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[@leocorral1039]

bro she’s incredible, nurse who sells real estate on the side with her own rental properties and bought a house for her daughter in law who had cancer… what a woman.

[@user-ex3mx7hk4l]

And she was also helping care for her! 👏 Meanwhile her Husband wants to go to his job and play golf. What a guy!

[@cherylbisera5039]

Now she need to kick her husband in the butt bc enabling isn’t helping him or their marriage

[@andyvu8513]

Sounds like she is a strong woman whereas the husband sounds like a lazy bafoon

[@dbdb4962]

This is what happens when you marry below you. Winners stop marrying losers.

[@lylux4985]

@@user-ex3mx7hk4lWhat a Selfish BUM!!

[@skylarsteel91]

Avoid hard conversations early on and you deal with hard circumstances forever

[@reneet5858]

Wise words

[@MrsMama007]

Beautifully spoken. Adding that to what an older father figure of our family says often, “Look at confrontation as discovery.”

[@DarthFurie]

Wisdom!

[@jeraleewood5969]

Great advice!!! I wish I had heard that in my 20's!!!

[@jvmlucky13]

She is a nurse, she takes care of everyone and everything. And she works hard. Prayers for her!!

[@infotechsailor]

What’s the big deal? Ramsey didn’t even ask what interest rate they have on their house. The husband is the only smart one and he’s not even on that call. They probably have a 2.5% interest rate below inflation rate so he’s smart not to dump that into a mortgage payoff. He plays golf and works leave the man alone. Probably helps a lot around the house and this wife needs to either let husband plan investments or be glad he lets her buy the risky rentals. The govt didn’t even let you evict renters while they didn’t pay rent. Huge risk to owning rentals. Husband is smart he better off without this dumb broad and her friends on Ramsey show.

[@jasonchampagne8958]

Yeah I agree but when she makes 150 and he makes 45 they can't keep sepetate accounts and expect to split expenses and he will have money left

[@rosemarysinclair814]

The marriage isnt together,we need to be onboard together.Rosie.

[@mrreams711]

115 and 45​@@jasonchampagne8958

[@MsLally5]

If she die he has everything,if he dies she gets nothing.

[@lilykhandker4126]

She needs to speak to a divorce lawyer and a financial advisor to make sure SHE is financially protected

[@chattingman6777]

😆 🤣 😂 😹 😆. She is screwed.

[@royrooster8094]

She is by far better off married than she would be losing half in a divorce.

[@billymabum3514]

Lmao . You wouldn’t say that if the male earning 3x more money than her

[@llkg9]

​@@billymabum3514 Correct. We'd change the pronouns and say "HE needs to make sure he's financially protected." And I'm a woman. Being a woman, man, 2-spirit penguin, whatever, is no excuse to take advantage of people.

[@thethbchannel3225]

@@billymabum3514I can’t stand parasitic “partners”, men or women.

[@brianv.2034]

She's a rare gem and her husband doesnt see it.

[@SippenSomeTea]

They never do

[@kibblenbits]

Husband's like her's pick women to marry that they feel they can control. She makes over double what he does, yet he tell's her what they're going to do. My sister was married to someone like this for 54 years, (he stopped working in his 40's, because he was "disabled", supposedly had an enlarged heart, got SSDI, weighed over 350 pounds, but didn't die until he was 77) and by the time he died, she was 74 and had absolutely no confidence in herself, although she paid for the house, or her ability to make decision's. I'm 5 years younger than her, and her marriage is one of the reasons I got divorced within 2 years of marriage, even though we had a child, because I recognized what my ex was trying to do. I never remarried, and retired owning 2 homes, that I purchased myself, debt free (for many years), and very happy that I made the decision's I did. My son and his wife also own their home and are debt free, but his dad still has a house payment and debt, at 76 years old (he's on his 5th marriage). I dodged one hell of a bullet, in 1974.

[@markrodrigue9503]

He sees his sugar momma he married up

[@laurynaszilenas4705]

​@@kibblenbitsso you 69 and watching ramsey show on youtube? What a boring life!!!

[@_bhargav229]

Always remember you only hear one side of the story

[@kimberlyarunsiripate6254]

When she threw the “Nurse” in there I was like ohhhhhh. She takes care of everyone. God help the Nurse.

[@Pinoyguitarist5]

I can relate, I married a nurse and she has such a big heart( to a fault sometimes). I guess that why I married her :-) We only have so many resources(money, housing-space, time, etc), and sometimes it tough to tell her that we just don' have the resources to help as much as she wants. It always hurts me inside a little bit each time and the disappointment on her face doesn't help either.

[@oldscratch3535]

They sure do take care of everyone. Its one of the professions most likely to cheat.

[@emilygoodknecht3836]

@@Pinoyguitarist5❤️‍🩹

[@tootsiebee44]

Many healthcare workers are caretakers..its a disorder. And that's what you do for a living, especially if you have kids, you don't realize what's happening. She allowed her husband to be her child, by letting him get away with his childish behavior, now she's replacing her son and escalating him, just like she did her husband.

[@mplslawnguy3389]

Nurses are one of the most important professions on the planet, don't believe me? Just ask one.

[@Bigdyl85]

I always tell people to count the cost. What’s the cost for keeping him. What’s the cost for leaving him. Which price are you willing to pay. Cost is not just financial.

[@awake13830]

I feel for this woman and have to say, it will never get better. I’ve had the same experience for 35 yrs. A marriage councilor won’t help because HE is happy just the way things are. He won’t change and he won’t leave. Her only choices are to stay the same in a loveless marriage or leave. He’s a very spoiled selfish child.

[@chattingman6777]

Let's give context before calling him a child. Women have a delusional mindset that they can be fat argumentative, be single mothers, and be bossy. The problem with all those things is the guy who chooses to deal with a woman's negative traits is generally a weak male. A strong man avoids strong, independent women because they don't know how to be wives.

[@andrewbradley3305]

I wonder if you swap the genders would people say the same thing.

[@zeroplague]

​@andrewbradley3305 If the genders were swapped no one would have an issue.

[@IdaAJ]

Yes. Dead weight is dead weight, regardless of which side of the equation it is on.

[@michellemorrow7]

Yep….. I know a man who is married to a woman just like that. He told me he’s there til the kids go to college because they have no other relationship but what revolves around the children. It’s sad. The children are the buffers and that’s so sad for the kids. His 16 yr old daughter asked him if she could see a counselor to talk about how she’s sad that she can’t help enough people. Her mother and father both use her as an emotional crutch. The son is older and he doesnt have that same compassionate disposition, so the daughter absorbs it all. She doesn’t cook, shop for groceries, take care of the kids, not the contact for the children’s schools, etc. he said once that he can’t trust her to make any decisions either, not even about discipline, or money. He said she feels like another child to him. His youngest is 17…. We shall see if he really leaves or he just stays because it’s easier than losing half his stuff.

