I'm £46,000 In Debt | FULL EPISODE | Spendaholics

[@flowerpower1054]

Worst attitude ever. Especially for someone who is that far in debt. Keep spending girl, you can look down on the “regular people” as they come and foreclose on your house.

[@jebsmith323]

or arrest her. Can they still do that?

[@CraftyWitch1990]

@@jebsmith323 not sure. But what they can do is send the bailiffs round to take back all the pretty things she hasn't yet paid for plus stuff she has fully paid for and they'll be sold at auction to recoup her debt

[@Sacheen81]

And drag her mother and husband down with her...

[@betsymartin4709]

A snooty madam who is as common as muck .

[@katemiller7874]

Betsy - she’s not common she’s gorgeous

[@lissyplusrats8287]

I wish they'd stop referring to her snobbish pathetic behaviour as a phobia.

[@finickityreader5274]

"An extreme or irrational aversion." I mean, it fits.

[@katemiller7874]

Well now you have fat phobic what’s the difference. Anything can be a phobia now

[@railwaychristina3192]

Cold eyes...she is her mother's daughter. Inherited violent temper. My least favourite spendaholic.

[@MarkAnthonySmith-df1jw]

Awful individual needs a bite of a reality sandwich I love charity shops and Vinted.

[@Kindcaringsoulgentle]

Yeh it's simple ignorance.

[@susieelainesmith3134]

It "makes her feel sick" to even go near a store for regular people? Who does this woman think she is? There is something seriously wrong with her.

[@hautecouture2228]

These is thread in all the spendaholic episodes. They are all very narcissistic and completely deluded . They feel entitled to spend someone elses money . There is no cure for NPD or any other cluster B personality disorder but I don’t see Benjamin Fry addressing this in any of the epiisodes

[@Theaterfreak]

@@hautecouture2228 I think he would only focus on things that could be changed or addressed. Also, as with any reality TV, I suspect what they both could actually do and address was tailored by the production.

[@krbrandt82]

@anabela B there is pretty limited evidence for treatment of personality disorders into complete remission. The nature of NPD is that people don’t think they have a problem. BPD can be helped by DBT and sometimes medications. They call him a “psychological coach” because he’s not a treating psychologist who is formally diagnosing. I’m not saying these people don’t possibly have these highly dysfunctional personality disorders but I don’t think we are given enough evidence to make that conclusion. I’m a psychiatrist btw.

[@theboujieproletariat]

@@krbrandt82 I’m with you Kim. I’m a therapist. I’ve watched most of this series as many of my clients are in debt so it’s interesting. Some of the people on this show went on to be on a show “Spendaholics saved my life” a few years later and had no long term problem, didn’t get into debt again. I think OP has noticed that some Spendaholics have some narcissistic traits, and some people w BPD sometimes have impulse control issues... and jumped to a conclusion

[@SummeRain783]

@@hautecouture2228 I disagree that most are narcissistic. I think many are addicts and many of their symptoms are similar to those of narcissists. So I can see how someone would be mistaken. Addicts will lie, manipulate, get aggressive even when someone gets in the way of their addiction. It’s pretty sad actually

[@chickenbonejohn714]

"I won't use public transport out of principle - I don't like it". That's the level of thinking this young woman had. No wonder she was declared bankrupt.

[@katemiller7874]

Same. I like my car

[@suilvenmountain2395]

cycling is not free, you need to buy tyres and lights

[@matthewshippin8156]

How do you know she went bankrupt?

[@sssoundslike2259]

@Matthew Shippin Her debt is nearly twice her annual income, she is bankrupt. Whether she technically files for “bankruptcy” is a different argument but for all intents and purposes, she is bankrupt.

[@sarahissersohn5495]

Okay, but also, riding public transport as a young woman does really really suck. It’s exhausting to have to be on guard the entire time, while having to deal w/ men thinking you owe them your attention and your phone number. Pretty big range of options though, between driving a Mercedes and using public transport

[@Ali-fq3nz]

The irony that her designer label clothes are probably made in the same sweatshop as Primark or Peacocks clothes..🙄

[@ilovewhiteflowers]

Nah she’s my “auntie” and she says primark is too good for her 🙄

[@eileenoneill1805]

@@ilovewhiteflowers has she changed at all

[@ilovewhiteflowers]

@@eileenoneill1805 nope 🙄she uses other people’s money and says she’s a ghost reader and does readings for money which never happen

[@ben_jamin4529]

@@ilovewhiteflowers yikes she seems like a pretty entitled person

[@ilovewhiteflowers]

@@ben_jamin4529 Lol

[@pearshapedeve]

Last week I bought a navy 100% wool second hand jumper at a charity shop for £10. So many people gave me compliments since, that it’s a fab jumper and it suits me well. It has kept me warm on wet cold days too. It’s brilliant 🤩 You don’t need expensive stuff to look and feel good.

[@dimif5216]

You're absolutely right. I also got a fashionable mohair cardigan for 20 euros from a second-hand shop in Belgium, and people stopped me in the street to ask me where I got it. I understand saving for one better quality thing instead of tens of cheaper ones, but that girl is downright spoiled.

[@imalrockme]

She's not even saving, she's making her family pay for her stuff.@@dimif5216

[@user-zu7hw4kz3g]

@crescent8567 same, best deals

[@URFUTUREUK]

🥱

[@eleanorferguson3421]

How on earth does she manage to hold down a job working with vulnerable kids when she can't control her temper??

[@grandmaheidi5757]

AMEN!

