I Ended A Party Early And Kicked Out A Friend When She Fed My Dog A Treat r/Relationships

[@EnDB]

The friend heard the price and snapped, so she should totally get why OP snapped. To say she should put her down makes her a garbage person.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Honestly that loser is so pathetic lol.

[@villasenor5]

It’s not routine to put a dog down when they’re sick and the treatment is unreasonable?

[@EnDB]

The dog has an allergy, not terminal cancer. I stand by what I typed. She's garbage.

[@aphelion4616]

@@villasenor5 ONLY if it's unreasonable for YOU. It was very apparent OP could take care of her, it was just pricey to do so.

[@jakemarie828]

​@@villasenor5lots of people see their pets as family and not so easily disposable

[@addicted2mako]

If a friend ever says "You should just put [pet] down," that'd pretty much be the end of that friendship

[@velentr]

100% agree. Yoir life is to short to have it polluted by sociopaths.

[@alexacarrillo4339]

My husband once threatened to get rid of our dogs. I told him we are done if you ever do that so he never made that threat again

[@Armor_Wing]

Story 2: OP is being delusional and needs to let her boyfriend go. I know she loves him, but the topic of kids is often a dealbreaker in relationships. She shouldn’t be forced to have them, and he shouldn’t be forced to be without them. Even if she did get over her fear of pregnancy (totally valid btw), she still doesn’t sound like she wants kids and might not be the best parent. Kids can tell when they’re not wanted, and that’s completely unfair to them. I hope she’s able to recognize this about herself and move on in a healthy way.

[@shotwench2210]

It's too bad everyone can see it but her.

[@LittleGreenCar514]

I have a very valid fear of pregnancy (daily injections to prevent blood clots and high risk of miscarriage). I have no fear of raising children, however. THAT is the major issue. OP has a fear of raising kids, so even adopting should be out of the question for her. She's afraid of being alone since 18. It isn't that she wants to be with her BF of 9 years, she's just never been alone, free to figure out who she is, what she likes beyond the contruct of "Oh, we could do this activity together!". I hope that she finds a great therapist who will help her see that her fears are valid and she needs to move forward.

[@hoper1294]

OP doesn't get it! She needs to let him go. You cant magically want kids after so long and it's not something that requires therapy. She's going to lose him no matter what whether it's due to her not wanting kids or being a neglecting resentful mother. She needs therapy and to move on

[@streamerssaymyname]

Could be the bargaining stage of mourning a break up. But in the end, what was the boyfriend doing for 9 years with a woman he knew doesn't want kids and he jumped at the first chance he had to keep a baby? It may be possible that he messed with their birth control - no one who is child free would switch so suddenly the moment the opportunity presents itself. eta - after the update he stayed with her thinking she would change her mind! Could still be behind the pregnancy via messing with the birth control.

[@aixon_guy]

@@streamerssaymyname did you even see the whole video. OP clarified in comments that she never had the "having child talk" with her bf so he didnt knew that she wanted children

[@bd06m0030]

⁠@@streamerssaymynamethis is such a cringy disgusting reach.

[@wmdkitty]

Maybe he needs therapy and to get over the idea of having kids, instead.

[@BelovedofChrist581]

@@wmdkittythat doesn’t even make sense. He wants kids and he has the right to want children like so many other people!

[@OC_DEFENSE]

Story 2: He wants kids and OP doesn’t. This relationship isn’t going to work

[@miminana-hd6nf]

yes, that tis the bottom line. she had the right to get the abortion, it is her body. She didn't have the right to do it behind her boyfriend's back knowing how much he wanted, and loved, that baby. All the therapy in the world is not going to change her stance on having a child, and she should never have a child if she doesn't want one. That said, the boyfriend has the right to walk away from that relationship and find someone who shares the same goals, for a family, that he does. I don't think it is, necessarily, her "child free" stance that doomed the relationship, but her lack of respect for the boyfriend by doing it behind his back. That was just wrong. There is no way she can fix things. She is also in denial, they are not "still together', they are broken up, it is just postponing the inevitable.

[@LaraMagicorld]

I think she has bigger problems than just pregnancy fears. Like, being emotional dependant on her bf

[@maryjohnson9474]

Op didn't want to carry the pregnancy doesn't want kids she should get sterilized stop giving herself and boyfriend false hopes get therapy to help end her dependace on boyfriend

[@seleneledezma3543]

​@@miminana-hd6nf Her body, but it was also his baby.

[@jaimedritt4622]

@@LaraMagicorld And also manipulative. It seems that she doesn't care if he's unhappy as long as she gets to hold onto him. If she really loved him, she'd let him go.

[@Domino365]

This reminds me of a story I read elsewhere about a guy who got into an argument with a friend over whether chocolate was actually dangerous for dogs. The guy then woke up in the middle of the night to find his dog vomiting chocolate. He rushed the dog to the vet, where they had to put it on IV and keep it overnight, then called the friend. The friend admitted to feeding the dog chocolate to prove it was okay. The guy ended the friendship right then and there.

[@JasperIllusian]

boy I'd see red if a "friend" did that

[@patriciahansen6032]

And he should have made the former friend pay the vet bills.

[@DoritoBot9000]

I hope he sued

[@ivorynk752]

I thought everyone knew cocoa was bad for dogs. It can hard for them to get toxic levels if they are a bigger dog as milk chocolate's cocoa content isn't super high, it is not something I would chance

[@LA-mz1dd]

Some people are dumb.

[@RyomouShimei]

OP's "friend" was suspicious when she fed the dog fish without asking OP. THEN, she has the gall of getting angry when OP mentions the cost of food, that 'friend' messed up intentionally AND dares to be 'lol just put her down' OP could have handled the dinner better but she's 100% right in throwing that a-hole out of her life. She didn't respect OP's boundaries regarding her dog and then acts like a massive binch. Nope.

[@IggyHitokage]

The hardest decision in my life was to put my 17 year old cat down after she had kidney failure. It was two years ago and I still think about it every day. Anyone that jumps to "put them down" over $100 and some extra work is a monster.

[@RyomouShimei]

@@IggyHitokage I'm sorry for your loss and I can absolutely understand and empathize with you. I had to put down my 13-yo cat who was suffering from really aggressive skin cancer and it was so painful that really affected my family and The 'lol put her down' comment made me so offended. I would have screamed at that person for daring to say that BS

[@itsjustmaddisen]

If I were OP it would have taken every fibre of my being to not shake them.

[@aduckofsomesort]

Fear of pregnancy and giving birth is not irrational. But Opie needs to come to terms with that she can’t have a relationship with someone who wants children.

