I decided to stop trying to please everyone

[@nailafarhana_]

As a people pleaser this is something that I'm actively trying to work on. I have to say... Easier said than done

[@dorouusak]

I follow u 😍

[@SiliconValleyGirl]

absolutely agree, it's a long journey, but you get better at it every day

[@intentionalliving7326]

Amen sistah but we got to start somewhere 🤗

[@juanpedro4083]

I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

[@trollnehru8102]

@@dorouusak do you know her? What she do? Reply me please.

[@avnikris9425]

Don't know why but whenever you speak, you speak with honesty and that's a wonderful thing, May God fulfils all your wishes, you are really appreciatable and inspirational. Thank you, for guiding us.

[@hamzeh.abuswaid]

Thank you Marina, you literally gave me positive stream of energy through this video alone. more than you think, really thanks.

[@myorangeglasses2018]

I read this book called BOUNDARIES and it’s help me significantly to understand what I want and how to say no to people

[@juanpedro4083]

I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

[@zarinatalks]

I'm reading this book now! The one by Dr Townsend and Dr Cloud, right?

[@myorangeglasses2018]

@@zarinatalks yes, this book change my life and teach me to be more realistic about people.

[@zarinatalks]

@@myorangeglasses2018 I really like the fence with the gate analogy for explaining the boundaries. Remember this one? It was an eye-opening moment for me. I feel that I viewed boundaries as walls. And when I heard (I'm listening to an audio book) that boundaries are meant to breathe - the gate opening and closing - I started observing changes in my communications with people. Knowing that I can open the gate and that I can close it when needed takes weight off my shoulders :-)

[@myorangeglasses2018]

@@zarinatalks yes! Love that part! For me, I love to help people and sometimes I couldn’t say NO, I thought I will hurt people and instead always hurt myself. I waste so much time on stuff that didn’t bring me joy and on people who never even say thank you. This book lying on my nightstand and I’m trying to read a small part before go to sleep, to remind keep my boundaries. Also it a great book to build your boundaries with children and understand their behaviour better

[@amberwang2857]

I have exactly the same feeling as you are! I moved to Silicon Valley at the age of 28, I relearn my English, go back to school, when other people in my country are working or have a family. I changed my major from science to business, while that time all my international friends are study science. Even that everyone told me, business major, only for Americans, if I want to stay and find a job in the US, I need to study anything related to a science major. After I graduated from my business major, got my OPT I realized that I don't want a job, I want to start my own business when everyone starting their job and seeking the H1B visa. Now, I finally start my own online business, still don't know how can I after one year when my OPT end, but I'm glad that I didn't follow my family's expectations that get married, follow my classmates' advice that study since major, follow my friends purse a job or H1B. Because I'm the way I am, no one in the world can be you or me! Therefore, we have the right to me(you) and be free! ❤️

[@sayyer10]

So true. I have been pleasing others all my life I neglected my own life and what I want for myself. I’ve not achieved any of my dreams and aspirations but thanks you to you, there’s still hope and I am embarking on that to journey to save myself and live life for myself.

[@RaiUriarte]

You have been posting a lot of videos on this topic, I feel must be the energy of the soul of your new baby that is showing you all of this. Enjoy!

[@trollnehru8102]

Why your Beard is like this?

[@franckwellington2168]

You're right ! Even if you try to please, there will always be haters. So, the only surprise is you do begin only now.

[@jenish4601]

Marina's video's are so , inspiring that can lose your fear 😊😊😊

[@juanpedro4083]

I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

[@humairaamzad9293]

