HTSM (SO FAR) #91 - How We Cope As a Couple When DEPRESSION Suddenly Hits - As It Did Last Week!

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[@marys33794]

Thank you so much Mark for sharing about what severe depression feels like and that you got through it. Hello from Ireland❤❤❤

[@heidiwilliamson-wall3924]

Great example of two people loving one another through thick and thin. 💜

[@elainedenning]

This beautiful, deep, honest and enlightening conversation needs to be on main stream TV for everyone to see. You both talk about it with such passion and eloquence and truth. Mark and Nads...we love you so much. You are a beacon of light to so many of us in the world.

[@joanneanthony5931]

Thank you so much for sharing, I really feel for you both. I have suffered from severe depression and anxiety in the past, to such a degree that i was prepared to leave my two young children without a mother because i felt they would be better off without me, something which i will never forgive myself for. Thankfully I got through those dark times , i still take medication for depression and anxiety which has side affects of feeling sort of numb to emotion, I seem unable to get excited or upset , I just keep going. I have a very supportive husband and family which are my reason to keep fighting in this extremely difficult world we live in. My love to you both , We can do this

[@vanessawilde8389]

Please forgive yourself, although you had suicidal thoughts, you didn't act on the impulse. Celebrate your strength to resist the pull to escape the horrible darkness of depression.

[@jayneramsden5361]

Can I ask what medication you were prescribed xx

[@thenanlife1141]

I had depression when my kids were growing up and I can totally relate to everything you are saying about this debilitating illness Mark ❤❤❤ Thank you for putting this out there Mark and Nadia xxx

[@TheBebelass]

Sleep can be my only escape when I get depression bad, I don't want to talk to anyone. I just want to sleep and hope it passes soon, and then there is my Anxiety which won't let me sit for long until I get up and do some cleaning even at 11 at night, and only then can I relax. My partner now knows not to question me when I do start cleaning late at night.

[@leaveittothediva]

Very good conversation about Mental Health. I remember Ruby Wax saying that in her Ted Talk on it, if she had a broken leg and was in hospital she would have been inundated with flowers and visits, but because she was in a Mental Hospital, all she got was a few phone calls telling her to" perk up", she laughed and said " as if I hadn't thought of that before". The way we communicate about and around it has to change. I'm glad Mark is better.

[@twinkletoes800]

As a partner of a loved one with depression, it meant so much to hear this, it all resonated with me and I'm deeply grateful for you sharing this. Support is EVERYTHING ❤

[@mayboo6490]

So hard ❤️ after 29 yrs my partner got diagnosed with social psychosis. Looks same outside but as if someone’s taken over inside. Don’t know (or lots of time like) this man. It’s been 3 yrs and I’m still trying but don’t know how much more I can do. Doctors haven’t bothered I’ve tried but still just on low antidepressants.

[@lindarichardson9230]

You have no idea how much this has helped me. I have had depression for 33 years it’s absolutely hell ❤️

[@gigieyre]

Maybe one of the reasons people don't bring it up or talk about it, is because they don't know what to do. When someone has a broken leg, you can help them to the table or they can lean on you to walk. When someone is having a mental struggle, you may not know what to do for them. Also, they may seem like everything is going better and you don't want to bring it up and make them think about it. I've struggled with depression for 40 plus years. It's hard to know who you can tell and how much to tell. Some people just can't handle it, so you just keep it to yourself. I'm so glad you two have these episodes. My daughter's husband struggles greatly. Sometimes I can tell he wants to talk and other times, he doesn't. It's very hard for my daughter. It's a lot when you are constantly thinking about someone and their safety. Thanks again for these videos. They really help so many people.

[@melw2389]

Thank you for being so open and sharing. I'm bipolar 2, too. You two talking about this is really helping me to navigate the blur. I was diagnosed in December 2017 ( I'd been misdiagnosed before, too), took two years with up and downs to find the right meds combo (in my case lamotrigin and valporate). And had been surprisingly stable throughout 2020, 2021. Then in January 2022 I got my bloody Pfizer booster and it sent me on a roller coaster. And like you said, I could tell without the meds it would have been a very severe episode. Don't get me wrong, it was still shit and knocked me out for a couple of weeks, but near the end, again, like you said, I had some consciousness of it. More than ever before. Thank you, Mark, for articulating things I had previously not been able to put into words. The fizzing is a thing! I think I'll look into starting a short moodjournal so I'll maybe one day be able to recognize the ocean retreating before the tsumani hits. Again. Thank you for all you do. Nadia, thank you for being such an awesome wife. I can't express my gratitude to you for hearing your side of the story. It really helps with the shame and blame my stinking thinking is attributing to me, because of course I, too, don't want to be a burden. My catastrophising of what other loved ones might think about me often burdens my conscience. So much so, that I've been avoiding to physically visit / be in contact with my family members and friends for years because I didn't want to be a burden. A few light bulbs went on during this chat. Thank you, guys. Love you lots. Thank you.