[@jokestermasteroflaughter7754]

I’m sorry to say this, but this is the consequences of her actions. As Reddit would put it. Although in gentler terms. Unfortunately she made this decision and new she has to live with it

[@Vasilia4]

​@@jokestermasteroflaughter7754what are you talking about? Regardless of her actions, her and her boyfriend want different things

[@aaronzegas5270]

@@Vasilia4 Yeah, it's on the boyfriend to not give in to wishful thinking. If his girlfriend told him she was adamant about not having kids, he should have 100% respected that or left.

[@shadamyandsonamylover]

@@aaronzegas5270he tried. OP literally would not let him physically leave until he said he wouldn’t break up with her. I’ve been in the bfs position before. Trying to breakup and my SO absolutely refusing. It’s hard. The boyfriend absolutely should block her and text her saying he’s done, but he probably can’t. He’s emotionally attached and I dont know if her getting an abortion behind will be enough for him to stand up to her long term. OP is being very selfish in this aspect.

[@itrasheditgood]

I agree, I think she knew her boyfriend’s view, but she didn’t want to let him go.

[@kateworkman921]

Gotta love how the second OP says she's not happy with the messages telling her she's in denial, claims it got her thinking, and yet the entire thing with the (ex)bf is "Yep, we're still together!" but her definition of "together" is her begging him not to leave because she'll "get therapy" to change a fundamental thing about herself, and he finally agreed to "think about it." Yeah, they're broken up. The only reason he said he'd think about it was so she'd let go of him and stop begging.

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

She's completely delusional.

[@lina9535]

I wonder if someone crossposted her story to AmITheEx

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 1: Even without all the history, YOU DO NOT FEED SOMEONE ELSE'S PETS WITHOUT PERMISSION.

[@Deedoof]

Story 2: My heart hurts for OP, but she should have seen this break-up coming. Her ex was immediately willing to parent alone, that's not something child-free folks say.

[@avaphynx]

Right, clearly hes always wanted kids.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

How should she see it coming of a situation she couldn’t control?

[@bailey7792]

​@KadeStringer2.0 Umm because he wants kids and she doesn't? On what planet did she NOT see that coming? Is that even a real question lmao?

[@jaimedritt4622]

@@bailey7792 I don't think that's even a real question. That person always posts the contrarian position to stir people up.

[@jaymel4691]

Yeah and although he's staying for now, I think it's more out of obligation and he's already edging his way out. Maybe the therapy will help OP recognize that this isn't healthy for either of them and will help her find the strength to let him go. He's going to leave sooner or later. It's better if he leaves before he starts resenting her for not wanting to give him children, or she resents him for pushing her to "hurry up and get better". I think he sees the writing on the wall, even if OP is still in denial.

[@darkmask5933]

Story 2: The relationship is over, even if she could get over her fear of pregnancy, which she shouldn't have to do, he will likely never get over her going behind his back to end the first pregnancy. He only agreed to give it a week so he could leave. Next time, he will break up with her over the phone then block her, so that she can't cling onto him again. It's sad, she just doesn't realize they are not compatible, if she was child-free she should have said so sooner. Yes, he could have mentioned he wanted kids as well, but seems maybe he did say something, since OP said they didn't talk about kids because they were both still so young, that gives BF the impression she would be open to kids someday.

[@juliearmfield2634]

He will forever hold resentment for her killing his baby to start with and he will always have trust issues with her if he gets back with her. Best thing he can do is Keep On Moving because she's in Desperate mode right now I don't think they can get past it

[@neilschroeder7854]

I just can’t see how a couple get that far into a relationship (9 years) and not have a clear conversation on expectations regarding children. My wife and I had the conversation within 2 years, even though we didn’t get married until year 7.

[@dandotvid]

Together for NINE years and never once talked about kids? OP needs to let that man go. He should be allowed to have the future he wants and shouldn't have to wait for her to be ready when there's not even a guarantee she ever would be. And for the love of GOD OP, do NOT get pregnant just to keep him around. That's not good for you, him or any children that come of that. You WILL feel regret. The kids WILL suffer because of it. DON'T DO IT!

[@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh]

Are you gonna bring up the fact of how selfish she is?

[@peachesnsht]

@@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh she's not selfish, she's having a mental breakdown.

[@Vasilia4]

​@@JuanRodriguez-tf7fhgetting pregnant for her bf, when she clearly doesn't want to is the opposite of seldish

[@zombiezed4927]

​@@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh How is she selfish for not wanting kids?? For not wanting to push a whole frickin human out of her body with the huge possibility of her DYING in the process??

[@aaronzegas5270]

@@zombiezed4927 Like, good point, women aren't freaking public property, but apparently OP's family things she is.

[@mediocreskullduggery]

Story 1: The friend WAITED until she left the room. The friend knew & did it on purpose.

[@l.b.9522]

Everyone should know that you dont feed animals anything unless youre told its okay.

[@Wtfamidoing2970]

I never understood where people got the audacity to even do such a thing in all honesty as this is something my mom taught me as a child. Not that I think someone is going to do anything nefarious, but we do live in a weird world where I don’t put it past anyone to do such a thing anymore. 🤷‍♀️ As it is I have a cat now that has such bad digestive issues that if he eats the same thing too much he’s sick, so I have to make a meal plan for him. 😅 However in the past, I’ve had cats that won’t even question something that’s given as a treat and immediately scarf it down. I’m extremely allergic to dogs, so I have no idea how bad it is for dog owners, but my aunt has to watch where she puts her socks as her dog ate them not once, but twice. He also ate 3/4 of a pumpkin pie and had such a bad stomach ache he just laid on the floor and whined for an hour. Like seriously, where do people think that an animal who is capable to such things also capable of consenting to their offer of a treat? 🤷‍♀️😂

[@juliearmfield2634]

I have a dog allergies and has to have special food as well as different supplements and it is not cheap at all. It easily runs me about $100 a month

[@danedee6563]

It’s annoying how the comments kept saying that it’s just fish and fish is OK. It was breaded and fried fish! If the dog is allergic to a grain, the breading could’ve triggered it. Also, just because OP doesn’t suspect fish doesn’t mean that the dog is not allergic to fish?

[@jumpmain]

Yeah, even when my friends and I when we were little, we asked.

[@Wtfamidoing2970]

@@danedee6563 it’s also fried with a lot of other things that could also be giving him a problem. It sounds so stupid but my moms friend has celiac and in the beginning it was so hard for her to find something to eat in the grocery store let alone at a restaurant, simply because of the cross contamination.