Hey Marina! Thankyou! You know, like it's really related, I am from India and I wanna go to Belgium for my high school studies, but my parents won't let me do so. They about the society, that what they think that we are letting our daughter go somewhere far in another country at this young age, sort of thing. You know you really inspired me I mean you are also a girl who went to another country to study and now look at you, you are so successful because you worked hard and didn't care about people or society, you just did it. So you know it always also come up to money, that you will need an amount of money to go and study abroad, also my parents day this so if they don't listen to my thoughts, my wants that's okay your videos taught me to do what you wanna do, and when I complete my 10th grade exams, ah! I forgot to mention that, and so if my parents don't let me go, or just give me excuses for not be able to afford money kinda things, I won't be discouraged or I won't stop, I'll take a student loan, grab my stuffs and fly to Belgium for my high school studies. Thankyou Marina, thankyou so much, you made me believe in myself, and I am really grateful for that. Though you posted this video 6months ago, you may not be looking at this comment as also you are on a vacation, that's okay. But writing you this comment is really making me confident. Thankyou so much! Keep inspiring me and others. Love from me.

[@AhmetKaan]

👉 *Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you've got a big heart and aren't afraid to let others see it.* *Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.* 🖤

[@amilton1015]

Not always.

[@CallMeFil]

If you can't think logically alongside it or think clearly. It is not a strength, it is living a lie and creating a false reality.

[@novaturientr]

Thanks fr this view as it is needed fr those who are really kindhearted and sensitive , but people address them weak 🤞😊👍.

[@AhmetKaan]

@@novaturientr 🙏🙏

[@natasaj]

Thank you, Marina! 💜 In my opinion, this is one of your best videos! I needed to hear this, right now. I am currently facing both situations. I am moving from Europe to the USA, in the summer. Plus, I am currently building a business in the personal development/self-education industry. I am fully committed to my decisions. There is no going back for me. Yet, it is still sometimes hard, as I deeply love and care about the people that don't understand my vision and that I will have to leave behind.

[@cinthiaflores1315]

That was really motivating Marina! Thank you very much! I really like these kind of videos! I speak Spanish, English and now I'm studying French. I'm looking forward to go to France in the future to study and work there. I'm a very wardworking person. I know that I can do it. It all depends on myself.

[@meriemabbou2636]

Amazing teacher and friend ever .. your question has came at the right moment I live in small town wher everyone considers hims self right i cant do what i wanna do in this town .. and yeah u will say what are u waiting to move to big city and start livin your life .. well well long story to tell Any way really like your courage to stand in front the camera ...

[@juanpedro4083]

I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

[@ИринаСамойлова-з4ь]

Thank you so much for such major support, you are a true inspiration. Right now I am 19 and I am organising the business in the sphere of education. All my friends and group mates work as waitresses or do not work at all, and they tell me that I am crazy and I will not succeed in. I do not listen to them, but still I am under major pressure because of the environment.

[@rishisunakfc718]

You are my inspiration ❤ one day for sure we work together

[@av4920]

Hi! thanks for sharing this video. And yeah I agree with you. I want to do something but there are things that keep holding me back especially on what others will say about me. Thanks for the reminder! but hey, your 30 day English challenge brought me here. I'm on day 7. Wish me luck!

[@mahabbatchakopova3728]

This video was definitely useful for me. I became more confident. I have never been bold enough to say something or to do whatever I want. Thank you so much, you have no idea how you change people’s life.

[@AhmetKaan]

*Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of the fear.*

[@novaturientr]

Very true

[@juanpedro4083]

I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

[@karenmartinez7280]

Marina thank you for being so honest and open about your life. I appreciate that because it helps me to grow a lot as a person. I like your content, you are my fav youtuber because you are honest about a lot of struggles and stereotypes that women need to face every day. I am a salvadorian woman living in Seattle, and I am ready to move to a place that fits better with who I am. ( too much rain here 😓) Blessings!!! Wishing you always the best!

[@thalitaaureliano7786]

I have gone through 4 years of College out of 5. I know continuing it kills me emotionally but still, it is so hard tô say I dont want it anymore

[@augustmarlboro833]

yeah, you know, I am your follower for nearly a year and when I saw that story on Instagram and here on KZbin about how you are moving to back Russia, I was like..wait, Gosh, what's going on. I remember how errored at that point and then discovered my own flaws about not doing stuff I really want to do. This video has really pushed me, thank you so much, Marina, for your frankness!

