I'm Starting Over at 47 Years Old

[@technsports]

Hey Mel, This is a very powerful video. You have a lot of people who are in your corner and who support you, both close to home & all over the world. Literally all over the world, think about that for a minute. That's how large of an impact you have made, you are worth it & you bring more to the table than anybody will ever be able to measure. I for one, value your friendship immensely & if you ever need anything you know my wife & I will always be there. We both miss you. Keep fighting the good fight. I appreciate everything you do. You're the best.

[@backfromburnout]

Gahhhh Tech. You truly don’t know the impact you’ve had on my life. I have so much to thank you for. Please know that you are changing lives with sharing your knowledge and helping people be great. I value and am listening to everything you’re teaching me about money both in business and personal finance. Never have I wanted to learn as much as I do right now. Thank you my friend 🤜🤛

[@tracygarrett3952]

I don't know exactly why, but Tech's comment made me tear up. He's just a good caring person, and I'm happy he's in your life. I think you've hit upon a wonderful subject to talk about... money! I don't know what investing looks like in Australia, but that's what Google is for. I hope you look into that. On a smaller scale, you should also consider throwing a small amount into cryptocurrency. A small amount into some high risk crypto can result in life changing money. Other investments can center on blue chip companies. Everyone should invest. Do the research and decide on a schedule for investing, maybe weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly. It's called DCA, an acronym for Dollar Cost Averaging. This way, regardless of the current cost of your investments, you will buy when it's low and also when it's high, and it will average out. The most important thing to know about money is to PAY YOURSELF FIRST. Before the bills, before entertainment, pay yourself first. If you do it last, I can promise there will be multiple reasons why you can't that week, or month. Do it first and it will always happen. Don't burden yourself with credit card debt. The more you learn, the more you know, the more you'll grow. Love you ❤❤❤

[@glitterwitch718]

I agree with Tech, much love from Alabama USA 🇺🇸

[@lindajones5584]

You both are amazing and have unbelievable value to others. Love you both ❤

[@countrabricksbuildcraze8916]

Xx 🤗😊👍👍

[@kcourtney6826]

You're not starting from scratch, you’re starting from experience.

[@follow.the.dragonfly]

The best way to start!!

[@daniellelearnsstuff]

I love that!

[@HEARTCHECKAURA]

😊

[@HEARTCHECKAURA]

I’m starting from scratch too, lovely home

[@sarahg3550]

Great reminder about starting from experience ✨

[@jamesroussel]

Mel you will make it. My first marriage lasted 13 years. My wife said she didn't want to be married to me anymore and asked me to leave. I took my bed and stereo. Then I met Patty, my second wife. We where married 32 years. Together we had an Ebay store. I lost her to cancer a year and a half ago. Sitting alone in a 4 bedroom home, where do I go from here. I had my stuff but I wanted Patty. Then along came Anne. I dated her 51 years ago in high school. Now she fills my life. I believe God brought Tom in your life for a reason! Surround yourself with family and friends. The road is bumpy and sometimes rough but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

[@nadia_ash3250]

Sorry for your loss, but I’m glad someone special came back in your life.

[@oliviastar3812]

Do you still know what happened to your first wife; is she still around?

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

Thankyou for starring this!! ❤I feel hopeful even tho I'm sad

[@AnggiSahamCantik]

Thank you for sharing your story, James. I was 35 when I broke up from 5 years relationship and think my life is over. Now, I'm 37, still single, build new biz, and life is never been better 🎉

[@ultimaetsolder]

So you have a revolving door.

[@JenniferJohnson-v2w]

If you have a roof over your head, food in your belly, and a few good friends, you're richer than many.....you got this Mel!

[@backfromburnout]

100%, I am very grateful and I am happy despite the occasional tears x

[@janebarrs4224]

@@backfromburnout You'll have those occasional moments as you go through the process! I look forward to your future videos. You've got this! :) Kitty kisses help! XD

[@sabahatnaheed1435]

well said! so true. a reminder to myself first.

[@sarahmottram3369]

Too true...some women have absolutely nothing after a break up....happened to me...this lady is rich, a good basis to build happiness

[@makingwaves1239]

@user-pv7mg1tb4f: This is more than a roof over your head. Many would die for a house like this, but are stranded in a tiny studio apartment somewhere. I understand it can be difficult with a breakup and all that, but to say you start with nothing was probably exaggerating a bit.

[@LumpyMoose]

I started again at 47.. life does get great again. I’m 53 and living on my own now and loving life. Just me and my cat ;)

[@Ms.Norths.Musings]

Freeeeeedom is wonderful. We can all overcome.

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

Lumpy moose made my minute lol❤

[@emerald-i5c]

Yes!!! Never underestimate what a companion an animal is. They give you far more than you could ever give them. Total 100% faithfulness and unconditional love xx good luck to you both ❣️

[@Gypsy_merch]

Cheer up 🤗 your going the right way now.

[@flatbrokeatfifty]

You are grieving for your old life and having to learn a completely new one. You are not alone.

[@backfromburnout]

xxx

[@DeborahRichmond]

And it gets better, promise!

