I Asked Boyfriend About An OPEN RELATIONSHIP And He Left Me Over It! r/Relationships

[@MountainPearls]

Her boyfriend was a nurse during a Pandemic…what d she think he was going to do during that time? He was dying with people and their families…and she was worrying about being lonely for a time and worried about “her needs.” What a selfish and immature little girl. He did the right thing.

[@damien678]

FR if that was my boyfriend I'd be worried about his physical and mental health. And if I wanted my needs met, then damn, I'd just open up a dating sim game or read a romance novel. It can't compare to a hug from him but it can genuinely help! I mean, and I do this even as a polyamorous person, even though I can just go out and date. But nah, unless someone really took my heart off the bat, I wouldn't be thinking about anyone else. And even then I'd still worry about my boy.

[@Zminator1986]

Something that bothered me is, isn't OP also a nurse? Wouldn't she be working those same crazy hours as well?

[@locusxe1411]

@@Zminator1986 probably different schedules

[@Undomaranel]

I disagree. She wasn't selfish and immature for having needs. She was very mature when she discussed it with him before the cheating, saying that she wanted to spend more time together and pointing out his obsession with work was a wedge. She analyzed the situation, proposed possible reasons for it, and had a talk. She didn't blame or shame him for his work, just said she needs more of him. That's leagues beyond what any selfish teen or Karen does. At the same time it's just as immature for him to devote himself completely to work when his partner says she needs him. What wasn't mature was cheating and trying to cover/ justify it. He should have been more attentive to her, he knew she was younger and wouldn't be at the same place he was yet forced her to cope anyway (or as he put it, holding her back from enjoying life). She shouldn't have cheated, that was selfish, but while she is at fault he is not blameless. They were both selfish and immature in their own ways. Also, lol, they were both nurses during the pandemic. That alone should tell you how much more they needed support from each other, that she was giving and he wasn't.

[@locusxe1411]

@@Undomaranel yeah no. I completely disagree with you on every point you made except she wasn’t being mature. He was attentive to her and she knew that and even said so herself. They are both nurses but nurses also work in different schedules and also work at different parts of the hospital. How dare you say that the boyfriend was being selfish and immature when he handled the situation greatly. Shame on you

[@Raaslen]

Story 1: by the way OP describe her ex, he seems to be a very attentive and experienced person who pay attention to details, so in the second she told him about her ap, he knew she cheated and, as the mature man he is, he left her, and as the absolute unity of a man that he is, he even did that in a very gentle and mature way . Now she is on reddit asking "what have I done whrong?".... Damn girl, at elementary school I and everyone I know knew that kissing someone behind your so is cheating...

[@khaavren3]

Yeah, super mature when he instantly grokked the situation and asked her to leave.

[@imweakfordeaky]

@@khaavren3 my upvote for the use of “grokked”

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

@@khaavren3 She cheated on him so invalid opinion.

[@lucaswinsor4469]

@@sopadumacacoumadelicia5 Um... I don't think they were being sarcastic. The word "grok" (Past participle "grokked"). Is a slang Verb that means "To understand intuitively". His opinion isn't invalid at all.

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

@@lucaswinsor4469 oh If that's the case then I apologize

[@natcourt8719]

Story one? Dude.. with the age difference, he’s not too old for OP. OP is too young for him. What a wonderful partner! She didn’t even feel bad about cheating at first, but only felt bad when he was hurt. SMH. OP really goofed.

[@cheyennetrumbos]

An age gap does not make a bad relationship. I'm 28 and dating a 47 y/o man.

[@idkman290]

@@cheyennetrumbos you're lucky then

[@pezchef7577]

I missed it. did she ever say she confessed to anyone other than reddit?

[@MrJpaynebb]

Most men would have let loose a verbal barrage of insults and words but that man kept her cool. OP's not a bad or evil woman she just F'ed up really bad and now has to pay a hefty price for her actions. Hopefully she'll remember this very expensive lesson and not repeat these actions in any future relationship.

[@miaposamarie226]

@@cheyennetrumbos age gaps like that are terrible 95% of the time. The only reason it works for you is because you are a fully formed adult. Not someone who hasnt even finished developing their brains.

[@Kimmie_78]

Story 1 emotional cheating and physical cheating damn, boyfriend seemed like a good guy, and she messed it up, it shows her immaturity

[@fscorpion678]

@@moon-moth1 Except SHE asked him out. You’re just prejudice and a weirdo

[@morganjennings3161]

@@fscorpion678 maturity and age are not the same thing. The comment says nothing about age but talks about maturity. OP was immature and that is what ruined the relationship. The commenter isn’t prejudiced.

[@noydb-1]

I'm gonna say it because someone has to. I wasn't emotional cheating. She is trickle truthing reddit the same way she was trickle truthing him. She f*cked the "friend" plain and simple, and tried the old "open relationship" play to cover her @$$. She is only admitting to as much as she thinks will still gain her sympathy.

[@bjtaylor-j9w]

He neglected her, and ignored her. There was no reference to them struggling financially. He was not forced to work so much, it was entirely his choice. Other essential workers did not neglect their partners during the height of Covid. He chose to neglect her. You don't have the balls to reply RESPECTFULLY, so run along, little willy waver.

[@DefeatedElite]

​@@bjtaylor-j9wnah he has to provide a lifestyle. Not his fault stop defending women on the internet, they are never going to give you any simp😂😂😂

[@Russman67]

Story 1: OP tried to justify cheating with opening the relationship and that didn't work for him. Honestly, the man is a good man. No anger over it. Just acted to get her out of his life and move on. And she hopefully learned a lesson from this.

[@robertx8020]

i agree

[@robertx8020]

@@melodyharpole8272 yep Still some ppl want to blame him because of 'age gap' It's like they NEED some excuse to shift the blame away from OP

[@mage1439]

@@robertx8020 It's pretty obvious no matter what she says the age gap matters to her. You can listen to her and tell she's a serial cheater.

[@robertx8020]

@@melodyharpole8272 I agree

[@robertx8020]

@@mage1439 I agree but I was talking about the comments :)

[@dracawyn]

Story 1: gotta love it when cheaters try to cover their tracks by asking if they can have an open relationship *AFTER* they've already cheated. She obviously had an emotional affair with that "old friend" and allowed it to escalate to emerging physical. Sounds to me like the age gap might actually be part of the issue after all. OP sounds really immature.

