I'm tired of looking after my jobless older brother [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.03.11]

[@heavenlyrose8537]

My god the younger son looked like he was about to cry the whole time. I just wanna give him a hug.

[@iamURHO]

I know. But he's mature and his mother is right. He'll be okay in life... I just hope she didn't favor the older guy in front of him. 😅 But he's a good guy, he'll be okay!

[@baybeetacoo8734]

@Sehun Min 🤣🤣🤣🤣 this is not the time sis.

[@ZimZaLaBimBimBim]

and a blow

[@mommaejay9772]

@@ZimZaLaBimBimBim😂😂😂😂😂

[@nameerah8146]

Despite how trouble the eldest son is, the mother favour him more rather than the younger son who is much more mature & caring. Pity the younger son tho.

[@lylaa8104]

Yup, they resolve the eldest problem with the help of younger one. But they have nothing to do with younger's one feeling :( his mom seems still doesnt understand that she's favor the eldest son. Huw suffocating me

[@yeonjunsbarkincatanddogmv7628]

Same ☹️

[@shirleyzhou4537]

My brother is the oldest and my mother spoiled him way too much as well

[@stevenlee5146]

this is very typical korean family just like mine. i dont regret being mistreated growing up because i consider it tough love now, it is not like my parents didnt feed me or look after me, right now i am a millionaire in my 30s it is all thanks to being compared and craving for more attention.

[@BM-nh9kd]

Chung Lee millionaire. Lol wat do you do

[@martine440]

It's so annoying how parents "punish" the responsible children. It's weird how the children who are not responsible get all the attention, are supported unconditionally, given a great deal of affection and can pretty much do what they want. Then, the parents' excuse in this type of situation tend to go something like... "Well, your sibling needs me. You can take care of yourself and so I don't worry about you." Hello... the responsible one needs just as much support and affection. Just really annoying.

[@yogurLAPIZ]

In my family we are 3 kids. My mom always would punish to my second brother and me the youngest, we where the most responsible, we always did our part of the work at home and ended making my oldest brother job part too cause he would choose to make my mom angry instead of helping, this kept a long time since me and my brother stopped doing it, so she could see how things didn't work cause of him. In the end she needed to step up and put and end to his behaviour, of course that wasn't for a long time, since I'm not dumb and so my brother, my mom also couldn't take it and needed to do what she had to do. :V

[@professionalfangirl168]

@@yogurLAPIZ I have the same problem too. am the oldest child, me and my younger sister do all the chores in the house my brother literally does nothing even though he is the second oldest. if there is anything in the house that is not clean my mom shouts at me alone. if I tell her its not my turn to do the chores today, she keeps shouting at me saying how we are making her so tired and how we don't do anything around the house or help her at all. I know she is under so much stress these days (we are in debt) that is why she vents her anger on me, and every time I talk to her about my brother she just says she cant do anything about him(tbh I think he has anger management issues). at this point I cant even express my anger, I bottle it all up.

[@yogurLAPIZ]

@@professionalfangirl168 for I just stopped doing his part, at least if I was being shouted I wouldn't have waisted my time in cleaning but instead on myself. And when my came to say something I would tell her to go and waste her voice on the culprit not me causes I can't make amends on her life if there someone else bothering her. And remember her I'm helping cause I want to, but also if don't do it it's my choice, so she should put her anger over someone else. Also I don't recommend you to pent it up, and say to her don't use you as disposal of her anger you are a kid not trash to be thrown her sh@. Even if I love my mom something I learned throw the years is that parents can be spoiled too, so if you keep taking charge of what is supposed to be her doing she will take it as it's your job, and the day when you want to shove it back to her, she will feel and everyone will look at you as being bad kid. And you will still be angry, waisted, tired, etc. And the end when you freak out and shout they will say they never asked you to pent it up, it was your choice. So please be a good son or daughter make your job so you help her, but don't forget you are a kid and not responsible for her life or yours brothers and sisters life. We are all living together but someday we will part our ways, doesn't mean we are never going to talk again, but everyone will be responsible of theyr own actions. P.s: have to say when my mom got back to Brasil and my oldest brother stayed alone in Spain (I was a minor so I didn't have a choice) he then learned throw life how hard is to get money, how friends will not help you when needed, how many real friends you have and most of it how assholes they where throw the time they lived with us. XD

[@professionalfangirl168]

@@yogurLAPIZ thx for your advice, I will start doing that slowly. I don't want things to become worse anymore

[@bobh5633]

this was pretty much me growing up and kind of still is in some ways.

