I grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church. Here's why I left | Megan Phelps-Roper

[@jackhadroom4540]

Giving a five year old an inflammatory sign they can't read/ understand is sickening.

[@13thmistral]

meh, i think it is quite disgusting to make people believe in a fictive figure that gifts people gifts and even worse if they make them believe that happens everywhere instead of giving it some actual symbolical meaning, but that might be just me

[@catherinestickels2591]

Luna Limi No. The child can understand that if you tell them what it says. Love is the one thing a child can definitely understand, and before they are taught one way or another is right or wrong, they have the purest human understanding that love is always good. As the Doctor said, "hate is always foolish, and love is always wise." Also there is nothing inflammatory about equality. Who is hurt by a lack of persecution?

[@MimiB1974]

It should be deemed child abuse

[@hextrixy322]

JackHad Room don’t take kids to protests. Don’t lie to them to make them a feminist or something else. Let them enjoy their childhood and let them be themselves.

[@catherinestickels2591]

Coco Brown Why? Give me a good reason that love and equality should be seen as child abuse.

[@jennazamora8488]

"How can we love our neighbor when we pray for God to destroy them?" I loved that.

[@ThePlataf]

Real Orwellian double-speak there.

[@johntrevy1]

@@ThePlataf The bible is full of double think.

[@trolly5756]

johntrevy1 no people just like to take pieces of the Bible and make it sound like that.

[@johntrevy1]

@CNN is Fake News Dont know and I dont care.

[@johntrevy1]

@CNN is Fake News *SHRUGS* I guess you didn't take that very well.

[@mary__simone]

Her grandfather was the founder of Westboro Baptist, and her mother is the face of it. The extreme courage it took Megan to leave that disgusting place is crazy. The bravery of Megan is so astounding, and her open-mindedness is beautiful. ~~~~~~ EDIT: hi reader! 2020 Me here, coming back to visit this comment that 2018 Me published. If you're about to read the replies, please heed caution, as some of them are very rude and ignorant. Some people do not realize that a person leaving all they know behind to stand up for what's right and to pursue a more loving, open, and intelligent life path, at the expense of losing all of their family, friends, and possibly causing harm to themselves if people from their past want revenge, truly is a form of bravery. 2020 Me still agrees with 2018 Me on this specific lesson--- that people CAN change, but admitting you were taught/believed wrongly, and abandoning your old life is difficult , yet doing it makes you not only brave, but also humble. Have a good day :)

[@CJM-rg5rt]

Idk if it's brave. You aren't a hero if you disagree with your parent's fucked up beliefs, that just makes you decent. Talking on a stage about anything is more brave then that.

[@CJM-rg5rt]

I'm not a misogynistic MGTOW dude, even though I am a lonley loser but why are girls always patting themselves on the back?

[@willowtree9709]

@@CJM-rg5rt She gave up almost her entire family, challenged beliefs instilled upon her from birth. Yes what she did makes her decent, but the majority of people wouldn't have done the same. She adapted beautifully and if you can't see that and how incredible it is, then I'm sorry but idk what else to say other than the fact I hope you have a lovely day :)

[@mistymountainhopper]

@@CJM-rg5rt I think it's brave to turn on everything you grew up with. I mean, I think it's brave to be a proud member of WBC because of the hostility you're going to put up with. But I think she is brave for leaving what she knew, just as those who leave a cultish upbringing are brave.

[@Lion_Hamza]

The things westboro church are spouting, makes me not wonder how she escaped this madness.

[@neojted]

"I thought my rightness justified my rudeness". So many powerful statements in this talk.

[@microfarming8583]

Anyone else see a female Trudeau here ? Stick a wig on him and you'll see it!

[@JJV77873]

👍

[@jenniferponzini2433]

I love how soft spoken and eloquent she is.

[@A-Milkdromeda-Laniakea-Hominid]

Right? Hard to imagine her screaming obscenities at funerals. This David fella is a lucky man.

[@superpayaseria]

Me too.

[@poppycrew7013]

I agree. I could listen to her speak for hours.

[@johntrevy1]

When peace and love is in your heart it naturally calms you.

[@lu9167]

Manipulative speakers need to have good voices

[@emilysoto2131]

She came to my religious school . I got to meet her and honestly she was the kindest woman ever

[@itzkati3698]

Emily Soto wow

[@isabellasoto7495]

you have a cool last name :))

[@Lexyos]

I'm Soto too haha

[@dearisabella]

Isabella Soto we have the same name!!

[@emilysoto2131]

You're entitled to your own opinion. I may not agree with you, but I respect it. Have a great day!

[@AlexBallMusic]

So, ironically, a voice of calm reason, understanding and acceptance comes from an ex-member of an infamous hate group. I can't applaud her enough. To not only accept her own mistakes, but also the flaws in the belief system of her own flesh and blood, the very people who brought her into the world, must have been incredibly hard. Like she said, we inherently view our own outlook as the "right" one and it takes massive guts to admit that it isn't - in part or in whole. Can't have anything else other than massive respect for her.

[@User-xw6kd]

Alex Ball Exactly! Everyone thinks they're on the "right" side. I have even debated/argued people on my side so I totally understand what you mean.

[@cosmonaut379]

that's not irony

[@AlexBallMusic]

A message of acceptance coming from a person from an infamous hate group - I thought that was ironic. Have I got that wrong?

[@jayejaye1543]

Irony is using a word for something other than its literal intention.

[@christinahope7511]

Alex Ball yescand especially since she was brainwashed to believe them

[@ShikataGaNai100]

When you are born into an environment of intolerance and hatred, it is very hard to muster the courage to become tolerant and love. I applaud you for your courage...and am glad you survived childhood abuse.

[@biffdorkinton555]

I hope she can reach more people. Cults are extremely insular and the members are the very last ones to realize it's a cult. Cults form naturally and even leaders are deceived. She's right, don't assume bad intent, but use critical thinking mixed with empathy and compassion. We all need it.

[@ArranitM]

Honestly, considering just how brainwashed she would have been growing up in that cult, she's shown a remarkable level of personal growth and education. I can't be mad at that, when so many people refuse to change and see people as people first. Good on her for ditching that garbage, and opening her eyes.

[@stephy1402]

Arranit Malushaj thank goodness for the internet. Poor thing would probably still be there if it wasn't for social media

[@puppylovergirl303]

Steph Y she went to a school with kids not from the westboro baptist church, a public school if I'm not mistaken (just like all of the other kids from the church/cult). She then went to college and law school - most of the members of the westboro baptist church who are adults are lawyers, too. They aren't COMPLETELY cut off from the rest of the world like most cults.

[@stephy1402]

OnceUponAPiano that doesn't mean that she still had the kind of exposure social media has given her. Local communities and schools are still very isolated compared to the exposure to the global community. Especially when your talking about 10 to 15 years ago

[@jonasvlerick7548]

I am so proud of her!

[@jonasvlerick7548]

If you see her in this interview 10 years ago it is hard not to get tears in your eyes seeing her TED talk. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJnbfolno9l4i7M she is kind of a hero

[@daizyroach5702]

“I also knew that an apology could never undo any of it” I loved that line. A lot of people need to hear that.

[@brucewayne4585]

Thing is, I feel like an apology would and does go miles towards undoing it. Saying you were wrong and asking forgiveness is one of the most Biblical things you can do.

[@laurahuynh8333]

Bruce Wayne If you want to change, you must do more than apologize. Go out and initiate change for the better. Saying sorry is a good start, but you must take action for change to take place.

[@brookielad79]

Laura Huynh you can say you’re going to change, but you’re never really going to change until till you turn it from a promise into a goal to change

[@baneofdan]

@@brucewayne4585 Saying sorry means nothing these days because the word is overused in situations it isn't needed. Actions speak louder.

[@ericking2789]

Her acknowledging that an apology can’t fix the wrongs is a great starting point in correcting her wrongs

[@MMDAMV]

Megan has achieved what so many of us long to achieve: patience. Her willingness to listen to others so entirely against what she was always taught is both extremely rare and admirable.

