Keeping My Mom Out Of My Life

[@Mgenao76]

For the people in the back of the room…”LOVE DOES NOT MEAN ACCESS…FORGIVENESS DOES NOT MEAN TRUST!!” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@Passion84GodAlways]

🏆💐👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@sistapam536]

FACTS!

[@thrivearia3470]

You have our collective blessing to coin this and put this in on as many shirts, cups - in as many books and magazines as possible. Most of us have not been taught this, have no clue that we can do it, and definitely don't know how to do it.

[@AngelaAngelicaWarren]

AND FORGIVENESS DOES NOT ALWAYS MEAN RESTORATION OF RELATIONSHIP, EITHER. Forgiveness can mean different things to different people. The church, particularly, the black church has crammed “forgiveness “ down peoples throats. It can be a form of emotional manipulation. If a child is beat and graped, the parents have no obligation to “forgive”. They can go into therapy to try and deal with the tragedy and move toward in life as best they can. That doesn’t have a ***** thing to do with the offender. The black church has done a number of the minds of black women.

[@AlwaysLime]

Broken family systems are HARD. Because when you are the one who stands up and says “no more”, you are seen as a threat by the family system. 😖

[@yamilee1354]

THAT PART

[@chosen1316]

Exactly

[@sarah1484]

Yep

[@tamikabrown8539]

That part!

[@prosperpetuity7987]

💯💯💯

[@itbemaggieg5665]

I believe Yvette’s point is that going back to confront someone that won’t receive the confrontation will only harm the growth and progress that she’s made away from her mother.

[@burnettaallen2492]

I also have a toxic mother. When she over stepped and I told her that she was out of order to enforce my boundary. She doubled, tripled, and quadrupled down. She ruined my career, she has destroyed every relationship that I have attempted to have, she attacks my financial security. She has accused me of psychological difficulties in order to control my existence. She is playing the mother of a "sick" child lie...Munchausen Syndrome by proxy. The confrontation is only going to provide more ammunition for her to use against her daughter in order to gain more sympathy and support for herself against her daughter. Everything her daughter says will be used against her. No one will ever see her point of view because it isn't their experience with her mother. To everyone else she's the amazing religious woman with the best potato salad doing the best she can like everyone else and couldn't possibly be doing anything that wrong. If so then her children must deserve it. Just walk away no contact if it's the only way to protect herself and her new family. If some family members come forward and are willing to respect her and her boundaries receive them on case by case basis. If they violate her trust by over sharing with her mother then cut contact with them as well.

[@itbemaggieg5665]

I completely agree

[@GHO5tMod3]

@@burnettaallen2492same here that is scary and when you try to talk to other family members and get help they don’t believe you

[@rastar3524]

This is exactly it! I have to stay separate from my mom and she’s right up the block from me.. I love you, but I understand now that I don’t have to be treated in that way by anyone…

[@mrs.trell_alamos]

agreed.

[@user-ln6pu7kq9j]

The kids interrupting is actually the sweetest thing 😂- I love how you guys respond to them- it's a great example for others

[@aliveandconnected]

It truly is.

[@carolsimon7784]

Exactly! The kids interrupting is part of the whole appeal. And yes, we know they are going to interrupt again, lol. I found it quite entertaining.

[@thegemscorner2821]

in NO CONTACT with my 'mom' for 4 years now.. such peace and release in my life ever since. i feel no need to confront or explain myself to anyone. wasted energy! i have been creating my CHOSEN family. its truly empowering.

[@anomalysa3]

This!

[@trisha2licious]

Family by choice is vibey for lifey 😹💗

[@Jot2023]

Heal.

[@heartdna]

🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@fassmith5276]

Your mother gave you life. You should try to work it out - you have 1 mother.

[@jayfree2223]

I’m team DONT confront crazy. I think it’s best to keep your distance and peace. Any time I’ve tried to confront someone illogical it does not end well………

[@prosperpetuity7987]

💯💯💯

[@mrs.trell_alamos]

right.

[@DulcesSweets]

Exactly! And your safety is important. You never know what people are capable of.

