Husband’s Drinking Is Affecting Our Money

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[@TheSUPERHAPPY1]

I really appreciate that Jade acknowledges that their are certain instances when finances should not be combined. example: substance abuse

[@pseudopuppy160]

... and EVERY instance where a woman wants to ensure that she has financial security, and not hand over her entire safety (physical and financial) to a human who is more often than not, controlled by their little winkie, and incapable of logical thought.

[@atenas80525]

"Behavior is a language" - PROFOUND on multiple levels

[@garys8415]

Alcohol can be a deal breaker in marriage.

[@AS-gf5jn]

Yup. Or in any relationship if they're a drunkard fool.

[@miketheyunggod2534]

Two days fool.

[@elonmusk9935]

Alcohol isn’t the problem, millions & millions of people around the world drink alcohol & their lives are perfectly fine. The problem is addiction, a disease of the mind (and body), but mostly the mind, that’s why addiction is considered a mental health disorder.

[@joeriveracomedy]

No it isn't. She still married him and every chick I know drools over losers.

[@tduck828]

Yep. Its why I'm divorced.

[@Fred1294]

Drop him off at the bar , leave him there and start a new life. This is an endless cycle that will never end. She is not happy.

[@braddavid902]

You can hear it on her voice

[@lisahaynes5108]

I did not want to laugh but omg! Drop him off at the bar! Lol.

[@Songbird36able]

​@@lisahaynes5108😂😂😂

[@zoeyredmond5501]

So they guy works all week and then drinks in his own home on the weekends and their response is “he’s a dangerous alcoholic and everything is his fault”…. That’s insane, we don’t even know how much he drinks, what he does or how much he spends, they just jumped to the worst conclusion about this guy without even looking at any other factors as well as the possibility she is overreacting to a guy drinking on the weekends which is completely normal.

[@beck943]

​@@zoeyredmond5501No. Drinking to the point of blacking out, week after week, is NOT normal. He IS an alcoholic and he needs help.

[@FancyRPGCanada]

I just really love and appreciate these two for counseling people in abusive situations to get out instead of staying in

[@Jdonaleshen]

Our lives changed when my husband gave up alcohol 6 years ago. Being a dry house changed our lives in more than just one way. He got motivated and has drive in every area of his life.

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

Boooo

[@APRzz]

@@HOLDXSTEELshut up troll

[@otrebla8944]

Glad he changed for the better.

[@BenKistner]

I have mad respect for your husband. That's a selfless man.

[@Jdonaleshen]

@@BenKistnerme too!! I am so glad he chose us over drinking when I gave him the ultimatum. He never looked back

[@diceportz7107]

I lived this life. This sucks so much for her. There is no easy answer. There is no forcing it either. I'll pray for her.

[@firstlast8258]

Tots and pears 🍐

[@Melissa-xy9tn]

I’ve lived this life for many years and feel for this caller. I hope she takes this advice to heart and takes care of herself. Wishing her the best ❤

[@cassieblack1776]

You can tell there’s a good amount of people in the comments who either didn’t grow up around a drinking problem which is good or think drinking every week three days straight to the point the budget goes off the rails is okay. Like this isn’t healthy. I’m glad this was only 6 months and not 6 years. Anyone would be considered an alcoholic if they drank half the week.

[@beck943]

Exactly! Drinking to the point of blacking out, week after week, is not just having a few drinks.

[@MatthewBachar-rc3iv]

Alcohol is poison

[@pseudopuppy160]

addiction in denial / refusal to deal = DIVORCE

[@melissaarguello5684]

Growing up my dad was a violent alcoholic who lost his job because he got drunk, beat up my mom and made a complete ass out of himself. He would be so drunk that he would be passed out in his truck at the stop lights and my mom would go through his pockets just to get money for groceries so we could eat. It was awful. This woman definitely needs help because people who are in any kind of active addiction are not safe to be around.

[@APRzz]

Wow I’m so sorry you had to grow up like that. That’s a really sad situation to be a part of

[@eileenwatt8283]

I so relate to what you witnessed. I don't have alcoholics in my family but I grew up in a town with rum distilleries and pubs and 99.99% of the men who worked there were drunks. On Fridays they go to the bars and drank. The wives/ girlfriends would go to the bar pleading with them for money to go to the supermarket. They had none left. Their kids would beg lunch money at school and I would give them. The dads were an embarrassment to their children. They would come to the principal office drunk asking to see their children. The dads died early too.

