I HATE It When She Says “I’m fine…” | Our Biggest Arguments (Ep.10)

[@agustinafargi]

Everybody talking about missing them vlogging together but I like them in their podcast more… I like Jess in her own vlogs but for them together, I love the podcasts!!!!!

[@khart17]

Same!

[@angelicalopez4690]

I agree!! I love these natural conversations better than any 10 min vlog

[@betsydiaz775]

I agree

[@seyalcops]

Bobby does a great job at seeing both sides of the story 👏 good on him

[@yelizavetapolyakov]

He’s like the therapist in the conversation 😂😅

[@interconnected7416]

Jess is right about the drive thru thing because being on the headset for those speaker boxes you can never hear the person in the passenger seat!! It’s so hard and we all wish for the person in the drivers seat to say the order. She can even repeat it to you in the moment and you as the driver say it louder for the speaker box

[@alondrasoto2250]

I live for these podcasts. It makes your relationship seem so much more realistic. Social media obviously makes people seem perfect and that’s super huge with you guys, but the podcasts are so relatable. I feel like I’m really seeing you guys as people and not “influencers”

[@nicolemartel8661]

30:02 on this point of Jess wanting to resolve things herself sometimes: this is so important! Sometimes we know that we’re upset over a small thing, and other factors may be causing us to overreact and we don’t want to start a fight. When this happens I just tell my husband: “I need some time to be upset/annoyed/mad right now”. And that’s his cue to *leave me alone*! He says okay then walks away immediately. I take my time to process the issue, do something that makes me happy, then I come back and let him know I’m good. Sometimes I’ll tell him what the issue was (if it’s something I think he should be aware of/do better on next time) and sometimes we just don’t discuss it because it’s a me problem. This is literally the reason we’ve never had a real fight (yelling/name calling/storming out/etc) in the 9+ years we’ve been together. LET PEOPLE BE UPSET AND WORK OUT THEIR FEELINGS!!😂

[@alliceson6464]

Love this

[@HelloMoto_]

I’m with Jess on the drive thru order though.. the driver is the designated spokesperson! Plus it’s so awkward to be screaming your order from the passenger seat

[@Boundless_Africa]

100%!!! If my husband made me shout my order out his window, I would be annoyed 😂

[@yjoleen99]

Same. I hate shouting in the car.

[@rainalakshmirajkumari4193]

Who else miss them vlogging💕🫶✨️

[@KayliesJourney]

I like the sfsg pod but would appreciate if they take maybe one day a month to make a really nice vlog.

[@basetsana1618]

​@@KayliesJourneyAgreed. But love the pod for sure.

[@rainalakshmirajkumari4193]

@@KayliesJourney mutual feelings !!

[@abrahamvanderpuye1925]

Yup yup

[@mokshashah4972]

Think they're trying to keep their private life private after having a baby, which is fair! So I guess the podcast works best for them as it allows them to earn online without showing everyone their day to day! Also Jess still vlogs here and there

[@FarinaMyrtleRenato]

I lovvee these podcasts.. Jess has sooo much more personality here than on the vlogs.. and she’s sooo funny 💛 but then again Gabe’s homeschool so … it’s balanced .

[@treesa2020]

I think the intention you guys had with this podcast really worked. These episodes are so relatable, we as a community, are getting to know you guys on another level and It really does feel like we're doing life together . Great Job!

[@NatureLoverSFL]

guys this episode is what i have hoped for with the podcast. It’s super honest and let’s us see you as real ppl❤

[@heyseefaye]

i feel like it'd be easier for the person closest to the window make the order for everyone. even if you have to pass the order along, or just make sure you got everything written down before you get there, that way it feels much smoother and easier for the drive-thru staff to hear it

[@Kiayamarieee]

I think the intention of this video actually turned into great advice from Jess and Gabe and Bobby too! Because a lot of these “issues” were either resolved or not happening as much anymore and I think a big thing I saw was intentionality and the want to serve the other. Beautiful❤️

[@katiehanson6253]

FYI Jess is 1,000,000 million percent correct on ordering in a DT... my most hated situation managing something like a dunkin... is a passenger order, they're hard to hear to begin with let alone if they're soft spoken, and even more so if it's windy or rainy. Realize you can hear us fine, it's hard to hear you.

[@nikolinabjekic5020]

I agree 😅

[@hannahritchie1235]

Bob was so intentional with everything he said. Loved this, and love your friendship

[@angelikajimenez]

29:30 topic. I do understand Gabe in this debate because it's part of marriage and being partners. Yes let's say that you want to resolve it yourself but try to think about what your partner would feel especially when they think that it's their fault. They just care about you and want to help you.