[@ranarostam666]

My husband left me suddenly after 17 yrs of marriage and i was devastated. He left me with nothing. I am 45 now and i am slowly picking myself up. Still grieving but i know god has better plan for me. I am changing my career and i am working on myself transformation. I am so much stronger than my younger years and i value myself a lot more. I don’t know where i am heading but i know i am making greater life with God’s help. I wish you all the peace, joy and best.

[@timfahey7127]

You should be the one making a plan.......make one and follow it, ask God to help you on that journey...don't throw your hands up and ask God to write that list. That's your job..not God's. Wonderful comment though... Good luck❤

[@RealStoriesBank]

I can see why he left you. You talk about God but your actions say otherwise

[@timfahey7127]

@@RealStoriesBank it was meant to be inspirational....I may not be a believer, but I cannot deny the inspiration my religious friends have offered me in times of need. They all stressed the importance of being responsible. By the way, nobody left me. The opposite...I found myself. I appreciate your reply.

[@ranarostam666]

@@timfahey7127 that is what i am doing. Who says i don’t plan?! I think you misunderstood

[@ranarostam666]

@@RealStoriesBank be kind. That will benefit you more

[@bettyreese2103]

I am 64. I last started over at the age of 56. I sold things, gave things away, including 2 beloved horses. Moved 1,200 miles to my home of my youth. You'll be good. I'm OK, struggles? Yeah My house of love and light? YES! Fancy? No. But God always provides.. Always.

[@evaburnz]

How lovely of you to share your story. Wishing you very well!

[@kris_ty685]

This is a beautiful place...its literally nicer than 90% of the world....I'd be so grateful to have that!

[@angrybirdie999]

Americans be saying that they've got nothing and then showing a huge new clean house🙈

[@aservantinbabylon]

Yeah, just another entitled, delusional, narcissistic western woman among millions. Zero self awareness.

[@ritasjourney]

@@angrybirdie999 she's not American

[@Lealea883]

@@angrybirdie999😂

[@vltruan]

I’m saying, her house is 5x the size of mine. She’s definitely not poor, lol.

[@LadyShanghai-wj1kh]

Listen, you’re not alone. I’m 54 & starting from scratch. I own nothing except furniture & clothes & feel overwhelmed, as well.

[@annieliz7842]

Cried my eyes out. My husband left me suddenly at 31 with a 9 month old and a 3 year old. I lost my house that I’d worked so hard for, we made no profit and I couldn’t keep it alone. Fast forward it’s been 7 years since then and while i no longer own a home, my girls are happy and loved and I have been with my new partner for 4 years. Sending so much love to you xxxxxxx

[@debbiemabrey9240]

I left my husband in March of 2019 after 13 years of marriage. It was so freeing. I started over then. Then my brother died in 2020 and had to move to be closer to my mom. 2 years later I met who I thought was the love of my life. January 15, 2022 was our first date. Wonderful year. Then came 2023. I never thought anything would be worse than 2020. 2023 I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. My job went south. My relationship broke up. Didn't see any of that coming. Started a new job at the end of 2023 and moved in 2024. Health is getting better. Job is challenging so it's taking up all my time. New church. New friends plus my ride or die friends. Life changes constantly. I want to be stable. I need to exhale. Im with you Mel!!!

[@Samahra01]

God is always preparing us for our homecoming the whole way through this life. You're doing great and you're loved beyond human comprehension. You're strong and today for you I pray for resilience, joy,and the peace that surpasses all understanding. I don't know, I felt like you needed to know how much the Lord loves you and he wants you even closer. ❤ Have a wonderful weekend:)

[@natashadickson4819]

Best wishes ❤ Your story is an inspiration.

[@rollymayola363]

Praying for you ❤

[@universaltruth2025]

Did you have to do chemo?

[@Tazzyone.]

My father left my mom with 8 kids and not a penny after decades of abuse. We were all separated and I lived in a car with my mom at 7years old. You have a very nice place, food and your kids. you landed softly. Congrats!

[@pattymain5139]

47, with looks and energy of 35. You have earned this blessing through your hard work. You just feel out of sorts. This too shall pass

[@sarahrupert5320]

I agree! She is absolutely beautiful

[@amanda-clairebennett6132]

I had nothing at 47/48, no money, no family, no friends no next of kin, no qualifications, no job and homeless. I am not a junkie, delinquent, crazy etc the standard stereotypical loser in life. You have a lot more than me, family, and a massive home. I live in state housing with OLD PEOPLE (No choice of my own) and I am only 55. There are other people worse off than you. You need to be strong, I didn't even get a settlement. Don't feel sorry for yourself, just keep moving forward. You have a lot more than other people.

[@user-uh5tb9er4o]

rooting for you

[@amanda-clairebennett6132]

@@user-uh5tb9er4o No, don't do that, I didn't write it for pity etc. Sounds like you're going to have a hot weekend!

[@cherb3145]

Use an iphone, get on KZbin and make some money.

[@aubriellemorgan]

I hate it when people do that-dismiss your pain bc there are people worse off. Misery loves company I guess.

