I Grew Up In An Orphanage (Part 1) | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 65 | Season 3

Guests share their stories on how growing up in an orphanage impacted their lives.
Studio Guests: Khanyesa Sithole & Mbali Kumalo
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[@jabulileskosana848]

I also grew up at an orphanage . Its so good to see the world talking to us about our lives too and not only focusing on the orphanage as an institution disregarding the little helpless humans that exist in that space, when I left the orphanage at 18 I struggled to fit into the outside world, I felt the need to always pick the back seat everywhere. Thank you for this platform🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@patienceminenhlemoyo2360]

I also grew up at a Centre for girls and I can relate to this.

[@hlengiwemasondo2858]

Jabu where did u go after leaving an orphanage? How are u now and do u have relatives ?

[@rosemohapi7157]

I grew up at one as well, Kids haven and then Makeba Rehabilitation Centre for Girls. The most difficult when leaving the orphanage is adjusting to life on the outside yooh. Getting on a taxi, visiting people, going to a store, walking around so many people on a daily basis, walking to school with a group of people you don't stay with, the fear of being exposed to the outside world and the worst of it all..... Not having access to counseling when you need it. I still get anxiety and always want someone to accompany me everywhere I go to date and I left the orphanage in 2019.

[@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz]

Mbali’s teacher is the kind of adult we should aim to be. Always try be aware what’s happening with kids around you even when they aren’t yours

[@TJ-my9nh]

When Unpacked is back it's a sign that life is back to normal 😁

[@relebogilemabotja215]

❤️🤗

[@yonelaaluncedo7041]

True that we get to have knowledge everyday thanks to sesi Relebogile ❤️

[@ebonytriumph3816]

GIVING A VOICE TO THE VOICELESS😍. Telling stories we need to understand.

[@phumelelazuma4704]

Till this day I’ll never understand why most families always chooses to support the perpetrators of rape! How can you say a 6year old is lying? Someone who does not even understand what is actually happening. Not to mention there’s proof Hhayi shame this thing buffles me to the core. And it always women! We can do Better as women and as families.. People really grow up in so much unfortunate situations, praying for healing, forgiveness and peace that surpasses all understanding. May God almighty cover everyone going through or went through unfortunate situation. May Grace be upon everyone who needs it right now. God is Able 🙏🏾❤️.

[@kgabomolele3346]

Watch Cynthia Gs channel she gets into the black male pathology and how the set of black women worship black males even at the expense of a victims grievance. Some women just worship men it's very weird

[@phamzalee5025]

I'm really disgusted by Mbali's family, did they really believe a 6 year old will lie about such thing? I really hope karma deals with them accordingly, they failed her as a family. I don't get why they keep on fetching her while they fail to protect her. The fact that her grandmother was going to work the following day it's not an excuse why she didn't attend to her, she' s really a disgrace.

[@tebooho8582]

I just felt like they were in this too. Why constantly fetch a child after abuse when they know very well during the day they are not around.

[@phamzalee5025]

@@tebooho8582 I feel they were also their source of their income.

[@timbawangu3038]

I feel your emotions here and I felt the same way. Such a disappointment of a family

[@nomsantsoane3984]

They did fail her 💔

[@cbosjourney4733]

I couldn’t find words, I feel like yours described exactly how I feel n think…I am disgusted

[@hun1811]

💔💔💔💔 All we do is think about money and forget how blessed we are with family and in life in general

[@pointa2b388]

Things we take for granted, parents being there and giving you attention, parents attending your functions

[@Miss-kl6jl]

And those with sweet parents never understand us...no way one could come up to just say something without facts...

[@mrs_mentalhealthsa]

2min into Unpacked and I need therapy 😭😭

[@mafokopetrusmokwena126]

Some families how do you not believe a 6 year old? Bailing the uncle out??? Some teachers are really angels!

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Truly!

[@pontshomkhize8599]

From now on when i go to price giving will shout for every child as i wont know who is with the parets or not, i know it will put a smile on one of the kids.