[@rosec8101]

She said she bought a house to take care of a daughter in-law that had cancer. What a kind lady. I want her to be my MIL.

[@siva47931]

I think you are forgetting an 'F'

[@pattycakes25]

@@siva47931 HAHAHA either that or Mother In Law. but I did think the same thing at first.

[@sendit3251]

Savage

[@unclebenny]

@@siva47931 Hopefully she doesn’t land on bankrupt before she can spin again to choose another letter.

[@windsongshf]

My question was where is daughter in law's husband? I'm thinking her son???

[@stephaniehidalgo6281]

I’ve never seen Dave & John lost and not know what to say. What a sad situation.

[@kerrynight3271]

I quit listening after the young guy said she's just in a roommate situation. If that were true she could walk away with every dime she has earned and saved.

[@_CPerk]

They didn’t want to tell her to divorce the guy lol

[@blacksilverchair3315]

​@@_CPerkSo that the entire internet community will come for them and say they are promoting worldly values? C'mon, they are smarter than that.

[@katherinealba6768]

​@@_CPerkThey did. In a kind way.

[@odasoto7419]

@@kerrynight3271yeah it’s worse. It’s a roommate you can’t leave so easiley.

[@sarahshealthyrecipes]

I am so thankful my husband heard about Financial Peace before we got married. He introduced the concepts to me and we hashed out not only money but also kids, in laws, discipline, and religion. I didn't allow myself to fall in love until I felt comfortable being with this man in all those areas. We've been married 8yr now, blessed with 4 kids and debt free except our house and life is hard but we're doing it TOGETHER and we dream TOGETHER ❤

[@michaelfleming8490]

It’s pretty apparent you don’t know how wacky your comment sounds.

[@C0smicdaisy]

@@michaelfleming8490 How? Insane to me that you would marry someone you don’t align with

[@d.h.8279]

​@@michaelfleming8490What's wacky about it?

[@The_Generalgr]

@@michaelfleming8490 You're weird

[@whynotnow9618]

I understand what he's trying to say. Falling in love with someone & feeling connected certainly doesn't have rules of allowing nor disallowing. I think what you're referencing is some form of disciplined action and it has worked out for you. 👍

[@sharlenedevera4800]

I've been on the same boat I've been used by guys and got me broke financially I think we as nurse are very vulnerable and was being seen as money maker I am currently single and happy just praising God I got into watching Dave Ramsey and trying to get my self back again ❤

[@StarFishLady]

My dad used to tell my mom, "I'll make the living; you make the living worthwhile". It can be a great balance if one partner is business-minded and the other is stop-and-smell-the-roses minded...they each bring a gift to the table. But if it goes awry, there's a huge potential for resentment.

[@janeddooee]

And you can still work toward the same goals even if you have different roles. This lady is trying to work and progress through life and the dude wants to golf

[@leadnsteel1428]

One time i was broke and in debt. Then i started driving a garbage truck. Its not glamourus but i make about 65k a year i lived on nothing and now i have benefits, and a company pension too. Ive got a good amount of savings and ill keep wirking until im 60 and then retire.

[@kyzerw3816]

​@@leadnsteel1428thats not terrible depending on where you live.

[@umbreonix]

@@kyzerw381665k in Arkansas let’s you live like a king

[@djkenny1202]

@@janeddooee “wants to golf”? So, he works. Sounds like FT. He cannot have something that gives him please outside Work?

[@theresalynn2544]

This woman has been taking care of everyone else but herself. I hope she finds the strength and courage to take care of herself and move on from a marriage that is literally sucking the life out of her. 🙏🏻

[@dougtheviking6503]

She knew it going in .. She wanted it all ..

[@M.Campbell]

@@dougtheviking6503 Exactly how did she know going in? You think she's psychic?

[@dougtheviking6503]

@M.Campbell usually you know someone before you get married.. she's the ambitious one . He wasn't into it or got tired of it . She kept going . She knows. I have been married myself a long time . Yep I'm psychic with age comes knowledge

[@davidcolletti7136]

She moves on..He Gets half...Different when the shoes on the other foot...Huh Ladies..??

[@miss_sunshine25]

​​@@dougtheviking6503 You weren't there You don't know what she was like 29 years ago. Maybe she was ambitious but she also could have been innocent and naive but her ambition is what pulled her out of it. I can't believe you made such a stupid comment.

[@DeeDee-143]

He had always sucked the life out of her. She is trying to do everything right, and he is just there with his hand out. It's obvious that she really loves that loser. I feel so bad for her. I hope she opens her eyes before she gets too old to enjoy her golden years. God bless this kind lady.

[@Coupal1]

I don't think she loves him. You can't love somebody you don't respect.

[@billymabum3514]

Like 99% of women

[@isabelbecerra898]

The sad part is the sound in her voice as she realizes he is never gonna change! She has to sell her assets to pay off the house cuz that dude is gonna fleece her if she threatens divorce! He’s no dummy! He knows she will continue to work and bring in that high salary as long as there’s a balance on the house!

[@sfc5774]

@@Coupal1I totally agree !

[@djkenny1202]

Hand Out?! He WORKs! FT!

[@psychedelicybin]

I’m sorry but when Dave said the part about sharing mustard I lost it 😂😅

[@lanachristiansen2782]

My husband and I just celebrated our 50th anniversary. Before we married we discussed our views on finances, family ,children, faith, religion etc. Marriage is hard work, times that are difficult, times that are wonderful. We feel blessed.

[@davidphones7290]

Dude that’s like 5th date conversation. Not 30 years later smh

[@lovette7684]

That's nice. But life has changed drastically for a lot of people in 50 years, and i'm sure what you wanted 50 yrs ago is not what you want now.

[@peggyhavard1546]

Congratulation to you both. Many more blessed & happy yrs ahead! 🥰

[@triciah8598]

Congrats. It’s a lot of work. You rock

[@pattyajones]

@@lovette7684 Can you be any more "passive/aggressive"?

[@Sweet_Southern_Pecan]

I knew there was a problem when I heard the salaries. My heart goes out to this caller. She's stuck.

[@jayeleee]

Omg same !!!

[@mannyjeanpierre4062]

i thought the same thing. minute she said she makes 100k plus and he makes 40ish i knew it would be downhill from there.

