I ALWAYS lived on the EDGE of our relationship because of his divorce history - [EXCLUSIVE]

[@NeooLamar94]

Lebo is lovable guys let’s just agree🥰 .. I’m here for her voice, can’t get enough of it and her beautiful smile 💓.Continue to raise the flag Lebo Well-done.

[@lebokeswa1804]

Thank you such👏🏽👏🏽

[@GugzMavezi]

I luv her smile too❤

[@proudlysa774]

Her giggles 😂😂😂

[@MpendulenhleZikhali-wm3hn]

Lebo is beautiful..Stunning even.

[@PearlMkN]

Thank you Neo. Permission to appreciate your comment and us it to appreciate you

[@patsh3714]

Thank you pearl for protecting and respecting your husband. We all have problems but it's okay to work on things. Not cause a media firestorm and embarrassing yourself.dont let your friends overstep your boundaries when it comes to your marriage.

[@PearlMkN]

The goal is to speak the truth, and my truth may not be tasteful to everyone. 🎉

[@nhlanhlambowane8476]

Protecting & respecting where?? 😂😂😂😂 Have u seen the recent headline?

[@MyJourneybyLeboKeswa]

Hi everyone, warm welcome to new subscribers, welcome home. Pearl Mbewe is behind the operations of this podcast along with other team members. Thank you for sharing your journey with us Pearl, we will hold your hand till the very end❤️💐

[@winnieMakutoane]

Pearl is a growing star! No one will ever tell her otherwise. Big ups girl am TRULLY inspired. 👍

[@PearlMkN]

Thank you 🙏🏿 You rock.

[@Shumza28]

when a woman cuts her hair, she means bussiness.

[@lebokeswa1804]

Akere😁😁😁

[@ThaboMmatlo]

Hi y r u saying dat can u explain 2 m dear

[@ayandadavidson7954]

Shes about to change her life.

[@thobekiledlamini]

New chapter

[@asandapokolwana5021]

Lebo tried to air the dirty laundry and dehumanise Sello but Pearl just didn’t participate ❤ what a Queen 😅

[@kgomotsomabe]

She kept it so classy and clean, I loved how she handled herself. What got on in her marriage is actually none of our business.

[@lebokeswa1804]

I actually really cannot stand people like you. You’re talking utter bullshit. I have done nothing but support Learl and Sello in their marriage and offer all the help to try and make it work. Until Sello FUCKEN went to the media and accused me of having an affair with a woman I introduced him to. You people are so sick and miserable that you go out of your way to find fault in things you know nothing about. I had a choice to bash Sello on this podcast yet I chose to speak the truth and handle it in an honourable way the same way I respect his marriage. Oska tlo buwa masepa 💩 💩💩💩

[@victorioussisters3307]

I can’t believe that ‘ A whole me’ is loving Lebo’s character daily. Girl you’re growing into me. 🤣💦

[@ladyb5843]

Me too,I did you see how she rolls her eyes ?

[@setsoalirantidi8148]

😂😊​@@ladyb5843

[@victorioussisters3307]

@@ladyb5843 🤣💦 she’s taken facial expressions to another level.

[@lebokeswa1804]

Can you be my shoulder to crayon 🖍️ 😭

[@helenikauses9753]

Seeing is believing❤

[@nancymabika6438]

I love Pearls accent and demeanor! Absolutely amazing to watch and listen to❤️

[@87Taimi]

LETS GIVE HAPPILY MARRIED WOMAN A CHANCE TO TALK TO US ABOUT HAPPY MARRIEGES. WE HEARD ENOUGH OF THE DIVORCED WOMAN CONVERSATIONS

[@pretty960]

Abekho nkosi yam 😂😢

[@judyatoro9387]

Very few those one 😂😂

[@lebokeswa1804]

Where are they? We are here and happy to host them😊

[@Manifester661]

Happily married women are very protective of their marriages, they don’t wanna put their marriages out there on a pedestal which is very understandable, protect what is important to you ❤

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

​@Manifester661 yah most times.

[@Real-Dk77]

Lebo seems to have healed, her skin looks 😊 😅….she’s in a much better place.