[@katemiller7874]

Some have patients with kids. That’s not new

[@becibabe7364]

@@katemiller7874*patience Obviously you failed English miserably lol 😆

[@CharlieOnRobloxYT]

@@becibabe7364 she might be a part time doctor too 😂

[@deborahcurtis1385]

@@katemiller7874 Patience with kids. Patients are in hospital.

[@BB87Rufio]

She owes her mum 23k and she pays her back £20 a month that’s an absolute disgrace

[@Cheirosa81]

98 years 😮.

[@daCubanaqt]

Don’t lend money to others if you want it back!!

[@miaomiaou_]

@@daCubanaqt I wonder why her mother gave her the money? Did her mom pay off some of her debts for her?

[@sproutsrevil6508]

She’s a disgrace. Spending all that on clothes. No compromise. Her brat attack and swearing over the white t shirts was appalling. Her poor mother.

[@lmusima3275]

It would take a century to repay all that debt. By then none of them would be around

[@sunnysunshine6271]

She's not the brightest bulb in the box. You are not individually dressed sweetheart- you look like the rest on the streets.

[@brianrodney712]

When she was with a few of her female friends, I noticed that they all looked alike, with exactly the same hair-style.

[@AB-qo2xq]

@@EchoDissolve Harsh.

[@colinjava8447]

@@brianrodney712 The thing is, I don't really think men care what women are wearing, so maybe it just makes her feel more superior over other women. That's fine if you like to feel like that, but probably not worth £46,000

[@margotdenise5091]

What a useless, mean comment. Speaks volumes about your personality.

[@2005Pandy]

@@margotdenise5091 I don't think it speaks anything about OP's personality. The girl in this episode really is quite unpleasant.

[@liselottenormannsrensen7867]

So entertaining to watch someone being poor, rude and a snob😂😂

[@yukisuperstylish]

I have the opposite phobia, I feel uncomfortable when I see luxurious designers shops. I would never ever sit my feet in there. I feel they'll judge my cheap clothes

[@teresse2742]

Not all sales people at luxury shops are like that (some definitelly are though). I am very frugal and get most of my stuff in second hand stores (some of those are designer ofc, but still outdated in professional's eye I think) and on sales, yet when I bought my designer bag as a treat for achieving milestone I set for myself, everyone at the store was very nice to me and we even chatted about where I thrifted my designer coat haha. Where I think most of sales staff at these shops would start judging you is if you started to just rummage around their products and gave the impression that you are not a serious buyer. I bought 4 more designer items after that and every time it was a super pleasant experience so I'd say that as long as you are there to spend money, they will treat you nice and with respect most of the time. :-) However, completely different thing is that you may feel weird and like you don't fit in, but that is something that no sales person can change because it is your personal insecurity (been there too and it changed when I challenged myself to stop using makeup on my acne prone skin and learnt that 90% of the strangers won't even notice, let alone give you weird looks or comments).

[@SuperJajaco]

I drop dead before going to H & M

[@janebaker4912]

@@SuperJajaco is h and m a posh place ?

[@janebaker4912]

I feel bad spending any money. I've been poor and hungry once.

[@SuzylondonUK]

why do people think cheap is bad..... its a sad way of thinking- luxurious are only ripping you off.... should do ecommerce shop online- you wanna start a brand? half of the clothes come from 'cheap' China... they stick your label on- and Voila! Charge what you want

[@mirandaschalen]

I really feel that the parents in most of these episodes should have a reality check as wel! Close your shop, walk out on the street to give your daughter money because she can't stand second hand goods? What a joke!

[@Galworld761]

My mom would have smacked the stupid out of me...

[@r.brooks5287]

You're right. If we ever borrowed money from our parents as children, we had to pay it back. Borrow meant borrow, not give, even if it was 5p. My sister thought this was petty. We've never earned much but as adults neither of us have ever had any problems staying within our budgets.

[@skuld02]

her “secondhand shops fobia” is like slap in the face for her mother,so sad.

[@greenkitty82]

Yes there is nothing wrong with second hand, its a conditioned belief given to young people off celebrities and pop culture. That second hand makes you look poor instead of it being better for the environment. To them its an insult to their ego. The trouble is its all in the upbringing, if the child is allowed to get away with certain behaviours they will act that way in adulthood and it seems like she has been pampered as a child and just given things when she wants them.

[@Clairebonita777]

Her mum is to blame no doubt. Shes afraid of getting her angry. What a terribly spoilt girl.

[@WillowJordan1979]

Saying "stick it up your arse" on camera to someone who's trying to help her. Wow. I would be so ashamed if I were her, but apparently she thinks this kind of behaviour is normal.

[@Kindcaringsoulgentle]

Because she's gone unchallenged all her life.

[@munhl]

Wears designer clothes, but has 4 bald tyres in her front garden, says it all really.

[@gemmastaines5706]

That’s exactly what I thought! Her house isn’t that “expensive” looking, its not decked out in fashionable furniture or decor and the discarded tyres show she’s not bothered by what her home looks like, but her physical appearance is her only concern

[@5340robert]

Why didn't she sell the old alloys ? Fair enough they wouldn't have been worth big money but it all helps.

[@dianethompson2458]

This is unbelievable. She is violent selfish and uses her widowed mother as a bank machine. The amount of clothes that she owns means she could literally not buy another thing for a very long time. I would never allow her to be near children. She needs help. A therapist and medication would be a great start. I feel sorry for her husband.

[@lvega5606]

I agree. Some kind of mood stabilizer and maybe a tranquilizer for when she becomes especially enraged.

[@MarkAnthonySmith-df1jw]

Yeah. Give the marriage a very short run, he can do better

[@ctyra1]

This makes me sad. Mum has dental issues so bad I wonder how she can eat, yet she's forking over $ to this selfish daughter, who's just commented on how a weekend at a Spa has made her reflect...