[@phoenixtehrani7848]

That's so beautiful! 🥰🥰 I was also.that child who's parent's were never there for prize giving. 😔 My father didn't care at all + my mother usually said she was working. I relate to how lonely and painful it was. I dreaded it so much. 😥

[@tshiamomahape292]

@@phoenixtehrani7848 my life As well my parents where both teachers I would hear them looking forward and talking about their top achieving students but never had the same energy for my academic victories

[@thandolwethu_SibuM]

"This was supposed to be a family issue we were going to resolve this as a family", I just wish our families could stop cause they can't even take one step towards protecting you, they just protect the perpetrators.

[@kunoongavirue]

Very true 😭😭

[@Carmen-wp1ut]

Yes. Those family meetings seem to be more about maintaining silence.

[@paulzuma8125]

I am really sorry you both experienced this. I didn't grow up with my parents but my grandmother made life feel like I had everything. I love you both. God bless

[@xolanimhlanga7963]

So so sad our society protects monsters.lf you child tells you that she was sexually assaulted please parents let's believe them at once ,without any doubt.This young lady was let down by the state as well as the people who were her guardians and were supposed to protect her.l hope she has healed from this childhood trauma

[@tendaimashingaidze7823]

I am privileged to be working at a children's home❤️🇿🇼

[@NomD05MZ]

It is really difficult to be an orphan, why do we always not believe a girl child?

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

Rape wasn't prevalent in 2002?😳😔Maybe it wasn't publicized but it was happening. Rape has always been around. I don't understand what people see in children.

[@irenemuthoni9862]

Yes I agree ....I think this people who rape children are just psychological disturbed ...when Mbali was narrating her first rape ordeal I was so heartbroken could feel the pain in her voice😢

[@missbstuurman]

Pedophiles

[@sibusisonhlapo7720]

I am here for my sister uMbali 🙏🏽 You ladies are both amazing.

[@LethoHali]

Uncle says you ruined his life!!!???? Oh my days! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺💔. I can only imagine the uproar in the family with you doing this interview! Oh goodness so sorry you had/have such a heartless family! That’s dreadful! 😭

[@tebooho8582]

Personally I think she shouldn't be even be speaking to them 💔

[@LethoHali]

@@tebooho8582 right? They’re toxic! So so painful what they did to her! 💔💔💔. He definitely doesn’t deserve her time of day! He’s evil.

[@NomD05MZ]

The granny protected her son at the expense of a 6 year old 💔😭 inimba inamamenemene stru

[@lesam965]

I went to highschool with Khanyesa. I have heard parts of this story before. But now I am hearing it as a mother. I can't imagine my life without my daughter and I can't help but feel this deep sadness for your mom and what she went through as well. Anyway, I am so proud of you. Keep flying high butterfly❤

[@peggykayumba8882]

I grew up with Khanyesa at children home along with my siblings . I’m currently living in NYC , she was way younger then me when I left her for NYC

[@mphohappiness1736]

I never understood family members who protect rapists. Sies

[@ratanangmatjila261]

Mbali - I could not finish this story. I cried so much 💔.

[@sphelelemfihlo451]

This show heals my soul 😩

[@khanyisilenadiah5072]

Relatives/Family tend to be cruel when the biological parents pass away or aren't around. Growing up in an orphanage is a blessing in disguise. I'd rather that then stay with relatives. Ba cruel kabi labo

[@thandekavalentia3142]

Mbalis story is just taking me back from where I come from. I was Raped by my uncle when I was 6 years in 1998 I told my grandmother I was promised to be kicked out in the house if I tell my mom. In 2020 September I decided to tell my mom and everyone but I was blamed and told that besikhwelana ikuphi inkinga. I never wanted him to be arrested I just wanted him to apologize but he made it worse with insult n the family supported him. I'm sorry Mbali ❤

[@servantofgod4311]

And then what happened doll?

[@thepriestess5969]

I'm so sorry Th Thandeka, I wish you healing

[@nkule2493]

Oh Thandeka I'm so sorry 🙏🏾 😕💔

[@Lebogang_Mathe]

I’m so sorry

[@hrhprincessfifymo9037]

I will never understand families that protect monsters... This is sad...

[@carolinemutua522]

At long last we unpacking 🌺

[@ksazobafit....2216]

If you want to get away with a crime in South Africa commit a crime against a woman... Even with evidence you'll get away with it it's soooo infuriating now you must live in the same house as someone who sexually assaulted you... How can a six year old lie and I know for sure it was women who told her she's lying we are the worst to each other... Always victim blaming and protecting abusers its sickening...

