I Was A Victim Of Revenge Porn | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 50 | Season 3

[@NomvulaMosia]

Every woman in South Africa needs this channel. Every episode has impacted my life. Relebohile Mabotja is brilliant when asking questions. Keep up the good work

[@thoesibanda7769]

Not only in South Africa love,all over the world

[@nonhlanhlamaribe7050]

I agree 👍 with u Nomvula

[@Pheliwe-hx6mj]

true

[@sihlekhumalo9735]

So true ❤

[@theCushiteGirl]

Listening from Kenya.

[@yenthuserepe8059]

This girl is so eloquent. I enjoyed listening to her.

[@TM-ys1kc]

Yeah, she's well spoken.

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Right!!!She is 😍

[@malebo]

Finally, someone mentions this. Heleek... she's so awesome.. 🔥🔥🔥

[@TheHelzaz]

She's beautiful too

[@MS-yu5cl]

True..As soon as she started talking, I was wowed! Very articulate. 🥰

[@MegaEsque]

We need to start naming and shaming these men. This thing of ‘protecting privacy’ makes us complicit to the experiences of future victims.

[@KanyaSicam]

100% Agree.

[@siraakasimsbradakhi3803]

Naming and shaming helps with, just being curious.

[@MegaEsque]

@@siraakasimsbradakhi3803 identifying these terrorists so women are aware what they are getting themselves into and thé calibre of man they’re dealing with. It seems prison is not enough of a reason for these men to think twice. Bringing shame to them and their reputation by exposing how cancerous they are might make them think before they act. We need to normalise reading and believing the reviews about these men. They don’t consider the impact of their transgressions on you, your health and your reputation; keep that same energy. If they do it, they should be exposed and we should collectively distance ourselves

[@siraakasimsbradakhi3803]

@@MegaEsque Thanks for elaborating. I agree with you.

[@br0kee370]

It's so pain full, even when they r infected with HIV they will revenge on innocent women seeking for love.

[@brianbayer4868]

I have much respect for this young lady, she's on twitter supporting and uplifting young men who are being abused by women, and here she is a survivor of abuse ,by a man .

[@KhumbulaniMnomiya-os6gr]

Yaaah, lm listening to this lady who opened her heart ♥ hoping that she was loved but only to find out that she was fooled by a horrible person who doesn't even care about somebody except his personal vendator

[@redibonemohlamonyane6239]

Whats her handle please ❤‍🩹

[@mariojoao9950]

Thanks!

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Relebogile your interviewing skills?Sis uhamba wedwa shame I don't know how else to stress this👌🙌😍😍😍

[@ncumisanomazele887]

She's so well spoken, I'm glad she made out of those relationships ❤️🙏 Congratulations to the channel on 100K subscribers🎊🎉💐

[@thembiradebe2826]

Ladies beware of the thin line between unconditional love and having someone obsess over you. Love and light to you Charlie ❤️🤗

[@serahchava8469]

She looks the part

[@thembiradebe2826]

@@serahchava8469 what do you mean by that?

[@nonhlanhlamaribe7050]

Exactly Thembi😘😢

[@nonhlanhlamaribe7050]

while I was listening to Charlie ❤️ was crying

[@theCushiteGirl]

How I understand it is watch out for obsession. It masquerades as unconditional love. Puppy love to be precise. The line is thin, unfortunately.

[@cmthoughts4803]

I’v also dealt with 2 narcissist in my life, the worst 😢. Twisting everything against you is their speciality, they will hurt you the most then go out make you look crazy and make sure everyone hates you or look down on you.

[@sasam2457]

Relebogile you don't know how much change you are bringing into my life by bringing these different life stories, I'm gaining strength everyday because I now know there are people who are going through the worst way more than me and are making it in life...big ups to you sis we love you😍

[@nonhlanhlamaribe7050]

❤️❤️✊

[@Rochelle642]

I love this show, it's so real and detailed. Relebogile deals with each guest so gracefully, it really makes a difference in the atmosphere of the show, uplifting the person and making them feel comfortable.

[@thabim9941]

This lady is well spoken 👌

[@LumkaJwara]

I remember that 80k tweet trending.. glad to now get the context. This was such an eye opening story. Wishing you so much healing

[@lifeabroadwithnoxy]

Is this the 80k lobola story ?

