Husband Dismembers Wife In Camper on Romantic Anniversary Trip

Joseph and Emily Ferlazzo set out on their one year wedding anniversary, living a van life in Vermont. However, when Emily soon went missing a search began. Joseph's story changed multiple times, but the monster that he truly was couldn't hide for long.
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[@ThatChapter]

Happy New Year everyone! Hope you all have an amazing 2025!!🎉

[@VivaciousOM]

Happy New Year, Mike!

[@JustinFarkas-h4f]

Mike you're sooooo handsome! Xo Jen

[@conniekaw2499]

Happy New Year, Mike. 2025 marks my 7th year of having you as my storyteller. I'm in my second year of study in criminology because of your stories. Thank you. I hope the new year will bring so much love and positivity. You deserve it 😊

[@vegasjk27]

Happy New Year, Mike!🎉

[@lesliehankins3916]

Best to you in 2025, Mike (and Keith)!

[@_taymariexx]

"i didnt think anyone could push me to that" wow even blames her in death. Take some accountability buddy.

[@mingiinimene3335]

That is what abusive people do. It is never their fault. Others provoke them. And also their bad childhood is to blame. Never them, they are as innocent as the driven snow.

[@_taymariexx]

​@@mingiinimene3335yup 10000% just always the victim no matter what

[@quickchris10]

Bloody wanker! I watched the Behavior Panel episode on this; showing his trial testimony (why the hell his lawyers considered this would pass muster with anyone, we'll never know,) so that showed me what a liar he was, but as far as these details about his partying and how people felt about him and past record and general freakishness, leave it to Mike to ferret out interesting details!

[@LeaLucero-j2c]

Innocent my baby tooth. ... Which, doesn't exist, as I am 30 😅

[@Greatvaluebrand]

Must be so miserable to be a walking corpse who can’t take responsibility for a single thing and to be so switched off from reality.

[@averyeml]

Shout out to that friend who was immediately like “nah we aren’t those kinds of friends, gtfo and I’m calling the cops”

[@liverpoolFCMon]

A decent human

[@HolyBruh123]

So cringe 💀

[@Waterharmony3]

Yes! thank you for saying this and shouting out to this guy

[@beechhilllabradors]

Totally!!

[@cheddarandsourcream]

The whole “she was abusive” angle really goes out the window when you dismember the person. You don’t dismember someone if you kill out of fear for your own safety.

[@naomiledger1374]

Exactly.

[@barbarafaulder9087]

I’ll by that. 😅

[@nyirouajuot6799]

Seriously 😅😅😅

[@kristinwojtowich8902]

Good point.

[@KarlTheExpert]

Ever heard of zombies?

[@Lynn-ella]

Please people, if you are leaving an abuser, do not tell them. Get away from them without then knowing until you are gone. After you leave is the most dangerous time, so stay safe. xxx

[@hermitbob7304]

Absolutely. As soon as they learn you are leaving, they freak out and its one of the most dangerous times for an abused woman. Just leave, get to safety. Once you're gone and safe, all communication should be through your attorney. Don't meet up with them, don't give them a second chance, don't talk, text, chat, or message with them for any reason.

[@deathsapprentice]

Exactly! Don't do it alone in the woods with no one else for miles, be with family/friends in hotel they don't know and do it via phone or text then block. The ability to sense danger is so warped in abuse victims because of what has been normalized so please take this advice to heart.

[@Rachely24]

Yeah- I had a friend who had to do this recently. It's a really scary situation, and it's tough to completely uproot your life trying to find a new place to live and a new job etc... so I understand why it's so hard for a lot of people. :(

[@jameshopkins503]

Yup. My mom and I had to run 4 towns away and get a place out in the woods to hide. I didn’t sleep for a couple nights cause I just knew he’d keep his promise of finding us and killing us but he never did thankfully. Thank god for my mom for running.

[@bunnymad5049]

I helped my nephew's young partner leave him and plan getting away without him knowing until she was gone, including re-homing their puppy, and then her lawyer got her a safe house for a couple of days until she could leave the country. He still has no idea how she got away from him, and she's back in Germany enjoying life at University.

[@jinnij.caiman]

"I am a punching bag" no sir, you are a dirt bag. She was the punching bag. He shamed her even after death. He blamed her for pushing him to the point of killing her, the reason he couldn't take anymore. She couldn't take anymore. She was going to leave his sorry ass and he couldn't allow that. She was his property, if he couldn't have her, no one could.

[@EliShh-n2n]

And people (mostly men) say "why don't they just leave him?" Because that's when you're most likely to get killed!! I am a survivor of horrible DV.

[@21_f_aus]

​@EliShh-n2n never tell him you're leaving, just wait until he leaves have a friend or family member to help you escape, pack your things and go, if children are involved, pretend they're going to school but they go to a friend or family members then you oack your things and what ever the kids needs and leave once he's out...

[@apocolypse11]

She was going to change him he just needed love. 😂

[@bongy59]

​@apocolypse11 yeah, he had someone who cared enough to try and help him be better and he decided to kill her bc he's too gutless to face how much of a pathetic coward he is

[@principlemethods5281]

Yeah he inverted everything he did to her. He just flipped the story around and used that as justification for him murdering her

[@kapilsharmaWorld_uncensored]

"Look what you made me do". If you listen this line from someone who is abusing you, run away forever.

[@larsvonrinpoche1229]

Absolutely.

[@connie2558]

Sitting there eating while talking about dismembering and disposal of his wife's body. This guy should never be allowed to leave the prison.

[@casssmith2610]

In a -- bag, yes

[@Pkbristolyt]

that's what I thought how can he still eat what a psycho

[@_the_left_aint_right_]

Or eat. Ever again

[@truenokill]

He wont

[@gary-rr7jp]

After fake hyperventilating.

[@sandywilde4247]

Omg I can’t believe his friend immediately called police!!! So rare to hear!!

[@leftcoastfunk]

A+ friend there! I've heard so many times where people say they wouldn't turn in their bestie and I'm always like 😶um what?! I don't care if you're my family or bff, if you tell me you did something like that, I'll already be dialing before you finish talking

[@lauracook8203]

Joseph was quite a narcissist and may have thought the guy was a better friend than he was. He seems like the type who has no idea how people actually view him. The friend kicked him out of the car immediately. I think if it was actually a good friend of mine had done it I would have wanted to know what happened then tried to talk them into turning themself in. If they refused of course I would call the police. But my friends are good people. This friend seems like a decent guy and probably didn't like Joseph much.

