Husband Sides With Mom Over Wife And Humiliates Her In Front Of Family r/AITA

[@unluckypuppy13]

Mom is such a sassy icon eating her veggies and salmon casually floating in the pool lmao I love her

[@MarkNarrations]

I know right I was like....floating?! lol

[@nelnien1230]

The mom is the real boss babe for that.

[@Mewse1203]

Where else you supposed to eat your salmon? 😂

[@carolroberts4614]

You know it makes sense! And I like her too!

[@addicted2mako]

That’s what I was thinking! It sounds like some malicious compliance and I hope I can be that sassy when I’m an old lady!

[@MydieLy]

Thick gravy amd bbq on everything?! *shudders* I'd say OPs wife is the picky eater in this story, that sounds absolutely unhealthy

[@BruinPhD2009]

Right? I felt my arteries slamming shut listening to that, and I LOVE a good BBQ sauce. OP and his wife are the assholes.

[@andreawalker8343]

I will never understand people who force people to eat food they do not like. Wtf

[@oldgreggsmadmemes4431]

She won't last 5 seconds in Louisiana

[@kristenkatz8425]

Seriously!!! I love some BBQ or a nice gravy every now and again but every meal??? No thank you!! OPs wife sounds absolutely awful tbh

[@andreawalker8343]

@@oldgreggsmadmemes4431 I did hurricane relief in Louisiana as a strict vegetarian and starved the whole week

[@ginger5131]

The way the op of story 1 says his wife won't let him cook concerns me honestly, she's alienating his family and telling him what he can and can't do... those are some serious control issues.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. Sounds like classic abuse, honestly. Thus why I disagree with the YTA comments telling him off for letting this happen. Abuse is hard to deal with, for both men and women. Men, especially, because people often don't acknowledge that they *can* be abused.

[@heatherlowe7330]

IDK, if the family and wife dislike each other so much, I just wonder if this is a tit for tat situation. Would be interested to hear the wife's side.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@heatherlowe7330 She still flew way off the handle.

[@tardislady9546]

His family are alienating her, by refusing to eat anything she cooks, for no valid reason. He is in the wrong, as his partner should be his first priority, not his mother.

[@nvfury13]

@@tardislady9546 His wife is scum who refuses to have consideration for guests, with the culinary reach of a toddler and power tripping “you can only have it how *I* like it” of the worst entitled Karen.

[@Bcurran90]

Story 3: I second naming new baby Pudding

[@fcold9402]

3. NTA. If it is a tradition AND you promised your sister, you are free to name the kid the traditional name. The compromised name is also good. Not the ahole in this situation. Name the kid whatever you like. Your husband didn't care about your opinion about the boy name so he does not get a vote on the girl name.

[@robertx8020]

sounds about right !

[@anouk_]

story 1: what -the -heck the mom isn't a picky eater for not liking bbq and gravy sauce. the wife just does it to make it seem she is the victim of a rude mom.

[@carolroberts4614]

I think it must be fashionable to have a mother in law from hell, so she's trying to make out she's got one! But hers sounds nice.

[@Parasolhyena]

I wonder if she only likes spicy food though? I don't know why op would have posted that if it didn't have some importance to the story? Either way the wife is the asshole.

[@nataliaskogland2800]

I'm voting for Pudding as the baby name! 😁

[@reapersgirl6407]

The wife “not liking” the OP’s family is to bad. She married into the family so she had to deal with them.

[@karinlumm5123]

No.she was born into it.

[@littleRedHead007]

@@karinlumm5123 How was she born into a family she married into?

