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[@wayNAY87]

“Everything I think doesn’t need to be a public statement.” A message for our generation. 👏🏾

[@mchan2141]

Yes

[@ccaprio]

wayNAY83 scrolled on the comment at the exact time she said it 👍😊 #Preach

[@technopoptart]

a message for the two preceding generations and the one after as well

[@shimmering_morbidity728]

If I could thumbs up x infinity I would. So damn true. My Gawwwd

[@majinbuuu9042]

More now then ever

[@smallroomartist]

EEEVVVEELLLYYYYNNNNN !!!!! Look at you uploading like three times this year!!!

[@dawnjohnson1965]

lol right

[@myrilunalee9999]

I guffawed SOOOO hard at this!!!! LMAO!!!

[@mel...s]

😂😂😂😂

[@Thepeejay]

LOL Right!!!

[@almbng]

😳

[@jessienyarko]

I'm glad I'm not the only one that talks to myself like that! 😄 I say to myself: "Self" And myself be like: "Ooh what you wonderin?"

[@dremy101]

Jessie Nyarko nearly choked! Your 'self' loves a good tea😁

[@marykagiri9831]

Just watched about a minute but let me tell you ... you’ll never be cancelled by me 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@debrajohnson6473]

"that's me trying to paint with all the colors of the wind" 😂😂

[@chibaby0306]

we are all hypocrites to an extent. dont beat yourself up. thats the beauty of life, we live, grow and evolve.

[@Makeupjunki76]

I have to constantly remind myself that all my thoughts don’t need to verbalized.

[@ljlew3753]

Makeupjunki76 I’m working on this too 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Fammangalover]

A

[@IjeomaThePlantMama]

My Facebook TimeHop is constantly reminding me about ALL my problematic high school days🤦🏿 good thing I'm a nobody!

[@higherflow1]

cringe every day literally.

[@tiki2976]

pajamagirl123 Same...except I was in college when Facebook came out...so I was good and grown! 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@zanelemuch]

I'm with you there the shame...

[@kaylahjasmine]

I promise I was gonna say the same thing, I promise I try to figure out what in the fairy fudge was I thinking! lol

[@AriWonder]

same. things were... quieter. I remember when Facebook reached a million accounts years back and how that was a big thing.

[@yellowbubblequeen]

I feel like Evelyn uploads when that rent is due...I’m here for it. Love u boo

[@Evelynfromtheinternets]

Carmelita.88 Pahahaha listen we all grown ups here!!

[@mylettersandlayers]

yooooo i fell out at this comment

[@oof-rr5nf]

Carmelita.88 I genuinely laughed out loud at this xD

[@defrand14able]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@pjones0424]

I had to lay down after reading this. 😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@Evelynfromtheinternets]

OK SO LIKE I definitely used to be on some “respectable girl” type stuff until my absolute FAV at the time Lupe Fiasco had a song called “Bitch Bad” and I was like HOL UP HOL UP! I feel A Type Way™️ about this. And then through my own research I learned (and am STILL learning) how we talk about women’s bodies, choices, and how our society decides who is worthy of respect. #themoreyouknow

[@Esther_Anita]

Evelyn From The Internets I was the sole Coco puff in a bowl of milk in high school (if you catch my drift) and definitely perpetuated some stereotypes and put down in black and white for all of FB comment readers to see some super cringe worthy statements! Like on some 'im not that black' foolishness (thanks for the reminder FB memories 😬) then I actually started reading up and having conversations with people and realized just how trifling and damaging perpetuating even if I didnt really mean it was especially coming out of my mouth

[@sharonbobaron1605]

hi! i used to be extremely homophobic. i even wrote an essay for my senior year english class about how i felt on the topic. i met a gay man the next year as a freshman in college and continued to question my upringing over the last few decades and am dismantling my own homophobia little by little. i really love the process of changing by meeting people and talking with them versus screaming across the digital realm like we millennials tend to do. i've found the huge changes that have come in my life, the eventual disappearance of my hatred towards homosexuality being the largest one, have come from developing personal relationships in person. thank you for outlining this, evelyn!