[@only1giselle]

Yeahhhhh this is the first time I did not agree with him because it was obvious he does not have people like this in his life or know best practices for dealing with them….all the professionals says LEAVE and don’t look back! Protecting peace is wayyyyyy more valuable than trying to raise adults up out of their own misery and in my experience likely undiagnosed mental illnesses. I hate that it is best to leave but the freedom that comes with walking away and staying focused on your own healing is priceless. Good luck to anyone in these types of family dynamics 🙏🏾❤️‍🩹 spoiler alert the leaving may not even be the hardest part, grieving people who are still alive has proven to be tricky too….just a heads up for what may be up the road

[@Jo-Ann_]

@@only1giselleI wish I could thumbs up this comment more than once

[@rachelcabarris2915]

my husband and i purchased our first home back in 2021 with three kids. it was in a HOA and just so busy. We felt God calling us to a different life style so we sold our home, packed our home up in storage and moved on faith. we ended up purchasing 10 acres lived in a RV for a year, while our home was being build and we JUST moved into our brand new two story beautiful farmhouse!!! We moved away from EVERYONE….. we had no one and no help but God has been teaching us in this season of life to be intentional with every aspect….. groceries, church, garbage, checking mail, park time! I wouldn’t trade this life for ANYTHING!!! it’s the hardest to adjust to but soooo worth it. get y’all some sheep, goats and chickens!

[@justjahki2149]

Ugh.... Thank you for sharing... I have 10acres and my livestock licences but been so anxious to start ❤

[@naturalise2039]

Thank you for sharing your story! Inspiring as well!

[@jeannetaylor5102]

I feel like Yvette’s guess of Michelle & Barack is reflective of her confidence in Beleaf

[@trisha2licious]

Same I was like she trust her bae to suprise her well.. it’s healthy expectation doesn’t mean it has to happen until it does 😹 ❤💗

[@only1giselle]

That’s exactly how I feel about baby girl’s list of activities! It’s not that they aren’t enough like he said, no no no quite the opposite actually lol…I think she just knows she can have wonderful moments and experiences with her family and is comfortable enough to present her dreams to the dream makers lol 🥰 how beautiful ❤

[@Dvinecreations7]

Absolutely!

[@Dvinecreations7]

@@only1giselleThis perspective makes me so happy because I believe this wholeheartedly and I love this for the chocolate baby/kids and wish it for more children experience that kind of love🤗

[@CD-ll9up]

I absolutely AGREE!

[@Curly.Leigh23]

Her mom needs to be held accountable. Also I highly recommend the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents!

[@CouplesUnfiltered]

@@Curly.Leigh23 I concur about that book! Good one for a lot of us!

[@UKLeonie]

Excellent book life changing 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@tamikabrown8539]

It's an excellent book. I highly recommend it

[@pamelagrady5288]

That hit home when you said I'd rather have my family broken than not at all. That used to be acceptable to me, but when you start the process of healing and becoming whole, that is no longer acceptable.

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

bingo. well said.

[@anonymousone9699]

I was never the person to say that, and I have been moving alone for the last 7 years with minimal family contact. It happened organically, I just deeply rejected the path that my family took, and each time I raised concerns, I was told that I’m too much. I had and still have so much anger about that. But I also have so much peace for choosing to be distant. That said, the longing for my family that raised me and knew me first, the people I loved first, it’s been hitting hard to the point where I’m thinking… rather have it broken than not at all. But my personality won’t let me. My mouth is too big, and I won’t stand for foolishness for too long. So, it’s a dilemma.

[@FamilyAffair2012]

The details are so necessary. This was so sad 😩 but the conversation was needed. Sooooo many families are dealing with this! That generational trauma that our parents have not dealt with is toxic. The children of those parents are doing the work and no longer accepting it. Trying to navigate the two worlds especially when you’re from a big “close knit” (or so we were raised to believe) family is difficult. Healing and deep conversations are necessary to navigate through. Thank you for taking the time to read the entire letter. I agree with Yvette “so proud of you”. 💕I just want to give her & her siblings a big hug🫂🥺.

[@carolynyoung5844]

I love the idea of writing a letter. It gives daughter a release, provides mom with the information, it also keeps out interruptions and them talking over one another.