[@amanda-clairebennett6132]

@@cherb3145 I am not struggling! Perhaps advise people who need it, I don't! Goodbye FFF

[@sherrydavis7721]

The aquarium would make a beautiful terrarium filled with plants! 😍🌿🌱❤

[@sammonicuslux]

Great idea!

[@backfromburnout]

That is a great idea! I think i will do this! Real or fake plants now is the question lol I'm not the best at keeping plants alive ha ha

[@brush412]

@@backfromburnout fake! hahaha I'm right there with you lol

[@mrststreasures9628]

@@backfromburnout FAKE!! No extra work needed. Set it and forget it.

[@mrststreasures9628]

FAKE!! No extra work needed. Set it and forget it.

[@sunshining4eva]

Started again after 30 years at 47 as well. My kids want nothing to do with me. My 21 year old hasn't spoken to me 5 years. My 28 year old only texts when he needs something. But I am me and have peace of mind. You will be ok, it will take a while. Just be true to yourself.

[@dwlsn93]

My husband of 24 years abruptly left without warning Jan 2018. I was 59. I actually thought I was going to die due to the blindside. Like you, I had to completely start over. Good thing I knew how to do it from previous tragedies in my life. I had a few “starts from nothing” in my life. This time though, I moved forward in a solid relationship with God. I didn’t have to struggle as I have a good career. Fast forward 6 years - I’m perfectly fine. I listened to Gloria Gaynor “I Will Survive” sung it on the top of my lungs for the first few months. You will survive! You have your children. You’re still young. This is your chance to do life your way. You might feel lost right now. Unsure of yourself, your decisions. Feelings of loss are pervasive. Feelings of rejection unshakable at times. Grief comes in waves 🌊 and demands your complete attention when you least expect it. Large task ahead of you, but when you find smooth sailing one day - you’ll be so grateful-to yourself and the process. You’ll be amazed & proud who you are, and of your accomplishments. Lean on those you love & who love you. Expect that it will take some time. This is different than a death - yet the same. Allow grief. If you shut it down - it will just come out harder & uglier at some other time. You’ve been part of a couple for 2.5 decades - now you get to do things your way. You’re going to LOVE the new you! ❤

[@indyd9322]

This comment is so helpful and inspiring. I'm going through an unwanted divorce right now and feeling the grief. But knowing people have successfully come through stuff like this really helps. God bless you!!

[@shaneomack5018]

I had to stop this vid at 35 seconds because the words “ I’m worth it” need to be printed out and put in your car and in your work space so you can see it daily. I got divorced after 13 years of marriage. Apparently my now ex was having affair for 2 years. It’s took me two years of a mind fog to break out of my rut. Running and mountain biking saved me. My motto I printed out was “ kick today’s a$&”. The ride or die fans are here ms Mel. Vent anytime ok ❤

[@mommahype]

Your story sounds similar to mine..constant reminders “I’m worth It” & “You Matter” ❤ (haven’t even started video yet, your comment caught my eye)

[@shaneomack5018]

@@mommahype🤜🤛

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you, I love all my ride and dies who listen to my crazy life xxxx

[@AuntGrace]

❤

[@debbiegonzales8035]

Ladies!! We women are stronger, smarter, and oh so brave. I left a 20 marriage with four young boys, three of which are mine and one nephew. It was tough. We lived in a two bedroom duplex, and I had zero furniture. I'm now 61 yrs old, boys are grown with their own families. Guess what? We all survived. It was tough, but we had a great time sleeping in the living room watching movies. We all became so close. I miss those days. We had nothing, no money, no furniture. But, we laughed and cried. But, we survived!! Young lady, give yourself some credit. You left to live a life deserved! You will be fine.

[@blossom30x4]

This just showed up on my feed… You did not just leave your house with boxes from what I heard. You have your children, your health, peace of mind, new freedom and let’s not forget the cat. It seems like you have support and people in your life that love you. You have a home. You are way more blessed than most people. You seem very strong and you will be fine.

[@backfromburnout]

Yes I’m very grateful. It just felt empty moving in the house.

[@minimalist2036]

@@backfromburnoutof course ❤️‍🩹

[@donnakettler4841]

Mel, I understand how you feel. My mom kind of went through what you're going through. She was 46 years old when my dad died of a massive heart attack at 52. They had 5 kids and four of us were married and out of the house and she had my 15-year-old brother left to raise on her own. Mind you my mom had never had a full-time job outside the house. She was devasted and didn't know where to start. She only had a 7th grade education. A neighbor helped her get a job at the hospital where she worked as a nurse's aide, and I talked her into taking a night class to get her GED. She had to learn all the shorthand terms for drugs to administer to patients. It was a lot, but I helped her study until she got it down. She kept saying she wasn't smart enough to get a full-time job because of her education level. I told her you have raised 5 kids. That takes skills that you've learned and applied to everyday living that you can use on a job. You have to budget your money to pay bills, to buy groceries and gas for the car. You know how to multitask to get several things done at once. (Clean house, wash clothes, wash dishes prepare and cook meals, etc.) You've had to manage 5 kids - keep them going by scheduling all the things they are involved in - which means you know how to manage your day and people. After telling her all of this she sat back and reevaluated her life skills and realized she had a lot to offer someone in a full-time job. She didn't have to work long though because she met a really nice man who was widowed, and they got married within a year and he told her she could quit her job which she did promptly! 😂 By the way they had 35 years together before she passed away. I'm just telling you all of this because you are so much more ahead of her in your life and in your business than where she started, and I know you're going to make it. I know it's scary and seems impossible, but you are strong, and you can do this!! Good Luck in your future endeavors and I'm looking forward to watching more videos from you about all of your trials and tribulations - because if any of us live long enough that's what we all go through, and it's called life. You will have sad times and happy times and I pray you enjoy the journey along the way. Like some of the other responses say if you need to vent because you've had a hard day, or something didn't go as planned that's alright because we're here for you anytime.!!!

