I'm struggling

[@hollamonE]

Definitely set boundaries for your own home. That is your sanity and sacred space.

[@emilypink09]

I’m so worried about you Laura. It’s hard to see you look so frightened and anxious. Just please please hold firm with Stephen. You have to protect yourself and your kids, as I genuinely worry about his behaviour and the impact it has on you and the children. All that said, you’re doing great in going to yoga, meetings etc to help manage the stress and of course, most importantly, you’re being a brilliant mum.

[@emilyplatt8172]

I agree with everything you just said. I'm so worried for her too and she is a great mom

[@emilyplatt8172]

His response shows that you made the right choice

[@Flairt0319]

People have to remember he’s not mentally stable either! is!

[@emilyplatt8172]

@@Flairt0319 I worry for her safety honestly.

[@Flairt0319]

@@emilyplatt8172 agreed!

[@chloetaylor4001]

@@Flairt0319even more of a reason not to have any contact unless it's regarding the children ! Let's not forget he was arrested fir assaulting her he emotionally manipulates her constantly to make her feel bad for distancing herself he's a horrible person

[@clairehawkes1112]

@@chloetaylor4001manipulative.

[@smarttechaddict]

I feel for you. Your gut is right, you need your space, you have 2 kids who you have to look after their emotions, not 3. Stress could be causing the issues, and you have plenty of that. Alfie is coming on so well, you're a good mom. You've got this.

[@kimberly09324]

"Are we okay? " Is definitely the one.

[@tasha4052]

I agree

[@KayTheMadness]

Totally agree 👍🏽

[@lighthouse1136]

I agree!

[@mandyb8144]

SO proud of you for not letting Stephen stay any longer now that his foot is healed! ❤

[@immaseahorse24]

He hasn’t left yet, he’s not going to go quietly

[@IBELIEVEINDEADGIRLSUPREMACYx]

@@immaseahorse24she’s definitely gonna have to evict him but if both of their names are on the house then she’s not gonna be able to unless she gets a protection order 🫠

[@taniahowcroft567]

It’s so nice to hear his voice, his Speach has got so much better 😊

[@jennyjones2729]

ARE WE OKAY, is fantastic.

[@evap.5121]

I'm glad you put your foot down with Steven I could tell you weren't truly comfortable with him there. You need to create strong boundaries with people like this. He was trying to inch his way back in and threw a fit like a child when he couldn't get what he wanted.

[@jessicamassey7301]

I’m 38 and yes, PMS is absolutely worse. I LOVE Missfits 💁🏼‍♀️ Please keep your safety in mind with the other situation, the response is scary.

[@dodirae]

Its the added stress in your life that is making your pms worse. Hes not responding cause its not what he wants to hear.

[@teresa-3489]

he acts like a little kid when his plans don't go his way.. he should already be in his own home and stay there

[@azeetrona]

Ding Dongs? Are we okay? I trust you ladies. Just it get out there!, Ladies!

[@wendylee13]

My son is 29 and high functioning autistic and if things don’t go his way he acts the same. It takes them longer to respond due to them having trouble processing! Any not getting the response they want. Do the right thing and stick to your boundaries. He will be fine. If not that’s his issue then. I love Are we ok? ❤ Or Two of a Kind! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@mummysmidge5737]

And this is why the world needs to understand autism more - they're processing is de----laaaayed, its not childlike it just doesn't form like a normal brain would perform processing etc Laura's processing is that of someone with adhd which is also different from both autism and neurotypical - Laura's way isn't "normal" either

[@teresa-3489]

@@mummysmidge5737 she has add and he is a add manipulative narcissist 😆

[@shannonross6730]

I love 'Are We Okay?' for the name! ❤ I feel like a lot of people will relate to that.

