hozier setting boundaries for 1 minute and 28 seconds

people pleasers, take notes

[@hzuzh]

What's great about my romantic status - I never speak about it *mic drop*

[@Lucina..]

First rule of Date Club…

[@ghafar4628]

Fucking king of keeping his shit together and not getting flustered, even though I know in my heart of hearts that he’s not comfortable.

[@citrus7745]

a trait i aspire to have. seeing these clips gives me an idea of what to say and how to handle these situations so im glad i came across this

[@DayaAce]

Not in my heart of hearts 💀

[@CatCairns]

@@DayaAce yo this WAS a wholesome comment 🤣🤣🤣 get your Ace of Spades headass outta here, making me laugh at the wrong damn time 🤣 (edit was a typo lol)

[@DayaAce]

@@CatCairns I'm sorry 😂😂 this person got deep in their feelings of feelings to a goddamn minute long video plz 😂

[@Cymricus]

i liked the comment but i also thought Finn’s response was funny lol. they can both be good

[@KirstenReck]

i've loved him for a while, but he will forever be the only artist who i like more for themselves rather than just their music. it breaks my heart to watch interviews where people dig for his beliefs for relationship status. you're completely right - he sets boundaries respectfully (as he should) and it really inspires me to do the same when family or strangers ask such personal questions too.

[@gc8972b]

he looks too anxious. not a good sign

[@AC-mp7cx]

why the only artist. hes a very private person

[@KirstenReck]

@@AC-mp7cx i know that and respect it heavily! (: i meant more for what he’s said in interviews and his opinions and thoughts on certain subjects. i just agree with a lot of what he has to say outside of just his music meanings!

[@sybo59]

Let me tell you why you’re completely wrong to venerate his evasiveness: He’s a public figure who has agreed to do interviews, which are fundamentally based on the notion of finding out more about the artist. While relationship status is quite personal (though fair game in an interview), being asked about the beliefs underlying an overtly religious or philosophically-themed track is worth answering, unless you simply don’t have a good answer and are a phony. And if that is simply too hard for our sensitive boy to handle, then he is a moral coward for accepting the interview. The fact is that he’s being invited to ADVERTISE his work, and he’s taking that without offering the interviewers any value in return. This is not a good character trait.

[@Grant-dx3qt]

@@sybo59 No, we are not actually entitled to that information! Interviews can and should be about the body of work he's done, I'm sure he'd talk forever about that. Just making art doesn't mean someone is signing up for a lifetime of interrogation and invasion of private life. The paparazzi shouldn't be taking pictures of the inside of anyone's home and a person can decline any kind of question they want.

[@amyh5482]

something about him makes me feel like a blushy regency-era young lady who deliberately arranges to be "coincidentally" tending the gardens by the road when he drives past... i don't even know how to explain it in normal-people terms

[@alizehdayo2146]

Same girl same

[@kaepiper]

@@sybo59 i don’t think they meant it like that lmfao

[@mayaenglish5424]

@@sybo59 Yes, how dare someone try to describe a feeling in an interesting descriptive way, what a fucking try hard! Yikes, get some art in your life.

[@critterbites5098]

@@sybo59 Hmm. Maybe try not to act like a preteen boy whose pissed he got rejected once and now hates all girls. There's was nothing "quirky" about the comment, it's literally them trying to explain a feeling but not finding the words/modern day situation that would fit said feeling.

[@joshuawebster0861]

@@sybo59 Jesus Christ who pissed in your cheerios this morning?

[@skate_fast_eat_trash9430]

I mean, is it really that hard to believe that celebrities want privacy?? There are some celebrities that don’t want to share their personal life and that’s completely okay, it’s not something they want public and they’re entitled to privacy just like any other human being. It’s just so rude that other people feel like they need to know everything about a celebrity’s life. Is it so hard to believe that Hozier is probably doing something completely normal right now? It’s good that he’s setting boundaries and interviewers need to respect that.