[@ThePrincess-vb8ql]

Such a strong woman, sending love all the way from Zimbabwe.Been abused before i know how it feels like ,a big hug and more love to u cc.Be proud of your scars infant give them names ,i call mine stars of victory.Sad part im a Gender based violence nurse but i went through gross abuse.Imagine helping someone when you are going through worse.To all the survivors of abuse you are not alone,speak out and together we can end this.Women lets stop judging each because most women stay in abusive relationship because of this"abantu bazathini" .

[@bellatalkssa405]

Abusers are so manipulative you'd find yourself doing things that you never thought you'd do or that you know how to normally say no to, I believe her when she says she had NEVER sent such pictures to any other guy. This guy is such a bad person, ladies, the minute he complains about you talking to your family, run very fast. My child's father taught me that very well. He used to beat me up for talking to my cousins and sister, I had dreadlocks like this lady, he used to pull me by my hair as though trying to lift me up with my hair. He was the first and I promised myself that the last man ever to do that to me

[@michellemartin2330]

She seems like such a good hearted person! 🥰

[@tariepetty7684]

This is so sad. I am so sorry for her she has been through too much. Hugs to you

[@jennykit2917]

Yikes. This must have been so traumatic. You deserved so much better than this. I'm sorry this happened to you. What a strong beautiful woman 💜

[@glenlin1]

She has a goodness and light about her! I love her and I am so happy she seems like she has healed and she’s helping other people. Bless her 💙🥰

[@mapatlarijaqueline1314]

Relebogile hi, i truly thank you for this show. im learning a lot. I would love to see Thembi Nyathi from Dloz'lami on the show please. I think unpacking her story as a medium, if im to put it that way, would provide a platform for me and all the other people who loves and follows her to better understand what she really is,. and how did it become about and how does it all feel to be like that and assist people who seek spiritual assistance, closure and to some point, allignment as well. Because she once mentioned that shes not a Sangoma, not a Prophet and not Psychic...so what exactly is she. Lets unpack Thembi Nyathi.

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

In English terms she is a Medium. They connect with those who have passed on. They can convey messages from those who have passed on and give instructions from beyond the grave. Their job is to give closure and clarity not to predict what's coming.

[@masase19]

@@keepitfrankwithfentse oh I understand thanks

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

@@masase19 No worries. I have a medium in my family so she explained it after she started her journey.

[@Ilubalyachalo]

@@keepitfrankwithfentse wow! Is your family member offers consultations?

[@kaygeechipana9614]

Omw this shows how much twisted ppl can be ... this are things we need to teach our kids to be aware of ... My lady be healed from the pain u went thru ... it's not easy but the Lord heals.🙏🙏

[@relebogilemabotja215]

🙏🏾

[@busisiwengwenya2347]

I am actually getting answers to questions I had about a certain guy. Without a doubt he was a serial killer. Thank you God for saving me and all the other women around SA and the whole world. Thank you Relebogile

[@kadlaminisinethemba9399]

What did he do? Maybe you should also go to the show and warm us. Glad you okay.

[@br0kee370]

Serial killer and cheaters... Infecting woman with HIV for revenge. Seek world we live in...

[@joycem9934]

I'm so happy she found the strength to start her organization and speak about her experiences. There are many victims out there who probably don't even know they are victims

[@majoyana31]

Shu‼️All I can say she very clearly spoken 🙌🏾Enjoyed listening to her and I admire her strength 👏🏾May God carry her higher and higher she’s deserves a break 🙏🏾

[@poshy3045]

So eloquent and very confident koodoos to her for her courage. We need people like her who have guts to walk from a bad relationship.

[@shelleychristie1929]

Relebogile love you love your program listen to you every night coming from work in Canada 🇨🇦 keep up the good work. I told my friend about you the best interviewer Oprah have nothing on you. 🇯🇲

[@TheSARAFINA2000]

not in the league with Oprah , yettttt, but doing a good job

[@shelleychristie1929]

@@TheSARAFINA2000 in my eyes she is.

[@nosip9950]

@@shelleychristie1929 in my eyes she is too.

[@nomvuyisomfeya3211]

Bullying should be taken as a serious crime,SA police please don't let us down when we report these crimes 🙏

[@talliaramjee8969]

I think bullying makes her story sound light this is more than bullying

[@dinnydee9198]

SERIOUSLY... THIS IS TOO MUCH... The police must intervene on this kind of attacks... yoh.. its too much

[@phumuzilendimande5982]

I wish we could all understand that real life is slow. If u get into a relationship and it goes from 0 to 100 too soon. Slow it down! If the brakes rnt working abandon the mission and run.

[@TheSARAFINA2000]

She falls too fast, slow down and get to know the person

[@Anaana-jl5kg]

True, good advise.