[@susie_q1]

So proud of you taking back your life and space. You are strong, you have great support, a therapist, good friends, loving followers that hate to see you being so controlled, used and abused. You are finding your voice and setting very important boundaries. S. needs to get all his stuff out of the guest house today. He has played you long enough. Be so glad you are finding your voice. You will be nervous maybe just because it is new for you. After the first time, you will be amazingly happy. He will no longer occupy space in your head, home or heart. You are doing nothing wrong. Remember, he is a master manipulator and loves to make you feel guilty. He actually does that to scare you and blame you. No more Laura. Take back your life from him. You are doing it and you will be amazed at how fast you will be loving yourself in finally taking your life back. You will blossom in so many ways. You honesty will be filled with joy as it always was meant for you to be. Be so grateful to know how strong you are and you are doing this. He needs to be out yesterday. And taking absolutely all his things with him. Throw out whatever he leaves behind. Make sure it is back to being a guest house and it is on your property. He is well beyond 1 day, beyond 6 days by far. He is fine and can live back in his house. Sending much love to you, peace and ongoing joy in your life with the best of people surrounding you. Even those you have never met. xoxo

[@CelticPondDweller]

Well said infact move a proper guest in

[@lorikegler5587]

I had a feeling that once his foot was in the door, he wouldn’t leave without a battle. I’m so sorry. My PMS was insane in my 30s and 40s. I’m so grateful to be past all that.

[@beeztrapp1612]

Girl, you know he's not a safe person. He has made that demonstrably clear. Your stress and anxiety is your body reconfirming that to yourself.

[@Sparkinthedarkness]

Be careful. He’s dangerous. Stay safe

[@CelticPondDweller]

I def agree he’s not right

[@evap.5121]

no need to scare her even more

[@immaseahorse24]

Acknowledging the danger is wise, it’s easy to gaslight ourselves into thinking someone we loved won’t hurt us. One assumes you have never been in n FDV situation and do not understand the nuances or the danger at leaving point, and this is a leaving point. ​@@evap.5121

[@Sparkinthedarkness]

@@evap.5121 oh please. He’s been arrested for DV before. She knows the kind of person he is

[@Navvs15]

@@Sparkinthedarknessagainst her or someone else?

[@everylittlething1234]

I’m 41. My periods have gotten so crazy and wonky and the bloating and pain in my vagina are unlike anything I had ever experienced when I turned 40. I got my hormone levels checked and was prescribed progesterone and it has really helped a lot. I was turning into a sobbing crazy biotch every month and that’s so much better now! Maybe get your levels checked! Also love that you’re seeing a therapist, setting boundaries and ARE WE OK?! is perfect!! You’ve got this!!

[@natalia.who.what.where.when.]

So hopeful for you!!! 3 years today I made my own great escape, and I'm happy for us BOTH today. You can do this ♥

[@noreinzweidrei2607]

It was the right decision. Be proud of yourself! ❤

[@soychansa]

I worry so much for you and the kids. So many of us do and care. We're very glad to see you be true to your boundaries right now. It's very hard and validly dangerous to be in a dynamic like you are. Be sure to stay connected to your friends during this time on a daily basis, even if it's just a check in. Also see if they can check in with you proactively. ❤❤❤ You are so loved and you deserve safety. You can do it.

[@lauriebieda4498]

I think we have all been holding our collective breath’s waiting to see if you were going to set it that he needs to go home,his home…….be super careful right now,he’s scary,and I know I’m not the only one that wonders what will he pull next.don’t think he thought you were this strong woman and he was back in for good,something is coming.prayers,thoughts are with you.lean on mannon!

[@22SeaJay]

Awww this is the clearest talking I've heard from Alfie! 💜 Well done, little one. Love how happy he was at the end. 😊

[@CarolCurotto]

“Are we ok” is amazing

[@deannalong508]

Agreed. Are we ok is perfect.

[@georginachester1555]

i can absolutely relate with you laura....i am 37 yrs old and for the past year, so many changes in my physical and mental have taken a turn and become a massive challenge for me. I find that good amounts of sleep, routine and pushing myself to excersize and get outside can help. Also, i had my bloodwork done and my iron levels were alot of the issue

[@asophfable]

Your BEING is strong, your CHARACTER and integrity and energy COMPRISES resilience, you've ALWAYS shown to us that you're a good mother. Just wanted to remind you of that. Hope you feel the warmth and support of the community you created here, and know we just want the best for you. Some people might keep testing that, but you'll keep creating BETTER boundaries and STRONGER foundations and clearer alignment every single time you choose YOU and choose LIFE and your lovely kids 🩷🌄 just keep remembering YOU are your priority. and that includes your healthy, happy life with your children regardless of other person(s) involved

[@kitz_onthemoona.5348]

“Are we okay?? “ Is perfect!!