[@shadowilderness364]

This is one of the beste, and most inspiring TEDtalks I've watched. So much to learn, especially in these times today! What she has learned is what we all need to learn, and teach eachother. We all have opinions, we are 7 billion minds, 7 billion perspective and views of the world and life. This video made my day!

[@MMDAMV]

shadowilderness364 Couldn't have said it better myself!

[@DonnaReidPhotography]

I for one, know that I have to want patience and kindness and respect MORE than I want to lash out, be rude and hurtful to (supposedly) faceless people on social media. Even the ones that I truly think are bordering evil. She reminds me that every day *I* have a choice of how I'm going to use the 16 waking hours that I am granted. Thank you Megan for reminding me of that.

[@qoh8363]

The fact that she can say she was wrong , speaks volumes about her Courage and character

[@rayshoup5334]

As someone who is both gay and a veteran, I HATED this woman with a passion. However, hearing her here I am so proud of her and thank God that her soul seems to be saved. She has my support and my thanks.

[@ge2298]

Jelle Van Renswoude notice “hatED”. Past tense. Idiot.

[@Xd-ti5tc]

Jelle Van Renswoude your missing his point

[@jessieflores9745]

dead mum You’re*

[@michellemuskeyn329]

Gino De los Angeles I don’t get it? Why idiot?

[@Pandoctor]

Ray Shoup God tells us not to hate even the worst people but to pray for them, I’m glad you no longer hate her

[@pault9544]

Wow, her voice sounds so much different now that she’s grown out of that church. She no longer has that angry tone. Such a well-delivered speech.

[@erwanne1305]

I don't know her "old voice" but that's pretty common for people who let loose of hatred

[@pault9544]

@@erwanne1305 if you listen to her interview with Tyra Banks a long time ago you can hear it in her voice how she used to talk just like her mom in that condescending tone (maybe not “angry” per se but definitely condescending).

[@TheFaustianAlchemist]

@@pault9544 BBC

[@Cravennats]

This isn’t the same girl on the Tyra banks interview

[@paulotonedef]

She sounds exactly the same

[@filipkarwowski6510]

As a Catholic and Christian in general: If you hate someone because of your faith, you're doing it wrong.

[@sbenton62]

Well said. This is true regardless of which faith it is.

[@filipkarwowski6510]

S Benton *some* do call to hate and violence, but Christianity definitely stands out as one that calls for universal love.

[@aaaaaaaa-ji2bv]

And that’s the tea, sis

[@ginj5375]

Matthew 5;43-48, Matthew 6:24,(Sermon on the mount) Matthew 7:6, 21, Proverbs 6:16 & Rev.18:4

[@meganneedham5272]

THIS💛💛💛💛

[@JanieBee]

Damn. Look what just 4 years of acceptance and empathy can do for a person

[@martinkent333]

WOW, LESS POO!

[@tahlese9098]

It's really sad that people are giving her hate. It's not really her fault at all that she was made to protest and hold those awful signs. From the moment she was born, she was "brainwashed" into thinking those things. I'm happy she has realized that and has started over.

[@myHEXOR]

If you believe, you are at fault. You can excuse kids that need to trust their parents for being brainwashed. You can't do that to an adult that can even read, speak and write. She failed to think for herself, she was at fault.

[@tahlese9098]

myHEXOR your entire sentence made 0 sense...

[@tahlese9098]

myHEXOR she was extremely sheltered, she didn't know anything else.

[@amylivingston4590]

That's just the point - she had to be taught how to think for herself.

[@drachenfriedhof]

everyone is "brainwashed" by the surroundings. it's called education

[@ilichups2728]

She’s so genuine. You can truly feel she’s truly sorry. She gets it. God is love. Her voice is so soothing!!!!

[@impIicit]

Ili Chups her voice really is quite soothing.

[@eej1983able]

Amen

[@raenewnham7490]

She should go into reading for audio books, her voice is so soothing

[@DanboShine]

She recorded the audio book for her autobiography. It’s amazing both in content and her soothing voice

[@robsimpson7319]

God is not love, stone ghes, woman are property, endorse slavery etc

[@TapRackBlog]

I’m a veteran. I saw you hold a sign that said “thank god for dead soldiers” and “thank god for IEDs”. I can’t explain how I felt when your church walked on the flag that my friends had on their coffins. Thank you for saying this. I forgive you. I will try to be more compassionate to people, like you, who are brought up in bad situations and show them love and respect.

[@catherine9808]

Tap Rack Blog that’s so beautiful to read

[@catherine9808]

Edit obviously not the awful experiences you described . The forgiveness that you showed is beautiful and inspiring

[@Laura.D3101]

This spoke to my heart

[@mmmgy05]

How big of u, I so need to do the same. inspiring. Thank you.

[@idk4855]

Thank you for your service god bless

[@williamkz]

This is one of the most beautiful stories of redemption I've ever heard. So wonderfully delivered. Such great insight. Thank you Megan.

[@nodnarb3540]

As a gay man, I find it amazing that I have went from absolutely hating this woman....to respecting her. I never would’ve thought I’d be proud of someone who used to disgust me. She gives me hope that good can always overcome evil.

[@magneto44]

every once in awhile humans can change for the better

[@mossthebryophyter]

It really is amazing. She really seems like a wonderful human being. I wished people would change for the better like her. She's very wise

[@lilyharvey2692]

As a pansexual person (one whom bases love on personality not on gender.) I also respect her. She had a sense some thing was wrong with her teachings. How is it so Jesus had two dad's (God and Joseph.) Or that you love thy neighbor? Believe what you want to be, but respect others opinions. People are different. Respect people of colour, LGBTQ+ and everyone else.

[@olayinkasonaike2027]

@@lilyharvey2692 . Read ur Bible. No Gay Man in HEAVEN. sayin this with love.

[@lilyharvey2692]

@@olayinkasonaike2027 i was taught in a community where sexual orientation doesn't matter. I personally don't believe in Christianity but something else. I'm sorry if I got something incorrect. My religion is different. But I respect you correction of it is.

[@2kdegree24]

4 things people did differently that made real conversation on twitter. 1.Don't assume bad intent. 2. Ask Questions 3. Stay Calm 4. Make the argument

[@mmcmann9539]

5. Show kindness and compassion.

[@stealth9237]

I am calm

[@Jim1255783]

Re: 2. How do I further the conversation when I ask questions and get literally nothing in return? Not just “nothing”, but absolute silence? Because I need to see what my Dad sees, but when I ask, I get silence.

[@amber.wellness]

@@Jim1255783 can you elaborate what you mean by "what your dad sees"? Are you talking about trying to get your dad's point of view on a discussion and he gives you the silent treatment?

[@tvtitlechampion3238]

@@Jim1255783 maybe he doesn't know what to say to his child. It's already complicated for parents to see their children as adults, perhaps even harder to put into words why you have differing world views. Good luck with that.

[@BlakeJAskew]

Extremely impressed by her willingness to admit she was wrong

[@mjnelson8655]

Blake Askew, She wasn't wrong. She was a pawn in the context. We don't get to pick are parents or how they raised us. But we do get to pick how we lead our own lives.

[@neoncloud7]

Michael Nelson that's a very good clarification that we should always consider when seeing extreme views of hatred.

[@anzeerjavec297]

but did she? i dont know that i heard her condemn bad ideas, just all talk about 'point of view' and so on. i reall wanted her to, though

[@mjnelson8655]

Anže Erjavec, There's no such thing as a bad idea. It's what you do with said idea. Truth isn't always ideal. But it's still the truth.