[@JuanGomez-jd1es]

I'm sorry for what you went through but there are levels of alcoholism. I'm guessing it also has to do with how conscientious people are.

[@Taylormademan900]

He hasn't faced any legal consequences yet. The day will come especially in this era when the DUI shows up and all types of other legal consequences. He can wreck his car, kill someone behind the wheel, and then he ruins his life along with hers. I had a friend who refused to grow up. He worked for the city and got caught drinking in the company truck. This was over 20 years ago and he lost his wife, house, and family but still hasn't put down the bottle.

[@otrebla8944]

Smh. Your friend will NEVER change unless he admits that he has a problem. He deserved to lose all that he did. It was a matter of time before he dragged down everyone else around him.

[@Taylormademan900]

@@otrebla8944 I cut him off. 20 years later he reached out to me saying he's changed. A few days later he calls me up drunk mummering his words. So I told him what a piece of crap he is and I blocked him. I have my boundaries and dealing with an alcoholic is not something I tolerate.

[@jmanrock11]

She said he drinks at home. How is he gonna get a DUI? So no hes not gonna kill someone behind the wheel.

[@otrebla8944]

@@jmanrock11 he may eventually get behind the wheel, though.

[@Taylormademan900]

@@jmanrock11 I'm sure he does. She just didn't mention it.

[@machutson5493]

Grew up in an alcoholic family, both parents. Pure torture, in every way. I feel for her. Couldn't wait to leave and be on my own.

[@AS-gf5jn]

Sorry to hear that. It really is a horrible thing to be around. Pure evil comes out. Take good care and stay healthy!

[@machutson5493]

@@AS-gf5jn Much appreciated

[@pi8582]

I don't care if he's only spending 20 on alcohol it's 20 to much when you don't have the money for it. I working in a grocery store and this couple had a 20 pack of beer and a pack of diapers. They didn't have enough for both the guy made her put the diapers back. Everyone in line was upset 😔 seeing what was more important to him and her not saying no.

[@michaela6073]

“Let me tell you how you feel, and do you agree with my assessment” is a terrible way to go about it

[@GratefulDeb270]

She will find another alcoholic unless she heals her stuff. ❤

[@kensmith2796]

You are so right. My sister has been married to an unemployed alcoholic for 30 years. But she was dating another unemployed alcoholic before him. It's definitely a cycle that repeats without therapy.

[@carolannskinner1964]

Notice how she makes excuses for him

[@tonimilstead5089]

She's a doormat.

[@pinkkfloydd]

I've caused massive strain in my prior relationships because of alcoholism. Not to mention the financial, mental, emotional, and sometimes even physical damage I'd do to myself. I finally decided that being better started with me. The responsibility was ultimately mine. The addict needs to want to change and take action to make that change. You can't have others help you if you don't help yourself. I'm now 9 months sober, and I had been 6 months sober before slipping up once.

[@paulatristan8189]

Im gonna agree with troyanthony a little bit. The Dave Ramsey show is fine to listen to. I've noticed though that the show has turned into a therapy/counseling/ marriage/child advice show now instead of a financial show. Also when couple's who are having trouble within the marriage call for financial advice "John Delony" puts words in the couples mouth. He adds on a lot more than what the woman or man is talking about. I can hear much of the time that John adds to and gives his input without the person who called in even has a say so. Let that person who called in "speak" and dont interrupt John. Let that person tell you how they feel, not what you assume🙄. This show should be called The Dave Ramsey clinical hour. Its not the same anymore.

[@DudeMuscle]

Yes, why constantly add scenarios that were not mentioned? No one that’s actually trying to help would create fake scenarios to make it sound worse than it is.

[@paulatristan8189]

@@DudeMuscle + I get it, I know. Agreed 💯 👍🏽

[@dungeonmaster6292]

Targetted to women

[@Rcp6368]

Getting your spouse who blows all their money on drinking every weekend into AA is financial advice

[@paulatristan8189]

@@Rcp6368 + and that financial advice falls under THERAPY from John Delony💁🏻‍♀️

[@fauxbro1983]

Are you safe? -"Dr." Daloney

[@auemmjee]

70 women are killed by their male partners every month.