[@jennlee4594]

He didn't respond because he knows how to push your buttons. He's manipulative. I'm glad that you're staying strong. He needs to grow up. Keep on staying strong! It's hard but you deserve peace.

[@diddat.803]

I read somewhere that if you didn´t listen to you inner voice that month, your PMS is worse. It really was like that with me. Also, you need alot of fatty acids, I took 1 TS(tablespoon) of flax seed every day. About Stephen: if someone tells you who they are - believe them. He couldn´t have been more clear about beeing a sociopath. I´m so sorry, you have to go through this, but you´re a strong woman, Laura 💪🤗

[@evap.5121]

That's interesting. That's why we need to keep a diary and listen to our thoughts. I also could tell she felt really uncomfortable with him there and like she was losing control of the situation. I'm glad she realized what she had to to

[@aliceblack4311]

Alfie’s speech has come on so much! 😊

[@hunaseven4676]

You are doing a great job ! It's awesome that you are able to put boundaries and respect for yourself. Somebody said this to me and it changed my life: you are not responsable for the émotions of others ! Repeat it to yourself until you believe it

[@standup2982]

Yes!! Also not responsible for the actions and reactions of others.

[@digitaldorothy]

Can’t wait to listen to “Are We Okay?” I hate to see you going through this, but I’m also really glad that you’re documenting it.

[@smileoverit]

You don't know me..but I am so proud of you because you are taking the time to really understand your feelings. This is what I needed today, to hear you talk out your positives because I was in bed all day. I am glad I came across this today. You have been a breath of fresh air to watch and listen to. And I think...Are we ok is a perfect name for your new podcast. Much ❤

[@bernadettemcintyre6213]

"ARE WE OKAY?" Is definitely a great podcast name. You're an amazing Mom!!!! I love seeing you w the kids and you are so honest and upfront!! Love you Laura!

[@Catmafia5678]

Not me literally crying at 31 the day before my period. I have ADHD. I'm coping by contacting my GP for a gyne referral. In the meantime my boyfriend has gone to get me pizza 🍕 But yeah codependency is hard and it wouldn't surprise me if that's why you're struggling in the sense of maintaining boundaries as you said your relationship was codependent previously. People who love you will get it and make room for you to put your boundaries in place ❤️

[@Sarah-Harvey]

I’m so excited for the podcast with Manon, love you two together! ‘Are We Okay” definitely suits you both and sounds more clickable than Ding Dong. I really hope you’re ok Laura, I’m so worried about you. Stephen is unhinged, I think we all knew he wouldn’t react well when it was time for him to leave. I honestly think he saw this as his way back into your life. You are doing the right thing by putting your own journey above all else. You’ve come so far, you’re doing an amazing job at being a single, working Mama. Don’t let him drag you down, you got this 💪❤️ xx

[@MM-zs7rp]

I hate how parallel our lives are with our ex’s being THE SAME PERSON almost and also having a daughter on the spectrum in LA - it’s so hard and I know first hand!! Hang in there, you are doing seriously SO amazing and I’m endlessly impressed! If I happen to see you at the park one day I’m offering you a big hug!

[@laurenl8664]

You're inspiring to me. I'm rooting for you in making healthy choices for you and your future by not just cutting out all those stressors, but also by being vocal about it through professional help, meetings, friends, and even strangers you're empowering on the internet. I think social support and advocating for our own social support is one of the most important things we can do to make lasting changes for our emotional health. Blessings to you ❤️

[@desireekidd6764]

I think " Are we okay?" Is something I would listen to.

[@rochellesteyn2146]

Are we okay? It's beautiful seeing you still being there making the children feel safe and loved through this all. I'm sorry he is making this difficult after you tried assisting him.

[@alchemyofcolorandstyle]

“Are we okay?” And immediately summoned ambulances 😂

[@angieevans]

You are not alone. Many single moms have these feelings more often than not especially in the beginning stages. You have to think about your stages here. New babies, new home, new diagnosis, divorce, healing and ex in your backyard. Gotta stay the course and draw that boundary so you can heal and continue healing. Hard to do when ex living with you or on your property. That’s a big boundary issue.