[@thatochabeli4303]

No one deserves this. Thank you for sharing your story

[@lifewithlethu]

You’ve been through the most! You are so strong and I pray you find healing ❤️

[@sibonginkosinyathi7580]

The tragedy of life is not death but what we let die inside of us while we live💔💔

[@lindimasia6350]

I love her and I'm grateful for her because literally she is saving lives.

[@katleho_m7231]

I wish to could give you a long hug ❤❤you have been through so much pain may Jehovah give you all the strength you cod possibly get I'm so sorry babe this just broke me 😭😭😭😭

[@mapontshontshole8118]

He probably wanted to kill her so that he claims from a life cover, also explains the rushed marriage. Ladies please be cautious going into relationships, being single isnt shameful.

[@doremi131]

@Mapontsho Ntshole I would like to know what happened to the Mother of this guy's 2 kids?

[@nematahenibridget4100]

@@doremi131 same, he might have killed them.

[@refiloelesia1296]

Things that are happening behind closed doors in mzansi will shock u for life😢😢😢

[@LeratangMohapeloa-up1wl]

For the first time I understand why I am always crying over my mom and dad's death. The void. Nothing fills these gap. No one will ever love you like your parents. I miss them everyday. I have been indoors since last week because my mom died on the 3rd December and she was 48. I am 48 now and am scared. You know what I mean. I watched you today for the first time and I think God is giving me answers. You girls are amazing. I feel better. I am not alone. It means so much to me.

[@lebohangtsiame1768]

This Lady was my Charlie back in high school we were best of friends and I know most of the stories She is speaking of here only not familiar with her life now that we are adults but I am extremely proud of her She is strong n has always been. Truly sorry for all the abuse you have gone through...You deserve to live a happy life...I pray for your healing Charlie in Jesus name and continue to teach the world about your experience. Thank you for the warning...this is eye opening and it can happen to anyone 🙏

[@aneki602]

Since discovering this page am addicted . Love from Jamaica

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you for the love and support!

[@Abedi1001]

Unfortunate things happen to innocent ones like this lady. Too bad. The girl is so eloquent and confident.

[@koketsomathothora]

Almost at 100k😭❤️❤️so happy for this channel

[@belindasetloboko5623]

I really enjoyed these podcasts. Please bring them back. They are very informative and educational.

[@lesegolegoale2522]

What a strong woman who has been through so much. Very informative. Thank you

[@queenflippy]

The movie of the woman keeping her daughter paralysed, is called Run.

[@lizzasethosa2167]

Keep up the good work Relebogile, we learning a lot from your channel, and I think every women out there should start watching

[@olerilemathanyela7791]

so vocal and its great that she was strong enough to share her story. Love her for this and grateful for UNPACKED WITH RELEBOGILE.

[@lolo_z]

I watch enough ID channel to have a thought that he was poisoning and drugged her the minute she said she just became sickly after being with him, and how she mostly didn't remember what happened the night before. I have seen so many cases like this on 171. There was a case where a wife found tapes of herself that were taken by her husband, and she didn't know they existed. There's so much evil going on in this world

[@gamerboy7015]

I had the same thought as well and I'm also obsessed with crime stories on 171

[@nduh2232]

Same and I also saw that episode on 171

[@olgamogotsi283]

I'm so addicted to 171 you can learn alot of things as a woman to protect yourself

[@Avijokaspa6]

Relebogile... Am so happy I found this channel! Your stories inspire, educate, enlighten and empower me! Thank you, Gumbi for bravely sharing your story!

[@katlegomogapi]

The evil prevailing in this world...😠 I am so sorry for what these men did to you.😢 Big ups to you though, you are stronger for all you have been through.

[@nonoechibs2775]

Narcissists do exists in this world ,thank yu Charlie for sharing such an insightful story may God bless you for reaching out to help others ,yu did not deserve all this.Yu hv been thru the most what doesn't kill you makes yu strong

[@LindaTinahTV]

This is so damn crazy. I'm so sorry she had to go through all this from such an early age. I hope she receives light in her life moving forward. She's such a firm beautiful woman.