[@tamsel814]

Its somehow refreshing to see an age difference relationship where its the younger one that messes up and not the older one being a controlling jerk

[@Jessidafennecfox]

These lot of people make the Poly community look vile. In any relationship you must communicate, other wise what op did happens

[@pippo17173]

@@Jessidafennecfox These people are the reason why so many look down on it and I hate it. These people should be humilated for the rest of time.

[@wmdkitty]

@@Jessidafennecfox No, the cheater community makes itself look vile. Commit to one person, or don't date at all, you don't get to hurt people and play it off as a "lifestyle".

[@Minidane]

She can now be with her affair partner out in the open.

[@twilighteli865]

Found a deleted update for the second story, they were giving her a chance and things were going well, she wasn't being weird anymore to the BF and messaging the GF being friendly and all. Until one day BF told her that they can't be friends with her anymore, apparently she was being friendly towards the GF but was still talking shit behind her back, saying she was controlling and said that she had a sugar daddy on the side, he confronted her and she tried crying and apologizing, then she tried hooking up with the BF but that was when he realized she was full of shit and cut her off, told the GF she was right all along and that she isn't a good friend to him anymore and that he couldn't believe he didn't see it sooner

[@runawaypacman]

Thanks for the update

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Thank you for the update! He's lucky OP didn't just dump him to get out of that situation.

[@jennydrake491]

Thanks for the update! I shouldn't care so much but I knew from experience the OP was in a no-win situation. Straightforward people can never outmanuever manipulators like the female "friend." Luckily she outed herself eventually.

[@pragynaparamitamallick2365]

Thank you... I knew this was going to happen but now i can know for sure

[@garrenlally9306]

Yea. But the friends?? Op should have left. Your bf never took your side and never put his friends in their place.

[@oliviarose5030]

“My boyfriend is so good looking, and our relationship is the stuff everyone is envious of. I think I’d like to sleep with other people, because covid happened, and he got super busy with this important position in a hospital.”

[@Alteusgirl]

Story 1: she never wanted an open relationship she wanted a pass to cheat after it had already happened.

[@jackspring7709]

True.

[@wmdkitty]

That's all an open relationship is. Getting "permission" to cheat by manipulating your partner.

[@ResidentMilf]

@@wmdkitty No it's not. Generalizations are harmful.

[@diamcole]

@@wmdkitty When done correctly, it's two or more people coming together and establishing agreements/boundaries. Now, I can't say that I see many doing it well or "ethically" but it does happen. Certainly not for everyone though and that's fine too!

[@Gyvulys]

@@diamcole Nonsense. If you can hook up with anyone you want, agreements or no agreements, you aren't in a relationship. Sooner or later, someone's going to get hurt and the entire thing will go down in flames. Funny enough, it's usually the women, who ask for open "relationships", but they immediately desire to close them when their SO actually succeeds to find other partners as well. Shawna is absolutely right. Open "relationship" is nothing but asking for a permission to cheat. Not even that, it's just a justification for cheating, that's already happening.

[@paden1865able]

Antagonist in story two meant every single word that she said. If he's blind enough to believe her, get him a white cane and a guide dog because he really needs them. Walk away.

[@daryatislenko4651]

Yeah, if he didn't realize that his friend was a selfish manipulative witch when she called his gf a "slut" than there's no way of helping. OP needs to find a smarter bf.

[@ChrisAndCats]

She definitely needs to walk away - it will always be like this.

[@jdunnatl]

Someone above said they saw another Update somewhere else, and the friend came onto him, so he severed their friendship.

[@hothotheat3000]

Story 2: her reaction to the boundary proves that the boundary was required.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Last story: break up. Being with this dude means you’ll have to deal with this girl for as long as he keeps her in his life. It doesn’t seem like he’s willing to cut her out and you don’t seem willing to tolerate her (which is entirely valid) so I don’t see how this relationship could move forward. It’s early enough that you’re better off just cutting your losses. Don’t make an ultimatum of “me or her”, that’ll only make him feel defensive and provide credence to her points. You voiced that what she was doing made you uncomfortable and you were unwilling to put up with it. He forgave her anyways, after she’s convinced all his friends you were an awful person. He has already chosen her over you. Just leave.

[@hothotheat3000]

Legit. OP is only staying because she doesn’t want to give that girl the satisfaction of winning. It’s too late. Just walk away and find someone who doesn’t have that baggage.

[@SailorMya]

All his friends think she is a horrible person... How is she suppose to come back from that to any of them? Even if the friend says sorry to her and tells everyone that she was over reacting they will always think ill of the girlfriend anytime something goes down...

[@0Jenna7]

I was reminded of a story where the roles were reversed, the outcome there was basically the guy ditching the girl and the girl having pikachu face because all the guys she dates end up leaving. That's this guy.

[@minervaroscoe3588]

Yeah, I was kinda baffled he was so willing to go back to this girl who has basically held all his friendships hostage against him when he expressed discomfort with her behavior. Like dude... she maligned u and ur girlfriend the moment u were like, chill out, then said oh, i can make it all go away, if you admit that I did nothing wrong. That's pretty textbook manipulation, and I would be extremely angry that someone flipped so quickly, first against me, then back to me.

[@cisio64123]

Yeah OP has done everything she can and he's still not getting it so she's better off calling it quits now.

[@lizpyro679]

( This is my personal opinion ) Never ask for an open relationship. I would never ever be able to trust my partner if they asked to open up our relationship, if it was monogamous in the beginning. It sounds like an excuse to not get caught cheating! ( Story 1 ) Of course she kissed her friend. If she didn't feel that her boyfriend was paying enough attention to her, while working a whole lot of hours. Why didn't she just dump him? Instead she kissed her friend and then asked for an open relationship😑

[@pansprayers]

Only if you're insecure in your relationship. We open ours up five years in - for other reasons, but opened it none the less - and 13 years later, we're still good. She shouldn't have lied by omission, but the multiple issues here aren't asking to open the relationship.

[@Wileybot2004]

@@pansprayers degenerate

[@thedestroyasystem]

I agree, open relationships should be established from the start. The cases where it works after being initially established as monogamous are few and far between, but may include people who establish early on that they may want to open up the relationship later, and people who want to open up the relationship for reasons other than wanting to pursue a specific partner or wanting to explore more before settling down. Still, in most cases it’s not gonna work if it’s not the way the relationship was initially framed.

[@skippiefritz]

@@pansprayers good for you !!