[@MsBec21]

Listened to something recently which stated that PMS is often worse due to the surrounding situations rather than the symptoms themselves. If you are dealing with testing situations or something is not at ease in your life, it will be exacerbated at this time. It’s important to check in with yourself and make important changes which facilitate inner peace ❤️

[@Sas88184]

Alfie is an absolute joy to watch and Poppy is the sweetest girl❤ I have seen autistic children deteriorate and I am glad Alfie is thriving and I do believe because of his clean eating, supportive and playful mother. May God bless you and your children Laura❤️

[@sinedmariecomiskey]

Are we okay is my favorite! The sirens went off when you mentioned that one!

[@fragilefleur]

And PS. having a good therapist who can be objective and impartial to help you walk this very vulnerable and scary time is what they are there for. You are doing all the right things and healthy things. So cool!

[@FrancieMoon9]

Laura, you are adorable. And your friend is too! Lovin' it!

[@donnadavis2238]

You got this, Laura!!! We’re rooting for you. Continue to stay strong . Sending big hugs and good vibes ❤

[@ClarityAmor]

"Are we okay? " is perfect!

[@sasthesasquatch]

you and manon's friendship is everything.

[@melindafornator4827]

Wow, I am totally blown away and so impressed with how fantastic Alfie is doing!! Laughing, hugging, big smiles - he truly is so happy!! Awesome job Mommy! You are a fantastic mom with your beautiful Alfie and Poppy, you've been taking care of Stephen too. Taking care of Laura is way overdue. *big hugs* Yes the gas/bloating is definitely from stress...if/when I've been unhappy and super stressed it always results in my stomach blowing up! You might want to get some gas prevention enzymes and take them with your first bite of a meal. They really help. As for *exhales* _him_, I'm trying really hard to not feel fury towards how he responded because that also messes up my stomach. Saying that...there's no way his reaction can't be construed as manipulative and downright SHITTY!!! First off for saying whatever horrible things he said, and for sending it to you at 2 fucken A.M.!!! Throwing hissy fits is one thing (are his hormones going nuts?! seriously what's his excuse?!) but waiting to send it to you, heightening your anxiety then sending it when it'll wake you so you can't even sleep afterwards....😡😡😡😡😡😡😡. These are not the actions of a person who'll put you first. I really question his "love" for you. I'm sorry.

[@koverbaugh91]

I love “are we okay?”! It fits you both well! ❤ so excited for this!! thank you for sharing your journey. You are so strong and beauuutiful!!!😘

[@koverbaugh91]

And the sirens were definitely a sign!

[@angieo2245]

I'm so proud of you. You're actually helping yourself by going to your therapist and being with your best friend. Just remember in good time. This to shall pass. Have a great day Laura.

[@poisonxgirl]

It has to be “Are We Okay”

[@jordangriffin6997]

I also get really bad bloating before my period as well. I always assumed it was normal, maybe not?

[@OnlineTherapistGroup]

It's definitely "are we okay". B/c we ALL relate to that.

[@lisacunningham5475]

I like are we ok and miss fits!

[@mikalascott2024]

Yes!!! Lean on your friends and family. We are here to support you!!! Do not back down. Your x need s to begin to take care of himself. A podcast!!!! Yes, are we okay? Yes...winner

[@Staceysprobablycrying]

That server gave the perfect answer 😎

[@leahbia2]

STAY STROOONG! Youre doing great! Keep those boundaries and focus on YOU and those babes

[@13Ilovenature13]

So excited about your podcast! Woooooooooo hooooooooo! YES to “Are we ok?” And you made the right decision about Stephen. ❤

[@shaylaek1696]

Love you girl!! Keep your head up. Remember life is good even on the hard days! You’ve got this! You are strong, smart and beautiful… even more… an amazing protective momma. ❤

[@mtc1801]

You are doing a great job! Great mommy! Take it easy on tough days, get a treat with a friend to not isolate, but dont put too much on your plate on hard days. Bloating just goes with the territory once a month. Keep walking and yoga-ing😊

[@IndigoMasquerade]

The fact that he threw a fit when you told him he can't live with you - his ex wife 🤯

[@tarashort9702]

Huge fan of the name "are we okay?" I'm glad you are setting boundaries with Stephan. His behavior when he doesn't get his way always makes me nervous. But, I can only imagine how much worse his outburst/tantrum would have been if he'd stayed three months. You've got this Laura. Remain focused on the sobriety, your beautiful children, your work goals, YOURSELF. ❤

[@annepardun9953]

Hold the line! You deserve to have peace and less stress! I love Are we Okay for your podcast with Mannon! I love you two together!