[@Leakampff]

Anže Erjavec I think she did definitely just not directly, She regarded them as cruel practices and hypocritical

[@biscaya08]

"Don't assume bad intent" that hit hard. That we should go in with a neutral intent and that gives our minds a better framework for dialogue. Gave me something to think about

[@Jay-O_Carlow]

me too!! I'm glad im not the only one that picked up on that Biscay... a really moving speech and shows how kind people can be...sometimes they are hard to find i.e Love etc but you 100% are one of the good ones and it is nice to meet you😊 that line hit me very hard too and the 3'rd stay calm....i nearly always am im not violent but def a man's man but im not angry person at all! id like to think im kind and caring loving and friendly ...and you seem to have a lot of tho's qualities and way more🤍🤗

[@CaspiRose99]

Me to tbh like I already subconsciously knew this but as of late for me it has been incredibly hard to stick by especially since I can sometimes be cynical

[@heathgarrick713]

Powerful. That comment affected me too

[@nodnarb3540]

I spent years hating this woman. I saw her as someone who contributed to the anti-gay rhetoric that was so prevalent when I was growing up a scared and closeted teenager. But when I found out she had left, I just couldn’t hate her anymore. Yes, she’s responsible for her own actions, but she was also a product of her upbringing. To get out of that situation and be disowned by her family....that’s something a lot of lgbt people can relate to. I’m proud of her. She owns her mistakes and acknowledges the pain she caused. You can see her genuine regret. She is a good person who was brainwashed into doing bad things. I am so happy to see she has moved on with her life, and I hope she eventually is reunited with her family.

[@Everybodycantgo6o4]

Can you see her genuine regret? Or do you think shes just making a living doing an apology tour. It could he possible that she knew from day 1 she was full of crap, and just being an opportunist now.

[@thegamingknight2096]

D G she was raised in the church, raised in a closed circle belief structure, in her formative years she wasn’t able to question her beliefs, so leaving was incredibly hard for her and she is incredibly remorseful.

[@johnrandall125]

@@Everybodycantgo6o4 No. I really doubt that. I do not believe she is making a living from an 'apology tour'. I believe she is sincere. She impresses me as being someone who has intelligence, insight and compassion and the wisdom won of hard experience.

[@djabroni_brochacho4644]

Jesus loves you, and if you give your life to Him, He can change you! Homosexuality does not define who you are, Jesus saved me from my sins and He can do the same for you. God bless.

[@nodnarb3540]

Albert De Castro well that’s good to know he “loves” me, especially considering I’m not a Christian. Why would I want to change? I’ve been with my husband 14 years. We have two children. Are you advocating I destroy my marriage for Jesus?

[@gelbot]

"The good news is that it's simple. The bad news is that it's hard." Perfect observation.

[@danhall2674]

I remember watching Louis Theroux's documentary on the westboro' church and remember him talking to this girl, and thinking "she's not going to be there forever". Good on her

[@chriswayneevans]

Yes, she def had doubts, and struggled to handle his line of questioning.

[@whatisthis1958]

Do you know where I can watch that? Is it on netflix? I need to watch some Louis Theroux for my phycology class, so I'd like to watch that one, and any others people may recommend, thanks

[@anoushkamonzonladas8462]

what is this you can watch it on bbc iplayer.

[@chriswayneevans]

what is this All his documentaries are on BBCiplayer

[@AvanToor]

He went back and made another. After Grampa's passing.

[@planetagonzo]

I’m so happy for her. Education is liberating.

[@martinkent333]

THE LITTLE FREAK IS LESS SLIMY.

[@fresco4191]

@@martinkent333 lmao!!

[@jasonh.8754]

Education is ok, it's understanding where real change happens.

[@h.e.a311]

exactly I wish all women to get more and more educated

[@510tuber]

@@h.e.a311 That's the number one thing religion despises.

[@ivonned32]

Now, this woman is what BRAVE really means. Wow.....if only a lot of people would recognize. She is a LEADER.

[@adelinagrotenhuis4884]

Indeed

[@AscendantDreams]

a leader for what? for who? i don't need a leader because i am not a sheep

[@jenniferharwood4296]

A leader in that she is not a follower but thinks critically and chooses her own path. If others follow it is up to them.

[@jenniferharwood4296]

Pity her parents don't recognise their success with two great daughters who are intelligent and think.

[@summersmith4229]

+Mia Honeyrose you want to blame others for your lifestyle. sorry but that's a choice.Try growing up without parents just to grow up and have to raise three kid's on your own. Than grandkids.. sounds like you lived a easy life.

[@IamMunkk]

Hard to imagine such a soft spoken and humble person can come from such an angry and dismissive place. Good on her.

[@AlexToussiehChannel]

I'm sure many or all of the people in that angry and dismissive place are like her but still don't know it and some die before they have a chance to find out.

[@ekkoecho390]

It's easy to imagine. Every suicide car bomber is a human being!!! That child or teenager had to be born, raised to believe it was the most special thing on this earth and died blowing it self up thinking god is great. Hitchens was right, GOD is NOT great and religion poisons EVERYTHING

[@levaxler7003]

I'm not going to get into any argument over religion or God or anything like that, only that yes, while a suicide bomber does that thinking "god is great" that does not mean religion itself is fundamentally bad. fanaticism of any kind from any source is inherently bad and will only lead to suffering. One believing, whether it's true or not, in a higher power is their choice and not yours, but using that belief to harm someone or cause suffering because you believe it's "right" is not acceptable. @Ekko Echo

[@hyperindigo4924]

+Ekko Echo The Nazis performed horrible medical procedures on captured Jews during the holocaust. By your reasoning, Medicine poisons everything 🙄 You can't fight ignorance with more ignorance. An eye for an eye, and soon we'll all be blind.

[@ninap01840]

+Amber Slahlize Yes, but how you treat other people like they do based on things like sexuality, music choices, being a veteran/soldier, etc. are all things that they have harassed and tormented others about. They might not be angry all the time, but they're unnecessarily angry where they don't need to be, specifically when it matters, like the funerals of military men and women. Their anger overrides their "kindness".

[@victoriap.3394]

i really don’t understand people who can’t forgive her. imagine being raised in that type of environment. all you’ve ever known from the moment you were born is to hate. imagine having no control over that and letting your parents shape you with their beliefs and not allowing you to form your own. the fact that she was even able to leave is astonishing to me. i know for a fact that i would not be able to muster up the strength to leave my family no matter what, but she did. and that speaks volumes about her character. “we are all a product of our upbringing and our beliefs reflect our experiences”

[@skippingalong769]

Most of the comments say that they do forgive her and respect her.

[@rsfilmdiscussionchannel4168]

I think a reason why it's easier is because we saw that Megan was not a member of the church. She clearly wasn't a part of their way of thinking, despite clearly trying to be. She was having blatant doubts and those doubts were easy to bring out and cultivate into something good.

[@madarauchihasperfectsusano5844]

They don’t forgive her because she probably made them feel like nothing and it hurts to see someone that hurt you being praised and accepted when they didn’t accept you

[@Zzyzzyzzs]

That's probably very true, but hopefully people will see that part of the essence of humanity is that people's characters can evolve, and while it doesn't excuse the things they did in the past, it means we can look forward to the future and help them undo the harm they did.

[@Labinzel]

I personally "forgive" her but I also understand why some people don't. Even then not forgiving someone doesn't mean that you hate them, you can never forgive someone for who they were/did while accepting who they have become/what they do now. Despite the touted ideaology that "forgiveness=closure/forgive them for yourself/forgiveness is part of redemption/whatever" it is completely okay to be angry/never forgive. And, as I said above, unforgiveness and acceptence are not mutually exclusive.

[@MissSarcasticBunny]

I really admire Megan for getting out of this cult. She didn't know any better and it's borderline abuse to force a child to spread hateful rhetoric that they can't even comprehend or question. It must be extremely difficult for Megan though because that's still her family, despite their twisted viewpoints, and she has had to leave them behind.

[@flynnzilla8796]

It’s not “borderline” abuse - it’s just abuse…

[@RodrigorReyes123]

I wonder if her mom has ever watched this talk in secret because she secretly misses her.

[@ThePlataf]

I bet Shirley keeps Megan under surveillance every way she can think of.