[@phillipine4706]

I think so too...I hope she sees this comment

[@florencemodise]

She's looking beautiful nnete ❤️❤️

[@lebokeswa1804]

Thank you 🙏🏽. I’m stress free now😊

[@phillipine4706]

@@lebokeswa1804 Loving this for you

[@ziyandaduka8798]

She has yazi, kuyavela 😊😂

[@hildamavuso1620]

Mom Lebo well done. Turning your pain into positivity is so fullfiling to watch.❤❤

[@ramaselaviolet2993]

But I think Pearl and ntate Sello are perfect with each other ❤️, may God be with them🙏

[@mphomoremoholo]

Too dope that we're all here witnessing while this masterpiece of a podcast is unfolding in real life time!! 🎉

[@tshepomahlangu5530]

Lebo, plz take this as a positive feedback. Much as this is your podcast, let your guest tell their story without you making it about you. That is my feedback to you.

[@pontshongwenya5806]

Pearl Mbewe , you are such an asset, eloquent smart intelligent and well groomed. Thank you for the interview Lebo, very informative

[@PearlMkN]

Thank you so much. May I ask to use your comment.🙏🏾

[@Real-Dk77]

Pearl is very much in love with her husband🤞🏻

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

Too much maarn. She loves her husband, I just wish he could see reason. They've been doing great things together.

[@Lungi-r5k]

That what I’ve noticed bathong

[@patsh3714]

They probably fight when they are drunk. But when sober they are back to their senses .

[@PearlMkN]

Love doesn't disappear overnight. But we keep moving. Sesotho se re, retla chaiswe ke terene pele. 😊

[@Lungi-r5k]

@ Aaaaaaag no🥹🥹🥹where can I get love and fulfill to both of you

[@valenciamolanoka3573]

I love Pearl. She is so matured., Wow! May God save their marriage

[@lebokeswa1804]

Ai kuningi🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️

[@valenciamolanoka3573]

@ ja neh! Let’s hope for the best.

[@Quest4QueerLove]

I love how soft spoken Pearl is and the wisdom she carries. I had learnt so much about the importance of having a team by your side as a creative. Lebo on the other side, I'm so proud of the person she is becoming, she found a silver lining in her divorce with Latoya and started a podcast. I believe through the comments, whether good or bad, she will take them into consideration and use them to her own benefit and growth. We learn everyday by the way. 😊😊

[@lebokeswa1804]

Thank you so much🙏🏽

[@PearlMkN]

Hi honey, Thank you for your beautiful comment. Do you mind if we may kindly we use it? Look forward to your favorable response. 😊❤

[@Quest4QueerLove]

@PearlMkN Hi Pearl, thank you for your appreciation. Please go ahead and use my comment and please advise on which platform are u going to use it so I can be able to see it also.

[@PearlMkN]

@ Thanks dear. It will be on our social media platforms 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@siphindilenene1495]

Pearl is very professional lady, she sounds like Lebo Mathosa

[@lebokeswa1804]

She’s going to be my first recording artist💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽😁😁😁

[@motso-talks8002]

Is Lebo high??!!!😂😂😂😂haisuka!! Finally we get to hear Pearls story..such a lovely soul❤

[@lebokeswa1804]

No Im not Sweetypie I don’t take any substances😊

[@leeharch]

Lebo was born High !😂😂

[@thabilemotsopa5746]

Sellos wife is very smart and matured. And unfortunately the host Lebo is the opposite. And truly misery loves company. Because she's having a "messy " relationships she's pushing everyone in that corner. Love how Pearl respects her relationship regardless of the challenges they are facing

[@angelic...4985]

You're right😅

[@masegomore1109]

Very true

[@mscmotloung6004]

Absolutely. Lebo is uncouth

[@lebokeswa1804]

Wanyela hle💩💩💩. Do you think I would create this platform for Pearl if I didn’t wish her well and wish the best for her. Idiots like you are undefeated. You must really be an imbecile to even make a comment like this. Fotsek man🤬🤬🤬

[@khadijah8018]

She's so childish and out of place. No boundaries at all, very disrespectful even though I'm your best friend, there are things I wouldn't want my friend or colleague to say especially Infront of phambi kwabantu! Because in each and every joke there's a truth somewhere

[@ZolaNgemntu-v8t]

Pearl has a lot of Wisdom 😊😊😊

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

@@ZolaNgemntu-v8t Truth be told.

