I left YouTube for 6 months and this is why.. *vulnurable* life update

[@lpgilber]

I could see that you were struggling but I wanted to respect your situation and didn't want to say anything about your partner not giving you more help. I didn't know your situation so I didn't want to say anything that might be offensive. But as a woman, you should never have to feel that you are taking care of your children without help. It's difficult but you have to take care of yourself first, because if you are not happy, your children will not be happy.

[@Thatonegirl989]

It makes me so sad that this is so many women’s situation. I feel for every single one, I’m really happy Amber is doing better though! I was hoping for an update from her and this is a big relief.

[@lpgilber]

@@Thatonegirl989 I worked with men whose partners had young children and sometimes they would find all kinds of reasons not to leave work at the appropriate time so they could be there for the children. I'm lucky my dad was the total opposite. He was really present. Plus, my grandmother and other family members helped my parents when they had to go work. So extended family was a God send.

[@aliyahp9969]

So true haven't watched in years And I see she had a second child with him?

[@MiVidaBellisima]

I had my one daughter and needed more help from my husband. Two littles- I knew deep down inside it was too much

[@marcybeasley3766]

The hair videos brought me here, but I stayed cause of you, your spirit, your drive, and cause I liked what you were giving us. This vlogs about your business, the cleanup/organization blogs etc those are the ones I really love. You can do the mixture and I hope you do. You have a strong voice and a great vibe. Trust yourself. We will show up, we'll at least I will.

[@AmberAnsah]

I appreciate that really, thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@gatesfamily3470]

Here for it. 😊 You go, girl

[@GarlandTX2Israel]

Omg your big girl is 4 now?!?!? Where did the time gooooo😩

[@elenam9435]

Right!!! I thought she was 2.

[@nikkip7099]

My sister had the same problem with her husband. She said there is nothing like a uninvolved partner to make you act out of character. Do what you gotta do and don't let it take you 15 years like my sister. Glad to see you back. Now I need a opinion about youthforia new shade!

[@sheischanelle]

Good for you 👏🏻 and you look so good too! I noticed your slimmed down as soon as the video started. Keep it up!

[@Mspowell30]

Same

[@lindagreene4784]

You look wonderful! The slim down, the hair, I love you not ashamed to be a real one. You dont owe us your personal life but thanks for sharing ❤❤❤

[@Vernon1960]

Ms. Amber, shifting gears to take care of AMBER obviously was the correct path for you. You look great and the awesomeness of your hair growth is a testament to good living!!!!

[@islaand]

waittt you look goooood ❤

[@AmberAnsah]

Omg thanks!! 🥹❤️

[@Dionne94Xx]

You look bright and rejuvenated. From a mummy that gets it. Well done you're doing amazing ❤

[@junaynahb]

I definitely noticed the depression on you girl. Unfortunately men don’t help how they should when they should and especially when the kids are really little! My husband and I broke up a week before my youngest turned 1 and we were separated for a whole year because he was useless to us at that time. We’re back together now and let’s just say he’s now the dream partner lol but long story short I get it! You can’t depend on people who aren’t being dependable. Good for you you needed it ❤

[@shellzbespazin]

SOME men don't help how they should. Some do more than some mothers do for their children.

[@jaeshasway]

@@shellzbespazinCan we please normalize not needing to twist the facts just to make it seem like men parent equally to women. In the 2 weeks following the birth of a child, 78.9% of men do less than 50% of parenting. So just stop, it’s not even some, at best it’s very few. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@adaezez8378]

@@shellzbespazin most men actually and factually.

[@candyllene]

It’s 2024. Men SHOULD start stepping up. I’m tired of the bare minimum I see women around me deal with. Makes me scared to ever settle down and have kids 😅

[@stephaniemiw]

We care, babes 💐 Welcome back! 💕

[@WLHMCALLNATURAL]

KZbin is not easy, people don’t understand that! Especially if you’re doing as a job! Taking a break is important for your mental health ❤❤❤

[@copperblaze22]

I literally walked out of work in the middle of the day on January 6th, and I return June 3rd. I understand. It's either take a break or be broken. I glad you're doing better.

[@Michele-cw1kx]

I'm just so glad you're back. A subscriber for life

[@patriciagriffith7402]

Me too

[@n.g.l.]

I’m not sure if you have this same issue. But sometimes things take baby steps. Maybe get a content schedule and figure out what you need to do that fits your schedule. Maybe make a video about you doing a content calendar and post that on multiple social media (American saying: kill 2 birds with one stone). Or maybe a motherhood series while you do your hair 🤷🏽‍♀️. Or cleaning and cooking. People actually love content like that and it goes viral on KZbin shorts and TikTok. So glad you still consider us ❤.