[@lizpyro679]

@@pansprayers 1) I'm glad that has worked out for you and your partner. 2) It is not me being insecure if I dump someone for asking for an open relationship. It's a boundary I've set for myself when it comes to being in a relationship. I only want to be with one person. I've seen way too many times people reluctantly agreeing to an open relationship and be miserable before dumping/divorcing their partner.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: OP is playing checkers with chess player here. The friend group already see her as a controlling witch because the friend knows how to push this buttons. Unless the boyfriend grows a couple more brain cells OP will be checkmated soon.

[@ForbiddenFish]

Agreed. If I was in that position I think I'd just leave lol

[@Cel3ere5]

That's a really good analogy. 😁 OP also isn't bright enough to literally just show people text messages on her phone or just record interactions on her phone with this chick and then play it back for people to actually hear what's being said. Regarding recordings being illegal - only in a civil case AND you have to prove damages i.e. loss of money or possessions within a monetarily calculated way.

[@ginathecookie]

@@ForbiddenFish Same..

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1: she's 24, not 14, this isn't about her being immature, she's just a pos. There's no way she didn't consider kissing someone else while in a committed relationship as cheating. Story 2: I'd just break up honestly, I'm too old for that drama.

[@jamestown8398]

I agree. I don't like how people are using the age gap to low-key excuse OP cheating on her boyfriend. There needs to be a point where people say "You're an adult, you are accountable for your actions", and putting that point at 30 seems crazy to me.

[@Rukiah1]

Agreed. Life is too short to try convincing someone that gullible to get a spine after his "friend" disrespected him, his girlfriend, his relationship, and his friendships.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

@@jamestown8398 it's insanity. I'm 24 myself, I'm a grown woman. I've never cheated and never will. She knows exactly what she did.

[@ginathecookie]

S1: thank you Being 24 isn't a reason for cheating I'm that age, I wouldn't cheat. Neither would my friends.. It may contribute to the cause FOR SOME people but not all. Sick of people assuming age instantly means "more or less mature," for everyone. Also you can have a lack of experience at any age so just because its common doesn't mean it's an excuse, especially to bag on her. Just call her a bad person who needs more emotional maturity, no need to bring the age into it. Especially when there is like 3 (4?) different types of maturity. (The 4: Emotional. Social. Physical. Age.)

[@ginathecookie]

@@SilverstreamPJ28 yes exactly

[@nikkiwhray1598]

"Best two years since his wife died?" Is that really a compliment? She's only been dead 3 years. So, being with OP wasn't quite as bad as the year he lost his wife? Lol.

[@locusxe1411]

I don’t get why this is funny

[@xsenteur4189]

he was supposed to say that meating his wife and living with her for 10 years was a mistake and he should have waited to be with her only and those years of mariage doesn't mean anything to him anymore ? wooow for a man he has to say that his life before meating the girl is pointless and not worth living i guess, gilrs humble your self a littel bit you're not divine creatures in the earth

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

The last story: Sounds like the BFF was playing the long game. She invested in being OP's BF's best friend first as a way to get into his heart. Problem is that when you friend zone yourself, you are screwed and not in the way you wanted to be. So the BF saw his BFF as his sister. Kind of hard getting out of the sibling zone for sure! Sounds like the BFF is a master manipulator because she's got all of the BF's friends to be on her side. Like she's got all his friends as hostages. Either he has a relationship with her or she'll just take away all the rest of his family. The BFF knows his weakness. He lost his father and BFF swooped in right away to fill the void. Oh she knows he can be coerced into taking her back as long as she makes the rest of his family and friends her FM's. OP needs to show her BF a few videos on sociopaths and narcissists and how they keep their victims.

[@ajzephyros7454]

She's a good example of a Narcopath: a Narcissist sociopath

[@FocusFang]

Yeah. Screwed up situation cause she is back in his good graces and if the GF says something, the BFF can just character assassinate here again. There she goes being controlling again

[@ngjuicey2001]

Yeah. OP is pretty screwed. She can either wait it out for everyone else to come around and see BFF for who she really is, or just get out now.

[@robertx8020]

The BF has some lousy friends if not even ONE of them is asking her BF I'm afraid the relation is over ..unless the BF is willing to cut all contact with his friends It's is not over because the BF isn't a great guy but because the 'friends ' will always see her as the 'crazy bitch' and his AH 'BFF' will keep total control! Nobody can or should live like that

[@Ally.81]

Honestly if I was her at this point I will sit him down show him the reddit post, then tell him that if he sees a future for us he will keep the boundaries if not we better go separate ways and for his sake I hope he will really see one day what she is doing before she loses more relationships. Then leave him to read the reddit post and maybe some of the stuff you guys said and tell him to think about it and let me know. Honestly life is to short for this kind of crap especially when now is not just the BFF but his friends also are against her, she will be fighting a losing battle in my opinion, so maybe better to move on sooner rather than later.

[@justinthompson6364]

Story 2 updates: It might be a good thing the initial discussion happened through text. With a record of the conversation that started the whole fight, OP's boyfriend actually has hard evidence to fight this attempted character assassination against OP. Seeing that girl go ballistic in response to his fairly innocuous request might change a few of his other friend's minds.

[@FoxFireNaruto]

Yeah, it's weird he wouldn't just send the screen shots when the flying monkeys got involved. Her reaction was way out of proportion for someone with no ulterior motives. GF should install a quick record app and be ready when this girl comes around again, her mask won't last long as soon as he leaves the room.

[@SailorMya]

@@FoxFireNaruto It kinda feels like he is still trying to protect his friend by not putting her on blast for lying... Hopefully she will slip up and show him her true colors again and he can finally cut his toxic friend out. If he doesn't she might drive every girl away till she is the only choice...

[@jakemarie828]

It's not gonna work. OP should get out of there before she gets doxed and her future gets damaged

[@AndyyWithAY]

"Friend's" reaction proves she was up to no good and got caught. If my guy friend's gf thought I was acting inappropriately, I'd apologize, say we're only friends, sorry it felt like I was disrespecting you. I know you're with him and wish you both the best.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Last story: OP either needs to play dirty and get the friend to fess up and show her true colors to everyone or needs to bow out because this friend is a master manipulator and is clearly not going down without a fight

[@odysseus2656]

Hahahahahaha! I am not one to bother with niceties, like social circles. My father told me not to get into group acceptance nor group rejection. But if you were in one of those cliques and someone told you that their friend was taken over by his new girlfriend and then a day later says: "My bad, I was wrong, she's ok." You had already been shown what a loony she is. Not sure you can make the blind see.

