I Asked OVER 100,000 Women THIS QUESTION

Christopher has asked this question to well over 100,000 women over the course of the years...
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[@kingofswing3000]

Dude here. 41. Married at 22. Waited until marriage. It was worth it. The world doesn't teach what it means to grow sexually with your partner. What happens when you incrementally get more vulnerable, more open, more in tune. My dad is a man of few words. But he once told me that, in marriage, the sex only gets better. 20 years in, I can attest. It's crazy how it started out good, satisfying. But how year over year it's evolved. So, don't sleep around. And grow and learn with your spouse. As long as you love each other, be vulnerable, are open in needs and wants, try to make them happy above yourself-- the pleasure is the limits. God knew what He was doing when He made sex for a covenant relationship.

[@TheXennial79]

My sincere congratulations on your marriage! Sadly, it's becoming all too common for husbands to be stuck in a sexless marriage.

[@kingofswing3000]

@@hrabmv Swing dance. Big band. Benny Goodman. Look it up.

[@equine2020]

@@TheXennial79 Then you seek help from a professional. There's an underlieing problem. Find out what.

[@Praise___YaH]

Guys, HERE is The Savior HalleluYAH translates “Praise ye YaH” YaH is The Heavenly Father YaH arrives via the TENT OF MEETING YaH was Who they Crucified for our sins - Ancient Semitic Cuneiform of Moshe (Moses) - Isa Scroll (The Original Isaiah) Isaiah 42:8 "I am YaH; that is my Name! I will not yield my glory to another or my praise to idols. Isaiah 43:11 I, I am YAH, and there is no other Savior but Me. Isaiah 45:5 I am YaH, and there is none else.

[@laurengaskell2098]

@@IllbedamnedifIainthandsome what exactly stops you from marrying your first gf in a modern society? I married my first bf 5 years ago (soon to be 6), when we were both 18. There were lots of whining around us about how we are too young to be marrying, and how we need to focus on studies. But guess what, marriage did not stop us from studying. We went together to one of the top 20 unis in the world, went to Year Abroad as part of our degrees (also together), graduated with first-class honours while studying in a foreign country in our second language, and now living quite nicely, happy, in love, with good jobs. If you find the right the person at a young age and you both have the determination, love and respect for each other, it does work out.

[@cateclism316]

I saved myself for marriage (at age 30). Not easy, but worth it. I know many men did not, but God's grace is available to them.

[@RuachOfElohim]

​@@tblazer4932Matthew 24:13 King James Version 13 But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved

[@crohunter100]

Same here I guess we’re part of some fringe minority

[@johnnylightning1967]

@@tblazer4932Pray to The Blessed Mother for her helping you find a faithful Wife

[@trueg115]

I got married 2 years ago at 30 as a vrigin. Agreed that its worth it!

[@jeusmarcomascarina4102]

I man with no God is just mankind more of a monkey.

[@encouragingword1172]

My husband was very sensitive to my feelings and moods, what l was going through day by day. Because of this, l hardly ever turned him away. I always wanted him because he never gave me the impression that he had to be satisfied or else. This set me free to enjoy him and to want him, even when l wasn’t necessarily interested for myself, l was willing to please him anyway because he never made me feel obligated to. He may not have always been content to not pressure me but l never knew it because he never griped, whined, guilted or complained, which made me more willing to keep him happy. He was patient and tender in regards to our private lives and never in a rush, which was also great. Selfishness is a big turnoff to women and sadly that happens a lot. He passed away 3 years ago and although he became emaciated and sick the last few years, to me he was still the sexiest and most appealing man I’d ever known though there was no physical part the last 2-3 yrs but l was totally honored to care for him in every way until he passed. Even in the end he never complained. He was truly an amazing man. This is a good topic and very important information.

[@waderivers99]

I needed to hear this. I told my last girlfriend that I was going to seek Gods will after four years of sex. We broke up. I knew that would happen. I told her i may never be with another woman the rest of my life but if i did it would be with my wife. It has been three years. It is difficult but all things worthy come with a price. I want a woman who has done the same. I have faith God knows who she is.

[@jaymkz3225]

Respect Wade. I'm 23 and I'm waiting until I'm married. Takes a strong man to sit down and have this conversation. In the long run, this sacrifice is nothing compared to what Jesus has done for us. Keep holding the line brother

[@angelbrother1238]

@@jaymkz3225 amen to that

[@waderivers99]

@@jaymkz3225 I read that we will endure one of two hardships, discipline or disappointment. Ill take discipline, I have endured so much of the other. Small price to pay in comparison to what Jesus did.

[@FrenchViking466]

​@@waderivers99Proud of you man.

[@Praise___YaH]

Guys, HERE is The Savior HalleluYAH translates “Praise ye YaH” YaH is The Heavenly Father YaH arrives via the TENT OF MEETING YaH was Who they Crucified for our sins - Ancient Semitic Cuneiform of Moshe (Moses) - Isa Scroll (The Original Isaiah) Isaiah 42:8 "I am YaH; that is my Name! I will not yield my glory to another or my praise to idols. Isaiah 43:11 I, I am YAH, and there is no other Savior but Me. Isaiah 45:5 I am YaH, and there is none else.