[@Kevin_McGeex]

I’m a man and I listened to the whole email 🤚🏾😂

[@trisha2licious]

We appreciate you 💗☺️

[@immob3247]

Go'head Sir Kevin...

[@SoundsofSalem]

Go no contact with a narcissist. They have mental issues and will not take correction or accountability. Even when confronted they will not take accountability. Her mother will use triangulation, silent treatment, and discarding. You can love from a distance. Let the disrespect be the closure.

[@amremnant]

That part, my mother is a malignant narcissist and I'm over it. Especially since she has tried to disrespect my new husband for no reason. I'm done.

[@RochelleLoRo]

This is the comment I was looking for!!!

[@asialeslie1995]

That email was a whole memoirs draft. She need to publish that

[@jordanheard6083]

This would be a hit on Lifetime or Netflix

[@Aaaayyyeee]

In all seriousness, she needed to write that. And I personally feel that you all did her story justice and handled it with care! Great job as usual!

[@WordOfLife101]

She needs to forever cut ties and start her own family. No confrontation needed, they will NEVER change and the mother is bad news! Tell your in-laws to watch this video and they‘ll understand!

[@ReddragonB]

Going on 2yrs of no contact with my mom. The best decision I have ever made. I confronted her numerous times and it’s was like talking to a brick wall. After my final attempt I let it go. After becoming a mother and wife myself I couldn’t allow my husband and children to be around that. One of my sisters tried to commit suicide and my other sister gave a speech at school and confessed that she hated her life. Now that I’ve been estranged she has been trying to turn any and everyone against me. Even went as far as getting witchcraft done on me. My sisters and I have been through hell. When I went no contact with my mom I weighed all options and chose me and my peace of mind! My children have no clue who she is and I’m okay with that.

[@fimanu]

Yes, this is the way. Let it go, she will never give you what you wanted from her growing up.

[@rhaevyncherry4322]

I would tell this young lady what my husband told me literally yesterday when I had to deal with a situation head on which was….”PROTECT YOUR PEACE!”

[@veniestagourdine3881]

I 110% agree with your husband . I have toxic relatives that I love dearly but my peace and happiness comes first so I cut them completely out of my life . Do I miss them ? Yes! But my peace and happiness means the world to me.

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

thank you for not shortening the email! i have ADHD + i listened (2x) to every minute + only had to rewind a few times from distraction. every word of that was necessary + important, especially for those of us dealing w| estrangement and|or toxic families. it was worth the 10 min (or i guess 5 in my case) read.

[@suziesmith9076]

I listen to everything on 2x maybe I got adhd too 😭

[@ammcgowan]

Wow!! What an awesome episode. This is breaking generational cycles!!! I'm glad you read it..all of what is written IS NECESSARY. I definitely can relate to a lot of this. Been there, gone through including suicide. I confronted and learned the best way for me was journaling and writing a letter + an actual licensed trauma therapist. If we Don't confront IN TRUTH.. this demonic cycle will continue. We have access to a healer!! We must do the hard work to heal ourselves. NO EXPLANATION REQUIRED!! Love from a DISTANCE. One day at a time, even through the guilt and the shame. Always remember God will ALWAYS make room of escape ♥️. Praying your healing even now!!

[@alexkj101]

Her mother doesn’t appear to have the capacity to understand and hold the level of trauma that she caused. I have gone no contact with a lot of my family members as well as my husband’s family. No access says a lot. For me and my situation I have excepted the idea that it’s not worth it. I am free of guilt and shame, it’s not mine to carry! Some people don’t have the strength to confront without being destroyed in the process. I personally don’t have a problem with confrontation and will gladly step into the line of fire when it comes to the family that my husband and I are and have created.

[@Lifewithkish33]

I stayed for the entire story!! Context was much needed!! lol

[@TheHarrisFour]

I don't think she needs to confront her mom and I also don't think she needs to explain the relationship with her in laws.

[@albertinamack8177]

That’s what I was thinking. If they don’t ask, don’t tell. And don’t go confront your mother. She will try to do something to keep you bound.

[@millieconsultancy]

​@albertinamack8177 sometimes we feel less ad assume we have to do more.

[@aineliene]

First time watching you. A) That entire email was relevant B) this was emotional and extremely important. I'm glad that she shared this.