[@karinlumm5123]

@@littleRedHead007 oops I commented on the wrong story. So sorry

[@tardislady9546]

His family have refused to make any effort to welcome her, and treat her like dirt. They have to make the effort, as well as her.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 3: that little boy wanting his sister to be named “pudding”, reminds me of the story my mom told me about how my older brother wanting my name to be “basketball”

[@hydranoid2009]

I remember my father wanted to name me Kale and refused to believe it was also the name of a vegetable. Thank goodness they picked another name lol

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@hydranoid2009 hopefully you have a younger brother they wanted to be named “chip” So together you’d be “Kale Chip” 😂 But yeah, there is a whole list of terrible names given to children, some of them are food based too

[@digit5465]

Ive named my lil bro after a train. And kinda regretting having that power to do so lol

[@nuttypwrpuff]

My niece (6 at the time) wanted to name my daughter "Sven" from Frozen. This is made funnier considering that I had only seen the movie once and didn't realize that Sven was the reindeer.

[@potatodar]

Cranjis McBasketball

[@roowyrm9576]

I can't understand why, when people get into these "family name" rows. Give the kid as a middle name, and choose something you like as the first name. I'm glad OP is considering that option.

[@emalinestapleton1080]

When I listen to Mark, its like going to the local coffee bar and hanging with my best friends. The waffling on, singing and chuckles just make it feel so natural, with my besties.

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww Emaline thank you so much, you folks make me feel comfortable to I get be my idiot self

[@emalinestapleton1080]

@@MarkNarrations I wouldn't say idiot self. You have thoughtful responses and sincerity with your listeners, which translates through the audio. You are much appreciated by your listeners.

[@zoe9190]

This is why you only tell someone what you chose to name your baby after you filled out the paperwork. Only other person you should ever tell is the partner you are having the baby with, people are so entitled when it comes to names, regardless of why

[@naturalbaby]

When I go on vacation I don’t answer anything but I check email out of habit. However, if you are in a role of authority I say keep 1 line of communication open for EMERGENCY only.

[@ilbercgross4736]

OP is the idiot. Answering calls is a no on vacation. Checking the bloody voicemail and calling back is needed at times. Making sure the people covering YOUR job, is your responsibility. Can I do my bosses job? Mostly. There are a few things I do not know how to do. I do not have the training. All the day to day stuff, I already do. If something needs done I do not know, I call and leave a voicemail or I send her a text. She replies when she can and instructs my how to proceed. I do the same for her and the crew when I am gone. (Yes, I know how to do things my boss does not.)

[@ilbercgross4736]

@shifstar it is illegal here too. There are some work arounds and some States have lax rules/laws. My boss and I do it out of respect for each other. In my State it is working off the clock which could get me and/or my boss fired and the company a huge fine. Some salary States with contracts you are required to answer phones/emails while on vacation. (The U.S. is pretty jacked up that way.) I agree that their info system is lacking. OP should have made she since she knows what her client needs, not her subordinate.

[@prcervi]

their whole company file accessibility structure is kinda shit, i'm torn on mild yta and nta op was on vacation and they shouldn't need to be accessible, but if they're the only one who could get to the files(even with 8 workdays notice to subordinates to get what they think the might need) op should have maybe checked in once in a while

[@janicevango5791]

Trouble is, there must come a point where someone should be able to go on vacation without being disturbed otherwise there’s no point in taking a holiday. OP didn’t say she is a manager, she said she supervises a co-worker.

[@ilbercgross4736]

@@janicevango5791 I agree. Most people do go on vacation with no contact from work. In OP's case, her client and she knows what that client needs. For her to assume her coworker would know anything on the needs of the client is mind blowing. Doctors supervise nurse yet they would never assume the nurse could take care of a patients needs without all the records. They would make sure the nurse had all the records, not leave it up to the nurse. OP might not be a manager but she is still in charge. It shows a lack of leadership. Her attitude also shows she does not own up to responsibility. Lose of client and damage rep for the company is squarely on her.

[@nathanroberts3638]

I would laugh at Pudding, but I got really offended when my parents didn't name my sister Lemonade, so I'm fully with him on this one.

[@rayfordreed9304]

Story 1: NTA, is the wife 8 years old? Story 2: No verdict because I don't know what the workplace policy is at that company or anything else about that company. Story 3: No verdict, they figured it out

[@songohan3321]

Not even 8 year olds are this bad.