[@reginamushi6582]

I feel you....I still haven't gotten the right meds just for depression and anxiety

[@melw2389]

@@reginamushi6582 Big hug.

[@helenseymour8211]

These conversations are so important. I admire you both so MUCH for talking so openly about mental health. You both have hearts of gold. THANK YOU!

[@filmfan3697]

Thank you so, so much for this. I have very severe mental health issues and it's completely taken me out for years. It's relentless. I'm just listening to what you're saying, mark, about feeling like a burden. I feel like that all the time and my dad thinks I can just snap out of it. I've been so invalidated and it's devastating. I talk openly about it to people because why should I hide it. My dad has shut me down and I'm not allowed to talk about it at all. I feel less than all the time. I try so hard and I try all the time to raise awareness.

[@sophiesimpson7809]

This moved me to tears 😭 thank you to you both for sharing and being completely honest about mental health, I suffer with depression & anxiety and I resonated so much with what you both said, the bravery from you two is amazing and I agree 100% that the stigma around mental health needs to break x sending big hugs x

[@Mycrazylife100]

I can't wait to share your videos with my wife... I just started to watch them and boy, I am very happy to learn from u both. Thank you

[@carolmccabe4359]

“I am the Sky everything else is the weather” This is my mantra. The storms and black clouds are not me nor is the beaming ☀️ sun. I am simply the sky. I will return to that soft blue. It is always there. Always. The certainty of that is forever a comfort. Thank you darlings. 🍀☘️🍀☘️🍀☘️🍀

[@shelleysilver6597]

Wow, this brought me to Tears. Thank you to you both, for sharing this. You are both Amazing. And you have helped so many people, by sharing and being so honest. Thank you to you both. 😘

[@leanne1234]

Have read all the comments and I am sending much love to you all in need. So wish I had the power to make everyone well in this amazing community 💖

[@FrecklesFyo66]

Thank you for that, I have so much love for you both. Such an emotional rollercoaster. Xx

[@janelouisesmith722]

You two are just so brave and you both have to cope with extremely difficult things. Bless you for sharing as you do; it really helps me to try to understand my brother’s mental health conditions. THANK-YOU😊Take care of each other and have a lovely weekend. Jane xxxx

[@trishmccarthy724]

❤ what beautiful people you both are. Exposing your raw emotion is so good to see ❤

[@kellyilhunter]

Was close to tears through most of this, thank you so much for sharing and as always your honesty. You probably have no idea how many people you help. Sending big hugs to you both x

[@sawalhaadderleys]

Thank you so much! Much love xx

[@kimcarrington1804]

Thank you so much for sharing. Sending love to you all. Keep pushing the boundaries, we all appreciate this. x

[@eireannbullimore7763]

Awareness of something doesn't equal understanding. Everyone is aware that mental health exists but few people really understand it. That's why so many people say just push through, get your meds, get your therapy, and get better. They don't understand that it's not something that just gets better. When you break your leg the bone will heal but, it will forever be more prone to breaking, pain can still appear when you remember breaking it or hit it on exactly the right spot. Mental health is exactly the same except there are so many more ways to damage mental health than to break a bone and so many more ways for pain to flare even when the wounds have healed.

[@emmabev66carter5]

Oh my lovelies, thankyou so much for sharing this, as similar to Mark I'm suffering alot at the moment, but really can't tell anyone, my youngest is still at home with me but he is on the autistic spectrum & can't cope with emotion & my eldest has left home & I just can't talk to him so I put on my happy front whilst crying inside, watching you both discussing this has really let me cry & release the tears I've been building up & hiding I know I can't get help straight away as I need specialist mental health teams as my doctors can't alter my meds as I'm on meds they can't prescribe. But as we all know we are having a mental health crisis at the moment & I'm holding back as there are so many people needing help.. But after watching this I'm going to reach out for help as I can't carry on like this, my son needs me well to be there for him & for that I thank you both so much ❤❤❤ still sat here blubbering but it's helping to get it out. Thank you both so much for sharing, you both are such beautiful souls & I'm sending you all my love ❤❤❤❤

[@melaniemorrison7855]

I hope you get the help you need soon, life can be so hard. It's lovely that you get some comfort listening to Mark and Nadia, they are such a special couple. Take care ❤

[@vanessawilde8389]

I hope you speak up and push through to get the help. I know it's the last thing you have strength to do to battle for the right support, but I'm cheering you.