[@vickismith393]

Please Don't apologize for taking personal time for yourself and for your beautiful daughters! Every woman who is listening to you today are over joyed that you picked you! Have the life you deserve❤

[@333lookz]

I had the same issue. I’ve been officially a single parent for 9 months. My son is 2. It’s rough as hell - but I’m glad you decided to choose yourself. ❤❤❤ much love Amber

[@nowitchisanisland]

I'm so proud of you 💜 I had my suspicions, but didn't want to assume. It's so good to see you happier and thriving. Get it girl 💜

[@raelindashoates975]

As a mom with a 1 year old I completely get it! Being a mom with not much help at home and doing everything else too is no walk in a park. I’m glad you’re in a better place now!

[@Nikki...]

I did the same thing two years ago! I made sure everyone was good...then I choose me! The peace and healing I have experienced keeps confirming that I made the right choice! You look so much happier! Blessings to you and your girls❤❤

[@janaeradack3865]

Hey girl, I've been praying for you. I had a feeling about motherhood getting hard. I also have two, I think we were pregnant about the same time. My two are also about 4 years apart. And also trying to do a side hustle and keep my sanity. So yes, taking a break from things is necessary. Once the kids get a little more Independent, then it gets easier. My two are now almost 7 and 2.5, and I'm 36 and tired. But I am finally feeling I'm getting over that hump. I'm proud of you for coming back but I support any and everything you do. You choose you boo. I'll also say one of your videos were the reason I even attempted my side hustle and it's actually making something now. So thank you. Stay strong girl and stay positive ❤

[@lashailalevingston]

I pray things continue to get better for you and your family. Whenever you’re down turn to the Lord and allow him to comfort you. You look great! 💙

[@nibabi]

Glad to hear you’re taking care of yourself. Please have your thyroid checked if you haven’t already. Looking forward to more content from you.

[@alib8421]

This feels so strange for me to write but I am sure we are living parallel lives! I started following you years ago when I started my curly hair journey and you were the only youtuber I could find that had as much hair as me and a similar texture! I also had my first baby early 2020 and then I had my second at the end of 2022. Your story of losing yourself and finding yourself again resonates so much and I really appreciate you sharing. I struggled with the birth of my second and went on survival mode because I had no help. The doctor said it was depression but I know now it's because I was just so burnt out from caring for my babies basically by myself! I left my job last year and started a business but took a break from January up until about a week ago to recover and get my shit together and now I feel better than ever, but I still have further to go. I hope you continue on your journey and wish you all the best ❤

[@reginagordon4246]

I’m glad you took a break for your mental health. Everyone needs a break💕💕💕💕. You look good hun as always.

[@yesssanibelle]

Girl you look like you’ve leveled up infinitely! The glow is real and we all love you 💜 you got this

[@myshirayne2382]

Great to see you put you first. No more living a lie trying to justify staying with a deadbeat guy. When honestly everyone could already see the reality. You now appear to be healthy, gratified, and free.

[@MsRose00]

I’m glad you’re back Amber. You’re looking beautiful. Always take care of yourself emotionally and physically.

[@jackielee4207]

You look well rested, more attractive, that is not to say that you aren't attractive; but I am saying that a peace is coming thru the video and your peace is resonating. Keep up the good work and may God continue to bless you and your family.

[@CutiepieCaramel]

You look fabulous 👌🏽. I recall you saying you were essentially a single mompreneur, despite not being single. While that ticked me off for you, I was hoping that would improve. Post partum can last about 4 yrs, and you had your daughters closer together in time. Frankly, I'm impressed with your content, growth, and development considering all you were going through. I wish you success, health, happiness, and for you and your girls to be blessed 🙏🏽. Take your time and take care of YOU!

[@keepingitnatural7601]

I know you have been going through it, but you look really lovely. It’s a good to take a break sometimes. I had to do the same from work recently. The way I have felt relieved and I am a better person for it.

[@biekevanriel5231]

you look good lady,first you ,don't say sorry,bless❤ps:next time you feel it, dont push it ,and take a break,we will wait😘

[@LanaSummer]

Good to see you girl! Glad you're feeling better! xxx

[@brittneywillingham1944]

I’m so sorry you went through this.. I feel like a lot of mothers go through this, so much on our plates and we put ourselves on the back burner. I’m glad you were able to make the changes that needed to be made for your mental health! ❤

[@PricelessThatsMe]

Well Amen. You did it. I'm actually glad you showed the importance of choosing ones self for sanity.