[@KateKatastrophe]

both his Mother and his wife are behaving like AH and he's done nothing to help it. you don't call your sons wife a bitch because she cooked with BBQ sauce in her own house. You don't deliberately escalate hostile situations by serving the same food again when she comes back around. sounds like OP married his mother and they're all AHs

[@Nihlus16]

Story 2: Quoting my favorite character from A Bug's Life: "The first rule of Leadership: EVERYTHING is your fault."

[@Flufferz626]

Giving the kitties some medication and tlc while listening. The cats really like your voice, it's soothing to these guys, hope they find their forever homes once they get to 100% health! Have a good day, Mark!

[@MarkNarrations]

Hello kitties!!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Aww I hope they getter soon much love 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@fcold9402]

2. NTA. If you told everyone you would not be reachable, it is up to the boss to make sure everything is covered. Assuming you did not blow off your backup before you went on vacation. Edit: oh wait, your management? Yeah that is totally on you. That's part of being management. YTA.

[@mindyschocolate]

Remind me never to get a job where I’m constantly on call even when I’m on vacation. No one should be the ONLY person to know things. I’m on vacation because I need a break from work. That’s why I prefer cruises. I don’t pay for internet and my phone stays off to avoid international fees, so no one can get a hold of me.

[@roxyoung74]

Pudding is a fantastic nickname. Pudden maybe. Good luck with naming your daughter.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Story 1: Idk feels like a huge cluster fuck so ESH maybe

[@MarkNarrations]

LOL

[@nothanks13]

I feel it’s NTA because it sounds like the husband is being emotionally abused and doesn’t know it

[@heatherlowe7330]

Wasn't sure on this one either because husband says that his family don't like his wife and are so vocal about it that he has to routinely shut them down. Just wondering how the mom usually treats the wife?

[@lunaticbz3594]

@@heatherlowe7330 But then that also raises the question of how justified is the parents dislike of the wife? as she sounds controlling, childish and trying to alienate her husband from her parents. I think ESH, though some people are probably worse then others but its impossible to really know given how much of a mess the situation is.

[@heatherlowe7330]

@@lunaticbz3594 it sounds like they ALL need therapy

[@15oClock]

1. I'm deeply concerned with who OP married. Is he really going to let this go on? 2. Realistically, the employee is at fault. Responsibly, OP should correct that. 3. All this stress over a fucking baby name. At this point, just name her "Pudding" and call it a day.

[@GuardianTheThird]

Story 3: problem solved the baby is now named pudding.

[@doraynesemik1378]

Story 1: Yikes! I would refuse family dinners in this family. ESH

[@heididietrich9800]

Food fight!!!

[@bluejaywoman3421]

Vacation/Work Story: Did OP notice during that 8 days that their subordinate didn't ask for the materials that they would need?

[@CreepyBlueAnimals84]

Story 2: Everyone that OP is surrounded by sounds like an AH (minus her son. He's awesome!!). OP doesn't deserve this in her state and even if she wasn't pregnant, they can't all be appeased!! How selfish of all of them!!

[@littleRedHead007]

The wife in the first story is the AH…. But the hubby needs to not be such a pushover for sure.

[@KateKatastrophe]

I don't know he said his mum is stubborn and used to getting her own way, doesn't exactly sound like a peach plus she called the OPs wife a bitch last time they were around. sounds like his avoidance and non confrontational behaviour hasn't helped in deescalating their animosity towards each other.

[@littleRedHead007]

@@KateKatastrophe oh for sure! It is definitely a bit trickier… But it kind of feels like there’s definitely more to the story. The fact that his mother rarely uses that kind of language makes me wonder why she would? From what I’ve seen… OP‘s wife certainly seems like someone that could easily make someone snap. It’s really hard to tell just from the information given, which makes these kinds of posts trickier

[@emregungor1248]

Five seconds in and I’m disappointed not everything has been sung

[@MarkNarrations]

I'm sorry Emre!