[@dacianbonta2840]

what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

[@user-fi4gd6ev4s]

The roles are reversed for once. Usually the men are the ones avoiding divorce and dealing with unhappy marriages to avoid losing half of everything bahahaha

[@JR-wu8dc]

It’s completely normal for me to be in this situation all the time. Do you feel sorry for them also?

[@eleventree6668]

when John said "if I say what I need out loud, he might leave. and my response is always well good", it reminds me of my last marriage. since my divorce, I realize that sometimes LIFE makes decisions for me and now I got rid of the guy who loved me but not love me anymore. Some people are stuck in miserable marriages and don't' have the courage or never thought about counselling or leaving the marriage if the counselling not work. We didn't try any counselling because he made up his mind. I'm Chinese and l heard this quote "you cannot change people, but yourself" when I was young, but never got the real meaning of this quote until recently: I cannot change people, but I can leave them alone and be myself

[@AngelOwl24]

But we know he's not going anywhere.

[@sarahelo9656]

In spite of all this sadness, I laughed at “and then there’s this lump on the couch getting his golf shoes on” lol good one John, he is indeed. I hope this lady is guided down the right path

[@andrewbradley3305]

He’d never say that about a female doing the same thing. Most households in America men make far more and women spend far more

[@spatty2589]

He doesn't want to pay off the house and split the proceeds with her when she divorces him. He isn't going to do anything with his salary and she will end up having to pay alimony to him. She has a ball and chain of a husband and he knows it. That old saying, "It's cheaper to Keep her" applies to this situation.

[@dustyrhodes2717]

Hahaha, so usually the roles are flipped 9/10 times. Enjoy it. Women always complain but have no empathy for men. 😂

[@Tunechi65]

Look how everyone is freaking out cause she makes more..if it was the other way nobody would blink 😂😂

[@Rod17]

oh they would bro, and they would call her a gold digger, be serious now... men always freak out when they suspect a women is only with them to finance their lives, but most of the time the money is going towards running or operating the household they collectively want to create. In this case, he's making no effort, which is unlike most women who tend to give up their careers to raise children and maintain homes... and he's going to... golf like a clown contributing nothing @@Tunechi65

[@UTP504]

@@Tunechi65Right, but it get it, nobody should be surprised by the double standard.

[@TzUuup]

​@@Tunechi65because this is a rare relationship

[@Cloudyconfusion]

I haven’t prayed in a while but I’m gonna pray for this lady tonight. For clarity, for strength, for random strangers to come up to her and just give love and opportunities. She’s clearly a smart woman with how much she does and properties owned and managed but you can be the best mom or wife in the entire world and still not be able to do it ALL. She needs some stuff taken off her plate! I understand why she feels that things are hers vs his…. She’s really alone in all of this and I think that’s worse than being single…. Being in a relationship and FEELING alone is WORSE than being single because you’re legally bound to them.

[@everydayman3497]

Well said, and I want to encourage you to pray more cuz you obviously care for others. I’ll pray for you as well to hear Him more and find comfort in knowing He’s always listening and knows.

[@furiogiunta556]

Prayer is a waste of time, it’s just a way for you to feel good about yourself for doing -something- nothing.

[@everydayman3497]

@@furiogiunta556 😂😂😂kinda like you wasting time with this negative reply that helps no one other than making yourself be center of attention. You do you, but don’t down people of faith…regardless of what that faith is.

[@furiogiunta556]

@@everydayman3497 Stop wasting time and get out there and help people, arguing with me or praying to a fairy tale does nothing.

[@zenthegeneral]

Being single is a blessing

[@mymix1880]

She deserves a medal. She doesn't deserve this. Prayers.

[@coffeegirl918]

He gets half of the houses & half of her retirement. I just went through this! My husband never paid for anything, he worked on & off, for 25 years I finally decided if I wanted peace I had to leave. He is disabled & also got 80% of the sale of the house. I am starting over financially at 63 & I make a third of your income & have no house. I have peace.

[@merlenealt4233]

Peace is far more valuable than money. Thankful you found it.

[@barbaras676]

This sounds like my marriage, except that my ex-husband RefUsEd to let me put any money in an IRA or 401k. When I left, finally after 26 years, I downsized into a cheap rental room and saved almost $100k in the 10 years before I retired while paying off my $40k student loan and @$10k in credit cards. Her situation sounds nearly impossible. I lived my life in angst, as Dave said, as alcohol and *legal* drugs were major factors in the marriage as well. Good luck to the caller!!!❤😢🙏🏻

[@debraanderson7086]

Congratulations on your getting out and on with your life without him!

[@stickerlady1774]

Why he didn’t allow you to save in 401/ira?

[@barbaras676]

@@stickerlady1774 he wanted to spend every penny for a lifestyle that was up to his standards. We declared bankruptcy twice and lost our house to foreclosure. When I left I had no savings and about $55k in debt (mostly my student loan).

[@SimplySania]

I don’t understand what you mean by let you? Were you in a domestic violence situation?

[@barbaras676]

@@SimplySania something like that. It was a complete financial power-control abuse situation.

[@Tyler-dn8wn]

Divorce gonna cost her big time. He’ll get half of whatever she’s got. He’s got her between rock and hard place

[@dustyrhodes2717]

LoL, role is reversed for one out of ten situations boo hoo

[@whatevergoesforme5129]

@@Goat1229 I thought it was the daughter-in-law.

[@scotland369]

Soon woman will be like "wait, I earned all the money, but he gets half!!! And I have to pay him spousal support?? And he is the one the cheated on me?" Yes ladies, men have been doing this for decades, leading to their misery and high suicide rates

[@bigman4567]

It ain’t no fun we the rabbit has the gun.

[@diana5253]

Poor lady! She needs to get rid of this bum and live the rest of her life doing what makes her happy.. I'm so happy that I got out of my situation. I bought a property on my own as he was against it all just like this person. I'm now single and very close to paying it off and have several hundred thousand dollars in equity while he's bouncing from couch to couch. Life is too short to be held back by people without ambition.

[@davidalexlee]

She’s on 115k & he’s on 45k. What’s the bet they split all costs equally, so he’s always short of money. There’s no incentive for him to pay out more as this will always leave him in a worse financial position. Surprised they didn’t consider this.

[@BlueDauntless]

Fair point.

[@maheesacha6593]

Well he doesn't want to downsize also. What about that?

[@andreahilligoss358]

Dave just described my family... "not in agreement about anything" 😢 Love ya, Dave! Thanks for the eye-opener! ❤❤

[@marielang9552]

I’ve been a nurse for 45 years and I am amazed at what nurses get themselves into in marriage relationships it’s amazing

[@MsQ275]

I have heard crazy nurse stories lately too, why is this??