[@haniabahazi9900]

Jess you’re SO right about the drive through, we’re a family of six, and my dad always asked 5 minutes before we arrived what do we want and he remembered everyone’s order!!

[@gabrielamiranda6326]

This last phrase from Jess reminded me of a saying here in my country, "It's better to have peace than to have reason."

[@bombayallday4229]

I really love the podcasts. I listen to them in the morning while I travel to work, and it just makes me laugh and makes the driver better. Thanks for posting them!❤

[@eggburrito]

This was a great reminder that no couple is perfect. Even the amazing Contes have their moments. 💕 Hey, Bobby! 👋

[@khart17]

People saying they miss the vlogs and not even appreciating the time you guys are devoting to this poddy (away from kaia) or respecting where you guys are at the moment 🤪 I love the podcast! Every Monday morning driving to work puts me in the best mood! X

[@JessicaHumber]

31:52 I work at Starbucks and I couldn’t tell you the amount of times I’ve had to say ‘im sorry I can’t hear you from the passenger seat’. I get both sides though cause it is easier to have everyone say their own, but those microphones can be muffled sometimes so the distance from the passenger seat can be hard to hear. I even have a hard time hearing people in the drivers seat sometimes.

[@kristina3868]

I loved this one! I always thought that a beautiful girl like Jess wouldn't be insecure or deal with jealously at all, but to see that she actually does or did made me feel more "normal" if that makes sense. Thank you!!

[@ermelinda2223]

Totally get what you’re saying!

[@hetalvania4086]

omg omg omgggggg at the end when you both were talking about apologizing JUST IN THAT MOMENT i was thinking about that jess has a quote that she has said on the channel in the past that "its better to lose the argument than the person" with her lil hand movement that she did once AND JUST FEW SECS LATER you both said ittttt ahhhhhh it made me so happy hahahahahahah

[@kenshindoman9757]

I'd be very interested to hear both Jess' and Gabe's "pros and cons" of both America and Australia.

[@claramay1814]

This podcast never disappoints! Listening always brings me joy❤

[@LaurenTuong]

33:50 OMG I would just tell the driving person my order too 😂I can't scream I'm soft-spoken

[@yasminedarmo9632]

I'm 14 minutes in and it is so interesting to see how relatable this is in my relationship (me being Jess and my bf being Gabe). I'm watching, smiling and shaking my head at the same time hahaha. Haven't even watched till the end to say that this is such a good episode. Keep up the goodies you guys! Love ya❤

[@gabby8339]

Jess is sooooo quick witted! I love it

[@sarameier]

I never miss a podcast episode. Love these so much 💗 You both always have me laughing. Bobby is such a good mediator here!

[@thediennersisters4258]

You guys need to do that dating thing with Bobby that you did with Sophie! 😊

[@strawberrykatnz]

Lol I laughed at the sock folding comment. My partner told me earlier in our relationship that I wasn't folding washing correctly and I was like, "Oh really, is that so?" And he was like, "Yes, you do it the wrong way." So I said, "OK, well it looks like you've just earned yourself a lifetime gig because that's your job from now on for all our washing. That suits me just fine." Hahaha total backfire. 5 years later, the only time I fold his washing is when he's away for work but I make him do it when he's home😂 while I put everything in the washing machine to be washed and then in the dryer and he has to fold it and put it away lol.

[@popstar678]

“Only cause you asked so nicely” I would lose it if my husband did that! 😂

[@selinmalekian334]

Great episode!!💗 Also just have to say I looooove your intro...the music, the colors, the font, the logo spinning like a record, you two dancing in the corner...love it all so much, so well thought out❣💯👩‍❤‍👨

[@katialing5557]

Ok first, Bobby. I love how he’s just casually chilling lol. Secondly, my husbands family is an interrupting family and by golly it’s so hard sometimes 😅

[@jenna_nickel]

i relate to jess soooo much on all these issues

[@KayliesJourney]

Jess is basically an internal processor and Gabe is an External processor 😅

[@_florinab]

Bobby being the psychiatrist for Jess and Gabe's couple therapy 😂

[@raine1278]

Another great episode! I felt disappointed about you previewed something that we wanted 45 minutes to hear and then found out we had to pay to hear it. Nonetheless, always love your guys' content! Keep it up 😊❤️

[@fanniblanco7640]

The messy house comment is so relatable! Also me and my husband are the same with the desserts and confrontational. I have to wait and he does not, I will say something being wrong and he will not. ☺️ Love you guys!!