[@ginafumi3010]

Hey girl! Great to see you ❤! Welcome back and blessings to you and your family 💕💕💕

[@AmberAnsah]

Thank you so much!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@reacharles631]

Girl do whatever you want we'll watch. So happy you're happy ❤

[@gatesfamily3470]

Wonderful testimony Amber 🙏🏾 New endeavors await you! We're looking forward to it & enjoy your content changing. Praises to The Most High Yahuah. 🙌🏾

[@daniellepeterson2232]

Praise God! It’s so nice to see you, and even better to hear that you’re doing well and healing ❤. I’m a mom as well and I had some similar experiences, but the bounce back is real girl and you’re amazing!!!!

[@mellissaantheaceres2444]

I was just thinking about you today. I accidentally opened KZbin and boom! Your video pops up and I’m happy to see that you are doing good girl! Thank you. You are the pick-me-up video I needed to see today. Love your growth❤

[@apara2005]

I feel like it's the year of mental health❤❤❤. Im happy you are in a better space.

[@aliyahp9969]

This woman is so sweet 😩 so fragile but so strong and being so vulnerable n raw at the same time 🙏🏽

[@ayedub7699]

You're Glow Up is immaculate! Glad you made time to heal. It's great to see you doing well. ❤❤❤

[@jaeshasway]

Putting yourself first is very cathartic and healing. You can’t be the best for your daughters if you don’t put yourself first. You look so refreshed and empowered. I’m really happy to see your shine. Stay Blessed. ♥️

[@nadinebrown989]

Wat ben ik blij om je weer online te zien. Het is goed dat je tijd voor jezelf heb genomen om aan jezelf te werken. Je bent een powervrouw vergeet dat nooit. Dikke knuffel❤

[@joandrammeh8911]

Amber, you're so fascinating. I appreciate your business savvy. It's not surprising that your down time is helping someone else build. Please provide more commentary showcasing your business brain on economics, finances, inflation, and the desire to build wealth.

[@vera_nika2]

Welcome back. We.care!

[@sashaperezofficial]

So glad you’re back

[@VickiewithanIE]

My girl Amber. So proud of you girl. You look amazing. Definitely glowing!!!!

[@destinystarr3837]

Happy that your'e in a healthier space now❤️ you should absolutely be proud of yourself.

[@xakitad]

Amber - This is such a relief to see. At a point I had to stop watching your videos because I could see and feel some of your pain and it would sadden me. So glad to see you so bright eyed and light in your spirit. Life will only continue to get better. 🙏🏽

[@oneisajoseph5410]

Girll!! Where u been!! I'm happy to see you. Also I'm glad you're going great , God has been good #selfcare❤

[@almaalma2876]

first i want to say that i really don't watch a lot of videos except for when it comes to hair. listening to you shows me that you anaylize yourself so honestly and you do it so candidly. It has to reach lots of people whether they have children or not. You also look amazing, healthy and still very pretty. You are correct, whatever you don't want to share is perfectly fine. I say whatever you're doing keep doing it and keep moving forward. Much love to you!

[@sandee1567]

Yah! Glad you are back and looking confident!

[@sb22443]

So glad to see you back Amber!! Missed you so proud you chose you and your health!

[@sweetcutey7318]

So happy for you!!! 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@breej69]

So glad you're happy. The girls are growing up so fast and keep pushing, growing, and inspiring.

[@faithmbasani462]

Working from home for some reason signals to the menzies that we aren’t busy…smh. Glad you’re doing better

[@menamohd3827]

Love you from egypt !❤️ welcome back

[@vickyjohnson7172]

God is Good. All the Time💫 Happy to see you, again❣️

[@torevolutionize]

Welcome back girl ! Nothing is more important than taking care of your mental health : everything flows from there. Blessings on blessings on you and your family from a fellow Belgian guuurl

[@dellasmith7292]

Glad to see you again ! ❤

[@_caram_]

I pray that you and any other Mothers who are having a difficult time. Stay strong and hold on. It may take some time however, there is light at the end of the tunnel. ❤️🙏🏼

[@BionAvastar3000]

You look SO much better. Glad to see you again!

[@seanedelvalle2534]

I have watched you for years. First, I am so proud of you. You are an inspiration. I cannot wait to hear the knowledge you will provide beyond hair!

[@judybanas7788]

Congratulations on choosing you! We are thrilled you’re back. ❤

[@StinaB9]

Girl. When I say I so feel you on this!!

[@catherinezenovich5483]

Glad to see you are back. You can see that you are feeling well in your face, looking great!! Absolutely the right decision to step back and focus on yourself and your wee family. Much better to have energy to spend on your children and yourself. Men definitely don't get it. I'm sure my husband thought that I had plenty of leisure time because all I was doing was household stuff. He had no idea! Very hard to function well on broken sleep. No matter how tired or sick you are, Mums have to do whats needed. So, I'm so pleased to see you looking and feeling more energised.