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

Dr platitude is a complete worthless hack

[@anthonydelgiudice3245]

a lot of important questions not asked in this one

[@troyanthony6526]

I miss the old Dave Ramsey show that was on radio. This YT channel has gone astray from The Dave Ramsey Show. Fortunately there’s other YT financial channels, I just miss the OG Dave Ramsey program

[@dungeonmaster6292]

This content is targetted at women

[@evr0.904]

@@dungeonmaster6292 Yup. Ramsey only teaches the Bible when it's convenient to his message. He ignores it the rest of the time.

[@doctorposting]

@@dungeonmaster6292guess why, the dudes are the ones with the problems

[@jacquelinedelarosa7170]

hii!! Wow I feel bad for her :(( hope he puts his health and family first and gets the help he needs!!

[@miketheyunggod2534]

It’s just the weekend. John being dramatic again.

[@jacquelinedelarosa7170]

@@miketheyunggod2534 I mean I get it but at the same time you can legit hear the fear in her voice. Probably becoming too much and he’s drunk the entire weekend. Imagine working 5 days a week and being excited to spend time with ur significant other. Waiting for the weekend just for them to basically say screw you and delve into an alcohol trance for 3 days straight? I can see why it maybe a problem after 6 months

[@front331]

I would just lose it in laughter if I called the show and Delony was on the call and brought up my safety issues.

[@mirabella2154]

😂

[@terriesmith2616]

....but are you safe? 😏

[@pjones24ful]

My child’s father was an alcoholic. I left the moment I found out I was pregnant. I chose my son’s life of happiness over his drinking and abuse. I hope you find a way out

[@shawnanderson7858]

What I got from the call is that the husband drinks at home on the weekends. John automatically assumed he's an alcoholic and that she's in danger. The caller didn't even give the slightest mention of him being abusive. For all we know the husband is an honest hard working man who likes to drink on the weekends. Hello, welcome to America!

[@_RiseChampions]

How could you say her husband doesn’t love her dude? I struggled with alcohol for 3 years, I didn’t hate my wife for it. Don’t salt their marriage just because the guy has internal issues brother, don’t tear a family apart emotionally when they’re at the lowest point. Definitely believes he needs to take a different action, cause changing habits is more than using your words. Powerful video overall.

[@Cathy-xi8cb]

I agree. He could love her dearly. Love is hardly enough.

[@purplerainx99]

Heres the reality, if you are subjugating your family to discomfort and pain due to your own internal struggles, you are not truly loving your spouse, kids, family, friends. Internally you can love your wife to the moon and back, but if youve made her unsafe, or put others in danger, its not love. Thats what Delony means by behavior is a language.

[@_RiseChampions]

@@purplerainx99 Only people who have never been truly in love say this crap. Dude pain is unavoidable, period. Just because my wife can cause me or our kids pain in life does not mean she does not love me. Sometimes it’s just a by product of their internal struggle or hardship, but it has nothing to do with them not loving me. It’s them not loving themselves. People have truly gone soft in the relationship domain. Just get thicker skin and have more patience, even if it means creating space in a healthy manner. You guys act like she’s getting her knocked around or something. And I doubt that’s the case🫡. Dudes just weird for throwing her man down like that, even she hesitated to agree.

[@FloppedPizzaParty]

​@@_RiseChampionsexactly. I wanted to say, it's only people that have never faced addiction or pain from substances, that says this stuff. It's not reality that you don't love your partner just because your addiction gets in the way of your responsibilities with that relationship. It's simply, you have an addiction to a substance that you're working on.

[@eileenwatt8283]

​@@_RiseChampions addicts Addicts first love is their substance. Noone comes before that. Sure he can love his wife but she's in a relationship with his first love too. It's a losing situation for her. She's not his first choice.

[@joeriveracomedy]

Got my nails did but tells callers to skip their nail & hair appointments.

[@MichaelSavage-zq6gv]

John made a ton of assumptions lol

[@wbae1340]

Surprised they just don’t spread the message on this show to avoid alcohol entirely.