[@katafazekas3349]

Aah, I just love listening to you guys☺️ what a cozy little podcast🥰

[@ameenak4640]

looool we are getting TEA

[@carlajoyswan]

I am definitely with gabe, eating that dessert asap😂😂 and telling them when they got my order wrong (nicely of course!) ❤❤love yalls podcast , watching from Nova Scotia Canada ❤

[@yjoleen99]

This episode makes me want more marriage/communication advice from these two! Specifically would like to know what your weekly meetings look like

[@charleenc3]

Silent viewer here 👋 I am a 'wait for dessert & never complain about an order gone wrong' person too Jess! How funny 😄

[@MegsAdventureDiary]

I am a desert after dinner person like Gabe, but side with Jess about not wanting to inconvenience others and correcting orders. My husband is the opposite of me on both of those things.

[@blinkiblue3731]

Good strategy to settle their differences by having Bob as referee.😂😂😂

[@lauramartin12]

Gabe: The best at what? Jess: The best at countrying 😂😂

[@gisellez2958]

i feel like jess doesn’t like gabe anymore 😂 like she’s stuck with him but at the same time is a female version on his personality but doesn’t want him to be the same bc it’s her personality now lol. i love you both 😂❤

[@pratyushakoratala8781]

This was so insightful and interesting, also super relatable and that made me think maybe the way we argue or things that irk us could be a personality thing but also women men thing??? Haha because i could relate to jess 😂😂😂 and yeah like Bobby said it was nice to hear stuff being already implemented to get things resolved good things to take from this podcast and Bobby did so good because he really was there for both sides, appreciate that 💛💛

[@Iam_laurenthrasherrr]

That’s really funny cause I’ll definitely want dessert right away and also have no problem telling someone I didn’t receive the correct item haha

[@BTSplanet-7]

I always feel like listening Jess forever ❤

[@merediththompson3131]

Dr Phil says “would you rather be right or would you rather be married?”

[@miawoods9798]

The interrupting point was crazy, sent it to my boyfriend! I am Gabe and he is Jess in this situation, I didn't even think of our families being the cause but it makes so much sense😅

[@honeybcomb]

I side up with Jess on all these points( Being a girl doesnt make me bias Lol but I see her argument being logical). Sorry Gabe !LoL. Love the Cameo of Bobby , he is so good in understanding each person's point fo view. More podcasts with Bobby And Seb Please!

[@JAperera]

Noooooo my musical brain so wanted Jess to resolve down at the end- it wouldve sounded so nice 😭

[@saramichaowska7222]

I'm the same as Gabriel, dessert right after dinner and I'll make sure they will give me what I order 😂😂

[@alejandromarquez9368]

Love your counselor couple thanks conte

[@jocschannel4685]

i thought i was the only one that gets a little sad when my fiance mentions something about the house being dirty😭😭😭🤣

[@adventures3802]

Definitely want Bobby on the podcast again!

[@monica-jardim]

Love love love you guys - come visit us in South Africa 🥹🇿🇦🩷

[@ie7087]

I think this was the best episode so far ❤

[@shawnabligh3938]

we need Jess singing her national anthem!

[@Shua580]

I like to wait to eat my desert and I WILL NEVER correct a wrong order.

[@andreaornelas1418]

I can totally relate to Jess with the cleaning and not liking hearing that the house is messy, and it’s not that I feel like I have the full responsibility because husband is nice about it and he cleans as well but like Jess said it’s just something that you want to do as the wife for your family lol

[@nicole.larson]

22:56 I’m wheezing that hilarious

[@loznoz6936]

In Aus, it's totally normal for the driver to pass on everyone's orders haha

[@BibbyLou99]

On the drive through subject - whoever is driving is meant to say if it’s just me and my partner BUT if I say an order to him that’s too complicated he’ll say “I’m not going to remember that” and then I’ll just say my own I think it’s already being at the box that’s extra awkward

[@jaimileesloman8826]

This week’s podcast isnt here yet😫

[@kunalkhona4454]

Where Jess says sometimes you want to show you are right but its not worth it. I agree. But I see that in a point of view like sometimes when we argue or have certain opinion on something comes from a beilief which lot of the times we dont want to CHANGE as its a firm one. Its nice to be open to understand what other person has to say but when you cant find common ground. Its better to walk away. Understand the differences and not cross the boundries till you ready to understand or make a peace with saying okay thats their belief i dont have to agree neither them but understand where are we both coming from having this belief. Cause we as a Human BELIEVE in something and HOPE for better future or anything to SURVIVE.