[@saulthechicanootaku]

@@ThePlataf in that case, Megan better file restraining orders to her mom so she and her sister can live in peace

[@ThePlataf]

@@saulthechicanootaku WBC keeps surveillance not on family but on half the universe as well, so it seems.

[@chazchavara3192]

I’m not sure if she has, but if you watch interviews with Shirley following Megan’s departure she seems depressed. She’s “lost” at least 4/11 children now.

[@Mani-pi3ou]

In Louis Therox's latest documentary about this church made me think that her mum was missing Megan and also was starting to doubt the ideas of the church, especially the misogyny

[@theweiss1870]

I never thought that I would think of anyone who was a member of the Westboro Baptist church as a bigger person than me.

[@CarlsT00]

The Weiss same

[@bb2fiddler]

The Weiss The keyword is "was." Those who were indoctrinated from birth and still found the strength to leave have my respect.

[@sarahnielsen2074]

The Weiss beautifully said.

[@snakebitepellehue]

Me neither. I'm a pro-life activist on Twitter and I get insulted and demonized on a daily basis by radical pro-choice people who disagree with me. I wish all those people were like this woman: open-minded, non-judgemental and willing to just listen to me. If they'd just let me bring up my point without already assuming I'm the Demon, all those hour-long debates would be so much more enriching for both of us. This lady is probably one of the wisest people I've heard in a long, long time. I wish I were like her.

[@sarahnielsen2074]

Gaby Champion lets not get carried away though. I'm not going to let anyone tell me what I can do with my body...sorry it's just disrespectful to dictate what what women can do. Not everyone has your religion it's not fair. I understand you might feel bad with people being mean but some people are tired of having people saying what we can do with our own bodies. If you don't want an abortion, don't get one! That's super cool if you don't want one. But mind your own business and worry about yourself. I agree after a certain trimester it's too late for an abortion but if it's early enough it shouldn't be yours to dictate :/ there's a difference between trying to understand the westborrow church people and someone telling me and restricting my rights and reproductive rights as a women. As you might know having someone tell you what you can do with your body is really terrible ): treat people the way you want to be treated. Just keep in mind that it's really rude to tell what others should believe. Keep it to yourself.

[@m0nnie_]

"How can we claim to love our neighbor while at the same time we are praying for God to destroy them?" OMG THIS IS SO POWERFUL

[@jaredgagnon7342]

Indeed.

[@shieldsff]

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[@mohawkjones4270]

yeah like hitler, stalin, mao, Kim jong il, Kim jong un, saddam Hussein, etc... just a few good people making simple mistakes.

[@narcssius]

Easy. They don't love thy neighbor.

[@shirleyhe4215]

Agree! I’m Christian and I approve.

[@glide789]

I just love her voice. So clean and soothing. It's a crying shame that such a kind soul was trapped in that abhorrent cult for so long.

[@michaelumphlettee7054]

You’re forgiven by this Veteran and I also wanted to tell you that YOU are an amazing person Megan and it takes a brave individual to 1. Notice your surroundings are toxic 2. Leave the people you love because they are toxic to you. Congratulations and thank you for sharing this important story and lesson.

[@xHeartHeartbreakx]

Michael Umphlettee Why are they against Soldiers? I understand being gay is controversial in religion but being a solider is honorable. I don’t understand...

[@samriwelkeish7981]

xHeartHeartbreakx They’re against It because, they want America to die. That’s why they say thank god for the dead soldier. They are Brian dead’s.

[@autmnt1893]

@@xHeartHeartbreakx They say soldiers defend homosexual rights so they are enablers/sympathizers of homosexuality

[@sunnydae6602]

Michael Umphlettee You are a good person💖

[@Nat-ys8hn]

You are a good man.

[@TheGreekPianist]

I was *VERY* surprised when Megan left because, when she was a member of the Westboro Baptist Church, she was one of the most devoted, passionate, outspoken, and incredibly dedicated members. She was actually the church's planner, arranged all their pickets, and ran their website. Most of all, she was extremely hateful, prejudice, and acted just as evil as her mother Shirley. I’m a gay guy and at once felt so hurt by their malicious words. It's a miracle she changed and turned her life around. The things she did were very hurtful and cruel, but I'm glad she apologized and changed. ❤️

[@mylifepostpain3705]

The Greek Pianist me too. I think a lot of it was because she was brainwashed and didn’t know any better.

[@nonyadamnbusiness9887]

She seems intelligent; therefore it was only a matter of exposure to the truth. She wasn't brainwashed, she was raised in a community of hate and ignorance. The exact opposite of everything Jesus taught.

[@CoreyGoesEast]

It is effortless​ to be the most devoted member when all you know is your family; closed from the rest of the world. She was a victim, not a participant.

[@gideondavid30]

@BTIsaac Don't be stupid. That wasn't Christianity. I can assume all liberals are communists that desire mass murder to achieve their goals.

[@gideondavid30]

@BTIsaac No. You haven't read the bible. So stop telling religious folks what their bible says when you have no nuance and are a Johnny come lately to the topic.

[@marlin5883]

This comment section is so damn calm and "proffesional" Im proud of you guys.

[@spontaneousmixx]

I don't imagine Trolls watch too many TEDxTalks

[@allseriousness]

You misspelled the most important word of this comment

[@sakariah9519]

Melle Aeron professional

[@crystalw_725]

The comments may be everything you mentioned but the replies sure aren't.

[@dazzleglam95]

I’m so proud of her. No condescension intended- but this takes so much courage. She left the cult that raised her. She’s been ostracized by her family. You can hear in her voice how much her heart has changed.

[@martinkent333]

She grew up. Yawn. Excitable freaks get all crazy when a nutbar reforms. Yawn. You go girl!

[@mamatwitch3982]

@@martinkent333 you’re a troll. Yawn.

[@eliotfmrock]

She speaks with such a soothing and calming voice that only a person who has found peace of mind would do. Very Inspiring

[@Kassiusday]

Eliot FM well said so we should question ourselves how we do speak then .... unless his her original church who sculpted that kind of voice .. as they were not trained to protest ? Investigation with remaining members could give us an answer ??

[@gomezk1493]

Yeah it’s so different and more at peace than it was when she was on the Tyra banks show it was very tense and worked up it seemed so angry and bothered

[@liberalmonk839]

Good actress

[@ryuoh6928]

I find it so admirable whenever I see a person that has left a cult or an abusive organization just by her own will and resources. Says a lot about that person's willpower and natural common sense. They really need to be heard, and appreciated.

[@olebiker1]

Funny at 65 years old I rarely wish to have someone else's qualities anymore. But I sure wish to have more of the grace and strength of this young woman. Her beauty of spirit and her strength really shine and I can feel the love. She gives me some small measure of hope for our world in these dark days.

[@calebchometa1382]

Carl Ball well spoken Carl.

[@okaysoph]

wholesome comment

[@PTSmash]

I was honestly shocked when Megan left the WBC because in all the footage I saw of her, she came across as a loyalist through and through. When she left, it almost convinced me to believe in miracles again.

[@martinkent333]

A dumbfuck has become a non dumbfuck? Call the press! I farted, is that interesting? It was a REAL fart!

[@abubakrdevilliers2558]

@@martinkent333 I see your point, but remember that this woman was born into that church and was completely brainwashed into thinking the way that they do. She has said that their aggressive picketing was part of their DAILY lives. The church was the most important aspect of their lives, her grandfather being the founder of the church and her own mother one of its it’s most ardent and deranged supporters. I would expect someone raised in that environment to hold those same “dumbfuck” views. It is absolutely admirable that she has been able to escape that toxic environment and completely change her worldview. So kudos to her for being a “non dumbfuck” now. Have some empathy dude.

[@martinkent333]

@@abubakrdevilliers2558 No empathy for bottomfeeders, Bottomfeeder!