[@josephvanwyk2088]

The problem is - our society has made sex a popularity contest. Every film, tv show makes fun of the virgin who keeps themselves pure for marriage. It's routed in our culture. What's crazy is, when you hear a 19 year old high school girl confess that she has slept with 13 guys. Not even 20 and her body is sold cheap. What's even MORE horrific when a woman kills 3-4 babies due to her delusion of "her body her choice". It's spiraling out of control thanks to godless feminists. Modern society is decaying literally in front of our eyes and it's not just because of the immoral woman, it's mostly due to it's WEAK MEN. WEAK MEN that fall victim to the "popularity of sex"

[@Praise___YaH]

HERE is The Savior HalleluYAH translates “Praise ye YaH” YaH is The Heavenly Father YaH arrives via the TENT OF MEETING YaH was Who they Crucified for our sins - Ancient Semitic Cuneiform of Moshe (Moses) - Isa Scroll (The Original Isaiah) Isaiah 42:8 "I am YaH; that is my Name! I will not yield my glory to another or my praise to idols. Isaiah 43:11 I, I am YAH, and there is no other Savior but Me. Isaiah 45:5 I am YaH, and there is none else.

[@Thane36425]

Humans learn from stories. We used to have stories about heroes and upright people. There were also stories that taught warnings. These are really gone. What replaced these behavior models was Jerry Springer and other talk and "reality" programs, and movies and shows full of promiscuity, thuggish behavior, and hostility and violence as first resort. That the new stories have remodelled behavior shows.

[@eugene7304]

I don't disagree with what you wrote, until your last sentence, my question is what do those things have to do with "WEAK MEN"? What do you think men could do to prevent promiscuous women from doing those things??? You don't have that problem in Muslim societies where men have the power to prevent the immoral behavior of their wives, and a moral, religious society prevents unmarried women from engaging in such things. The problem is not weak men, it's men who've been gelded and shackled, along with WOMEN who can't, or rather WON'T control their sexual desires. So stop blaming men for the sinfulness of women.

[@josephvanwyk2088]

@@eugene7304 My dude, you are answering yourself in your own comment. Weak men, allow the sinfullness of women.

[@encouragingword1172]

@@eugene7304 Weak men feel the need to control women instead of controlling themselves. I’d rather he dead than be a muslim woman (slave). Women are often followers by nature so if a society has strong, loving and respectable men then it will have strong women and strong families. But men are to lead with kindness, love, and by setting an example, not by forcing women to not “misbehave.” We are not children. We are actually extremely intelligent individuals, able to accomplish many things besides raising kids and keeping house, though that is an honorable estate. Some women don’t want to do that snd shouldnt have to. Statistics show that the highest numbers of hits on porn sites via the internet comes from Muslim countries and everywhere young Muslim men have been allowed to immigrate en masse, rape increases exponentially. Men are mostly the ones without control, yet men are control freaks of women, and sex crazed Muslim men are the worst, most weak-minded of all. You force women to go around completely covered up because your lust is so great and out of control that if you see any part of a woman’s body you just can’t control yourselves. Man, now that’s why l call weak!

[@taurinenrgy]

As a man I responded “no”. That type of behavior just leaves the door open for infidelity

[@andrewtodd8683]

thats exactly what I thought as he said that. and it might point to the reason why those men think they can have multiple sexual partners but women shouldnt.

[@skle2300]

I am doing the best I can to not be a slave to my body. I am weak, but in Him all things can be done. Amen

[@repentandseekChrist]

You got this bro ❤

[@bassedBrad]

Trust in the Lord. Just being able to write that comment may have been difficult but you did it. Don't give up. I am praying for you and Our Lady is praying for you.

[@seanmilliken4866]

My suggestion is to keep watching this guys videos. He tells you how to be honest to Jesus about your lusts. He teaches you to tell Jesus what you really feel in the moment. And if you give all of that experience to Jesus He will heal you. But you have to capture that and surrender it. It gets really annoying for a while of capturing. IT GETS INFURIATING TO INCESSANTLY HAVE TO CAPTURE THE SAME STUPID THOUGHT OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND SURRENDER IT TO CHRIST!!! But after you do it enough you will find it beginning to start swinging towards being easier and easier and easier. Because the momentum changes directions. And after a while its so easy to not get swept up in lust of looking. You learn to say no. And you are healed

[@locked3009]

Same here bro.

[@manueldejesusrojassandi3919]

Amen

[@itazenin]

May God train us to be masters of our bodies and free from the shackles of slavery to lust.

[@danmorals9697]

🙌🏽💯☝🏾😎👍🏾

[@pegtop5455]

I had that wife. Her promiscuity was unchanged by wedding vows. I’ve been alone now for 30 years. Haven’t dated in 25 years. I can’t manage the risk of that trauma. PTSD.

[@drewzalo]

Get some help, missing out on life being tethered to that pain. She’s gone, life is more than a bad woman. Be well

[@nkimihrita464]

Ask God to help face the trauma bro . He's able to do abundantly above all you could think or ask. There are lots of good women out here

[@drewzalo]

@@nkimihrita464 amen to that.