[@madeinbusanjkjm]

The younger brother is so sweet, he even offered that the older brother comes live with him in Japan. If I were him I wouldn't want to be near my older brother.

[@iamURHO]

*Warning: Long comment ahead.* Honestly, I'm not proud but I can relate so much with the older brother. I have a very same situation. Flunked at one of our country's premiere school 3x but still mom supported me emotionally and financially, didn't work for 3 yrs now. (only I didn't play games but worked on my identity and mentality to gain confidence since I didn't finish my degree.) I also never finished anything or any passion in my life. (sports, arts, music) Tho I believe we don't have the same path, my younger sis is doing well/better than me. She works at a top TV station. My mom is also tired but still loves and prays for me fervently and supports me 100% all the time. Others say she's pampering me but she worries and believes in me like the mom believes in his son. Enough with questioning the mom's love or her background. It's all up to the son bec whether his mom loves him excessively or not, in the end, it's his life. The son is playing under his game and potential and should start figuring out what attracts/excites him--- what he's passionate about. People like us should start exploring and experiencing fulfillments as a result of our self-discipline and hardwork. He's weak bec he hasn't experienced harsh pain but once he gets out of his comfort zone, surrounded by the right people and the right mindset, he can flourish. Maybe Japan is his calling or video games. He needs to improve on himself and stop making excuses. Work hard knowing that "FAILURE is a process, not the ending." Just act now and not when you're 30 or a father. He make it! He has the best mom and brother! 💖 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13

[@kitcatmeow7513]

same if my brother was like that i would of given him a good bye smack and sent him a very long wordy letter about how he should step up and stop being stupid

[@Jam-hr4ju]

the younger brother is freakin' handsome and manly

[@jazzg.6771]

shawtyimmapartytilldasundown and more inportantly: he seems to have a good heart

[@idk27212]

@@jazzg.6771 Yeah, I don't care if he's handsome or not.

[@cherahsBroll]

shawtyimmapartytilldasundown I was thinking the same thing.

[@Fida7648]

Does he have IG

[@bangsforme8708]

He kinda gives me got7 jinyoung vibes

[@steffininmadrona4378]

Yuqi's advice was actually decent. He shouldn't be embarassed with the fact that he's working with only like a part time job instead he should be proud of it. At least he's earning from his hardwork.

[@amy6128]

chaewon the third wheel it was great. I was so happy that she went off on him bc most of them were being way too nice

[@EmpressB7]

I was PISSED OFF at the other hosts for stopping Yuqi from telling him THE TRUTH! He needs TOUGH REALITY now. The elder brother and his mom are TOXIC and will only bring the younger brother down with them. I would ditch both their asses and live my life. Mom has had over 20 yrs to raise her sons as responsible human beings for society. She FAILED THEM BOTH. She has enabled her eldest son and abandoned her youngest who actually has proven to be a good guy. The only way mom and elder brother will change is when they become disgusted with their own conditions. They need real mental counseling, because that is severe depression.

[@only900more2go]

"Let's sprinkle some Dr. Phil" said Yuqi.

[@yattasuccess9212]

Yuqi was especially upset as She had to go through many struggles that She had either no choice to leave or Had to do if She wanted to achieve where She is, so it's cringeworthy to see someone simply not endure the hardship, His mother is spoiling Him but He has never fully-realized that it still puts a massive burden on His mother and at the end putting an even bigger burden on His younger brother, When the mother passes away, Junha (younger) would eventually want to live a peaceful life and get married but if His older brother would be A burden especially without their mother providing for Him, it would very much be A hindrance to Junha's life, I wish the 형님 older brother will learn that He has to work and experience pain in order to become A better person, He has to imagine A situation where He has no one to go to as currently He cannot live in A world without anybody else spoiling Him.

[@niikocil4006]

it's pride, especially he playing game a lot and not working, his pride and childishness will still high as sky, i know cause im a gamer too

[@chococherry9255]

the younger brother not only handsome but also very nice and kind guy. Junha and the second sister of case 2 would be wonderful couple 😢

[@RACHATV8004]

Yes he have a good manners too not only handsome😁😁😁😁

[@hyejeongshin5053]

yessss they both are responsible and have nice attitude

[@EroiKuma]

I saw him and I was like "dammmmmn'

[@pcmazumanavas2182]

case 2 just after this guy?

[@nunai2974]

Yuqi telling the older brother that he should ashamed at that age and still asks financial support from his mom rather than working with younger boss send me 👍👍👍

[@iamURHO]

Stop asking for validation.