[@mashabelacaroline2075]

But there was no 90kg it was 80kg meali meal back then

[@thobekiledlamini]

I guess her wisdom led her to marry his grandpa

[@menniekumalo3276]

I want to be Lebo’s friend 😂😂😂 She is such a menace😂😂😂 and funny AF😂

[@queenm7525]

Girl me too 😂😂😂 I will probably laugh like a hyena everyday if she was my bestie 🤣🤣🤣🤞🤞🤞

[@menniekumalo3276]

@@queenm7525Yeyy😂😂😂😂

[@lebokeswa1804]

Let’s be friends ge😊

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

😂😂The best

[@menniekumalo3276]

@ ere mafra🥹🥹🥹🥹

[@kitsokebaitse7814]

The way i love Lebo is something esle 😂😂😂her sign language ❤she is soo misunderstood

[@MyJourneybyLeboKeswa]

Very misunderstood, people must not rush to perfect what’s still in the works. This podcast is 6 episodes in and doing well than podcasts with 100 episodes in. This is unique storytelling. Thanks for the love❤️

[@zee4458]

@@MyJourneybyLeboKeswaThina we are here for that uniqueness . Siyakufrostana Lebzaa❤😅

[@asandakhathi]

We all love Lebo and understand her very well. That's why we're always here

[@slukhwazi8392]

A whole us❤😂😂

[@MpendulenhleZikhali-wm3hn]

A whole me lebo...we appreciate your show

[@KiTumetsi]

You know your marriage is in trouble when a whole Lebo is offering advice 😂🙏🏾

[@lebokeswa1804]

😁😁😁

[@mantokgx2237]

😂😂😂😂

[@GugulethuKhuzwayo-u2b]

😂

[@thelmamaluka7106]

@@KiTumetsi but she should not be aggressive about it..Pearl will ask if she needs help

[@KiTumetsi]

@@thelmamaluka7106 But she is Lebo. She will tell you when your spouse is f-ked up! has f-ked up! Will f-k up! and has always been f-ked up! Kuningi kuningi 😂🤞🏾

[@regomoditse]

I love how people were not comfortable with sharing their journey before but are now. ❤

[@joshuakn14]

Personally as a man I wouldn't be happy if we have problems with my partner she becomes close to Lebo, nothing about her sexuality but her as a person. She might fuel the end of something that could have worked out.. my opinion

[@lebokeswa1804]

Sorry hle😢. I will stay away from you and your person 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

Pearl Mbewe - Maake KaNcube 🔥🔥🔥🔥🥰🥰Such an awesome human being ❤ All the best with your healing and growing well.

[@criticallyspeaking]

Lebo has had so much criticism snd wa zama shem. She's doing her best

[@Lungi-r5k]

I love Theee Whole Me 😂😂😂she’s killing me softly.Pearl’s tone is calming 😊

[@OmphileRamasehla]

Lebo is an example of the idea of a child in an adult person's body and I don't mean this in an endearing way. But I trust the process of the journey, these conversations will unlock and heal the emotional stuntedness. I'm invested and I'm rooting for her.

[@lebokeswa1804]

Thank you so much🙏🏽

[@nthabisengmodiba7664]

Pearl is so beautiful ❤️

[@SimisoNdlovu-j2u]

Pearl reminds me of Brenda Cassie,her Voice❤

[@kelebogilemabye3825]

😂😂😂😂bathong is Lebo okay mara..she is so funny

[@kgosigadinthabimafora4635]

😂😂😂😂

[@lebokeswa1804]

I’m ok hle😊

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

She's very okay hle😅😅😅😅

[@thabilemahlangu7847]

I cant get enough of kuningi with her voice this woman is lovable bakithi❤

[@rejoycethebe6486]

😂😂😂😂yooooooh kuningi kuningi kuningi!