[@Gpacharlie]

A very important truth here. Our times and this culture are in desperate need of this as a “paradigm shift.”

[@repentandseekChrist]

I already see it happening, especially with the younger generations 😁

[@michaelsharp2272]

Additionally, if you CANT say no to your impulses you also won't be able to say no when that impulse is directed at someone other than your husband or wife. That is a recipe for disaster.

[@Jeannene2009]

“The prerequisite for love is freedom.” 👍🏼🙏✝️ Amen

[@SupaChinido]

​@@maccleba6721freedom from all the responsibilities😂

[@brandonwheaton1081]

​@@SupaChinidoThat's called narcissism.

[@gonnacry4513]

Sometimes I think that is the reason why God chooses to be hidden, until you make a mighty valiant effort to find him. He wants our love, but gives us all sorts of freedom. If he revealed himself to everyone, then our love for him may not have been tested on flames and there is a chance that we don't go to him using our full freedom, but because we know that the lawmaker and law enforcer is watching. He wants us to fully elevate our love beyond all boundaries, it should be 100% on our own free will, and should be tested in flame for full purification. Just my 0.02🎉

[@rebeccaprewett5014]

I think men and women respond differently to that question for a simple reason: women assume that if a man cannot say no to his sexual desire, he will attempt to have sex with any woman he finds attractive; many husbands assume they are the sole object of their wife’s desire.

[@Zamalandre]

That’s exactly what I first thought!

[@evanspencer3632]

Nail. Head. Bam

[@spaceforgrace3312]

that wouldn't have occurred to me.

[@eugene7304]

From what I've seen, both assumptions are usually wrong. Just because a man has a strong desire or need to have sex with his long time girlfriend or wife, & does not want to remain abstinent, this does NOT mean that if his needs were being met by her, that he would cheat with other women. If the woman he's married to, or engaged to etc. continually refuses to have sex with him, the odds are good that he will do it with someone else to relieve the pressure, if you know what I mean. In fact God said something very similar in His Bible, in 1 Corinthians 7:5 where he commanded husbands & wives not to deny sexual relations to their husband or wife, except for a short period of time to fast & pray, IF both agree to the abstinence, & then they are to begin sexual relations again, because otherwise the Devil will tempt the person denied, to cause him/her to commit adultery, & it will be much harder to resist, because of their unfulfilled needs/desires.. As far as the husband being the sole object of their wife's desire goes, contrary to popular belief, I've seen far more wives cheating than husbands, even Christian women in the Church are guilty of this, & of course, the man she becomes involved with is usually blamed.

[@spaceforgrace3312]

@@eugene7304 mmm... a bit like covering your head in case a man feels sexual desire by seeing your hair? Are men so weak they can't control their sexual impulses and have to 'relieve the pressure' how often, once a week, once a year? Is there such a thing as a celibate male who doesn't feel the need to relieve this pressure? Am I being misled by the Catholic church on this one?

[@Canucklehead557]

Married at 26, divorced at 28 because my wife couldn't say no, to the 14 year old down the street. I have been abstinent for 30 years now, and have no problem saying no. The peace and quiet is addictive.

[@stephenluke2347]

Married at 23 , no sex before marriage for either of us. Three children later with rejection regularly in between, Then thirty years later to be told that my wife had gone off sex and that was the end of that. Much prayer and patience later, and we are still married and celebrated 64 years together last year and still waiting and praying patiently.

[@Canucklehead557]

@@stephenluke2347 Sex after children is difficult because child birth is extremely difficult. Strap one one. Although at this point, you shouldn't be to concerned about pregnancy. Strap one one anyway, let her know she's protected.

[@eugene7304]

@@Canucklehead557 What does "strap one one" mean?

[@Canucklehead557]

@@eugene7304 Typo. Strap one on.

[@ivanvidojevic2461]

​@@eugene7304i think he means " put condom "

[@dreytotheknife9314]

I'm a women, recovered from my porn addiction quite recently, credit for this channel and other chirstian channel who discuss this topic. I noticed my urge appear everytime I was under a lot of preassure, porn is more an escapism to me. Have an ex that push me to have sex with him, thank god I refuse and he choose not to rape me despite of a lot of opportunity to do so. I have huge respect for men who chose to recover from this addiction. I can only hope that one day I can build a family that God have prepare for me.

[@davidm4566]

A woman who can say no before marriage...and CAN say yes afterwards. Now that would be something.

[@Praise___YaH]

HERE is The Savior HalleluYAH translates “Praise ye YaH” YaH is The Heavenly Father YaH arrives via the TENT OF MEETING YaH was Who they Crucified for our sins - Ancient Semitic Cuneiform of Moshe (Moses) - Isa Scroll (The Original Isaiah) Isaiah 42:8 "I am YaH; that is my Name! I will not yield my glory to another or my praise to idols. Isaiah 43:11 I, I am YAH, and there is no other Savior but Me. Isaiah 45:5 I am YaH, and there is none else.

[@davidm4566]

@@Praise___YaH Thanks for sharing. My Bible doesn't say any of that and it's not even in the King James Version, so I'm still curious where that all came from.

