i got laid off from my job. now what?

Рет қаралды 9,693

2 ай бұрын

hi friends! we're chatting about losing my job today - everything from how it went down, to how i'm feeling, to what's next. i hope you enjoy this heart to heart❣️
Where to find Michelle and Aline:
Michelle's Instagram:
/ michelledufflocq
Aline's Instagram:
/ alinedufflocqw
Michelle's TikTok:
/ michelledufflocq
Aline's TikTok:
/ alinedufflocqw

Пікірлер: 69

@laurenmw9629 2 ай бұрын

I quit my job and went back to school to do my Masters at age 30. It completely changed my life in the best way. Good things are coming for you, I’m sure of it 💛

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

ahh i LOVE that!! thank you so so much 🥺❣️

@StarletOfDavid 2 ай бұрын

Oh so cool. I want to do a second Bachelors and then a masters soon too. My son is a teenager now and I don’t like my job and I feel like I need new stimulation. I’m almost 40 and in a now or never mood.

@hannahnicole2380 2 ай бұрын

girl - you are NOT in your flop era. this is just the first ten minutes of your hallmark movie

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

this is sooooo kind and such a good way to think about it, thank you 🥲

@MeditationWithAmber 2 ай бұрын

THIS!!!!

@emelyandtheuke 2 ай бұрын

100% here for more late 20s + 30s humans sharing their life. you're def not alone in any of these life things, thank you for sharing with us 🧡 I don't know if I'll be laid off but I had a whole disability thing change my relationship with my job and have a gut feeling life is about to catapult me into a different path, so hearing all of your honest experiences/advice about starting over after getting used to a job is comforting. even though I too don't care if I get a hallpass to start over, it's still scary and nerve wracking. but also so exciting! as always, looking forward to what comes for you (and me) this year :)

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

this comment! thank you so so much the sweet words and for sharing your experience!! sending so much love and patience your way during this transitional time ♥️

@AllisonIntheCity 2 ай бұрын

Being laid off from a job that you don't really like is the BEST. And I can't emphasize this ENOUGH, as an almost-38 year old who's been laid off from enough start-ups to write a book, EVERYONE is replaceable. NEVER give a job too much importance in your life. You should view it as a paycheck, and that's it (unless you're doing something like a doctor or teaching kids how to read). Did they also give you health insurance through May?

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

ahhh allison!! thank you so much for this comment - it's so reassuring to hear from folks who have been through similar situations and are now thriving. i do have health insurance through may thank goodness so i can get all my annual appointments sorted before then! 💖

@teddystinson3665 2 ай бұрын

Michelle, I've been following your channel ever since you first moved to NYC. As a fellow marketing girl in New York, I relate so much to you and appreciate how open and honest you've been since the very beginning of your post grad career. I got laid off in 2020 and I was SO scared and unsure how of I was going to turn things around, but it ended up being the best thing for me in the end. Amazing things are coming your way soon. Best of luck with everything :)

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

oh my gosh, this is so so kind!! thank you! 🥺 i love hearing your lay-off success story! so encouraging and reassuring ♥️

@ohwelldone 2 ай бұрын

Welcome to the club lolsob! I was laid off at the beginning of the month from a digital media agency, as part of several waves of layoffs, and as someone in their 40s 🙃 I think it’s put me on the path I really want to be on, although it’s brutal regardless. I’m glad you have a good attitude about it! Enjoy the break and I’m sure you’ll figure it out.

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

ahh thank you! here's to being on the paths we want to be on!! 🌟

@jeahavvalentin980 2 ай бұрын

That word laid off alone gets me very very very very very very angry and beyond the stratosphere of my anger 😡

@bnoriginal8163 2 ай бұрын

everything you said resonates so much! excited to see where the journey takes you next!

@booksandcatss7829 2 ай бұрын

Yes to holding your own hand. I wish you the best in your new chapter. That art course sounds fun!

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

i so appreciate it! thank you 🥰

@virginiamcinnis6886 2 ай бұрын

You. Got. This! Just remember feelings are not facts and you’re doing amazing! ❤

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

you're just the sweetest!! THANK YOU 🥺

@emccirculed 2 ай бұрын

oh dear one, this is intense news. thank you for sharing with us. solidarity from the pacific nw 🌸🌲 here with you every step of the way!

@iracheLLy 2 ай бұрын

only a minute in, but this also just happened to me last month, so i very much feel you! much, much love to you.