[@lndz3089]

Yesssss Laura!!! So glad to see you implementing and enforcing your boundaries. Try to do some breathe work when the fear and anxiety creep up (it’s what I do) Think: Breath in healthy boundaries, love of your children, the need to protect them, then breath out fear, codependency and self doubt. We are all here to see you succeed and I love the title, “Are we okay?” Haha! Much better than ding dongs imo. Keep reaching out to friends, recovery networks, and being honest with self and therapist. Letting go is hard. But SO necessary in your case, Stephen is dangerous I’m afraid and I would not trust him alone around your children. Sending light and love and healing your way. ❤❤

[@ashlogan1173]

37-38 is around the age we start experiencing hormones decline which can create all sorts of symptoms before being in perimenopause. Make sure your vitamin D3 with K2 levels are good. B complex, magnesium glycinate and ashwagandha also help a lot. It's time to get a head start. I am just sharing what has been working for me. I started at 38 and am now in perimenopause at 47 with very few symptoms or at least very manageable. Remember to take time for yourself and breathe!!

[@MsCogan555]

Laura, his reaction is h8s own. Let him feel it, process it and he will later accept. Keep your boundaries in place. Try to find a pocket of happiness today , it's does wonders x

[@JamesCee]

@laura... Ive been out of the loop since covid... Several things I love about you. Your funny and very beautiful. I hope you get through what ever is going on. Pardon that Im not in the loop of what you are going through. Im subscribed and guess Ill catch up over time

[@Briar93]

I got an IUD and its been life changing no cycle no hormonal icky that comes with it was awful to get but worth it for the mental health relief

[@amberbrown8174]

I'm 43 and it's awful and I don't cope well at all 😔 hang in there

[@LR42810]

Same here. I'm thinking it's perimenopause 😒

[@gallavich6762]

Love you Laura! You’re doing so well

[@the_autumn_fey]

I also have noticed it's more intense at 38 and I think it's hormonal but I also think another added factor is being 2.5 years into my recovery, I feel everything and that nake the intensity more intense.

[@the_autumn_fey]

I take herbal teas for pms that have vitex in it. I also use topical essential oils with vitex, clary sage and palmorosa. It takes the edge off. You are also going through a lot and stress will make our pms worse. Our cycle is our 5th vital sign so when the symptoms during pms and mentlstration are noticeable, frequent and strong, it's a sign something in our mind, body or spirit is off

[@Lulu-jq6wp]

Definitely “ are we okay “ 🥰

[@fragilefleur]