[@ashleighfallon6741]

Bad mate.

[@DeshawndaGregory-f6z]

​@@leftcoastfunk I agree!

[@firefly88887]

Because people like that don’t really have friends- they are scary so people tend to just keep on the good side of them . Can you imagine trying to talk about anything but him ? I know I’ve unfortunately lived with a narcissist- they are only interested in themselves ever!

[@bleujay8785]

It’s crazy how much this story is reminiscent of the Gaby Petito case.

[@I_love.my.-viewers.]

She even resembled her

[@Dizinii]

Sounds like those camper trips tend to bring out the worst in people.

[@Ruby-ev9ym]

Odd how we never heard of this case.. just like many others around that time 🙄

[@ak6ill]

The most recent case he dropped.. the man was obsessed with the gabby petito case- and then he killed his girl. It was so hard to watch him smile and talk as if he’s too smart to be caught. Gross. Give it a goo when you have a chance.

[@evelyneloiterstein7085]

Narcissistic psychopath. He became enraged because she rejected him. He blames her death on her, takes no responsibility whatsoever and projects all his malevolent thoughts and deeds onto her. His new narrative is that he is the victim, unable to remember anything.

[@micktompson101]

At least he’ll rot in prison.

[@lilyt18]

@@floatpool8307 ooh big feelings. Triggered much?

[@changeintheair9648]

I watched him yesterday evening on The Behavior Panel - his testimony. He showed next to no emotions except his eyebrows. He seemed to have no clue what to say although it was rehearsed with his lawyer. Barely said much of anything. His story was they got in an argument, he left on a walk with their dog. Returned, she was in bed. He had to climb over her to his side of the bed and when he did, she hit him and punched him in the you know what. He responded something like "you shouldn't do that." Then got onto his side of bed and saw she was pulling out her gun under her pillow and scared, he pulled out his glock with silencer and shot her to save his life.

[@maryherbst3693]

Nailed it in one sentence!

[@supergirl2204]

Oh gosh. The murderous blackout.

[@Loopy.Loop27]

These people don't need a reason to hurt someone. My ex once broke my nose cos I had annoyed him in a dream he had. He literally walked past me as I was doing my make up and punched me in the face, then laughed. Saying "you shouldn't have pissed me off". Men and women who are abusers like control and power. If they feel they are losing it, they are dangerous

[@heiltotheking]

i dont think it was the dream, the dbag was just looking for an excuse to hit you.

[@Danica.Powell]

Are you for REAL? Oh you poor darling, that is just. Yeah. I have no words. I had an ex that was nearly that bad but not quite. It is a very scary experience. They are scary people. I am so glad that you are ok but it never should have happened, you must have been so confused and terrified and I am so sorry ❤

[@EliShh-n2n]

I had an abuser, who broke my ribs and back, because he had a dream where I was cheating on him. I'm so sorry for every victim of DV. It's so hard to escape from those monsters. I'm so sorry for what he did to you. They're sick. And as you say, they don't need a reason to beat up their partner.

[@mapsandstuff2923]

Glad he's your ex

[@jennifermaddy2442]

Omg I hope you left him then. LWhat a shock for you

[@KassKat519]

This dude is such a narcissist, that he really thought he was going to go visit HER PARENTS and since he is the main character, that would not cast suspicion because they’d just be so happy to see HIM! SMH freaking creep

[@areinahensley2739]

Yep just like everyone

[@Waterharmony3]

@@areinahensley2739 not everyone is a narcissist and if you want to attract people who are empathic, healthy and healing, balanced, honest, considerate, genuine and respectful, you have to have empathy and compassion for yourself

[@zielona_f]

it's ALWAYS projection with these overly jealous and controlling types!

[@froagjumpington]

Literally every single time. Hes suspicious of her because he knows what he would be doing.

[@memyself5924]

Yup my ex was the same... constantly accusing me while cheating.... she was a real piece of work. Also abusive mentally and physically.

[@yulaflournoy6568]

The narcissist playbook

[@SimplySatisfiedSarah]

Yep. Anytime somebody is constantly thinking you’re cheating on them is directly correlated to the fact that they are actually cheating on you.

[@KatherineAcosta20]

A 40 yrs old with a 20 yrs old 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@Rayna-gn3ni]

20:00 "she said a lot of hurtful things." This man has obviously never worked a day of customer service in his LIFE. What a POS.

[@sorayataliep384]

FR!😂

[@Luuskamuikkunen]

Ok

[@summerrr1]

If he was a Point of Sale, he’d have retail experience…

[@lisiloo8087]

I bet he Never worked a day period! You got one thing right yes he is a pos! 😡

[@LindaYariger]

Well...he was supposed to be a tattoo artist...​@lisiloo8087

[@KH-ct9or]

I hope Mike reads this. I look forward to this show. I’m housebound due to MS. Don’t have any friends anymore and every time I hear, “hey you! And welcome.” I feel like I’m hearing from a friend. It keeps me company while I’m alone. Plus he’s funny so that great lol.

[@drfunkmaster]

sorry you are housebound. you are never alone you have this whole community

[@KH-ct9or]

@ thank you. This is the best comment section on the internet. I appreciate your kindness.

[@BGC903]

Stay strong.

[@frysiandude]

Sad to read this, i kinda know the feeling. i hope you get to meet some folks who come hang out with you every now and then. We all need that

[@Luziemagick]

Hello..i have MS, too and zero friends anymore..and i look forward watching Mike, too😊😊😊

[@salesenablementon-demand4594]

It takes a pretty broken mind and soul to dismember a human body. Guys a monster.

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

I don't think he realises the things he nonchalantly says is horrifying to normal people. No wonder others deemed him creepy.

[@LeaLucero-j2c]

I completely and totally agree

[@faykouri1162]

It takes an evil soul !

[@TheVertigoalley]

@@faykouri1162and a strong stomach. 🤮

[@jinseng9304]

agreed 👍

[@j68715]

18 stab wounds AFTER death, dismembered into trash bags, and you're going with self-defense, bro? Really? REALLY? Had you pled guilty and faked remorse, you MIGHT have gotten the chance to breathe fresh air again after 30-40. Not too bright, this bulb.