[@nondzuzomajikijela709]

This lady is so wise keep shining Pearl much love my sister

[@lebokeswa1804]

I love this for her☝🏽

[@ClaudiaMekgwe]

Eish. She's very much aware that she's younger than the husband. Stop rubbing it in. They love each other tlhe. Ba tlogele

[@Tcoops0123]

Wa bora hlem

[@lebokeswa1804]

It’s more like Sello a ntlogele and stop making six and degoratery statements against his wife that he knows are not true ☝🏽

[@angelic...4985]

I have massive respect for Pearl. I believe she's good at what she does, clearly she has masterd the Art of dealing with people. I can't believe number of attempts Lebo made to make her badmouth her husband but she DIDN'T. ❤❤❤

[@masegomore1109]

She didn’t , Lebo tried so many times …she actually loves her hubby

[@refilwemahlatsi214]

I just love how she speaks ❤️

[@SindiNdlovu-k5z]

Lebo there was no need to press the fact that she's married to an older person. That was judgemental. You can't judge considering that you also not perfect. You're a lesbian with 3 kids, you're a divorcee. For sure you know it's not nice being judged

[@ayandaskosana9647]

And then she said: you should have said; take me as a daughter and not a sibling. That’s so wrong in so many ways

[@KhanyisaKwinana-tz3fu]

Lebo r you OK cc. The things you say with your mouth 😢

[@lebokeswa1804]

I was not judging anyone. He’s old and that’s a fact the same way I accept that I’m divorced with three kids. O batla Ke reng, he’s young when he’s not 🙄

[@mafungwashekumkanikazi2656]

Pearl's voice❤❤❤❤it's killing me🥰 I keep coming back

[@neosjournal_]

Lebo is actually good at this🙌

[@nqobilenxumalo5098]

I’m done with my exams ❤, now I’m fully committed to this podcast. It really helped though when I had academic stress

[@lebokeswa1804]

Wishing you all the best and hope you have passed 😊

[@kgopotsomabuza2730]

she is really a Pearl of wisdom

[@CheifCheif-s9l]

Lebo watching this podcast gave me a new perspective of you I love it I love you and your aura

[@jacquelinebinya7955]

I am just team underdogs, rise Lebo!

[@lebokeswa1804]

Thank you😊

[@msmmand]

Pearl huge respect for how you handled this interview. Uyimbokodo.

[@supermom354]

Lebo tried unsuccessfully to make her bad mouth her hubby and we can all see that Lebo loathes Sello. I do think Lebo is a toxic friend. If Pearl wants to save her marriage she will have to let go of Lebo as a client and friend. Pearl seems like a good ,classy , respectful woman and I am really rooting for her.

[@Wanguicathy]

Eeeeeeeiiiii one hour episode 😢😢😢😢 Lebo my God,the only podcast babe that listens 🥹🥹🥹🥹 love you loads 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇶🇦🇶🇦

[@tumiphasha3291]

I love how composed you are today.

[@lebokeswa1804]

We learn all the time right☝🏽☺️

[@tumiphasha3291]

@lebokeswa1804 yes indeed. You are getting better all the time. Everyday presents a new improved you. All the best.

[@supermom354]

Sesi, go fetch your man. Go look for a family therapist and cut ties with anyone that wants to discredit your husband, he must also cut ties with such people. Put God at the centre of your marriage, not friends.

[@naomimmabatho8388]

Ijooo Mpho you taking me back ....thanks to Mintek. Mr Wilmot Keep going strong 💪 ❤️

[@PearlMkN]

@naomimmabatho8388 Hello my classmate and friend. Those were the days I tell you. We learned the art of life.😍😍😍

[@naomimmabatho8388]

@PearlMkN I think onetime you need to do podcast and call all the mapcollege teachers. Or Do where are they now form people who benefited in that programme . Thanks

[@portiarangoako7510]

You have a great deal of wisdom Pearl❤️

[@thathappened2009]

Im happy the Maake ka Ncube marriage is still happy. Things we read🫠🥺. May God grow you Sello & Pearl. May he protect your marriage

[@angelic...4985]

Are they,?

[@nomondesowazi7538]

What a good insight dear Pearl wish you well in all your endeavours. Mosadi does that dear child protecting your own, I pray that in all the spheres of your life you reach a common ground. Bless you child.