[@suilvenmountain2395]

'to buy a coat i'd have to save for 5 months' yeah lots of people have to do that

[@janebaker4912]

I feel so sad that this woman is married. But not only is she dragging him down, but the mother as well!

[@loiscassels8966]

Jane Baker I can’t even imagine how much her wedding cost.

[@jeanettemaclean3930]

I wonder if she's still married...

[@URFUTUREUK]

Don't be jealous.

[@janebaker4912]

@@URFUTUREUK jealous of debt?

[@URFUTUREUK]

@@janebaker4912 you're jealous she's married. Why you mentioning that 😆

[@alisonbryant5799]

"It makes me feel sick" as they approach Peacocks. Love, your DEBT and spending habits should make you feel sick.

[@anniespencer7879]

Now to me that is a mental health issue. That's a compulsion. She does need to change her habits but doesn't need people sneering at her.

[@Ali-fq3nz]

Makes you wonder how she got the credit to run up that sort of debt in the first place...

[@stefancoban59]

@@Ali-fq3nz about half of her debt is to her mother

[@Ali-fq3nz]

@@stefancoban59 Even so it’s still around £23000 all those years ago.. The world is crazy!

[@danar6813]

So, she throws a fit and lashes out at the people trying to help her and then they reward her inexcusable behavior with a trip to a spa! 🤦 She's acting like a child. Bad behavior does not get rewarded.

[@exantiuse497]

I'm pretty sure the spa visit was scripted in advance, and they had to give it to her because it was in the script, they didn't expect her to behave like that

[@cafsixtieslover]

When they say "if I don't shop what would I do" then you know they have no outside interests and that is a big problem.

[@sunnyday157]

Yeah, her life is meaningless

[@carolspencer468]

Thanks so much for uploading! Shes a spoilt little madam with a ton of issues.

[@traciforsythe4362]

Just shows she can buy cheap tat as well doesn’t it

[@anniespencer7879]

You're a judgemental prig who can't see bryond the end of their nose.

[@Gmoviesmoothie]

0:22 I enjoy helping people *has phobia setting foot in charity shops

[@teagenthetiefling5296]

I suspect it’s because she feels charity items break or degrade quickly when what’s she’s craving is permanence and a long term escape from her feelings.

[@BlackNight603]

Do they really have to look at her undies and show them on TV?

[@janedoe133]

BlackNight603 I agree. I thought that was disrespectful and completely unrelated to the programme.

[@AndreyaWryght]

It's so cringy, the guy struggled 😂

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

@@AndreyaWryght His reaction was priceless lol

[@anyexpat]

That was take 3, first 2 takes he sniffed them

[@vondahe]

It was worse than that. They were tumbling through what they later called her “play drawer.” One can only guess what else was in there...!

[@SuzylondonUK]

omg paying your mum back 20 a month??? get a grip!!!

[@mdx7460]

While spending 2800 on shit

[@Jdjustsaying]

She makes me wonder what kind of help she would be to vulnerable youth🥺

[@sallyball4813]

They say money doesn’t buy class, unfortunately it hasn’t helped this girl at all

[@daCubanaqt]

She borrowing from her mother and using credit. That does not equal having money to me. She’s in debt up to her eye balls, she doesn’t have money.

[@europamacmillan9498]

What about taking the 200 from the sale of her tires and giving it to her mom to pay her back

[@susanjensen4678]

Exactly! I was waiting for that until the last second.

[@MTCoblivsicas12345]

£20 a month wtf??? 98 years to get the money back. She basically spent her dad's inheritance.

[@randysmith7189]

I think she knows that she is not going to pay it back while her mama's is alive

[@exantiuse497]

@Randy Smith Her mom's dead and she filed for bankrupty. This show is 15 years old

[@jebsmith323]

@@exantiuse497 Wow. Poor mom. Thank you for the update.

[@lilmizzije]

@@exantiuse497 omg bankruptcy??

[@SummeRain783]

@@exantiuse497 who? Her or the mother??

[@vickistevenson9521]

Rude, immature, selfish, clueless, childish - leave her to continue spending money she doesn't have on overpriced clothing.

[@christinebeames2311]

Vicki Stevenson she is stealing , as she will go bankrupt and pay no one

[@debrawoodside4765]

She is going to crash, burn and ruin her credit at some point, she is only 25. Her debts will catch up to her......

[@DLM440]

Vicki Stevenson YEEES VICKI

[@moogdome2562]

Who the hell dragged her up.

[@selfridgesforever4399]

Having a breakdown over a primark t shirt, never in my life 🤣🤣🤣

[@Kindcaringsoulgentle]

This could be behavioural or a mental health challenge or even a disability. Remember not to judge too much.

[@siqiuyou8355]

I like how she thinks she is a princess that only deserves the expensive things but can’t afford anything in reality

[@angelwings1]

Can’t stand this girl. She doesn’t take her debt seriously. I feel sorry for her mother. She’ll never see her money ever again. Can’t believe she shuts up shop to go see her daughter, because her daughter is such a big snob, she won’t set foot in a charity shop! Get lost! 🤬

[@vsmith4710]

She comments she's not going to lowering herself or compromise on the cost of her clothes but she is willing to drain her poor mom from her retirement money ? 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@carolannemckenzie3849]

I agree. It's vile. Her poor mum never even reached retirement. She died following a stroke at the age of 59 in 2012. Probably never got her money back either. The spendaholic daughter declared bankruptcy in 2019.