[@whitneyjohnson9461]

I pray for this girl, I lived this. It takes time but you will be ok.

[@tonytoni1150]

Many relationships aren’t what they seem. You never know what’s going on behind the scenes.

[@kensmith2796]

That's very true. My sister married an alcoholic. She's been financially successful and supports them both as he has never worked. However, she introduces him as a former college professor, author, etc. I'm sure the neighbors know the truth when they hear him dragging the recycle bin to the curb every Sunday with the sound of the bottles clanging. But they work very hard at keeping the facade that everything is okay at home.

[@firstlast8258]

Never say Never

[@djpuplex]

I'd love to her side. Specifically how she handles the budget. Delony immediately throws gasoline on the fire. Full blown alchi just on her word.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

At this point it doesn’t matter about the budgeting issues, he has to do the work to get sober. Weekend drinking causes so many other downstream effects such as isolation, anger, etc. therapists, financial advisors, coaches will always tell you they can’t do anything until the person is SOBER!

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

@@flashthecorgi2053screw that live life we’re all dead anyway

[@Themoomabides]

You the drunk husband? Lol

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

Dr platitude would go broke and suit into Oblivion if he had a private practice with his cookie cutter terrible advice

[@macklonrobinson8269]

Tech support was sweating for a sec there

[@Thebignagro]

Dude the price of alcohol in the usa is sooooooo cheap i can drink my face off every day and still put 30k a year into retirement per year

[@kimberleyhunter6815]

The full video looks a little different than the short.

[@michaela6073]

Them talking way more than her?

[@Nikki-ks6wi]

He doesn’t see? Girl you don’t see this isn’t going to work atleast until he’s in his own to get clean

[@GratefulDeb270]

He’s medicating pain. ❤

[@ginoturano6821]

I love how Jade is giving advice while wearing a Nirvana shirt 👍👍👍👍

[@pojack9979]

Love the sweatshirt 🤘🏻

[@grizzly5592]

Great advice as always

[@rldeuce8829]

Never even mentioned how much was being spent. 😂😂😂😂

[@SRD1281]

That's besides the point for this caller. The broader issue is his abuse.

[@Lorrowen1]

Oh bless he’s drunk so much he’s lost his memory.

[@dungeonmaster6292]

John BALONEY

[@Connor4x4]

It's honestly a tragedy that most adults still abuse substances and act like spoiled teenagers.

[@9liveslisa]

For what it is worth, she needs to get out of that house and probably that marriage. She should go to Al-Anon, it helped me make that decision many years ago, because I could see other people and families going through the same thing I was going through with my spouse. I also learned how I personally was part of the problem. So it was educational and I had support while I was trying to figure out what I was going to do. A lot of people in Al-Anon stay with their spouses, but I chose to leave if he continued to drink. That was the best decision for me. I wish her the best of luck.

[@suek7086]

AlAnon saved our family and my sanity 48 years ago. My husband went to AA and I am still grateful.

[@miguelangelclaudio6848]

Is it me or there are no crypto videos when BTC is going up, but a bunch of them when is crashing? Interesting.

[@christyneandgeraldg2874]

Wonder if he got a house that have equity, he could sell out, pay off his debt n live smaller in an apartment. Idk

[@grayandgray]

I didn't know AA level alcoholics could regulate to the weekends. This is a pretty extreme "0-60" analysis. She started saying his weekend disrupted the budget and now she has to issue ultimatums? What about shopping? Some guy tells his wife "if you can't stop ruining our budget, you can find me at my brothers". She didn't say anything about safety, abuse, etc. from this spending choice. Oh yeah, it's a disease too. "in sickness and in health" for the religious in the room...

[@crow-vz5lx]

Alcohol is one reason i left my wife

[@dirtyred-ch7mk]

Good choice. Alcohol is more important than a wife.

[@willelliott5052]

I'm not defending the the excessive drinking, but I don't care for the way that Dr. John often accuses the party who is not there to defend themselves of behavior that is worse than what is described by the caller, and pressures the caller to agree with him with phrasing such as 'he also does this, doesn't he?' He doesn't know that she is not "safe" in the home and should not pretend that he does.