[@maureenmaje9916]

Lebo is different, she doesn't try hard to be liked,she's genuine❤...as for pearl,i fell in love with you after watching this,what a soul❤

[@ThatoMatsetse]

Ooh Pearl❤❤❤, your wisdom woman👏🫶

[@queenbeeeza1706]

Pearl my sister, “a whole you” very intelligent, seemingly nurturing and loving person being, I assume an apologist for an alleged, manipulative /abusive man.Such people will drag you to the mud my sister. Raising boys who constantly see their mother being humiliated by a man who claims to love is very damaging to them. I may be speaking from a point of correction simply because I only know what I’ve seen in the media. But this, is not it dali. Phuma, itswa

[@LaMandiki]

Gold comment

[@dee-global]

I feel the same way. The reports we've seen are alarming, and if there's even a hint of truth to them, she needs to let the marriage go. I feel for her, especially knowing how she's always been so afraid of humiliation, avoiding things like dancing on table and yet here she is, with her relationship making headlines every week for all the wrong reasons. It must be horrible for the poised person she is.

[@kulaniful]

I think the guy of "Engineer your life" would have done justice, Lebo lacks structure,

[@SindiNdlovu-k5z]

This comment is so unnecessary. I mean, pearl could go on both shows. No need to compare.

[@kulaniful]

@SindiNdlovu-k5z sisters must improve, its coming from a good heart

[@ayandaskosana9647]

And this lady it’s the first time she speaks out. This was the wrong platform for her to come out

[@ptlamola1230]

I think it was a PR strategy. She wants people to know that she is Pearl and was there before Sello came into her life. She does not want to be identified by the marriage. Her mentioning that she met him at a time when his ship had sunk was enough to show that without her, he would probably be deformed like many of his time....gate ne a sokola

[@lebokeswa1804]

Go and watch his show Ke, no one asked you to be here🙄

[@QuenitaNkopane]

De voice of Lebo Mathosa is hre❤❤❤

[@ptlamola1230]

🤣🤣Your character is everything. Ne le ja eng😂 Lebo🥰

[@lebokeswa1804]

🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@MommaBear52]

Pearl is sooooo smart, eloquent and beautiful! Now I can see why the marriage would have cracked because she sounds grounded and talks about goals, and the future etc. Sometimes our partners, especially men, do not want to think ahead and despise the feeling of being challenged. "I'm the head of the house why do you want to tell me what to do"...I hope they work things out.😢😢

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

I'm definitely one of the happily married women neh but I love this Podcast ya Lebo🔥🎉

[@lebokeswa1804]

I love it for you😊

[@queenbeeeza1706]

A whole you, my diye ❤ your authenticity my sister ❤❤❤

[@MissKMasoka-oq9fs]

Please I live for Lebo hlee... Really enjoyed this episode❤❤❤❤❤

[@MommaBear52]

She is sooooo on point about black on black hate!!!!! It's sickening and it's all over the Diaspora. Why do we do this to each other!!!!

[@pulanemahase728]

Oh wow, Lebo, we can really see an improvement with every episode! You did an excellent job with the intro, getting straight to the point and introducing the guest in under a minute. I appreciate that you take criticism positively, allowing yourself to grow. Cheers to more progress! I also want to emphasize how important your question, "How can we help you?" at the end of interviews is. Keep up the great work!

[@lebokeswa1804]

Thank you so much👏🏽👏🏽

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

Nna watch me show my inlaws flames should they try funny things should my husband pass on "God forbid"... This black culture of self entitlement and messing up with widows is sickening. I hope Mme Shai is winning in her ministry to assist widows. 💞

[@DitsheleSebesho]

Love how Pearl protect her husband and the relationship itself, well done dear❤

[@noziqhamovokwana8826]

Pearl’s voice 🙌🏽❤️

[@viweparkies8105]

Latoya dodged a bullet Yoh God Lebo is such a mess shame 😱😱how do u reason with such a person

[@molebogengmoholoagae6853]

Lebo is Cray Cray guys😂😂😂 i just cant help it but lover her❤

[@thokomasango2294]

Shem Lebo yr so funny mara😅, the deaf community will come for you for that sign language

[@lebokeswa1804]

I’m trying hle🤣🤣🤣

[@ednamacquela7982]

Lebo God is faithful has His own ways in leading us to our right destinations.