[@dronad6125]

@@abubakrdevilliers2558 I get so many people are proud of her for making finally waking up to delusions taught from birth it wouldn't be simple. But really wouldn't it? She doens't live in North Korea, and even North Koreans risk not only their lives but the lives of their entire families trying to leave with almost 0 access to any outside information or different stories. She was born in America, access to so much information. It took her a long time to wake up, well done but it really should of been done sooner. She is no hero or admirable for working out what most people do at a young age now days, Religion is nonsense. Majority of people use Religion for the good teachings it brings and that's fine, but the only true believers are labeled as Extremists. You can't pick and choose which words of God you believe in and still claim to believe in that God. You are not a Christian unless you want all Muslims dead and vice versa.

[@mirandagropen9761]

@@dronad6125 What’s wrong with you?

[@gayaf407]

Her voice is so calming

[@leewhite344]

Gay Af love your profile pic dude :)

[@kevinmcdonald6106]

REPENT SINNER.

[@stefansnellgrove]

She’s so different here than she was with he sister and mother on Tyra. I’m glad she’s open her mind and heart since that interview.

[@chazchavara3192]

Stefan Snellgrove I am glad for change as well! All it takes is for someone to see past their hatred and show them this isn’t the right way to live. Heck, maybe even Shirley can change!

[@wanderingrachael]

children should not be used by adults as pawns in any form of protesting

[@jagp135]

THIS, no exceptions, not in pro-life, pro-choice, anti-gay, pro-gay, blm, whatever. No child should be protesting at such a young age.

[@wanderingrachael]

@@jagp135 so much yes to all of this 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@colbymcarthur7871]

absolutely!

[@il3077]

JA GP i agree. You should only be at a protest if you wholly agree with it and children are unable to make such informed decisions.

[@loyevangelists]

of as human shields or carriers of weapons in war. sad that this happens. groups use children as their shields and will also use children to carry bombs to destroy their enemies. i am 61 years old and i have never been in any branch of the military, but i can tell you that my heart broke and breaks for the veterans of the vietnam war. think about this after WW2 the soldiers came home to parades and celebrations. what did the vietnam vet come home to? being spit on and rejection. that is horrible on the part of those who did that to them. those men did not ask to go over there. remember the draft was in affect then. not everyone could run off to canada. getting back to the children part. i have never in my life been in that situation. but if you know that your enemy is using children and civilians to kill you im sure that it would make you skittish. do you know what its like to be shot at everyday in a land that is not your own from an enemy that you cannot always identify? if you have not been there you have no right to judge. like they say walk a mile in my shoes.

[@biking-viking-claus-andersen]

One of the best Ted Talks I have ever heard. Having been traveling the world for 33 years non stop and working in 40 different countries has certainly told me that it is very important to talk to all the people you meet around the world. But it's even more important to listen to them.

[@pixxieestixx]

This woman needs to read audiobooks. Her voice is so calming and beautiful.

[@BYRON..]

This is peak character development if I’ve ever seen it.

[@beta511ee4]

If this were an anime, she’d totally be best girl material.

[@moonjoke]

@@beta511ee4 She would be the main character

[@ladylucifer5044]

It's Zuko levels of character development.

[@austinames9340]

Vegeta levels of character development, even

[@TheYoungWolfI]

Meh I've seen further developed.

[@BlackFlagHeathen]

It makes me really happy to see liberals, conservatives, centrists, Christians, atheists, agnostics, and other types of people finding common ground in this thread. I wish this happened more often.

[@bigboineptune9567]

We are all unified in the fact that we are all moral humans at the core.

[@__-wc5zn]

@@bigboineptune9567 Not everyone. Ever heard of a psychopath?

[@kevinm5940]

BTIsaac I'm not conservative at all, but that's a bit of a generalisation

[@Fluffy_Arachnid]

BTIsaac As an ex-christian, you really are making a generalization about a group of individuals who share a belief system in which varies and those who affiliate themselves with a political party in which also varies. Not all Christians agree with each other or act in the same manner because the messages in the bible come down to interpretation and not all Republicans support Donald Trump. There are christians who lean left and vote democrat, there are also republican atheists and republican gay individuals because people vote for more than just social issues. I don’t want to generalize you based off your beliefs, skin color, nationality, sexuality, etc, don’t do the same to others.

[@micahadamson4309]

@BTIsaac Woah, that's a huge generalization. I'm liberal and christian, they don't go together. Almont every Christian is not at all like the WBC members. Those cult members are actively going against what the Bible says, which can be summed up as love everyone (even if they disagree with you), treat others as you'd want to be treated, and be respectful and kind. They are much more important than a couple times homosexuality is mentioned in the Bible in a negative way. You're trying to write all Christians off as intolerant bigots, but maybe take a look at yourself. You sure are being very intolerant.

[@jaygatz4335]

Megan's content and delivery were impressive. To come from all the negative indoctrinations of Westboro and become compassionate, tolerant, and open-minded is truly a miracle. Hopefully, the rest of the family will see the Light.

[@konnosx1213]

She abandoned her whole understanding of reality But now she apparently understand reality better than we do for she was already brave enough to renounce her worldview once Now she challenges us to renounce our faulty worldviews I find something poetic in that

[@lollic307]

Courage

[@acetrainer_zack2455]

It’s disgusting

[@reddyshreddy5050]

Zack Ryan a.k.a the Virgil lol you’re really are looking for attention aren’t you? Ain’t that cute!

[@rnckgo2410]

Hunting king zack lmao ok hunting king

[@acetrainer_zack2455]

@@rnckgo2410 pretty much 😁

[@alisondehart271]

The first time I heard about Westboro Baptist church was in my Animal Science class in Roseburg high school.The teachers had been in tears in every half full class that day. On October 1,we had a mass shooting at our local UCC college. My teacher in tears asked us to come protest this church that said they were coming to the victim's funerals to hold their hateful signs. I was so shocked that there were people like that.

[@FlattyMchesterson]

alison dehart victims of religion's brainwashing are like that. Sadly.

[@FlattyMchesterson]

roxiechan1 but most are

[@mjnelson8655]

Fan XD Square Enix, You do realize? Everything is religion. Everything is brainwashing. To not make a decision, is to make a decision.

[@FlattyMchesterson]

Michael Nelson not everything is religion, and we can't blame every problem society has on them. We are not religious folks. We are not brainwashed. We know where to draw the lines. Unlike them, I know better than to blame everything on a small minority (I'm talking about how they blame every problem society has on homosexual BTW, I listened to a preach before. Some of the things they said are utterly stupid.) And I am fully aware that people decision to let religion decides for them is a choice. That's the exact reason I look down upon them. I don't see them as normal humans. I see them as puppets, dancing to religion's control.

[@sharonmxlika9516]

Fan XD Square Enix the thing is, most religious people focus more on religion as a sort of political thing instead of having a relationship with God. I never thought I'd feel ashamed to be religious.

[@atosdejusticaful]

This woman seriously needs to narrate audio books.

[@gundam0039]

Lucas Peder any woman with a voice like hers would melt all men.

[@ReneeAnon-ebooks-music]

Lucas Peder especially for insomniacs

[@TeoTheLostBoy]

Gundam 00 but she's just a good reader.. is this a form of sexualizing her or am I taking it the wrong way?

[@gentleslapper6689]

TeoTheLostBoy No, she just got a amazing voice

[@MarissaRachelle1]

Her voice is so beautiful

[@revengeancer2.019]

Damage was done, yes, but her eyes are open now, and there’s no reason to hold animosity towards her. She’s on our team now.

[@sirhoopalot1125]

How is life going for you?

[@tomjsavage7597]

Clear communication must never be under-rated. Megan is a super communicator. Thank you!

[@thedarkmaster4747]

MrHappyBollox LMAO!!! but she is naïve, she is still a child, not everyone is genuine in their ideals, sometimes war is nessersary.

[@ceecee328]

Yes, a super communicator! I love that. She really is.

[@georgejuniorleedom4476]

She's a class act, would that all humans were like her.

[@pinkchaos.]

Of course she is, she was raised communicating to the community and public speaking, it was just horrible, hateful things she was saying. I’m glad she’s speaking about positive, accepting things now.