[@leedurrant1326]

Thank you both so much for this....I absolutely love your honesty Mark, I have always said how much you have helped me with your story. I watch all of your videos and I think you are doing so much to break the mental health stigma. It can't be easy talking about your experiences but it will make someone else's journey more manageable.sendding loads of love and respect. Lee Durrant ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@joannalewis7581]

This video was very helpful for me as a parent of a teenager. He has had serious mental health issues since age 9. The pain of watching your child suffer, of feeling helpless, of having very few people or professionals able to help is indescribable. Your very honest vlog has helped me so much. It never goes away but certain aspects get easier to manage and the up and downs happen a lot. I find I have to take better care of myself to be able to be there for him and that's hard sometimes x

[@henriettahenson]

It's good that you are becoming the watcher of your numbness..... That's a complete breakthrough... Because you are now awakening with an awareness of SELF. ... That WATCHER.. KEEPS YOU IN THE MOMENT FEEL THE FEELINGS LET THEM HAPPEN... NO MATTER HOW BAD THOSE FEELINGS ARE... YOU WILL BE FINE MARK.... AND NADIAS A GREAT UNDERSTANDING PARTNER..... 💕

[@denisenelson-gale7809]

As always so honest and deep and tackling the thoughts and fears we have about talking about such a hard subject. My husband does not have the words to talk to me; when I am going through my depressive episodes, he just lets me be and gives me the space to go through it. However, I wish he could talk to me about it. Thank you both so so much for sharing and letting me feel I'm not alone ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[@stephschulze4898]

Thank you for sharing from both sides. Whether it’s realising and coping with your own feelings, or thinking how to be there for others suffering or their partners, mental health struggles exist for many. Appreciate listening to your conversations. Love and best wishes to you both 💕

[@lawgirl2007]

I watched this with my daughter, and I cried. Going through mental health struggles myself for years, both my children(who are now young adults), can relate to this. Mark, you are the epitome of everything that is good, kind, gentle and wonderful in this world. This world is a much brighter place with you in it. You and Nadia brighten up my day. Each and every day, and if I'm not always able to catch the live video, I will catch up when I can later in the day. You are both like my extended family now, ever since the day I found your channel on here. Thankyou for letting us get to know you and your beautiful family, whom we all love, just as if you were our own. Please know that just as you both are there for us, we are also there for you. A problem shared is a problem halved, as they say. You are both role models for what a great marriage or relationship should be, what great parents should be. Never lose that sparkle you both have, because it is magical. Love you guys, to the moon and back ❤❤❤❤ "Always remember you are braver than you think, stronger than you seem, and loved more than you know..."💕

[@yinkymilinky8213]

My name is Nadine . . . This vlog was So real so authentic your daughters should be proud. I bet they are. such a lovely couple, I felt this. , I’m going to send this to my mum so she may understand me . So delicately put to understand. May the god lord be with you and the family. Xox mark your a diamond Geeza and Nadia you are the perfect wife friend.

[@margaretrayner771]

I admire you Mark for being so open about this, I wish more people had the courage to speak openly. I have had to watch and go through it with 3 of my family members all at roughly the same time and each were very close to me - It is so hard for the "other" person to go through too and for us to know what we should and shouldn't be doing or saying. Sometimes it felt easier to say nothing at all because not wanting to make things any more difficult for the sufferer but it can't be ignored :/ My partner had a break down a few years ago -- it was the worst time of our lives. Thank you for all you do for your subs.

[@janeryder2075]

This is wonderful to watch. I suffer in silence as my partner will not accept how awful I feel. Thank you for sharing

[@christinetaylor4987]

Thank you for being so honest as it helps to hear you putting this into words which is very hard to do. I'm the one with controlled depression and wish my husband and I could talk like this.