[@KENTUCKYUSA1]

It's because we rescue people. We save them, come hell or high water. We can't help ourselves until we become conscious of how we enable crazy and support it. Lots of people besides us nurses do this. Many men do this and then end up supporting crazy wives for many years. This woman has to decide if she is okay with her husband as he is. He is not going to change and that is fine. She can divorce him, but then what? If she was not getting something out of this, she would not have stayed for 29 years. So find his value and love it. Because he has value. Now she suddenly realizes she is at retirement age and she has been so busy and unaware that she panics. So it is easy to blame him. But it takes two to tango, and he has been dancing too, just not doing the steps she suddenly demands.

[@robertperry814]

43 years RN here! Yeah I've seen so many nurses marry deadbeats. I think lazy guys target female nurses 'cuz they know they will always have a job.

[@agonzalez5031]

Bingo! Sadly, too many nurses in a similar situation! 😔🙏🏼

[@Cathy-xi8cb]

This isn't IN ANY WAY what I see with the nurses I've worked with. It is true of the women I know who decided a long time ago to stay in a marriage that has been DOA for decades.

[@lafrugalistefutee6221]

She seems like a very ambitious lady. And he seems happy just coasting along. Not that there is anything wrong in that. Just wondering how they ended up together. Also, there is so much resentment in her voice, tone and language. Just break it, should have been done 29 years ago.

[@FortuneSeek3rz]

I would imagine when they got married young, there was some sexual attraction that brought them together. At their ages is probably all evaporated and there's nothing left to hold a marriage together.

[@okaydude2863]

When my wife and I first started dating, she was financially illiterate. I basically carried us through the rough years after we married, fast forward almost 20 years, she is now the boss lady, lol. When someone in a marriage has a wise idea it plan, listen. I listen to her now but we both agree on a way forward. And because of my Wife’s new found motivation and education, we’re on track to have a net worth of $1mil plus before we’re 40. We did enter the real estate game and it was not for us.

[@dungeonmaster6292]

Okay dude

[@okaydude2863]

@@dungeonmaster6292 you’re welcome

[@nicoleradix4694]

This is sad to me because this was my parent’s relationship while I was growing up. My mom did leave my dad once my youngest sister turned 18.

[@fluffyspunsugar]

I wish I'd found Dave 28 years ago...

[@ForAncientKingAndElvishLord]

I wish 12 years ago

[@admangoe]

I wish 7 years ago

[@alexpietsch7997]

I knew about him since I was 10. Should've followed him 5 years before I did.

[@sendit3251]

I wish a year ago

[@zenthegeneral]

"When's the best time to plant a tree? 28 years ago. When's the next best time to do it? Right now."

[@bettystallworth8853]

I just love Dave. He is so introspective. He gives wise counsel. Although he is about finances he ultimately delves into personal issues in a compassionate way. What a blessing to be living to witness his life calling.

[@Excalibur2]

His bad takes are like half the reason he has a following: he's entertaining. In between firing a woman for getting pregnant and pulling a gun on his staff, he's made some entertaining and questionable decisions.

[@miketheyunggod2534]

He ruins marriages.

[@d.h.8279]

​@@miketheyunggod2534How?

[@lynnettep9517]

@@miketheyunggod2534he doesn’t ruin marriages, they are already ruined when the caller calls. He just points it out.

[@chrishollis6015]

This woman is has a net worth of 200k at 64. Paying off the house is the least of her problems.

[@user-mp7rc7cm4o]

Ive lived this life. I thought I wS helping us as a whole...helping my husband/family. He wouldnt start a savings or emergency funds. He handledthe bills. Addicted to plastic. When he died he left me with a credit card debt he said he was paying off. I was in trouble financially. God has seen me through this . His debtor forgave the debt. The debtor dealized he wasnt truthful with me. He cashed in our life insurance policies. Our daughter paid forhis funeral because there wasnt money to do that with. The trust was broken...I even took out of my 401k twice. I agree with you 100% Mr. Ramsey!!!

[@deeplansandbudgets]

I love being single.

[@Noutchka]

DEAR GOD. This woman deserves true love.

[@richardgomez5008]

She loves money more than the man she married? Most women live ten years longer than men. Buy plenty of life insurance. She will have 100% of everything. Trying to find love the second time around could be difficult. Most single men have reasons for living that style.

[@eandrgoodwin]

Where did you get that they don’t love each other? She never said that!

[@mplslawnguy3389]

She sounds like a controlling battle axe.

[@awsambdaman]

She’s the one complaining about the relationship I bet you the guy is happy. Why would you assume he doesn’t love her? Because of his finances? I hope you would insinuate that

[@awsambdaman]

Wouldnt*

[@triciaburbank2195]

Omg .He's just made me realize I've been in a "toxic" relationship my entire life..😞100% true.Ive just been so determined to take it to.the finish I need to

[@triciaburbank2195]

Hard to do at 65 years old.

[@tonytoni1150]

Scared of being alone..

[@inspirebeinspired4388]

Sounds like he wants to relax and enjoy life & shes 100 mph. Allow him to live his way & you live yours. He doesn’t need to be a workaholic etc just bc that’s what she prioritizes.

[@chrish9155]

The moral values are the most important things in the relationship. You just need to find that right person who has the same values as yours.

[@dbdb4962]

That and a similar social class.

[@djkenny1202]

@@dbdb4962 why? They are in this together. Why is pay rate an issue?

[@dbdb4962]

@djkenny1202 because it is most of the time. Look at Britney Spears marrying below her...how well did that work? Mel B, Kelly Clarkson, MacKenzie Scott, all the calls coming into Dave ramsey of people with huge social class gaps.

[@djkenny1202]

@@dbdb4962 they are a Team. Theres no social class gap.all I am seeing is really shallow people, here. Wealthy famous people are an entirely different Trip. Often more problems arise because they are both at same level creating pressure. I have friends with varied jobs in relationships like, married. People I hang out with that are everything from Nurses, to DJ, Bike Shop Mechanics, Professors, Realtors, big investors. Many with wife being the bigging earning party. That’s not real these days. My wife and I are happily married and she is a middle school teacher, I raise kids, DJ, and manage our Airbnb. Plenty of dads doing the same or less than I do in terms of financial gain. It’s participating in making it all work.

[@dwaynejones1555]

100% agree! I was in a toxic relationship & kicked my roommate out. We were not aligned.