[@Praise___YaH]

@@davidm4566 Here you go brother, here is The Original Semitic of Moshe (Moses) YaH The Heavenly FATHER HIMSELF was Who they Crucified/Pierced for our sins and “HERE IS THE PROOF” From the Ancient Egyptian Semitic: "Yad He Vav He" is what Moshe (Moses) wrote, when Moses asked YaH His Name (Exodus 3) Ancient Egyptian Semitic Direct Translation Yad - "Behold The Hand" He - "Behold the Breath" Vav - "Behold The NAIL"

[@judywilson5183]

Female here. A female who has to keep a male’s advances at bay before marriage will learn to stifle (and dare I say, not even acknowledge) her own sexual desires. That can carry over into marriage. Men can unknowingly teach their future wife to quell her desires, It’s a classic stimulus-response. “He’s experiencing a desire that I can’t fulfill outside of marriage; therefore, I have to be the strong one, completely deny my own similar urges, and play the part of an asexual being. After marriage, I know sex is good and right, but I’m not “all in” because I’ve never been able to be completely vulnerable AND safe with my guy when it comes to sexual desire.” That being said, after 28 years of marriage and 9 children together, I am “all in”, but he would NEVER say he didn’t want more!

[@davidm4566]

@@judywilson5183 I hear what you're saying, but in my case I was a virgin when we got married and had decided this before I met her, and she wasn't, so there were no sexual advances on my part, and she had experiences saying yes. We talked about it sometimes, but it was more like how it would be and not trying to entice anyone. She wanted it a lot before marriage (again, we talked openly beforehand), but after we got married, after she got it, it just went away. Once a month when she was turned on during her cycle, she would want it, but that was it. And yes, I got very good at it-I'm an empath, and some responses you just can't fake (often repeatedly, if you get my drift), so it wasn't that I was bad at it, it was that she just didn't want it most of the time, like many married woman. The classic, "How do you get a woman to stop having sex? Marry her" line does seem to apply in many cases, as I've heard the stories of many other men as well.

[@biffmalibu5384]

Amen.. married 36 years to a women who's a perfect 10.. and a blessing from God.. who comes home to me every night.. loves her children.. you trended on my UTube and I gave you a watch... thanks for this insight.

[@fddooley1]

Very appropriate exploration of freedom from addiction. Well expressed, thank you.

[@arturmokrushin]

The proper question to ask men is, "How many of you want to marry a woman who cannot control her emotions?" See how many hands go up then!

[@NotDuncan]

Kicking the self-pleasure addiction and watching certain thing has been rough, everyday I pray for my weakness to be lifted from me.

[@DonAsk-ks2qy]

I wish everyone would stop pointing their finger at men as the problem.

[@dustinallen1658]

I have to agree I believe that women hold a larger responsibility than what we want to say daddy's little angel but it's really daddy's little devil. The woman knows exactly what she's doing she knows she is turning manaan she know she's being provocative she knows she is being what she is.

[@jrwalker1048]

Thank you for all your great messages!

[@icestrodivinemelodies]

I wouldn't want to marry someone who can't say "NO" to their sexual urges. #SexualBondage

[@sherryelysiak4798]

Very well said. Thank you.

[@haydongonzalez-dyer2727]

great stuff

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

Thank you for this video!!!

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

You are so welcome!

[@camillasanjuan2459]

Thank you ❤❤❤

[@equine2020]

For some women, they confuse sex & love. They either think they owe the man for dinner? Etc. Or she thinks she'll get him into marriage. They don't realize it's the souls that connect, to make a meaningful marriage. Lust & love are very different. Lust dies.

[@a.demian]

I've tasted freedom since I met and united with the Eucharistic Christ in the Catholic Church. Halleluja!

[@daniellatham2235]

Yea.... wrong.

[@a.demian]

@@daniellatham2235 how?

[@daniellatham2235]

@@a.demian What is the Eucharist?

[@a.demian]

@@daniellatham2235 say what you have to say

[@josephodoherty7864]

@@daniellatham2235 So you were saying no.. wrong but didn't know what you were saying no to ??

[@philbophilbo4945]

Thank you

[@concken1]

well said!

[@JJ-ym8bu]

If she was an "object" you wouldnt have married her in the first place. The way I see it, a man wants to be his everything for his wife and to give everything. There is a great desire for a man to please his wife and when that is rejected, it will hurt. A man after he is rejected many times will then stop asking and then you can both suffer alone, in the uncomfortable silence. Which is worse, you tell me?

[@reginamemoriesforever-vc8ql]

The worse is having a husband like you, who apparently can only think of yourself - if your wife is rejecting you consecutively maybe you have to become more vulnerable and actually tell her how much you love her and ask her how she has been feeling lately- dialogue, dialogue and vulnerability and not sulking, taking it personally and complaining on KZbin

[@outoforbit00]

What you said from the woman's understanding is spot on.

[@shannonbest106]

Nailed it!

[@andreadsouza9016]

Well said! Praying for a man like this!

[@PedroAugusto-xp4tt]

I have been a seminarist for some months for now. Since I entered it become way way easier to be chast and continent. Guess it has to do with having a purpose about it.