[@nomsantsoane3984]

I feel sorry for her i feel like she attracts the same guy over and over. She needs a little time off for herself and be alone . no mjolo

[@katleho_m7231]

I keep telling this friend of mine to just take time and work on herself hle she attracts men who are after sex it's hectic

[@beingmzansi2419]

O she needs cleansing, rape can sometimes be a spiritual attack that can breed demons in ones body

[@nomsantsoane3984]

@@beingmzansi2419 aii she needs introspection and God only she will be fine. There's no demon

[@khululiwekhuzwayo1436]

@@beingmzansi2419 it almost feels like umkhokha when something happens 2 u and it keeps happening... Tjo she has been through a lot shem

[@eyecandymetirua5238]

Bruh I'd understand this well and all, but the thing is she said before she got with the second guy she was single for five years

[@ellabeck2804]

Thank you for warning us and what to look out for.You are selfless I truly appreciate you .

[@faridabahmed41]

She's so well spoken 😊

[@siwongiwemata]

Shucks! Mm. I am so very sorry for this, Charlie. I wish you healing and softness in every way today and always. Yhini Bawo ayisekho buhlungu lento 💔

[@christobelthipe6957]

In UK it is a crime punishable by going to prison. I.e posting inappropriate pictures of someone

[@neilweimelda1287]

In South Africa it is a crime now but sadly for a long time it wasn't. Sad that it took this long 💔

[@sleemiya4249]

We really appreciate these topics that people are not even aware that are happening in our communities. Relebogile, keep doing the great work that you are doing. Thank you so much

[@vuyiswamkhwanazi9503]

We need to keep in mind she did nothing wrong. Many people send such pictures to others and never suffer this. If someone wants to victimize you, they'll plan everything to the T and follow through with their plan in one way or another. But yea. She was rather unfortunate coming across someone so gross, disgusting and violent....obviously I'm talking about the first boyfriend. The fiancé is a whole other (although related) issue.

[@magugayonela8978]

Heartbreaking 💔💔💔 wooow what a narcissist 😢😭 it must be a corvet or malignant narcissist... you were the scapegoat cc nd him sending pictures to yr sis he wanted them to be enablers. Narcissist are increasing in nowadays or rather exposed. Ooh God separate us from narcissist more especially us who are empaths.

[@lovelinendi6808]

Challie am so sorry about everything that happened to you, I felt so bad listening to everything u said. May God continue to strengthen you

[@nomvulairene4177]

Much love dear, I love de way u share ur story ♥️♥️

[@nolom7069]

The condition she's talking about is Munchausen's. The most extreme case I've heard of is Dee Dee and Gypsy Rose Blanchard, there's documentaries about it and a show on Hulu.

[@theoniqeandrew7420]

I like this young lady... her energy. And she has alot of confidence...

[@dufieyaa8319]

SO many lessons from this episode..wow!

[@lolaazeezable]

Wow This woman is so so strong. Send love from 🇳🇬

[@vusimanyika4762]

The Justice system needs to pull its socks up, we need separate courts to quickly deal and prosecute on such matters, our sisters and women really go through a lot.

[@tabittahmoshitwa3461]

Yoh gal ... This may seem like a very isolated case, as women we are violated all the time. Sometimes we laugh about comments on our bodies ,especially in male -dominated work Places & you're called names ...only because you breathe ...I may have not had my pictures go public,but I feel you gal..You are strong

[@refiloelesia1296]

Yoooo this vdo is emotional...true love has long died a long time ago.....much respect for you sweetheart

[@wanjirukuria593]

Every episode is always informative. The learning is unmatched! Just to ask, can she do toxicology test. She use her urine instead….

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

Toxicology is only effective within a specific amount of hours. Once that window passes its hard for anything to be detected in the body. I have worked in criminology before and its a slippery slope. This is why victims are encouraged to go straight to a hospital once the incident has happened.

[@tebogomodiba1994]

Tjoh, her story about the second guy sounds like those Lifetime movies. Mmawee 🙆‍♀I am glad that she survived and to think the guy was friends with her sister for 10 years. m m m

[@nelisiwemazibuko-t7v]

I admire this beautiful young lady's courage and bravery to speak up about her ordeal.I wish her all the best in her future,lots of love ❤❤😘

[@hlengiwemwelase5239]

Very informative my sister, even if it doesn't happen to me my daughter needs to hear this...thank you.

[@Lalie-M]

The best show ever. So informative

[@thelmamatshili2655]

This is so scarry, to think I know the guy looking and talking to him wouldn't think he is capable of such😭😭 it's not safe out here ❤️I'm so glad you got out safe

[@thembisaodendaal]

Very strong beautiful girl..thank you for sharing your story

[@malebo]

I love guests like this one,they make Relebogile's work so easy... I'm so glad when Rele laughed when she says she's very much of a Tomboy...damn.