[@brias.4566]

No it’s not crazy to believe. It’s just fucked up how the world has made it so people make money off of invading these celebrities privacy. :/ gossip channels and tv shows, magazines, very uncomfortable interviews, you name it. now random strangers, most of the times it’s the fans, feel so entitled to know everything about and expect an explanation for everything from celebrity and it’s so weird We don’t treat them like people we kinda treat them like zoo animals “Look at me! Dance for me! Smile for me! How cute!!!” I’m sure it’s exhausting And it sucks that it’s the price you have to pay just to be known and “successful” for your work

[@appended1]

The first guy kept pushing which was obnoxious, but everything else seemed like perfectly normal things to ask in an interview. "You made music inspired by gospel music. How does this relate to your own religious beliefs?" Totally in bounds, imo. He mentioned that he affects a particular kind of voice to entertain a friend, she was interested in hearing it. Normal human interaction.

[@meen3628]

Oh to have Hozier send you rap lyrics recited in an old victorian style -

[@shnugglebugs5524]

That first guy genuinely pissed me off. His attitude was so rude oml

[@MellowJelly]

he just had generic old white dude energy. they insist they're not rude but they are

[@zina2435]

tried to twist the poor lad’s words and then overlooked his humor 😔 imagine meeting THE hozier and doing *that*

[@madivedas]

Yes! Saying it must be tough to have any social interaction because he doesn't share his relationship status? Wtf! This felt manipulative

[@Corviidei]

@@beeticket ok but he was peak old white dude energy

[@glupik1234]

@@beeticket lmao

[@valalava1]

It's great that he knows how to do this, more people (me included) need to learn how to do it but don't bash the interviewers, digging for information is literally their job (ofc I understand there are those that get nasty real fast)

[@catsonbrooms]

absolutely true!! i am a student journalist (not at all close to a true one lmao but I've had experiences) and i hate making people uncomfortable during interviews. but sometimesI don't know when a question is going too far, so it's awesome when people can clearly set boundaries so I know how to respect them. i never want to divulge more information than the person we're featuring is comfortable with, since they're already giving me their time. journalists appreciate honesty! ❤️

[@shadowwolf3486]

I would criticise the first interviewer as he seemed perfectly aware that hozier doesn't speak about his romantic life and continues to push in a fake-joke kind of way

[@brandongore711]

@@shadowwolf3486 agreed, I thought that first interviewer was pretty gross. But it's really just a huge pet peeve of mine when people try to put words in my mouth, or are pushy with boundaries I hold firm. I would've walked away from the interview at that point if I was in his shoes, but that's just me.

[@catsonbrooms]

@@shadowwolf3486 for sure!! when he was like "oh so you DID just tell us something, so you DO talk abt your romantic life 😏" it was rude as hell like?? that's on camera dude. don't force people to divulge what they don't want others to know. disrespectful af!!

[@blankblank5231]

And people need to be taught how to respect and be sensitive to boundaries, so there isnt even a need for people to be on guard in the first place

[@ThatLaurenThing]

him saying “I won’t today” in reference showing plants made me giggle blush and swing my little legs around i am down SO bad

[@JosephDillman]

Now I'll never know what's beautiful about gospel music.

[@anais9263]

I wanted to know what he was thinking so bad💀

[@racoon_in_ankhmorpork]

Isn’t it crazy that people like this genuinely exist? Hozier is a real person somewhere on Earth right now, doing something; he’s (presumably) human. I find that crazy. He has this “too good to be true” quality to him… I’m seeing another artist that I believe falls into that category as well-Aurora-in September, and I can’t wait to see her irl and hear her voice directly from her, while I will still not be entirely convinced that she is actually real. Edit: I wanted to address all those replies that criticise this comment for putting the artists on a pedestal and acting like they’re not even human. The thing is, they amaze me BECAUSE they are human. It was never my intention to elevate them beyond that, but I guess my art as a writer has to be perfected, because I got overzealous and engaged in hyperboles that didn’t properly express my thoughts. I won’t delete my comment or edit what I said originally, because that feels wrong, but I will attempt to explain what I actually meant to say. They amaze me because, despite being generally like everyone else, they have put out into the world art that touched my soul. I will never forget Aurora’s songs; never as long as my mind is alive. Living on this planet, I am constantly overwhelmed by how magical humans’ ability to make art is. Aurora and Hozier are symbols of that to me, and when I compliment them I am not trying to say that they are separate from our world-that they are gods. But their art IS something godlike, I reckon… and perhaps creativity is a piece of godliness that is in everyone. But they have used their creativity so, SO well, and I think that is somewhat special. Sue me, if you want, for thinking they’re just a bit better than many people, because many people are not as good at creating things as they are. I don’t want to highlight that they are extremely rare creatures and nobody else does what they do, I’m simply saying that it is tragically easy to be much worse, and many people ARE worse. Aurora and Hozier deserve to be applauded, because it is so easy for your flaws to be what distinguishes you from others, but they have let their art be what distinguishes them, instead. I wish for that to be true for myself as well, someday. I hope that this explains what I meant a bit better. Peace and love to anyone who actually read all that, I’m kinda in a “rant your head off on the internet” mood lately. :)