[@AlphabetSoup123]

We'll we ever get a cousins' book club Evelyn?

[@mesocookie]

I'm sure Beyonce feels the same way about "Nasty Girl" from the Survivor album - we live and we learn

[@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley]

Briana Cook Ugh, that was my song, lol.

[@bama9215]

This is my problem with social media and this call out culture- it leaves little to no room to evolve, especially if the journey is not explicitly documented for the public.(as you mentioned) We all grow. Unlearn things and learn new things. That is life. Yes, some past actions should result in harsher consequences but social media armies are so quick to decide who has access to redemption and who doesn’t, in such a black and white manner when in reality life is nuanced.

[@carelletsopmo9366]

Exactly! People love to cancel others for things they have said or done years ago. Like people can change? Just because they said something problematic in the last doesn't mean that they're a problematic person.

[@paulinedavis8372]

Yo this is real talk. I noticed that I was wasting time calling people out on the internet and when I examined further, I realized it was a way for me to express my anger and feel right in doing so. I was never doing it to help make change or make my community better. I never called anyone out in real life. I would just go online and scream at ppl because of misplaced anger. Now I try to spread positive information online about how to help, how to make change.

[@MelissaThompson432]

I totally relate to this, but in my case (and I'm not completely over it) it's about "I'm smarter than you, you ignorant random commenter!" And then at some point I feel shame for doing it just to score points (although I reserve the right to think of some people as ignorant....)

[@alex1smay]

I definitely used to be a "i'm color blind," "we're all one race...the human race" ass shawty but learned how that was rhetoric used to ignore my own experiences, the experiences of other people of color, and remove any accountability from white supremacy and whiteness. There are still things i'm unlearning. It's all a process and I'm just glad I'm less trash today than I was this time last year

[@msgirly6827]

Alexis Mayfield jupp. We are all trash in some way. I know I am.

[@bstmeg5237]

Yeah cuz it’s only white people using systemic brain washing.

[@zanaleezee]

Was about to judge u about not boycotting racist establishments but I have been to Starbucks like twice since that shit happened. (Struck down by lightening)

[@almetas_grandbaby]

zanalee zee I’ve been to Starbucks too. 👀👀😩 lordt, I needed the WiFi

[@SJ-qf2tz]

SHOOOOT same

[@Char2400]

At least they're trying 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@VVilde36]

I'd like to point out that it wasn't something the corp literally did, It was a manager at a store who worked for the corp who did that, just like a singular guy. Not to mention the company immediately took action and closed down all its stores for a day for social retraining. I think you can drink your sbux guilt free dude.

[@kaylahjasmine]

zanalee zee I think you're good with starbucks because the actually tried hard to rectify the problem. Now if you went to Waffle House then that's a problem! But you good, I love that mocha frapp! lol

[@BkWellness]

I found that "respectability politics" is really high-brow bullying and passive-aggressive shade throwing.

[@tybooskie]

I used to be on that BS. I'm cringing at what I used to think.

[@eekennaj]

"I almost deleted my twitter, on site" lmboff!!

[@stillediting2539]

i learned very quickly that not every conversation is a teaching moment or an opportunity to voice opinions!!! sometimes people just want to vent and have absolutely no use or appreciation for your point of view in that moment. They get frustrated, an argument ensues and next thing you know you both are not talking to one another!! silence is golden and very often your greatest protection!!

[@asia2067]

khandiegram This!

[@jessicaaudate]

Yep

[@afrobelle8626]

So....... we not going to address the real reason you’re problematic #uploadingonceeverysixweeks. Jk Evelyn I appreciate whenever you upload 😬

[@Evelynfromtheinternets]

pahahahah you got me!!!

[@Daizy10231023]

LMMFAOOOOOO. #ISSATRUTH

[@i.destiny]

Afrobelle 86 😂😂🤣

[@mogetit5999]

Afrobelle 86 exactly I ain't wanna say it but dayummmm E c'mon son!

[@kbs8586]

Evelyn From The Internets got you real god. But you’re doing so much better!