[@AleV69692]

​@@odysseus2656yep, if those friends don't wise up pretty soon they'll just hanging on to her every word

[@kreuger2062]

Welp, i guess having a closed relationship was a key pillar in their relationship.👄👁️👄

[@MarkNarrations]

I see you Fred, I see you....😂

[@j.j.juggernaut9709]

Not this pillar thingy again!!! XD

[@nikkiwhray1598]

Not. Cool.😡

[@kreuger2062]

🤣 never gets old

[@MaryTheresa1986]

@@j.j.juggernaut9709 What pillar thing?

[@Kimmie_78]

At the last update i say play her game, be innocent, bake cookies if you gotta, go completely overboard to the point you threaten her position in the group

[@nikkiwhray1598]

Yes!!! Then, exclusively refer to the other girl as his "sister." Do it often, and in front of as many people as possible. Make sure the whole world knows that OP and her BF view the other girl as his sibling. Op won't look jealous, and the other girl will look creepy AF if she tries to cross any lines.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@nikkiwhray1598 I heart you, you are my new hero! I thought I was petty, but that is prime petty; Petty enough to fuck with their heads, but not petty enough to make people side eye you.

[@nikkiwhray1598]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan ❤❤Thank you so much!!! ❤❤ That is precisely what I aspire to be.

[@mitsukifullmoon1]

Damn, I should have done that with my bfs friend, who met him years after we've been together and tried the same bs. Instead i was mature and talked to him about it, urgh.

[@hellkitelord8319]

Sad part is it might not work because, the friends are already on the other side of this.

[@tashantimothy6180]

OP pissed me off with this “woe-is-me” attitude. God forbid you have to deal with the consequences of your own actions.

[@tamsel814]

Story 1: ignoring the age aspect. Op was dating a (her?) supervisor and they moved in together after 6 months. That seems rather fast paced. Wait op asked for an open relationship after nearly cheating on him? Well I don't think OP has the right level of maturity needed. That relationship is done

[@natethekid1534]

Not nearly. She cheated plain and simple. And didn't even feel bad about it. Despicable excuse of a significant other. Selfish just everything was all about her needs.

[@HelenWA]

it's not maturity she needs but a conscious. Unfortunately, she a narcissistic sociopathic, so there's no cure for that

[@mehitablestorm8877]

I think her boyfriend was using her to get over his grief about his wife and maybe just using her in general, taking advantage of her young age and immaturity.

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

@@mehitablestorm8877 - I think you're desperate to excuse the $hitty actions of somebody just because they're female.

[@mehitablestorm8877]

@@goawayleavemealone2880 No, I am generally more supportive of males because I think so many modern women are assholes. In this case (if I remember the story correctly) there was a big age gap. I always tend to blame the older person who should be more mature and aware. To me, it's like he's using her as a bridge to get past his grief. Which is not to say she was not wrong too. BOTH can be wrong.

[@dannietea]

Story 1: Honestly, I feel bad for the boyfriend and I hope he finds someone closer to his age and maturity level.

[@wafflestoast4546]

I would've ditched the bf after all that. Friends don't do the kind of garbage she does. Or respond the way she does. Drop the bf and move on.

[@Bijecarli]

Story 2. I knew OPS bf was going to fold. His 'friend' just admitted to feeling threatened, while calling OP insecure. Op needs to find a less toxic group, and a more committed boyfriend. Take it from someone who almost let this bullshit happen with my own ex friends. OPs boyfriend needs to be an ex, sounds like he'll keep showing his girl how little she means to him because of familiarity. Let him bro it out in his dungeon.

[@thunderbutt357XD]

theres an update in the comments here, check it out. the bf did the right thing

[@Bijecarli]

@@thunderbutt357XD imma just take your word for it lol. I'm not doing all of that scrolling

[@thunderbutt357XD]

@@Bijecarli in that case, ill give u the cliff notes edition. Basically best friend went eight back on her shit, played at being friends with op while talking shit behind her back. Bf found out about it and cut her ass off

[@Bijecarli]

@@thunderbutt357XD aaaw you didn't have to that! I appreciate it though.

[@thunderbutt357XD]

@@Bijecarli no problem, hope have a good day :)

[@Zminator1986]

Something that is bothering me with story 1. OP mentioned she's a nurse and her ex as well. So wouldn't she also be working those crazy hours to the point her "need" for attention would be irrelevant?

[@mimiNana-yi4cy]

Yup, that was my thought too. Too many red flags that make this story sound fake.

[@heidehho6191]

just what i was thinking

[@ajzephyros7454]

She could have gotten fired for her relationship with the ex since HR probably wouldn't approve. She also could have quit cause burn-out. Not saying there's not a chance it's BS but there are ways it could have happened

[@philwill0123]

Not really. They been together 2 years. He might still be working shift work or another department.

[@Cel3ere5]

Ex nurse here who did admin shit too. When you do admin work, your work load practically increases by a third (maybe double?) from the sheer volume of *paperwork.* 🥺 However, when you're a controlling micromanager, you've invested in multiple realestate properties because you've crawled up everyone's assholes and made a home up there. Coworkers fuck. Happens all the time. Sometimes it's the adrenaline but mostly it's the time spent together. However, if an actual relationship establishes, you just kind of switch to a different department or switch to a different shift. HR is going to give you side eye, but don't actually tell them the real reason on paper, lol, and they ultimately don't really give a shit. It happens that frequently. HR gives a shit when a lawyer gets involved. OMG I have so many stories of coworkers and colleagues banging and getting in this type of trouble and worse. Jobs lost, etc.

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

Story 1: Am I missing something? Weren't they BOTH in the nursing field? While he was out working to save lives, what was she doing that she was so preoccupied with loneliness?

[@mimiNana-yi4cy]

exactly. that is what is bothering me. She had no empathy for his job, and his working so much, wouldn't she be working just as much. Too many red flags that make this story seem fake.

[@aynuralbek6474]

@@mimiNana-yi4cy although she said he did extra work, may be fake part was about her working as nurse, from her post it seems like she doesn`t work at all.

[@seangarvey8232]

@@aynuralbek6474 right. She just went to parents laid in bed for days not eating or sleeping. Seems like she didn't have work to deal with.

[@eleethtahgra7182]

Perhaps she just work standard hours? Or shes a part timer?

[@Lulu-ut9pv]

Most likely being a nurse who "worked on the front lines" while at work, saddly there where many nurses saying this when they where only doing admin

[@oliviarose5030]

I love how big of a person this boyfriend was. What a class act. He could have completely railed into her, and would have been completely valid in doing so. But he was so gentle with her.

[@theleftysjournal8781]

2nd story. Op. Record, record, record. Record each conversation you have with her.