Woohoooooo!!! You go girl!! You are walking the hardest walk of all the walks right now and having PMS on top of it. God help ya girl! You are a badass and I’m 100% behind you! You totally made my day in your placing your boundaries! Are we okay is perfect and suits so many of us out here figuring it out with challenging circumstances. You and Manon are so so a combined super gem. Both of you are exceptional and together you are super chicks who give a voice to so many women and general culture right now both the pain and humor of it all. Hope this greets you with a more peaceful and grounded day with your own space, your babies, your family, friends and a growing sense of your own value even if you feel like your skin has been peeled off and your nerves are all exposed. You are showing the kids how not to put up with toxic boundary crossing even if they love you both. You are showing a bajillion other women in your being public with this and showing how to be strong and face the transitional pain of holding your boundaries. I want to congratulate you. It may feel scary for awhile. Shit may hit the fan but ultimately you are better off. No shade to Stephen but you and him are codep in a very toxic way. Been there done that and it’s very very familiar. It’s so hard. Sending you a huge big hug and patting the belly bloat! Lol Stress can induce a ton of illness so do make a huge effort to counter it. Take your walks and bust ass on naming your gratitudes and keep in with your support system. That’s key. I so so relate to the propensity to isolate and run on fear. You will be okay. Write out some scenarios of how this can go well. How do you see your healthy future playing out and how can you release some of the fear and distress over time? What do you want just for you? How will you make it happen? And what gorgeous juicy moments can you look forward to in your future? You are going to be okay! I promise. You have all the resources for a super excellent support net and now it’s up to you to also become part of your own net. I say ut like it’s easy. It’s not. Stay at the meetings and with your sponsor and make tons of friend chill times and don’t put tons of new stress on yourself right now. Just exist and let things fall into place. You have proven that you can live independently already and be okay. Now it’s no more backpedaling due to old patterns. Each time you practice a boundary you will get so much better at it. The fear of the fallout is the worst part. I know. So well. Wish I lived nearby and could have you and kids over for a tea and a hug and a woohoo and a few tissues in hand. It’s ok to feel grief and all kinds of emotions also. It’s a painful time. Hang in there and make sure to nourish your mind, body and soul and be aware of any negative vibes around the kids. They can feel your distress even if you say nothing. The world is your oyster. After you grieve and process this all, plan a little fun thing just to zero out your stress ball. Take a little vacation even if it’s close by like a weekend to San Diego taking kids to sea world or something as simple as having your mom come babysit and you go do a cruise or go to a beach and just be one with nature. Come up here to the Pacific Northwest and do some hiking. It’s gorgeous all summer. Rent a car and check out Mount rainier with your mom and kids or with your bf and do some wildflower viewing or do the loop drive and check out the amazingly cool views from the mountains, waterfalls, glacier lakes and so on. Go find a hot springs and hunker down to warm the pain and let it melt out of you some. You are fortunate to be able to afford to travel and explore (I presume) and so go for it. You are only young once and you are young, strong, capable, and have an amazing heart. Love those babies and your mama and all the folks who have been there for you and just do your best everyday. Give yourself some slack on hard days and know they won’t all be bliss and even good. That part is just life. Deep breaths, Laura, and take the next right step forward. Xo

[@LynnTanner-ls9kx]

I've watched Laura before Alfie was even born and it's eye opening how you watch someone be so in love and experience life and now going through this( a lot of us are also) it's just eye opening how many of us are similar and how life can be.

[@tasha4052]

I love that you are noticing that you need to reach out for help for your own sobriety & mental health. ❤ I know you care about Stephen but girl, yall are divorcing. You can care from a distance. He's not your responsibility. He is responsible for himself. You just focus on yourself & your kids. You’ve got to do what's best for them & boundaries need to be made. Hang in there girl, you’ve got this!! 💕

[@JennGreene-c4y]

I can totally relate! I just turned 40 and feel better, but around 37 it seemed hormonal for me.

[@courtneyhey2436]

My heart just melts seeing Alfies progress ❤ it's absolutely amazing and your doing such a fantastic job. My son is very similar to him but we are yet to become verbal...all in his own time I'm sure, so I just love that we have got to see him stretch and grow 🥰

[@lindseyh98]

Hormonal imbalance!! I’m 38 and have struggled with it too. Seems impossible to handle sometimes! It unfortunately messes with my life in negative ways. Constant battle but you’ve got it!! You’re a great mom/daughter/person!❤

[@marciajones2993]

You’re tummies bigger than my daughters and she’s nearly 22 weeks pregnant. I told her “it’s a fart with a bonnet on. Periods and bloating suck. Hope Steven goes quietly and doesn’t give you any grief sending lots of love and light. 💙🌸🌸

[@limenicola]

Oh & stress depletes both magnesium & zinc so make sure to top up on those either through diet or supplements.

[@EpisodiacSelections]

Are we okay..ALL DAY! and I'm here for it , can't wait for the pod! you two together = comedy gold! stick to your guns mizz Laura, stick to those boundaries, they work wonders!

[@tara9750]

Thank you for being an advocate and doing right by your children. You deserve peace in your own home. So many are rooting for you. 37 too. Period is due and I'm teary eyed over so much stupid shit like the ocean choosing moana. Lol. I've noticed i either get very ragey/emotional or ill get bad cramps for a day or 2. Honestly i prefer the cramps. Get me off this ride!

