when she has been supportive of him in all of his endeavors. He knew she didn’t want marriage and kids all along. If he wanted that, he should have broken it off with her long so. Sandoval is a coward.

[@empresselizabeth4310]

I think he liked the thrill of it. He said he was addicted because he never knew when the next time he’d see her was, my brother was like this with girls. He’d cheat and then once he got caught he’d get with the girl he cheated with and get bored because the thrill of sneaking around is gone and then go cheat on her.

[@princessmadero1]

He definitely wanted his cake and to eat it too. Literally and figuratively I’m sure 😂

[@allisonboston5738]

Ariana….if you watch this….I hope it helps you realize how lucky you are that he’s not your problem anymore.

[@ArcherGinger]

He was singing with his band with Ariana & Raquel (his two women) cheering him on at the stage! He is Very sick!!!📣

[@habituallinestepper8839]

This break up is the best thing to happen to Ariana. Wish her much continued success.

[@katyhk5422]

translation of this whole thing: “my narcissistic supply ran out with Ariana and I was having a midlife crisis, but I liked the image of our brand for myself so I kept her around for my benefit. at the same time I found a new narcissistic supply in Raquel because she’s young and fun to *uck and thinks I’m the best, so I kept both narcissistic supplies around for my benefit” my god he’s an insufferable and selfish human.

[@saradebiase9949]

Exactly 👏🏼 he’s a narcissist

[@jocelynadams524]

THIS!!!! You described it perfectly 🤢🤮

[@JennaCalifornia]

You summed it up perfectly. Did he think this interview was going to HELP him!?!?

[@elizabeth1toney]

THIS

[@amandamajor7354]

Ya and the relationship with Rachel will be boring soon too

[@mstuckerify]

i love this. he literally ran to the one podcast host that literally had no idea of the situation so that he could retell the narrative and cast himself the victim while trying to personify a humble and gracious man.

[@moongurl1978]

It was smart. You'd be lying if you think you would run to a bias person to share your side of the story. Stop.

[@TR-IRL]

No they know him. His manager and drummer works for Howie's show so it's all paid or and fake. How's Howie's daughter a bravo fan and doesn't say dad it blew up because his side chick was his girlfriends besties. Howie and his daughter are paid losers

[@mstuckerify]

@@moongurl1978 not even bias person. Howie was totally clueless. It was smart of Tom, mainly because it just showed his true nature. Had he put on his big boy pants, took responsibility for his actions, and swallowed his pride just a hair I think the media would of backed off. He lit his own forest fire with this one.

[@IndigoCosmic]

My whole thing with Tom is, if you're not happy in your relationship then BREAK UP with that person. No one can force you to stay with them. If you don't want to put the effort in couples therapy or trying something different then get your belongings and move out! He's cheated before so Arianna should have known it would happen again. Raquel was very wrong for her part in this to lie and pretend and sit in his girlfriends face is disgusting but Ariana also should have paid attention to the signs instead of being so controlling in the relationship: not having sex with him, dictating that they won't have children or have a wedding, constantly emasculating him...etc all of that will make a man cheat.

[@katieherman2519]

narcs love to point out every reason someone else did something wrong but never what they did, and never what they did to cause such a reaction.

[@mhairilaw7274]

Howie talking about how his soap box is mental health yet he’s given this guy a platform to blame his partners mental health for him cheating is just… there isn’t a word for how disgusting this is.

[@cindylou3607]

100% agree

[@Hseem]

​@lori martin Shut up

[@mhairilaw7274]

@lori martin I mean in the grand scheme of things it’s not like he’s killed someone, however he does need to take accountability for his actions, which from what I’ve watched (admittedly I’ve not yet watched the full thing yet) he’s not done, he’s continued to blame Ariana. 100% agree he was not happy (and probably neither was she) or else this wouldn’t have happened, however he should have broke up with her before embarking on a months long affair, I don’t buy for one second that he had tried multiple times and she wouldn’t let him, just leave, move out, she can’t stop you. There is no justification for what he did, but he seems determined to place the blame at Ariana’s door. Also yes people need to move on, however this is the first time he’s spoken about it publicly so of course people were going to react.

[@amandaetts8316]

I’m just trying to imagine Howie justifying this if it was his own daughter this was happening to. Would that guy be “super nice and talented” still?? This is bulls***

[@Lilbuttfart666]

Also Sandoval is a terrible singer so what talent is he talking about?!?!

[@annihilator22]

Out of all of the sh*tty things that have transpired in the world, this is what makes you the angriest??? Unbelievable.

[@wearesofucked]

Then don’t watch it?