[@frances7575]

ahh hozier & aurora are my favourites too! I saw aurora a few months ago and honestly she's even better live than in her recordings, you're in for a treat. for someone so genuinely sweet and soft-spoken she's surprisingly hilarious, she doesn't talk much about herself but more about the inspo for her songs

[@nienkehuijbens301]

Aurora has woodelf energy. She’s just unreal and it’s hard to believe that at this moment she’s doing anything other than singing to the moon from a high tree.

[@nenyeo6090]

the Norwegian singer-songwriter?

[@racoon_in_ankhmorpork]

@@nenyeo6090 yep, she’s the one :)

[@anuliona3178]

Just saw Aurora last month in Denver!!! She’s incredible live, EXACTLY what you would expect!!! My only complaint is that I wish the show was longer lol! She even had someone yell out to sing a song and she very strongly said “eh, no!” And then explained that she’ll those songs again but at this point in her life it makes her too sad to sing them. Aurora is my top 3 fav artists…definitely one of the greatest visionaries of our time and will be remembered for generations to come

[@robynrose3328]

We love a king with boundaries 🤘

[@crystalgoode8411]

I am completely enamored with Hozier. At 46 I get all giddy like a school girl with a crush. I would probably become a speechless idiot if I saw him in person. All this said..he exudes kindness, simplicity and realness..with approachability. His smile just melts my composure..LADIES..don't look in those eyes!!! Ugh .....whoever is His girl..is a LUCKY Girl indeed!!!

[@holycorvid3658]

lucky girl, or guy, or person! :)

[@SirPunzalot]

@@holycorvid3658 or animal. Furries exist. Also, if IRL animals consent, who are we to judge?

[@krishm7812]

@@SirPunzalot stop it, get some help

[@blue-bi8cn]

​@@krishm7812 i think they're being sarcastic, right?

[@homeland1128]

@@blue-bi8cn we did hope so.

[@helenatattersall9407]

Sometimes it really helps to see good examples of people setting boundaries in a polite, firm, healthy way. It's good to learn from the people you don't want to be like, but that usually only gives me a very fragmented picture of what to do instead. Good examples are really important :)

[@thealmightybipper3381]

I never really learned how to set boundaries as a kid, so here I am as an adult going to therapy to learn. Watching this was so neat! It's nice to see a good example of how to politely tell people, "No, I don't want to do that thing." It's also nice to see it from someone I absolutely adore and respect!

[@caitlinbelforti870]

I like that Irish people say ehm instead of um

[@melaniecaprio7797]

Truly love when notable people keep their lives private

[@sleepingwhale]

I wish someone would praise me for my boundaries 😅🤣

[@Vera-uo8kf]

Good job expressing your wishes ♥ that's almost as important (and just as hard) as boundaries

[@evernightrose5152]

Go monarch! We are proud of all your growth

[@divinelydreaming]

so proud of youuuu!!!

[@anima6035]

Consider yourself praised 😍 we bow down before your majesty 🙌

[@Hamppariranskis]

Good job fernhill, stick up for yourself!

[@justforcommenting2804]

That’s amazing how casually he states his boundaries. I get super nervous that people will get offended but he does it in a way that is so confident and matter of fact it doesn’t seem to take anyone by surprise

[@Ay-ux8fl]

this feels like how to sustainably handle a relationship with the public as a musician, i love this for him and i hope we get many more years of music, its sad how many worthwhile skilled celebrities get burnt out by media and have to just step back

[@obsidereme]

He's very smart. He understands that some people twist what others say.