[@clothevirgo]

So glad y’all didn’t cut anything out of that story!

[@Talk2MeNice]

I agree with Yvette. All the details were very much needed for that story. I wish nothing but healing and prosperity for that poor woman and her husband. I cannot imagine living in such a toxic family.

[@Talk2MeNice]

Also, the brother did pass away from suicide, Glen.

[@CJacksonMark]

You guys should maybe write down the timestamp of things you need edited out so it’s not missed by the editor. The name was definitely not bleeped out 😅lol

[@KISSwithNatty]

I was looking to see if anyone else caught that.. 😂

[@SAN-pu6dw]

🤣🤣🤣 I thought the same thing.

[@gbbs9]

I was looking for this comment too😂

[@porshp8941]

the lady who wrote in should consider a career in writing. I was hooked! Even though it was so so long. Def need the editor to be paying more attention to the parts you want to be edited. Someone may be able to easily identify this person.

[@CJacksonMark]

The email was lonnnngggggg but I don’t mind her being thorough and detailed. I rather her give extra info as opposed to other emails where we have follow up questions due to things not being clear.

[@boluadebekun9370]

That hmay sign in the back is a nice touch 🤌🏾

[@IM-A-Healed-WINNER]

Answers from the writer of the email. Yes the mom is the Jamaican. The youngest brother passed by taking his life. The siblings didn't know how bad the situation had gotten with their younger brother but as the writer called them to say he passed they each revealed what they DID know. That is how she figured out that her mom was the most involved and kept it all as secret as possible.

[@joyce2784]

I love Yvette. I am also so privileged to listen to Glenn give the male perspective. Because with both, we have whole and complete advice.

[@AlwaysLime]

The VOID 😭😭😭😭😭 I feel it every day… knowing I’m not the only one makes my heart hurt for everyone else dealing with the void… but also gives me strength to keep moving toward healing.

[@jasminejohnson575]

This is hands- down the best advice Beleaf and Yvette have offered on this Podcast 🙌

[@ambee2cute]

She absolutely should not confront her mother. There is plenty in her story that shows she is too far gone. I would say reach out to siblings after a while and try to urge them to keep their relationship with her private but other than that….shes doing right by letting it go. Build your own family with friends and through your children. It sucks but life is so much better not having to tiptoe and think about what an overly religious or narcissistic parent is going to say about it. If losing a child didn’t open her up, Mom is not changing for anyone.

[@joyce2784]

Dang. I didn’t think about if the death of a child didn’t change her, then nothing will.

[@raelindashoates975]

YUP, older people are way less likely to change and admit to their mistakes anyhow. The moment you try to confront them they’ll just take it as disrespect and shut the conversation down

[@tawshisms]

that last line!

[@veniestagourdine3881]

You hit the nail on the head . Agree 100%

[@arthurineduhaney2482]

I CAN RELATE! At one point my mother was like that too. She has since toned it down and we have gotten better over the years but every so often her beliefs crept into everything. It felt like she would choose religion over us at times. I feel for this young lady, hoping she finds peace.

[@mossponsol]

What does getting better mean? Did she apologize? Have you discussed those issues at length with her?

[@japemmanut]

One of the things that I find as a young adult extremely hard is to sit with the void that Yvette mentioned. And at the same time it's the trade off or the price you are paying for your freedom, for your peace of mind. And also the space you are making for new and better relationships.

[@Fruit732]

So glad to have you guys back!! ❤

[@kristynalexandria1071]

Based on the part of the message about them having to keep the Sabbath from sun down on Friday to sun down on Saturday, she was likely raised Seventh Day Adventist. They are prominent in Jamaica, so her mother is likely Jamaican.

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

also my guess. esp. when she basically called it a niche religion.

[@UKLeonie]

Adventist yes, not necessarily Jamaican so many other Carribbean islands are believers 🇦🇬🇧🇧🇧🇸🇨🇺🇩🇲🇩🇴🇫🇯🇬🇩🇬🇾🇭🇹🇯🇲🇰🇳🇱🇨🇵🇷🇹🇹🇻🇨

[@trisha2licious]

😂 yup mama is Jamaican dad is Kenyan

[@kristynalexandria1071]

@@UKLeonie I’m aware. I used Jamaica specifically because she said that is where one of her parents are from.