[@sheenabailey]

Lol the costume is hilarious

[@toyaJM]

I never do call outs what I do instead is examine my emotions towards thing that irritate me or let it be known which behavior I won't tolerate. I think that to some that maybe a call out be for me it's defending my inner peace. I just had a conversation about this over a recent fb post. I don't cancel people I cancel train of thoughts. We all have room to grow. No need to through people away.

[@latrinkaowens]

Latoya Johns you know I just learned you can't throw people away like 2 years ago...used to be my favorite thing to do.

[@VentraleStar]

beautifully put

[@itshoneychilee]

I agree with this completely. One of my friends I've noticed has a habit of throwing people away or cancelling them really quickly without checking herself first. I always have to remind her that she can't group groups of people together because of the interactions she's had or heard about with certain people. The most recent has been white people and Asians and having to slide in the conversation without seeming like I'm attack her that just because ideally we shouldn't be the spokespeople for how we should be treated (in the case of being an African American for example), you inevitably will have to be and that's just the way of the world. When you encounter ignorance, the best thing you can do for that person is try to educate them and understand exactly why they think the way they do because if you don't the issue only perpetuates and no one comes together or grows. It's like I keep telling her and like Evelyn said, when you know better you do better and we have to give people the chance to do that instead of automatically writing them off because you didn't agree with them or they didn't understand or know something. I wish people would understand that. I feel like we could all benefit from watching Evelyn's video. Thanks for making it!

[@nadiam926]

Very well put Latoya!

[@cannibalisticrequiem]

You make a great point Latoya, and it makes me re-evaluate the way I approach problematic behavior and people. I personally think the only time people should be thrown out is when they keep repeating problematic behavior and refuse to change, because they think they don't need to and they know society will keep accepting their empty apologies (eg PewDiePie, Jeffree Starr).

[@tyshine33]

Oh I was so judgemental about folks and their kids. How they raised them, how if they didn't do something right it was the parents fault never mind the fact that kids are small adults with minds of their own and sometimes won't follow what you say no matter what. Yeah, well I'm in my 11th year of raising one of my own and I'm just trying to keep my edges intact. Between his own exploration and curiosity about the world and me trying to keep him safe from the dangers of it, I've been applying Wild growth oil daily😭😭

[@Aurischoice]

tyshine33 this was almost poetic 💕💁🏽‍♀️

[@Thebeautyofarighteousmind]

This comment is too real 😅❤

[@airamasmusic]

I love how this is hypothetical damage control 😂😂 but I understand what you’re saying :)

[@Naptural85]

LMAO!!! Omg, Evelyn, Always a joy girl, alway a joy. I'm dead @1:31 seriously tho. 💀💀💀

[@chescaleigh]

GAAAAAAH this was so great! I'm all for people being more upfront about their mistakes and how they've grown, I genuinely think it's the first step in encouraging others to also do the work of owning their shit. As for your question, I was also an Indian in Peter Pan *oof* and there are SO MANY photos. Burn them all. I've also had to work really hard at not getting defensive when I've been called out. I tend to be really sarcastic and so that was my go to response which is really condescending and shitty. I really regret how I responded to some people in the past who're brave enough to be honest with me and instead of trying to see where they were coming from I was dismissive and rude. Combine that with the internet where everyone is looking for a viral clapback....and it's a disaster. I know I turned off supporters and potential supporters because of those shady and defensive responses, but it's something I've made a commitment to work on and I feel better for it. Thanks so much for starting this conversation, leading by example AND for giving me and #WTEQ a shout out!

[@girlwiththemagicpen]

"When you know better, ideally, you do better." - Evelyn I like that

[@Lemynlime]

Please make a podcast please!!!

[@charleneraymond4036]

I don't support/buy from none of the problematic companies..... not because I'm boycotting, more so because I'm broke

[@kyristal]

I was a respectability warrior 🤦🏾‍♀️ AMEN FOR GROWTH .