[@lynnclarkson1733]

So eloquently explained. Makes sense having experienced it with someone in my family. Keep sharing as the world needs to catch up 🥺

[@laurawilliams2744]

Thank you thank you thank you. Your openness and honesty are amazing. I’m certain this has helped so many people leaving with bipolar or depression or living with someone with those conditions. Your suffering is so painful. Wishing you well. ❤️❤️

[@sarahadjei6167]

Love you guys. Thanks for your vulnerability xx

[@wonderwoman5528]

Takes so much strength to deal with the lows of mental health (for the sufferer and the partner) I know this dip wasn’t as extreme as Mark’s breakdown, but I think since your diagnosis and knowledge over your condition has given you back some control. You understand the sensations, you know the symptoms, and that doesn’t make it any easier but it does help (although I know it doesn’t lessen the pain and the scariness of those symptoms). Thanks for sharing such a personal account ❤️

[@bevhartnoll3004]

Agree there is no quick fix for anything 💔 and how people can look well on out side but may be really suffering in the in side 😥 big hugs mark 🤗, you both are such a beautiful couple 💞💞

[@zoe_agnew_]

This chat moved me very very much. Two special people xx

[@clancyk8497]

Thank you so much for your honesty 🙏 Thank God you have each other. You've done great things together and you've both helped a lot of people, I'm sure. Bless you both and your lovely family 🥰🙏

[@coconutisland3634]

This was so beautiful and intimate of you to share - I for one am grateful to both of you for sharing. I don’t see any shame and any need to excuse anything - those that mind don’t matter etc. Anyone who takes issue should turn over to another channel, small minds aren’t welcome here. I think what you are both doing is beyond helpful and I will forever be grateful to you both for all you do. The highs and lows the ebbs and flows, it’s so incredibly generous of you and I wish more people and more channels were more transparent then maybe we wouldn’t feel so alone. Thank you Mark & Nadia xxxxxx

[@carolnaismith973]

I used to suffer from generalised anxiety and panic attacks and more recently health anxiety. Kenny used to say he had to detach emotionally to cope but he was always there for me no matter what. I used to be annoyed that he said that but I understand now why and what he meant as he wouldn’t have been able to do what he did for me. Don’t know If I’ve explained that very well but I couldn’t find anyone more loving during those times ❤️ Glad you’re feeling better Mark xx

[@MJ-fw6ry]

Oh WOW guys! That was a rollercoaster 😢Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️ you both x

[@MarkymarkGB]

Very interesting conversation about what it is like to be on both sides of an "episode". I think it is very useful for people to hear these discussions so thanks so much for the bravery of recording and publishing them. Also interesting that you mentioned lunar cycles, this is something that has been suspected of being linked to mental health issues, thus the word "lunatic" was often used to refer to people with severe mental health issues in times gone by as it was thought they were under the influence of the moon.

[@tinadavis3333]

I love you both really. So honest and open talking my son suffers with mental health I see the dips and when he's going threw it same has you Nadia it's hard to see him sad and were he goes quiet you know what I mean Nadia 🤗🙏 it's so hard to see a loved one struggle my son is 24 now but we were on waiting lists for years I kept asking for help then he turned 18, had to go on another list omg had talk therapy then finally saw phycritrist last year and was diagnosed been a big struggle thankyou for these chats Nadia and mark for been open talking about mental health. And they have really have helped me has a mum understand more big hugs and love 🥰🥰🤗🥰

[@elliedenning6514]

So much love for this 💚

[@carolineturlington2335]

Wow, thank you both so much for such an open, honest and real-life discussion about living with bipolar. Everything you said rang true to my experiences of living with bipolar. It’s so refreshing and enlightening to hear of others sharing a similar journey. I was diagnosed in 2007 with bipolar 1 and can only count on 1 hand the number of friends/family who have this level of awareness. Please keep the discussion going, you are helping so many people 😁

[@clairesmillie8125]

Thank You Both For These Chats - I Know I don’t Have Anyone To help me when I’m on The Floor With My Mental Health & Chronic Pain. Just Know (Although I Cry Along With U Both) & I myself is currently on A Shaky Peg - EVERY MENTAL HEALTH CHAT That You Have Gives Me, In The Moment Some Comfort…..Keep On Keeping On Mark - Nadia bestest Wife ❤️ Take Care xxxx

[@shelleystojsavljevic155]

My mental health was so good for 6 weeks but then I had second pzifer vaccination and my mental health has been bad for 2 weeks. Watching this gives me some comfort that the blips come and go. It’s not knowing when I will feel right again that is so hard. Mark you articulate everything so well. And Nadia you are such a rock in this difficult episode. I’m going to try and have a shower now for the first time in three days. Thank you both 💜💙

[@sarahblissett1623]

Thank you for sharing . Dr Gabor Mate speaks so beautifully about ADHD. There are many videos on KZbin and he’s also written a book . He’s brilliant x

[@ELEN1971-]

Oh you two 💔❤️😍😍😍!!! It is so brave to talk so openly and honestly and sooo appreciated by us subs. I’m struggling at the moment and as a single parent it’s so hard. Also moving house 😫 I can feel it lifting slightly though-just as well with the final move next week. Mark-I don’t know what to say just…thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

[@selinaloufogg]

Ya bipolar nutter lol!! What a lovely, honest, heartwarming chat. The love u have for each other just shines thru xx

[@Beckyphythian]

Thanks for sharing your personal life with us. I understand a lot of it and watching you can help me and other people with there life’s. Have a great day😺

[@chillarchillar3284]

So happy he's out of it.🧡💛💚Been there myself and not seeing the point to go on.