[@anonymousneko7908]

@@iamURHO ?

[@madeinbusanjkjm]

Wow, this woman is the definition of a ''mother's unconditional love''. I haven never seen someone be THAT lenient towards their kid. ''I heard from a fortune teller that he is gonna be successful at 30, even more than his younger brother.'' That hurt even me and I'm not even a part of this family.

[@HoneySoifon]

My mother is the same! Kinda has the same story too she was raised by her mother in law who made her suffer so when she divorced she never wished to remarry so she could concentrate on her kids. And she has always been lenient on my older brother who was irresponsible for a long time and now isnt fully independent but things got better.

[@madeinbusanjkjm]

@@HoneySoifon I'm glad things got better for your family :)

[@HarassmentGuru]

And u call this 'love'? Love is helping ur children to grow and be a better person. Giving what they want all the time is restraining their ability to grow and mature as a person..

[@HoneySoifon]

Will Spector well nobody is perfect so sometimes people don’t know the proper way to express their love. Would you then say that she hates her child ?? No way she is ready to give everything for him without any condition. The step mother who raised her probably never expressed love so for her love is giving everything for your child and never let him down even when he does nothing with his life. She doesn’t want to see him fail. Obviously it’s wrong but she obviously does everything out of love.

[@HarassmentGuru]

@@HoneySoifon To her maybe thats love but to me definitely not.

[@winterknightstorm]

LMAO Yuqi's arrow shoot straight to the point. Seriously, in the working environment, everyone is the same. You learn from each other. It's not that embarrassing to be working for a younger manager, because you work for yourself, to feed yourself and your family. It's more embarrassing to be at that age and say "Mom, I need money." If he likes games so much, he should look for game-related jobs like BETA tester or something.

[@greentintdglace796]

"He'll be more successful than his brother," she says. *CHAIR FLIPS

[@_ssal_8294]

Ikr!! It hurts so much just to imagine how junha feels 😭😭

[@marrymeyuta4138]

@Grace Schroeder word

[@cindyjiang4601]

This is one of those episodes where I feel like the main person hasn't really learned anything, he's only saying that he'll change because his mom agreed and he'll look bad if he doesn't.

[@iamURHO]

*Warning: Long comment ahead.* Honestly, I'm not proud but I can relate so much with the older brother. I have a very same situation. Flunked at one of our country's premiere school 3x since 2013 but still mom supported me emotionally and financially, didn't work for 3 yrs now. (only I didn't play games but worked on my identity and mentality to gain confidence since I didn't finish my degree.) I also never finished anything or any passion in my life. (sports, arts, music) Tho I believe we don't have the same path, my younger sis is doing well/better than me. She works at a top TV station. My mom is also tired but still loves and prays for me fervently and supports me 100% all the time. Others say she's pampering me but she worries and believes in me like the mom believes in his son. My mom's also raised by her aunt but enough with questioning the mom's love or her background. It's all up to the son bec whether his mom loves him excessively or not, in the end, it's his life. The son is playing under his game and potential and should start figuring out what attracts/excites him--- what he's passionate about. People like us should start exploring and experiencing fulfillments as a result of our self-discipline and hardwork. He's weak bec he hasn't experienced harsh pain but once he gets out of his comfort zone, surrounded by the right people and the right mindset, he can flourish. Maybe Japan is his calling or video games. He needs to improve on himself and stop making excuses. Work hard knowing that "FAILURE is a process, not the ending." Just act now and not when you're 30 or a father. He make it! He has the best mom and brother! 💖 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13

[@baybeetacoo8734]

He was smirking the whole video. He is comfortable and knows there isn't real consequences to his actions. I do hope he changes for his young brother's sake. The mom is a lost cause. She is the reason that manchild can't grow up. She really is waiting 2 more years to be gravely disappointed that he won't be nothing but a nuisance like he always has been

[@Jana_7]

A bad combination of being spoiled and lazy. I hope he snaps out of it soon. His mom won't be around forever. At some point he is going to have to learn how to take care of and support himself.

[@fictionlover2064]

Even if someone is spoiled and lazy,to not go out of the house for 2 years,sleep 14 hours a day and play games for another 10 hours seems quite pathological.I think maybe something is wrong with him...

[@thisisntallowed9560]

​@@fictionlover2064 When they asked him when it all started he said his mom would sigh when she looked at him or get angry and his brother would come into his room and sigh or say ''tsk tsk''. He also sounds like he's addicted to games. And it looks like he's been spoiled by his mother. He says it's to hard to keep a job but what makes it so hard exactly? Is i laziness or something else.