[@carolcatanzaro7811]

They don't catch the smart ones do they!

[@joetaylor486]

Aye. Fifteen watter.

[@kaptinkinnakeet1124]

​@@floatpool8307because ur one of the hoe's lined up

[@Finefingers74]

Yeah, he's a pretty dim bulb! Hopefully he gets prison justice.

[@nerdrocker89]

@@floatpool8307 How do you know?

[@SD-oi4sb]

Evrything he claimed she said to him is probably what he said to her.

[@infidel24]

As a 55 yr old man, I cannot understand what you have to be thinking to get involved with someone young enough to be your daughter. Note to all of you younger women out there. Please make good choices. Please listen to your family member's. This stuff happens too often. And for you so called men that like younger girl's, get help. You have issue's!

[@mistersniffer6838]

Stop trying to cramp my game!!

[@Llamamamashamallama]

Thank you. You are a good man.

[@theunforgiven2885]

​@@mistersniffer6838Older men get with younger women because they don't have as much life experience and can be easily manipulated...Tell me without telling me who you are mister sniffer

[@EmmaEquinox]

​@@mistersniffer6838get help.

[@areinahensley2739]

Yeah 100% you understand and how old is your daughter?

[@wrmlm37]

These "van life" set-ups are BAD news. No breathing room, no personal space, no way for her to escape. Poor kid. RIP.

[@alrightyru]

Ala Brian and Gabbie

[@seangobbell7821]

And kid is correct, comparing her 22 to his 41. Twice her age. Giant red flag from the beginning! 🚩

[@meghanbarton5532]

It depends on the couple. My husband and I are truckers together. It is an Itty bitty space, but we love it. Not all couples can do it. I know a lot of rv couples who have been living on the road in their rv for years. Just like living together in any other situation, it depends on the couple.

[@mrsshelbycobraa]

@@meghanbarton5532truckers are different than “van life” people. Van life people are normally trust fund babies or hippie idiots

[@jaclynjones8451]

We live in a 40 foot RV with 3 large dogs..never thought of harming my spouse...to say what you did is just uneducated.

[@sandey42]

2.09 million followers Mike! Congratulations. I’ve been with you for about 4 years. My how you’ve grown!! So happy for you

[@Louielover-d3]

I love the way he said “I didn’t think anyone could make me do that “ pig. This happened around the Brian Laundrie show so it didn’t get much attention unfortunately.

[@zarasbazaar]

Yeah, like it's her fault he lost control. What a monster.

[@amandaowens8458]

@Louielover-d3 and his baby wasn't her but his TikTok account

[@ZombieSazza]

He told her parents “oh I just left her in the woods” and expected that to be magically okay? And what a surprise, he knew exactly where she was! He was abusive during their marriage, he married a really young woman to easier control and abuse her, sounds like he pushed the wedding ASAP so she wouldn’t see what he was truly like before he trapped her with marriage. Emily’s story just hurts so much to hear about, she sounded like such a lovely, kind, caring young woman, and that disgusting man stole her life!

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

I think he was such a creepy and distorted human that he doesn't actually realise what he says and does would be absurd and unthinkable to most.

[@wholesome.household6]

He expects everyone else to care as little about people as he does. People like that are always surprised, they can't understand how you can care about anyone other than yourself.

[@LindaYariger]

Appreciate your analysis. Oh, snap -- pushing up the wedding. Her parents had ALREADY noticed bruises. I wish she had not told him she was through, and just left. I feel so bad for her and her family.

[@qntkka]

J F Gariepe is sticking with that defense.

[@LindaYariger]

​@@It-is-me...Melsie Oh, wow. I think you nailed it.

[@UVtec]

Jesus, this guy. I applaud the cameraman that he managed to fit his ego inside the frame. Poor Emily and everybody who had to be in an abusive relationship.

[@derek04151]

You can tell he's making up the story in real time on the stand. He's not very self aware. His hesitation/reluctance in providing responses to questions he knows the answers to is very telling.

[@LindaYariger]

Tyvm! And he had 2 years in jail before his trial to craft his lies!

[@principlemethods5281]

He wasn’t all that good of a liar. You could just see in his tone and body language and especially the fake sorry afterwards that he was lying.

[@alrightyru]

He's a complete moron

[@StevieChilds]

It's so odd that these types of people think they're so intelligent and superior, yet some truly are idiots. They're own delusion completely overrides any self awareness.

[@ames2727]

@@LindaYarigerone would think having that long of a time to “create” his defensive “story,” he would have at least presented it in a more believable way with some crocodile tears or something !! 😂

[@laurap6534]

Some advice from a survivor . When you have had enough and decide to leave, do not tell your abuser . The most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is the leaving time . Abuse is about control. If you leave them, they won't have control . And they can't stand that.

[@lisahinton9682]

@laurap6534 I think you meant "...can't have that."

[@laurap6534]

@lisahinton9682 I add the 't that should fix it .

[@glennthomas2721]

"Hanky panky handies, handed out like cotton candy" is some elite work from Mike there! 😅

[@Preston-UNC]

To murder someone is crazy by itself, but how crazy do you have to be to kill someone then go to breakfast like nothing happened, come back dismember the body and then go to dinner? My god

[@aroseinwinter7719]

I have anxiety, but I cannot imagine the anxiety I’d feel after unaliving someone and then having to pretend everything is fine.

[@JM-The_Curious]

She was probably the one who made all his meals. So she *made* him kill her, and left him without a cook, meaning he *had* to go out to eat. Then all that sawing...because of *her*...he worked up such an appetite and there was no one to cook for him...what's a man gonna do?

[@horrortackleharry]

In the police interview, I think originally Joseph said the 'punching bag' stuff metaphorically. Only when the interviewer took it literally did he have the idea to paint himself as a DV victim.

[@foylandreth4060]

Truth! Joseph grabbed that idea outta the detectives mouth.

[@MrTeaTwoSugars]

I saw that too

[@mikeinkalaoa]

I couldn’t believe the detective thought he meant actual punching bag. It was almost like the detective was leading him down that road but probably to incriminate himself. Not like the lawyers leading questions, glad the judge called that.

[@Linda-iy3qh]

Exactly what I thought. He jumped on that idea!