[@emregungor1248]

@@MarkNarrations I’m hoping for it next time lol

[@MarkNarrations]

@@emregungor1248 *gulp*

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

@@MarkNarrations underrated reply lol

[@HackiePuffs]

Story 3: NTA. You have the right to name your baby whatever you want. And you’re still gonna be passing it down after this little bump in the road it’s a good way to let it continue on. Ari or something similar sounds like a great idea or maybe make it her middle name. Ariana sounds like a good name!!

[@blueraven3663]

I agree but, the husband has a ex named Ariana and he vetoed that name but, then again he didn't let op veto their sons name or have any say. Honestly the husband's is a hypocrite.

[@karinlumm5123]

How about Aria as a name?

[@dennymetts90]

Please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks Mark's singing, waffling and chuckles are adorable as fuck. Please keep it up Mark! I'm a huge fan already and have been listening to older videos as well

[@cherrysodapop8123]

Story 3. Kid is right, Pudding would be a badass name

[@emanx222]

With pudding being a character character One Piece, I couldn't help but die laughing 🤣

[@tashas4241]

Suddenly I remembered about Bitch Pudding from the Strawberry Shortcake skits on Robot Chicken😂

[@melissaclark1051]

Husband should be the one making the dinners not the wife.

[@Myce_Mycologic]

IMO it should be a split job

[@despinasgarden.4100]

@@Myce_Mycologic he said he is not "allowed" to cook, this woman is just toxic.

[@Myce_Mycologic]

@@despinasgarden.4100 ah, i see. i agree then

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 1: ESH. Mom and wife are both acting like children and OP and dad are enabling it. Wife is the worst here, but still.

[@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat]

Idk the wife kept accusing the mom of being a picky eater, but the wife only eats things with bbq sauce and gravy. And ops edit said hes barred from cooking. I like bbq sauce and gravy but having it for everything? It kinda makes my stomach churn. I wouldnt be surprised that the mom asked to cooked for them but the wife refuses and didnt allow them to eat over there. The mom was an ah for swearing and telling her dil off, but it kinda seems justified.

[@jhamps4806]

The first story… is it me or there is something missing from this story. His Mum will eat anything but the only food she won’t eat just happens to be the food the wife makes… the wife goes from 0 to 60 in seconds, I think OP has edited a lot out because it doesn’t get that bad over night. I can’t say who the arsehole is because this story just doesn’t make sense…!! Very odd…!

[@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat]

Dont forget that the wife accused the mom of being a picky eater when the wife always smothers her food with 2 things

[@muyoko8330]

Ngl the first story the ESH is a proper verdict cause come on all of them are acting like children

[@JUMALATION1]

Story 2 about the incommunicado vacation: From my perspective, OP had every right to actually be on vacation and not answer calls or emails. This is like a "human right" where I live, for 4 weeks per year. The only issue here is that maybe some extra client-specific briefing would have been beneficial. I took on like 2 more roles during my supervisor's vacation, but with a meeting beforehand preparing me for what might happen on the business front.

[@ashh4929]

Oh my stars I laughed all the way out loud when that little boy said name her Pudding in the midst of all that! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Slicksterpat]

Only one question, did you get the message? If no, NTA. If yes YTA for not answering and spending ten minutes helping. Then bail.

[@lizfritz6546]

That dude probably needs to consider leaving in the first story. Won’t allow him to cook? Controls the food in the house? Verbally abuses him once he chooses to take a stand? This is moving from controlling to abusive.

[@legtemal7304]

In story 1 they put the fun is dysfunctional.

[@brandi5126]

Story 1: NTA. You had a more than reasonable solution to accommodate your mom.

[@nvfury13]

Story 1: OP’s wife reminds me of a toddler in the “won’t eat unless it is drenched in ketchup/bbq/ranch” stage. Only worse, as the toddler doesn’t force every other person in the house to eat that way.