[@laurabyrne6955]

You both are amazing ❤❤❤❤thank you for always being honest

[@nikiburton7659]

Nadia your so supportive to mark as it’s so hard to be that way x I’m sure mark is very supportive to you in your needs xx I have slept for years when I’m depressed it’s the only thing I can do 😔 my family does not understand my husband struggles too 😔 it’s so hard on him and he’s a sweetie but he just over the years has left me to it x I feel so alone in my mh 99% of the time 😢 I’m very lonely it’s a lonely place and very dark 🖤 my heart broke when you cried in this but your just a wonderful woman in a frightened time xx love you both and so proud you can talk it through ❤️🤗🤗 and yes I feel a big burden on all my family with mh and my fibromyalgia it’s the worst feeling Iv ever had 😢😢

[@laurellenicholls4094]

Love you guys sending you both so much love ❤️

[@susiesalter5290]

This is so beautifully done..........💔💔💔💔💔💔xxx Soooo brilliantly explained......xxxx

[@onedogandabag9606]

There’s a difference between awareness and understanding. xx

[@AlishaBrorens]

I just wanted to say Mark and Nadia, that if you ever need a break from watching the news, I absolutely love the coffee moanings where you just talk about random stuff. I know you need to keep up with it for a bit for loose women Nadia, but if you need a break from it for your mental health then your content without talking about the news is amazing too...we just love seeing you both! I know I've had to take days away from it recently as it was getting to me too. Beautiful podcast today though. I'm so glad that you've got your family taking such good care of you Mark and sorry it's been such a shit time for you over the past few weeks 💜💜💜

[@swsilvania8298]

Mark and Nads you are both so special . You are both so strong for each other. Take care.

[@carintaylor2286]

Thank you for sharing

[@helenflynn8992]

Insightful intelligent honest you are doing soooo much positive things for mental health issues I appreciate applaud you my story is similar to mark it's awful and it's always being a hidden illness were you carry shame and at times you dislike being you I am also blessed with a amazing partner I don't drink because I believe that would be a hindrance. Suicide is a permanent solution to a short term problem. I believe what you do is a positive way you teach so much talking about it like your leg hurts we need to be able to say my mental health hurts. ❤️🤗🤗🤗

[@gillyfromcornwall9157]

Thank you xx

[@kellypickard3133]

Thankyou for this love you both xx

[@melaniemorrison7855]

You always have me crying watching these videos, especially when I see you lips move a certain way just before you're about to cry Nadia, my heart aches for you both 😢 I hope one day Mark can overcome these awful days and look back on the videos and say I did it!!! Let's hope 💗 Omg Nadia so funny calling Mark a bipolar nutter, the lovely thing is you can sometimes laugh about it and that's good. Love and hugs to you both ❤❤

[@juliehilton3365]

I dont know what to say about this podcast except i so wish with all my heart that mark dident have to go thru this horrible thing he brings so much joy to all us subs but i do know nadia that you are the best most supportive wife ever sending love to you both xx

[@lyndaholmes7293]

Mark Nadia keep talking to every one it does help

[@chriswhite1417]

Thank you for this. There is the embarrassment/shame element (possibly very British?) to asking after someone's mental health, but I also think it is out of a sense of concern. After all, asking someone about their 'flu won't trigger another bout of 'flu. But if someone has not shaken their black dog then by asking about it some people fear it may be a black dog whistle and it will come back to bite.

[@alicecooper6310]

Do you think there's sometimes the issue of being 'too in touch with your emotions'? I often wish I wasn't as emotional or sensitive and was someone who didn't really study or analyse my thoughts or overthink so much... I sometimes envy people who seem to be unaware of certain emotions and seem to lead a much simpler life. Not at all the same as your diagnosis I know, but wonder if there are some people that just never have chats like this or spend anytime giving it any thought..... must be bliss?

[@norsheenakhtar9175]

At 4 mins 25, Nadia’s accent 😂😂😂. I could listen to her for hours!

[@clancyk8497]

Chasing the Dragon The Jackie pullinger story You Tube. Facing the Canon with Jackie Pullinger You Tube. Stories of miracles and healing for us all 🙏

[@helenfatharly6382]

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