[@jessicawolfe5861]

I'm constantly shocked by people who dont think allergies are real or serious

[@vegaskullkid4503]

Same here. I’ve known many people that have both serious and non serious allergies, heck my mom is very allergic to strawberries, and whenever someone has said that allergies don’t exist or that people are just using allergies for sympathy they’re not that serious; I’ve had to stop myself from saying some harsh words for how absolutely ignorant and in certain cases close minded they sounded

[@JRMAV1]

Boomers and Gen Xers

[@shawnbrooks5293]

One of the worst stories I've read on reddit involved a grandma killing her grand daughter with coconut oil despite knowing she was deathly allergic. Just because she loved the way coconut oil smelled.

[@LunaMane]

And when a person has a reaction, they think it can be passed off with a disingenuous as frick "my bad".

[@jessiejeanne9717]

​@@JRMAV1no, I'm a Gen Xer and I'm fully aware a cunt mother in law withholding an epipen won't cure a peanut allergy. It's not a generational thing, it's textbook narcissism! There are many like me who don't perpetuate the Dunning Kruger!

[@pxel64]

OP definitely needs therapy, but more to help her move on from the relationship. Even if she got over her fear of having kids, I just don't see the relationship working out due to her being too dependent on him. I hope therapy helps her and she's able to live a happy life. Her STBX also deserves to live a happy life with the family he wishes to have one day.

[@imjustgonnasayit415]

Story 2: This isn’t going to end well… Either: -she won’t get better through therapy -he waists his time with her trying to get better -she has kids and she resents it She gotta let him go

[@damien678]

How hard is it to not mess with people's pets? 😤

[@tylergilson4749]

How hard is it to put the dog away during meal times?

[@damien678]

​@@tylergilson4749 Not that hard, but I can't blame OP for expecting better of her friends. For thinking that they'd respect her and her dog.

[@Maestrosendgame]

@@tylergilson4749at the same time why should she have to if her friends know not to give op’s puppy food

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

@@tylergilson4749If you can’t prevent yourself from feeding animals scraps, you shouldn’t be around other people’s animals. The dog wasn’t even begging until the friend started giving food, so it was a non-issue until the friend decided to pull this stunt. If the dog was one to bother people for food via begging or jumping on them, then sure, put it in its crate or a separate room, but this was an issue with a crap friend pulling a crap move.

[@simac8396]

Op also failed to tell everyone not to feed her dog scraps. A vague joke about not eating McDonald's doesn't cut it.

[@asherikamichaela8425]

Oof. Second OP has some absolutely _raging_ anxiety and attachment issues. 😬 Seek some therapy, girl. You desperately need it, especially after this.

[@Love2Banime]

S1: was gonna go with ESH until I heard the update: NTA. What a horrible friend to say "just put him down" after finding out the cost. She should be lucky OP's dog was ok otherwise OP would've filed a law suit against her. S2: there really is no solution to this. OP doesn't want kids, but her partner does. She doesn't want to lose him, but he walked out on her. OP has to accept they're not compatible for each other.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I really hope Will breaks up with OP. She will make a child miserable. Children know when they're unwanted. Children should always be a dealbreaker. It sucks to find out a decade in you're incompatible, but they are. Better to regret NOT having kids than the reverse

[@taylorwashington7682]

At least OP was aware enough to not try and convince herself she'd come to love the child. Family has no horse in that race so they can't get mad. Infertility sucks but you can't live through other people

[@yamairad1]

She is deep in ther sunk cost fallacy. Although she does need therapy she's going about it the wrong way. She's doing it to keep the boyfriend.

[@bunnyslippers191]

She probably has Tokophobia, which is a pathological fear of pregnancy and childbirth, so she probably wouldn't be able to "have children to please the BF." Tokophobia can get so bad the patient will refuse to have intercourse at all because they know no birth control method has a 100% effectiveness rate. The person is literally terrified by the very thought of pregnancy or childbirth to the point they have nightmares and intrusive thoughts about it. It's doubtful OP could manage to make it through a pregnancy with her extremely high fear level of the entire process.

[@CyborgCharlotte]

@@bunnyslippers191I don’t think it’s just that, it almost sounds like she’s become almost….emotionally dependent on the boyfriend in a way

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

@@bunnyslippers191my friend has tokophobia, but wanted a child basically because her husband wanted one. She got pregnant, and loved being pregnant, had a planned c-section and loves being a mom. I don’t think OP would go that route, but you never know

[@Sensansenkai]

The abortion story is a great example of boundaries from the other direction. She had every right to get the abortion because that was her boundary. But the boyfriend also has the right to leave her over it too. When two boundaries clash like this, sometimes the only solution is to end the relationship and she has to understand that.

[@moirapledger9153]

Well put.

[@vitterling]

As someone who has never wanted and never wants kids, I agree with this, and also I find it entirely wild that they never discussed having/not having kids in NINE YEARS of being together? That makes no sense.

[@wmdkitty]

No. He doesn't have that right.

[@sigisig3941]

The update is so disturbing. She should just let that poor man go. If she really gets a child. What if she hates it? there so many storys were a parent hates the child because "they did not want it". she sounds really fixatet on him too, i dont beliefe she could share him with a child. This is a YES, YES disgustion. I am pro choice but when you are not on the same level here. Need to see that it is a choice. Fuck around and find out. What if he did not want it and she would had it. this is fucked up too. These are all the babytrap storys just no.

[@susankaempfer8427]

I kind of don’t understand why she told her family. Yes, she had every right to get an abortion, but why rub her sister’s face in it? She also needs to accept that she’s burnt the bridge with her boyfriend.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 2 - OP needs therapy for herself to not be so dependent on her boyfriend, her desperation to do whatever to keep him is not healthy. I will not be praying for her relationship, I’m praying she gets herself the help she needs for her and no one else.

[@tinagalaxy9959]

Anyone that ever tells their friend or just a person in general to put their dog down because of a health condition can pound so much sad that they get buried in it

[@ajwinberg]

The dog is probably allergic to corn. Most pet food is made from corn meal and believe it or not it is a common allergic for dogs. I am not a veterinarian, but my vet told me this when we found out that my dog was allergic to corn.

[@fuzzylittlespider]

Probably corn, grain or poultry.

[@mbyerly9680]

Mine was soy.

[@robinronin]

Story 2: If they do ever have a kid, she's going to resent him and the child, which will lead to ab-se. They should have discussed children way sooner into the relationship. Yes, feelings can change as you get older, but there is also a good chance they won't. OP is obsessed and codependent on the bf and it won't end well. Hopefully a good therapist will tell her that having a child just to keep the bf around is a very bad idea.