[@dolcemartinez6124]

When he says they were growing apart….. still does not excuse cheating, so fucking blatantly disrespectful. What’s worse is it was right under Ariana’s nose the whole time! These people hung out with her for months and months knowing what they had done. So stop with the victim blaming on your partner Tom! Own your shit. Ariana did not deserve any of it, you know that. I feel for her I truly do.

[@cphcardslinger6871]

“Like … I like … you know … but like dude … he was like and so like I was like ….” what!? 🤯

[@iamthenews5624]

Thank you Howie for teaching me that victim shaming is an important part of mental health advocacy! Thank you! 🙃

[@annsofieljunggren3768]

Yeah. This is totally fucked off! They should all be ashamed 💔

[@Misty-ve5ex]

Exactly. Howie is so gross

[@dest1722]

That fact that he even brought up mental health and then calling to be an advocate but let Tom blast Ariana’s mental health is horrendously hypocritical

[@betsybabf748]

Howie managed to lose respect almost as much as Tom did with his BS this episode. That's a difficult accomplishment.

[@iamthenews5624]

@@Misty-ve5ex And his daughter enabled it:) 😉

[@alyssamariie88]

Howie respectfully isn’t asking good questions. We need someone who actually knows what’s going on and didn’t get briefed on the topic.

[@emt4084]

100% the completely wrong person to be interviewing him for the first time

[@mimsbex366]

Howie does not know all the background though

[@jennhansonxlove]

We need Heather McDonald!

[@Elimon71]

Can you say softball

[@katyhk5422]

Hopefully we get that with Andy at the reunion! I feel like Tom agreed to go on this podcast because he felt safe and he wouldn’t get hard questions. And he still ended up looking like a total narcissistic douche.

[@erindelaney5690]

Knowing he “kissed” Rachel in Mexico and then gaslit everyone who questioned him at Rachel’s bday camping trip about them sneaking around together makes me feel a certain type of way about it. If u had been up front and honest from the jump maybe there would have been a different reaction.

[@Honeybee578]

I’m Jewish & agree Schwartz is a Jewish name

[@alisona7069]

He legit convinces himself he’s a good guy for all of this 🤣🤣🤣

[@linhillier9500]

Such a w⚓️

[@nancysblessednest]

So many missed opportunities to ask relevant questions, and Howie cutting off his daughter at every opportunity and not finding anything wrong with how Tom handled this is just disgusting.

[@bltpod]

His daughter wasn’t trying to even hear the context and give that some understanding yet she was loyal to trying to tear Tom down and that’s unfair. Howie sounded like a sensible person who had a sound conversation that was not blindly impacted by reports unlike his daughter who sounded like a crazed fan.

[@jackiegonzales4761]

Because he doesn’t want Tom to look like an asswipe that he is!! Horrible interview

[@jackiegonzales4761]

TOM is SKUM and karma Got his number!! ☎️📞

[@Yuppie749]

His daughter didn’t even get a chance to finish her thoughts on the matter and get feedback to change her mind.

[@mamabear8591]

​@@jackiegonzales4761 💯😂

[@weenfain2321]

Go back and watch season 2 reunion and he said the EXACT same thing about Kristen she was crazy they couldn’t talk blah blah. Just room mates. Said the same thing about a couple woman he cheated with in between. They’re crazy. Now at 40 still will not take any accountability it’s Arianna’s fault. Couldn’t talk just roommates crazy (her severe body dysmorphia depression trust issues etc. He IS a dangerous person with a pattern. He’s a self centered narcissistic sociopath

[@elibertine2739]

It is infuriating that Howie keeps praising Tom for being "open" about his issues. If Howie knew anything about the show he might understand that Tom is only being "open" in an attempt to manipulate the audience, apportion blame to Ari and push his narrative. His oh so familiar narrative, which he already used when he broke up with Kristen. In both situations he said that the relationship was no longer intimate and that they had become like roommates,living separate lives. Howie says he doesn't need to be familiar with the show to interview Tom and that just shows how utterly, frustratingly, ignorant he is of the whole situation. Tom couldn't have chosen a better interviewer! He totally fell for Tom's story. He also aides Tom by completely minimising the seriousness of Tom and Ariana's relationship . Who cares that they weren't legally married? They were in a de-facto relationship and owned a house together.If Howie knew the background, he might have pointed out that maybe the reason Ari seemed oblivious to Tom's affair, or the fact he was pulling away, was because she was grieving the loss of both Charlotte and her grandmother.As Howie was clueless he was unable to challenge Tom at all. Instead, Tom's version of events went completely unchallenged !