[@dorisfaulkner9721]

Podcast with you two is brilliant. ❤ Alphie’s laugh is so sweet.. 🥹 That’s one happy boy

[@carflk916]

You could have anticipated that he would be upset (however that doesn’t dismiss him being unfair to you). If he is transparent about who he is or why he is this way, then unfortunately his reaction would be anticipated. It doesn’t make it anymore easy or right. I wish you strength and I am so happy you’re sticking to what is healthy and best for your life. That is so courageous and inspiring. I don’t know if I would be able to assert myself in the same way.

[@aprillovesjulio]

Can we all talk about how adorable Alfie and Poppy are???

[@theblackschaos]

You setting boundaries is the healthy thing for you and how kind you even let him in when he was injured! His response is your answer that you made the right decision. Also, I get the pms thing I don’t know if it’s because of having kids and now I’m done it’s been 5 years since my last child, but I’m 34 and I feel so awful pms. I feel very low energy, I go into a state of anxiety and depression almost and I have to remember to recognize it and give it to God before I let it overtake me and become a reality because it’s all irrational in that moment. Your amazing Laura and the winner is “are we okay?” That’s perfect!!!! For you and mammon for your audience yes!

[@jennifers.3818]

Im 45 and YES!! My pms and cramps got horrible in late 30s and early 40s. I never had cramps and didnt deal with pms very much. But it was unbearable at 40, to the point I had to begin taking low dose estrogen birth control non stop in order to control it. I stayed on it from 39-46. Am now off it and have am having no periods. I feel a little young to have completely gone through change

[@TheDriftdog]

I hate my husband and kids for how chronically stressed they’ve made me. There is nothing I can do to make things better. I wish my kids were still little like yours 🥺

[@MM-zs7rp]

Ding Dongs makes me think of the Ding Dong Show with Don Barris at the Comedy Store

[@RuthParodies]

I WANTED THIS. YEAY! PODCAST WITH THE 2 OF YA. I LL BE WATCHING 🎉

[@natashademir922]

Yup 36 and periods, cramps, general mood (rage pms) have got worse. But equally the more stressed I am the worse my symptoms are, its a viscious cycle. Keep going sweet, reach out for support, set very clear boundaries for your home, stick to them, and please, please, if you're not already, keep a record of everything. Stay strong, it will get better x

[@Mkayscales]

Unfortunately, your ex can't keep having the life he burnd the bridge to. You're trying to create a new life and move forward. He's having a harder time figuring out what his new life is. I agree with your decision. I've realized how important it is who you have kids with because you're most likely always going to be tied to that person. Not that even if their a difficult person doing that is a mistake because I'd hope most people would be glad they still had their kids and I know you feel that way. But man it sounds hard. Hugs

[@dawnjoye5692]

I vote for ARE WE OKAY?

[@JudicialMermaid]

Hi Laura! I too am noticing my PMS symptoms have changed. I’ll be 35 next month. Coping with them? Well, heating pads, Magnesium 500mg, Multi-Vitamin, and coffee is how I’m managing 😂 Also, “Are we okay?” is PERFECT! ❤ Hang in there please! It was so clear that your body is reacting to the stress and anxiety. I’ve been there… I divorced a narcissist and it took us 4 years to settle it (child custody drama) but all is well now! ❤ There is hope & life after this detour. I promise.

[@CelticPondDweller]

You have all of us behind you and alongside you x. Your beautiful powerful women Steven is a tiny whimpering bug Go forward and 😅😊😊😊def ARE WE OK

[@sekushimitsukai330]

Also, you are so amazing for being vulerable with us through hormone issues. I'm 39 and I started getting the insane pms and bloating worse starting at 35! I'm thin and lanky like you, Laura! I'm 5'10 130 lbs but I look 5 months pregnant the full week before my period in the evenings! Stress makes your pms worse for sure. Try to take it easy on salt and carbs. Make sure you eat lots of fiber from natural sources from veggies and water.

[@SpiritArtLife]

You should call it, "Are We Okay?"