[@Gumbier_Than]

Although I agree with you, she may be violating wire-tapping laws. 🙅🏿‍♀️

[@Streetwisefirst]

Story 1: OP came off as so arrogant. Like her relationship was the envy of all her friends. She had an emotional affair then a physical one. Instead of owning up to cheating she decides to ask to have an open relationship. For once it was not the older guy who was the issue. It was the self centred me me me twenty something year old

[@pappico]

And she never even admitted to her bf that she cheated. I think the guy had a very good intuition and knew she cheated already by asking for an open relationship...

[@omarsanchez8956]

Story two, I would totally broke up with him, cause the weird vibes around that girls are to much of a hassle. She successfully put all of his friends against the girlfriend and they will always saw her as the controlling crazy girl.

[@mordanthubris6516]

Story 2: Look at the situation. The GF says some behavior from the BF's close friend makes her uncomfortable. BF talks to said friend, she blows up, tells all their mutual friends the GF is controlling and changing him, mutual friends stop hanging out with the two of them. The MUTUAL FRIENDS decided to stop hanging out with them. Who's being controlled?

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: smart guy. She's 24 and not ready to settle down. He is and knew that asking for something like that is a huge red flag that she isn't committed. They are at two different stages. Edit: I wrote the first piece before she even got to the cheating. She didn't want an open relationship. She cheated and instead of being honest, she tried to retroactively make it better. Him being a bad partner and working all the time is no excuse for her behavior.

[@mimiNana-yi4cy]

He was not a bad partner, she was. He was a nursing supervisor during a pandemic. He was on the front lines and his job was in high demand, as hers should have been. Why wasn't she working crazy hours? If she is also a nurse she should have had a, hell of a, lot more empathy than she did. Something does not ring right in this story.

[@lexdiamondz1991]

@@mimiNana-yi4cy being a nursing manager during a crisis means you're on basically 24/7 to ensure things are functional. it isnt the same as bedside nursing by a long shot

[@eleethtahgra7182]

Errr....so...what does "not ready to settle down" means? That the girl will keep opening her legs left n right?

[@bjtaylor-j9w]

@@mimiNana-yi4cyHe was never forced to work so much, it was entirely his choice. He prioritised work over his life, and over his relationship. Other key workers did not neglect their partners. He wilfully neglected her, and ignored her. He never LISTENED to her, and never TOOK HER SERIOUSLY. He patronised her, and treated her like an infant. Childish 'decorations' and takeout food, are NOT quality time, or thoughtful gifts. Once the Covid situation eased, he could have cut back on his work, and paid her attention, or taken her out on real dates. He CHOSE to do nothing. MEN need to make the effort in relationships, as well as women. None of you have the balls to reply respectfully to a WOMAN, and a NON-AMERICAN, so run along, little willy wavers.

[@bjtaylor-j9w]

@@eleethtahgra7182 Typical misogynist American attitude. BORING!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story one if you actually really love this dude let him go. Do what is best for him, and not yourself. You are an incredibly immature and selfish person. Say goodbye and work on yourself.

[@babybookworm003]

Story 1 ops ex bf isn’t a workaholic he’s a nurse in a pandemic and nurses are in high demand

[@fcold9402]

1. People are jealous of what you have? What do you have? He broke up with you after you expressed interest in being with other people. You apparently didn't have that great a thing if you wanted to "open" the relationship. You admit you got lonely, are your friends jealous of your loneliness?

[@bennyd.1862]

Story 1: What stood out to me in the story and update is a lot of me, myself, and I. She barely talks about her ex’s feelings but goes into detail about her meltdown. OP is wrong about the age gap not being the issue here because she is immature.

[@You_said_what1]

Just from the title I'm going to say "good for him"!

[@gazzhumbly5433]

Hell yeah

[@AngharadMac]

Yes!

[@Hanzo1]

The only reasonable response to a SO asking you that

[@pansprayers]

Yup, everyone should go nuts because their (checks math) 18 YEAR younger partner who they have a supervisor role over asks a question. Completely normal way for a 41 year old with zero adult skills, or ability to prioritize their partner to react. Totally. There's a reason he's dating women who hadn't been born when he was graduating High School, and it's not because he's a great partner.

[@LunaGirl196]

Honestly if it’s a deal breaker for the other person then yeah, just leave if it’s not your thing. Never say yes to that just to make your partner happy

[@srideout91]

The fact that Opie is a grown woman who went crying to her parents, and that her mother needed to snuggle with her to get her calm down. When she put herself in that situation just goes to show how immature she is.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

S1: OP’s update feels weird to me, like she was explicitly saying how much she’s suffering without him as a plea for sympathy. It’s for the best that they are seperated; they were in really different places in their lives. He was way too old for her, anyways.

[@MydieLy]

@@moon-moth1 nobody mentions it, because she asked that nobody mention it, saying it had nothing to do with it. Did you even listen?^^

[@krystencabbage1032]

Cheaters who ask to open up the relationship don't understand what an open relationship actually entails. It involves a lot of communication, more than monogamy, and making sure everyone is comfortable. I told my boyfriend day one I'm not monogamous and I prefer open relationships, and I've checked in multiple times throughout the relationship just to make sure he's comfortable with it, as well as letting him know as soon as possible if I'm going to be intimate with someone else, either beforehand or as soon as I can after. He knows what I'm like so it's not like I blindside him like the OP in story 1 did.

[@wmdkitty]

Yes, they do. Open relationships ARE cheating. Period. You are a cheater, and you justify it by claiming "polyamory" and likening it to LGBTQ. You CHOOSE to CHEAT.

[@krystencabbage1032]

@@wmdkitty Cheating involves a lack of consent. My boyfriend consents to me being intimate with others, and I consent to him doing the same. We communicate so no feelings get hurt. I don't choose to cheat, because I make sure I inform him like he wants, and I hide nothing, so it's not cheating.

[@ArthropodJay]

"i want an open relationship" is how people excuse cheating on their partner. Seen people who were previously monogomous suddenly become poly and 2 days later add someone to their relationship, usually on the person who suggested its side. Then these people give the actual polyamorous people a bad name.

[@Jessidafennecfox]

Indeed, I admit I'm poly and had an ex that basically wanted a harem that worship him only. He was jealous when other partners got along romantically. I communicate with others I'm with. I don't get jealous of thier partners. You tell your partners what is going on. People that cheat and wanna be poly piss me off.

[@wmdkitty]

Polyamory is what gives polyamory a bad name. It's cheating, period. I don't know any women in "poly" "relationships" who haven't been abused and forced to accept it.