[@tencentpistol1]

You can literally see the gears turning in his head after the detective said that

[@kendradamm1428]

Nothing says I love you like a romantic dismemberment anniversary trip. You know, being divorced and alone doesn’t seem so bad. At all. 😬

[@Gooner333333333]

It's amazing how many people claim self defence yet chop up the body

[@BlackSheep_216]

They were just scared🤦

[@samhang7229]

“Ahhh her body was attacking me!”

[@froagjumpington]

This was triggering for me because i dated a guy like this. Im so lucky i got out when i did. I was a 23 yo single mom and he was 37. He policed every single thing i did, wore, and ate. But he was allowed to do whatever he wanted, and eventually it came out that that included dating other women, despite his pathetic, childish jealousy. The day i dumped him i saw a look in his eyes ive never seen before in anyone elses, nor have i seen it since. It was like if ice could be on fire. I knew he wanted to hurt me. I called my stepdad who came and socked him in the face-- never saw him again. Nothing *inherently* wrong with an age gap. But in general, what older men want wifh younger women is CONTROL. Ladies, theyre relying on your naivety.

[@MsSonali1980]

I think the jealousy thing is, they can't understand how other people feel, so they project their own thoughts onto others. It's worse if they feel insecure, they hate that feeling and the there comes the paranoid thinking spiral. That's the reason they come off so happy in the beginning. They (yet) haven't found anything they can hang up themselves on and they don't feel any connection to a new person (depends maybe, if someone is the stalker type). Instable personality type, depending on how others perceive them (even if that perception is only made up in their own head). The irony, that we need to be able to detect this, whilst they go their lifes totally ignorant/unaware what actually is wrong with themselves.

[@ndawn90]

I think categorizing age gaps as a red flag is just about right. A red flag means - slow way down, take a huge step back, reflect on things, and proceed with caution. Same as if you found out your partner cheated in a previous relationship, or that they served prison time, or that they are an alcoholic. Things that may be overcome, and yes, people can change, but that requires a lot of work and introspection on both sides. Yes, sometimes big age gap relationships work out, but 9 times out of 10, the older person is intentionally dating much younger people because they are easier to manipulate and control. That's a big enough margin that it's worth labeling as a red flag. Approach with caution.

[@hermitbob7304]

Glad you got out. I've known some of my wife's friends who didn't get out. They're both still alive but often covered in bruises and trapped in a living hell. They drop charges, don't show up to testify, make all kind of excuses, and still insist the men love them and they need to do better.

[@orianablack6809]

Congratulations on getting out. I know that look your talking about i was in the similar situation and when I left I knew he was going to kill me .

[@continechestnut5845]

😂

[@juned1719]

I really wish women in their early 20’s would listen when older women tell them not to date or marry men 10+ years older than them. It’s not love, it’s never love, it’s control.

[@areinahensley2739]

I would not listen to that total BS

[@wrongplacerighttime]

Is this the exception and maybe not the rule? I can’t imagine my father that is 13 years older than my mom, would try and control her. Happily married for 40 years. This is a very subjective statement.

[@cocoadamonkey]

I’m already barking, big dog.

[@joetaylor486]

I hear ya!

[@hayleybayle]

Wooooffffffffffffff😂

[@sabrinatscha2554]

@hayleybayle bork

[@joearnold6881]

I’m that creep’s age and the thought of marrying someone half my age is absurd

[@kate9836]

Right?! I'm 40 and anyone under 35 is like a precious little foetus to me XD

[@MiralukaNaima]

Oh those kind of people (predators) especially pick young women because that girls don't have enough experience to identify their grooming and are easy prey. When those young women realize the shit they are in, it is too late and the psychos hold those poor girls in their clutch and already convinced them they cannot run away.

[@dr.decker3623]

@@kate9836 w/e gets you off i suppose

[@katybug6572]

Right?? Gross

[@TJbuffs]

@@kate9836 ew, that’s much more disturbing

[@adellababb8150]

Man, you can tell he is just making it up as he goes. HAPPY NEW YEAR MIKE!!

[@dtgci]

It's the casual way he eats while discussing THE PLAN that perfectly illustrates a sociopath going about their day.

[@catserver8577]

Hate him. Folks, if someone is being like this dude, do get out, but do not tell them your plan. Begin seeing the person as a person holding you against your will, and bide your time. Get away and do not look back. I know the reality tv shows make it seem like everyone argues violently and constantly, but this is not what a relationship is supposed to be. Be prepared to do anything to defend yourself. It's not normal. Someone will treasure you, and this is not what it looks like.

[@BrittanyBrouwers]

Couldn’t have said it better

[@jeanneganrude8549]

@@BrittanyBrouwersNor could I ~

[@RobardoHughes]

You are wasting your breath. Women who crave abusers are beyond help.

[@lalaj5831]

I’ve been married 24 years. We may have disagreements but very few to the point of yelling, never physical. I can’t believe anyone could think it’s normal to fight and bicker constantly.

[@shannonwireman8584]

Narcissistic people are dangerous… I’m not saying that all people with narcissism are killers. But being rejected, and called out on their lies, if they haven’t accepted their narcissism, and worked with a therapist to find a healthier way to balance their emotions, puts them in a dangerous mental state.

[@areinahensley2739]

There it is…. Spoken like someone who can’t just accept they were dumped and/or dated a jerk.

[@shannonwireman8584]

@ just the fact alone, that you don’t believe narcissism is a real issue, shows a high likelihood that you are someone suffering from it… I’m sorry dear….

[@hiho8084]

A tale as old as time.... a controlling, abusing person almost always escalates...

[@maryannjordan8143]

File under things people don’t know at twenty two

[@Luchingador]

and the women to insist on sticking w them

[@quickchris10]

Yeah, but ``escalates'' is one thing. Then cutting her up into little bits?! That is some serious psychopathy.

[@heiltotheking]

@@Luchingador how about we blame the men for BEING the controlling, abusive, cheating bastards instead of blaming the victims?

[@LindaYariger]

​@@heiltotheking AGREE. Unless there are children watching and/or receiving abuse.

[@tullochgorum6323]

Social worker here. If a man is ever violent in your relationship, simply get out. No negotiations. No second chances. No matter how difficult - get help from friends, family, church or social services and get yourself safe. You can't save them. You can't reform them. It never works out well. It's disturbing how often you find women who have been gaslit into believing that they are the cause of the issues. If you know anyone in this position, get advice and do whatever you can to help them leave!