[@eb1402]

Gal, congratulations on choosing your. ❤

[@laneecemckerry4022]

Take the time you need girl❤

[@itsTiffsLife]

I’m happy for you ❤

[@yoly8579]

Welcome back I've missed your videos so glad to see your doing better

[@CraftPlanTeachRepeat]

Good for you girl! You look well. As a mom of twins who are 15 now I learned many years ago you have to take care of you or you have nothing to give to your babies. So you do what you have to do. I’m glad to see you back on the tube!😊

[@efhawkins19]

You look amazing. So good to see you. This is what they call LIFE. Keep taking those breaks, when you need them. Right now you have a full plate, so do what you need to, and keep moving. Peace and blessings to you.

[@NerdyMaiden]

Welcome back. ❤

[@ItsLondon5]

Door open hair model💎💎💎😌😌😌 You Look STUNNING TAKE IT EASY GOD BLESS CONGRATS

[@NaturallyFreckled]

🎉❤ loved this video! So happy for you Amber! Your glowing and your an inspiration to us all!

[@solitairesmith3553]

Love you Missed you Glad to see you back HAPPY YOU ARE HAPPY 😊 😃 😀 😄 We all been there

[@LaudenElizabeth]

Congrats on the life upgrades

[@vennettegloud3128]

You look amazing. Even your color is shining through from beneath. Our skin is the largest organ we have and it is tell tale! Thank you, even though there are some hurtful situations in your story, you still manage to keep it positive! Even in my advanced years I am learning from you! You are a 🪙 treasure and you can be my niece anytime! ❤🎉💐 Welcome back!

[@evem620]

Girl you are everything 🙌

[@Davis-carmencita]

I'm glad you took a break from KZbin but I'm glad that you're back hope everything is going well 🙏❤

[@LadybugLuv]

Hallo, ik ben dit aan het vertalen naar het Nederlands. Ik hoop dat het goed vertaald wordt. Ik ben zo blij om te zien dat het zo goed met je gaat.

[@AmberAnsah]

Awww dankjewel! ❤️🥺

[@sarahb6758]

You're such a beautiful person, inside and out ❤

[@carolannspence8057]

Welcome back ❤It’s great you chose yourself to recharge. Your wellbeing is important 😊. You’re looking well and glowing.

[@lu-cycreations5291]

So glad you are ok and you took the time to put yourself first.

[@pynklion]

Hey girl ❤ Missed yah, can't wait to see more hair vids or whatever you choose to do. Mental health is very important. Go job on choosing you ❤

[@moviesovermatterproductions]

Glad you took time for you🙏🏾 you look very well🌹👏🏾 taking care of YOU is so very important.

[@evem620]

Girl when we used to live in communities a mother would have so much assistance from her friends and family. There’s a reason why they say it takes a village to raise a child

[@msquitta84]

This is very vulnerable of you but very wonderful that you talked about this. It's definitely important to look at and take care of yourself. So many people do not talk about this especially being a new parent and working/owning a business. I'm happy you're feeling better and you've made the changes you've made. You are an inspiration.

[@carlamatthew3681]

Good mental health is key. We gotta take care of ourselves and im glad that you recognized that you needed a break and actually took the time to focus on yourself. And your face shows the healing. Your face is bright and your energy is definitwly back. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@JazzWife]

You look good ad sound good. What a breakthrough! You needed the break.

[@chrissyofoldstones3210]

You look rejuvenated and refreshed! We missed you sis ♥️

[@knitone2312]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾happy to hear your back. Congratulations on putting yourself first. One day at a time.

[@darryl-kelly115]

Welcome back I missed your videos

[@NunyaBness]

Welp. Men ain’t shi. Respectfully. 😬

[@Whimswirl]

Yep, unfortunately a lot of married women (if not most) can relate to her experience.

[@tabithathewholistic]

It's not all men, but it seems like the majority are sincerely lacking.

[@faifantc6308]

Welcome back! I'm rooting for you!!!!

[@ShadesofSage]

Can relate as a mom of 5 littles and a content creator also! I’m sorry you had those experiences 😞. Glad to see you and I pray you and your family will continue to do well 🙏🏿🙏🏿! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️! P. S.- The hair is HAIRING 💃🏿😍🥰!

[@ShellyMichele]

WooHoo, so happy that you chose YOU...hmmm, I quit my job yesterday because I was so tired of coming home late And frustrated...I'd just had enough..I don't think they believed that I was leaving, like I was asked by the owner, is today really your last day...Ha...anyways, I'm happy to say your beautiful face and I'm so very happy that you worked through it and are here with good spirits and looking gooooooooood...welcome back!!

[@selahplace9872]

Congratulations on putting yourself first . Its so important for mental health. ❤️