[@rumbiemhishi3802]

These 2 ladies looked so much like twins

[@mrsm147]

We are back:) let's unpack

[@nkonjanembenenge1642]

My mornings are made 😊😊 I watch every episode before I start my day at work.

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Great!

[@patienceminenhlemoyo2360]

OMG I can relate to Khanyisa about not being able to stay in one place for long. I’m always looking to move.

[@ronellecandice1536]

I'm so sorry hun, love and kisses to you❤️

[@Melony30]

Me too sis,me too. Im 28 and i dont stay in the same place for 5 years. Not moving to other houses or flats but i move from province to province. Hurts.

[@tsheposekgapa7651]

I think you cut the story of the second lady when she's trying to explain different treatment from being at home and orphanage home where she talks about "asking for a sugar if they run out of it "I really wanted to hear that part

[@mantelekhitsane8935]

Iyoh Mbali 😥u have been through it all, iyoh familes are evil sometimes

[@tshepialletta3482]

Lucky you girl someone noticed you at school for me no body noticed no body cared when my uncle raped me at 7 years till I was 10 i ran away from home to stay with relatives he died even today I've never told any one in my family because he was respective person they would say I'm lying thou life goes on I'm 35 years now

[@sindiswangcemu]

I'm so sorry you went through that ❤️

[@mmeme5861]

It's never late lady to tell your story...if they believe you or not it's not your problem

[@pointa2b388]

This is so heartbreaking

[@emmaralekwa7635]

Shook,Yoo 👺👺 I'm really petrified by their stories, no child deserves to experience that has transpired to the lives.wow as for the uncle karma will deal with him. As for her mom in prison , " I'm she was in the most comprising position for her to act they she did, feel sorry for her".

[@palesa1]

Yes finally unpacking. Complements of the new year 🥰😍

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Compliments!

[@LethoHali]

Yaaay we back baby!!!! 🎊🎉🎈

[@simphiwemabuza3229]

Family 💔💔💔💔 how can a 6 year old want attention, how does a child lie... Ohh I am so hurt 😭 I am so sorry Mbali 😔

[@rosemohapi7157]

I relate soo much with Mbali, the clothes and food were the it thing for me as well when I arrived on my first orphanage 😂😂and the shower with warm water😂😂😂.

[@mafusicele8560]

Compliments of new year my unpacked Family♥️💜❤️

[@sebabatsomonareng7828]

Happy new year Mafusi ❤

[@relebogilemabotja215]

❤️🥳

[@lushamavuso3061]

Ncono seyibuyile besesiyitayele....iyasakha iyasifundzisa isidvudvute

[@moe_ramz]

Khanyisa’s mother though. Why do people have kids when they can’t give them a good quality of life. 😢😭 As parents we need to do better.

[@ThePrincess-vb8ql]

Eish people should learn to explain things to kids its so sad to figure out on your own, imagine getting to know that yo mum murdered yo Dad on yo own, too hard to process.I remember i got to know about my mum's death when i saw her death certificate,im now 35 up to now no one has explained what happened to her,events leading to her death.I think this is more prominent in black communities,no explanation.

[@neosjournal_]

The justice system and family failed Mbali💔

[@maphefocaroline9616]

DEEPLY HURT... IT IS HARD OUT THERE, IT IS SOO DISTURBING 🙏🙏... MY GOD😥,

[@TM-ys1kc]

Yaay, finally! We're unpacking..

[@relebogilemabotja215]

🥳

[@josephineratlhaga9075]

Good to have you back si Trlebogile

[@kangwamulenga9]

Happy New Year.. Missed the installments. Glad it's finally back

[@sipheleledlamini5744]

Finally,we are unpacking!

[@tshidikunupi8904]

Welcome back Rele, compliments of the new season to you and your team.. 🍾🥂😍

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Likewise!

[@khahlisotogo2817]

My fav show is back 😍 #unpacked

[@infinity8371]

Yoh 😩 ea people got through a lot .

[@tumisangralekoa6620]

Realised that something is missing on today's to do list 😊🙈 let me lend an ear .