[@thisisntallowed9560]

I feel ashamed that I can relate to him and I have some problems too.. I quit school because I had suicidal thoughts but I am scared to do a job interview and I used to feel much more ashamed in the past before my mother kicked me out, but I just live with my dad. My mom used to scream and say all sorts of hurtful things to me and I don't want to talk to her anymore. She doesn't have empathy for me ever since I'm young. She just screamed at me to get a job but she never showed me how. She didn't praise me for the good things I did and she shamed me when I wasn't good enough. Now that I don't live with her anymore I don't know if I'll be able to return to school and have good grades. I am smart I just struggle with discipline. I didn't want her to see me working. I don't want her to see me succeed. This is a mindset I am since very young to protect me against her shaming, now I don't know how to get out from this mindset. Also I'm scared to meet people I know cause they would see my life now. I talk only to my father and brother. Also I don't know what I want in life except a boyfriend and some clothes. I don't know if someone would read this but anyway. I'm much younger than him.

[@user-pm2zv9fs5r]

@@thisisntallowed9560 that's good. The younger you are, the more time you have. If u work hard now, by the time u get to his age, u will accomplish much more. I'm not even in high school yet, but I think about the future. My parents always told me to do this and that and I always did. I felt sad all time because while I was doing work, my parents were having fun with my brother. Even then I cared about them. I learned that in the end I had to at least save myself because no one else will. My family never noticed how much I struggled and it was so messed up cuz I was happy that way. I like how they didn't know and that was mainly because they hated crying and pain in general. They always thought it was nothing and that when they were my age, they did a lot more than me. Then I would always think about my brother and how he would never accomplish as much as I have in his whole life. When we both get in trouble, my mom would lecture us but my brother would never listen. I would be the only one to hear her harsh words and I would ultimately be the one doing everything. Ever since I had to do everything, this was like my fate. No one else did it because they had me. Sometimes imagine myself dying. Would they be happy? Would they be genuinely sad or sad because they would have to actually do things? This happens a lot in many families and it breaks my heart. Most people never know about it. They really don't know how common it is and the scariest part is how much this happens.

[@lemons2300]

@@fictionlover2064 not going out of the house for 2 years... I think I'd go insane..

[@winternight1420]

I was just thinking: « If I were there I’d be so ready to say something to the older brother » And at that moment, 18:20 Yuqi snapped 👏🏻👏🏻, I’m glad she said those things.

[@shjns_]

Junha looks so lonely and exhausted- I feel so sad for him.

[@HoneySoifon]

You could tell Yuqi was really upset her chinese accent came out so strong haha

[@한다됐다]

둘째 아드님... 정말 심성이 곱다. 몇년이 지난 지금은 성공해서 잘살고 있으시겠죠..

[@Jana_7]

I already feel sorry for the lady who will marry the oldest son and have children with him. He won't keep a job and is so spoiled and lazy. If he doesn't change he will be a terrible provider for his family. The burden will all fall onto his wife to make money and raise the children while he sits at home playing video games.

[@ag9899]

Jana Pointer so we’ll see him in the same spot bc his wife will come on the show 🤦🏻‍♀️ sucks

[@sarahdawn5100]

Will he even be able to get married tho? If he doesn’t change he ain’t gonna get married unless there’s someone exactly like him *smh

[@yattasuccess9212]

The younger brother will also definitely suffer if the older brother will still depend on Him, Junha (younger) would eventually want live A life and get married but, what A burden.

[@melindaarhire140]

Not one sain woman would want to marry that guy!!!

[@paabokim5554]

My ex boyfriend was like him.

[@sophiabrh5626]

I want to marry the younger one he's so sweeeeet and cariiiiing

[@victoriaep4075]

True. I thought the same. But the thought of marrying into a family like that would become way too frustrating to deal with later. Just my thought 😅

[@sophiabrh5626]

@@victoriaep4075 kinda true , the fact that he went through everything alone makes me sad, and he kinda stopped himself from crying at one point but he endured everything. But if he founded I girl with a strong and smart personality, I think she can deal with the older brother 😅

[@victoriaep4075]

@@sophiabrh5626 I totally see your point. Everyone has a specific person for them. So when you meet that person they would be able to handle alot for them. I hope he finds that person. 👍🏽Also I hope that the situation improves for him too.😀

[@aminaelkateb1147]

He's probably taken ;-;

[@firaskhoirunnisa]

he's caring and responsible but he need to take care his family, it's must be tiresome... if you wanna marry someone like him, you must have a strong heart for being his second priority

[@angelinab.7590]

I think the real problem here is the mother also guy in the black shirt is handsome boy

[@anissers]

He is indeedddd

[@Han-wh2tv]

Black shirt ? Who ? Dongyub ahjjushi ? Huehehehhe 😁

[@RACHATV8004]

Yes he is

[@kawtaraziz854]

Both are handsome but the youngest is more mature

[@olaitspotato]

@@Han-wh2tv he wearing a blue black shirt don't you see.