[@grandmaheidi5757]

@@carolannemckenzie3849 - It's terrible to say but she probably got the rest of he mom's money after she died, which let her keep spending. Finally, when mom could no longer bail her out, she had no choice but to declare bankruptcy. Frankly, I'm surprised she put it off as long as she did. God might strike me down for saying this, but I wish she would've had to do it years before she did, so she might suffer sooner.

[@jeanettemaclean3930]

@29:00 she totally loses it when it's brought to home that the "expensive" £40 T-shirt she wants to buy and wear might not be as exclusive as she thinks. lol ps thanks for the updates below. I'd be mortified being declared bankrupt, but TBH with her attitude, I am not surprised she ended up there.

[@cocodakilla]

Poor mum. I doubt this person fixed up. She's the rudest out of all of these episodes.

[@alittlepieceofearth]

Why isn't the psychologist asking more questions about her pronounced aversion to poverty? She won't go into a thrift store and is too good to use public transit? But she works with troubled youth? What kind of message does that send the kids that she is working with who likely come from impoverished homes? And How does this nose-in-the-air attitude affect her spending?

[@pollyrg97]

My understanding is that he isn't a qualified psychologist. His job appears to be to offer tea, sympathy, and endless justifications for their poor financial decisions, rather than actually challenge them in any way.

[@CraftyWitch1990]

@@pollyrg97 correct. He isn't a psychologist. He has zero qualifications to be able to hand out therapy. In other episodes of the show, he's referred to as a self help author and entrepeneur.

[@littleblackcar]

Yeah, this show is not serious enough for that.

[@MrsEJV]

@@CraftyWitch1990 He actually is a trained psychotherapist in the UK - Oxford and Eaton and comes from a wealthy family. His mother died when he was 11 months old. By 30 he was a millionaire then had an emotional breakdown and considered suicide. He ended up being treated in the US and opened two clinics in the UK. He is fully qualified but the titles are different than the US.

[@katyr2382]

@@MrsEJV He went to Eton school (as child) then Oxford yes, but not to study psychology

[@LisaMarie-xp4ym]

You can be poor and still have taste and style, I know people who have millions that haven’t a clue how to dress and I know people who live on a budget and look absolutely amazing. It’s also how you carry yourself and your confidence makes a lot of difference. To me she doesn’t look unique, individual and doesn’t seem to be a head turner or stand out from the crowd. I can’t judge though as I don’t know her and to do this would be wrong - I hope it get’s sorted. Charity shops are the best though because you get that individuality that no body has....

[@JehanineMelmoth]

Definitely. She just loads herself with expensive things as if that will make her stylish. It doesn’t. She’s wasting her money.

[@carolinireland1684]

As a mental health professional, I disagree with the “sample sale” philosophy. It’s rather like telling an alcoholic they can drink as much beer as they’d like, as long as they don’t drink spirits. Alcohol is alcohol and addiction is addiction.

[@HaFannyHa]

I often walk through a famous luxury department store, just to ask myself if I would ever buy really high-end items. I'm happy to walk straight through and reject it all! I'm just not attracted to any of it. I'm a former shopaholic and I once had extraordinary debt which I fought to sort out. This woman's phobia of cheap stores is truly disturbing, as is her view on public transport - no wonder she got in so deep.

[@AnaPaula-kq9wt]

It is so weird that she cannot enter in cheap stores but she also cannot afford expensive clothes 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[@theyjustwantyourmoney4539]

Her £46 000 in debt makes me feel like I'm debt free

[@TheNadinucca]

Honestly, her debt is not far from what I have left of my mortgage!

[@whynotnow9618]

That's bull...If she couldn't meet me in the shop to get the money, she wouldn't be getting it, then.

[@TheSmokey1523]

How can she spend so much money on clothes and still looks so plebeian?

[@globalmuffin2]

she looks ok in my book. she's pretty.

[@truebluewonderful]

@@globalmuffin2 She has an arrogant look on her face. That's never pretty.

[@zuzanaxyz8866]

Tara Wong It’s not possible to buy style or a good taste with money... I remember this episode from years ago in TV, she’s just living in her fantasy bubble, thinking that pricier clothes always needs to look better. But when the clothes wears you and not you wear the clothes, this is how you end up - with a uniform of jeans and black tops, losing yourself in the grey masses anyway. The sad truth is, that she wants to stand out, but just looks like a plain Jane anyway. Getting some exciting thrifted, good quality clothes and personal style would help her to look different in a good way.

[@TheSmokey1523]

@@zuzanaxyz8866 Yes she has so many clothing options and only chooses to wear the same average looking outfits as everyone else, that it would not have necessitated buying anything designer labeled anyway. That's why it's a waste. It's kind of showing a bit of lack of creativity really. It's like she just assumes because there is a designer label on it, the garment should automatically be "better" regardless of the actual merits of the object itself. There is a lack of analysis required for determining cost per wear and improvement of overall appearance. Also she literally had five pairs of the same shoe to do different things in but to the world it would look like she only had that one shoe so it kind of defeats the purpose of her wanting to appear special and unique.

[@TheSmokey1523]

@@globalmuffin2 yes I agree, her physical appearance is quite pretty. I was only saying that her wardrobe which is very expensive was not that distinguishably better than everyone else's given the amount of money that was spent on it. If casual chic was the style that she was going for, it was possible to spend less with better results. Her girlfriends for example looked quite nice actually.

[@lacey3905]

Hello 👋 from 🇺🇸 I just want to say i really enjoy watching this show it helps me not spend so much money and really think about the important and useful things that you need in your life I have an addiction to buying anything especially clothing or makeup and skincare. I would really enjoy see a show like this in the USA i know there is millions of people out there that are in alot of debt and they just don't want to admit it. Thank you for helping me im very grateful and thankful..