[@albertinamack8177]

That’s what i figured that the mom was Jamaican.

[@BeatbyMe114]

You are a good man. But I have to give props to wifey. The way yall talk to each other to understand, the way yall hold space for each other. Beautiful

[@ammcgowan]

Glenn, I agree with you! BOUNDARIES!!!! Speak truth. Freedom is beautiful.. and grateful to now be on this side. 🙌🏿 ❤

[@traceethompson3772]

This podcast was so PHEN❤MENAL !! I think reading the entire email was NECESSARY to get a clear picture of the TRAUMA this Kenyan woman went through, as a child and a then as an adult. Thank you Yvette, and Glen for continuing to spread KN❤WLEDGE, and L❤VE through both this podcast, and your KZbin platform ❤....

[@ty6015]

Definitely needed all the details for this entry. I feel as though if she left out parts, we wouldn’t have been able to grasp the context as well. This hit home, specifically for the women in my family. The writers words were so concise and heartfelt. I hope her and anyone who deals or who has dealt with toxic/narcissistic parents find some peace in this lifetime. Much love 🖤

[@zzajamu]

Not me just learning that you can sing 😍

[@nobullzone8394]

And as a survivor of childhood trauma and abuse from a person who has gone no contact with her family in my opinion it was best for me to get comfortable with not having closure and I'm learning that as an adult I get to set the definition of what family means to me and my husband is all I need and then I'm blessed with three beautiful goddaughters and their mother as my sister!

[@Mrs_Tamz2]

Thank you for ALL the details, painted the picture well...crazy how can relate with some things but on a journey of healing and restoration..hoping for the same for this lady🙏

[@JustRelaxV]

A little bit of spoiling is nice, but when you catch yourself doing too much, you just rein yourself in. You start a new and do better as a parent, spouse, friend, brother, sister, person we are constantly working on ourselves. Hang in there as life unfolds.❣❣❣❣❣

[@joyvictorious777]

16:55 love this breakdown of the “cost” balancing kid’s needs vs a daily agenda

[@ednaphillips970]

I've just stumbled on your podcast, I've seen a few your stories & a lot of shorts. I'm definitely here for the podcast I'm only 1:08 into it & I'm here to stay. I so love your whole dynamic as a unit, & a family & I don't know your full story but EVERYTIME I see you guys it's just another confirmation that GOD is REAL, & LOVE is REAL. Thank you both for sharing your life, & giving hope in ALL things Good & most of all the Gems of knowledge that you both share. Thank you for being one of the families of color that are showing the world that we do exist despite what the media may show. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.❤

[@jesusgymasmrlover]

My (not asked for) two cents about limiting the need for edits in post: Listening to full emails are great for context, but I would recommend y'all go through the email prior to the podcast. Read through it and edit out names/locations, and be prepped on the tone/flow of the author's words before reading it on the podcast. Absolutely LOVE y'all's podcast💖😊

[@amremnant]

That's what the comment section is for, no need to qualify your statement, but you are right.

[@acemace0]

The background was very much needed. I grevup in the Adventist church. I have known over the years members like this mom. But I must say that kind of behavior is not what the religion stands for. Strict…yes. Non loving…no. I thank her for sharing what is behind the door of those who stand in an air religious superiority. I pray that healing and grave are in her families future.

[@stefaniefulcher2010]

Guess who is back Stateside?!?! But not just back in the U.S. but also back in Cali!!! I'm so excited! Looking forward to getting caught up. I love that you all are on a farm!

[@Theohybrid]

Wow, lil dude's talking now! And he seems so sweet now! I take back what i said. Last time i saw him, he was frustrated and hitting himself and being grabby with things. Im guessing that was a phase you guys loved him out of. Man, I'm not there but i know that despite the tiring nature of it, your parenting will yield dividends in the future: adventurous and ambitious; happy adults. Your kids are so inquisitive and happy. It's a joy to see children ( especially Black children) happy & healthy and safe to be themselves. They're on the right track, i can tell!