[@susiecharbonneau6420]

How big of him to say he accepted the lack of sex. Holy shit he's blaming her for the entire affair.

[@JG-sm2uw]

I knew that’s the angle he was gonna go with

[@susiecharbonneau6420]

@@JG-sm2uw Yup you nailed it. He said he was going thru some kind of dark time because of his relationship with Ariana yet he was keeping pretty busy forming a band, opening a bar and borrowing hundreds of thousands of dollars from his Mom and mortgaging the home he purchased with the girlfriend he's supposedly wanting to breakup with. He lied to Ariana and told her the loan against the home would only affect him when payback time came and he outright lied because it doesn't work that way.

[@thatcoolkidchris9965]

@@susiecharbonneau6420 and Lisa tried to tell her but then…

[@susiecharbonneau6420]

@@thatcoolkidchris9965 But she trusted him, big mistake.

[@StaceyHarperSoledesign2]

She was in a 9 year relationship and at that point you have ups and downs - I wish she saw the warning signs that he is going through a mid- life crisis

[@samanthaharmon7572]

Why are we disregarding the fact that Raquel was great friends with Ariana?! Completely being underplayed. So bizarre to take this stance without wanting to know the whole story, Howie.

[@nettiea9384]

Double betrayal and humiliation. Unforgiveable

[@disneydreamer98]

Howie had ZERO knowledge of Vanderpump Rules and the background to this situation and never should have given Tom a platform to gaslight Ariana!

[@tripcalifornia]

you are so right. how did they go through the entire interview without the daughter, who is very familiar with the full story, discussing the best friend betrayal aspect?? Howie kept saying he didn’t understand what the big deal is about, his daughter KNOWS but never mentions it. My guess is that Tom must have made avoiding that aspect a condition of his appearance on the podcast. Agreeing to do the show as long as that part is not brought up. it’s the only logical explanation

[@pamelameadows9717]

Imagine finding out your man is cheating by seeing a video on his phone of another woman playing with her vagina how disgusting

[@k.wagenbach3069]

Great friends or for the show. This is a show people!!!!

[@paulagarc60]

How this guy didn’t bother to binge watch season 10 for the interview is beyond. I had to sacrifice two days worth of my life to get myself up to date for scandoval.

[@nomadichomebody4230]

so lazy

[@ingridm85]

Unpopular opinion but I agree w Howie that Tom is getting way too much hate. I get why ppl are upset and shocked but idkw. For many seasons I saw this coming. They weren't happy anymore this break up was inevidentable. I also don't like how much Ariana is being victimized. She played a part in this r/l not working out. I mean Ariana was the other woman too!! Karma comes back around. I've been in the exact situation.

[@Lexipalooza_]

I feel so so bad for Ariana… I can’t imagine seeing this and being blamed for what he did. How disgusting.

[@avsolsunna372]

Dont feel bad. Shes fine and will be fine

[@allieb4132]

She’s not being blamed, Jesus. He’s explaining his experience and she’s part of it.

[@Lexipalooza_]

@@allieb4132are you deaf? I mean did you listen to anything he said. He was blaming her. Lol.

[@lb8592]

He was 100% blaming her.

[@kimberleighe_anne]

How do u know that he's lying about what he's said. Seriously. Noone but them know the truth

[@SNL14]

I cannot believe how many times Howie cut Tom off to do bizarre summations. He literally would cut him off when he was revealing all the information people have been dying to get. Why 😭🤦🏻‍♀️

[@WackiiJackii]

Probs so bravo doesn't sue! reunion isn't out yet

[@sydneywinter279]

Right!!!!!! Totally agree. So bad!

[@Sin-D_]

Everyone wants to interview Sandoval right now, so WHY does Howie land the interview when he is clueless?

[@txmochared7]

he felt left out and had to get his airtime in. haha

[@cheezedaddy2712]

STFU, Howie. We don’t need your boomer recaps. My tea is getting cold, here.

[@patrinajasso5689]

What woman says my life will end if u brake up with me?. That is so low.....he broke up with her. What part of this do people not get? He didn't want to be with her. She wasn't honest with her friends. I wish at the reunion Tom u would of said u were broken up with her. It's a big deal because Arianna didn't tell her friends they were broken up. She didn't tell her friends they weren't having sex. She didn't want to deal with it. She always would play with everyone's relationship be there but like tom said didn't want the world to no here's was going to end. Arianna knew. That's why she let him do him because she didn't want to brake up. Now she wants to cry about it. The whole world feels sorry for her. I don't because if Tom would of told her or left her who knows she might of really hurt herself maybe killed herself. Tom or no one should have to be in a relationship when people won't let the other person go.