[@sapphioca1965]

she could narrate audiobooks. she has a soothing voice, right?

[@thomasanchell1633]

Definitely

[@danielherrle8587]

As a huge fan of audio books, I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear her narrate! And based on her ideas, I’d love for her to write her own book too!

[@ericklara7446]

I had the same perception

[@joeangell5652]

Absolutely yes. I probably wouldn’t care about the topic. That beautiful voice would have my full attention.

Just what I thought!

[@randomperson8571]

Wow, I came here to hear some dirt on the Westboro Baptist Church but got something else entirely--something probably more valuable and useful. I really liked everything you had to say about argument and compromise, and taking time to understand the other person. I think that's something everyone in this world needs to learn (including myself), and if we want to talk about the United States specifically, what you said needs to happen on both sides of the liberal/conservative spectrum and everywhere in between.

[@Exorsizzle]

randomperson8571 thank you! Yes!

[@FlezzDurjis]

Me too. And how cool is it that Twitter saved a Westboro member?

[@sachinpathy8838]

I'm amazed Twitter did something other than give out presidental orders

[@clstlsleep8919]

FlezzDurjis hope they save all the people there,well there's no hope for the pastor you seen him on Louis theroux? He responds to a question by ignoring it

[@mfstarr1]

Love this ur so right!

[@adamp133]

I feel so energised and hopeful listening to her, and so pleased that she's grown into such an articulate, illuminated woman. But I also feel for her to have lost her family, however misguided they may be, because that's one of the hardest things a person could go through. She's an inspiration to us all ❤

[@elizabethreynolds3934]

This takes courage. To wrongfully condemn your fellow human being in such horrible, public ways. Then whole-heartedly apologize to the world, stand on stage, and admit how wrong you were, and THEN teach love and encouragement. She has turned into an inspiring woman. Cheers, Megan. ♥️

[@mariamjulixidze5112]

Elizabeth Reynolds td0wte

[@bonnierobinson3933]

Well said Elizabeth.

[@julia10742]

Her mother is the famous one, isn’t she... what a shame. Her daughter is such a bright and intelligent person. What a gem! Her mother always makes comments about how certain “sinner’s” mother’s are ashamed of them... well damn lady. This woman in the video, your daughter, is responsible, witty, and open-minded, and is probably ashamed of you. At least you did something right in creating this child.

[@saulthechicanootaku]

Memes.Beyond The Shirley Phelps might probably be like Claude Frollo where she might be hiding sinful secrets too.

[@Anna-tj7mp]

She is so articulate as much as everything else.

[@TheGreekPianist]

ty track Shirley Phelps is a truly EVIL woman. She inherited every evil gene and trait from her dad, Fred Phelps. I'm studying psychology and Shirley is a sadistic PSYCHOPATH. She enjoys seeing other people in despair, families grieving, and overall people suffering. She has no conscience, no sense of empathy, and is devoid of compassion. She thrives on negativity, pessimism, and gloom. Some people are just born bad, and Shirley is one of them. She's a full-blown monster.

[@sonquatsch8585]

i know, that sounds so weird to say she is so articulate, but she really is notably more articulate than anyone i have ever seen. like her voice and the way she uses it is like ballet or something..i cannot quite explain it, but i could listen to her for hours.

[@JP2GiannaT]

Her mom obviously did something right.

[@TheOfficialRolex]

I love the 4 1. Don't assume bad intent 2. Ask questions 3. Stay calm 4. Finally, Make the argument

[@galactic_socialist]

But sometimes you know there is bad intent such as in this churches case. They will always use your openmindedness against you. And has anyone noticed she still talks like she's in a cult?

[@theevildrummingsithlord1492]

Honestly, it's hard to follow along with it, especially online. However, it's something that we can all work on improving.

[@TheOfficialRolex]

@@galactic_socialist I mean, I believe a lot of ppl r doing evil like so assuming they're doing right! That's y u cannot "assume!"

[@CP-ll6qg]

@@galactic_socialist what? I think you mean that she has the smooth/sweet speaking style common among new agey cult leaders, but that's only because she's trying to polish her speaking style. But this is actually very very far from how she talked when she was still in Westboro, you can see it in the videos. It's not a relic of her time in the cult, because her cult talked exactly the opposite.

[@exmar2331]

Louise Theroux is unbelievable in all I have seen he should get an “ OSCAR “

[@Crusty-eu8wj]

This is like the fourth time I've watched this video since it came out. It gives me hope for humanity.

[@alyssamayle4088]

I have a KZbin channel where I talk about the Bible if you want to see more Christian videos God bless you ❤️

[@sirhoopalot1125]

Please tell me the hope? Obesity rate is still high bruh

[@llaura53]

Ok but her voice is sooo soothing

[@amberbrianna6574]

LLaura i was looking for this comment

[@jdunlap850]

And she is stunning! Sorry. Had to say it.

[@maximilianoster7080]

She needs to be an audible reader 🤣

[@AaronEllisOfficial]

Her voice kinda reminds me of my ex. My ex's voice was the most calming beautiful things ever to me. She could literally talk about the most boring thing... and it was so calming. I miss that

[@brian-bed]

Aaron Ellis I must say, Hopefully you got a better, or at least not a bad outcome of the breakup. Do you mind if I ask, how's life?

[@riffraff2770]

Wow, Twitter was a platform for positive change and good. Never thought I'd see the day.

[@Geoffreyvexer]

Riff Raff Some people just better themselves no matter what the environment is.

[@Hyavobi]

Geoffreyvexer ikr

[@awsdefrgable]

Riff Raff its a god damn social media

[@Jelloz104]

To be fair this was 2009-2012.

[@iina7977]

yeah well the same happened to me, twitter made me more woke

[@fletcherdf444]

I always hated Westboro Baptist church but I think this woman is their greatest achievement. So wonderful seeing she got out of that hatred and now making real difference in the world.

[@emm00893]

EMS 76 it can be extremely hard to leave a cult like the Westboro Baptist church because of how often they block out people who aren't like them, so I'd think of it as a achievement and the right thing to do, but whatever ◠‿◠

[@mirawenya]

It's important to remember that a lot of people doing evil things in this world, do it believing they're being good people, and doing good things.

[@mirawenya]

Jim Johnson that an expression? Someone said she decided to be a good person. Thing is, she always has been. Being a good person was her biggest motivation in life. Probably why people were able to get through to her in the first place. She just realised what the church was doing _wasn’t_ a good thing for the world.

[@shadodragonette]

I can't speak for Miraweyna, but if you have to ask, you forgot or never learned large parts of history... or maybe you just slept through it all? SIMPLE things: Salem. The H bomb. WWI and WWII. EVEN MR KIM thinks hes doing good, while his people starve and he has all the luxurious things. Most terrorists BELIEVE they are acting for the good. Get out a history text and you can read out thousands who thought they were doing good for the world! How many other examples do you need of people doing horrible things when they THINK they are doing good?

[@shadodragonette]

Wow. I thought I was stupid; you make me look rather smart. Thank you. BEST insult I've EVER had. Thank you, and Bless you.

[@patricialockhart2135]

I loved this and its made me think of how I sometimes react to posts from people I disagree with. She's actually an amazing woman. To have been brought up in such a toxic atmosphere but end up showing such humanity and removing all hatred fro her. To be able to move forward like this is quite remarkable. And she's right, dialogue is the only way we can move forward.

[@connor3198]

I'm a gay man and was subject to ridicule by the Westboro Baptist Church. Good for you Megan, you seem like a lovely woman.

[@angelusvastator1297]

Plot hole.

[@ronburgundy244]

David Clinging he didn't go in the Church, he they would harass him at say a pride parade.

[@morganstarchild3103]

Sorry you had to experience that, I can't imagine hun. Blessed be

[@looneytunes105]

Westboro handled things wrong, no doubt, but Meagan’s reformation doesn’t change the word of God in the Christian bible, those choosing to continually lead a gay lifestyle cannot be saved.