[@grandmaheidi5757]

Impressive attitude to have! :-)

[@gazman2626]

I recommend bank of mum and dad too.

[@JehanineMelmoth]

I recommend Till Debt do Us Part.

[@CattyWilliams]

American corporations would see that this show was cancelled ASAP, because they need the consumer to be uneducated so that they spend spend spend. I'm not even kidding, dim bulbs fuel the American economy. The amount of clearly scammy companies that are out here making so much money, and a show that them think about their spending would be a disaster for American companies. Car shield, balance of nature, Farmer's d0g, granite steel, and so many more scammy companies.

[@tickleditchett]

Depressing thought that the clothes in the cupboard are likely in a charity shop by now and virtually have no value

[@fly89]

most of the people in this show found their way and back on track. because they were just ignorant to money management. This girl is arrogant, that is why she didn’t make it.

[@knowitall3503]

I remember this episode, this programme should be revived. I speak to so many work colleagues who are shockingly shite with money, eg, one of them has spent £13k over their working years on subway lunches ,they've not been working that long - they're in their twenties. It's interesting how she has a strop when it's pointed out the T shirts are pretty much the same - just a bit shallow if you ask me - fur coat, no knickers. Too many people are like that - fed by the media, Joey Essex wannabes! Stop world I want to get off.

[@miaomiaou_]

Damn I’m impressed that someone can eat that much Subway

[@knowitall3503]

@@miaomiaou_ 😄, it's true, £10 every day between Greggs and Subway. Financial madness.

[@emilyroberts3832]

"A bit mean" to ask her to try not spending 700 pounds a week? Jesus Christ, that's almost half my monthly income in a single week on useless crap. She makes me want to stick to my budget better!

[@CraftyWitch1990]

£700 is my entire month's income. I've no debt and own my own home as well. She's just a frilly muppet that needs to grow up and learn some responsibility

[@littleblackcar]

That's a lot more than I make a week before taxes, at a full-time job that requires a college degree.

[@CraftyWitch1990]

@@littleblackcar ridiculous isn't it?

[@AnnaCN78456]

I don’t earn that in a week lol

[@AnnaCN78456]

@@CraftyWitch1990 exactly the only difference for me is I don’t own a home had health issues and that didn’t allow me to own a home which is fine and I do spend in clothing but I buy it on sale… and don’t pretend to be what Im not

[@danyetmaybe9169]

Can you imagine the meltdown these people had during the lockdown?

[@aimeelatimer569]

Eee

[@coolrunnings3]

No, online shopping is still there.

[@Sacheen81]

She would have been thrilled- she loves shopping online. 🥴

[@imalrockme]

She thrived in a Uber world.

[@shygondry2789]

i lovee recycling clothes, and making clothes too. its amazing for the environment and you can make clothes that you actually love not just a copy and paste of someone else in the street

[@gillsteele]

Her mum doesn’t have to close her shop she doesn’t have to give her the money!

[@momof2momof2]

I think pawing through her private drawer was wrong. We already know she is in debt, without going through things like that. I'm not defending her behavior or debt, but come on, her private drawer is just that.....private.

[@RubyWestDawson]

Yeah, that makes me uncomfortable, too. There are just some places that shouldn't be looked at. Also, broadcasting that for millions of people to see is humiliating!

[@Danielle22650]

If you want to spend a lot you gotta make a lot!

[@prayersoflight5510]

I think they went too far when they started pulling out her underwear. Thats none of their business.

[@angelwings1]

That therapist saying, I bet her husband likes it. Creepy.

[@susanjensen4678]

@@angelwings1 Yes. He did seem to fancy her a bit as well

[@betsymartin4709]

They would have got permission .

[@Jdjustsaying]

I found it unnecessary and this therapist is creepy.

[@katemiller7874]

He’s a man. He’s going to like a pretty girl

[@tanyafedchyshyna2160]

For someone with a minimal salary she's got quite expensive taste. My salary is almost twice as her and there is no way I can blow a thousand in one day. And I help my parents. I could never take money from my parents. And I know what's it like to have a sick parent since forever. She cultivated this bratty persona that is alergic to regular shops and doesn't understand that most of the high end stuff are made with the same fabric.

[@plerpplerp5599]

Debt is what is keeping consumption ticking over and propping up the UK economy. It always has been.

[@loulou7963]

Wait what ? She won’t enter the charity shop and makes her mother come out to give her money ? W. T. A. F. 🙄👎 grow up you silly cow. Stick her out to live homeless for 7 days. She might shape up then.

[@shangreer9060]

It’s her mother’s fault. You think any child of mine in 47k debt would be borrowing money from me?? NEVA!!!

[@leanneferris7744]

This was filmed in 2003, FYI I think the time for lectures has long gone !!

[@loulou7963]

Leanne Ferris I don’t care if it was filmed 2000 bc ! Who on earth does she think she is ! And I definitely blame for mother for encouraging such ridiculous behaviour. 🙄🙄🙄

[@wenblue1753]

Poor attitude! Totally faking it! Acting like you have money, when the reality is you have debt! Stop the credit!

[@greenkitty82]

@butterbread1000 I did feel it was quite arrogant and disrespectful of her to say she wouldnt wear cheaper clothes just to keep massaging her ego with designer clothes. Theres many people out there whose only option is to buy cheap clothing and nobody is looking at what you are wearing. Its just a foolish way to think as if she doesnt change she would just be racking up more debt to be something she can't afford to be. Its this deluded view that in order to feel important you need expensive but desire in the end will just make you suffer.