[@wmdkitty]

@@Jessidafennecfox Then quit supporting cheaters, cheater.

[@ArthropodJay]

@@wmdkitty nah polyamory only works if everyone loves each other. I personally am not a fan of it but like to each their own. If everyone loves each other its fair, if the love is only shared between one half then it's kinda fake

[@Jessidafennecfox]

@@ArthropodJay I respect people like you as you get it how others should respect and love each other. I had been in abusive monogamous relationships, I also got rid abusive exes if they've been disrespectful. Communication is the key. @Shawna Burt well those you know that are poly but were in abusive relationships are not for all. I been in various abusive relationships with monogamous partners. I've gotten rid of toxic partners as well communicating is a huge key. I been cheated on when monogamous, and I have gotten rid of toxic partners. Poly does have cheaters when no one communicates. The difference is the cheaters don't communicate with partners. I suspect you never did research about relationships, monogamy and poly relationships are acceptable in many places. I won't judge you but don't assume the incidents you encountered are the norm.

[@ohno8398]

Holy crap the boyfriend from story 1 comes across as such an incredible person. Those clear communication skills 👌

[@givemeanameman1]

It wasn't clear communication skills, he done with her and blew hot air up her ass to make it easier for him to get away. The only guys that would say that crap and mean it, are the same guys that wouldn't ever say it because they are a doormat that will "work things out" even after cheating.

[@bjtaylor-j9w]

How does his choosing to work so much, (he was not forced) his neglecting her, ignoring her, never wanting to spend quality time with her, not respecting her, and treating her like an infant, make him 'incredible'? He treated her like an infant, with silly 'decorations'.

[@jasminerobertson4913]

​@@bjtaylor-j9wShe liked it tho, clown.

[@Kattieninja]

Shit I thought it was like, a pre sit down conversation before hand. Reality check please bestie, the title should be, "I cheated on my boyfriend and felt bad, asked for an open relationship and he got mad."

[@Ars-Nova258]

“I asked for an open relationship and he left me.” That’s the smartest thing I have ever heard someone do. Requesting polyamory is just a shining crimson flag warning the SO that you’re either already cheating or found someone to cheat with. Open relationship requests are basically harakiri for relationships, the person requesting is just handing you the blade to do it with so they feel less guilt about hurting you.

[@CocoCece08]

Story 1 - Two words for you, OP. YOU. CAN'T. Asking for an open relationship is literally condoning cheating. He chose to drop you like a rotten tomato. Good for him.

[@amazinglynn]

As soon as OP 1 said he wanted to meet at her parents’ house I was like “oof, he bout to drop off her stuff” and I was right 😂

[@ladyv5655]

Being in a monogamous relationship and then asking for an open relationship is essentially just asking for permission to cheat. What did the OP expect? You can bet if he agreed to it and then found somebody else , she would be moaning about being betrayed.

[@jbgra2566]

Second story is the reason I never dated or would date a guy who has a female best friend. Not saying there can't be a platonic relationship between a man and a woman, but that seems to be the exception more than the rule. Also, no guy is that great to be competing with another woman for his attention

[@jbgra2566]

One thing that caught my attention was the part where OP said her now ex pulled up in her parents driveway but that she saw someone sitting in the ex's car. What was that about? Was he already dating someone new after just two weeks of separation?

[@TsukiKageTora]

He didn’t wait long to bag a young woman after his wife died so no surprise there

[@jbgra2566]

@@TsukiKageTora hhmm good point. Though I think one year is reasonable enough

[@jenniferrichards2122]

I think it was a witness or support so in case something bad happened which is a smart thing to do. Or to help unload boxes.

[@backpug1228]

Maybe someone to be witness so Op doesnt tell a lie later. A friend.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@jbgra2566 not if he was married for awhile. I don’t think a year is long enough for anyone who lost their wife. I’d feel like it would take 2-3+ to finally be ready to date again. 1 year is way too soon

[@epicXtrollface]

Story one gives me nasty shivers, wow. I'm four years younger than OP and I'm completely blown away by her emotional underdevelopment. How thick must her bubble have been to think only about herself until the moment he told her to leave? Only then did she "see his pain?" Throughout the entire story, I'm wondering how many of her tears were cried for her ex-boyfriend, and how many she cried for herself. Break-ups are tough and heartbreaking, but literally half her story is about how much she's suffering. It's "her fault" and she's "a horrible person" but it's at the same time, she's avoiding the blame by saying she didn't realize it was cheating. She didn't even tell him she cheated. She can't comprehend what she did wrong, and yet she echoes what she thinks will bring her the most sympathy and put her in a victim role. My heart goes out to the ex, though. He's maturer than most people, regardless of age. I hope he'll find someone who loves him enough to care about his emotions. I have a feeling that his attentiveness to OP put them in an unbalanced give-take dynamic where the ex's needs have also gone unmet. He's attentive and a great listener, and I'm sure it's what brings him joy as well, but I wouldn't bet money on OP having actually returned the favor by lending him a listening ear. It would explain why she didn't consider his feelings about the cheating and her open-relationship scheme. She never had to consider his feelings before.

[@TheColombianSpartan]

Story 2: that BFF is horrible. She's manipulating him and all his friends without remorse

[@SkyEcho751]

Story 1: Rule one, never even consider an open romantic relationship if you have an already strong closed one. Rule two, if you ignore rule ones it's your own fault for what happens next. And on OP, she 'didn't feel bad about doing it, just about doing it behind his back" so OP doesn't see it as wrong, she just sees the secrecy as wrong. S1 Update: There is something I learned in collage, it is only in failure that we can truly learn. The brain only develops if you make a mistake, recognize it as such, and then learn the correct line of thinking. She never really thought about the fact that cheating ends relationships, and as such now she has learn a valuable lesson, though at a very steep cost. Story 2: Okay this seems very weird to me. He is clueless while she is trying to intentionally irritate OP to get rid of OP. My recommendation would be to write a list of subtle flirts and how she seems to be trying to treat him as something much closer then friends. Let him try and handle it, as if I learned of someone I considered a friend pulling this I would be pretty mad. S2 update: Guy at least has a a shiny spine, and that girl is a "Nice girl" stereotype. She is a Machiavellian and if I were him I'd shut her down after pulling that Yandere S.

[@Chuck_vs._The_Comment_Section]

I do not even know what her problem is! He was kind enough to open the relationship for her! And she doesn't even have to worry about closing it again! How very thoughtful of him.