[@josephmarella2225]

@@looneytunes105 Gr8 b8 m8

[@jimothyblumberg3854]

It seems to me that her husband played a large role in pulling her from the darkness, what a lucky guy to have had the opportunity to forge such a meaningful relationship with a woman like that.

[@Adoubless]

Jon Barnes, it really does go to show how strong love can be...as corny as it sounds.

[@chaboi7]

Ashleigh Cross nothing about love is corny.

[@jimothyblumberg3854]

Sharrel Wright Do I? I don't feel like one, but maybe you're right. I was just appreciating the bond that they would have formed by going through whatever they went through.. and as a man, I empathized most with how lucky he would be.

[@kingrushcoyote6936]

Jon Barnes It's a good thing to be a feminist, and even better to empathize with someone who's making themselves better. Keep doing you.

[@jewlicious]

Uhm. I didn't marry her.

[@inmyopinion651]

A baby in a small community only know what they get taught. Westboro was the ultimate mental prison. Glad this young lady got technology and grew up and out. Well done Ms Phelps. Just saw end of title. Congrats on marriage.

[@lesclark900]

Jstewify because democrats vehemently hate anybody who doesn't hold the same views as them.

[@audreywhalen5141]

Les Clark says the person who generalized everyone who doesn’t hold the same views as them

[@Stampy2077]

Les Clark no we don’t. We just don’t support racism, sexism, ignorance. We support tolerance and hate hate.

[@lesclark900]

TheFlamingOreo you say that but democrats actions are say something else

[@Stampy2077]

Les Clark fighting ignorance...

[@markteaney8381]

God bless you and your message. You are a wonderful young woman who shows a great intelligence. I am a 63 year old man who is proud of you for fighting to learn to love and understand others. Keep loving all and forgiving those who can't that's how you were saved.

[@peterxiong3367]

Hold up, she had a civil discussion on twitter, that eventually led to her changing her entire world view?

[@otakusway7377]

Yea i had to listen to that part a few times before i believed it

[@t.estable3856]

I'm curious what her opinion of Brick Stone is now that she's separated from the Westboto Baptists.

[@Ranger4402]

When you politely tell people to make an argument vs. name calling and slogan chanting you plant a seed. Sometimes a seed grows into something useful. When you are asked to make the argument, you have a chance to learn.

[@MTHz17]

@@mikeyslakowski1299 Ha! I wish that was what it was. Remember the everyone's racist but not racist phase people went through. Where you could be racist but not at the same time?

[@Dreigonix]

When we are able to sit down and have a civilized conversation, the truth will ultimately prevail.

[@TheBlackLakeSiren]

Wish I could have seen the look on her crazy mom's face when she announced she wanted to leave their church.

[@tsfbaf303]

Madison Hagan Probably the same dumb grin she always has on her face...

[@soriawana3354]

Assuming her mom is “crazy” or “dumb” without considering her perspective based on her own upbringing really shows you missed the entire point of this video... rather than putting the other side down we should be starting conversations and trying to understand that each has good intentions, even if they are misguided.

[@devinwarner4034]

Alana C But they are crazy and dumb, and they all have bad intentions

[@Revelatus]

Shirley is beyond hope, no point in holding out for her to ever change.

[@jaimethomas777]

I bet the look on here face was even more hilarious when she found out she married a Jewish guy!

[@emilytuffen977]

Actually in awe of this woman, who she is, her choices, her words, her journey. So much respect. I know the grief of having loved ones whose thoughts are twisted and knowing that you cant and may never connect with them in the loving way you yearn to. Its a deep pain. But always better than living a life of lies and hatred. Bless her x

[@GetToDaChoppa-k5r]

So many of the kids have broke away from that evil cult. Good for them!

[@nikkibailey6550]

Her voice is so soothing

[@sidneyprescott5637]

Arein Bailey I'll bet growing up in an environment so loud and hostile contributed to her peaceful nature. She's amazing

[@urfavlocalangel]

Arein Bailey I was just thinking how great of a yoga instructor/meditation instructor (I can't remember the word I'm looking for) she would be

[@khoa-nathanngo3890]

Guadalupe Castañeda Yogi? Guru?

[@urfavlocalangel]

Khoa-Nathan Ngo probs yogi

[@celinasantiago6509]

Arein Bailey ikr

[@lflobo]

I hope her family has the courage to listen and digest her words... she just made the world a tiny better place.

[@floor_tank_shanks4194]

Luís Lobo I wonder if The Westboro Baptist Cult has seen this yet.

[@notthefather3919]

Gregory Auger you know they have.

[@nyneeveanya8861]

This woman grew up in a church that’s lost its way. She was smart enough and brave enough to walk away from it even though she had known nothing else in her life. She is moral enough to admit her errors, apologize, and ask forgiveness. Now she is showing and teaching how she was led to her new understanding by the discussions with those who had no reason to care about her life but still did.

[@mitchmcturtle2098]

I think this quote almost exactly mirrors the lesson of her insightful and eye-opening speech: "Before you assume someone else ignorant, assume that you are ignorant of that person's position."

[@jennimatsu2799]

Steven Du Very well said.

[@harolddursley5664]

How often do you have to discover you're not, vindicating your safe assumptions over and over, before that heuristic needs changing, though?

[@mdtexeira]

That question presumes that the assumptions are ever safe. Could it not be the case that people's inability to express the deepest aspects of their reality, either through a lack of depth of access or a dearth of the communicative tools necessary to pass the information beyond themselves means that you almost never actually 'know' the other person's position. In my experience, most people who come across as hateful, once they've opened up are far more wrapped up in fear, much of it rational, if misplaced. The real question is whether the assumptions, true or not, actually improve the communication in any meaningful way. Ultimately, if you are sure of your assumptions such that you're not willing to extend the benefit of the doubt, aren't you really just engaging a time-saving protocol? You are filtering out, using assumptions, experiences that you don't have the inclination to sort through because they are superficially similar enough to suggest functional equivalence. In that case, the best way to save time is just not to engage them at all. In the end, I think she did an excellent job of recognizing that not everyone has the time or inclination to try and bridge ideological divides. If you are inclined to assume that your assumptions are safe on the basis of the discoveries that you inherently filter through those same assumptions, you might not be the person to attempt what is most definitely challenging work of building bridges.

[@shanenperumal1419]

Steven Du pp

[@aluisious]

Man you don't read KZbin comments.

[@dipsydoodles6410]

Imagine how better the world would be if everyone watched this. Truly moving.

[@littlekiwi9724]

Hey Dipsy Doodles! I love your name and pic - Carol Burnett I assume?

[@ravenwildspirit]

Don't assume, ask questions, stay calm and then make the argument. So simple yet so lacking in our world. Great talk.

[@smallfootprint2961]

Nothing new here. Just glad there are people like her who are talking about getting back to kindness and communication. Thanks for speaking, Megan.

[@richardhp77]

Yeah it is a bit depressing when we have to have videos like this explaining to people how not to be MASSIVE JERKS

[@melissawilliams9473]

I disagree. I think it is "new" in the sense that it is relevant. It is necessary. And it is too often forgotten or overlooked (it being her points on how to communciate and make change effectively). I am a teacher. And students are not taught these effective ways to approach and learn from others nonabrasively.

[@JF-ch1cm]

I beg to differ that there is "nothing new here" and it's quite demeaning of you to say that about this extremely articulate, intelligent, brave, young woman who has no political agenda

[@chazchavara3192]

I'm so thankful for her, and that she is recovering for hateful past.

[@thelazyboy3323]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@skystrife_gaming7949]

“I thought my rightness justified my rudeness” I really love that phrase in her talk, definitely makes me think of how many times I may have been rude or short with people because I thought/believed I was right about something and really makes me want to improve how I communicate to others.

[@crazyredheadgrl]

Likewise, listening to her talk made me think about how I've responded to people who disagree with me on social media, I am going to change how I respond from here on out.

[@jagp135]

@William Henderson no, anyone

[@adeolaadefowora155]

Same here!