[@liscatcat8756]

I have a phobia of designer shops, I can only shop in charity shops . I can't stand rows and rows of the same thing where is the individuality? I love living sustainable with my own style :) Her attitude is disgusting and working with vulnerable young adults is very disturbing ...

[@AnnaCN78456]

I wish my country had more charity shops they are scarce here 😣

[@ali-eve4279]

Ali’s cookie cutter fashion means she looks like so many people.. an imagination and a thrift shop will give you an original look. A lot of the high end shops are not that much better in quality that’s why a preloved piece will last

[@katemiller7874]

She’s gorgeous and looks like a model. She doesn’t look like e dry one else quit putting her down. Thrift shops are gross

[@carriedudley8593]

​@@katemiller7874she does not look like a model, and even if she did, why does she have to look down her nose at the more affordable shops? If she was earning the salary of a successful model, then fair enough, but she isn't. If she wants Designer pieces then she should save up for them, otherwise get off your high horse and 'slum' it like the rest of us! As for 'thrift' shops, they're called charity shops in England, I.e. the money goes to help a needy cause. One can find Designer clothes at bargain prices. Also, expensive brands don't equal style or good taste. Her outfits are so boring.

[@blane2472]

If I have to hear her claim to have a phobia for cheap stores one more time... Just say you think you need the expensive stuff to feel good, don't pretend like you have a serious illness.

[@darkchurchhill]

Why is it so hard for you to believe her phobia is real? People are traumatized by even weirder stuff. It's like the guy said going into discount shops breaks her fantasy that she isn't rich and is actually seriously in debt. If i had that much debt I would be scared as shit too, and do everything to pretend it doesn't exist.

[@Scarletandgray1870]

Now knowing these shows are so old, I wonder what they are like now? Wish they had updates

[@boostmeup]

@@CleanTeamSolutions lol well she had debts to pay

[@fly89]

mom passed away on 2012. She declared bankruptcy on feb 2019.

[@CraftyWitch1990]

@@fly89 she's also now working as a "psychic medium" fleecing people out of their hard earned cash with a scam

[@janicewolk6492]

Is she still married? Any kids?

[@gemmastaines5706]

A quick Google search showed some sort of issue with an IVF clinic that lost her embryos back in 2011

[@bunacat1]

Can't walk into a cheaper store because of her "phobia" and only buys designer everything? She craves attention more than anything else.

[@muaythaigal9987]

So she's a snob then? Point taken. At least I don't have 46,000 pounds in debt sitting here in my 5 pound shirt 😂

[@MCLamb1984]

It’s got nothing to do with her father. It’s to do with growing up with no money. She wants to look like she’s well off. It’s a simple as that

[@imalrockme]

Yes, but the therapist allways wants a deeper and more glamorous explanation or root cause.

[@CKVampyre]

I also heard something like growing up poor you don't care if you spend everything because you're used to doing it tough

[@kezzokav5905]

It's most definitely not as simple as that. Your ignorance is showing.

[@bdina29]

All this money for stuff that a few years later is totally worthless .

[@dude988]

Like most of the things you buy, so what's your solution? Not buying anything nice at all?

[@dude988]

@Victoria oh hun, I don't buy crap. But even expensive things like furniture, electronics, even cars will break down eventually and become worthless. So I either buy cheap things often or expensive things less often. Not having things because they might break is stupid. Don't have kids or pets then, they might die. Don't have friends, they might leave, don't have a partner, they will leave you. ... Who really cares if things might become worthless in a few years? That's what money is for. Buying things that spread happiness.

[@dude988]

@Victoria Nah, I just like aguing with toddlers like you. It's fun, because they (you) don't have arguments but start crying, repeating themselves and then try to insult the grown ups. But nice to see that you consider a car and electronics as 'essential things you need for survival'. Not just stupid but spoiled as well.

[@dude988]

@Victoria I mentioned cars and electronics. Twice. Can you read? And understand what is written? Not just repeat the same thing over and over again. And now you are even trying to change what you are saying by giving it a different meaning. The original comment I am referring to says "all this money for stuff that a few years later is totally worthless". Like eveything in life. I have no idea why you suddenly try to change what Dina said to "don't spend money you don't have on things you don't need". That is something completely different. Did you just realized that you are wrong? Oh honey, that's not a problem. When you grow up you'll be able to read and comprehend comments. Until then stay away from the keyboard and go play with your dolls.

[@rachelhannan5949]

“I won’t use public transport, out of principle”!! yet you’ll cycle five miles. What principle? that it is sane and economical.

[@anyexpat]

I agree with her, hate public transport, never take it, would also walk or cycle 5 miles rather than take a bus

[@loiscassels8966]

rachel hannan What a stuck up bitch.

[@BlanceDevereaux]

I'd cycle 5 miles instead of a bus too, in a heartbeat. That's only about 30 mins, is free and environmentally friendly. The bus, with all the stops and traffic, would be the same thing. Nothing wrong with that. In rain though, I'd take the bus. Cycling in the rain is downright dangerous.

[@anniespencer7879]

@@loiscassels8966 What a nasty judgement person you are.

[@ashotofmercury]

@@anniespencer7879 she said the bus was 'smelly'. She is stuck up - she obviously sees the bus as being below her...... 🙄

[@iBaudan]

The amount of rich people that only wears Zara u can’t imagine. Expensive brands are more wearable on not rich than the ones that have the money for it. We, the normal people like to wear big letters to show an expensive brand to brag around. But the real rich people just want to blend with confort and not bragging the clothes. This is just psychological.

[@daCubanaqt]

Rich people spend their money on other things like real estate, art, jewelry, those type of things. When they buy clothes, believe me, they will spend the $200 for a t-shirt, but they can afford it. Not like this woman.