[@dannny_macdee1015]

When one is free from the addiction/compulsion for sex, it is then that it becomes a gift. This is part of the reason behind women's thinking on the question proposed here.

[@JGComments]

It's so sad to think that for most young people who are looking for a relationship, it's like going to a car dealership and being told that almost every car on the lot has been through a crash.

[@Ps139K]

Freedom!

[@legislatedanarchy1380]

Women, including wives, shame men for wanting sex and even the act itself. The truth is that they are almost all just lazy to their wifely duties.

[@reubenkriegel7639]

I've always felt that saying no to everyone else, waiting until marriage and staying faithful to the spouse, is control enough. You make some really good points though. I've always felt that the marriage bed should have as few restrictions as possible, that I would want my spouse to feel free to have total sexual expression, and I want the same from her.

[@eugene7304]

It appears that that's also what God said in His Bible, that ""Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled."(Hebrews 13:4. K.J.V.) I understand that to mean that a husband & wife are free to enjoy one another as they please.) 1 Corinthians 7:5 says that husband & wife are not to defraud (deprive) sexual relations from one another, except with consent, for a time of fasting & prayer, then come together again, so that we're not strongly tempted to acquire it from others.

[@FulvioGa]

Interesting!

[@davidvalderrama1816]

I noticed a woman’s mentality and thought of a simple question,” What is a fog horn for?”. Two women I’ve asked had the same answer,” “To let you know it’s foggy.” I was very careful with them after this.

[@gonnacry4513]

Had to re read the comment like 40 times, took me full 10 minutes But now I get it 😂

[@otaku4Gaijin]

Very interesting. Sounding the horn presupposes it's foggy. Their answer doesn't presuppose the horn protects from danger. Telling. I might steal your question. 😁

[@zombieblaster5754]

@@otaku4Gaijin thank you. high and confused just means more confused. you helped me understand what hes saying.

[@Praise___YaH]

Guys, HERE is The Savior HalleluYAH translates “Praise ye YaH” YaH is The Heavenly Father YaH arrives via the TENT OF MEETING YaH was Who they Crucified for our sins - Ancient Semitic Cuneiform of Moshe (Moses) - Isa Scroll (The Original Isaiah) Isaiah 42:8 "I am YaH; that is my Name! I will not yield my glory to another or my praise to idols. Isaiah 43:11 I, I am YAH, and there is no other Savior but Me. Isaiah 45:5 I am YaH, and there is none else.

[@christianhayter]

The Judeo-Chrischun god r^ped a young girl known as Mary. If she wus under-age, it makes him a peedo

[@geraldinegranado3386]

Properly said: Husband says yes to all sexual desires. Double negative sentence is incorrect. Syaing yes, means he would cheat when any woman or man approached him.

[@Seedr0]

"Christopher has asked this question to well over 100,000 women" [citation needed]

[@josephodoherty7864]

Watch the START. Not 1 by 1, by show of hands to large (hundreds) talks to audiences ; and, frequently over a period of 30yrs. V. Reasonable estimate

[@mimigrace7591]

My husband works two jobs and comes home and works and I’m so grateful for our family- but he rarely even sincerely talks to me- ask about my day or what goes through my head… then he wants some. Sometimes I feel like the only time he even likes me is right before we go to bed. He is a good man and doesn’t mean to hurt me- but when I feel dismissed and ignored and I’m with kids all day and he doesn’t have five minutes to sit down and “chat” organically and with sincere intentions and interest- I actually feel put off. 😮 it doesn’t take hours of conversation- just 10-15 minutes to say hello when he gets home and don’t stare and black out and look at your phone when we are talking.

[@atailee820]

These wisdoms of self need to be taught school

[@csongorarpad4670]

Amen

[@changpahk6595]

i could see this truth only ever since i've started practicing chastity..!

[@vincentwood7036]

"...thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee."

[@tammyblount3910]

I now Refuse to date and I Chose to Love God Much More in Knowing that the next Man who Truly Loves instead of Lusting, will be Shown to me Through God. I went through So Much Pain in only wanting to Give Love to a Man who Wouldn’t Cheat, go on Sex Sites, Lie, or Attempt to Manipulate me. Because a Real Relationship is About Love.

[@whiteshadow204]

Great thoughts on this topic and initial question. I wrongly assumed the direction you’d go in, is that women insecurely assume that if a man cannot say no, that his yes would end up going somewhere other than to her. And that a man securely assumes that he is the object of all his wife’s sexual desires so that is why he would say yes please bring me a wife who cannot say no to her desire for me! But pursuant to your topic, we only experience freedom if yes is also an option. Which I feel leaves out celibate people. (Incels, I suppose?) or perhaps like myself, just faced 18 years of rejection in my marriage - it was emotionally sexless, and nearly physically so also. She eventually cheated on me and left, so now I’ve been celibate 3 years. I have never particularly felt sexually free, because I didn’t really ever get a true yes, despite 18 years of marriage.