[@tiaking2002]

If a “person” is ever violent in a relationship. Women can be just as violent.

[@tullochgorum6323]

@@tiaking2002 Intimate partner homicide is around 95% man-on-woman. Domestic violence against men does occur, but violence against women is overwhelmingly the larger issue - it's 20 times more common. So what point are you trying to make?

[@musikamusika1736]

What about women? I'm asking this because my ex hit me once, she regretted it, but I still broke up with her shortly after. Would she escalate, had I stayed? She was so abusive, I'm still struggling to heal, after almost a year.

[@tullochgorum6323]

@@tiaking2002 For some reason KZbin keeps dropping my comments. What I was saying is that around 95% of murders in intimate relationships are husband on wife. So male on female violence is 20 times more common. Domestic abuse by women is a serious problem when it does occur, but the overwhelming issue is men abusing women.

[@GlendaPaull]

Good advice. I hope that someone who needs it reads your comment. ♥️

[@heathernikki5734]

Don’t date a man 20 years older than you, and if you do, don’t marry him in just a few months or even a year or two. And don’t tell him you’re leaving , ever. I left while he was at work one day. He didn’t know where I went for almost a year.

[@areinahensley2739]

Nice victim blaming and he didn’t know where you were because he didn’t care to look.

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

Sometimes the guy who gives off creepy vibes really does turn out to be a creepy dude who is capable of doing things that most people would never.

[@peripheralparadox4218]

Always trust the vibes.

[@Joanne_Wilder]

I wonder what sort of sick satisfaction he got from stopping by to see her parents while her dead body was in the van all hacked up in pieces! "Oh, Emily? Your daughter? Yeah well we argued and she hopped out of the van in a desolate area, so I just drove off and left her". She's gone now. No big deal.

[@LiannaLovelle]

He has main character syndrome, expecting they’d be happy to see him and can’t comprehend that parents would be more focused on where their child was due to emotions, since he probably never understood love and caring… Pure narcissism with added psychopathy. Awful man.

[@Phearless7485]

I married my wife like 3-4 months after meeting her. Been married 18 years, she’s also still alive, nor is she missing.

[@HarmlessComment]

It sucks to imagine her living with him in that small space, no privacy at all or any way to avoid him and his anger.

[@LindaYariger]

Omg yes. Like Gabby Petito.

[@BennilocoLoves]

I'll bet the camper was always a part of his plan. Isolate..

[@houseofsolomon2440]

A lot of horrible things happened in that small school bus. Plus, Emily was adorable & looked so young - just an abominable crime.

[@froagjumpington]

​@houseofsolomon2440 right, this case actually shattered my heart. In the photos you can just tell she's a sweetheart. Poor little woman, and her poor family. In Uncle Tom's Cabin, a sweet little 5 year old girl dies and uncle Tom says something like "The earlier a soul is taken, the closer to God it was in life." That's really my only consolation when I hear awful stories like this.

[@stevens8185]

Making smart choices regarding him was not her forte.

[@Over60sowhat]

It's so sad when these people not only take the lives of another person, they also attempt to destroy their reputation. Just awful.

[@cattymajiv]

Imagine how much that hurts the family! I can't believe that with a violent crime rate that fluctuates between four times higher and NINE times higher than ALL other westernized countries, the people of the US do nothing what so ever to try to get this situation fixed! Why on earth do they tolerate the super high rate of murders? For every murder victim there are about 6 people who are left behind, and are suffering immensely!

[@LittleKikuyu]

Because it’s all about the money for people in power. Guns, drugs, etc. So much sweet sweet blood money …I mean business opportunities 😕 The USA is the place where capitalism is least reigned in and in my opinion it shows. Ordinary people are probably just collateral damage in this kind of dog eat dog system. Just a guess…🤷🏼‍♀️

[@jenniferkinnaird-estrada8815]

As a 41 year old woman I can unequivocally state we have zero in common with a 22 year old. Anyone my age going after someone so young, immature in life, and not yet truly started in their own journey is just looking for someone to control and manipulate. Usually someone that much older would be a loser and that’s why they go younger as the younger person won’t see their flaws or lack of success yet. She was so young and deserved to live and learn NORMAL things. He’s a monster

[@megschmeedafamc]

Well said. I'm 40. This age gap is wildly inappropriate and sad. He had NO business dating her, much less marrying her!!! What a freak. RIP Emily.

[@emeryltekutsu4357]

Same. I couldn't even fathom dating someone that young. You're practically still a kid at that age.

[@realfingertrouble]

I was 23 when I met my partner of 50...we were together 27 years til he died last year. I can't say it wasn;t ever an issue, but really out of all the things the age gap wasn't a biggie. It depends on the maturity of the people.

[@subliminal128]

@@realfingertroublestill sus.

[@realfingertrouble]

​@@subliminal128 I bet you're very sus with judgy opinions like that...Those that poke their nose in other's business are always hypocritical Karens. And almost definitely single, and I doubt you've ever had a fairly successful 27 year relationship?

[@Tahj-Leigh]

What could a 41 year old man possibly have in common with a 22 year old woman? He wanted someone to control. That poor girl

[@Vegan_Vlogs]

Exactly!

[@crownviclx2000]

I’m 36 and I can’t even talk to a girl whose under 25. They seem like a child almost. Immature if anything and like you said. Nothing in common. They never even lived life without a cell phone. It’s just weird. I had just said to my friend the other day that anyone under 25 seems like they have the mentality of a 15 year old to me. It’s weird. It’s super common with celebrities too. Take Leonardo DiCaprio, Anthony kiedis, Jerry Seinfeld, Celine Dion. Just to name a few. Really creepy creepy age gaps. Not just age gaps. A 40 year old marrying a 60 year old isn’t the same as a 40 year old and a 19 year old. It’s just weird IMO

[@areinahensley2739]

Hmmmm you think a 41 man needed something in “common”? Ever heard of mid-life crisis?

[@areinahensley2739]

@@crownviclx2000yeah 36 lol. Pretty sure “girls” don’t want your attention.

[@peripheralparadox4218]

Oh come on, many young women are attracted to older men, and most men are attracted to young women. Age difference has nothing to do with this case.

[@bassman8144]

41 and 22?! That’s a major red flag right there. Why can’t you get a woman your own age???