[@donnasharer2602]

What a wonderful response to Mel! I appreciate what your poor Mom went through and had a great life until the end.

[@backfromburnout]

That's so lovely, thank you for sharing the story of your mum. She sounds like an amazing woman and she had a very supportive daughter cheering her along. Thank you x

[@kimberlybrown33]

Congratulations on your new home. I can’t even begin to imagine the emotional roller coaster you have been riding. As a full-time business owner and a part-time reseller, I highly recommend reading Profit First by Mike Michalowicz and Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace. These books (especially Profit First) changed my business and personal life completely in less than 5 years. Our business loan, our house, our vehicles and all of our debt was paid off because of these 2 books. I’m not much of a reader but Profit First is an easy, light-hearted read, so don’t let the title fool you. BTW, love your new place.

[@donnakettler4841]

Thank you!

[@godsmercy3333]

Girl you have more than most people a whole house. Your in a better position than a lot of people you are blessed whether you know it or not.

[@hazelaaron3858]

You have your own front door! That's worth a fortune. I'm a DV survivor, finally bought my own 4 bed home after 14 years with a conservatory and balcony, helped by being an part time reseller. You are SO worth it, you have it, you have a lovely gentleman in Tom to give you emotional support. I'm really proud of you and all you have achieved. The cat is gorgeous and I'm very confident you are going to smash it!

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you xx

[@tracygarrett3952]

I fell in love with your beautiful cat when he licked your face. That cat LOVES you!

[@susanweeres7915]

From someone who has been in your shoes, take a little time to grieve what is no longer. THIS is a new chapter of your life. Turn the page and create a brand new chapter. Enjoy your new life. Don't spend too much time dwelling on what was. I lost 5 years of my life dwelling and I am so mad at myself!! Cook new foods (you have lots of cookbooks), travel, take day trips with your kids, get new wall hangings etc to decorate your new house. You are never alone, you have 33.6 thousand friends who have your back!

[@backfromburnout]

I am actually excited to cook some new meals in this kitchen and yes I have an abundance of beautiful cookbooks :)

[@catt99mahal8]

I got divorced when I was 29. I’ve had 4 different relationships. After 35 I said no more and gave it to God. Now I’m 47 still single and my heart aches being alone. Although I have a nice home, I dont have any children and no partner, I often think if I could go back I would have at least four children. You are so blessed to have yours.

[@debbiel8585]

Debbie here from the U.S. I am now 68 yrs old. I was divorced in my 40's. You will get by. Your new house is beautiful! Deep breath one step at a time. It gets better. As a single women, be careful of men. Not all are bad, but they can be. I wish I was in my 40's! You are still young and can do this!

[@traceytheisen8067]

Mel, if people are honest, most have started over several times in their lives; for reasons of their control and reasons out of their control. It truly makes us stronger and opens doors we never knew existed. You're amazing and you've got this! Your home is so very lovely and feels fresh and full of future happiness. Keep the fish tank. Fish are amazing and your kids could learn an entire new skill set having and maintaining fish; plus they're incredibly relaxing and peaceful. So happy for you, Mel.

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you Tracey x

[@WendyWilliamsLiving]

I started over from scratch at 52, walked away with nothing but what I could comfortably fit inside my car. Fast forward to 59, and I'm thriving! Thank you for sharing 🙂

[@backfromburnout]

Proud of you! x

[@Scarlettsview99]

I'm starting from scratch with my daughter. We live in a welfare condo. I got divorced. I'm 44. It's hard, but life I guess is what we put into it. I'm in the UK. I'm yet to make friends.

[@teenageapocalypseusa5368]

You may not believe me but this is actually the most liberating moment of your life. You have a clean slate and limitless possibilities ahead of you. You can do anything you want. I wish you good health and fortune for the adventure ahead.

[@backfromburnout]

It's exciting!

[@ladyfitness67]

I’m cheering for you. I’m in exactly the same position. I left a 30 year relationship and my beautiful 3 bedroom house with just the clothes on my back … but I’m happy😊

[@bumblebee_ms]

So brave.

[@mommahype]

Not valuing my self worth….WOW you nailed this one I’ve got to get Better at this. (I’m 53 starting again) WE GOT THIS. Right ?! 🥰

[@backfromburnout]

It's something many of us do and breaking that block is hard. Thank you for watching.