[@shwetagarg3589]

I always need a person like u who can motivates me as I am. Not tell thing like othersgo and change yourself accordingly.. I really appreciate your work. Good job Marina

[@SY-sp8uo]

Be yourself. *People who love you won't mind it. Those who don't love you, aren't important.*

[@rahularulraj1689]

👍

[@juanpedro4083]

I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

[@Bloom_hannie]

I can see your videos from dusk till dawn, for sure I absolutely love'em....& I Start watching'em with more wide eyes the moment you say _ "So, if you interested continue watching *smile with eye roll*" ....i love your voice & expressions... I just come in loop on linguamarina & Silicon Valley Girl back since 2020 ,damn can't thank-you enough, ILY teacher...😊 Your good hand_ Bloom🌋.

[@lorrainepannetier]

It's true that the more you work on your own inner journey of healing, personal growth and transformation that the more you notice those around you still stuck in their own limiting beliefs and negative behaviours. As we can't change anyone other than ourselves, all we can do is send them love, wish them well and find a new circle of people (or a location, career etc) that lifts us up and gives us the support and inspiration we desire. :)

[@juanpedro4083]

I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

[@alaminshohag6443]

Yeah absolutely rt

[@arikpavlik_]

Марина, один в один мои мысли! Даже не думала, что содержание видео будет настолько близко

[@soflabelle216]

Since I discovered your channel I feel that my english is improving day after day thank u sister marina for your effort I wanna be fluent like you .

[@trollnehru8102]

Where are you from? I want to contact with you to practice English.

[@SaumyaNayak]

I totally get what you are telling. I admire you for sharing these things ! I'm a CS student and a Developer and I have a goal to be in Silicon Valley someday and I just so want to meet you when I achieve this goal of mine and just tell you how I had downloaded that Silicon Valley video of yours and I just wathched it when I felt down or like you said not doing anything.

[@peachgumdrop8067]

I adore your idea of ignoring other peoples opinions! Sometimes when we try to be considerate and try to rationalize other peoples opinions, doubt starts to creep in your mind, and insecurity about what other people might say about you! Yes! just ignore them and thank them for their opinion, because no one can comment about your life other than you, the one who is living it!

[@abrehamzerihun3486]

Everyone needs a feeling of importance and a courage not to be disliked

[@josheduarte3381]

Thank you for the morning inspiration. Your advice really got to me!

[@alakshisharma5383]

SIE SEHEN SCHÖN AUS. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK

[@sabinapey]

Thank you for sharing! This is very helpful as so many people (including me) feel this way and are afraid to admit it or share it with others.

[@asadbek106]

Love you Marina! Thank you so much, I have both your Russian and English channels, whenever I watch your videos, I really get motivation and self-confidence!

[@MellowVibesRadio]

Just wanna say I really appreciate your videos, they're always super inspiring and just pleasant in general. Thank you! 🙏❤️

[@tugceugurlu1327]

Hi! I am Turkish, and I trying to speaking English. I love it versions, so exciting. You are kind and amazing 😻

[@aniakinga7936]

Totally agree with everything you said 🙃Not easy most of the time, but really important to work on it 🌸

[@akbermetalembekova5681]

Thank you so much.

[@somayamoniry]

Thanks Marina for taking this video, You really inspired me.😍 Actually recently I took a big decision in my life that it would blow minds of the people who are around me. After thinking alot, I've decided to leave University in 5th semester field of computerscience, the reason for taking this decision was , I live in Afghanistan and the level of education is so less than other places , after seeing this big difference I realized that I'm wasting my time here. So, I started to learn English now I reach advanced level, after that I've started becoming self-taught web developer, now I'm learning javascript language with udemy courses. I'm really happy for taking such decision in my life, sometimes I feel so depressed and pressured whenever I see I'm not the same as my environment, but now by watching your video I believe in my dreams more than b4.

[@toji12314]

im so impressed by your passion

[@somayamoniry]

@@toji12314 thanks alot for reminding me of this comment, I even forgot about it. It's 1 year ago, now I see since that time I really made lots of progress, different things changed and happened for me.