@PixiJonesi 2 ай бұрын

This sounds so awful. I love America but when I hear stories like this I think why do the companies get it so wrong. I live in the UK and we are so fortunate to have such a different process. I'm sorry to hear what you and your colleagues went through. Hopefully you find something bigger and better out there and hopefully you're in the head space of everything happens for a reason! Onwards and upwards!

@grumpygarlic2819 2 ай бұрын

I got laid off last year and the following six months were extremely stressful, but now that I'm on the other side I can recognize that it was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I was very unhappy at my job but it was also comfortable and easy so I was not motivated to look for something different. My new job pays me less but it is so perfect for me in every other way. Some days I can't believe how the stars aligned for me and it never would have happened without those awful six months last year. You seem like a very smart and capable person and I'm sure something will work out for you. Figuring out next steps might be uncomfortable and difficult but that's how we grow. Here's to new opportunities!

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

ahh thank you so much for this comment!!! 🥺 i can absolutely relate to being unhappy but comfortable at work! hearing how you're in a much better place now is so reassuring and inspiring 🌟

@marguiWaterland 2 ай бұрын

You go Glen Coco! Such a beautiful and real chat, thank you for sharing it with us!

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

thank you so much 🥺

@Cclaudia228 2 ай бұрын

Not sure if you watch Chloe Shih, obviously a different industry, but as a fellow tech worker ive been really anxious about layoffs too. Watching her videos have given me a lot of peace, as well as listening to your very reflective approach to this whole situation. Wishing you the best of luck in your next chapter!

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

thank you so much!! i will have to check out her videos 💘

@sabrinasmnelli 2 ай бұрын

sweet friend, i’m so sorry this happened to you and that it happened this way. i have looked to you for inspiration for my entire career and i know for a fact that you are onto something bigger and better and brighter!

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

forever thankful for your support, sweet sabrina!!! thank you thank you thank you 🥺💖

@madeleinekolar4772 2 ай бұрын

Praying you are calm through all of this. Good things are in store for you. ❤️

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

so so kind, thank you for your sweet words!! xo

@prettyinpink1222 Ай бұрын

This is my first video of yours and I’m subscribing. As a fellow social girlie, I appreciate your perspective and energy!

@emmalynntholon8691 2 ай бұрын

You will be just fine. So proud of you!

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

so so kind THANK YOU!! 🥰

@erynguilmette4196 2 ай бұрын

I am so sorry this happened to you and the anxiety it caused. I will say, you are not alone in the “figuring out the next step” time of life. I am about to turn 28 and honestly have 0 idea what I’m doing haha. I actually thought about mastering in media and communications and have been questioning it A LOT! So this kinda helped me and has provided a different perspective…so thank you! And thank you for sharing because it makes me feel not alone. Sending you the best wishes and here’s to a beautiful and bright future for you and all of us who are figuring out what’s next 🤍

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

i'm so so so happy this helped you feel less alone! because you aren't alone! we're all just out here figuring it out ♥️

@rhi6010 2 ай бұрын

I had the same thing happen with my skin, started getting really severe acne at 29. When I went to the derm, I was going on and on about how embarrassing it was and how I feel like a teenager and how I was doing everything right skincare-wise. She told me that it had literally nothing to do with me, and everything to do with my age. Apparently it's super normal to get acne in your late 20s-early 30s. Solidarity! Also I loved this vid, wishing you the best moving forward 🥰

@12890av 2 ай бұрын

Yes! Once I hit 30 I started getting hormonal breakouts. We’re going through a second puberty 😭

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

oh dear!! maybe this is what's going on with me too 😩

@Anne_fka_XATM038x 2 ай бұрын

would love to see how you figure out what you want to do!! I also got laid off from copywriting and am having a bit of trouble figuring out what I should do next (and actually, I'm 31) ......... but I'm leaning towards getting an easier job so I can focus on writing fiction, which I love! But I'll probably never gain much money from that, so it's also kind of difficult to justify and kind of scary, because what if I decide (maybe when I'm getting sick of rejections for publications) that I do need a career? Anyway, whatever the job, I guess the most important thing is that you're having fun day to day and can pay your rent!

@claudiaaraujo-pd1zw 2 ай бұрын

I was working a corporate job when I went back to school to do a Masters in political sociology in my early 30s. I ended up quitting to get a PhD. I am happier now than I could have ever been if I had stayed in my meaningless job. Good things will come your way. Best of luck!