[@LunarisArts]

Regading the second: NTA. First of all, it didn't sound like the company paid OP for woring outside of work hours,they were not obligated to work extra.

[@songohan3321]

I swear a bunch of managers were making those verdicts.

[@cheerio3847]

Being occasionally available outside of work hours is one of the reasons management receives those nice salaries. It's part of the job, and a switch from an hourly pay mindset. Most companies expect to be able to contact managers while they are out of the office for emergencies... not usually an issue unless it's abused. They also tend to look the other way, if after a period needing extra long hours, you take an unreported half day or leave early a few times or come in late. Again, as long as not abused. But salaried management is expected to be working more than 9 to 5 and not be anal about 40 hours a week.

[@kellyk6652]

Mark, if she notified them that she would be out, IT IS ON THOSE PEOPLE TO COME TO HER! She's not a babysitter! Vacation time is just that. It's a VACATION! It's not remote working. It's a VACATION!

[@You_said_what1]

Cant tell you how many managers I know that say there's no such thing as a vacation. You're always on call🤷‍♀️

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA OP's wife is being really rude by attempting to force his mom to eat something she doesn't like. The fact OP specifically asked her to not make something with barbecue or gravy and she did so anyway automatically makes her an asshole. Her reaction to OP getting food for his mom to enjoy doubles that asshole score. Add in making mom eat outside and then trying to splash her and flip the floaty and the wife sounds unhinged. Edit: so I was waffling on ESH and NTA and the comments made some good points. ESH. OP acts like he doesn't have any power in the situation besides telling people off for cussing. He couod be doing sovmuch more. Edit 2: I LOVE gravy... like really love it. I love it to the point that M y best friend called me Gravy for a while growing up. And yet the thought of eating Gravy on try meal just 🤢🤮

[@selbarton]

1: So his wife was humiliated by her being a bratty child refusing to not cover a single piece of meat, and he says that's his fault? How about stop letting the wife mistreat his family. The fact he defends his wife from being contradicted, but "hey family, you should just come to watch the wife eat what she likes while you can't eat." Wife wants to hear she was great for being abusive to his family. She has created the reasons the family dislikes her, and they sound justified. 2: Everyone should know 100% of every possible crisis over a week before it could happen. If OP is the manager, then as the boss it was on OP to make sure they have access to the client info. It was OP's client that OP did not make sure they would be able to be properly taken care of. OP didn't even reach out to clients to let them know OP would be out of contact so if they have issues, it's going to be impossible for the coworkers to access their info. OP didn't care about the clients. OP is responsible for the client yet wants to blame a coworker for not knowing what the client needs or when. OP is an example of those who don't work get promoted to management. 3: Grandma is the reasonable one here. Old-fashioned, uncommon name is going to be an issue for the kid. At no point did blowing up do anything but make it worse. Dad is concerned with OP being trustworthy and doing what was promised and honoring the sister. Mom doesn't want to resent a baby with that name or have it as a constant reminder that the sister is gone. Hubby is right about needing a say. She agreed to the junior, so she had a say in his name. She seems to think no one is allowed to have feelings about the name so wrapped up in family trauma. It impacts them and the feelings they will have regarding the kid.

[@justine8387]

As a person with a messy desk i have to wonder how messy the office was if the file couldn't be found. I feel like the OP tried to sabotage the junior to be honest.

[@tardislady9546]

it's not that that cannot eat what she cooks, they refuse to do so, out of childish spite. There is no mention of any food allergies, intolerances, or medical conditions, that prevent them from eating certain foods. They simply refuse to do so, out of infantile spite.

[@xxratsrcutexx3494]

Godspeed

[@Cure_Hana]

At this point, I think Pudding is the best out of the baby names. 😅

[@mbyerly9680]

But spell it "Puddin" and say it like you are Harley Quinn talking to the Joker.