[@toji12314]

@@somayamoniry great. happy for you!

[@muhammadusama2079]

Just wanna say thanks. You have such an amazing personality, very convincing.

[@Tony_KR]

Very good channel to watch lightly for studying English. Keep telling us your story ^^ I have been being with this channel for long time from Korea

[@Rahul-ub6cn]

Hey I always want to do something big for myself and as you said people around us do this pulling down this so as they did to me also.... I tried a lot of stuff but always had a fear to loss Then one day I stopped lessening and now I tell you what I am a web developer..... That's feel good naah..... It's since 2 years I followed you....so thanks for being there

[@wagnerbynature]

I just stumbled upon your channel and I couldn't be happier :) Thank you!

[@zainimsalleh2779]

Let us be ourselves...let other people be themselves...as long as everyone is happy with their way of life...good luck to all...

[@sarpyalcn3578]

If i dont feel developing/ growing myself, i also tend to be depressed… so always look for new things to learn/discover to immerse myself…

[@АлисаТрофимова-ф5е]

I want to move from my parents. I am 18, but they want me to wait a little bit and consider me escaping from them. Every time(which I rarely do) I listen to them, I am certain I should have not. Thank for this video, it is really useful :)

[@victoriazalizko6993]

My parents do not approve my desire to study abroad. Also, they do not believe that someday I'll be successful enough to make my biggest ambitious dreams come true.

[@xenialxerous2441]

Hey there! I grasped each and every point that you mentioned in the video, and all of them resonated with me in one way or the other. Loved the video thoroughly and yes, it gave me a sigh of relief to finally realize that I'm ain't the only one who feels this way, or we aren't alone in this..😊️ I read somewhere, a little while ago that: "If you can't speak, you can't think, & if you can't think, you can't figure things out, & when you can't figure things out, you'll never see that you are a slave, & if you can't see that you are a slave, you'll never rebel, & when you won't rebel, you'll never be free, & when you aren't free, you'll never fulfill your purpose on earth to be the highest & best self/version". This sticked with me forever & as you said, being bold & audacious is indispendable to being success. Thank you so much & see ya 🤗️🤗️

[@MaxxLill]

Dear Marina, you have been covering very important topics…thank you!! You are very BOLD😊 I think you do not even realise how bold you are))

[@VitusAnayochukwu]

Interesting, totally agree with you 👍🏽

[@otabek_turgunboev]

So, I can say actually that your advice are so so so useful, all they are helping me to be a productive, not only being productive but also achieving mesmerizing goals ,✨ thank you so much for amazing videos ♥️♥️♥️

[@madina1530]

I agree. Same here

[@juanpedro4083]

I do not want to have children, the world is not easy and everything indicates that it will only get worse. I don't want to put a child in the world to suffer.

[@madina1530]

@@juanpedro4083 You know what, we're trying more than three years to have a child but with no reason we can't. Even if you wanted to have one, this doesn't mean you will have one. It's beyond our wish. I wish everyone would feel blessed when talking about children😔

[@juanpedro4083]

@@madina1530 I prevent myself, having a child is not a blessing, it is a curse.

[@khalidamallah635]

Thank you so much for talking about this, This is so inspirational as we need examples

[@friengels4825]

You are amazing Marina. Thank you

[@pumpkin0257]

That's the words that I needed to hear...my coworkers think I always have to help them..and do the most part of work...pero...wtf...I do alot enough and never ask you for help ... I never heard "thank u "for helping u out... enough...I m not obligated ..I can say No

[@angelflora8468]

Everyone deserves a bestie like u . Such an inspiring girl ❤️🤩

[@nataliyahnativ3085]

So emotional, so good! Thank you ☺️

[@marystravellife]

oh Marina, i’m in this exact situation since around two years. my dream is it to move to the US (from Europe) so studying there would be a great start but there are so many “complications” aka people who try to influence my decision it makes me so insecure and scared

[@intentionalliving7326]

Do it sistah!! I did 🤗

[@marystravellife]

@@intentionalliving7326 where are you from & how did you move to the US? :)

[@heyjane14]

I'm from Russia, from Surgut, so about my journey. I went to 2 different universities. I studied there for 6 months (in 1) and a year (in 2), so now I'm going to go to a third university, because I don't like my previous choice, I was wrong with the cities I moved to, with the universities and professions, but now I think I'm on the right (for me) path. I have a humongous experience, it studied me a lot, but now I need to move on.