[@grandmaheidi5757]

If I were in Jay's shoes and that girl walked out on me, Swearing like a sailor, after the 't-shirt test', I would start back helping her until AFTER she apologized; and I would remind her of who needs whom. Jay is a better woman than I... and I'm, typically, a pretty laid-back, patient person.

[@tf-zy9fs]

Omg shes so rude !!

[@imalrockme]

I wish the show would've cancelled her episode. I'ts not a therapy show, it's how to avoid being bankrupt due to shallow spending and it's up to the person to learn. Sho could go cure herself elesewhere.

[@JehanineMelmoth]

After that barrage of abuse she should have been made to apologise before continuing the show, rather than being given a spa day.

[@Iconicbudgie]

Her and her friends look like an off brand Atomic Kitten 😂

[@MargaretQ]

Why do I think daddy may have been a major enabler of this behavior? So sad to see this attitude and I usually have a great deal of empathy but she seems to have a really classist view of things

[@Elizabeth-if7pw]

I'm shocked her husband lets her spend like that. I'd like to see an update on how things worked out. Really curious as to what is so bad about cheaper clothes

[@poogt22]

She declared bankruptcy last year

[@samskipper5047]

Philip M surprised she went this long without doing so.....

[@louisadavies7362]

Her husband lets her wtf is she a child. She’s a grown women, she can do wants she wants. If her husbands wants to be stupid and stay with her that’s up to him but he can’t tell her what to do she is grown women.

[@grandmaheidi5757]

@@louisadavies7362 - That's a mature attitude... NOT!

[@gemmastaines5706]

I get the feeling that the finances in this marriage are kept separate! No joint bank accounts etc!

[@mollygibson4402]

I like this show. It is interesting how sometimes you could see people really struggling with internal demons and filling in the void or coping with trauma. Other times the show participant is just plainly selfish. Yet both kinds resolve to overspending

[@kslucki]

Fair enough, Ali refuses to wear high street/street fashion. She needs to learn to STOP shopping altogether whilst paying off her debt. It's about money managing, not a taste in fashion.

[@TheUlli1964]

^Why buing new clothes even at the cheap market,she hast so many clothes to wear in her closet. Crazy

[@hannah.cottrell5674]

Earns over £3000 a month and can only manage to pay her mum back £20? Disgustangggg

[@sarahobyrne9462]

Hannah.Cottrell shes an absolute disgrace, her poor mother, she ought to be ashamed of herself 😑 and she works as a youth worker 🙄what a crap role model she is

[@martyp2138]

She's on £19k per year so more like £1.6k per month before tax and ni. £20 is ridiculous though and the rest of her wages must go to minimum payments at that volume of debt.

[@sanamhusain691]

Her mother created her, this girl didn't ask to be born?!

[@exantiuse497]

She earns 2200£ a month, it's revealed in the budget portion at 24:00. Idk where they got the 19k, one of those numbers is wrong

[@MarkAnthonySmith-df1jw]

The charity that she works for needs to dump her. Overpaying a rude, arrogant, aggressive, violent and entitled idiot.

[@ktrudy1]

I love Goodwill stores. I swear if I was a millionaire I would still shop charity stores. lol And eat Ramen Noodles. :)

[@exantiuse497]

Imo that's a bad attitude. If you were a millionaire you should spend some money, not outrageous amounts and not on luxury items, but decent clothes, decent food etc. If you make a million a year, spending ~5000 extra a year makes literally no difference, but not eating crap like ramen is way better for your health, and thrift shopping should be left for the poor who, you know, actually need those cheap things and don't want rich people who could afford to shop elsewhere taking all the best items

[@johnsteadman9002]

Same if I was u would still waer my normal clothes ( shirt and shorts) give a few $100s to homeless

[@ktrudy1]

@@johnsteadman9002 exactly

[@dragonclaws9367]

Goodwill is better quality. Fast fashion has made new clothes into paper towel. I'd rather have something used in good condition than new junk myself.

[@katemiller7874]

Gross

[@flamingowilliams9664]

Something to think about : When Jay is negotiating their cold turkey budget, these people NEVER think about how much they'll need for necessities, not even a ballpark figure for food or petrol. They just dont think about it and stare at the ceiling. A sensible person would do some maths to figure it out, not one person even thinks that way.

[@rebeccalindsay5795]

I think that's half the point though.. make them make hard choices. Do I want to drive to work and pay for parking or walk and get lunch out

[@MarkAnthonySmith-df1jw]

I could do £40 easy.

[@beth9603]

Knew it'd be bad, but any scrap of hope I had was gone when she made those comments about her mum and the charity shop she works in. Won't come into it, making her mum close in the middle of the day to get the money? Sick and the height of disrespect

[@dellahicks7231]

The jeans were on a sale rack, the price tag was discounted, but yet she still cannot admit she bought them On Sale! Good Grief!!

[@thebrazilianguy3957]

Hate this people that pretend to be something and actually are nothing, actually i like this emptiness and misery, suits them perfectly

[@robertcollins7034]

These shows must be at least 15years old, style clothes, cars ect, her bmw be 500£max now most of them in scrapyeards now ! How time flys

[@cherylcarlysle1629]

Robert collins a couple timelines were mentioned. This is late 2014/early 2015

[@robertcollins7034]

@@cherylcarlysle1629 no way ,her bmw compact would be a cheap car in 2014 2015 pmsl and the clothes boot cut jeans ect hair styles

[@Reticence9zen924]

I think these were being broadcast between 2003 and 2005. I remember fashion looking like the stuff in this show then.

[@robertcollins7034]

@@Reticence9zen924 thank you knew was about 15 years old!