[@LeaLucero-j2c]

Due to the fact that women his age know that he is a complete psycho.

[@coreencasey5109]

Because he can control the naive ones better then older ones who are smarter.

[@chrsmcfrln]

If he was mega rich, good luck to her, but a tattoo artist? Nope!

[@bassman8144]

@ oh yeah if he had money that would be a totally different story but he was a two time loser.

[@LeaLucero-j2c]

@chrsmcfrln I can't believe someone as smart, caring, and wonderful as her, Miss Emily, ignored those -SCARLET- red flags!

[@shazp1651]

“It’s not a good idea to marry someone you have less of a relationship with than food still in your fridge” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Classic That Chapter comment and the reason I keep coming back for your dark stories. Happy New Year Mike 🎉

[@intruder313]

I do love the food though…

[@KittenTheB]

I agree. Either needs to be on a shirt or he needs a quote book/calendar with all the things he comes up with.

[@a_lucientes]

I cannot understand how the sister could think Emily would be sleeping in the camper day after day, night after night. Very well and tastefully done. We get a real sense of who Emily was and why she is so loved. Condolences to her loved ones.

[@mrsjackson9822]

“I never thought someone would push me to that” good gawd 🙄 victim blaming. Disgusting.

[@AndromedasLight17]

He married her because she was young & he wanted to control her. He married her very quickly to lock her down. The second he lost control, or felt he was about to lose it, her life was over. Emily, did nothing wrong because she I imagine she didn't thinj he would take it that far. ladies/guys if you are leaving NEVER tell your abuser. The first few days of leaving are also the most dangerous so delete your socials, & do not let anyone know where you are, except trusted individuals who may be helping you.

[@personincognito3989]

Or the first few months

[@Lanty-bb7li]

Never tell an abusive partner you’re going to leave. Plan ahead, and then get out while they’re not there

[@christopherm.3152]

The fact that his text didn’t autocorrect the word “ho” to “go” is indicative that this is a word he used often.

[@eddiemiller2969]

What a POS! Isnt it wonderful how he blames Emily for bringing it all on herself. He is a prime candidate for the death penalty.

[@pistol80]

He's just a sociopathic monster. He's talking about dismembering his wife with the level of emotion and concern one would while preparing a whole chicken for roasting. His anxiety and emotion is all about his own self preservation and ego.

[@Morbidmedusa]

I’ve never been more happy to be a reclusive gamer who sits at home and lives life in a calm manner and not out being a psycho 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@TaylorElizabethHunt]

I love your name. And agree with your statement.

[@Zepster77]

I’m glad you’re not out being a psycho too… 😅

[@veegura7823]

Joseph doesn't want to hold himself accountable, right when he's about to speak of how cold-hearted of a person he is, he quickly blames Emily so that he feels like he did what was supposed to be done like he saved himself from an alligator that almost ended him, he has no remorse no guilt at all. That poor girl dont deserve to be k*ll*d , may her soul rip❤

[@kelsiismirliesmusic]

I dated a guy strikingly similar to this person and it took my parents sitting me down and telling me that they were worried that they were going to end up burying me before I even saw the abuse. So so scary that "men" like this exist and it makes me sick.

[@3bonbot]

Those are some good ass parents! 👏

[@RobardoHughes]

What did your parents do to you? You know you are sick and you crave abuse. Women like you won't even give the time of day to guys who don't abuse them.

[@Kmkz-1989]

What attracted you to this "man" in the first place?

[@RobardoHughes]

@@Kmkz-1989 The imprint from her parents.

[@rocketqueen9456]

Same. It clicked when my father asked me what color dress i wanted to be buried in. I NEVER, EVER thought I'll put myself in that kind of situation. :(

[@adamaragon1350]

The 41 year old with a 22 year old is always a huge red flag

[@paulcarpenter7844]

I had to work friend that was in his early thirties his girlfriend is at the bar one day and I went up to him and I was like hey man how you doing and he said hey this is my old lady I looked at her said how you doing mam is this your mom he said no this is my girl she was at least 30 years older than him reminder he is 30s early

[@subliminal128]

@@paulcarpenter7844I was briefly seeing a woman that was in her late 40s when I was in my early 20s.

[@jennmoslek921]

Those cops were extremely calm for just finding bags of body parts...I'd have been screaming like my hair was on fire & there'd be a me shaped hole in the side of the van!

[@rabbitttz]

This made me giggle at 4am when I can’t sleep. Just picturing it haha

[@jennmoslek921]

@rabbitttz 😁

[@RobardoHughes]

The guilty always overact.

[@ServiceUnavailable]

Very likely seen worse and there is no point in freaking out when you're there to the calm, cool, collected. We hope anyway

[@YIKESMF]

Good thing you aren't a cop then?

[@SockDrawerDemon]

People calling emergency services are a perfect example of how communication skills fail us when in a new and scary situation. Good on the friend for calling right away.

[@lindaellis4411]

I can’t help but Benj on all your videos, I go back and watch ones iv seen. You are just the best. And I love ya.

[@CrazyPixieFairy]

I am so tired of the victim blaming. It's disgusting.

[@Mitzi13]

I sometimes wonder if people like him say those things to blame her because he truly feels that way, that he was nagged to his wits end… or if he knows it’s all bs and just says those things to blame her and try to get sympathy from whoever he’s talking to. My guess is he knows he’s the monster and only says it to seem like a victim.

[@JustKelso1993]

Eh, depends on what you classify as victim blaming.

[@CrazyPixieFairy]

@@JustKelso1993 when the suspect blames the victim for their own actions towards the victim & saying things that make it seem like they are the victim not the aggressor. That's what I mean by victim blaming.

[@CrazyPixieFairy]

@@Mitzi13 exactly I totally agree with your statement about him knowing it's all bs & is only saying it to get sympathy & look like he's the victim.

[@good2golden803]

Poor guy. He was simply defending himself! (That’s what my ex also told our daughter after he promised next time ‘won’t be so nice’ while his hand was around my throat.) It changed my world.

[@1wolsk]

When he said, "You don't get to treat people like that"... I feel like that is something she said to him.

[@CooganE]

Joseph's behaviour on the stand at his trial whilst being cross-examined by State revealed his true character. He was patronising, passive-aggressive and used gaslighting tactics. When questioned by his attorney (who spoke to him like he was a little boy) he was meek, placid and fragile; all an act. I believe he is a psychopath with narcissistic traits, from observing him as an outsider. I can only imagine what it must be like to live with him: controlling and apt to playing mind-games; a nasty bully. Poor Emily RIP sweetheart.