[@ashleyrp2007]

I think it’s all about how you’ve changed and how you react to your old problematic ways. Most people aren’t apologetic and haven’t learned from their old ways. That’s the difference

[@ChocoDippLibrarian]

I love the honesty. This whole "canceling" business is counterproductive. And imo its becoming almost bullying. When you know better, you do better. Alot of times in our pasts, we didnt know any better.

[@Aaliyah_Eli]

I love the way Evelyn talks. Not just the accent but the words she uses and the way she uses them. Being serious/real but funny at the same time and I don't see ANYTHING wrong with cosplaying as someone who isn't the same race as long as you ain't painting your damn face the colour you aren't ygm

[@tifftiff7363]

“Thats me..trying to paint with all the colors of the wind” 😂🤣💀 I’ve literally rewound the video from 1:30-1:34 (7x) Am I the only one waiting for Evelyn to come out with Audio Books or seeing her on the big screen. Thanks sis for the content and convo! My forever mantra is “You are confined only by the walls you build yourself” knowledge really is power and ignorance is not bliss. I try to purposely live and think outside of the boxes we’ve been taught and do better

[@lhalliday319]

"I love a good flip flop" DED😂😂 Real talk I love all of your tidbits of wisdom that are oh so effortlessly wrapped in transparency and and humor. Thank you! 👏🏾👏🏾

[@maileen420]

When you whispered "isn't that cosplay?" I nearly spit out my food😂😂😂

[@ZiggiWillpower]

Nobody does an Audible recommendation like Evelyn

[@JTLightz]

True so many people are getting cancelled for one bad media posts. Forgiveness is out the window. Punishment is key.

[@AngelaAngelicMessangerDenmark]

I decided to teach other caregivers and people tips about how to care for dementia folks -- like my mom -- instead of being angry about their fear and ignorance. Makes me feel better, and helps others at the same time.😊

[@HerLovesBooks]

Lord, you are enjoyable. 🤣🤣🤣 I admitted I didn't know who Uncle Charlie was on Facebook a few years ago. I got dragged. They took my black card. I swear there were 2,000 comments. That's a lot for regular people. It was hilarious, but it escalated fast. I can't imagine how horrible it would be for it to be something negative.

[@victoriamontemayor]

I was super judgemental of people who got divorced (I thought they were failures) and then I got divorced and I saw how difficult of a decision it was. #superreal

[@akualikewater]

I refreshed my youtube homepage and what do i find? What do i find? An Evelyn video and it is newly uploaded! I know today is going to be a great day!

[@reeeeeks1]

akualikewater I knew it too! And I wasn't wrong lol

[@CBromfield]

I boycotted Dean and Deluca for over 10 years. One day I was using my credit card there and the bill came to $24.96 the cashier said that I couldn't use my card because it was under $25. I did the LET ME SEE A MANAGER thing, got my groceries. and didn't go back for over 10 years. Well I lifted the ban, I realized their bottom line had not changed and well the service and charge card minimums had...maybe I wasn't alone in my boycott.....but I felt righteous in my fight for .......what ever I was fighting for.

[@Basseyworld]

I took an 8 month social media break and came up with exactly this video. Thank you for making it.

[@Candies1Creations]

When she plays that "I'm not perfect clip" with her accent 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I tear up laughing everytime

[@Vinaluv]

yessssss. She was a "Knuck if Buck"! I love how you just so casually used that phrase, that's that Southernplayalisticadillac funky music. I'm a modest dresser and not for a religious purpose, I use to judge people and they way they dress. MEN and WOMEN...but now, i'm like okay. whatever. I got tired of people saying it was okay for big girls to wear their arms out and I would have to tell them. I wasn't always big , but I always was a modest dresser even as a child. I realized I shouldn't judge people for wearing what makes them comfortable.

[@RaeJeana]

I GOT A FEW LOL Years ago, I used to have the opinion that pansexuality is a trend and that people who claimed it were attention-seeking. Now I'm like...why was I so concerned about people exploring/declaring their sexuality?? I hadn't even come to understand my own sexuality yet, which should have made it obvious that it can be fluid and that it's valid in every phase. I'm so glad I never shared that take with anyone until now lol

[@RaeJeana]

And of course now I defend anyone who is exploring their sexuality and/or gender to anyone who tries to invalidate it!