[@tiphhunter]

While having your children in the house while working from home may not be ideal, it made me smile to see yours pop in. You redirected them and they listened well, so it’s more of a cute cameo than a jarring disturbance. So relatable and I have no more excuses about making content when our daughter is home. 😊

[@joydaniel4984]

I see us growing and maturing and creating a safe space no matter the judgement of bystanders. ❤🎉 i love this for us. No contact 4 years for me

[@boluadebekun9370]

The dopamine boost i feel when yall drop is actually wild 😅.

[@stephaniejones7015]

I am struggling virtually with our down sizing. I don’t believe in sharing a bathroom., but I am glad you all are happy in this season. I think Glen is enjoying this more than anyone else in the house.

[@blk142]

I didn’t care for the movie. They almost lost me when they took the body out the casket!! LOL

[@Alexisariiel]

😂😂😂

[@CoolcalmCollected-du5tc]

Man, I can’t even listen to the podcast because I keep vibing to the intro!

[@jtd55]

As a former and dedicated Amazon & FedEx driver and having had to deliver to the middle of nowhere…You can have a secured delivery bin located by your mailbox; so that you can alleviate the drive to the post office. Most customers would have an Amazon/FedEx/UPS labels attached to the bin. This work if a signature isn’t required for delivery.

[@Shesamuva713]

Yvette is me 😂 The bar stays high

[@shykemajae]

Meeting Tabitha Brown is CRAZY 😂 But aside from that, this conversation was exceptional and timely. I'm experiencing a very similar dynamic with my own family so I was tuned in from start to finish!

[@TheCraftsWOMBman]

Meeting Tabitha Brown is not a strech and only a phone call away. They have the same friends.

[@SaraSmile70]

I listened to the whole letter. 🙋🏾‍♀️

[@amom2114]

Love your real life interactions with the kids. This is what parenting is everyday. ❤😊

[@gourguesg]

This was some timely for me !! Mr. Henry's response in speaking the truth and speaking against those distorted mindset we grew up was fortifying for me. May you all continue to be blessed and healthy inside out.

[@KFrankMusik]

I just found yall and this is good stuff. Yall drew me in with the intro 🔥 and then when the babies left the room " . . . You know having kids right... " 😂😂😂 just got a sub from me for these reasons alone

[@AlwaysLime]

Poor lady in the letter… what a nightmare she and her siblings lived through 😭. Thank God he heals, delivers and restores.

[@rb5959]

I really appreciate the wisdom and knowledge they both provided. Relationships are hard. They are a voice in the wilderness.

[@Nettamorphosis]

@39:50 She asked why he said that "in this moment" LOLOLOL but that was some much needed comic relief at the end of a sad story! I died!

[@angemarie12]

Unrelated but I saw Yvette and baby girl on the ad photos at DSW and it made me so happy to tell my son who y'all are.

[@Joy_InTheJourney_1Co13]

All info . But I LOVE how you see things differently. Thank you for sharing

[@lachola1647]

I love my parents but I had to cut them off… so I could be at peace and continue my journey of healing. Not everyone understands but it’s not for them to understand.

[@tawshisms]

🫶🏾

[@amakisi]

This is my first time listening to this podcast. Great show! I appreciate the authenticity and balanced perspectives.

[@vivianaBalbuena-Kuras-lt2pm]

These ppl just make me smile.

[@natalienoel2311]

What a very lovely episode! The yawning got me, but so well articulated and emotions shared. Thank you!

[@Nikki-ci5ze]

I truly agree with all of Glen’s advice and Yvette’s saying letter. Truly this is what my church does when going through Bible study to free yourself from the burden of unforgiveness and talking about it with that person letter, call, FaceTime no don’t always have to be an in person conversation bc protecting peace is necessary.

[@Lady_Clare4]

Very good podcast! There is a lot to unpack and apply to many situations. Thank you👍🏾

[@cellis6361]

Yvette, don't snuff out the ability to dream big! If you can believe it, you can have it. Just go to Daddy God and ask him if it's part of his plan. No shade on you Glen. 😊

[@groundedbutterfly8737]

That was so good on so many levels - “ I rather accept them broken then not have them at all” I never put that into words but that is exactly what I’ve been doing. I’m glad yall gave me the verbiage. THEN. You topped it off with why accept it broken when have access to the ULTIMATE HEALER. MY GOD‼️

[@rissaruby1986]

Hahaha all kids are the same “can I call somebody on your phone?” Lol, my kids all the time!