[@queajy3952]

I don't think he will change with how little empathy he showed. He seemed not regretting an ounce of his wrong doings and probably will continue like that unless a miracle happens and shakes that smirk out of his face. I hope the younger brother stays strong for his mom and himself. At least for the sake of the 9 months she endured and for the effort she did to raise them.

[@iamURHO]

Well, we don't see the heart. Sometimes what we say is a manifestation of what's in our hearts. He's sorry only he's been lost.

[@yogurLAPIZ]

It's sad how she till the end thinks that the older will make great in life than her youngest son who acknowledges her efforts in raising them, and is working his future even having to make sacrifices for them. What she is doing is making him the bad guy here, if he tries to cut ties he will become the bad son who left them in need, but of he tries to make it work he becomes the slave of the oldest and will need to pay it later. Is unfair, and I just want him to know that i support wathever decision he makes for him, there is people who can be saved but others will only drown you with them and it's not worth, even if it's family.

[@kulotjoy]

True. Thats why not so bad to be selfish sometime, for your own good and for them to realize you have a life to live too.

[@lifewithluci1764]

I'm totally agree. Hope messages like yours get to reach him. Toxic people is not something anybody should allow in their lives, even if they are family. And I say this by experience, being a family member is not a good enough reason to accept their toxic habits into your life.

[@iamURHO]

Instead of pity him, let's salute and applaud him. He's the best! 😊

[@merry6539]

@@iamURHO did you just replying everybody comment

[@shipissailing6510]

I dont know why, but I hate it when I saw his older brother smiling like that when their mom take a side of him then the younger brother 😠

[@iamURHO]

That's their problem. Don't be affected by it. Just ignore it. Instead, commend the younger son for being resilient, mature, strong, and generally an ideal guy. 😊

[@heyrtae6405]

What an immature kid. I hope the younger brother is doing well and I hope the older brother decided it was time to grow up

[@DavidSmith-ki2we]

@@heyrtae6405 ppl like that just don't change.. I lived long enough to see that.

[@별무지개-y1b]

엄마가 제일 문제........ 아이를 위해 냉정할 수 있는 게 더 큰 사랑입니다.

[@jlvemyle0qwer]

어머님. 차가운 사랑이 무엇인지 깊이 고민해보셔야 할 듯요... '우리애기'라고 끼고 있다가는 큰 아들 절대 성장 못 시킵니다. 둘째 아드님은 흔들리지 마시고 더욱 단단해 지십시요!! 쉽게 바뀌지는 않을겁니다.

[@31mirmir]

When the older brother turns 30 and the fortune teller is a fake I wonder what will be the mom's reason for spoiling the eldest so much?

[@bae9386]

아니 동생이랑 형이랑 너무 반대야... 진짜 동생 천사인듯 ㅠ 엄마가 저렇게 힘들어하는걸 보고 자기도 놀나인데 엄마부터 도와주는 사람이 어딨어 ㅠ 여러분들 요즘은 저런 형같은 사람들이 더 많아요. 진짜 저 동생 너무 착하다 ㅠ

[@Ta.888]

oh my god, if i born handsome and look cheerful like the older brother, i will use that handsome face for easily get promote in my job.

[@milkeyway7105]

Ikr? He's handsome, have a cheerful personality, and he seems like doing very great with his job. But he lacks a lot of motivation, he's lazy, and spoiled. This is actually surprising

[@iamURHO]

Well, there's already a problem in the world about manipulation and assholes, don't think like one of them.

[@elisha7411]

the younger brother is handsome tho

[@AhmedSaad-uk9of]

Yes, he is so Handsome 😍😍

[@idk27212]

Ok, we get it, and it's not that important.