[@joannakuyt1512]

I would pay off the rental properties. Move into one of the properties and give him the 180,000 dollar house that he can’t afford.

[@kimfatica2228]

It is so nice to hear Dave have empathy for people who call in. I have great respect for his knowledge, yet the sparky, sarcastic and demeaning way he often responds to people who come for his advice really hurts my heart. Dave is a Christian, but when he does this while operating on the huge platform the Lord has so graciously blessed him with after his own financial mistakes, it strikes me as a poor witness.

[@staceystrukel1917]

He is definitely not a therapist nor should he act like one. That is John’s job. When you call people stupid and they should have know better you are not acting as a mentor. If we all had wisdom we wouldn’t make some of our choices and that is the point of life, to learn. Teach with compassion.

[@brendahartstern4565]

Don't blame him. You get to a certain age and you just don't suffer fools gladly anymore

[@momnursefashionista7506]

Sounds like most nurses. We take care of everyone else but ourselves. Oh Lord Jesus I thank you for my deliverance from that! 🙌🏾 And come on Dave you better preach about alignment!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾 ❤❤

[@fglend73]

The thing I don't like about these calls is that we often assume that the other person who is not on the call is the one to blame. We're only hearing one side of this story. Maybe there's a good reason why he doesn't want to do what she wants. Maybe he's just a dead beat. The point is we don't know. Regardless, the 2 of them need to have a deep conversation and some counseling if they want to get ahead.

[@sbentsen2714]

That's very true. We don't know the whole story, could be she just has to be the boss babe and he values his peace so he's going at his pace and she's outpacing him. Like they have different values

[@jarelchico]

Much quicker on a TV segment to just take the one side.

[@JayP-kd5rc]

There could be more than one side to this story. Hard to judge without hearing the other side. We don't really know why he is so checked out.

[@1CJ6]

She definitely gave off the boss babe vibe the moment she said she made such a major financial decision like buying rentals without his support.

[@lukerider479]

I say if you’re in your 60s with zero retirement and you use extra money to golf you are the problem.

[@alanpaardekooper1148]

Im going to hear Dave's voice yelling those last few sentences at me every time I feel like im being less than I should be. Brilliant words - thanks.

[@damienmurtagh]

I feel like absolutely everyone should watch this clip. Sage advice. Wish I’d acted on it about 5 years ago. Better late than never though

[@teamsix7185]

Outstanding. This took you 25 minutes to teach young folks something that is something that should be taught in our schools. THE most important planning and decisions they will make in their entire lives. Marriage is the only financial contract we enter into with NO disclosure… and roughly a 78% failure rate. Who in their right mind would enter any other financial contract with those kind of traps!? Great advice!

[@marykeen4462]

It cannot be taught in schools. Teachers really are not that smart. I know I was a teacher as a 3rd career and was surprised at how little real education is being taught.

[@richness2791]

This sounds like something the divorce attorney James Sexton said.

[@patrickbrussels4454]

Its quiet interesting how we reject the reality of our situation and expect to be able to observe it, control it and even change it. I used to be financially depressed until I read a book that made me realized that the secret to making a million is making better investments.

[@jessicasquire]

May I ask which investments are good? I've been looking at a few different ones but want others' opinions as well

[@patrickbrussels4454]

What I think everyone need is an adviser, who can help you get in and out of any investment at any time and you'd sure be in Profit. With this I feel anyone can basically achieve financial freedom

[@patrickbrussels4454]

*STEPHANIE KOPP MEEKS* , That's whom i work with

[@patrickbrussels4454]

You can glance her name up on the internet and verify her yourself. she has years of financial market experience

[@jessicasquire]

Thanks so much I was able to find her page and I already leave her a message

[@marikiemarie7622]

She hung because she gave just a few bits of information and they went straight to the dramatics. Lol

[@Sven_Golly]

I wonder if we asked him if he would say "she won't do anything fun, if it was all her way it would be all work, all discipline and no recreation. She works 2 jobs, that wasn't enough so she bought 2 rental houses and takes care of a cancer patient as a 5th job in between her 4 other jobs. If we could meet somewhere in the middle and she'd play golf with me once a week I'd be more willing to look at that stuff, but I'm not going to work 80 hours to meet only her goals."

[@markh8183]

I think this is one of those calls where there is a lot more to the story than what the caller is saying.

[@_m_K_.]

This is where Dave, like so often, is WRONG. For all we know, the interest on the house may be 2.5%. I have 2.65 on my mortgage and I know people in the 2.5 or lower, and this us in a 30 year fixed. I know Dave is anti-debt at all cost, but with raging inflation the money may be better invested elsewhere than paying off the primary house mortgage. Dave and the other guy criticize the husband, but most men are in the same situations as this woman with their wives earning substantially more, and I've never heard Dave say divorce your wife of 29 years. This is isane.

[@Technicolor-mother]

Yes, I agree.

[@alexisjankowski3281]

⁠The salary discrepancy may be the cause. They are not sharing their money. She may be asking him to contribute more of his income to get the house paid off. We don’t know his reasons for not wanting to.

[@zeroplague]

​@@_m_K_.Agreed.

[@BlueDauntless]

@@alexisjankowski3281I think you’re on to something. They have separate finances. He’s spent 29 years doing what he wants with his, and what she wants with her. And now she wants them to team up and pay off the house? Which means he might have to give up something he enjoys, like golfing. And if that’s the only thing he does… I can see his not wanting to give that up. Where was the togetherness in the start of the marriage?

[@mikeshaw4610]

As someone who has been married 40 years the information at the end about a marriage is correct. Additional if you are aligned and run into problems, the problems do not seems near as big and you can more easily work through them.

[@katevans4616]

She's accomplished quite a bit without him. This is NOT a case of " I can do badly all by myself " . This is a case of - I can do BETTER without you.

[@annehajdu8654]

Yes.

[@Beatrichay]

I'm in deep shit. I'm nearly 40, I've been a SAHM with a few odd jobs in between for 12 years. My husband has never included me in his financial decisions because he earns the money. He is also quite the accomplished adulterer. It's time for a change but I am overwhelmed with all the things I have to do and catch up on. The obvious answer is that I have to start right away. Any other advice will be appreciated. Fyi, I'm not American. Jobs aren't easy to come by in my country, and the courts will not enforce child support.