[@WargateXGWU]

As someone who has experienced massive amounts of sexual rejection from my wife, and immeasurable pain as a result, yes, my instinct is to choose a woman who would never reject me in that way. If I had to choose, I can't imagine ever choosing less sex over more. What you're saying is true, we must find freedom from sexual compulsion. But the pain from the rejection I've experienced...is indescribable.

[@tavopasquali]

​@@tracyrossi3473 great comment!

[@equine2020]

Sex is the icing on the cake. Marriage is the bonding of the soul, & physical. It's that special connection that only 2 people share. Jumping into bed is animalistic, it's only an urge that can't be controlled. And can have serious consequences Diseases, pregnancy, and even a feeling of shame. Your body is your gift you give your nate. Pure, theirs alone.

[@talisikid1618]

I would raise my hand. A female that can not control her sex drive is simply a 304. Who needs that? And it works both ways. A real man understands that a wife that can’t say no is infinitely in the making.

[@BeingArtful]

It's alarming how as a society we've moved so far from these truths that C West presents in this video. We're not at an arm's length from them. Instead, there's a chasm. A radical change is needed for healing our country. Please, let's get on our knees in prayers and ask God's grace for all.

[@huntsman528]

I'm pretty sure the women think this includes being unfaithful, which undermines the message of this video.

[@freehorse7299]

Have you ever ask women if they are able to say no to their hypergamy instinct?

[@kathyalex778]

We are, but it doesn’t make us happy much in the long term

[@freehorse7299]

@@kathyalex778 So to be happy in the long term, you have to marry up.

[@milagroscapomasi8525]

Why do you ask?

[@milagroscapomasi8525]

I think they meant that women are more vulnerable in a romantic relationship, since they have the burden of children, so they tend to look for men who will provide and protect them during that time. It doesn't necessarily have to do with money, but they have to have certain characteristics that give us security, being mature, responsible, in a good path career wise, etc.

[@Nick_Taylor.]

@@milagroscapomasi8525yes, but, like a man's sexual instinct to fornicate with whomever is flirting, women are prone to the equivalent: settling with the genetically superior. Like a man's sex addiction, this is the act of enabling one's animal nature without spiritual discipline.

[@dariocipriani2890]

I'm on a journey to heal my porn addiction. It's been rough and tough but because of God's patience and love I'm starting to see the changes he's making in me, even though it's a hard and slow journey, even though I'm fighting everyday against my lustful mind, even though I'm a sinner. God bless everyone struggling with this addiction, don't ever lose hope because our God is Good

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

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[@bigfootapologetics]

CW, a lot of people seemed to resonate with what you mentioned about the pain of men being rejected in marriage while remaining celibate. A video or talk on what men should do in situations like this, where they've literally tried everything and it just comes down to a wife's complete lack of interest, would help a lot of guys I've talked to, and many in these comment sections.

[@James-wv3hx]

A former Christian Priest, Alan Watts claims that Psychiatrists are dangerous in his lecture - On Being God.

[@Just.arandom1]

As a man who is waiting for marriage. I have no problem with no sex if she is sick. But the problem is when a women uses sex as a tool to get what she wants. Marital debt exists and we are not to deny intimacy to spouse and it’s a mortal sin. Most women commit this sin in marriage.

[@francismcglynn4169]

A person who cannot say no to their own desires is one who cannot acquire virtue. Virtue is the acquiring of habits that make a holy life possible. “Although in their singularity they are directed to specific goods for the person, the virtues are expressions of a single love and can even be defined as “strategies of love.” The apprehension of the good, which appears on the horizon of love, implies perceiving a unity with the other person. In the love of friendship, the good of the beloved is seen as the good of an other self. The goods for the person are perceived within the intentionality of love, which first of all gives importance to the person of the other. In their very ontological structure, the virtues thus have a communal character. The intentionality of virtue’s dynamism is rooted in the gift of an initial communion and moves toward its effective and complete achievement. Ethical reflection based on the virtues offers to the ethics of love a rationality that saves it from emotionalism and decisionism, guaranteeing the place of the true good within communion. This becomes evident if we consider the twofold connection of virtue: on the one hand to love and on the other to practical reason, which understands and establishes the ends of action.” [Livio Melina, The Epiphany of Love: Toward a Theological Understanding of Christian Action (Grand Rapids, MI; Cambridge, U.K.: William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company, 2010), 40.] In other words, to achieve a life together that is filled with the practical acts which foster a deeper love both must share a common goal; to love God by loving one another as God calls them to do.

[@rodneyhoupea3385]

I like it

[@johnmarcucci1719]

It's a pretty loaded question. Try asking any priest this question "how would you feel about upholding your vow of chastity, if you are forced to share a bed with a woman every night for the rest of your life?"

[@adrianamartinezechandia9961]

Dios dame la gracia de aprender todo lo que mi alma necesita saber sobre este tema 🙏🏻

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Amén!

[@rabbitsrevenge1101]

War is peace. Freedom is slavery. Ignorance is strength.

[@josephodoherty7864]

Who's on first? ...&, gibberish is gibberish 😁

[@lizlovsdagmara5525]

​@@josephodoherty7864George Orwell in his book "1984".

[@lovenottheworld5723]

When someone forgets that it's a reproductive act and defines it as something else where does it all end.