[@beaulieuc8910]

We are more educated on narcissism now, we can spot red flags much earlier. Dr les and dr rahmani are great on KZbin

[@areinahensley2739]

Yeah he lied.

[@stevecarroll6760]

Now his prison roommate has to deal with his narcissism

[@Theblessing-UL]

I’ve been binge watching your videos on my free time. Your channel is better than Netflix, really any subscriptions. Well done!

[@MesiBlaze]

What a POS. Bet he thought he was doing a great job at pretending to be a heartbroken little victim. RIP Emily, you deserved so much better.

[@jimmyzhao2673]

My gosh, and the defense lawyer spoon feeding him his delusions.

[@Rayna-gn3ni]

25:05 "It starts off with HER." Abuser. He could've just left, still been friends with his ex-wife, and Emily would still be alive. Edited to add: abusers don't let the abused leave. She said herself she was leaving, and that's what ultimately pushed him to kill her. He manipulated her horrifically, and when she was ready to break away, he killed he for it. LADIES, never tell someone you're leaving EVER. Especially when there was domestic violence in the past. May E.ily rest in peace because God knows she tried to find it by finally leaving that monster. Which he ruined her for. So. Sad.

[@juventisa23]

When you see a relationship move that fast there is always problems in the end.

[@areinahensley2739]

Tell that to my parents married 56 years.

[@icouldbeevil3110]

Hey Mike. I just wanted to tell you that you definitely found your calling with this channel you created. You are the best storyteller out there. Even if the story is dark, you bring a light to it in the most respectful ways. I wanted to tell you how much I appreciate what you do. Thank you Mike.❤

[@rachellegervais7677]

I concur !!

[@shonabeggs4640]

As do I. There is not another channel like this.

[@Julia-uh4li]

What a lovely sentiment for Mike. Happy New Year! 🎉

[@maryherbst3693]

No truer words were spoken (er, written lol)

[@jeanneganrude8549]

Mike seems to give us a sense of peace while telling us truly gruesome tales. He’s a gem. 💎

[@trista33]

I have a tattoo done by this monster too. It was the most uncomfortable tattoo I've ever sat through. It felt like he intentionally did a heavy handed job. He seemed dark, like a demonic spirit was inside him... his eyes were dark and empty. I have never felt more uneasy and was so grateful to get out of there. Now every time I see the tattoo I think of Emily and the monster who ended her life. 💔

[@alrightyru]

Oh wow that's crazy, I hope at least the art is good or you can have it covered

[@jennycoyle8204]

He looks like a guy with a really dark energy around him, I’m so sorry you had to sit through that 💗

[@Ineedanewusernamepronto]

There are definitely some tattoo artists (just some, not all or most) who are very unsavory, who probably chose the work in part because they like to cause pain.

[@6205100]

I'm sorry to hear that, when you make one you always want it to represent you and give yourself joy. If you can't affort/want to remove or cover maybe just add something little to it, maybe feels like "taking it back" you know.

[@jslaughterofthesoul4939]

I hope it's at least a good tattoo

[@bonniesapka-amedio1952]

Thanks!

[@CJLOVE23]

What an absolute creep!!! How scary for poor Emily 😢 RIP beautiful woman

[@jenford7078]

I'm a strong proponent of domestic abuse education on a continual basis throughout middle and high school. I have worked in education as well as have known many people that just would not leave or stay away from abusers. Men as well as women, we need to build stronger and less dependent people.

[@areinahensley2739]

Yeah no need to focus on not abusing someone. I need you to focus on that during health class and leave raising strong children to the parent.

[@ms.krueger2660]

I was in one of these relationships. Married to the man for a year. He was controlling. He was 8 years older. I was 21. He accused me of seeing other people. He was my first. He told me I was lying about that. He was only verbally abusive. Thank God I think he was afraid of my Dad. I also did not know him for long before marriage. Found out I was number 5. After I threw him out. He stalked me for months. Also he moved in with a new woman right after me. I am sure he was the one sleeping around. He finally left with the new woman. It was over. I was still afraid for years snd years and had bad dreams. I married again at 23. Great man. Been married for 36 years. If they are violent before you get married. RUN!!!!! You can’t change them.⭐️ Also don’t let them convince you it’s your fault that they hurt you. It’s not!!!

[@areinahensley2739]

Didn’t happen

[@ppeasie]

​@@areinahensley2739you're not real

[@kaj73]

He's pure evil. Saying she punched him. Horrible waste of space and oxygen. RIP sweet Emily ❤️🙏

[@KarateKowBoy]

The food in the fridge joke was good haha

[@letsgobrandon1300]

Yeah it was, I said to myself. "That's s good one mike!'

[@melaniejerrils3671]

did he really say he was a punching bag and that she shouldn't treat people the way she treated him like for real?

[@kitherit]

The thing that disgusts me most about cases like this is that in nearly every single case the husband blames his wife for everything. He accuses her of cheating on him, while he is invariably the one cheating on her. Nearly every single domestic violence case I've seen follows this exact same pattern. I will say this: As a single female adult, having watched so many cases like this, it's made me keenly aware of these signs of potentially abusive men. Knowing these signs, knowing what to watch out for, I hope that I can avoid falling victim to this type of situation, myself. (I'm not going to claim that it'd be impossible for me to fall victim to domestic violence, because I've also seen how manipulative these men can be, pretty well brainwashing their wives so it's nearly impossible for them to escape.) PS: I'm very aware that women can be the abusers as well, but we see these situations in reverse less often, and I don't actually know if these same signs are as common with women abusers.

[@MFLimited]

You’re completely right. Let’s be real. I’m actually very suspicious of people who answer stories of men abusing women with “ women do it too, women are just as bad”. They sound an awful lot like the guy in the video. Of course, if a man is being beaten up by a woman, he should get out. Statistically it is less common and statistically it is massively less common for a woman to kill her male partner. Massively. There is no evidence implying that a man’s life is in danger when he has just newly left a woman. There is no “just as bad“ about it. So don’t apologise. If any person is being abused, they should leave the person who is abusing them. But, men do not live in fear that the next woman they fall in love with is going to beat them to a pulp and kill them.