[@ajzephyros7454]

yeah but if they were like 16 or so when they got together I can see why they didn't talk about children when they first got together

[@onepieceisking5493]

I also find the "parents", boyfriend and "sister" extremely selfish in actually trying to force op to have the baby rather than listen to her feelings and her wishes. And when op did what she wanted with HER body they all got upset, insult op and cut op off. How selfish do you have to be to act like that, specially to your own sibling and daughter?!?

[@robinronin]

​@@ajzephyros7454I 100% agree, I definitely meant more that, at least in their early twenties, that is something most couples would begin to discuss more seriously. It’s really weird that this never came up in a 9 year relationship before she ever got pregnant. I had a bf in high school and we chatted about it on occasion when we were 16-17, in a more casual/future dream type way. How do you go 9 years with someone, probably living with them as well for a few years... and just never bring it up?

[@robinronin]

​@@onepieceisking5493Yeah, the parents and sister are just blatantly in the wrong, staking claims like that over the body of someone they supposedly care about. They just had no right to get involved in the first place. The bf could also have been more understanding as this pregnancy wasn’t even planned; even people who want a child, sometimes want to wait a few more years. Pregnancy is scary and will alter your body forever, plus you get a child that needs so much care for 18+ years. It’s a lot. I feel like a lot of people still underestimate it, and guilting OP over not wanting it is so gross 😬

[@rowanspindlecreek2658]

Story two just shattered my heart. Hopefully once she's done some therapy she'll come to accept that her relationship has ended and that she needs to move on

[@Mimiroo]

Story 2 is the same reason my ex-husband and I divorced. I desperately wanted kids and he was on the fence. We went to therapy, we tried to talk it out, he got to the point where he would do it for me because he loved me but my gut told me not to do it. After a long talk during our separation he told me “I’d rather have a kid with you then a life without” solidified it wouldn’t work out. There were other issues in the relationship but knowing my partner wasn’t a “hell yes” on a child and only a reluctant “because it would make me happy” made me fully walk away. I still loved/love him, we were together 10 years and I miss him terribly but I know it was the right decision.

[@DarkShiftee]

That poor girl in the second story is never going to get that back, I know she’s scared to lose him but if her fear was so immense that she almost immediately went to terminate- I’m not sure how much therapy could help that

[@gowongodmom4851]

I’ve seen it. It very well is possible but it may not be. I just don’t think she should have kids just to make him happy. He should have been able to move on from on. I’m glad he actually did what he was supposed to though. Apologize etc.

[@ailinfergan]

Girl in the 2nd story needs to move on. She should have gotten therapy first before throwing a Hail Mary at the end. What she did was terrible. Yes, I know, her body, her choice. But he also needed to be considered. She didn't and that's a betrayal that the relationship wouldn't come back from. I would have said, "It's your choice, but if you do this, don't expect me to be here once it's done."

[@bunnyslippers191]

Some women have a pathological fear of pregnancy and childbirth. That fear is called Tokophobia. It's a very real disorder and needs professional help. Sometimes it's so strong women have been known to refuse to have intercourse with their husbands because they know no birth control method is 100% effective, that's how afraid they are. It can sometimes be treated well enough for the patient to have intercourse, but there's no guarantee it will work and treatment has to involve both therapy and antianxiety medication.

[@DoritoBot9000]

I know she’s young but how can you be with someone with 9 years and not address that she never wants kids and he does? They are sadly not compatible

[@ruthsaunders9507]

@@gowongodmom4851 He'll be gone soon. You don't get over that.

[@CaptBrightside89]

Story 2: OP isn't wrong for not wanting to be pregnant and choosing to opt out. OP's ex isn't wrong for breaking up with her over it. Clearly they're non-compatible. I understand that she must be going through a lot right now, but damn that desperation at the end isn't a cute look.

[@xelectrix]

The way OP talks about themselves, it seems like they have next to no self-esteem. People made fun of her boyfriend for dating her? She seems thankful that he took her, "the nerdy girl," to prom. It also sounds like this was her first and only relationship. Smh, I hope her therapist catches on to that.

[@spibow]

​@@xelectrixSeriously. OP sounds so fucking unwell it's scary. I think if Will did actually leave her she'd end up in a hospital or a grave. She needs serious help with her self esteem

[@evavocative6975]

Story 2: I think OP is an idiot. Children should absolutely BE a deal breaker and I hope the BF comes to his senses and leaves if he really wants kids. OP saying, "Just give me a few years," is SO manipulative. It's her stringing him along knowing she truly doesn't want kids. They should just go their separate ways. She's more than within her rights to get an abortion, but he was more than within his rights to leave her over it.

[@bautistalover]

@@evavocative6975she already strung him along so to speak for 9 years. Being on the fence about kids is something you need to be honest about early on in a relationship young or not.

[@thewrongsideofpolitics9925]

Story 2: He told her what she needed to hear in an effort to leave. He won't be coming back, only neutral places from now on. This woman has some SERIOUS issues.

[@meagancall5005]

Story 2: Well that's gutting. I hope OP's therapy helps her move past this unsalvageable relationship, and I hope BF has enough sense to stay steadfast... they are incompatible. Having children is not EVER something you should compromise on. Imagine being born and raised as nothing more than a concession from one partner to another. I feel for both of them.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: ok, after reading the update, op does need therapy but not for the reasons that she thinks. Will needs to break up with her because a child deserves to be loved by both parents, this will only breed resentment.

[@melisandeperalta6146]

Story 2: Honestly, I get it. I love kids. Heck, I love babysitting. But, I would never have any of my own. I'm okay with babysitting because I can give the kids back to their parents. But I wouldn't be able to handle them 24/7. Be it physically or mentally, the latter more so. I would definitely have a panic attack like the OP if I were to find myself pregnant.

[@marvahinspace]

Understandable but there are two things where she went wrong, never bringing kids up to her bf, it is the norm to want them so when she realised she isn't the norm she should have said something. she she said she knew since she was a girl. secondly, protect yourself at all cost so you wouldn't be in this situation.

[@HackiePuffs]

Bet you those friends wouldn’t think OP was “overreacting” if the dog ended up at the vet. They have no idea how lucky they all were especially the doggo. “You suck for screaming at the friend” oh yeah and how calm and collected would yall be and act like perfect little angels who know how to perfectly handle every situation if your pet was possibly in danger of getting massively sick??