[@audreym3908]

@@mbyerly9680 YES!

[@Nixie3545]

I love your singsongy voice. It makes me smile each time. Thank you. 🤗💋💖

[@smh4960]

Arindelle seems like a good comprimise name and its a bird name I belive (Im just getting flashbacks from Cindirella singing it) Nevermind just looked it up lol the bird is called nightingale

[@heatherlowe7330]

Isn't that the name of Elsa and Anna's kingdom? 🤣

[@tashas4241]

@@heatherlowe7330 That's what I thought too ❄❄

[@robertx8020]

2.NTA OP warned everybody 8 days ahead of time And why should you leave your phone? Could and should the system be better? Yes, but hindsight is always 20/20 At that moment OP did everything that could be expected!

[@novabrilliant4510]

I love your singing Mark!!! Hope everyone is having a marvelous Monday.

[@oldgreggsmadmemes4431]

NAME THE BABY PUDDING NOW

[@MarkNarrations]

PUDDING PUDDING PUDDING *chants*

[@dionysus_adores]

If you're on vacation they have no right to contact you. If one cog of a company leaves and it's that chaotic they should seriously look at what the group is doing. Somethings need to change and it's not op

[@krattgirl124samarama4]

On Saturday I wasn’t feeling well and still had to work 10:30am-6pm. I listened to your videos while doing morning prep and it helped me out a lot while working and it made me feel more productive

[@elsemiekeanna]

Nice, Just in time to listen while making dinner. (Egg and rice)

[@heatherlowe7330]

I listen while I cook too 😁

[@tashas4241]

Sounds delicious! I haven't made that in a long time...

[@KittenUndercover]

I choked on my tomato soup at ‘stop making me say Araminta’. My family has a good compromise for names - we use the first letter. For example my grandfathers name was Paul so my cousins son is something else starting with a P.

[@bailee3313]

Love how the husband absolutely *had* to have his vanity satisfied by naming his first son after himself, OP’s wishes be damned, but pitches a fit that he doesn’t get a say when she tries to honor her sister through their daughters name. This is exactly why you should never tell people what you plan to name your kid (save for maybe a handful of trusted friends and relatives if you feel you need feedback). Everyone has a gd opinion…

[@nancyjay790]

On my Mom's side of the family, the first born girl was always given a variant of the same name. It was also my Mom's name. But when I, her first daughter, was born, she and my Dad chose a different name for me, and then another name (not the tradition one) for my younger sister. I don't think my Mom entirely liked her name. However, when I had my first daughter, I used Mom's first name as my daughter's middle name. She, on learning about the tradition, wants to name her first daughter the traditional name, too. So... It is what it is.

[@daniellediller5070]

We have something similar except it's names that start "D," like "Doris, Debbie, and Danielle" lol

[@OmniscientlyMe]

1. Dude married an antagonistic drama queen. I'll never understand why people marry people like that. 2. YTA for not having a proper backup.

[@jnokomis]

I love the son "just name her Pudding" my mind says well we have a nickname!

[@MalachioftheForest]

Hey Mark, how's it going? I'm listening to this while my kids play with our new kitten. Lots of giggling and squealing while you tell me about other people's drama 😆 happy monday!

[@kristenkatz8425]

Ahhh love starting off the day with a bit of waffle and stories from Mark, definitely makes life nicer😄👍

[@UnnoticedKIN]

Last story made me think of when my nephew was born a little over a year ago. While my sister was pregnant she and her hubby were unsure what to name their little one once he was born and asked for name suggestions. I gave them a few names that I liked and then also tipped them about a website about names from around the world. They ended up picking a name that I reeaaally didn't like, but I still aknowledge that it was entirely their choice and I have no say, so I've never voiced my opinion on it and just hope it'll grow on me eventually. Nephew is effing adorable anyway.