[@michellep4843]

Bbbbbrrrrrruuuuuuuhhhhhhh I’m dying😂💀 it is so refreshing to see someone just being genuinely real and genuinely funny not on here being fake for the gram or for KZbin

[@LindaMitchell]

“Everything I think doesn’t need to be a public statement.” 👈🏽 Thank you for this message. I've grown tired of the Cancel Culture. You can't enjoy anything without someone saying well that's bad because blah blah blah. It's draining to keep the list of who, what, where is cancelled. Also, we need to let folks grow and get better. It may take more time for some folks. An shining example of growth is Jay Z.

[@whenyouwishuponastar6643]

“Everything I think doesn’t need to be a public comment” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 so true, I can’t have a Twitter because reading thousands of thoughts and opinions of random people who may or may not even be informed on what they’re speaking about became too much for me. I started basing my opinions off of opinions of others instead of off of facts. Great video

[@elisabethshabouk5698]

The motivation for the call out is important. Is it to splash your "mistake" all over the internets or is it to start a conversation or highlight how things have changed (or not).

[@MdmERM]

yes. just yes.

[@florindalucero3236]

When I learned that a phrase I had grown up with, which contained no buzzwords (or so I thought), was steeped in racial persecution. When I was made aware, there was no digestion period, or need for explanation beyond the initial explanation, it instantaneously clicked. I was horrified, and have never used it again.

[@m.matabane5524]

Right on! We all reserve the right to be human, to be wrong, to change our minds at any time!

[@delaneybeckman5248]

I'm only like thirteen seconds in, but I'm gonna slide down in these comments and just say: Thank you SO much for uploading today. The noise that came out of my mouth when I saw your thumbnail did not sound human lol. I'm from Texas (idk if you know the Allen/McKinney area but that's my old stomping grounds) but I'm in California studying political science and sociology, and this week has been so flippin' hard. Watching the news about the atrocities happening to innocent children in my home state, discussing them in classes, and trying to do as much as I can from so far away has been so draining and heartbreaking. Seeing your upload made me genuinely smile for the first time in almost a week. Your channel is my go to for a pick-me-up whenever I'm in my feelings. You never fail to make me laugh and feel better about the world. :) Annnnnyways, I'm going to get back to watching the video. Sorry for getting so serious; I just wanted to let you know that you're wonderful and you totally made my day.

[@FabuLoveCity]

I feel you on so many levels. I’ve always feared fame because I don’t know what may come out. I literally deleted my Facebook and waited two years before I could return to KZbin. Now I just have to pray that there aren’t screenshots out there. As many people have mentioned here, we all have something. Learning is the best part

[@brwneyedgirlx19]

In middle school I used to use the word "f****t" to describe someone I thought was being stupid/silly. Which I had totally forgotten about until I read my old journals in horror. HORROR. Like I wrote that shit down and didn't think twice about how awful it was. I'm still embarrassed. Hopefully I continue to learn and grow.

[@chryllaird]

Loved this. Very thoughtful. As a professor, call out culture makes discussions kny classroom challenging. I have to spend alot of time reinforcing that it is okay not to know something and be learning new perspectives. Not too long ago made a comment that offended someone with a physical disability. I was being ableist. They kindly corrected me and genuinely appreciated it. I was ignorant in my statement and we had a great conversation.

[@BlyssfulStorm]

I absolutely have your voice in my head whenever I do any of this crap and I'M GLAD I'M NOT ALONE. "I'm not perfect. I never said I was perfect!"

[@iamtabitha]

We all out here still trying to learn. Franchesca’s chapter about calling out vs calling is was great. Loved this vid!