[@momio2012]

The honesty and rawness in this video is why you’re one of my favorites to watch. Starting over is hard. But you’ll get through it and be better than ever. “I’m worth it” was felt by many of us. Much love from the states 💜

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you for watching all my crazy lol. Thank you x

[@stewartmackay]

I'm a Scottish guy living on a Greek island, other half ran off with a Greek guy around 6 years ago. I'm alone, renting a small apartment, a very small amount of savings (very small) and I'm now 56. I work online to make money and although its a bit scary its also a bit exciting. Despite getting little panics sometimes, I like to think I'm better off than a lot of other people, its just me and my cat Brian. Life can take funny turns but I like to believe that if my mum is somehow looking down she wouldn't want me to be afraid. You're right, follow those dreams, I'm going to do the same. Let's never stop dreaming.

[@liannehill748]

The house looks really spacious - I hope you will be really happy there. You are not old, you are a beautiful vivacious young woman with lots of life and adventures ahead of you and you are definitely worth it - look how far you have come already. Sending love x

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you x

[@dotsonms]

I had to start over again at 51, moved to a new state where I didn't know anyone with 2 suitcases and a box of bedding and a few decor pieces. I've never felt so much peace ❤

[@LilyGazou]

So glad for you. 🌺

[@bumblebee_ms]

Amazing!

[@jamiew8545]

Give yourself a month or two and one day you will wake up and you'll realize you ok. It just takes time. Routine will be your best friend. Hugs

[@backfromburnout]

I am craving routine x

[@lindaw.5836]

Hi Mel, you have a luxury house, a garden, you have your children and a cat. You clearly have SO much more than a lot of the people who really do have to start from scratch. Please be aware that you do have a lot and are extremely lucky. I hope you do enjoy your new start. I was a bit disappointed as I really needed to listen to somebody who was trying to cope with literally nothing.

[@multitablez7825]

moving house isn't starting over, lol. so strange

[@cassandraknight8804]

I agree

[@internisus]

Yeah, I was expecting something relatable, but I can't even imagine owning a home like this, and I'm 41.

[@aservantinbabylon]

Yeah, just another entitled, delusional, narcissistic western woman among millions. Zero self awareness.

[@martinhowley6483]

Her feelings are valid. Its not a competition

[@mrs.frugaltrashtocash1938]

It’s okay to be happy and sad at the same time! You are grieving the loss of your old life while getting to start a new one. ❤

[@Jane5720]

Think of it as a different way not like you’re starting over, but you’re starting a new that sounds like a much more positive mindset

[@Cjnchef]

The journey always starts with 2 new steps. Be big be bold be strong. Just like in your business

[@backfromburnout]

Love this, thank you

[@leithbodin2467]

@@backfromburnout I am slightly older than you and starting over for the 3rd time...1st was loosing 2M usd in the finical circus of 08 to 12 covet took out the job..and had to learn all this now running the some great people on selling...remember we are owners we run this stuff.. you need to leave the bad stuff at the train station and get on the new train to better things... your there! keep improving! money is not hard to get... its like water... once you have your water flowing that when it starts working for you!

[@susanirene2141]

Hi Mel, I had to start over at age 60. It has been 8 years now and I have never been better, except for a few unresolved family issues that will take more time. I stayed with a friend for two years, then found my own apartment.

[@earthsongdivine7384]

Once you get your new home organised you will love your new way of life. No one to argue with, you make your own decisions , fix and learn from your own little mistakes along the way. Your kids will survive and thrive, mine did!! Xx

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you x

[@Karalolcowlaw]

Financial stability is about making, keeping and growing money, there are 3 parts. Most people make money but can’t keep it. Good luck with your new journey, I wish you well.

[@conversationswithadrianne]

You're so right. Keeping and growing it is what i constantly look for info on.

[@helixxofluclin]

I have gone through this twice and while it’s rough it’s also liberating. Losing stuff you like sucks, losing stuff you don’t is nice. In the end the stuff does not matter, only your happiness matters.

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you. I am happy despite the occasional tears xx

[@Footwearoutlet]

This is a new chapter in your life. It's time to take care of yourself have no regrets and keep moving. Exercise, & eat healthy.

[@antiquebookcollective]

You're not starting over entirely! You've got years of learning under your belt! Lots of folks start over without a great system of support and an awesome eBay shop! You've got this!!! :D We're all rooting for you. :)

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you x

[@annielivesineurope2234]

Hi Mel, at least you have a place to live, and you have children/family. I'm sure you'll make it! Good luck!

[@lindanavenue3042]

I got divorced when I was 29. I thought even if I lived in a studio apartment it was something I had to do. I eventually bought a house all on my own. I didn't have a lot so I decorated it with yard sale finds. I bought power saws and tools from yard sales too to do renovations. You have a talent for finding deals already, so you can just look beyond the books at the thrifts for a while to find furniture and art....and you won't have to consult with anyone about what they like. It's all about what you like! It's a blank slate for you to design!

[@backfromburnout]

Yes, I have been looking around for things to decorate the house with in the the charity shops. It will be fun to redecorate.