[@MomsMoneyMindset]

You know you love the intro when you smash the 👍🏾 as soon as they start the chocolate baby story time song 🥰

[@steph0110]

Glen👏minute 45 on yes 👏👏👏👏👏👏literally how I feel with my own in-laws but I still need to learn how and also my partner even though he sees it and he keeps distance these issues need to be talked about.

[@LuceroGuapo]

Family is meant to create and support life. It's also meant to be a defense against loneliness and solitude: if your birth family PERPETUALLY fails on these baseline measures of a successful family unit, then it might be a healthy hint and timely idea to find a new one

[@jamiehigh924]

The email was long but every bit of information was relevant. Thank you for reading it all.

[@HealedByJesus20]

My husband and I just went no contact with my MIL. She and I have always had issues but I was able to at least respect her and not try to rile her up. She recently tried to fight me after finding out I wasn’t pregnant. We’ve been together 6 years and honestly it’s best to just… let them go. I love her cuz the Lord says so but she will not be around my children being dysfunctional nor do I deserve that kind of treatment. It can be difficult but do what’s best for your family. Doesn’t mean you have to harbor hate/anger just means you wish them well from a distance.❤️

[@Godizmycoach]

Listen the woman is Jamaican and man is Kenyan

[@suziesmith9076]

Yup and She is Jehovah witness

[@abawitx]

Yup, guaranteed

[@ItsHer_Kemi]

😂😂😂 no Jamaican man is controlled 😂

[@gabbymommie2]

I actually LOVE the Chocolate Baby Interruptions! 😂❤❤❤

[@mb9954]

I needed all of the information that you read.

[@mb9954]

Y’all facial expressions when the kids came in the room say so much and I understand what you are saying without any words….😂

[@TashaFuller3]

Yes. You needed to read it all.

[@trisha2licious]

Wow🥺💗 find community go to new events to meet like minded people continue therapy. you are doing great when guilt comes work out why you feel like you don’t deserve peace and what in your upbringing feels so comfy to want to go back to chaos 💗💗 girl you are not alone,was born in #124 something about those Kenyans and Jamaicans that don’t wanna grow 🥶 you got this keep going cause the new peace in your life is necessary and should be celebrated 🎉

[@BrendaBrown-mt1gc]

Mom is going to be mom whether confronted or not. Move on with your life, enjoy your husband, make sure your children enjoy all the good parts that you enjoyed as a child/adolescent/young adult and be thankful you're not too damaged to do so

[@keonamorrison]

That was cute. My first time watching this channel 🎉

[@LiveyYoe]

1. It's good that you read the full story it gives context 2. This girl was telling my story and I feel for her 3. It's a difficult to process there is no answer out there. No one in the church or family will listen because I believe they only see the church cult and her Christianity as right. There's no way out but to STOP CONTACT. It doesn't heal the pain but it allows you to live.

[@JacquelineHarris]

Thank you for this, it was encouraging

[@ilawilliams8323]

Religion aside Love doesn’t mean association. Forgiveness isn’t always easy. I believe the best course of action is to keep her at a distance. Focus on healing your inner child first because those issues with your mother can be passed down to further generations. If the root of the issue is not addressed and plucked out. I hope for the best. ❤️

[@cdriggus]

LOVE THE THEME SONG!!!💗

[@krishinds9937]

3:00 what I will say and commend your daughter on is if you ask her what she wants to do, she's accurately answering the question. Often times I asks adults what they want and they list things, that perhaps low self worth makes them think they are worthy of. A simple example is you ask someone what kind of pizza they want and they say pepperoni... But really they want pepperoni, sausage, and bacon because they didn't think you would get extra toppings because of the price difference, when in actuality you were willing to do that for them, if that had asked. So let her keep listing these grandiose things if that's what she wants. One day she will ride an elephant or meet Tabitha Brown, but today you might only be able to eat marshmallows with her and that's ok.

[@lashondramckay]

That was my first time watching you guys podcast. I thoroughly enjoyed it! 😊