[@FanFicnic]

I love abuela in story 3 like “its a stupid name”

[@lily-zg6io]

Story 2 is definately ESH, in order of assholery: 1. Bosses/higher management for thinking it was a good idea to have a single person have access to important client files especially if anything happens to that one keyholder, the whole team is in shambles 2. OP, as the person in charge, it's their job to make sure everyone has a way of accessing important files and that things are managed within her team 3. The employee is still a little at fault for not getting the files but less so because we don't know if it was an obvious file like budget or contract or something more niche that could easily be overlooked if someone doesn't know the contract inside out

[@muppetsrule1143]

I want to know if the OP knew who was going to cover the client before vacation? Then I'd say YTA since they should have gone to everyone and make sure they have everyone.

[@kaimikalaniYT]

Hey mark, once again, thanks for the video! Your videos have actually been helping me today; I have a dentist appointment and have anxiety (I hate tools in my mouth :( ) and your videos have really helped calm my anxiety, so thank you again :)

[@MarkNarrations]

I know how you feel Nicole, got my appointment in 2 days and I also get the same feels

[@krossrenterainment1319]

Why is it that every time a mans SO toxic the man is some how at fault? is the wife in the first story an adult is she not in control of her actions he has tried to keep the peace and be accommodating but nobody is trying to meet him in the middle if this was women you would know everyone would be telling her to run. Story one is NTA

[@krossrenterainment1319]

@@availanila so what is supposed to do? what would you have done in this situation? he has tried telling his wife to stop and she hasn’t

[@J_e_s_s]

"It should be a fun activity" Naming a child is stressful. Idc what anyone says. They are living with that name forever (unless you suck and they have to change it) and to me, it was a lot of pressure lol.

[@trainerlesseevee478]

I named both my son's, living and passed. And I gave them the same initials (not intentionally tho lol) and their dad only agreed that he didn't want them to be a Jr which I wholeheartedly agreed with

[@tashas4241]

Story 1: If the wife needs to cook EVERYTHING with gravy or barbecue sauce, then chances are she's actually a bad cook using the sauce to mask the actual taste of the food, but in reality it makes things worse. As far as I'm concerned, gravy is supposed to be in a separate bowl for everyone to add to their plates as needed. It's about time for OP to take control of the kitchen or make his wife take cooking lessons because she's being a horrible host.

[@tardislady9546]

If he is so bothered, why does he not do the cooking?

[@mbyerly9680]

There's a common comment on Reddit that you should never share or discuss the name for a baby with ANYONE except your spouse. It's not a f*ng committee decision. I totally agree. I had enough problems with a puppy name with just my live-in mom involved.

[@helookalikaman79]

If you are on Vacation, FMLA, Maternity leave etc. YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE WORKING.... The company has a melt down oh well.... I am pretty sure OP has a boss that COULD cover it... OP did notify all of them...

[@vanessasorth1657]

Bosses throw the underling under the bus and the underling does the same thing.

[@itazuranakisu]

OP is the AH since they are management. You took the paycheck that means you take all the responsibilities that goes with the job. I’ve worked with managers like OP and they too loved to pass the buck when things hit the fan because they refuse to answer calls then blame everyone else. If OP had been more organized and prepared the information would’ve been there and the client too.

[@livaugirard3383]

"Just name the baby pudding" has to be the most adorable sentence to ever be spoken 🥺🥰🥲

[@dalaneahall1978]

I would need more of a history of the wife and MIL story. It sounds like they are both childish. The MIL makes snide remarks towards DIL. DIL cooks whatever she wants in her house. So ESH

[@quarterknight3572]

Just wait until pudding has his own kids and wants to name him Junior. "Hi, I'm Pudding Jr., Nice to meet you!"

[@judyjohnson9610]

Pudding would be a great nickname but would get a lot of teasing if a legal name

[@hayleyg7719]

Much love guys

[@MarkNarrations]

Much love!

[@hayleyg7719]

@@MarkNarrations 😝❤️

[@ShiftingFixations]

Pudding Araminta [last name]! There ya go. xD perfect!