[@stephaniehacking1657]

A beautiful new home for beautiful new life ❤ . I've started over with nothing twice since I was 40. I'm with you in spirit my friend.

[@bygonethrifter]

Feel free to reach out to your Aussie community in the group too if you are ever overwhelmed. You've got this and we got you too.

[@backfromburnout]

I love my Aussie community x

[@angelicoluigi3735]

Your garage surpasses our entire rented house by far. Thanks for providing a space to occasionally vent, share thoughts, or simply talk to someone. Life can become more challenging and complex at times, but it serves as proof of our existence.

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you!

[@rachaelcritchell2468]

I think it’s quite normal to feel flat! It’s very emotional leaving the old and starting the new! Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to adjust. ❤

[@jc-246]

I'm adding this because I remember starting over in my 30s in a shock ghosting dump after 15/16 yrs I'm in my 40s now and I'm here for this, and YOU 🫂 🤗 👐 🫂 BEAUTIFUL SPACE THERE That fish tank area could be a hole through, and you can use that as a desk/breakie bar and you get to see through to the other room. YOU have great energy ✨️ you are going to be fine 👏 🙏

[@multitablez7825]

How are you starting over? you have a home and a family. you are blessed.

[@virginiarowe4204]

You can do this! I am going through the same thing, after 38 years of a terrible marriage, I am free and happy! I have 3 wonderful kids and I need to heal me first. I did get the house but I am paying for everything! Selling on eBay, working and also learning about money! Good Luck!

[@emilysimon2676]

Mel that house is AMAZING! that backyard is sooooo nice!! Plenty room for relaxing after a hard days work. Very happy for you and nothing is wrong with a restart in life! Only good things to come!

[@backfromburnout]

Its a nice carefree back yard which I am grateful for!

[@JoysTinyAndHerLife]

My dear girl ! Count your many blessings, It is hard ,I know so well, my life has been me many starting overs, because of a few unsavory marriages, many decisions not made with intentions, and health reasons. I'm now 80 and I've had to start over once more, If I can do it at my age You can do it too.❤ Mel, while you're starting over, take the time to read two books,Nevelle Goddard, feeling is the secret, & Think and grow rich Napoleon Hill. It will change your life and how you look at your reality.

[@aprilmichele1647]

Man this video speaks in VOLUMES to so many of us!! I am rather New to your KZbin Channel and of course I am now a member of Techs group, I can only speak for myself when I state this, I feel like I have found “My People”! I shedded tears with you Mel! Almost as if you are/ living thru my past! You are 47 years YOUNG! I was 51 when my recent RESTART, began! (For the 2nd time). I am not gonna write my BIOGRAPHY here BUT just know “We are your People” much love and Positivity!!! I don’t doubt one bit your greatness that awaits ❤

[@michellekat5738]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@backfromburnout]

Hope to see you in some of the zooms, I'm glad you like the group. For me it's been life changing meeting and learning from Tech xxx

[@EM-qz8wj]

Mel - You Got This! You will land on your feet and be better than ever! It's normal to grieve the loss of your old lifestyle. Change is hard. But you have your family, Tom, your cat, and us! We're cheering you on every step of the way. BTW - your house is incredible!

[@backfromburnout]

Yes, I am very lucky to be surrounded by so many people I love x

[@glitterwitch718]

Mel, I want to just reach out and hug you so tightly. You look so much younger then 47 first off. I'm 46 and its not as old as we seem to think it was when we were kids lol. You're stunning imo. That cat is also absolutely beautiful. I love your new place too & I'm so excited to see how you decorate, get settled into it and make it your own. You are an inspiration. I want to also say that youre not starting from scratch. It may seem like it materialistically but you have experience, you have knowledge & youre able to retain new knowledge & tomorrow will be easier then today. You've got this ❤

[@michellekat5738]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@gloriaprimeau7318]

Younger for sure more like 31 or 32 good genes

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you so much for a lovely comment x

[@neRutendo]

It’s not silly to want your kitchen items at all. In my culture they say the kitchen (everything in it) belongs to the wife. If she leaves she takes her kitchen with her. If she passes everything in the kitchen is handed over to her family and it’s precisely because of the reasons you’ve given. So your feelings are totally valid. Wishing you love and light in this new journey 🌻

[@brainleap]

What an amazing home. I would say you have bounced back from the brink! It is so much more than what many have.

[@kimb884]

I started over at 49. I’m now 70 and I absolutely love my life your new home is lovely! You will thrive! 🥰

[@laurabeauchamp1667]

Mel, you are amazing! I was afraid that, at 45, it was getting too late to live my dreams and change my life. I was encouraged by this video. You are worth it. I am worth it. Our cats are worth it 😊 Sending hugs from 🇨🇦

[@backfromburnout]

I'm going to chase every dream with everything I have x

[@Fe26man]

My husband passed in 2022. I’m in my 30’s, but even so, it feels like starting all over again after him being all I knew for the last decade.