[@alexanderbernard2038]

Spot on, he always does that. When a caller does actually disagrees with one of his forced answered questions, he then tries to make the caller feel like their answer is not genuine if it’s not the same one as his. It’s so manipulative.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

One 2:13 Dr. D asked you don’t even feel safe in your home, do you? She responded with NO. Also, Safe is not just physical. It’s emotional, financial, and relational safety. When this guy blows the budget it makes her unsafe because now they don’t know if they have money for food, etc. Dr. John is right on the money. Anybody who struggles with addiction is unsafe and needs to go get well because they aren’t in their right state of mind!

[@kbanghart]

​@@alexanderbernard2038nah I think most of you just don't like him

[@alexanderbernard2038]

@@kbanghart you’re not wrong. I don’t.

[@TheFlyingZulu]

Lol yup... and don't even try to think about if this was a guy that called in saying that his wife was drinking like this. John would be asking the dude "so what are you doing to her that forces her to drink like that?!?"

[@hittingthewall]

And another couple who needs a head shrink, not a money shrink...

[@Snacks1991]

They od attacked him cuz he drink on th3 weekend? She probably don't work and he bringing all the money home 😂😂

[@Snacks1991]

@@purplehummingbird7181 he's in a house he purchased with the job he has he's not in a club

[@APRzz]

@@Snacks1991that doesn’t matter. They agree to not spend money and he violates it and blows that off every weekend Alcohol ruins trust and marriages

[@brandon18054]

@@APRzzWomen ruined marriage long before alcohol did.

[@amireallythatgrumpy6508]

Doesn't change the fact that consuming alcohol is stupid.

[@auemmjee]

​@@Snacks1991you're making assumptions. Also, most men do not provide for their wives. The majority of couples are in two-income households.

[@olivewoo522]

Why is Jade wearing a Nirvana top? 😅

[@MrBrewman95]

Very professional. 😂

[@Songbird36able]

I wish she could talk without saying "like". I dont think she'll do it because she's operating off emotions.

[@DrmanoRanja]

Dr. I feel you on the whole alcohol thing, but let's not jump to conclusions about this woman's story. She's putting all the blame on her husband for spending a ton of cash on booze, but I think there's more to the story. Maybe we should know what each of them is bringing in and where the money's going. If the guy isn't hitting the bottle every day and he's not even working, well, it's not all on him, right? Just saying, there might be more holes in her story than we're seeing

[@swannyriver75]

I would like to hear what he says

[@dealerofgame]

"My husband likes to drink" Maybe you should of thought about that before marriage

[@AS-gf5jn]

Probably young and naive, nobody taught her the poor thing. Likely a sweet gal that just got caught up in love without having her eyes open.

[@dnah02]

Yep

[@MrBrewman95]

What’s your household alcohol consumption? 😂

[@KS_1995]

No more dressing nice on Ramsey?

[@dnah02]

The seater shirt looks like a candy wrapper lol

[@fashionablycheapextra]

She called for financial help, not on how to end her marriage. Give her financial solution

[@mikeshaw4610]

Agree with them. I like to drink but it has to be done within the extra in he budget, if there is any, and in moderation.

[@DoctorSmartyPants]

We have no idea if the caller's husband is an alcoholic or if he even has an alcohol addiction. Does he drink 3 beers on Friday night, 3 beers on Saturday and then a couple on Sunday?? Hardly an addiction. Does he go out and do this? If so, there may be a whole different reason, like maybe hanging out with friends, meeting new people, taking a break from his wife, etc. This is what should be explored. On the other hand, does he drink nonstop starting Friday after work until bedtime Sunday night? Nonstop being, say, three 12 packs? That would be different. But honestly, if a person is an alcoholic, they would not be able to be off of alcohol during the weekdays. John should know better and stop scaring people who call in.

[@DontAtMe2k24]

Agreed. Someone enjoying a beer every weekend doesn’t make you an alcoholic. I’ve seen wives freak out on husbands after they had two 12oz miller lites…. For the first time in a month.