[@feliciapham1063]

I always thought he was absolutely charming only by watching his videos and listening to his songs but it transpires in his personality he is so soft spoken and radiates calm energy 🥺

[@xoxoxo5642]

this is my first time seeing this guy's face and hearing him speak. wow. just wow. I somehow didn't believe he was a real person or somehow was expecting him to look/sound different. I'm amazed

[@Swishy_Blue]

Just like Dolly Parton! No one ever sees, hears or smells her husband. Respect.

[@kiratheelf772]

it fills me with such a sense of pride just to see him be like "no ❤😊" to anything he doesnt wanna do

[@jennys209]

What a great example of how to state boundaries in a kind and respectful way that is also clear

[@grins9882]

Wait hozier is like an actual living person? I thought he was like a medieval music artist or smthn

[@PichuElric]

FRR

[@realnepeta]

Hozier seems like a chill roommate who plays mario kart with you but he never rages even when he gets hit with a blue shell and he probably plays luigi because he thinks that luigi is underrated and deserves more love. he does the dishes when he can tell youre not up to it and then he orders takeout because neither of you want to cook. he watches your drink at a party and makes sure no one is inappropriate towards you. like that best friend that you have a crush on but youre afraid to ask out because you know he probably doesnt see you that way.

[@user-ke3sk6jd3h]

:/

[@ivonnelopez8203]

How can you describe what you don’t even know. You just made up a story. One I like, actually but we’re getting lost in an illusion of the picture your painting of him. Unless ya actually know em?

[@realnepeta]

@@ivonnelopez8203 It’s just me being verbose lol. I’m not actually that into Hozier. Also, re-read the first 3 words please.

[@ivonnelopez8203]

@@realnepeta ok it seems like I got carried away in believing you 😂

[@jun4693]

I can see this honestly! he seems like exactly that kind of guy.

[@galec5305]

God I just love him 🥺❤

[@lidu6363]

What a role model, what a professional 🥺❤️

[@josephinedebellis9018]

oh my gosh I love him

[@carmenalcarilla1385]

Literally as his songs are magic

[@elisa680]

The first guy is just nasty! I have watched another interview of him and he made me sick, like literally!

[@elisa680]

@@beeticket yeah that is true, and maybe he just doesn't care about the fact that he is interviewing a human being and not just a "celeb", he only wants to get out information that make headlines to make his show relevent! Idk why his show is still going on and idk why labels and managements still take their artist on his show! He is a disrespecct to human race!

[@elanyacoleman9862]

Love Hozier!

[@elanyacoleman9862]

Thanks😊

[@lenalongbottom80]

What a cringe thing to do, pry into someone's life when they keep telling you no. Hozier is a king.

[@Manu-ld4tg]

Major divine masculine vibes

[@stormcorrosion176]

Thanks idiot

[@jazwhoaskedforthis]

YES. I've heard of divine feminine but this makes so much sense as divine masculine, his music absolutely has that vibe

[@GrandmasterFerg]

In what way?

[@kittycat3638]

King of boundaries

[@macca154]

i love how hozier lets us know what he wants us to know and is really good at keeping everything else to himself. I feel no need to pry into his life

[@molsondutch93]

He's such a great guy and an amazing artist 🤩

[@hibernopithecus7500]

Chided by that silence of a hush sublime. Blind to the purpose of the brute divine.

[@jyryk4623]

I've never listened to him but as a guy who has problems with setting boundaries i have enormous respect for him

[@crazycatgirl]

Such a King.

[@oscarbrazil9922]

The shape of his face is similar to that of Jacksepticeye

[@LeMagnifiquePetiteEspirit]

And the talk the same way too

[@TheDorkEvilOne]

Well they're both Irish, so ..........

[@helena-ff3pi]

@@LeMagnifiquePetiteEspirit peoples voices usually have a lot to do with the structure of their faces, how narrow or wide their nose is, etc

[@spectre9340]

never thought I'd come across a comment thread about a "Hozier = Jacksepticeye" conspiracy theory but here we are

[@storm3927]

💚

[@nikkinorman4254]

I'm glad I manifested this video ❤

[@badgamedevreacts3855]

These interviewers are just a few steps away from being as invasive and insensitive as the paparazzi.