[@brendadigiacomandrea547]

Starting over with a lifetime of experience. You’ve got this Mel 🎉👍❤️❤️ You are so worth an amazing life. Hugs and lots of good vibes coming your way from the USA ❤❤❤

[@Melissa-ox9ob]

I'm 46 and restarting my life too. I lost almost everything last year. Had family steal my money and made me lose my jobs and car. It's not easy. So many years of abuse. It's over they're gone from my life. It's traumatizing. But I'm working on getting my life back. If I can get a car so I can get to work I'll be all set. I did a GoFundMe in hopes of getting help. Maybe if you need to you can do one too. You're alive. You'll get through this. Hopefully you have family and friends you can trust and that they will be there for you. I had no one really. But my animals. Things are getting better. One step and one day at a time.

[@jamie_uncensored]

I gotta say you DO Not look 47, I'd guess early 30's! You're a smart strong woman and you'll make it!!!

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you xx

[@vanessamarie5136]

My heart goes out to you. I resonate with this so much. You’re stronger than you think!! Praying for continuous good health and strength for you to accomplish all of your goals for your kids!! 🙏🏻

[@suitcasefullofcake]

I started watching you when I started selling on eBay as I began with selling books (and some other media and junk) I had lying around my house. I love every video you share and I hope you can feel how much support you have because I can't be the only one who looks forward to every time you post. Best wishes, you got this, you are worth it!

[@backfromburnout]

I appreciate everyone watching my crazy life. Thank you x

[@leebradford6283]

I started again at 37. I am 41 now. Burnt out from working and paid very well. Over consumed buying crap I didn’t need! I have gotten rid of it now. I had quit my job I have been rejected 100 times. Don’t worry we get better! Read a few financial books is what I invested in doing and it brought me back….trying to get on top of my finances and almost lost my house. Keep going forward!

[@jeffperteet2327]

I've been disabled from a car accident for 24 years, it's hard when a doctor says you're stuck with a crippling condition, and there's no procedure to remedy it.

[@backfromburnout]

That would be devastating.

[@teresaseina5627]

You got this, do your best. You are brave and filled fill courage. I am following you and you journey. We all got you.

[@lindasummer2343]

Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable with us. In my life I have learned that many people start over and/or reinvent themselves in many different ways (divorce, lost job, fed up in general). It takes a different path for everyone and I think you have some good business advisors with Tech & Sport and Chris at Daily Refinement. For your personal finances, check out to see if the group ChooseFI has an active group in Australia. Going through the fire is tough for sure but the other side is always clearer. One step at a time is the approach I take when I am feeling snowed under. Big hugs to you and much love.

[@Satsusss]

What ?? Did you send her $100 ??

[@PowderedVoltage]

​@@SatsusssDonations are common on KZbin these days.

[@backfromburnout]

Oh my goodness, I have just seen this! Thank you, thank you, thank you! I am so very grateful xxxx

[@MindfulGrinds]

Sending healing vibes. I am so grateful to be 10 years past where you are now. Life changes are so difficult.

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you for sharing

[@charlesschmitt2989]

The struggle is real but you are never given more than you can handle!! Take a breath focus and remember YOU GOT THIS !!! You do a great things keep it up.

[@backfromburnout]

So true! Thank you x

[@robertwillis9988]

Stay strong mel❤

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you, I will x

[@timtaman5]

Mel, you are showing us reality. True life. Most content creators show us the ins and outs of reselling but you show us life. The heartache, the sadness, the depression but you also show us the joy, the accomplishments, the triumphs and the success. Thank you!! YOU ARE WORTH IT!! ~Tammy from Oklahoma

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you x

[@a9s2w5]

One day, one book, one moment at a time… If you let yourself think about it all too much, dwell too much. It can feel so overwhelming. But if you just tell yourself, I don't have to do anything in any moment…but this one thing… You don't have a whole room to pack up, just this ONE item at a time. And use that mentality in everything, you will arrive at your destination. You will find the light at the end of every tunnel, even if you can't see it. Just one step at a time.

[@PhilRuybal]

You're definitely an inspiration to so many people out here and ive been following you for like 6 months now, and I see your positivity and strength! Thanks for being vulnerable!

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you so much!!

[@PhilRuybal]

@backfromburnout of course!! Have you looked into the Dave Ramsey baby step method?? It helped me so much with getting on the right path for financial freedom. I'm not rich lol, but it's definitely helped me so much! I appreciate you!

[@erikandconnieh2699]

Mel, keep ramblin', keep sharing, you are helping others!! Your house is beautiful, and you are making a home for you and your kiddos!! You are amazing!! Love you bunches!! ~C

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you for listening to me, it helps me when I talk things out

[@missfigs5255]

This hit me so hard. I was married when I was 21, ended up leaving him 2 years later. I worked so hard from scratch at 25 to go back to school, get my BScN degree at 31, worked so hard to build up my career etc..ending up at 40 with a massive heart attack, became diabetic etc.. lost everything I worked for. I had to start over at 40 which was 6 years ago and it is still a struggle at times. I've had 3 heart attacks and now have heart failure, but I am here for a reason and all of this struggle has shown me my purpose in this life. We spend so much time grieving what we lost that we lose track of the opportunities we now have. We have nothing more to lose, we are open to explore this new space in life. I know that it is so hard sometimes but please know that you are not alone. Know that you now have a chance to create a new life for yourself, it can be overwhelming but one step at a time, one moment at a time.