[@artemishallihan8973]

Story 2 - I hope op finds her independence in therapy. She's going to try and fix her fear of pregnancy so her bf will stay with her but.... none of that is a healthy basis for starting a family.

[@1kokokala10]

Story 2: All I really have to say is good people don't put someone through that sort of emotional abuse simply because they chose not to go through with a pregnancy. It's extremely selfish on their part, and I hope Op gets better and realizes her life might be better without these people in it. Edit after update: I hate people with no damn self-respect. This isn't healthy for any party involved. OP is so dependent on her BF it's toxic. I hope they get the help they need and soon end this toxic relationship.

[@Copernican]

A lot of people surrounded by emotional abuse don't appear to have self-respect because they're made dependent on their abusers. Family and boyfriend obviously don't really respect OP's autonomy, she's had that from the family all her life and her bf for 9 years... Hopefully she'll realise when she's had some distance and the chance to come to terms with things, but expecting her to not be like this when everyone is her life is basically disowning her for not wanting to go through with a pregnancy is expecting a lot from her. Currently boyfriend is the only one who is even slightly seems to understand her POV so of course she's gonna be clinging to him twice as hard.

[@marvahinspace]

it's not emotional abuse to not wanna be in contact with someone whose morals/fundamentals do not match yours. Family or not.

[@CM-um8ef]

You’re free to do what you want, others are free to do what they want. Nobody is entitled to actions without consequences

[@1kokokala10]

@Copernican I don't expect her not to be like this if she was isolated, but she wasn't. She reached out, and despite all the warnings and advice, she still chose to ignore all that.

[@bautistalover]

@@Copernicanwow way to take away all accountability from OP. She wasn’t emotionally abused by her boyfriend. She kept a secret for 9 years never sharing with him her doubts and he’s the bad guy for trying to get her to see things from his perspective even to the point of him willing to be a single dad? Yes it’s her body and her choice but her choice affects him too and she has to accept the consequences of that choice and in this case it means no boyfriend because of how she went about things.

[@thechosenone9769]

One of my cats is on a special diet and you wouldn't believe how expensive it is. Last 8lb bag was $62! And that was after a $5 coupon! However she can have other stuff too as long as she gets some of the special food. My other cat can have whatever. Still when my family is over they ALWAYS ask if they can give them a bit of whatever meat we are having. I've never said no but they still always ask and they know my cats pretty well.

[@Pikarose150]

Story 1: I am in a similar situation to OP, my fur baby has chronic UTI's and has to be on 2 special foods to prevent stones and crystals, I can confirm that a single large bag of food is minimum $60-$70 and has to be approved by a vet so it's a pain to restock. If someone fed him something he can't have, basically anything other than that food, I'd be FUMING and the least of their worries would be covering his vet bills. It's the same as with children, if it isn't yours don't do anything or give them anything you don't have their guardians consent to give them.

[@FlyingPurplePplEatr]

Food trial or not.. you don’t feed someone else’s dog. That food is EXPENSIVE!

[@DaniS398]

I feel bad for the girl who got the termination. It is her body and I am pro-choice...however she has to understand that was his baby as much as it was hers, and he might not be able to be with her knowing she terminated a baby he wanted. She seems extremely naïve about the entire situation.

[@jaymel4691]

I have never wanted kids, and if I got involved with someone, I would be upfront with them from the start that I don't want them and I never will, I won't change my mind. If that person isn't completely fine with that, then they are not the one for me and I'm not the one for them either. This is why you're supposed to be honest with your partner about what you both want. Love is great, but relationships are work. If you're not compatible, all the love in the world won't save your relationship. I wish more people understood this.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1: Oof, as a mom of a dog allergic to literally EVERYTHING (includes everything outside, all fruits and all types of animal protein) I'd literally lose my 💩 if someone fed my dog something without my consent. Her medication literally costs me 800 bucks a month

[@Rankinen]

Story 2: It doesn't matter how much they love each other. One wants kids, other doesn't. This isn't something that can be compromised. It would be better to break up while they still have a good relationship.

[@stoney1277]

Story 2. Unfortunately for the OP her boyfriend and family will never see her the same after what she did. They may forgive but they will never forget she un alived a child they already loved. Her relationships will never be the same

[@dja3456]

Story 2: you can't move past this. Your choice is yours but you have to accept others feelings. You can't change theirs

[@jenimhills]

My brother and his family have healthy, mid age Akitas yet I still ask someone every time I want to give them food. It feels like the baseline respect.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story one: *NTA.* The friend clearly doesn't respect the rules of the dog's owner (not feeding said dog "treats", AKA meals for people). Just because the dog is _cute._ Also, one of the comments pointed out what I remembered about McDonald's fish item(s): they're breaded and fried. And probably seasoned, too. So that _a little fish won't hurt her_ statement of hers is wrong. 🤦🏾‍♀️ After update: *...What is wrong with that ex-friend of yours?* 😐

[@Hunter-vp3he]

Story 2: that relationship is doomed to fail; OP is super dependent and willing to make herself unhappy just to keep a partner who wants kids.

[@607Delta]

Story 2 OP is pathetic and delusional. So if she had wanted to carry the baby and give birth, she would have let the boyfriend take full custody. But they wouldn’t have broken up? How would that even work? She spends the rest of her life with him but never considers the child hers too? Absolutely delusional. She needs therapy and he needs to find someone better.

[@maryseflore7028]

Story 2: That relationship is sadly over. He got a picture of the ultrasound in a locket... The wound of OP getting aborted behind his back won't heal as long as he is with her. Yet, he's not angry with her, still supports her, is understanding and compassionate, and even stood up for her in front of her family. He is a wise and mature young man. He can see both sides of the story and is profoundly compassionate. And he is wise enough to know he'll never be fully happy with OP ever again. He will always resent her for this, as she will resent him if she has children that she simply does not want. OP seems to be emotionally immature, and overly dependent. She needs therapy in order to find her own balance, because this problem she has will not get better on its own and WILL compromise any relationship she'll have.

[@AngryBudgieNoises]

Potential life not guaranteed. Doesn’t mean you can’t feel trauma over the loss of the chance, but I really feel like people act ridiculously. Given my body yeeted one that I would have kept and did want, I’m not unempathetic to the mix of emotions, but I really detest those having an opinion on what happens to that potential life when it isn’t their body carrying it. People’s feelings do matter to an extent but not more than the person at the centre of it.