@amyfaurote1488 2 ай бұрын

Crazy. I'm in my 50's and I don't know what I'm doing. LOL. Peace 🕊️

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

haha we're all just figuring it out as we go it seems!! 💖

@BeStillandKnow0000 2 ай бұрын

I just want to show my support for your creativity here on youtube... I really enjoy the way you and your sister tell your story... it comes across very genuine, grounded and very well tuned to yourself. I think if you want to create art in this phase of your life through youtube, it will be very fruitful. Because that theme of reconstructing, and returning to yourself will forever be universal. Finding peace and relaxation within your means and your location is the art of living, right? and I see much of that content in youtube, but i think you can bring a new voice to that... with the element of Saturn Return. I know you will find your way forward to better, more aligned, and well paying jobs.

@user56gghtf 2 ай бұрын

I understand what you are saying about the robot email. But it's really a good thing that your manager, which is sounds like you had a great relationship with, wasn't the one that had to give you the news you got laid off. Yes you know her but think of the position that would have put her in. It's an awkward meeting for most people, non sadistic people.They try to keep the meeting with neutral parties because it's just hard to do, especially if you have ties to the person.

@alenemarie1726 Ай бұрын

Hey! I’m also in my Saturn return! It just started for me and like the DAY it started my brain was like OKAY HERES WHAT WERE DOING! Good luck with everything! I have no idea what I’m doing

@KellySedinger 2 ай бұрын

Ongoing best wishes from a follower for...a while now!

@NeatNeat121 2 ай бұрын

I got laid off when I was 31, right at the start of the pandemic. Was scary but also the very best outcome for me at the time. Enjoy this time of discovery.

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

thank you so much 🥺 so happy you made it through to the other side ♥️

@ruebennomura9143 2 ай бұрын

I am sorry you got layoff I hope you find another job that can pay you well

@virginiamcinnis6886 2 ай бұрын

This was literally me as well. I saw you post Aliza Licht’s book and I truly thought I could be the next PR girlie. And same, to idolizing the social media IT girlies of our generation. For me it was Kristie Dash. 😅

@kleopatrakhleo9668 2 ай бұрын

Do you mind disclosing your salary? Remember everything happens for a reason and you're most likely supposed to be on a different path keep your head up and stay positive!

@montananative9786 2 ай бұрын

Great things are to come, my near 60 year old grandma advice is to wait for romance, you are at a vulnerable point in your life 😁

@MichelleandAline 2 ай бұрын

very wise!! haha thank you 💖

@ababab589 2 ай бұрын

I was always surprised that you didn’t get laid off last year

@MissMcFly1 2 ай бұрын

As a Swedish person I’m always shocked and horrified at the way employees aren’t protected at all when it comes to redundancies and layoffs in the US. Over here what you’ve just described is illegal. We have very strict rules and laws when it comes to how you have to communicate, negotiate and handle everything from how you announce that there are redundancies coming up, to the support you’re owed afterwards. I’m so sad you didn’t get to choose for yourself and when you left, but I’m sure better things are coming.

@danielle2661 2 ай бұрын

I'm convinced that "Girl Boss" era was terrible for a large portion of your generation. Not that being a boss that's a girl/women is bad. But it was a façade. A false promise. Hustle culture is incredibly disingenuous and I think a lot of people were sold a bill of goods that wasn't true (and now are overcorrecting with soft life/quiet quitting/extreme "self care"/I don't dream of work content). But, it sounds like you are coming out of that and have a more realistic idea of the general workforce. As others have said, do something you like and be good at your job and to your co-workers, but keep in mind that all jobs are just that...jobs. Unless you own the company (and even then there are backend things to all jobs that aren't fun), they will replace you in a heartbeat. Don't give yourself over to any job or any boss. And more importantly, find something that fulfills you outside of your job. I like my job ok, but I love my life. My job allows me to enjoy certain aspects of my life (travel, my husband and daughter, buying excessive books on kindle, writing, small home improvement projects/DIY's, gardening-that makes me sound super old). I realized a long time ago that 90% of people aren't going to have that magical career we are all fed by the media (whether you grew up wanting to be Ally McBeal-I'm a lawyer, a social media girl boss, an interior designer, working in the art world-talk about low pay, no benefits and only suitable for people with trust funds career, etc), but what you can do is find a job you don't hate (but don't have to love) and cultivate the rest of your life. Again, you don't have to LOVE LOVE LOVE GIRL BOSS your job to LOVE LOVE LOVE your life. Good luck!