[@julie1671]

❤️❤️❤️ I wanna say thank you for sharing your insights. I’ve learned something from you. And you have encouraged me start filming. I appreciate that.

[@oliviad464]

My first year after University I started working and started my own business. It’s now my second year and I’m preparing to start my second business. I think people will start to question why I even went to uni if I’m slowly steering away from working in my dream job although I’m beginning to realise I’m just avoiding “social norms”. I realised working full time for someone else has been programmed into us and TBH I’d rather be doing my own thing!

[@OlgaPogozheva]

I've been waiting for this video in English :) not watching it on your Russian channel, because I wanted the English version first :) Kudos to you! I think I'm done pleasing people too. It's just I'm not sure if I've chosen the right path.

[@ahakimasif9263]

Thanks linguemarina mam, I almost finish The courage to be disliked that book you already mentioned it one of your old video linguemarina channel. This book almost finished and I I learned is infinity. Honestly you’re doing really greats. Love from Bangladesh♥️♥️

[@maryamnawaz2115]

Everything you said I can really relate to. Where I feel I can't grow I get depressed. I am starting a company at 21

[@jimmyalwat8486]

There are some days when we can't even please ourselves,let alone others

[@paulovitor3295]

Hi Marina ! It´s a pleasure hear all of your experiences. I´d like that one day i can spend a time talk with you, and recieve many advices. Do you have plans for one day visit the Brasil ? I hope for this moment ! Thanks for everything.

[@valeryiarzh]

Your words are an inspiration ! ☀️Thank you for this content 💐

[@rajusarkar1607]

I think I will never be bored if I listen to her whole day. It is very pleasing listening to her. Love from India

[@ashshawon6840]

You're one of the most hardworking KZbinrs or Influencers i know. You never got viral from One video or anything. You had to work hard for each one of the subscribers you have.

[@juanlopezcifuentes5080]

I have had that same thought for a long time ... The most difficult thing is the opinions, criticism, or follow the traditional model. Even more so when it comes to people like family, friends, church, neighbors ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@santoshmandal9634]

You are helped me lot of english like native speaker and my english pronounciation is good enough without you it's not possible.thank you so much ma'm🙏🙏🙏

[@carenabarco]

I want you to know that you are a good teacher, lot of people need you more than people have bad thoughts about you💛💛 Anyway this is the one thing that you inspired me to start a vlog. I tried all your tips and it's helpful Whaaaaaaaa thank you !

[@pepsicolla123]

Hey, Marina! Thanks for the video. I admire your dedication. What I would like to say is that I am fed up with being a people pleaser. I have been like that for so long that I have made some decisions in my life or said some things that didn't resonate with me. I really need to get rid of this quality. I would love to go for an internship abroad (I actually have already filled in an application), but one person which is close to me doesn't support this idea. It's difficult for me, but I can do it and if I got your reply that would be a great encouragement!

[@ВикторияБёрд]

Thanks a lot for your true interview♡

[@AndalusFurniture]

Amazing video, missing these videos so much, please keep posting videos Your fan from Egypt

[@urmantaqi3253]

Thoughtful video, thanks. How come you are so wise? I learn from watching each of your videos. You are incredibly successful because you have the requisite attributes and few are blessed with your multifaceted talents. Best wishes

[@brothersvanhees]

Once you commit to this change in perspective it's crazy how everything will just align for you.

[@achiecuhschannel]

Now saint Petersburg was amazing with 21°C ..very nice weather and the sun was stunning ..

[@GrlbossErke]

Before It was my problem,I remember the time when I was obsessed with other people though.The point it’s my family but time passed and I realized that it’s not ok.I have to solve this problem,I guess all things start with thought

[@user-bf6hs3zo8e]

just made $15,000 last week nice video by the way!!