[@ThatRedhedd]

Totally agree, but...since she always knew what her decision was going to be, she should never have told anyone else about it to begin with. That's just cruel to inform them of something that was guaranteed to hurt them.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

I will change the script on the first story and say what if the dog was actually a disabled child of OP. What if this "friend" fed OP's human child something off the strict diet menu. Would OP have a good reason to go ballistic if this was a risk to the wellbeing of her human child? So if OP would be justified in going ballistic to protect her human child, why can't she be just as justified with the reaction of her dog being put at risk. OP is NTA and we find in the update that the "friend" purposefully fed the dog the fish to prove that it didn't have any allergies. Oh and that's fucked up to state someone should kill their animal just because their care is an inconvenience. As long as the doggo is not suffering and miserable, why not do what you can to make their life good.

[@x_beatsperminute_x1232]

Story 2: With every action there is a reaction. We all make choices and we have to live with the consequences. It's OP's body and choice but they should've known something like that could happen

[@AraAra6367]

Story 2 was a lose-lose situation. I’m sorry for OP but it was either her or them. She was fully within her rights to get the procedure done but clearly she underestimated how much of a dealbreaker this situation was. She’s gotta let them go.

[@poetryqn]

Story 2: Even as folks were talking about (a) abortion v. Pro life, (b) going behind his back, and (c) all the chaos around her sister's infertility, all I could think was one partner wanting kids and one who doesn't is a deal breaker. Apparently Will came to the same conclusion. This isn't *just* about an irrational fear. OP needs to be enough by herself before she's ever going to be ok for a partner. If I were Will I'd nope outta there. He sounds lie a good guy with his head on straight. Therapy is a great first step for OP, but if Will is her first and only relationship, she needs to stand on her own for a bit and gain the maturity to own her decisions in the full light of day, no sneaking. No begging.

[@shells500tutubo]

Wording means a lot. It is abortion vs anti-abortion, not abortion vs pro-life, because most people (not all) I know who say they are pro-life are NOT. They are pro-birth, but always gung ho for capital punishment.

[@poetryqn]

@@shells500tutubo I agree with you. Thank you for the suggestion. It's time we used appropriate language to reframe the discussion.

[@mulqueen2023]

I'm childfree and I could never even imagine going NINE years without even discussing it! Like what?! Thats something you should be upfront about within the first few months, like jesus Christ what is wrong with op and her boyfriend? That's just a common dealbreaker, thats why childfree people are almost always upfront, because being the side whose always told we are wrong and will "change our minds", we've all had to learn this shit already. People are truly just dumb, both deserve someone who meets their needs and future desires. Op staying with Will is not going to end well. Either them divorced after a few children both miserable, or them seperated because neither could rightfully compromise over this important issue.

[@grimdarkmalarkey5402]

I just cut my hand on some glass and had to get stitches earlier today. Having a new Mark Narrations video to relax to is bringing my mood up a lot. Happy holidays y'all! Edit: Wow, thanks y'all! One of the best things about this community is how supportive everyone is!

[@Solarstormflare]

i misread that as grass and gained a fear of grass until i reread it again, hope you feel better!

[@vernell2601]

Hope it doesn’t hurt too much!

[@vernell2601]

@@Solarstormflarethat’s hysterical

[@grimdarkmalarkey5402]

​@@Solarstormflareit's not too bad now. I'm mainly bummed out that I can't work on my arts and crafts for a while. My mom did get me ice cream, so I'm going to consider it a net positive!

[@JasperIllusian]

I hope you heal up fast and easy and well

[@goldensentinel7715]

If you feed my dog a "treat" that could harm them, incompetence or not, then I'm instantly turning into John Wick.

[@zok6064]

That second story breaks my heart. I used to have a phobia of getting pregnant to the point that thinking about it a little bit too much could make me vomit. I spent years working on it because I do want to raise a child, and I did get over it in the past year (yay!) but only because I am in a supportive environment with a husband who would never pressure me one way or another. If the op wants to have a chance to heal her fear of pregnancy, she needs to do it for herself without any outside pressure. The one positive (if bittersweet) part is that the boyfriend loved her (and himself) enough to break up with her. He deserves to be with someone who wants children for sure, nobody should settle for a maybe regarding such an important decision. Even the most supportive environment can't guarantee that she'll ever have the proper mindset to carry a child, some people just aren't made for that, and staying with him would have only turned pregnancy into an obligation. A recipe for disaster if I've ever seen one.

[@melodyenkatsu3186]

Story 1: I had a dog a few years ago who had a severe beef allergy. If he had and food with beef products he would end up having a reaction along the lines of cheating on his paws until they bled, practically screaming every time he would chew on his paws from the pain. So I totally understand the concept of protecting one's dog from their allergies

[@sk8ergrrl1]

Story 2: I am so relieved that OP did not have the baby. That would have ended badly if she’d had the baby. But she is delusional. She doesn’t want kids, her bf does. They aren’t compatible and need to break up.

[@devchekhov7512]

Story 2: OP, move on.

[@KyrieChii]

Slight correction: Therapy, stat. Moving on can come after. I really feel for OP, she's not in a good place.

[@cattyanamontes5724]

She’s selfish to beg him to stay with her- KNOWING she doesn’t want kids and they’re incompatible.

[@sam2x13]

Story 2: Your body, your choice, your consequences. Live with them.

[@wkkowrld]

Praying that Will and OP break up because OP sounds unstable. Out of all things to compromise on, children should not be one of the them. It's a two yes, one no, issue. She shouldn't be having children simply bc Will wants them. That's how resentment builds.

[@kaykay8855]

How is op unstable? Op doesn’t want to have children. It’s not op’s bf or her family who has to carry the baby, op does and she doesn’t want to go through it. In this case it’s op’s no that matters, not her bf, not her parents, and definitely not her sister.

[@SpiceyCreature]

​@@kaykay8855 Wouldn't effectively holding someone hostage until they give you a yes be unstable? She wouldn't let him leave until she got a yes for trying to keep the relationship going. >>

[@wkkowrld]

@@kaykay8855 That's not the reason she's unstable. She's holding her bf hostage when she knows that she doesn't want kids and he does. She has this weird codependent relationship with him.

[@Masenken]

Wouldn't say codependent, just that beyond the baby thing she clearly already envisioned them growing of together. She knew she broke his trust the moment she went behind his back and had to face the music after the fact. The dishonesty killed the relationship. She might've been able to get a surrogate later or something, but instead she decide to sneak off and destroy something she knew was important to him. Her relationship went up in smoke with that abortion. All she was doing after that was delaying the inevitable

[@kaykay8855]

@@wkkowrld yeah, I just read the update, I see your point. Op does need therapy but not for the reasons she thinks.