[@marypiana6862]

I feel your pain. I have recently gone through a similar situation after 32 years. Heartbroken. Life is about looking forward, not looking back.

[@backfromburnout]

Sending you love Mary, thank you

[@catchingupproductions]

Staring over is such a beautiful thing. You are still alive. God allows you to try again 🙏🏾 I believe in you and everyone who feeling it.

[@slvrcross]

YOU ARE WORTH IT! YOU ARE SO WORTH IT! Trials and tribulations, warps and wefts, crests and troughs. YOU GOT THIS, YOU CAN DO THIS. YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS.

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you xx

[@karatheyaroxan6852]

New place looks gorgeous. Best of luck starting all over. *smiles*

[@thecuriouscaseofkianathoma8354]

It’s all going to be okay. May this temporary season pass through quickly. Claim your healed heart!

[@PowderedVoltage]

​@AlbertNewton-bf6cr🤣

[@DaydreamAboutNiceThings]

You will make it ! You are an amazing strong person ! You are surrounded by your youtube family. 🙏

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you so much!!

[@darussianping61]

Lovely house. Private and spacious...good choice. You're going to be fine. New beginning. ❤

[@backfromburnout]

And not a huge garden for me to find time to maintain lol Win win!

[@gh0s7sama]

This really hit home for me. I’m 47 and going through the same thing. It’s absolutely not for the faint of heart. You’ll kick butt and do great!

[@lorimiller7261]

Im starting over at 49, in the middle of divorce, moving with the kids, giving up my eBay store for now, going back into a stable job because it makes sense at this time. Waiting on our settlement too. I wear a bracelet that says “ You Are Enough “ I want my children to be proud of me, that is my motivation 😊 We have to go through the bad to reach his glory ❤ Beautiful lady you are ready and can do this, be patient and kind to your self. Freedom and Peace are worth it 😊❤

[@conversationswithadrianne]

May i ask how you got back in the workplace? I stepped away for a few years and not sure where to start.

[@ToriLeighTV]

You have a beautiful home. You’re never too old to start over and build a new life. Blessings to you.

[@sammonicuslux]

Your new place is lovely. Your cat is OMG GORGEOUS and clearly adores you. YOU ARE WORTH IT all, Mel. New start, fresh beginning. I am so glad you have the kitchen goods. My Sis and I (lovingly) fought over a paring knife my aunt had bought in the 50s. She won and she framed it! That knife is a legend and has so many good memories. I got my mom's tongs. Funny how these simple tools mean so much. So, let us know what the first big meal you make will be. Congrats!

[@backfromburnout]

Oh I love she framed it, LOL! Honestly even my boring Tupperware brings back so many memories with my girlfriends of when the kids were small and our "girls nights" consisted of Tupperware party after Tupperware party just to catch up. I wanted the kitchenware and kids keepsakes more than anything else materialistic, which is what I did get and I'm very happy with.

[@9384cows]

You will do just fine. You are not starting from scratch, you are moving in a new direction with the wisdom you earned and learned from when you first started out. That is priceless. You are not an old woman. (I'm 73 and old!) You are in the prime of your life with a chance to learn from your mistakes and how fun to take your new knowledge to make things so much better. You get a second chance. A do over. How exciting! Nothing worthwhile is too easy. You have to earn it. But boy! That is so satisfying! You know what to do and you will do just fine. And think about this saying that really helped me move on. There comes a point in your life when you have to let go of the Past to make room for your Future! Good Luck.🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@CherrieMcKenzie]

I can only say welcome to the adventure!! And then, just remember we get what we focus on so "stop" turns into "continue" whereas "This is what I will DO" turns into more doing (what do you think about when I say "DON'T think about a banana"). It also doesn't mean you have to always start big. Small steps allow you to learn and make course corrections. The group also helps shorten the learning curve. The one thing I have learned about business is that there will be great up's and hard down's, but if you hang with it and give yourself a little grace from time to time you'll find it was worth it!!

[@sylviasushi]

Hang in there Mel - you got this! I divorced about 2 years ago, my first time on my own, after being with my husband for 18 years. I'm 35 now, starting over, and I'm still struggling to figure things out. We can do it, we are worth it

[@michellekat5738]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@BelleResells]

aww!! i'm in a similar boat.

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you, sending you big hugs also x

[@Ninya_B]

Everything is a mindset. Letting go is a good thing.

[@kateconway3374]

You're courageous, inspirational and so honest. It's very hard to be that honest on a very public forum. Don't underestimate how much positive impact you have via your youtube videos. I'm rooting for you. Sending love from London, England X

[@backfromburnout]

Thank you x

[@KristelViljoen]

One of my favorite qoutes is: "Sometimes Destruction can be as Pivatol as creation." Starting again means you can rewrite your life. You can find a new naritive for your life. Maybe start with telling a story of tomorrow in your head. What would you think would be the best next day and then live that story. Sofar the story that you told today was beautiful and heartwarming and inspirational and....uplifting. It was a story of strength and forward thinking. You've got this.