[@cillLove87]

Sounds like he need help with drinking

[@dungeonmaster6292]

Sounds as if he does just fine with it

[@michaelhenton159]

What the actual fuck is wrong with this dude 😂 I swear, John is a literal predator. There is absolutely no reason he should be doing this as much as he does- plants seeds in women’s heads that their husband is abusive and that they should leave. You can tell in these ladies’ voice they don’t really believe it, but he’s in an authority position so they start questioning themselves. *John* “So you tell me your husband is gambling a little too much- but what you’re actually saying is you’re terrified to be around him, RIGHT?” *Caller* “My husband drinks a lot and it’s messing up our finances. That’s really the only issue” *John* “You need to take both you and your children and hide. You’re clearly in danger.”

[@joanneburford6364]

What you can hear in their voices is him telling them what they don't want to hear but they know it's the truth. Addictions destroy families, doesn't matter if it's the husband or wife. He's advising them to remove themselves from that situation, then it's up to the addicted to change it. The hesitancy in their voices is that they know he's right, but they just don't want to face it. It's a destructive relationship.

[@johnparker4484]

@@joanneburford6364nah he overplays everything. He’s a drama lover with a God-complex

[@lukeharris2622]

✝️

[@superior120v5]

Wait tomorrow is Christmas not Thanksgiving

[@TheFlyingZulu]

They don't upload these clips the day of when a caller is on the air... It would seem it takes about a month for their editor to transfer the videos from their pod cast to youtube...

[@superior120v5]

@TheFlyingZulu okay, I don't know why I was thinking this was live, okay thanks for explaining.

[@ultimaetsolder]

This isn't the Dr. Laura show! What happened to being a financial advice program?!

[@monarene44]

Everything is about the psychology of money these days.

[@dnah02]

The financial advice here is don't marry a drunk lol

[@dungeonmaster6292]

The show is targetted to women now. Men stopped buying the books

[@miketheyunggod2534]

Wow! John trying to end another marriage.

[@heatison11]

You really went off on a tangent as soon as she mentioned drinking, its not fair to paint a picture of a violent alcoholic abuser simply because he drinks

[@dmbgator86]

Most people don’t drink on Friday and Saturday nights?

[@auemmjee]

She didn't say "nights," she said Friday through Sunday.

[@dnah02]

I don't drink at all. My thing is good food, and juice.

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

@@dnah02 juice is worse than alcohol research it

[@PvtNoclass925]

The man probably works hard through the week! let him enjoy his drinks on the weekends!

[@adoniswalk]

Alcohol is stupid!

[@bantizzle79]

She sounds to sweet and nice. Probably doesn't get angry enough with him about his drinking. Needs to tell him enough is enough.

[@monarene44]

She sounds 12 years old.

[@DoctorSmartyPants]

Drinking 3 out of 7 days. Big deal.

[@miketheyunggod2534]

John again being melodramatic.

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

Yep I used to drink moderately 7 days a week now I only drink above moderately 3 days a week perfectly fine

[@enricopallazzo3244]

Everyone’s husband’s drinking is affecting your money. Four words: Natural Light Dirty Thirty.

[@badlegend1]

Natural Ice has a bit more kick for the money.

[@enricopallazzo3244]

@@badlegend1 Very true. Natty Black got me through my last 2 senior years of college.

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

Yeah she never said whether he's going to a bar or drinking at home. He's going out and find a cheaper bar. If He's at home and can't afford to drink there, then it's a economic issue not a volume of drinking issue

[@michaela6073]

@@yourgooglemeister6745yeah she did, at home

[@pttugbud]

This guy should advocate for a real counselor before giving advice. I would say his statements make him liable.

[@evr0.904]

Nothing about his drinking has suggested he will be violent or abusive. He needs to address his drinking issue but John and Jade just put nightmares into this woman's head for no reason. Y'all should be disgusted with yourselves.

[@ruthirwin8222]

Are u a drinker, cos im a retired nurse and jade and john are right on the button

[@flashthecorgi2053]

When John says “safe” he’s not always talking about physical. He’s talking about financial, emotional, and relational. A guy who just checks out and drinks the whole weekend is unsafe.

[@evr0.904]

@@ruthirwin8222 No, I don't drink alcohol. Your use of anecdotal evidence further justifies the point I'm trying to make.

[@evr0.904]

@@flashthecorgi2053 That's not at all what he said in the video. Let John speak for himself and don't try to twist what he's saying. I agree there is more to being safe than just physical safety, but John was pretty clear about what he meant by "safe".