[@littleolmee]

*Being serenade by Mark, great way to spend my lunchtime.* Story 1: ESH. Wife is being ridiculous, OP knows how stupid his wife is but continues to ask his family over & expose them. Mom knows she doesn't like to eat her food, stop coming for dinner. Story 2: ESH. OP was in charge of those clients & while yes in a perfect world those taking over would have come & got everything, but as the person in charge it's on OP to make sure everyone had everything they'd need to take care of the clients while OP was gone. The other people involved are AH's for not making sure they had everything they needed & dropping the ball. OP is not an AH for not answering texts & phone calls during vacation. Story 3: NAH. It sounds like there is a lot of baggage surrounding the deceased sister's name from everyone & no one is an AH for feeling how they feel about it. It's a tough situation all around & I don't think OP is an AH for being fed up & leaving because in the end it's her child & she was supposed to get to name the child since hubby got to name the son, so hubby needs to back off; he's wobbling into AH territory. Why not have a different first name & use the shortened form the sister went by as a middle name? Pudding should now be the nickname, though.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 3: So this man would shun his own child just because she had a name similar to someone he had a negative experience with? That's disgustingly small-minded of him to hold petty vengeance in higher esteem than the traditions of the family he married into. Edit: The 3 year old sounds adorable.

[@InuMokuba]

Story 3: NTA; I empathize and can put myself in the family's shoes with their feelings during grief. It's a delicate situation. That being said, the family can kick rocks. It's your child, you shouldn't be going through this stress during your pregnancy and even if he normally would have an equal say, your husband got his choice it's your turn now. You are carrying this child and the buck stops with you. I don't want to sound cruel toward OPs family, I again empathize and it could be my own biases with how I felt during my first pregnancy. But OP should be tuning them out at this point. Seek a professional for help in grieving and validating everyone's feelings, but name your child what you want. Happy wishes and good vibes.

[@searchfield]

14:29 My nickname was "Pudding" when I was a baby! 🍮 😂👍

[@cgamejewels]

First story, This is a major ESH. WTAFH?! Are these even humans? Third story, This family thinks stressing out a pregnant woman over something like a name is a good idea? 🤦🤦 Husband needs to shut up and sit his childish butt down.

[@rustym40]

I have a family nickname, but when we were kids my younger brother couldn't pronounce it. So we used his version amongst us, my mom still calls me by it.

[@kellypatterson8506]

Arimentor....Pudding, sounds like a flavor.

[@diddykitty746]

The dishes are stained and I can't get it off ;w;

[@reasonpeason847]

Lotta cases like story one always read like “YTA for being abused and not having a spine and standing up for yourself.”

[@squatasaurus9879]

Listening during my lunch break at work (:

[@Mewse1203]

May the butter of health melt evenly over your life. Remember to take time for yourself today...and Crack on.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - unless the employer compensates for interrupting a vacation, no, OP is NTA. If all her other underlings got their shit together, but this one failed to, it is all on the one who fucked up.

[@morgansmith9533]

First story in my family we all try and accommodate what people like to eat and what they don’t like it’s not that hard to do feel like OPs wife just does it on purpose but OPs mom handle it like a boss by eating her food on a float that’s pretty great

[@ronaldknight9974]

I, like, "Pudding". Hey, Mark. Stay, frosty.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 1: OP's wife went soooo far out of her way to take things over the top here. And you're "not allowed" to cook? That's even more utter bullshit! You don't need any sort of special permission from anyone to feed yourself. And it's ridiculous of your wife to think otherwise.

[@JohnSmith-zw8vp]

Story 3 -- Pudding? Well, it's better than oatmeal and corn flakes! :D

[@liacaburian2092]

Story 1, YTA for staying with such a petty woman. No wonder your parents hate her. Story 2, NTA your coworker was the incompetent one but you're the one thats getting blamed despite giving her all the material. I hope you find a better job