[@kathygrosvenor4464]

For the sake of your children, it seems best to end the marriage. A deep conversation with your husband, letting him know how you feel. Keep it civil without judgement or anger. If you are able to, speak with a lawyer. I know they’re costly but you’ll know what options you have. Ask family members for financial help, if you’re able. Scout available jobs as you’re going to need one. You won’t believe how big the World is once you go it on your own. It won’t be easy, however, in the end you’ll have a beautiful new, exciting future. When you realize how much time you wasted, you’ll be even more dedicated to finding your interests. It will all work out. Change is rough. If you approach change knowing the best is yet to come, you’ll be able to embrace it as something that had to happen in order to have your new life. You have lovely children and a life experience from your married life. Much more is coming when you’re able to think clearly. After every disaster, there’s triumph. I have a feeling you’ll be that rising Phoenix. You and your children are going to make it. 🙏🪷❤️

[@jasonbornne7767]

That was one of the greatest husband roasts of all time 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@richardgomez5008]

It's a wrong call. She married her husband because she loved him. Most women live longer than men by ten years. She get 100% of everything. Buy plenty of life insurance on him. Continue to love him and be happy. What makes her think she can find love the second time around? Most single men are by themselves for a reason. 🤔🤑❤

[@hazellloyd5731]

"A lump sat on the sofa, getting his golf shoes on" 😅

[@Nkdbattlerap]

Maybe he isn’t for all this debt with the rentals and everything. She seems to make decisions regardless of what he thinks, so at this point he’s probably not bothered. I’d love to hear his side

[@neonwhitea.1548]

That’s almost surely the rest of this story

[@Holdeenio]

Her rental properties and car are almost paid off, it’s their joint residence that’s nowhere near paid off, at 64 years old that’s awful! She earns 4x his income, has bought and almost paid off 2x rental properties and has some stash in her $401k and he isn’t even up for overpaying their home mortgage - he’s the waste man in that marriage for sure.

[@dustyrhodes2717]

Lol, I’m sure there’s more to this story. Also, where did you hear the rentals were almost paid off?

[@whatevergoesforme5129]

@@dustyrhodes2717 One of the rentals was paid off, it seemed, while the other one she bought for her daughter-in-law who has cancer is not yet fully paid. That was how I heard it.

[@janiewerner]

Not every marriage is worth saving. Get out before he takes you down further financially.

[@monalisa2662]

Amen to every word. We have not been in alignment for eight years and it has been hard beyond words.

[@treeknome2642]

I think she’s ready to listen to you if she’s calling. She needed to hear this. This coming from someone in a similar situation who has started addressing these problems.

[@Neddie2k]

He hasn't got the money to be onboard, I bet they go 50/50 on the bills and the guy has no savings.

[@Cloudyconfusion]

Then wouldn’t it just be a verbal thing to be in support on?? Such a sad situation either way

[@amandalee714]

I thought the same thing @Neddie2k. She already went and bought 2 houses that he wasn’t on board with - they could’ve already paid the house off. She just does whatever she wants.

[@sherryragsdale9571]

She st a Ted he didn't want to pay their home off.

[@BlueDauntless]

@@amandalee714And it was that way for 30 years. Why is he going to get on board now?

[@byebye967]

This lesson is for anyone not just 24/25!im 29! It’s never to late ⏰ when you know better you DO BETTER‼️🎯💯

[@sarahvanderwolf]

"You self-centered twerp" made me LOL. Thank you Dave Ramsey for telling it like it is. Great advice and perspectives on this show from all the co-hosts. A lot of great life wisdom here.

[@kathyprice3267]

Amen! Amen! Amen! I lived that exact life and the Lord has been gracious and rescued my marriage, but let me tell you we are clawing our way out of a financial hole! The hole is deep and we are not young. Listen to these two men. They are not exaggerating.

[@The82bstewart]

She went and bought 2 houses and went deep in debt with out being in agreement with him.. Then expects him to be on board with her other plans.. His side of story needs to be heard before judgment is cast. He coulda payed to put her through nursing school and cheated on him for all we know. I got 2 friends this happened too.. Now hes checked out doing what makes him happy and she wont leave him cause she knows he'll get half..

[@MrPeach1]

thats what I am hearing here. She seems like she was always going to implement her plans. And didn't need him to sign off on them.

[@PaperMario64]

Oh brother. She’s trying to set up their future by investing and sadly she’s tied to dead donkey. Women tend to plan for both themselves and their husband because men never seem to plan for anything.

[@hebrews11vs5]

I think that's a good assessment.

[@whatevergoesforme5129]

Well, she could have left him earlier before she bought those properties or earned a lot of money. I also see this all the time. The fact that she did not leave him earlier in her life means there is another narrative about their relationship. Plus, he could have divorced her then had she cheated on him when he was the one who funded her studies.

[@CrimeDoesNotPay]

I heard nurses have the highest infidelity rates of all professions so it could be the case. There’s always two sides.

[@elizabethdumas4147]

She wants her husband to be something he's not. She's extremely ambitious and he just wants a simple life. He's probably always been that way and has given up since she is pretty much taking over. My brother married a nurse who was quite driven and he said she was always at him.

[@sherrybendall5817]

Simple life or lazy life?

[@kristy1653]

Wanting a simple life is fine, but the man hasn’t saved a single penny in 30 years! Even most simple folk with meager earnings know the value of saving at least something for the future and paying off their home. And a team has to be in agreement for each person’s role and lifestyle and it sounds like these people are definitely not.

[@elizabethdumas4147]

@@kristy1653 They are definitely not on the same page. Many women think they can change a man but it's highly unlikely.

[@BlueDauntless]

@@kristy1653just to play devil’s advocate, she said they’ve had separate finances the entire marriage. How does she know he doesn’t have retirement? Or a retirement plan? Maybe he doesn’t plan on retiring?

[@vaska1999]

Extremely ambitious? It's not as though she's running for office or has developed a multi-million dollar business or gone back to medical school and become a doctor!

[@melodyejohnson8339]

This was painful to hear and hit home because this WAS me. Notice I said WAS, because after 10 years, I ended my marriage. I did everything financially, mentally, and emotionally to propel us forward, and he just wanted his low-level, mediocre, nonconfrontational, and avoidant life. Someone is doing all the work while the other enjoys your hard work. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@theresa78201]

"lump on a couch getting his golf shoes on" 🤣

[@goofygirl1311]

She bought two investment houses without her husband's consent! What about that?

[@robertatkins272]

And without her primary residence secured.

[@barexampasser]

Well dirty Dave is a simp, so obviously women can do no wrong and men are always 10000% responsible for every wrong thing ever

[@goofygirl1311]

@@robertatkins272 In the baby steps, you are supposed to pay off your primary home before you start investing in real estate. Why didn't Dave call her out on that?

[@Missy-sx9zv]

They are investments. She is literally making sure they have retirement. Investing is a job like nursing is a job

[@GreenWhitePurple]

I think it’s not the nineteenth century.