[@RokoFireFox]

Story 1 right off the bat "he's thr best thing to happen to me" clearly not op. I hope he finds someone better than op.

[@mugen3603]

I like OP's bf. He probably knew immediately that she cheated, but he didn't react with anger or outrage at her suggestion of an open relationship. He just talked to her and very calmly pulled all the answers out of her. Bro got her so comfortable that she snitched on herself and told him everything. That's when he allowed that mask of control to slip and showed her how much she hurt him. But it was too late for her at that point.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

Story 1 reads more as a tragic coming of age story. I think a lot of people do stuff that is stupid like this when they are younger and immature. It hurts, and yeah the person has responsibility for their deeds. This was genuinely the best case scenario for her. The older man was incredibly sweet and understanding and encouraging, because I think he realized immediately what the problem was, when she couldn't. She was incredibly lucky to go through this lesson with someone who didn't lash out at her for it. For all you young adults, take this as the cautionary tale it is. Sometimes you can love someone deeply and not be compatible with them. Especially with exceedingly different life experiences and ethical values. It's okay to move on when you are unhappy, but you can't slam pieces into place to make them fit and make you happy without considering the other side. I don't think she was malicious on purpose, but she definitely hurt some people in her fumbling immaturity.

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

In other words: don't cheat.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

@@sopadumacacoumadelicia5 Right. But in this case she was too immature to even realize she was cheating. That kind of blindness needs a reality check. She got lucky her reality check in the form of her mature bf that noticed her blindness for what it was. That takes a hell of a lot of generosity and kindness. I think this put her in the position to learn from it. And so this is her best case scenario. She learns, but with no actual retaliation.

[@charlesjohnson4332]

Anytime you go out and smooch with someone that is not your SO, you cheated. That would be the end of your relationship

[@rosemarie1817]

Story 1: You can't fix that. He's already decided that when he heard that you cheated on him, you can't fix something that is shattered.

[@maddy8328]

"I didn't see kissing my friend as cheating" what...drunk or not, that's cheating.

[@Misspellednumbers]

Story 1: Ultimately yeah, OP was rather immature in this situation. Instead of finding a hobby, joining social groups, getting a pet, or even communicating and asking to do more dates (that could've been planned by OP)... she decided to cheat. Ultimately, I wish the best for her ex. He seems like a genuinely great guy who's attentive and understanding, but he needs someone who's on the same page.

[@pelgervampireduck]

the guy dodged a bullet. I hope he finds a better girlfriend next time. "I want an open relationship" is "I want to cheat and maybe test the waters until I find a better deal". super red flag. also, SHE CHEATED. KISSING IS CHEATING.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Second OP pissed me off. If you have an issue with this woman tell your bf. "I know you have no interest in her, but she wants you. She's said things that made me unconfortable and like she doesn't respect our relationship. Can we work on this together?" You need to communicate. Talk to your bf, not Reddit.

[@steveaugust7797]

When a female asks for an open relationship, the relationship is already over. A smart man sees the door and goes through it.

[@bjtaylor-j9w]

Yet you MEN would demand that women stay faithful, while you MEN sleep around. Disgusting double standards.

[@cypressk3838]

Story 1: open relationships can work but when they do usually the relationship has been open since the beginning, opening relationships to hide cheating usually fails. Eta: this is just my opinion formed from the experiences of my friends and families

[@mirandanils5114]

Story 1: I can’t imagine. My bf is my age but he’s way busier than me plus he lives 40 minutes away - and no matter how lonely i feel i would never even consider it. how can OP “not see it as cheating”. she’s young but i’m young too and that shouldn’t be an excuse.

[@colleencook382]

Ok, gonna give some advice that has served me and my adult kids well for many years. My philosophy on "When is it cheating?" When you cross the line of hinting at, or openly stating anything romantic/sexual with another person not in your relationship-its cheating. Flirting either in person, text, social media etc is cheating. This boundary may seem extreme to some of you in the younger generation - Gen X here, but I believe its about respect. Both for yourself and your partner. Life is short so if you are unhappy in your current relationship you have 2 choices- either you 1) sit down with your partner and try to work out the issues (you know like communicate with them) maybe involve couples therapy if you feel like your partner is not hearing/understanding your viewpoint. Or 2) break off the relationship. Its really that simple. Why would you want to make your life more difficult by sneaking around, hiding texts and lieing? In pretty much every cheating story I have heard about (and lived through) the cheating gets discovered at some point, so the subterfuge is pointless. Just my 2 cents from someone who has been cheated on.

[@danielwarren7110]

When and where i was growing up there was a saying i have found to be true more times than false. "If your partner asks you for an open relationship, you are already in one and just do not know it yet!"

[@Ozzy08018]

Story 1: What did OP expect to happen? If she had potentially wanted an open relationship, that's something to talk about when you start a relationship.

[@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog]

Damn that has to be one of the classiest breakup stories I've ever heard.

[@Evolution1101]

I know right. I'd have been calm and coaxed all her bullshit out (up to the point where she basically confesses what she did and her ex's face changed and she knew she fucked up)... And then gone nuclear. Like "Get the fuck out. No we're not going to talk any more, I've heard all I need to know. No, leave your shit. I'll mail it to you. Fuck off, have a shit life." Although her ex has over 10 years on me, but I don't think it's a maturity thing, I think it's a personality thing... And I've heard enough of these TIFU open relationship regret stories to know that the second they start talking about opening shit up, some shit has already gone down.

[@keplersdream901]

Story 2: BREAK UP WITH HIM. Don't waste time on this; there are other men out there. You are a we-be, sweetie. Friends -- women and men -- who interfere with the SO are not worth the drama. You can tell that the commenters are teens-20s due to their rather clueless "advice." Trust me, the BF knows, but he doesn't have healthy boundaries with the friend, hence why she seems so comfortable with continuing her bad behavior. Re updates: OP is an idiot. He won't continue this, and she's an even bigger idiot for thinking that this is about winning and losing.

[@jonnguyen001]

Story one: I don’t know what company they work for but I’ve never heard of a company allowing a supervisor to date someone who directly report to them. In 100% of the time, once the company finds out they’re going to fire someone and it’s usually the supervisor. This is due to the possible harassment lawsuit they might face if/when the relationship goes bad. The junior partner can claim they were forced into the relationship because they feared for their jobs.

[@25Erix]

Story 1: ignoring the questionable age gap, there's also the fact the guy was essentially in a position of power over her. I'm pretty sure there are rules against dating your superiors/subordinates.

[@fscorpion678]

What are you trying to say?