[@iamURHO]

Yes, he is. And even more bec he's strong, resilient, and forgiving. 😊

[@munaaliii]

elisha martha he be biting his lips like 😍😍😍✌️ so manly ready for a k 🙈

[@juliawu8710]

I feel sorry for the younger brother, the mom clearly favours the older son, believes he’ll be ‘even more successful’ even tho the younger brother has been mature and hardworking

[@myqktosky]

둘째아들이 너무 기특하다...끝까지 엄마생각해주고ㅠㅠㅠㅜㅠ

[@ricaivory6571]

I don't think the mother even realizes she raised her eldest son like that bcuz she needed an emotional outlet from her divorce. She basically turned him into her emotional teddy bear and treats him that way in hopes that he won't leave like the dad did. She takes all the abuse and mistreatment and still supports him bcuz if she does, he'll never leave, like he hasn't. He won't grow out of it at 30 bcuz she'll keep doin the same things bcuz she doesn't wanna acknowledge the hurt and loneliness the divorce left her. She still views her youngest son as her son which is why she doesn't bend to him like she does the eldest. She says she wants out, but took every opportunity to give a reason as to why she MUST support her eldest. She never actually said she would stop doin what she's doin. Personally, I think the youngest should stop supporting them for a while and "slack off" like the eldest too and see if she likes that. He should cause a bit of "trouble" and see if she likes that. She is doin exactly what she said she didn't wanna do to her kids.

[@vivianwatanabe3441]

The younger brother is totally my type. He’s young, but he’s responsible and manly!! Plus, he’s so handsome💕

[@iamURHO]

Yeah, ideal guy 😊

[@mk-ri6nl]

this show is legendary i dont know how they stay so patient and entertain all this bullshit i would get angry and impatient trying to get anywhere with lazy, arrogant, selfish, and annoying people like this even in other episodes sometimes the situations are so ridiculous its very surprising how the hosts can stay so lighthearted and unbothered

[@missproud___]

“That’s what fortune teller told me” I cracked😂

[@artisallthat]

I like how this show sometimes pairs up two different cases. This guy doesn't keep a job - but the case where the children lost their father and their mother left, the second eldest girl has to support the other children. They always point out the difference so the first guy gets poked.

[@astrosince2016]

_He said it's boring to work by himself but then complains on his past jobs that working is hard._ *_WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?!!_* Gosh.

[@ikiaslemonapple3031]

The biggest problem here is the mother :( The eldest son is a selfish jerk taking advantage of her

[@lhr1012]

2년제인데 7년째 다닌대 거기서 빵 터짐ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ엄청 크게 웃었네 빌려준 사람은 200이라고 하는데 빌린 사람은 몇십만원이라고 하는 거에 얼척이 없었네 엄마도 문제임 왜 동생 말은 하나도 안 들어주고 형 말만 들어

[@AmbiCahira]

I wish I could tell him this: You know the feeling when you just installed a game, created a character and logged in at level one and you see high level players with nice gear and cool flying mounts? Do you feel inferior and just log out and uninstall to never play again or do you work hard to raise your level? That's what a new job is like and once you have leveled up you will enjoy those things too. Fighting. As for the younger brother I wish I could say this. I know the feeling of being the invisible sibling despite being independent and I'm proud of you for raising yourself so well. 잘했어요

[@QuietlyCurious]

That's a great non-judgmental response that's actually helpful.

[@AmanishaketoMeroe]

Usually one day in their old age the biased parent realizes the neglected child is distant, even when they're there they are far, but they also know it's too late, and they become hurt.

[@캡틴-w5z]

이 가정은 내버려둬야 돼요. 동생은 절대 돈 빌려주지말고 갈길을 가고...큰아들은 엄마가 알아서 키우는걸로.. 돌아가시면 알아서 하게 되어있어요.ㅎ

[@dosiss2875]

맞아요. 저런경우 부모가 형제간의 우애를 더 망치고 있어요. 평등하지 못한 사랑으로 자란 형제들은 부모가 죽고나면 안보고 사는 경우가 많아요. 여기선 부모 죽기전에 가족과 연을 끊어야지만 엄마도 힘들면 형을 일터로 떠밀거고 서로가 다 더 나은 삶으로 발전될것 같아요

[@beliswaggy]

Wow the younger brothes is sooo handsome and hardworking this is really a good guy

[@sherine9033]

Junha is very attractive. Not only because he's crazy handsome and manly, he's also very mature and responsible, he also has a calm demeanor. He has a very high emotional intelligence. He didn't hold any grudges towards his brother and mother that overly favors one son only. Junha is going to succeed in life. I hope he can rest a bit more when his brother finally mature.