[@bryandelcid4065]

I would like to hear his part lol. Who knows maybe she’s the type that thinks bc she out-earns him she gets to make the calls regardless of his input. Seen that many times.

[@patde1264]

Yeah

[@MrPeach1]

I have literally heard this. Like money is the reason for the family structure.

[@arabella8478]

I had exactly same situation with my husband, I just did it on my own, without his help, now he loves the fact and brags about it to his friends lol

[@user-dz1zj9xr3s]

Resentment was dripping.

[@TrinidadBadMon]

I am 22 now and have no family for help. It’s clear that if it’s not about survival you’ll never learn those lessons that you need to budget properly.

[@terriberri.p]

After following this show for about 4 years, most of these problems arise from the fact that couples dont do proper maintenance on their relationship and just go to the damn counselor from early on. Why do you need a talk show to help you realize that you need counseling???

[@neneyounge]

Some, if not most people, need confirmation from a third party before they make certain life changes because others around them, even that voice in their head, is telling them they may be wrong.

[@isabelarodrigues3620]

This is fantastic advice. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and understanding.

[@deborahjackson6108]

I was in a situation like this once. When you are the one doing all the work, you don’t have time to worry about what he isn’t helping with.

[@joeriveracomedy]

She married down. Deal with it

[@dcg590]

No, she married an average man. Now she decided to work like a man and act like one and doesn’t like the consequences. If the roles were reversed you’d say- he should be taking care of her! This is bs as usual. She deserves everything she gets for trying to the boss

[@alrbredwall]

​@@dcg590exactly.

[@joeriveracomedy]

I opted not to marry a woman who quit her job 10 days after we got engaged. I do not advocate for wiping a lazy girl's behind. Females are not property. One day Dave will realize that.

[@trashpageant7861]

Shoulda stayed single. No point in a man.

[@BayushiGemma]

@@trashpageant7861 I missed the part where she said he was a cheating unfaithful man? She makes 115k and he only makes 45k.

[@john1425]

Imagine how different the response wound be if this was a man calling about his wife. Wed be talking about her contribution to the home, raising the kids, etc. Man would have been shamed for noting the difference in income.

[@awsambdaman]

100% I can’t say I’m surprised cause Dave is a boomer and the psychologist definitely has a bad case of the “women are wonderful” effect..but man these oldies need to get with the times. Traditionalism is dead!

[@vaska1999]

But this guy hasn't been doing any of that! 😅

[@isezit]

I'm a nurse, retired. Working with mainly women for a lifetime, I can tell you that most nurses are married to exactly this type guy! Listening to this caller made my stomach turn because so many nurses have marriages like this and it is just disgusting! When they run out of money , he'll still be looking at her and be like, "Well, what are YOU going to do about it?!"🤮 Pray HARD caller, pray HARD. I will pray for you also.

[@user-vi7cn3xv6v]

I call them " The Post". They are just their not contributing. I can do better by myself and I have. RN for 30 years.

[@lauriehernandez2910]

This lady is snowballing property debt and Im snowballing credit card debt 😢😢😢 GOALS!!!!!!

[@TheBanjoShowOfficial]

3 months ago my ex broke up with me. We’re young, I’m older but we had agreed to help each other through everything, we spoke on finances, children, religion, everything under the sun. She was down for it. 3 years of planning, her family was from a Muslim background, but she started to see herself as Christian, as myself, how true that was I have no clue. Needless to say parents didn’t agree with it. But, she wanted it. She clearly didn’t want it enough, she then threw the whole relationship away, despite being ready to move in with me. What I learned is you should never believe what people say and only believe half of what people do. Just when you think everything is perfect, it’s not.

[@carlaritchie331]

There are never guarantees. Only odds that are in favor or not favorable. As painful as it seems, better it happened before marriage and children.

[@TheBanjoShowOfficial]

@@carlaritchie331 oh yeah they exposed themselves. That said I believe they made one of the worst decisions of their life by abandoning what we had but that’s their problem not mine.

[@_modvault]

actions speak louder than words

[@m.a.nugent8278]

I love the way you speak the truth. You are right. Men have been wussified!! It IS time for them to step up to the plate and hit a home run, to accept their responsibilities and act like real men: providers, leaders, good and strong husbands and fathers, spiritual leaders of the family, etc., without being bullies or lazy-asses. May God have mercy on us all!

[@davidcolletti7136]

But she didn,t marry a Man...she fell in love with CHAD..!! Good looks ..probably tall...and ignored what a loser he really was... a Lesson to all you females that go for the Chads and Tyrones...

[@christinebutler7630]

Two people can be equal partners and co-providers, without either one being lazy or being "the boss".

[@TzUuup]

​@@christinebutler7630false. You can only have 1 leader. Doesn't mean that 1 leader isn't heavily influenced by the wife. When a major decision has to be made for a family, One person must pull that trigger

[@claudiaditrapani2689]

​@@christinebutler7630great comment! In Europe the big majority of women and/or mothers work full time, which man still can provide on his own for his wife, her retirement (and kid/s)?? My mother & my aunt were still able to stay at home when my cousins & i were toddlers in the 1970s, but even then, it was their modest life period. They went back to work when we entered Kindergarten. I learned from them to try and become less bossy than my personality would allow 😂, but i'm my own boss and my husband is his. I like strong men who who do not fear independant women, and they're also smart not to work their ... off for 2-5 people and die early 😊

[@auemmjee]

​@@davidcolletti7136if this is your way or telling the world you're short, unattractive, and bitter, you're doing a helluva job. Maybe if you worked on your personality and hit the gym, you'd have a woman to focus on. I've dated guys who are 6'3" and guys who are 5'6". And I've known many men of different ages, races, income brackets, and educational attainment. But at the end of the day it comes down to personality and values and my estimation is that about 1% of men are suitable partners. You guys think too highly of yourselves and don't understand that self-sufficient women with high self-esteem have VERY high standards that very few men can meet.

[@hobbyhive]

In regards to the advice at the end, absolutely: nearly all my husband and mine's arguments... were before we were married. We brought up and figured out every single difficult situation, beliefs - financial, religious, parenting etc as much as possible before marriage. We butted heads and figured out what each other meant etc and came to agreements before we got engaged and then... 'magically' we've had very rare arguments in our marriage because we did the hard work of asking the hard questions and figuring out whether we could figure things out BEFORE we committed.