[@Cel3ere5]

_snort laughs in healthcare_ that's a really, really big assumption.

[@forrestc.8282]

Im so glad the first story had such a good ending.

[@ItsCamille735]

Story one was honestly interesting. We’ve all heard/seen stories along the lines of “My SO cheated and now claims they’re Polly.” But now we get to see the other side of this situation and the mentality behind it.

[@alichamay7012]

EVERYTIME I hear 'I talked about opening our relationship and my partner left me. I don't understand why and I want them back!' It always turns out that 'I already cheated/I already picked out who I wanted to cheat with/I just want to do what I want and I want the okay so I don't look like a cheater because it's all about me.'

[@wmdkitty]

That's polyamory in a nutshell. "I want to cheat and be super promiscuous and be validated for it." It's not a valid lifestyle, it only harms women.

[@alichamay7012]

@@wmdkitty Speaking about both men and women. Because I've seen post from both men and women with this same post and same ending result. Cheating is about making yourself feel better without a thought to your partner. Men get hurt by it, too. And there are people that sleep with the same person at the same time. Thought I don't think her bf would have been down with shoving his own tongue down her old friends's throat, however. Yet, he wasn't against opening the discussion. I don't personally get polyamory, but some do and the relationship works out fine. But the key is in all these stories is there was always some sort of lying, which isn't a good foundation for any relationship. In this one, the cheating happened BEFORE there was any discussion. AND by her own words, it was about her happiness, not something for them.

[@allthekingshorsesallthekin3234]

Story 1: I remember reading this one in real time. I remember her explaining in a comment on one of the posts that she was a L&D nurse and she worked like two 16 hour shifts a week, and the hospital they worked for wouldn't let her work anywhere else because new mothers can be considered immunocompromised. It was something like that. She was still wrong for what she did, but he was a real class act with the way he handled it.

[@meghanplayssims]

that story 1 comment about it really being about difference in maturity deserves a gold

[@AndyyWithAY]

First OP is way too immature to be with a 41 yr old. If you're feeling lonely you get platonic friends and hobbies. You don't kiss someone else and ask for an open relationship.

[@krisd1996]

The female best friend literally called OP a slut to her boyfriend and after “I don’t think I did anything wrong, but I’ll apologize” he’s all like “she’s really had a change of heart.” What a pushover that guy is.

[@LeoInAMillion]

Well done on the 80k subs Mark 👏 👍

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww thank you so much, couldn't have done it without you 😁❤

[@aleksandarvil5718]

@@MarkNarrations Do video on : *AITA for disowning my twin brother* kzbin.info/www/bejne/rXKsgWOJq7-cppI

[@kanteannightmare]

Story one: Hold you back... That's a nice way to put it.

[@Lilian620.]

I mean In story one now op can have an open relationship all she wants now without having to ask her now ex boyfriend for permission lmao

[@despinasgarden.4100]

Me reading the tittle of the first story: Good for him! Me, after the whole story and the updates: Good for him!

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP is TA for not controlling herself with her childhood friend. OP is TA for not thinking about her BF's feelings. OP is TA for not standing up for her needs before this became a thing. Her BF neglected her for his job. Medical professionals are either in it for the money or for the fact that they are helping people get well. Either way, the job requires heavy hours and rewards you with $$$ if you are at a senior level. So myeah, OP's age gap with her BF is indeed the major cause. OP's BF is in the admin level thus he is getting BANK for working his long hours. He's in his 40's and so he's not hormone/sex driven and so he's willing to cut everything else out to focus on his work and that includes OP. Even though OP lost out on what WAS a very lovely relationship, it is best she got out now before she became pregnant by this workaholic. She needs to be single and mingle as she's only in her twenties and at her age, physical and emotional attention from a significant other is very important. Yes OP screwed up, but IMO it is for the best. The relationship would not have been good for her in the long run.

[@hosseinhj9056]

The first story, the boyfriend is literally the perfect man, he's the best role model any man can have He didn't get angry at her or try to get revenge or humiliate, he even comforted her and then simply left Keeping his dignity intact, idk who he is, but he earned my full respect

[@rainbow_fox_]

story 1: I think it's a huge red flag that OP felt like she wasn't getting enough attention from her partner, so her first reflex was to search for that attention from someone else. I feel like your first instinct should always be to try and fix any problem you have with your partner instead of immediately looking somewhere else, ESPECIALLY if you're doing it behind their back. OP definitely isn't ready for a serious relationship.

[@bjtaylor-j9w]

How could she fix the problem? He did not listen to her, or take her seriously. He had no respect for her. He was never there for her to talk to him about it. He was not forced to work so much, he chose to do so. To fix a problem, BOTH parties need to be willing to fix it. He was not. Cue the abuse towards me, because, shock horror, a WOMAN, and a NON-AMERICAN, dared to comment,

[@hhhhhhhh704]

Love it when stories have happy endings @ 1st OP

[@desertgirl8647]

She needs to work on the "conflict resolution" the boyfriend taught her!

[@Harry-lq5hu]

Story two: break up with him. No anger, just let him go. He isnt ready for you. Find a man that is not dependant on another women. This will end with hard feelings and resentment.

[@mindyschocolate]

Lol, OP in S1 is in La la land. She sounds way too young for him.

[@chrisdowney6576]

The update on the first story Smile. She earned every bit of it

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: she needs to be honest but not try to drop ultimatums. Explain the issues and see his reaction. Go from there. You can't control his behavior but you can control yours.

[@carolroberts4614]

She can't win here. This friend is so manipulative that op doesn't stand a chance . It doesn't help that the boyfriend is soft-hearted as well.

[@rubymeaddle]

Story 2: this relationship won't last because of his friend group. It's sad.

[@TheZMage]

OP2 needs to just cut and run. Boyfriend is just too stupid to be dating if he doesn’t see through this shit

[@jemase7931]

"but you're the girlfriend and I'm just a friend, right?" So true. Boyfriend tells me often that he sees you as a sister.

[@cyberhard]

OP: I Asked Boyfriend About An OPEN RELATIONSHIP And He Left Me Over It! Me: Good.

[@keul2704]

Honestly the last story had me in 2 places mentally. It kinda makes me think that the OP could very well be controlling, and the friend could very well be innocent in all this and had a bad reaction to being called essentially a home wrecker. And the way that OP said that they had “won”? That just left a very sour taste in my mouth. Like it just felt so wrong to hear being said aloud. I wonder who exactly is in the right here… I’m not entirely sure if OP is being entirely forthcoming with their post, because of how their actions would naturally come across…