[@robertivers4200]

Sex is a very complex topic both emotionally and physically. One thing about abstinence until marriage there are many unrealistic expectations on how fulfilled each partner is going to feel. I think that is a big reason for sexless marriages and cheating. Anyway many aspects to it. Sex therapy before marriage would be helpful. Communication very important. Probably a lot less divorce if biblical unions were more popular

[@terrydillon9323]

Men don’t have to worry about having a baby, and men don’t have to take chemicals to prevent it. Sometimes women are having pains and it is difficult for them to have sex. I think men need to learn more about the female body.

[@angelrogo]

Well, that is the problem of the Catholic Church: it only admits sex for procreation and prohibits sexual education because it believes that knowing about sex leads to practicing it. Today the pendulum is swinging to the other extreme, and Catholic women have a lot of premarital sex and promiscuous sex with all kinds of contraceptive methods, and only stop having sex when they get married.

[@bh5826]

I would agree, but as I have told alcoholics - if you cant have just one drink and walk away have you really conquered your addiction?

[@scottsprojects658]

I have been Celibate since 2019. I am definitely waiting for Marriage.

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Praise God!

[@JulianCaesaro]

The video title had me a bit weary, but the video seems to make a lot of sense. 🤔😂 This video could be summed up as “men who are slaves of sexual passion are completely undesirable for marriage”, and there’s an understandable reason for that. Now there just needs to be a counterpart video for “women who overly indulge in pridefulness, and why no man wants that”, aside from the reasoning being that men just want to live as kings of their own lives

[@arthouston7361]

I was saved at age 41, and was invited to visit a Bible church at age 42, and I thought that because I was a good looking guy in great shape, who trusted the Lord as personal savior, that many people would want to introduce me to marriage-eligible women. All I heard was crickets. I didn’t realize that there were classes of Christians in most churches. There is the guy who went to Christian school, and then to Bible college. He’s considered to be a first class Christian. Then there’s guys like me who lived a secular life until age 40 or so…and then trusted the Lord as Savior. I’m considered to be “other”….or second class. I’ve been a believer for 29 years now, and never once has somebody said that they wanted to introduce me to someone at church. I had to decide a long time ago that I wasn’t going to let people destroy my relationship with Jesus. But, my feeling is that this is a completely subconscious form of discrimination, and people don’t even realize it’s going on. It makes me wonder about the young women who have been taught to remain pure until they get married. They literally have been conditioned to believe that sex is something to be avoided. I have to wonder if people believe that being married suddenly throws a switch inside these young women where they change from detesting the idea of sex to being a willing partner in a marriage relationship. Because I haven’t had the opportunity to marry one of these girls, I have no idea how they go through that dramatic change from no to yes. Even so, come quickly, Lord Jesus.

[@Wingedheart8448]

If I may By God's Grace I was one of those girls and I was brought up on the whole Bible. I read how the women were treated in Genesis and was like did not want those types of relationships. Then I read Song of Solomon at twelve and knew that was what I wanted to wait for. Now by God's grace married for 12 years and I'm enjoying that. Us girls if taught right are told we are fearfully and wonderfully made. We are precious daugthers of God and we need to wait for the man God wants for us that will draw us closer to Jesus. Marriage is refining fire for both.

[@arthouston7361]

@@Wingedheart8448 Yes, indeed.if people do not stand in the way.

[@josephodoherty7864]

@@arthouston7361 the church you attend is very peculiar in your telling. 1) do people only meet through formal intros? 2) as being Christian is a given, at church, don't they match people,or not match, on other individual basis ? 3) surely they it's about relationship & they don't just say " he's a Christian , she's a Christian. Thats a reason to match them"? Being a Christian is no reason why you wouldn't have all the difficulties of any man becoming the right man for marriage (to the right woman) if that's God's plan for you. God bless your discernment.

[@shikyokira3065]

There is also another side of the coin, I have met a woman who is a daughter of a pastor. She has a stance of sex is only specifically for procreation, anything outside of that is evil in someway so she won't do it no matter what. She and her husband (who is sexually active) divorced not long after their marriage. Both claim to be Christian What do you think of this case regarding the woman?

[@eugene7304]

"Can't say no to their sexual desires." What does THAT mean?

[@crohunter100]

Imagine coming home tired from a tough day at work and your wife is horny LOL

[@rossheikkila6959]

beautiful explanation! lust is a powerful force. Christ Stronger!

[@tokyo.peking]

Then who"s cheating ?

[@obycherian1736]

Wait a minute.it is not that simple. Men and women need different things. And if those needs stop being needs then marriage becomes unnecessary. And that is not entirely a bad thing. Ref . 1corin7 and Mathew 19verse10to12

[@pugnaciousnoobeginnings8997]

For the last 50-60 years, virginity and self control have been demonized, while promiscuity and vice have been glorified. Sex ed in schools was a bane not a boon and served simply to make sex more open and talked about. My grandparents never discussed sex with anyone and never even considered mentioning many things that are commonplace in conversations today. My parents did not discuss a woman's menstrual cycle, today its a common joke. Some things should be private.