[@mariecherrytree]

That dude needs to get out of that relationship. He want kids and she doesn't. It's over.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Op is disgusting for feeding him false promises just so he won’t break up with her. she's made it clear that hell will freeze over before she has kids willing/of her own choice. but since having kids is the condition of her relationship continuing, she's chosen to lie and give false promises like with the hope that she can convince him to give up on wanting kids further down the line.

[@MysticMae21]

She "KILLED" his baby. She may not belive that. But he 100% does and isnt going to forgive her for that.

[@allisonmartinez1096]

2 story: OP made me so mad. She is so emotionally immature; she is in all her rights to get an abort*on but she doesn’t seem to grasp that actions have consequences. Her poor bf; it’s all about what she wants, I hope they separate and don’t have kids because jt won’t be good for them ever

[@ivydinosaur]

Not wanting kids isn't something to "fix". I'm so sad for her. She's suffering from limerence, not love. Boyfriend loves an imaginary kid more than her. She needs to move on. My heart breaks for her.

[@DaniS398]

The fetus wasn't imaginary. It was a real live fetus. I'm about 3 months along my own pregnancy and I very much consider her my baby already, my husband is excited but to him they're not "real" until he's holding them, while I struggle to distance myself emotionally knowing all the risk that come with pregnancy. It was like that for my other 2 as well. To him, the baby was already his baby and he loved it and was excited. To him she didn't just terminate a pregnancy, she killed their child. I do think they both love each other, but are not compatible. She has a fear of being pregnant, but she also said she doesn't want children and they give her anxiety. Which is all very valid and she definitely should have had that abortion if that was what she wanted, regardless of the reasons. My heart breaks for her and for him. They're both losing a future they'd imagined. Her with him and him with her and a child. She does need therapy, but not for the not wanting children. She seems so desperate to hold on to that relationship to the point she's willing to cross her own boundaries.

[@user-blob]

@@DaniS398good Christ! Ever considered adoption?

[@charissagabrielle6810]

Story 2: this one’s gonna end in tears 😢 fundamentally, their core wants and needs are different. To an extent, even their values aren’t the same (she was willing to go over his head without discussing an action that will have repercussions on both of them). OP sounds like she hinges her entire personality and existence on her bf. She should get that looked at first before trying to get over her fear.

[@roelthas]

Poor last OP, she's in denial, they're just not compatible but can't accept it.

[@melanieme8410]

Story 2: if OP didn't want kids why didn't she get her tubes tied? Plus not talking about one of your greatest fears to your partner of 9 years? She knew he wanted kids and didn't tell him she didn't so she wouldn't lose him. OP is totally selfish to do what she did to the BF. My BF had 2 kids. I had 2. When I got pregnant, he said either I got rid of it or we broke up. I definitely regret getting an abortion. Cause we broke up 6 yrs later.

[@lvincent7493]

It is extremely hard to get your tubes tied. Part of the process is a mental exam and judging by this post she would have failed it.

[@user-blob]

Say again why Op was selfish?

[@Lillypop93]

Wayyyy easier said than done Literally just refused to do my sisters who is currently in the hospital after having an emergency C-section to remove her second child and they told her if she has another she probably won't make it.... Then turned around and told her they'd do it in another 5 years when she's older or if she has a third child.... Y'know like they told her not to 😢

[@ThatRedhedd]

I heard docs won't tie your tubes if you're under like 35 cuz they swear you'll change your mind. 🙄

[@anomaly7068]

Story 1: Hi, Crazy Cat Mom here. I own 2 cats and a dog and sadly one of our cats also has a food allergy. Exactly the same as the dog in the story, her skin becomes so itchy she scratches herself until she bleeds. The vet made us try a bunch of stuff until she was placed on the diet. Fast foward 8 weeks and she was still having a reaction. Turned out the meds the vet gave us had chicken flavour mixed into it, so we could try again. (we got a refund on the food) but yeah dealing with an alergic pet is difficult, frustrating and EXTREMELY expensive. I think we spended over 2000 on our alergic baby, Worth every penny but I would be livid if someone fed her ANYTHING.

[@Lilgamergrlie]

Story 2: dang Op have some self respect. There are many men on this earth. Fear of pregnancy is not irrational. This will end badly.

[@mbyerly9680]

Some women do not survive pregnancy or childbirth.

[@aduckofsomesort]

$60 for a bag of prescription dog food is basically getting away with stealing. My dogs non-prescription food is over $100 per bag.

[@jaimedritt4622]

So true! I pay almost $65 for regular dog food (that's with a subscription discount), and my other dog's prescription food for pancreatitis was closer to $100.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2: "How can I make my family forgive me and go back to how things were before I had an abortion?" You don't. You did nothing wrong, but you knew they all felt strongly about it. You can't take back the decision, and if you had the chance you wouldn't change anything. You're wanting your cake and to eat it, too. You had the right to choose *for yourself* what was right for you, and they have to accept that it was your choice. But now *they* have the right to choose how they respond to your choice, and YOU have to accept that it's THEIR choice. Good grief, she's hysterical and obsessed. She should have talked about kids way sooner (not to mention should have done more to be certain she didn't get pregnant). She admits she knew he wanted them, and even when she realized she wasn't going to "come around," she didn't tell him because she didn't want to lose him. Disgusting.

[@ThatRedhedd]

She's mainly the AH for telling them she was pregnant. Since she always knew what her decision was going to be, she should never have told anyone else about it to begin with. That's just cruel to inform them of something that was guaranteed to hurt them.

[@bankheadandpound]

Even if she isn’t allergic to the fish, there’s whatever is in the breading, the bun, the plastic cheese. Yeesh.

[@bec1482]

The friend saying she should just put the dog down, wtf is wrong with her. She was already an asshole before but then she comes out and says that. The way she so casually said to just put the dog down like it was no big deal .....That's not normal, she clearly lacks something.

[@Ancita-s9g]

Story 2, it wasn’t his pregnancy but it was half his child. Understandable that he’d want to split if she didn’t want kids and he does. Leaving because of the way she handled the abortion would have been understandable as well.

[@jacearmor5274]

S1: How about we put the "friend" down!?!? I'm sick of people pretending someone's allergies aren't real and endangering people!

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Story 2: The parents "wouldn't allow" their ADULT daughter to abort. OP didn't "go behind their backs," she made her choice about HER OWN BODY that NO ONE else has a right to control. Not her parents, not her BF, not her sister & BIL. All because her sister was obsessed with having a child.