[@jaebumisextra1079]

*Can I say this.. Both brothers are so handsome.. But we all noticed the little one because his attitude made him more handsome.. And the biggest accessory to look pretty it's your attitude and this guy it's hella pretty* 🌹

[@anissers]

I've seen the same problem in this show many times, and it frustrates me every single time. Ps. The younger brother is so handsomeeee 😍

[@iamURHO]

Then look for a good switch or don't watch it so don't get frustrated and talk abt it here and spread it.

[@flower_essence]

These brothers could be an actor with that face though. Especially the younger one, he has such a good heart🥺 I would definitely stan him

[@lIllllIlllllIIIIIIIllllIIlIlll]

엄마가 작은 아들에게 가스라이팅하고 있는 것처럼 보이는데, 작은 아들은 진짜 인연 끊고 그냥 살아요..

[@hohoho7078]

그냥 편애하는 자체가 부모로써 자격미달.. 어렸을때부터 장남장남 노래 부르면서 다 해주니까 저렇게 철 없는 마마보이가 된것이고 자기 몫 챙기기 바빴던 동생은 착실히 잘 컸지만 그럼 뭐하나 부모가 그대로인걸..ㅎㅎㅎㅎ 부모 교육이 얼마나 중요한지 한번 더 깨닫네요ㅎㅎ 저도 아들 둘있는데 아직 애기들이지만 절대 저렇게 편애하면서 안키울거.. 감정이입되서 짜증남ㅠ

[@두두둥-n4t]

그놈에 장남....저희집도 저럽니다 맨날 장남 저희오빠만 돈 다해주고~~~~ 뭘 해도 잘못된것들도 부모님이 다 이해하고 오냐오냐ㅡㅡㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 근데;;; 저 사람 정도는 아닙니다ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 정말 노이해 ;....... 저희 오빤 그래도 성실히 일하긴 하는데.....ㅋ...

[@gwajadanji]

@@hohoho7078 약간 그거같아요. 왜 첫째 아이는 첫 아이라서 항상 더 애정이 가잖아요. 같이 살아온 기간도 제일 길고. 그리고 맨날 집에 있었을테니 가장 많이 마주치고 부딪혔을테고.

[@hohoho7078]

@@gwajadanji 그게 편애라는거에요

[@greentintdglace796]

"He's a good boy," she says. *FALLS OUT OF CHAIR

[@happykhys3564]

동생이 형과 엄마한테 신경 쓰지 말고 따로 독립했으면 좋겠네요 형을 저렇게 키운 사람은 엄마이니 엄마랑 형 둘이 알아서 살게 신경 끄세요 동생분이라도 정상적으로 제대로 사셔야죠 엄마가 작은아들한테 상처 준 것을 모르니 답답

[@annalisanorman9013]

The youngest son is not only physically handsome, but his personality is amazing. He’s so caring, responsible, mature, and hardworking. That is some quality husband material, right there. Also Yuqi going OFF on the older one watered and harvested my crops. She’s right. He should be more embarrassed by how he’s living than by working for a younger manager.

[@Brit15102]

My mom is literally dragging my older brother to go get a job 😂😂

[@KimKim-kp9rw]

Junha is too nice, thoughtful and handsome that makes me think his family doesn't deserve him also he was teared up during the whole show that makes me wanna give him hug and tell him he did a great job TT

[@nimo5768]

The older brother is so shameless! On the top of that the mother supports the older brother. Thus exact scenario happened in my house too. My uncle is just like the older brother who is now a burden ever since my grandmother passed away. These kind of people never change unless they're being strict with. *p.s- the younger son is so handsome!* 😍😍😍

[@nabdultanz4116]

I love this program because I learn my mistakes from this program THANK YOU VERY MUCH😄

[@DefineMorena]

😂😂😂

[@muninchip]

Same

[@iamURHO]

The most sensible comment I've seen. Thank you.

[@mr.nolife7255]

Ha~ this has been going on for more than 8 years. I bet he'd be a burden after his mom is gone. I've seen this dozen of times. People like the older brother is the scariest people you can meet. They smile, friendly and you thought you can depend on but later day you found out you only been hurt by the disappointment you had with all the high expectation he had made you build. up

[@iamURHO]

Oh I'm glad you elaborate on your disappointment rather than just express hate. 😊 Thank you. I learned something.

[@fatimahrehan4468]

I just want to give the younger brother a big hug 💔

[@lylaa8104]

Eldest son's problem pretty much resolve by the help of his brother. But 1 thing; seems like their mom still not understand that he favor older son way too much and ignored the effort of the younger one :( feel sorry for the younger one. I know u r strong. Goods will come to you one day. Believe it

[@meibi6241]

Staying 2 years without leaving the house, for me it's clearly depression

[@emma89695]

Putting the problems aside, these 2 brothers are really good looking. Wonder why the older brother likes to go to Japan so much?