[@brittstones1502]

How did you earn that much?😱😱

[@Mohan-lj1zx]

-Thank You for this video !! U are an *Inspiration* !! - It is true that ppl around us wont inspire but stop us from trying new things & going ahead in life !!!!!!!!!!!!! IT NOT ONLY HAPPENS BEFORE WE START BUT ALSO WHILE WE ARE ON OUR WAYYY... AND AGAAAAIN AFTER WE ACHIEVE SUCCESS - THEY START ENVYING !!!! Reality !! Pls share your experience about how you dealt/dealing with envy :) THANKS

[@joymae]

Live for yourself not for others!!

[@sajidakhanum933]

First and foremost, I love you so much. You have been my inspiration Thank you so much such boosting words please make more videos on such subject.

[@DavidDrobik]

Thank you Marina!

[@pooja_0808]

hii marina this is pooja from india and i love your way of talking in english . I really want to speak like you.

[@alhasantiara7353]

Hey...Marina You look very polite in this video

[@haniagarcia85]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 Great vídeo. Living in US has taught more about this culture of “being bold” which is positive and related to being confident and courageous however in my personal experienced some people want to take advantage of it, and there is where the other person had to set boundaries. Being bold and setting limits should together🤝

[@fabiola2877]

I desire to live in South of Florida because of the weather compering to where I live that is cold most of the year, nonetheless, there are not a lot of native american's so I can improve english. For example, Miami or Fort Lauderdale.

[@thusithakumara555]

Wooow😍 What a wonderful voice😆Wish ur all hopes come true🙏 And Thank u for ur advices☺ They're really useful😄

[@mariamalkhatib2243]

yeah! you are right . My fam always tells me to work as a teacher and I hate teaching😣💔

[@luztv101]

You just said what I needed to hear today. ⭐🙏❤️

[@missgam5835]

Wow I didn't expect this second account of yours Linguamarina? Am gonna subscribe here too is it okay? I've been watching you year ago. Thank you so much for being my English teacher 😊🥰 God bless😇

[@novaturientr]

Hey this vedio was really helpful and wanna say that U r such an inspiration for me❤️ great respect to u and ur lovely thought 💌😊...Yeah... Marina we all are struggling somewhere fr something .... actually with me it's a thing that I have multiple interests and right now I am focusing on building my career .... But soon we all will be at the place , we are wishing to be...and all of us will be successful someday 🤞🤞❤️😁

[@iziotenth]

This girl is so beautiful and smart. Her husband is a lucky man. This is my dream girl.

[@exaltedme]

Не слушаю тех, кто демотивирует меня и говорит, что ничего не выйдет. Слушайте своё сердце!

[@danielskorupa5602]

I really like your vlogs. They are so honest, They have so much truth. 😍👍

[@jenish4601]

Marina your videos are just amazing 🌟 😍 and

[@hoplaasiamanagement3797]

I love this video so much! I am from Malaysia!

[@diasbaikenov8327]

Great thoughts, that's what I really love the most here👍

[@ElinaAkselrud]

I started a blog, in fact, but no one is watching it 😅 if nothing changes I’ll have to stop, since my target audience is so tiny and it might not be worth my time. I did your course btw, trying to optimize, but looks like it’s not going anywhere...

[@sayyer10]

I am just a random guy from a random part of the world struggling to be succeed in life myself. Reading your comment hurts me so much, I don’t know why. But what I want to tell you is don’t give up. Continue to persevere, stay strong, stay positive - your blog will gain traction one day. Just need the time and the need to believe! Best of luck!

[@ElinaAkselrud]

@@sayyer10 thanks so much! I will keep going, but if nothing changes in half a year, I will have to re-evaluate where I will be investing my time then. I’ve got a lot of projects going on and gotta only dedicate myself to the most beneficial ones, we’ve got only so much time in life. Thanks once again, your comment is so nice!!! Best of luck to you as well!