[@Linkolite]

Came here to comment this. A lot of podcasts are like that

[@Aster_Risk]

I don't listen to Hozier, but I really respect and admire his boundary setting. That was cool to watch. Gotta take notes.

[@genevanov5627]

I won a ticket to a few songs played by him. He didn’t want to be there. Didn’t speak to the crowd. Didn’t wave. Did the concert and simply walked off the stage. People cheered for him to come back and do another song but he had gone. It was like magic. Angriest performance I have ever seen. It was like a hostage situation. He was obviously pre-paid

[@sm1th3r33ns]

When/where was that ?

[@genevanov5627]

@@sm1th3r33ns Telstra Sydney building, maybe 8 years ago. They funded a free concert for some winning customers.

[@Nr.1Mimir]

​@Genevanov I mean it was 8 years ago in 2015 he was newly in the spotlight he probably felt super uncomfortable. I don't think he meant to be rude. Also he was most likely touring venues for publicity etc.

[@user-s3ts8my2x]

Giga chad move

[@nternetrat]

sigh... this man came into my work the other day... twice

[@no_one2197]

A man setting boundaries, never done before...

[@mimansa26]

I love keeping things to myself ,not to have this mysterious cool persona but i just think not everyone needs to know everything yk? Like we are living in the age of oversharing on internet and stuff and still feeling empty ..so it's reassuring to see an artist like him just minding his business and making great music 😌 Plus why should a radio DJ know about his love life ??!

[@user-hl1ct3yh1r]

I need him t teach a course on this love it

[@savesoil3133]

Haha, he's quite good at this Btw have you heard of the #ConsciousPlanet movement before? You might like it too 💚

[@lisislobo6801]

thats my man .

[@GenerationYUI]

Gonna watch this video everyday to see if I can learn how to do it too

[@pigeondance]

big mood

[@Sicyg]

I love his music and personally I hate knowing anything personal on my favorite artists and in glad he sees it that way too

[@Cymricus]

we all know somebody like the first man

[@luvpie111]

He reminds me of what I need to do more in my life

[@calib3r403]

Chadness

[@dovescry123]

Y’all are praising him for what? most men don’t have problems setting boundaries irl

[@nicechoicee]

Ye, I feel him on that

[@maiaraandrade1952]

Write it down! Wrint it down! ✍️✍️✍️

[@jumrader1111]

I don't even know who is this why do I watch it

[@Kelly_C]

isnt this the SAIL guy edit: he is not

[@chloesibilla8199]

You can interview someone without putting them in a weird situation

[@m0th104]

didnt know hozier sounded like this until i watched this video and now im 1000x more attracted to him

[@ItCantRainAllTheTime_90]

Dang, I was waiting for him to drop those Biggie bars 😔.

[@SaminSays]

giving capricorn king

[@SoVidushi]

king shit

[@pigeondance]

idk why but he has the energy of someone who is studying astrophysics and reads romantic poems at night. i've only heard a couple of his songs so idk if i'm spot on with this assumption lol

[@Anastasia-kl6ig]

please i would kill a man to hear him recite rap lyrics in an old victorian style 😭

[@ultimatequeenofdeath666]

never heard his voice outside of songs before, he sounds like smajor

[@matchamelon330]

"oh, but we got it out of you, there's something right there!" buddy... that is not the win you think it is

[@unrealengine4181]

Scorpio moon king ❣

[@sonyawalker9212]

He's rare.

[@KeiraA333]

Tbh this isn't so much boundary as preferences. I feel the vid is kinda sayin that if you don't hide things away you have no boundaries. Completely untrue of course. Plenty people just like to share about themselves ; plenty others prefer not to. Simply asking/wanting to know is also not bad - its how you learn a person. To each their own essentially [Personally I'd not be able to make friends w/ his type - hes very honest I appreciate that - but I'd never be able to bond to him in any way shape or form🤷‍♀️]

[@nibirue]

It's funny how having boundaries is not good for interviews. Makes them boring. Never thought about it like that.

[@SarahSkinnyJeans]

Those are boundaries? Shit I do that all the time.