[@kdp8133]

Yep, these were broadcast when BBC3 was first launched. About 15 years ago

[@israelizzyyarrashamiaak766]

Who else watched this and wondered how these issues happen? Maybe if I shopped at expensive stores I’d see the world differently?? Idk. I think most high end brands are ugly and uncomfortable. I like jeans tennies and a nice comfy shirt lol . I ain’t wearing posh crap with heals and all that business daily so why would I spend insane money on such things. Mae have a Ross store so I buy whatever they have when I need stuff. I have brand names but only because Ross had that t-shirt for 6.99 😂😂😂😂 I am picky on athletic shoes. I have a bad back so I choose really good walking shoes / trainers ( for UK folks) … it’s not about the brand, it’s about the arch in the shoe and comfort/ fit. I have a bone disease and need a solid shoe so I don’t fall or roll an ankle. They cost from 35-55$ usd . I probably buy a pair every year. I like to accumulate savings. American here and we have an unstable economy. 200$ jeans won’t feed me dinner or pay the heat bill. This winters bills were double the cost of the previous winter. Money keeps the lights on so I want money in my bank not Versace on my arse.

[@nnebundoannaobi1386]

And here I am looking for a job so I can become independent, this just makes me shake my head And revenge spending seriously...

[@antoniaburns3522]

Anyone that won't go into a charity shop is a disgrace. Shame on her. She's not as special as she thinks she is.

[@truebluewonderful]

This is the third episode I'm watching and the first time that I'm thinking 'What a spoiled girl'! Even the look on her face is saying so. And using the language of the youth she's working with. Why does she wear expensive closing as a youthworker? To show off? 🤮 From all the money she spent she couldn't give herself a few new teeth. This is one example of why parents should raise their children with financial limits. Also say no!

[@exantiuse497]

This is like the 15th episode I'm watching and the first one with such a spoiled person in the main role. Also I believe it's the first one where the subject of the show used swearwords, and definitely the first where they cussed at the hosts. I think the creators of the show wanted to only take in people that genuinely wanted to change but missed the mark with this one

[@randysmith7189]

If this marriage lasts for a long period of time I will be surprised. Spending is her God and focus everything else is not important... including her hubby

[@1588chrissy]

Randy Smith they are still together

[@555Swanky]

I can't believe this woman is the same age as me, she carries on like a 5 year old -.-

[@brandonholmes]

"If I didn't shop, what would I do?" Not be in £46k debt perhaps🤣

[@houndofulster12]

It’s 2020 I’ve bought x3 pairs of jeans £75 for the lot and I feel guilty 😂 back in 2004 I’d have spent maybe £30 and she’s got a budget of £75 😯

[@katemiller7874]

You have issues. Get some new clothes and theraoy

[@houndofulster12]

@@katemiller7874 learn to spell you fool

[@ohrabbits]

Cripes, most of my clothes have come from thrift stores, and I love them.

[@cafsixtieslover]

Me too and a lot of them are brand new and current lines.

[@katemiller7874]

That’s nice for you

[@daCubanaqt]

For someone who fears losing her parents, she sure isn’t treating her mother very well by borrowing all that money with no intention of paying it back. She doesn’t care for her mother’s well-being at all.

[@imalrockme]

That's the therapist's theory in every episode, that there's something deeply emotional causing the spending habits. The real cause here, at least as I see it, is the fact that her father died, which means one less person to answer to, in terms of spending habits. As for her mother, I've seen people behave like her, thinking of the money she borrowed, not as a loan, but as an antecipated inheritance.

[@MarkAnthonySmith-df1jw]

Yeah he is a therapist, writer and entreapenur wow, I could do his job 😅

[@mitchfromtheinternet297]

“If I didn’t shop, what would I do?” This is the issue, these spendaholics are all so thick, they can’t occupy their mind with anything else.

[@SuperPurpleleopard]

Her tantrum with the t-shirts was ridiculous.

[@katemiller7874]

You guys are dumb on here. She’s still mourning her dad. She will have outbursts. That’s not what it’s about. She needs therapy to deal with his death

[@heleng5253]

She seems like the kind of person who’s ‘told’ what to buy and wear. I’ve had expensive things when I’ve had the money and I can honestly say they were quality items that lasted years and had a cheap cost per wear. I worked in hospitality for years and you see these spoilt childish adults kicking off over petty things and they all dress how they think rich people would dress, but they haven’t got a clue. They all spent money they haven’t got on these crap brands and kick off when they find that they need to provide a credit card to stay in a hotel. There was so much of it before the 2008 crash.

[@ester-cs2uo]

For someone with expensive taste of clothes, she dresses badly. I was around 19/20’s when this show came out, and I dressed a lot better than this, going into store like pilot, peacocks river island and other great cheaper high street stores. She’s just spoilt

[@RetroPlus]

People who spend money like this that isn't even theirs don't deserve the luxuries that they demand

[@carojames6776]

She is and has been spending her 'pension'.

[@stineegeberg1338]

Shame there aren’t some new episodes of this show! Thee look so dated!

[@exantiuse497]

There's a similar show that's more recent, it's called "money morons" or something like that

[@belbarcelos9264]

@@exantiuse497 I’ve never heard of that one, but I like “til debt do us part” is quite good and more recent

[@exantiuse497]

@@belbarcelos9264 Till debt do us part is bout as old as Spendaholics, both predate the 2008 financial crisis

[@belbarcelos9264]

@@exantiuse497 really?? I always felt like til debt do us part had a much more recent look. I do know that Prince$$ (also hosted by Gail) was shot in 2012 and those episodes are being posted on KZbin very recently.