[@kunoongavirue]

Finally 🤗🤗 I’ve been waiting for this

[@joymaphanga1786]

We like and comment as soon as the show starts ❤️👑🔥

[@mantwamadiba4715]

Wow, thank you for sharing your stories beautiful ladies. Lebo, keep doing the things that make the pots! I love your work♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@naomimotshwari7778]

We are back in 2022 ✌✌Lebo is back. Lets Unpacked.

[@shalomthembydonga1748]

Failing is usually blessing in disguise... it happened to me too,I failed grade 11 and it was a turning point for me too Never saw a psychologist but I've been praying my way out Trust me things are much better now

[@amiirahussein9635]

Yes we're back to unpack💃

[@thandom9411]

Yay!!!! Welcome back 🥰😍

[@nomvulairene4177]

❤️❤️❤️my lovely family dumelang

[@nonhlanhlandabeni3827]

Been waiting for you guys🥰🥰

[@zenithqgalaqa8641]

Welcome back mama love an light for the ladies 🤍

[@gwenzozodlams2307]

Wow Starting the season with another eye opener episode ,it's tough out there,my goodness..

[@ribamamokgethi6982]

We r back let's unpack ❤❤

[@hoppykubs1368]

Welcome back☺️

[@lehlohonololucky1770]

I love this show, Ausi waka mosebetsi o motle. U healing us through other peoples stories

[@herfamiller139]

Happy New Year si si i REALLY missed you!!! 2022 here we go....🌺🌺🌺🌺🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@candyoabile5661]

Welcome back Relebogile.❤️

[@iamkay5795]

Compliments fam💕

[@mahlatsemasha2308]

Happy New Year🎉 finally 💃

[@tshepisodipholo-tlhareseng5317]

Yooohhh, ebe ra boa 😍. Let's do this...

[@nkelemokami4115]

Welcome back

[@reflioekheswa6314]

Happy new year 🎉 ✨ 💛

[@lifewithlethu]

We back! Let's unpack.

[@NomD05MZ]

Karma will deal with him stru

[@zanelenkosi9456]

can we please have part 2 uploaded

[@thandolwethu_SibuM]

Finally 🎉🎉

[@phumelelazuma4704]

Relebogile is beautiful 😍

[@magugayonela8978]

It's been a while heyy . Hello to everyone.

[@pulengkomako790]

Poor.. beautiful... girls suffered... it's so painfully... really.....

[@mafokopetrusmokwena126]

I didn't know we were unpacking today. Tomorrow definitely 5pm SABC 3. Otherwise let's unpack!

[@lisebomarykotelo77]

Im so sure I saw part 2 before watching this one. Was it removed ?

[@lutendoprudance3505]

Compliments ❤️

[@yvonne1472]

Yeiiiiy you are back💕

[@tabisamlata]

Some families are hell💔💔💔💔

[@masiyamothwanga]

You know internalized misogyny is real when women worship the grounds men walk on even at the expense of women who become victims at the hands of men. We really need to do better, this is disgusting. Love and light to the two beauties ♥️

[@annwanjiku5923]

Hi beautiful galz,much ♥️♥️❤️💖 from 🇰🇪

[@sizakelediya3872]

Sad stories

[@nontsikelelonoruwanahealth8035]

Why I'm crying .I'm such a cry bby

[@sunshinemotanyane6359]

You are a human. IT'S ok to have emotions

[@mandyvamagumbo3446]

When will be Part 2 posted on KZbin

[@mafokopetrusmokwena126]

Tomorrow same time!

[@simonevanderhaar7371]

There is nothing been waiting for part two

[@mafokopetrusmokwena126]

It's now up!

[@simamkelelengisi7104]

💔💔

[@godsbabeborn-again5945]

😭 There's a special place in hell for child molesters. All crimes are bad but this is the 1 I can't wrap my head around. I just can't.

[@kunoongavirue]

Am I the only one struggling to open part 2

[@mafokopetrusmokwena126]

It will be posted today,it's not out yet.

[@kunoongavirue]

@@mafokopetrusmokwena126 thank you 🙏🏼

[@NomD05MZ]

💔💔💔😭😭😭😭

[@yolimatwa6647]

This is very bad. So sad 😞

[@mashayanontokozo2424]

How old was the uncle?

[@ntombenhlezimba8308]

Family will always fail you & side with a perpetrator.. so sickening

[@nonkululekopreciousmncwabe2821]

Yoh💔