[@NannyMendoza]

Lol I’m definitely a “dessert right after dinner” person and I’ll definitely get people to fix my order if it’s wrong too😂

[@auntyste]

I'm with Gabe with the donut sharing lol 😅

[@cathirodrigo2933]

Nope, I wait for my dessert & I politely get my order corrected if needed. 😊

[@asecmimosas4536]

Belatedly weighing in on an unimportant debate haha. I really liked what one guy from Europe said, like "best country" is far too vague. America is the most important country in the world. Americans follow American politics. People from other countries follow their national politics, AND American politics, because it's that important. America has the largest economy, by a landslide. The largest military, by a landslide. The most advanced country technologically. And Australia I have a ton of respect for, it's a burgeoning country, rising economically and militarily. Still, your everyday life in Australia, like in Europe, is going to be affected in ways by politics in the US in a way that it simply won't be the other way around.

[@caitlinwharrier2389]

Love you guys. I am more like jess with the cookie situation and the drive through. ❤

[@jessm408]

Good / bad thing about podcast is that you can get to know them a little bit better… poor jess

[@lizbethserna9870]

I’m finally early 🎉 love yall

[@MichellePasaribu]

I love these podcast! 🥰

[@vntalgic]

i’ve watched you guy’s content since i was 12. and im truly disappointed in you guys and hurt.

[@willowblake21]

Why?

[@Ry-of6xo]

i'm interested on what they have to say about the girl best friend saying i love you because in past vlogs seb and jess have said i love you to eachother but not interested enough to pay for members.

[@ItsNicoleAnderson]

Same

[@kesha8439]

Jess is soooo sassy here i LOVE!!!😍 so attractive

[@estelafarfan-alejo6689]

I will say the whole drive thru thing, from customer service perspective it’s really hard to hear when the passenger orders from across the driver 🥲 props to Jess lol

[@HelloMoto_]

Last comment (promise lol) Bobby kills these podcasts 👏🏻

[@tesgatesfane8718]

Love the fact that bob is there to judge😅

[@natevaG85]

Jess, with drivethru ordering, get your list down on your phone and hand it over to Gabe. Do the same thing when ordering in larger family situations, if Gabe's family doesn't have a problem shouting their orders than fine. It just makes the whole experience for you stress free. I do it for my family. I'll make a list and hand it over to the driver. None one is left sweating under their collar 😅

[@samigeis]

I, f22, am definitely a dessert right after dinner AND a go fix your order person

[@raw8565]

I like to wait alittle after dinner also before eating dessert! I need to wait and take my time like Jess lol

[@estacia3520]

It's not even about "she's dinner and then wait for dessert" or "dinner than eat dessert right after." It's respecting boundaries which my husband doesn't do either and I have to specifically say "this is my boundary" now switched it for public settings and I say " this is my story and I'm sticking to it" it helps at church and public when the husband is very oblivious... What's the time? I think it's kind of pride or selfish or not dying to self in that moment and thinking. I feel like men don't think and woman think too much. I think we both need to come together and die to herself and be more thoughtful for each other's feelings. It's hard but I'm working on not worrying too much. But now my husband needs to think about worrying and caring little more especially in public settings.

[@rts4097]

Love y’all

[@safs-sh7kc]

Can someone explain me who is buying their expensive t shirts with the huge writings on them????! Like why do you have to get so much money from your teenage subscribers who will buy just because they think you're cute? Hoodie for you song as well? Lol

[@Payasofresa]

It’s extremely sad to see how some of the people you look up to decide to support oppression, Gabe saying Jews are God’s chosen people as if the other lives that were lost who were not Jews did not matter. Absolutely disgusting, such a disappointment. I pray for the innocent civilians of Israel and Palestine 🇵🇸 I’ll never see y’all the same

[@JosiePosieeeee]

I am a dessert right after person but definitely am on Jess' side with people getting my order wrong lol I will just suck it up and not say anything

[@mariai.3918]

That was a great episode 🎉

[@nar1708]

Hey guys, loved the podcast! How can I join the members club?

[@BECN18]

I’m a dessert right after, you got my order wrong person lol

[@veronicaquntana3475]

My sister is like that she’s a dessert right after dinner and she makes sure if they get her order wrong she ask for what she originally wanted 😂

[@AngelikaCooper]

I miss the vlogs🥺🤍

[@1sayit]

I have no problem with podcast ...but love you more when there is more vlogging..its entertaining....podcast can be minimized...just putting out my view....😊

[@maanafs]

did Gabe ever thought he probably has ADHD? I dunno, I'm an ADHD person, and sometimes I see a lot of it in gabes personality. love u guys, been watching your videos since before u get married. 🇧🇷

[@yanooc]

Yea I also have adhd & I agree with you 🙂

[@andrearamirez6659]

My father in law, he is Cuban and he loves to argue about everything and anything! But glad he never argues with me tho 😂 cuz I’m like your friend Warren

[@TeamOneStar]

America 🇺🇸 🤝 🇦🇺 Australia Respect for both