[@fulufhelanitshivhasa216]

I felt the need to comment , this story is a lot deeper than what was touched on . I’m really glad she opened up about this . She really opened my eyes and now I know I shouldn’t trust anyone

[@violettohlang164]

Thank you for sharing with us this story. It really empowered me in a way. And again im really sorry for what you actually went through

[@tholakeleshava239]

thank you charllie for opening up about this i can also say am proud of myself for also leaving a potential serial killer

[@abigailcona7352]

Damn!!!! cases like these need to be attended by long distant cousins, uncles, aunts to teach them a lesson.... then go open a case

[@thandekamasango3095]

Sending love and healing...❤

[@rebeccatlolane9578]

I m so sorry my angel ,may the good lord heal your pain

[@dinnydee9198]

And Charlie is soooooo beautiful... Oh God!!!! people are cruel out there....☹☹☹☹

[@noxiek]

Lets unpack.....very informative show.

[@dianahmmotla3358]

My Gosh..I can totally relate to your experience, to a point where I was framed and got arrested. He said I'm better off in jail then I can't date anyone and that if he can't have me no one will. 😩 horrible experience.

[@fezekamabaso4805]

Dianna!!! Oh no! Sorry sisi

[@bridgettemakgareetsa6269]

I feel like I'm watching Evil Lives Here episode(Investigation discovery) 🤔🤔🤔🤔

[@florencekatongo1588]

Me too

[@magugayonela8978]

Interviewee: says something shocking Relebogile: wooow ooh wooow

[@gontlafetsembeha2848]

Charlie sorry tlhemma tota o raletse May God heal you. Total physical and mental healing. Rele. Thank you. You make interviewing seem so easy. Am learning a lot from you for my own show.

[@seithatintumelangsetswanap2639]

Yoh my dear you have been through a lot. But I am glad they are all passed and I pray that you be well and never attract psychos again in the future

[@ratiwabammekwa4219]

This is a very strong woman, eye opening topic indeed, thank you. Stay strong

[@botakihlalele8467]

Change your scars into your stars my lady. You are beautiful, you are strong and a beam of light to women and men alike. Keep on keeping my dear

[@rodineanthony7833]

thanks for this as man has been getting away with this for too long , I was a victim of this revenge porn and unfortunately at the time there was nothing I could. I wish there was a list for these kind of Physco 's , were we can name and expose these people , just as a warning for the next person , and maybe for some of us not to fall in the same trap ......

[@christinaqgibelomotau1577]

Thanks for opening our eyes 😢

[@4-give-nest176]

You need God my sister. Youve gone through too much to heal worhout Him. Hes the only true comforter. May God take you into His arns and hold you tight.💓

[@ayabulelanochiliza1965]

SAPS and SA law is very useless. I know a woman who had similar experience two months ago and she didn't get any help at SAPS

[@poppyful4377]

I feel sorry for that man's kids. Wonder what he does to them behind closed doors. He's weird.

[@luciamnuna4394]

Wooooow God is great bcs U are too strong and what I luv about U ,U don't keep inside U also warn others ,Be proud of yourself gal uyimbokodo nyan( qina gal qina ) but what make me sad those guys were not arrested.

[@simphiwesibande07]

But the justice system is really failing us as Women! Even today they still don't arrest the guys who does such things! I have a best friend of mine who went through all this nd the perpetrator was never arrested, we were told to do protection order against him nd the judge said the guy must not come near my friend yet the reason we did protection order is because he was creating fake account using my friends personal details nd says she sells her body, put her pics on social media and her numbers! We opened protection order against him last year August but this whole doesn't stop, its still happening till today! Last the police said to us there's no case the only time there will be a case is when he kills her nd then they can charge him of murder! The system is really failing women

[@FirstLadyG]

Brave girl. God will help youhelp others. Ladies this why we should ask God 5o help obstain. This means no sex before marriage. God 24ote this to protect women. No point in giving our body to a man we are not married to. Do not sleep with a man who is not married to. Never agree to any man taking nude pictures of you. A respectable man or a man 5hat loves you or a godly man will never ask for nude or even sleep with you before marriage. My sis the enemy is at work. Always introduce any man interested in you to a good pastor. What is happening to you is the devil at work. 0lease seek prayers.

[@zainabinti5170]

Dear Lord,we need u more in this world.

[@wewemhlaba7593]

I just want to hug her😭

[@sazi7128]

Your story is like a movie 😱😱

[@sheilagotora860]

Fantastic interviewer