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@evr0.904 NO, he said several times you’re not safe because your husband just goes and blows the money, or he disconnects with her and isolates himself on the weekends! Also, 2:13 she literally said “no” when John asked her if she felt safe in her own house!

[@jeffyeager4045]

I drink everynight, make 118k a year my wife makes 89k we have no debt and there's no issues....

[@Cathy-xi8cb]

My father drank every night, worked every day. Died young from the alcohol. Left us a ton of money and taught me how to earn and invest well. Not worth it. He was a functional drunk.

[@joanneburford6364]

Then you better get used to living a shorter life cause your liver will fail and there's no coming back from that.

[@jeffyeager4045]

Oh well@@joanneburford6364

[@evilzzzability]

You can see Deloney's own prejudices shining brightly through on this one, chaps. Didn't bother taking any numbers or even checking the caller was contributing to the household herself in any way, just went straight for the victimized wife story. For shame. The guy drinks at home to relax and wind down - that alone probably says that he's somewhat conscious of the need for budgeting. Think how much more expensive it would be if he were doing it at a bar.

[@xxx0ox0]

Ugh. This family sounds healthier than Johns and with 2 seconds of info they think they know it all

[@liberator9248]

TOMORROW IS NOT THANKSGIVING. ARE YOU DRUNK?

[@flashthecorgi2053]

This specific highlight is filmed the day before Thanksgiving! These highlights are not live.

[@kclefthanded427]

My brother is more serious about drinking with his friends than saving up for a car that's more important. Perhaps too much.

[@donaldlyons17]

Well no the car is less important if drinking is the priority.

[@rayhill5767]

Alcohol Drugs and Gambling Run away

[@jimmymcgill6778]

Most people that drinks are not alcoholics. For all we know, he can just be drinking a 12 pack only? He probably works hard all wee, he wants some time to unwind.

[@eatenvegan1565]

If it’s a problem for his wife, that’s all that matters.

[@mirabella2154]

I would argue that most who drink are actually alcoholics.

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

@@eatenvegan1565she’s being dramatic like all women are

[@brandon18054]

@@eatenvegan1565You’re correct. The best solution is for men not to get married in the first place to avoid such needless incessancy.

[@Eiriririruttitjejri]

5 drinks TOTAL a week maKes You an alcoholic.

[@franziskani]

1:57 He doesn't see it that way (major alcohol problem if not addiction) so I am the nagging wife. Little laugh. - Heartbreaking.

[@summerforever6736]

HE DRINKS BECAUSE HE IS NOT HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PEOPLE DRINKS FOR A REASON!!!!!!!!!1

[@isaacsilvar2893]

first 🤠

[@maggierab]

Can't you americans solve your own problems? I've never heard about counseling in my own country or the country I'm living in now.

[@michaela6073]

You don’t have a Shaman?

[@zoeyredmond5501]

So they guy works all week and then drinks in his own home on the weekends and their response is “he’s a dangerous alcoholic and everything is his fault”…. That’s insane, we don’t even know how much he drinks, what he does or how much he spends, they just jumped to the worst conclusion about this guy without even looking at any other factors as well as the possibility she is overreacting to a guy drinking on the weekends which is completely normal.

[@Trackpad12]

Just budget $40 bucks for alcohol and move on.

[@jimmymcgill6778]

Yeah.

[@teebone2157]

40 dollars for 3 days of drinking. That's gone in 2 nights

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

Just a 30 pack for the weekend

[@front331]

$40 bucks a week or month? I budget $0 for alcohol. I'd rather lose my brain cells some other way.

[@HOLDXSTEEL]

@@front331 Do you want me to clap or are you just being an asshole

[@summerforever6736]

IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SAFETY!!!!!! WHAT A JOKE HE DRINKS FOR A REASON !!!!

[@flashthecorgi2053]

If it has nothing to do with safety why did she say she felt unsafe with him when Dr. D asked “you don’t even feel safe in your home, Do you? And she said NO she doesn’t feel safe.

[@amydoran9987]

She should leave. He is putting alcohol before her and their family.

[@michaela6073]

She said he drinks on the weekend and this dude blew it way out of proportion. He cut her off several times mid sentence.

[@firegirljen]

Divorce him.

[@J0hnny0]

John is such a party pooper!