[@sujurean]

Evelyn u hit the nail on the head about being problematic and accountability is how I feel. Like I have for real stopped enjoying things due to it being problematic and also have avoided being seen w/ something that is problematic bc of the thought of being canceled. But now its like-- ok as long as I am not ignorant in the fact that it is problematic I can enjoy the parts of the media that aren't problematic or I can enjoy it despite its problematic traits. Additionally unfortunately there is no ethical consumption under modern capitalism. Just bc Jeff Bezos is an awful individual, I can't stop using Amazon for things like textbook rentals and prime videos bc there are no other accountable online purchasing websites available and shipping is free. Just bc Uber's CEO was awful that one time doesn't stop me from using uber when the same car ride on lyft costs 3x as much. There are some things I can avoid from purchasing like Barilla pasta, Ever stepping foot into a Salvation Army, not ordering papa johns pizza (but still eating it when someone else buys it), Jelly Bellys etc. However I don't judge someone if they do these things, maybe inform them on how shitty the company is to someone that doesn't know. But regarding just doing better, I feel I have learned a ton regarding problematic racial misinformation that I have been taught from my not so racially friendly Indian relatives. Like I just cringe at shit I thought was ok from not knowing better and not being taught how I was problematic. I try to extend this consideration to others bc some people are extremely misinformed and just don't know better.

[@wiigurl1]

Used to be all judgemental, saying "not my kid" ... never say never! Because, yes it "was my kid" humble pie is hard to swallow sometimes 🌹

[@AmazinglyCarefree]

Sooooo a couple of weeks ago I was looking through videos I posted on Facebook. Roughly 10 years ago, there is a video of my son saying "aw s@#+", and I was laughing HYSTERICALLY!! I am a middle school teacher. I deplore parents that do that, so to know that I was once that parent. 🤦🏾🤦🏾🤦🏾 ironically, I didn't erase the video. I just made it so only I can see it. After all, he is still my kid and his little 1 year old face is ADORABLE!

[@moche2303]

I totally agree that call-out culture is backfiring on itself by creating pressure to be perfect, to never ask any questions, and to shy away from conversations that include anyone who has not been heavily trained in the art of speaking "unproblematically".

[@MissJeriB]

I WAS HELLA PROBLEMATIC on tumblr. I dont even go there anymore. I was super deep in call outs and witch hunts. My faves leaving tumblr for twitter showed me the way in response to the toxicity

[@i.destiny]

Anyone remember that Kony 2008 situation we was all posting on fb??? To this day I don't even know what it was about or why I was posting it. I've learned to do research before jumping on the bandwagon. *cringe

[@ebonydavenport5037]

Love this! I too am a complicit consumer (H&M is in my humble ass price point right now). But it’s always great to be reminded that we should extend patience and grace (within reason, obvi bc some folks are trash/toxic), but that’s easy to forget in the age of cancel culture. I always reflect on this quote by Malcolm X (who also had problematic ways about him, ironically): “Don't be in a hurry to condemn because he doesn't do what you do or think as you think or as fast. There was a time when you didn't know what you know today.”

[@AriellChristiain1]

“I luh a good flip flop” girl I feel you

[@shethewriter]

I’m a lot more forgiving of mindsets than actions. People can change. Harassing or threatening a person is different than saying something bigotted; especially many years ago.

[@glamstarred]

I have a very specific thing I did when I was 19 years old that comes to mind. I didn't see how me demanding that someone speak "their truth" was taking their voice away. I stupidly thought I was empowering them to be themselves. But really I was bullying them into admitting things they weren't ready to do. Now I mind my damn business and try not to comment on someone else's life or lies unless asked. Dont drag me

[@najeebasheer9093]

“...and in the back of my mind I hear my conscience call...”

[@JourneyWithAjah]

Okay I got one. When I was 17, I was at a college party. A person could be heard vomiting in the bathroom. I had a whole argument with another person in the bathroom line that there's "obviously" a girl vomiting in there, where the other person was adamant that there's actually a guy vomiting in there. I was new to Austin, fresh out of high school in a very sheltered suburban community, and I had never been introduced to the concept of transgendered people before. #whenyouknowbetteryoudobetter

[@katesterner]

yeh, I clicked it. It's on me. ... I mess up all the time. And nobody is harder on me about that than myself. I have been judgy toward others, but it has been loving, forgiving people who have lovingly and forgivingly presented me with an alternative view that got me to stop. You can teach someone about forgiveness by forgiving them.