[@NozoloyisoMafu]

I love Pearl, she is such a lady❤

[@sebinakhuzwayo5485]

Hi ausi Lebo I'm watching replay wow I've learned a lot to this show from ausi Pearl Mbewe.. You guys you are wonderfull❤nna I do believe in life we learn new things everyday..thank you so much guys God bless indeed🙌💫💫

[@nothandonxumalo4460]

I'm listening to this while washing the dishes 😂 yoh I enjoyed thank ause lebo I like the fact that you don't fish out stories or force people to reveal things they not ready to talk about... I love ause pearl I hope to work with her one such a beautiful soup and I agree with her reputation is everything safeguard it❤

[@tehillahmbewe7649]

Love you Pearl may the Lord strengthen you,you're such a beautiful soul both inside and outside.May the Lord carry you through PEARL.

[@avlogbybernice7816]

I can’t with Pearls voice😂😂😂😂

[@Mrsptheenterprenuer]

My favourite!!! You healed you too

[@forgymokalapa]

Thank you so much for this interview. I just recently started working as a PR practitioner and I am learning so much from Pearl. Just the information I needed.

[@MamosebiPampeir]

Yho sis Lebo you put pearl really on a hot sit.

[@ThaboMmatlo]

Lebo keswa I adore this lady, sty blessed ma sista❤️🌹🙏

[@mantokgx2237]

Lebo every week you are growing and the podcasts is more softer in terms of your studio and background. Your logo is 👌👌👌

[@lebokeswa1804]

Thank you so much. We learn all the time and your constructive criticism means everything 👏🏽👏🏽

[@tselanemolatsa8919]

Yoo guy's aus Lebo omotle like she's so beautiful & clean

[@noxolosakang6547]

None of this mess would be happening. On that note, I would say a man is a lucky being. A wife will swear by her marriage even in the midst of a mess.

[@TidimaloMoroko]

I love pearl❤

[@tkasiam8322]

All the best with your podcast Lebo Keswa 👏

[@lebokeswa1804]

Thank you so much🙏🏽

[@MamaG-11]

Well done lebo I enjoyed today’s topic ❤

[@khosinomandla4179]

We love you Lebo❤❤❤❤

[@keitumetse1148]

Amme Lebo o sharp mara 🤔

[@Hlangothi25]

Haibo Pearl, we most have gone through pap & cabbage homes. Where's the tea about marriage to Sello, a whole hour😢

[@ayandaskosana9647]

Nothing was said this whole hour

[@maggiekelebemang1183]

Thanks... I didn't have to watch any further.

[@MsRoriT]

Vele that's why we came. Ebile now I'm not going to watch the whole episode... 🙈😭😂

[@zygolicious1216]

Thanks I stopped watching at 3:49😂 Phela I came here for the ☕️

[@neom645]

So there's no tea? While Lebo keeps saying kuningi...yhoo

[@phumzamkhuli3809]

❤A whole You is glowing baby Lebo,mncwaaaa,mncwaaaaa😂😂😂😂 share with me what you are using in your face

[@gugungwenya6932]

Just forgive each other and let it work❤🎉

[@dimakatsoevelyn8420]

I'm watching Lebo's podcast for the first time.🥰

[@SuccessMadisha]

Lebo at times comes across insensitive, throwing "o mogolo. He must have taken you as his daughter" yhoooo we can be friends but we must respect each other

[@proudlysa774]

I so wish Lebo you could post maybe three episodes every week. Love Love this podcast ❤

[@lebokeswa1804]

We are working on it☝🏽

[@proudlysa774]

@lebokeswa1804 fantastic

[@hlamalanibaloyi-jele3897]

I love Lebo, hope to meet her one day.❤

[@lebokeswa1804]

I’m sure we can make that possible 😊

[@victoriammamsie8192]

Numbers don't lie, keep it up Lebo

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Thank you for subscribing 🙏🏽

[@thabisobhengu7458]

This is a classic example of MISERY LOVES COMPANY

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I love you Lebo.❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

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pearl you're a wise woman