[@pbpb-he6gx]

yes she has the right to chose for her own body. The family/BF have the RIGHT to their feelings and how they deal with those feelings is up to them. . There are consequences to all decisions. Both sides need to live with the consequences of their decisions. The BF and the poster are not compatible and the natural consequence is a break up as the stances of both cannot be resolved. She needs some therapy to get over her dependence on the BF. He is rightly choosing to break up as he realizes neither of them can be happy.

[@DameiusLameocrates]

Filet o fish has got more than just fish in it, doesn't matter if she suspects fish isn't causing the reaction. Its breaded and its fried in veg oil, the oil is also filtered through a machine that oil used to cook chicken goes through first. Source I worked at maccies for 9 years.

[@SaturnSenshi3105]

Story 2: OP needs to understand that they made their choice and those around them are allowed to make theirs.

[@66DoodleGal]

OP needs to ditch the boyfriend and find a guy who’s childfree. That relationship isn’t going to work out

[@patriciahansen6032]

Story 2: This isn't going to end well. I feel bad for OP, that she feels she has to turn herself into someone she's not to appease her boyfriend. She clearly has a lot of growing up to do. But if she follows through, she'll end up with kids she never wanted, and that can only lead to resentment. So not only will she be unhappy and her BF be unhappy, but the kids will suffer. Trust me, kids know when they're not wanted. I speak from experience. Only people who truly want to be parents should have kids. Period. End of story.

[@fleurpouvior2967]

My moms dog had a serious allergy to red meat, turns out, it's something many small dogs can develop. Getting any amount made him both vomit and deficate what the vet called 'rasberry jelly', but looked like coagulated blood, and would require rushing him to the nearest emergency vet for a several days long stay to keep him alive. His food and treats all had to be special brands, or straight up chicken/turkey, rice, egg, and veggies from an approved 'safe' list, that mom would cook, and blend up for him, especially in his old age when he had no teeth, had gone blind and couldn't chew. He lived to a very old age, had an active life, and traveled the world with my parents. He was a very good boi. RIP O-ryan

[@shebakoby]

Doesn't suprise me that the now-ex friend in story 1 doesn't think allergies are serious. I smell Cluster of Bees (PLEASE NOTE: This term ONLY applies to abusive instances of Cluster B) on that one. Lacking empathy for a dog with severe health issues and flippantly suggesting putting doggo down tracks for that.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Story 2: People are so dumb ….they didn’t need to know anything but you had a loss.

[@loganjoh1]

Story 2: 9 years you were together and you didn’t think you should talk about whether or not you wanted kids until you get pregnant and terminate the pregnancy behind his back? That relationship is doomed on for so many reasons especially the betrayal, wanting different things and the fact that OP had to beg for him to even consider staying with her. I feel for OP I really do but she needs to realize the relationship is doomed.

[@charitynordstrom5734]

Op 2 just needs to let go. So sad that she's so dependent that she can't be honest with herself. Dude needs to run fast and far from her, he's way too good for her weak self

[@madambutterfly1997]

its immature and a bit r***arded of him to think that a phobia of pregnancy/childbirth and a clear anti-child stance can be erased with some TLC.

[@smapa1185]

Yep. They should have discussed it as soon as they started dating. They are wholly incompatible.

[@pbpb-he6gx]

they were in high school, who in high school talk about having kids as soon as they start dating

[@Germania72]

Story 2: She's so selfish. She never told her bf that she didn't want kids ever and she's manipulating him to stay with her? I don't think she will change her mind and there's nothing wrong with being childfree. He's not the right person for her in a very foundational level: he wants biological children. She needs to find a man who wants to be childfree like her. She's trying to change herself for him, not because there's a glimpse of motherly instincts in her, but because of him. That's not going to work. She even says that he's enough for her. What if they have a baby and she becomes jealous of her own child?

[@floridafrostbite8002]

The last story; Op definitely needs therapy and maybe a hysterectomy. She needs to let her ex go, they’re fundamentally incapable and it is crushing learning that after 9 years but she needs to learn how to let go. That update was devastating.

[@ineedhoez]

Story 1: stop having parties at your house!!!! You dog is on an expensive AF trial. Like one of the commenters said, if someone accidentally drops some food, you are screwed! It is too risky.

[@rasheedabasheer4046]

Story2: My family and bf did the bare minimum to love me and when it was time to go above and beyond for me they were against me and didn't support me. So, I had to make an executive decision for my well being. Now, I need to find a way to get them to love me in the same conditions. How do I do that? 💀

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

Story 1: "the other half thinks I'm overreacting over a piece of fish" NTA We learned early on that our dog was allergic to shellfish. He got into the trash & ate a bunch of shrimp we'd thrown out. He broke out in hives all over the top of his head. So we avoid him eating any kind of shellfish or seafood in general. Whenever someone comes over we warn them about his allergy. People don't understand that dogs can have BAD reactions just like people can. It's not an overreaction to care about your pets. After Update: "All this for some "allergies" if it was this much trouble you should just put her down." Yeaaaaa I'd end the friendship too. She's got no idea what it's like to care for a sick animal. They cost as much as humans. Story 2: As someone who also doesn't want kids & thinks pregnancy is terrifying, I'm on OPs side for termination. "They're my family and have always been kind and caring" You sure about that sweetie? Because they way they're acting is the opposite. Like the bf had every right to walk out but OP had every right to terminate. She's not going to "fix" things. They're not going to understand & never will. Okay NINE YEARS together & she NEVER talked about this with him?!? Okay that's ALL on her. She's delusional if she thinks she can hit a restart button. This is everyone's hill & they're dying on it. She needs to just move on from everyone & get therapy for herself. After Update: "As long as I had him, I would be fine.. he still wanted to break up. He told me he wanted kids. I'd do anything for us to remain together" Oh my God she's SOOOOO delusional. Kids & marriage are a deal breaker for some people. It's a deal breaker for him. She's not going to change her mind & neither is he. "After all the fear is irrational" Ho-ly hell fear of pregnancy is not irrational. It's called tokophobia & it's a rational fear. "I can't be without him" HAVE YOU TRIED!?I honestly hate people that are so DESPERATE like that. She's wants so strongly to have THIS man in her life that she's putting aside her own wants. She's an extreme form of delulu. Those that live their life for a man (or woman) live no life at all.

[@aconvowithcrissee222]

Story 2: "why can't that be enough" bc he wants children. He literally was completely prepared to become a single parent. If shes truly just scared of pregnancy and not of being a mom MAYBE it will work but honestly? Doubt it