[@MFLimited]

You’re completely right. Let’s be real. I’m actually very suspicious of people who answer stories of men abusing women with “ women do it too, women are just as bad”. They sound an awful lot like the guy in the video. Of course, if a man is being beaten up by a woman, he should get out. Statistically it is less common and statistically it is massively less common for a woman to kill her male partner. Massively. There is no evidence implying that a man’s life is in danger when he has just newly left a woman. There is no “just as bad“ about it. So don’t apologise. If any person is being abused, they should leave the person who is abusing them. But, men do not live in fear that the next woman they fall in love with is going to beat them to a pulp and kill them.

[@MFLimited]

I’m trying to leave you a really complimentary reply, but KZbin keeps making it disappear

[@laratheplanespotter]

Oh heck ye! Last if 2024. Have a good new year everyone! Thanks Mike!!

[@ThatChapter]

Happy New Year Lara!

[@AJManol]

He mirrored his actions onto her. I guarantee he believes his own b.s. She mortified his ego by daring to threaten to leave him, and narcissist's just can have that. He can’t STAND being confronted in a corner with undeniable evidence of what he did. He got hit in the groin when she was trying to fight him off. It’s eerie to consider his description of the event is likely what he did, not her. Her final moments.

[@ash_tray]

My ex boyfriend tried to murder me after he found out I was trying to leave him for good after an entire relationship of cheating & abuse. This is classic behavior. “I didn’t think anyone could push me to do that” I rolled my eyes so hard they almost fell out. They have to make themselves seem like the victim in every situation. She didn’t deserve to die. Rest in peace Emily

[@Kenneth-tz4sx]

His possessive behavior was "a big red flag." Marrying someone twice your age before you even know their favorite color is an ENORMOUS RED FLAG.

[@TheVertigoalley]

“If you have food in your fridge older than your relationship, that’s a red flag”😂😂😂

[@janewarren2403]

Watched you for years Mike, never missed an episode. You should really think of becoming a lawyer you’d be outstanding in a courtroom! Keep up the good work me and hubby absolutely love watching ! 👌

[@kathygraham6251]

how can you look at that guy and think anything but 'RUN!'

[@emloughh5]

Such a beautiful soul, Emily. Men like that seek out younger women because they tend to be more naive. A 40 year old has nothing in common with a 21 year old. He's a predator.

[@MFLimited]

Alas, I don’t think ageism is the answer to domestic violence. men also kill women their own age.

[@stancexpunks]

Beautiful soul? Idk… maybe. Honestly though, she seems reckless af, ignoring the biggest red flags in existence. and you can’t blame it all on naivety because we have all been 22 at one point in time but vast majority of us haven’t put ourselves in situations even remotely as bad as this.

[@chelseab.2706]

​@stancexpunks The human brain isn't fully developed until around 25. Reckless decision-making is one of the traits surrounding this. It's why there is such debate about what the legal drinking age should be. Why they tend to drive more recklessly, party harder etc. Young adults can't fully understand consequences for their actions.

[@emloughh5]

@@stancexpunks Victim blaming... nice. We all make stupid decisions especially before our prefrontal cortex is even fully developed. It can be very easy for someone to charm a much younger person, someone who is vulnerable and naive. Not to mention she was very obviously abused physically, emotionally, and mentally which I am sure made it that much harder for her to leave.

[@belladamex767]

Congrats on over 2 mil subs Mike. I’ve been watching your channel for years and also watched your growth. I feel like it was just yesterday I was congratulating you on a mil subs!! Hope you keep growing, no matter the content, you always keep it not too depressing to watch with your wit and humour with sincerity due to the severity of these cases. Well done on a successful channel!! From 🇦🇺

[@_taymariexx]

The one thing he says to her is you don't treat people like this lmao he's so delusional. I'm sure all those things she "said" to him were literally just the thoughts going through his own head.

[@TheGooglyminotaur]

Do you watch What We Do in the Shadows? There’s a scene where a character is listing ways another has wronged him. The other says, “Stop saying things I have done!” Like the guy is a jerk for mentioning bad acts. I think about that scene a LOT because it’s so true of so many people.

[@_taymariexx]

@@TheGooglyminotaur I don't buy that sounds interesting!! Wow lol yeah like the people are the bad ones for calling them out on their own behavior. Craziness.

[@robertsutton8264]

A 41 year old married to a 22 year old? WTF???Something not right here! Happy New Year Mike, and long life to ya!

[@karenallen5208]

As always, Mike this is a great video. I'm so sorry for this young woman. Frankly, I don't know what she saw in him to begin with; he has nothing to offer. My heart really goes out to her parents, and I'm sure they'll forever regret not sternly intervening to stop this dating, much less marriage. Does he really think placing blame on her is going to earn him any brownie points before the judge? He's just not overly smart.

[@jamielovett2451]

U can tell he literally thought he was justified for the entire thing. He didn't seem to have a problem blaming her for everything that happened. What a POS! 🤬💯 On a happier note I hope that everyone has a fantastic & safe New Year's!! Happy New Year's Mike! Cant wait to see your upcoming stories! 💯 Thanks for all you do!😁

[@velotraveler]

Blame the victim for being sliced and diced. Pathetic.

[@Therearethings8148]

Don`t!

[@LindaYariger]

Omg no!! Just wishing Emily had realized, after her premarital bruises, that people like that won't change.

[@DorothyV24]

He had the great idea to take the stand at his trial!😂 Idk what Emily saw in him, I wouldn't be surprised if he somehow forced her to go on this trip.

[@hermione10663]

Love when people say they were worried that someone would “ruin their life” but then proceed to ruin their own lmao

[@naomiledger1374]

Right! 🤣 Morons.

[@BranceCrantly]

No one in their 40's should be interested in dating anyone in their 20's. It's just gross. I heard that, and was like, "Red flag!"

[@MFLimited]

What if the woman is the one in her 40s? Still a recipe for murder?

[@Darthweezer]

There's always a reason these losers can't find anyone closer to their age. This case here's another example. Just add it to the pile.

[@MFLimited]

@@BranceCrantly unfortunately I don’t think ageism is the cure for violence or perversion. Plenty of women get terribly hurt by men their own age.

[@LindsayWalker-nw6pr]

does that mean the dude I like that's divorcing his wife whoms 20 years younger is a red flag??