[@BetterOffRed]

1. I love you 2. I realize that we have never met, and it’s weird for me to say that so casually. 3. Your point of view and ease in explaining difficult topics is refreshing, and an amazing reference to show others, which I often do. #sharingiscaring 4. Thank you for helping me learn... and learn others. Teach. Teach others.

[@arialmanzar4174]

COME THRU 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 you just said EVERYTHING that I’ve been wanting to scream out to people. Call out culture is also a form of violence and divisive. There is nothing inclusive about it. So while people are all pumped up on their social justice juices they forget that people are warranted a learning curve and time to grow on their own time. Making someone feel shame is not going to do that. It’s just going to ostracize that person further. And no if you’re someone who is learning and isn’t “there yet” I don’t want you to leave I want you to stay and I want you to keep coming back. There are other ways to hold people accountable.

[@twocents2894]

Love this video! My sister and I were just talking about call out culture and how it actually perpetuates ignorance because ppl rather remain silent and unknowing than speak up and risk a public dragging. I also disagree with the idea of canceling people. Yes, there is a small percentage of people (coined the “basket of deplorables” by Mrs. Rodham Clinton) that do deserve cancellation. However, the vast majority just need some education, time to mature, and alternating kicks in the butt and/or hugs. I can say this because glimpses of my old FB posts remind me of my former problematic-ness. Thankfully, loved ones didn’t cancel me but opted to give me room to grow and mature instead.

[@richbtch4121]

Evelyn there’s a search feature on Twitter. Search your @ and literally every problematic word possible and DELETE EVERY SINGLE ONE.

[@airotcivvictoria5498]

this a very RELEVANT topic with some peoples extremely problematic favs being killed this week.

[@4c_aperture]

Any time I wanna talk about someone my mind IMMEDIATELY drags up the time I yelled 'That's weird!' about trans ppl in the middle of my high school cafeteria, and I shut my mouth 🤐 that was over four years ago. People change, and I think we need to remember that.

[@jadelotus4941]

Secondly, yes... yes it's so true that we're in a time of living inside our own little boxes of voyeurism (thanks to the internets) and lack of accountability... lack of self-awareness, too much damn criticism, too much readiness to kick the legs out from under other people. It's all a perpetuation of insecurity and narcissism. The world needs more people keeping it real and being humble.

[@ArabaWaters]

Your skin is glowing Evelyn 😍😍

[@ameliavelasco8602]

Yo I’ve said a LOT of casually racist things on TUMBLR of all places and boy let me tell you I got DRAGGGGGEEEDDDD by black Tumblr. I was scared for my life. I also was very ace and bi phobic for a while and got dragged for that too. I’ve learned a lot since then and have changed my views completely, all that was almost 7 or so years ago! I’ve also been part of the dragging committee and it feels so good to be part of that. But I think we should understand that people change and we should come to them with patience and understanding (in most cases) and realize that change takes time and they don’t always get it right the first time, but maybe they’ll change! It’s so hard to know who will or won’t. I guess we should always give the benefit of the doubt? Hmm...

[@PrincessScrivener]

It always makes me uncomfortable when anyone (but friends who I *know* are just joking around) tells us that they 'stan' us. Like, no. Please don't. We make mistakes. We all have blind spots. Don't stan anyone. -S

[@IRJOHNSO21]

I’m here for ALL of this. I’m actually going to use this video in class (I’m a professor). I teach a few classes that relate to stereotyping and prejudice and I always emphasize that you have to commit to striving to be anti-prejudiced and recognize you may stumble, but keep trying! Call -out culture undermines that so much so I love this!

[@Iprsmrk]

We were having a Christmas party at the office and part of the fun was drawing numbers for gifts under the tree…some call it White Elephant but at the time it was called Chinese Christmas Tree. Bless his heart, my co-worker (Chinese) walked up to me with the flier and asked me why it was called that and I told him because the game goes forward and backward, and is unpredictable like Chinese Checkers. I have never called it that since then.