[@dipanjan_roy]

that how it should be

[@blankblank5231]

That man in the orange just doesnt give af in a bad way * like on one hand we congratulate hozier for having explicit boundaries but on the other hand we never call out people who overstep boundaries in aggressive ways and it doesnt make sense, both need to be addressed

[@mrs_mothra547]

❤️❤️❤️

[@boylamont3449]

Tbf, he said he was off the market and then the other guy said he was off the market. That’s not putting words in his mouth, it’s what he said.

[@gsahara8405]

Not me watching to see how he does as an INFJ to learn for myself

[@yyg4632]

And he does it politely yet sternly.very likeable.

[@pate8320]

i just dont agree

[@BobbyBundlez]

uh. idk how this is setting boundaries it's jst a fucking convo

[@fleetwoodsnacc6532]

Why did he have to think so hard about what Elwood is

[@ELGUAPOIV]

Wow he won't show plants this makes him a hero wtf

[@Aster_Risk]

No. A person.

[@forevertwentysix718]

This is him politely telling them "Why don't we discuss more about my music, less or nothing about my personal life? you nosy-ass gossipers!" 🤣🤣 I like that he created and maintained this "mysterious" image. A lot of people don't like it but I really love how he wants his audience to focused more on the message of his music. It's quite rare for an artist like him to sell their talents instead of their relationships to gain clout.

[@Keithjustkeithwastaken]

it is not rare at all...

[@pigeondance]

more celebs should do that tbh! of course it's okay if they want to share some stuff, but having private things for yourself is important and healthy.

[@rileyrosswalker]

It's one thing to be curious about a person's life, but badgering someone for info on a detail they have politely declined to talk about just comes off as disrespectful and nosy. Then again "private life" is quite a loose term in this day of age.

[@melissasaint3283]

That last one is a fair question, though. Because there's some degree of artistic appropriation there. Utterly different from trying to dig into your romantic life.

[@Aster_Risk]

Asking it was fair and not answering is just as fair.

[@oakfangplaxy]

#ThanksBeb #YesImPrego #Elwood #MarkOwensSon

[@MiotaLee]

I will take a leaf from this guy. I've always been wearing my heart on my sleeve. It's about time that I started to protect myself by actually affirming myself instead of pretending to be flexible

[@vamp1rr_l0verr]

GAYYY MAN GAYYYYYMAAAAN GAYYYYYYYY MAAN *will from stranger things*

[@amani7753]

Babe ❤

[@deathbyathousandcats]

Does he kind of look like Josh Groban, or is it just my eyes?

[@nolesy34]

Has someone taken him to church yet?

[@NixiePixelGB]

All reporters dig for info, if they didn't - they'd be crappy reporters. It's up to us to set boundaries of communication and not really shame reporters for doing, you know... Their jobs 🤷‍♀️

[@SirPunzalot]

Who is Mr Houser?

[@M.A.C.01]

The guy on the screen right now lol

[@SirPunzalot]

@@M.A.C.01 there's nothing on my screen right now except comments.

[@Allies_Or_Enemies]

He's a musician, and he's the person in the video. He has a very beautiful, unique sound and I love his music :)

[@SirPunzalot]

@@Allies_Or_Enemies But there were a lot of people in this video, Mr. Milker. Which one is he? And what music does he make? Classical, Punk Rock, Death Metal, Emo, EDM, Pop?

[@Allies_Or_Enemies]

@@SirPunzalot He has a kinda folk-sy soulful kinda style, and he's the one with the Irish accent and brown hair, with facial hair :D

[@landoncube769]

Lol it's like me with my mom "Invite her over for dinner" "No I'm ok"

[@pate8320]

wrong

[@brucewayne2184]

He gets away with it cuz he had that English accent and soft, polite voice

[@lungcell]

He's not English though, he's Irish.

[@Emma-xm9gb]

IRISH

[@adora_lovely]

Irish, hon.

[@annehannigan4884]

Irish boy born and bred....well educated, articulate and all round decent human who stands up for human rights in all aspects....

[@catmcquillan7499]

I mean really, isn't he interesting enough as an artist? I want to hear him talk about art and music! The only time I've ever been interested in his love life was when I read that his girlfriend help write the riff on someone new.