[@nessapalmer5316]

Its not worth just staying. You have one life and everyone deserves to be happy and heard. Also as someone who has gone through an unwanted divorce beibg single is not that bad. I refound God and myself. I am recently in a relationship after 3 years alone. It honestly feels like I went through all of that so I could find my perfect happiness. I really just wabt everyone to find their perfect match and let go of anythibg that isnt for you.

[@noname75013]

How miserable that woman is??? She described the situation of most men. We earn more than our wives and they aren't on board with the plan but Dave usually tells the men it's their fault. Not in this situation. They essentially told her to divorce him .

[@BayushiGemma]

Remember she makes 115k and her husband only 45k but heaven forbid a man has a hobby and likes to Golf.

[@jimroscovius]

@@BayushiGemma That's all the lazy butt does. He's worthless!!

[@jimroscovius]

This "husband" is totally worthless. She should ditch him and let him wallow in his laziness!!

[@jodylarson4697]

Once she divorces him, he will magically get a good paying job, buy his own house, and live happily ever after. He just hasn't had any incentive to do so.

[@sbentsen2714]

Exactly

[@greyfoxice]

It honestly sounds like, since she makes so much more than him she looks down on him and doesn't respect him which is toxic.

[@letsdothis9728]

Dang! Dave Ramsey is preaching right now!! Preach Mr. Ramsey!

[@jasonleatherwood2172]

I paid off my mortgage at 37 and im debt free my best friend is in over his head 100k in car loans 160k mortgage 80000 heloc 20k cc debt 40k student loans we make almost the same salaries when i talk to him about money he just says my opinion on money doesnt matter in his life ok i tried

[@Bestfriend-650]

I have learned not to offer any advice because people think you are a fool and they know better. They always have some stupid math to prove their point.

[@SnifferSock]

When you're 50 and your net worth is a million higher than his, it might affect him then. 😂

[@jasonleatherwood2172]

@@SnifferSock at 37 its already 1 million higher lol im worth around 800 he worth around -100k

[@mominthe209]

It doesn’t matter because he’s going to have a long way to even.

[@gwm88]

Flip the husband and wife roles and the advice will change drastically….. interesting.

[@bufficliff8978]

Men and women are different and should be treated as such.

[@mariaking4950]

This has been going on for 29 years, I don't know why people feel sorry for her, she chose the guy she married, she seems to be the sort of person who likes to be in control and is capable of organising things, and he is a person who wants a simple life, and is happy as long as he has what he needs to survive and have simple pleasures. That diesnt make him a deadbeat I agree they don't seem "aligned". but she did choose him and maybe she loves him and he makes her laugh and she can exercise her caring side and her organising abilities and she feels needed... its not always about money...

[@BikeHelmetMk2]

Agreed. You provided a lot more insights into their possible relationship than Dave and Deloney did.

[@debrahstevens7758]

I also concur. She probably has people in her ear telling her she doesn't have an equal relationship. There's equal, and there's equitable. She's also not asking for help; she's just explaining her situation. She chose to do these things.

[@karenburrows7453]

❤❤❤ Exactly!! It's not Always about money! That can become a god or idol to people. Jesus said if you have food and clothing be content with what things that you have.

[@Jenn4rmblk]

This is my favorite episode! I’m currently dealing with something like this!!! Thank God I left before it was too late. “Throw your shoulders back and serve your family.” That’s powerful

[@joycewright5386]

My husband and I are happily married for 26 years. We never combined our finances, mostly out of sheer laziness but we are extremely happy, and debt free. We also have one joint account for household bills. It works!

[@dyates6380]

Same here. I think it's the ONLY way to be. NO hassles, no questioning about spending. The necessities are split and she has hers and I have mine and there are NO money worries and we are extremely happy and NEVER, EVER even talk money. We both have plenty, and that's not bragging. Neither of us were professionals and it's that old adage that is true; it's not what you make, it's what you spend. Live within your means and you'll have no problem.

[@reynayanez5948]

The sheer laziness part : resonates with me . But I have zero problem handing my debit card over to have him go pay something or look into my account . We both know we’re financially responsible and are saving up and that’s a huge part of marriage: Trust.

[@stefaniekienzle9252]

I'm married for 5 years. We have anything split, because we don't want to share it. But we are on the same page with money and talk about it a lot.

[@ellencox8415]

My great aunt and uncle did the same thing and made a competition out of who could make the most. They were married over 50 years before my great uncle died. 🤷🏻‍♀️ They loved each other and the competition wasn't a mean competition, more like they loved being athletes growing up so they played the game of life that way. Could they have made more combining accounts? I really don't think so because they were each other's motivation.

[@ar7647]

How does that work? Aren't you legally one if you married officially???

[@benkelley6561]

Very wise advice after the call! Don't make peace if something isn't right. Think long term. Things aren't going to change on their own. And before you get married, make sure your values are aligned, but also the things they mentioned.

[@richardgomez5008]

Love him, but get life insurance. She get 100% if she out lives him.🙂❤❤❤❤

[@nutzofsteel676]

This is the most impactful show! Great message guys!

[@scrapykat3028]

Drop him and move on. There isn’t love in this relationship period. Now, you will lose some $ in the divorce, but you’ll gain it back and you’ll be freer!

[@titolovely8237]

i already know what their relationship is. he's generally lazy and unmotivated but he lets her steam roll him. she's type A, highly motivated and driven, but doesnt want a partner but rather someone she can control. you can hear it in the way she talks. "my rental property", "i put my foot down", "i make 115 he makes about 45". u can also know the husband in that he wants nothing to do with the rental properties, only makes $45k a year and doesnt want to pay off the house. he's a lazy person who gets to ignore problems and she's a boss babe who gets to control everything in the relationship. they both get something out of the relationship, which is why theyve been together for 30 years.

[@whatevergoesforme5129]

Hmm, finally someone who thinks what I think. There is a psychological underpinnings why they are together still. Others in the comment section blame either the wife or the husband and yet no one is divorcing the other. They are both enablers and need each other to feed a psychological need.

[@drums7398]

That's God Damb, right!! You completely nailed it!

[@girlygirl1890]

@@drums7398 LOL!! (you made me laugh with your comment).

[@abark]

The only time she said we was when referring to the debt.

[@legacyopp9318]

The worst thing about breaking up long-term relationships is that there is no equity rollover. 😂

[@sattooh]

No matter what she decides I think she's amazing and I wish her the best. When Dave talks to the young ones, at least listen. It's a minute in your life. You may not understand, or be interested, in what is being said now, but you will when you're my age. And time does fly.

[@elizabethlopez9932]

An amazing woman with an incredible heart. She deserves the world. I pray her husband mans up

[@mvsorola]

This was very enlightening!