[@judygranberg4018]

Also, if he can't say 'no'-- he will stray! Can't be trusted

[@danielking104]

what is a vow, what is a promise, what is faithfulness, and what is betrayal? Women calls men dogs and pigs. Because they can't help but return to the vomit and mud.

[@harlow743]

Ask the same question to men about a wife

[@Foxie770]

He did. In the beginning of the talk.

[@DivineKnight_115]

Great question. Most people want stability in a relationship but culture is force feeding us this false narrative that sex is the end all be all in a relationship.

[@ocularshift1091]

A very Homer Simpson outlook on men you have, I see.

[@Jeremiah.k]

😂😂😂

[@xxxlonewolf49]

OR it is just women trying to CONTORL a man by denying them sex over petty things & saying "little" lies as an excuse.

[@youflatscreentube]

No. It that if you say yes to her every request (sex or otherwise) she will find you unattractive. Women often desire what they don’t have; what the other woman has. Also, if you grovel she’s gone. Many women are turned on by attention. In the marriage it translates to the husband not going overboard with it. Make her want.

[@harlow743]

How insane.....do you know how long it would have taken him to ask 100,000 Women...

[@omar-uu8qo]

As soon as she starts saying no, I clear her out! Life's too short for that kind of nonsense.

[@sitka49]

What man would marry a woman if she said , "I'll marry you but, I'm not interested in sex? - Unfortunately this happens - But not the disclosed part. And honestly what husband (most) would turn down his wife? I could have sex everyday - that would be my definition of sexual freedom.

[@SupaChinido]

Why nobody ever talks about freedom of hate??🤔

[@brandonwheaton1081]

What does that even mean? Does that mean no hate? That would eliminate or restrain free will.

[@robertlaabs5066]

Quick Questions: Proverbs 5:18-21, 1 Corinthians 7, If a man does not have the "Gift" of singleness, like the Apostle Paul speaks about, and he has not found a God fearing wife, what does he do with the sex drive God has given to him? OUCH!!!!!! When I was married and my wife and I were being intimate, I was content, but I am no longer married (not by choice). Thank You!

[@CristinaaaMx]

💜💜💜💜💜💜🕇🕇🕇🕇🕇

[@dannysullivan3951]

I didn’t wait, thank god. What a waste of …many things.

[@veddermn8]

Waiting, not waiting... there's no across the board answer. Experience and physical compatibility is a real thing. Some people value that, some people value waiting more. Either way the "honeymoon" phase is really short. Monogamous relationship sex is outrageously overrated over time. Sex is better at selling cars and soda than anything else. Once the honeymoon period is over, whether you waited or not, it gets old pretty fast.

[@swebilbo]

Leave religion and know true peace and true happiness...

[@greslysarjonse11]

TOB

[@nathanocasio5758]

Is this biblical, or your personal view on sex? St Paul says "Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV Nothing wrong with not being able to say no. Just be married.

[@davidmaas360]

Thank you! I was hoping someone in the comments would mention St. Paul's instructions in 1st Corinthians 7.🙏🙂👍

[@AhAh-mh3lo]

you should follow the teaching of Jesus !

[@josephodoherty7864]

Did you or the others replying to you even watch? 🤔 can't say no doesn't just MEAN to your HUSBAND/WIFE ,&, the video wasn't about avoiding sex after marriage. - Oh, & yes it is biblical.

[@user-sz6kw9zv8t]

I'm approaching 47 and my deepest regret in this life is allowing this hypersexualized culture to influence me to behave or speak against what I knew in my heart is just flat wrong. We have confused ourselves in our priorities by dismissing the proper order of romantic interest and physical intimacy. We have also dismissed that a husband and a wife are immutably coindicative entities meaning one defines the other by natural design and sex before or outside traditional marriage is a perversity against God and nature. The best symbolic parallel to this that I can think of is a bow and arrow...one cannot perform the act of archery without the other, it is impossible...thus, by the same logic a man nor a woman can perform the act of divinely approved sex (consummation of vows) unless they are a husband and his wife. Two men means no wife, thus no husband, thus no true marriage...two women means no husband, thus no wife, thus no true marriage. Part of our misunderstanding (I believe) is that when scripture condemns homosexuality/lesbianism it is in the verb context, not the noun context...meaning the orientation/desire is one aspect of those terms but the action/behavior is another aspect of those terms. It seems to me scripture condemns the action/behavior of homosexuality no less than it condemns the action/behavior of fornication or abdultery with heterosexually inclined people. Back to the original point, I say we should, as a culture promote the concept of purity rings (symbolizing chastity until the honeymoon, thus commitment to God's prescribed order of events) over the tradition of engagement rings (that simply promote commitment to a fiancée) and courting over dating...courting would have far stricter rules on what type of intimacy can be engaged until wed which should be conversations of getting to know each other's heart on those details whereas dating is more whatever two (not so self-disciplined) individuals decide on which typically means getting to know each other's bodies before wedding vows. I have a purity ring (on hold should I ever court a woman) in its wrapper of which I have never touched and will never touch as that is the point of it. Hope this helps others possibly better understand their beliefs that might be at odd ends with their fleshly compulsions. God's story is a marriage proposal, let's start honoring that above our own desires.