[@enzomthethwa5861]

Ohhh!!! You used my favorite Audre Lorde quote! "The Master's tools will never dismantle the Master's house."

[@_Alimm]

I was an oversharer and reckless at the mouth in my old Tumblr days. LOTS of slutshaming, ugly respectability politics. I was gaining lots of followers who had no prob digging for my old problematic mess. I realized last year with tens and thousands of posts I accumulated that it would be impossible to sift through it all. I deleted everything an moved on as a refreshed as a new me. I don't miss it and was a good idea since Tumblr is pretty much dead now.

[@ranabluu]

Becoming a parent definitely makes you want to be better.

[@Nocturne22]

LOL thank god she said it - I was looking at that Pocahontas costume wondering how that looks anything like the character.

[@Michelle-xx5ye]

Pocahontas and Princess Jasmine were my favorite Disney Princess's growing up because they were the closes thing to a princess that looked like me that I could look up to .

[@itstiffy]

I used to wonder why some people were private about their sexuality because of what year it was and how it wasn't as bad as previous years. Now I understand that regardless of year people can still be affected due to things like this and that ultimately it is the choice of the person.

[@thecosmicbug]

I swear there will always be people pissed off. I got attacked by my black community for even mentioning that violence isn't the answer 😂. "This is war", mmm... How is their war going NOW?!👀

[@shaylanacub2978]

I hate how people say violence is necessary when MLK Jr. didn't use violence and blacks have rights now 💁 Violence just makes things worse if people haven't noticed

[@AidaKiraya]

The Kenyan accent gets me everyyyytimeee!!! 😂😂😂😂

[@VanessaConley]

Erasing comments or blocking someone is nowhere near childish! If you don't need to read the negative block or erase.. It makes for a healthier mind! My learned better so I could be better is one of many, when I realized we all are taught. Whether it is in the home, school, society and yes while we are alone. We taken in must information from someone and a bit les from something eg. a book or research out of the norm. When I finally embraced the something more I discovered TRUTH!

[@cubetita]

This video was so relatable! I know that no one can ever be perfect and we all just need to learn and grow everyday, but I always want to do the right thing and messing up feels bad.

[@lighthousekermit]

Can I just go ahead and cancel all of my ~pre-2014~ self ?

[@CJolieTV]

Oooooh at 0:03 I thought you were about to start singing " I Need Love" by LLCoolJ 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Natasha-ve3uj]

yea girl ..cant please everyone . ...As my grandmother would say Live yuh life and learn from yuh mistakes!

[@hellomj581]

the EDITING ON THIS THOOOO. amazing comedic timingggg uuuuggghhh.

[@jadelotus4941]

Your authenticity and self-awareness are what make you SO DAMN LOVABLE... and SO easy to accept. Because we are just like you... human, contradictory, usually with good intention although sometimes with questionable outcomes, but still worthy of love and acceptance. Keep being REAL. If anyone were to ever try to truly shade you... they'd have an army of internet cousins up their ass about it.

[@bettyreads222]

Preach Evelyn. Oh my gosh the cuts to the older video were so brilliant 🤣 you're so great! Answer to the question: definitely around problematic language: to this I catch myself about to say words that ain't mine to say and/or are just rude to a whole slew of folks with a disability for example. So being more mindful with my words is a practice I take care to do everyday. I also say sorry to myself and others I might have offended if I do slip up because we human out here ya know.

[@bruadarach9758]

My learning curve... I was VERY hostile and VERY self-righteous towards Yes campaigners during the Scottish independence referendum... I was 17 at the time and ran blistering columns in the school newspaper in my mini media monopoly as editor-in-chief including a school-wide poll, I slammed people on twitter and facebook with arrogant economic diatribes, I even took a photo of my postal ballot literally standing in the middle of Westminster bridge with the Houses of Parliament in the background... now, 4 years later, if we had a second referendum tomorrow, I would be voting Yes 😬