[@ariheino327]

I want to congratulate you for actually getting the point. IMO, yours should be the top comment, not one of the many hyping some Celebrity.

[@juliek3192]

Wow, I love this. One of the best things I’ve seen in a long time, and even though this was years ago it’s something I think people could benefit from now more than ever. Side note: The Westboro Church came and protested my theater group in high school because we performed Rent as our musical. I was a senior and I’ll never forget the signs they held up, so hateful and mean. They weren’t allowed on property so they had to stay across the street. We stayed on our end and sang “Seasons of Love” to them instead of yelling back. ❤️

[@Anonymous_Eyeballs]

Anyone else find it ironic that the only ones who found Jesus are the ones who left the church?

[@jesussavessinner1315]

Not the church because all true believers are The Church of Christ, but i know what your saying

[@hillarysudeikis2264]

It’s not ironic it’s to be expected because Lord Jesus Christ is love and he didn’t teach us to condemn anyone but to love our neighbour.

[@icewolf5006]

I feel that

[@ObiWann90]

She's atheist now

[@Anonymous_Eyeballs]

@@ObiWann90 I mean more in the "she found the light" type of way. Idk if Jesus was a real dude and if the miracles he did were real or not but you gotta admit, he had some good ideas

[@elenal.7814]

I HOPE TYRA SEES THIS, she'd be so proud. you're doing great sweetie.

[@madelyngutierrez3138]

Well done! Well done!!! God bless you! Keep on speaking out! I'm a 65 yr old Christian, also raised in a similar way. My oldest daughter is gay, and has been for over 30 years. God's love is what I need to show her until the day I die. You are so right! Well done! I would be proud to have a daughter with a heart like yours. You are precious!

[@advaitachaudhari2313]

We need more people like you in this world.

[@emm00893]

Madelyn Gutierrez you sound like an amazing parent 💚

[@instamizzyx]

I love you and I don’t even know who you are! God bless you!

[@rebeccaspratling2865]

Madelyn Gutierrez I hope to be half as good a mother as you. Bless you.

[@etherealsoliloquy]

Robin she probably means she’s been openly gay for 30 years

[@joatmon3282]

Watching this in 2021 and her advice is just as relevant and on point today as it was in 2017. This is a great talk and should be on everyone's must watch list.

[@timetoreason181]

Yes absolutely, and is universal truth about cults based on mythical, evil, fictional books like the Bible

[@ViddyMan1]

​@@timetoreason181 This extends beyond theology; political divide has become the new religion - this video is my gateway share to friends and family who are so entrenched in their tribal beliefs that they've stopped listening to other people - it extends WAY beyond traditional and cult-like religion, it extends to actual thought itself, to tribal thinking, and as she mentioned most relevant today, political discourse. It's all just ideology and dogma in its extreme, no matter what side you're on. If you're not humanising or listening to the other side, or worse being emboldened in your own position every interaction you have, it's a symptom of a sickness, of the bigger truth you can't see yet - that you're not listening.

[@KatherineCurnow]

Ahhhh this is so great. I particularly loved, "We started to see each other as human beings and it changed the way we spoke to one another." Also, "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it" springs to mind.

[@1nd1_500]

I'm so proud of her. The hardest part of arguments will always be admitting you were wrong. The fact she allowed herself to grow and change and start spreading love instead of hate is incredible. She is a great example of being the change you want to see in the world.

[@BabsChannel]

She wasn't wrong. She was a kid. Her parents were wrong. She just broke through the naive shell.

[@BigBubbaTakeYoAzz]

Do you get your kicks from feeling a sense of superiority to people?

[@bloedekuh]

"We are all a product of our upbringing." So true.

[@PhoenixRising87]

Indeed. For better or for worse.

[@sirhoopalot1125]

You seriously believe we grew from a monkey?

[@kittykat4161]

My favorite thing is how calm she is as she speaks. It seems like she has a sense of humility, and even more, a sense of peace, that she never had before.

[@OliversAntics69]

The 1k dislikes are from the Westboro Bastist Church

[@zachtterry21]

Oliver's Antics That and probably people who heard only the first part, got pissed off, and down voted her.

[@brackenalexander1163]

Leah and 95% of them are members of the Phelps family.

[@jchristfjell]

They made 1000 fake accounts just to dislike this

[@annebannan9817]

Oliver's Antics 999th like SO CLOSE

[@simonorto432]

And your 1000 likes from kind loving people

[@TwentyPaphonies]

This is the best comment section I have ever seen.

[@Lae-zel_enthusiast]

Twenty Paphonies so true

[@ashleyn8054]

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[@ellasmith9921]

|-/ true....btw I love your videos

[@disgraceful318]

I searched for the clique the second she said anathema

[@ashleycorreia9348]

Twenty Paphonies seeing comments by the clique on videos like this is why it's my favorite group of people

[@ll2tfbyolo]

I was raised in a very hypocritical environment and have struggle with my sexuality and faith for many years. this video was very powerful. thank you for sharing.

[@thomask8345]

Her speech should be mandatory viewing in the U.S. congress. Once a week.

[@johnchigur7706]

Are you that empty that her blabber made such an impact on you. She sincerely didn’t enlighten me to anything that I wasn’t already blessed with throughout life from family friends and church. Im sorry if you weren’t as fortunate.

[@thomask8345]

The tone of your comment shows how 'blessed' you really are.

[@johnchigur7706]

Thomas K Oh does it now .... God bless !!

[@johnchigur7706]

Kurt E. Clothier God Bless !!

[@renyen9752]

@@johnchigur7706 Wow. Holy art thou, much? Not everyone has the luxury of a positive upbringing. Your arrogance is sickening.

[@jupiterstevens-hill7331]

I love how she calls everyone on Twitter her friends. It really shows how accepting she's been, and how accepting others have been as well.

[@amazed92]

Westboro Baptist Church picketed my cousin’s funeral. The things that they shouted as the service was taking place were horrific. The hate they spat at his children was unforgivable. A good man’s funeral. A man who served to protect his country from enemies foreign and domestic. A man who deserved respect for trying his best to be a good man. A man who gave his life trying to rescue other service personnel, men he didn’t know. It is good to see that a few of them will enter in to calm communication and even see that there is good everywhere. Ms Phelps-Roper says that sorry isn’t enough and sadly she is correct. My memory of my cousin, a gentle loving man, is tainted by what WBC members did that day. Rather than his smiling face, his laugh, his pratfalls to make others laugh, his soft voice, the light in his eyes, when I think of him I can hear the hate that they screamed at us. Their joy in his death and our distress. Their pleasure at the disruption they had caused. Their enjoyment at the pain and suffering of the children, his children and others. The worst bile came from the WBC children who received praise for the most disgusting and disturbing insults and statements - these were things that a child shouldn’t even know never mind say - and these insults were aimed at the children present. Children attacking children. Several of the children and some of the adults had nightmares following the WBC attack, two of the children still do. There is nothing that will repair the damage they have done and still do too regularly; and I am sorry to say that I will probably never be able to forgive them and in this I know I am not on my own. It is good to see that some are not so far gone in their beliefs that they can start to see the people of the world as both good and bad. Sadly for those of us who have had their venom spat in our direction many may never be able to forgive because we will never be able to forget, but it is good to see that change is possible.

[@sarahblake5470]

amazed92 you are stronger than I am. I literally would have physically attacked them

[@xoxopuppies12xoxo]

amazed92 I'm so sorry that ignorant hateful people did that at a funeral where everyone was just trying to heal. Those people are going to get what's coming to them. If there is a god I'm sure that his message isn't to hurt other people.

[@robertojasso1866]

Religion is bad, period. If you disagree, I'll be happy to debate.

[@wrenegade6283]

I'm so so so sorry.

[@mittensthemagic5519]

I am very sorry for your pain and what you had to go through stay strong and now that a random comment section stands with you. :)

[@Santana23453]

I remember seeing her on talk shows when she was younger; the hate and rage she portrayed was awful. So glad to see she’s more at peace now.