[@julielockhart1904]

This entire interview you can see Tom LITERALLY making shit up as he goes. And you can also see Howie’s ineptitude as an interviewer.

[@armywife4lyfe292]

So basically Tom has a mid life crisis at the age of 40 and realizes he needs to “change something”. He gets a band, business, and gets rid of Arianna. He blames everything but his own actions. He’s such a joke!

[@kelseymartin28]

I don’t know man I love the show and it seems like Ariana hasn’t been happy for years. It’s very hard to deal with a Partner whos constantly depressed and doesn’t want to work on their mental health. lying and cheating is the last fucking answer tho… their both better off smh

[@solomonhafer]

He's the worst.

[@Robin-cc2tq]

Yes

[@cynthia-jo1zz]

He's on a downhill spiral

[@CS-mf5un]

Agreed except that I don't think it was only a midlife crisis, I think he clearly made sacrifices like marriage and children and sex and intimacy and connection that he didn't want to make and perpetuated dishonesty with himself and Ariana.

[@girliegirl2372]

If I were Howie Mandel's wife, I'd be nervous about how easily he identified with justifying an affair

[@reign4191]

People have to stop acting like Tom and Ariana were married…they weren’t even engaged and barely dating. They were roommates and ACTORS on a reality show.

[@jagged6373]

You think howie is faithful? Did you see those models on deal of no deal?

[@AmyCubbison]

my friend was a flight attendant and hooked up with him when he was married

[@robertaprince180]

I think he couldn't sleep with anyone else due to his germaphobia!!!!😂

[@carlycoppi4769]

Great point!! Yeah if my husband was like I totally respect you and all the things I'd be mad as hell lol!

[@frankir5587]

he said ariana is more upset the relationsthip ended than was cheated on my lorddddd i wish i had his ego

[@mrsmcplantpower]

I really hope things get better for all three of you.

[@r.g.9610]

How can you interview someone embroiled in a scandal and not do your homework?

[@KG-mv1rn]

Right so embarrassing lol

[@alyssamariie88]

Exactly….

[@shalavlog]

Exactly!!!!!

[@Tori-ve6ph]

And this is probably going to be one of his most viewed podcast. Lazy

[@keza04]

scandal? lol

[@user-qg5sn3qv2v]

Tom could literally say that he killed someone and Howie would say, "Well, you're human, we all make mistakes, and you're single" WTF

[@contese6262]

hahaha

[@badpuddytatt]

Comparing murder to cheating on your girlfriend. You fucken tards get dumber by the day.

[@thaimijohnson1819]

How we should go back to being a judge and what he knows to do because he has no idea? What's going on and he doesn't have the motions that the fans have so brother go back. Back up for the back up. Bravo is bravo.

[@countrygirl4422]

​​@@thaimijohnson1819 motions? Your entire reply makes no sense WTH?

[@countrygirl4422]

Brian I love Arianna she's amazing and no she didn't deserve what happened. Not everyone feels like you do about Tom. Everyone does make mistakes all of us and if you can say your perfect than I'd say your a liar.

[@demijour1234]

I used to work once upon a time in Promenade Mall at Eaton's in the Children's Wear Department in Thornhill, Ontario. One day the Manager from the Women's department asked if anyone could take an extra shift in her Department. I took it and was ringing in a purchase from a wonderful older lady and while doing so, two of her friends passed by and started chatting with her. I waited until their conversation finished to finish off her transaction. Their conversation was about her son and how they sometimes liked his humour and did not always get it. I looked at her card because part of the customer service process is to look at the name on the card and say their last name. We even used to get mystery shoppers and got marks off when we did not call the customer by their last name. Anyways Howie, it was your mother. I then realized her friends were talking about you and after they left, I asked, if Howie Mandel was her son and she said, yes. I remember asking your mom who Howie gets his humour from, you or your husband? She said, neither really, lol. Not sure if you will read this. I thought it would be an interesting story to share with you.

[@jmmeadows10]

Wow. I was a Howie fan before this. The bro code is real....He has no idea what's going on and totally trying to gaslight us along w/ the Tom's & Raquel... And wtf, he blames her for not checking up on him and questioning him? It's called trust. If you wanted toxic, you should've stayed with Kristen!!

[@maddedagen5016]

the guy who lied to his girlfriend about his whereabouts (bc he was cheating) when she called distraught by her GRANDMOTHER dying? he’s commendable?? he’s all good??? wow. literally disgusting