[@lilyritchie-cruickshank4969]

I think the older brother has some mental health concerns that should probably be addressed. The fact that he doesn't understand why someone would think highly of him, he sleeps excessively (hypersomnia), he sometimes doesn't leave the house for long periods of time, and he loses interest in things quickly... it sounds like he's lost passion in life and is only existing to exist. Playing video games is probably the only thing he can actually find the motivation to do since he enjoys it. In a way, I understand his position, and I've been somewhere similar. When you have nothing to work towards, it's very difficult to find reasons and motivation to exert yourself past a point of comfort. This is especially true if you're dealing with mental health issues. For instance, people with ADHD tend to get frustrated a lot quicker than others, and those with depression lack motivation and are particularly irritable in comparison to people who are otherwise mentally healthy. It seems like a tough situation, and I hope they were able to resolve it.

[@edelwe]

agree i thought exactly the same thing as u

[@user-gc3gi9mf7o]

사주가 좋아서 동생보다 더 잘될거라고 할때 동생 엄청 슬펐겠음...

[@들개랑리치도도]

엄마가 아들을 망쳤네요 그건 사랑이 아니라 아들 주저 앉히는 거예요!!!! 첫째는 본인이 좋아하고 내로라하는 직업 안가지면 계속 되풀이 될듯 차라리 유투브나 배우하면 잘 풀릴듯

[@adlinazulkifli7187]

Do you know how bad it feels when your mother sidelined with your other sibling even though you've done more? Her words are so hurtful. My mother says things like that to me, with that same kind of tone and it hurts me so much :(

[@roodv7_209]

The problem here is the mom, how can a mom be like that 😫

[@yeontani817]

Both brothers are so handsome. But younger brother is so nice and I wish my younger brother grew just like him. 😍 😍 😍😍

[@golbinnom]

The younger brother is so handsome. And the older one sounds like he has depression tbh it's not like he goes out and plays, he's always at home. Not living the house for two whole years and all

[@Bucherviews]

Yes, exactly! This is like a textbook depression case.

[@Eyelove7777]

I am so happy after seeing RAVI on the show😍😘🤗

[@lei5912]

Watching this was seriously frustrating, I almost smashed the screen everytime the older brother spoke or the mother defended him like, a fortuneteller told you??? That's why you are letting not just yourself but also your younger son suffer? It's so irresponsible from them both I can't believe how someone can live with that mentality

[@miel2964]

I have an older brother who's already 30 years old. He's also a slacker like this guy. Me and my sister would always give my mother trouble for being too lenient on him, but after 12 years of changing courses, failing, and giving up on college, he's finally graduating with a bachelor degree this year. I'm so proud! Otakus unite.

[@divyamadavi2538]

It's same with me ..my mother always thinks that I'm doing well on my own and favor to my elder brother .....she treats us differently without even realizing...☹️☹️

[@bellapark1390]

i never been this frustated. that older brother really need someone to kick his lazy ass off. and their mom need to back off little bit rather than just throw money at him. btw the younger brother is so handsome and kind.

[@maharaniarya465]

YUQI HOW COULD YOU BE ANGRY ALSO CUTE AT THE SAME TIME???? :(

[@jeanetteliu6821]

This is like my grandma and I. She spoiled my sister and verbally abused me when I was little. I wanted to get her love so I acted like a good girl, did everything and studied hard. But I wouldn't get ye grades she wanted, unlike my sister, she always got good grades. My sister made fun f me for it. I was fat as a kid, my grandma said it and so did my sister. Now that we're older, I'm 14, my grandma is 76. I don't feel like arguing with her anymore, before I used to stand up for myself when I got yelled at bc my sister got in trouble since I would tell my parent's the things I went through. Now I can't even trust my grandma, I don't believe she loves me. My sister now stays in her room whenever she can to watch anime and just eats junk food. She gets mad at my grandma so easily and doesn't appreciate her. When I stand up for my grandma, we fight, and my grandma yells at me. No matter how hard I try she never loves me. Same with my grandpa, they say how my parents spoil me. They don't, they try to replenish the love I'm missing since they're gone half of the day and I'm with my gravdparents. No matter how mature and strong I act, I'm not like that. I felt like I related to that brother sm. Ik ppl will think this is for attention or nobody cares but I just wanted to let out a bit of the sadness and anger I've built up. I don't have anyone to tell this to so I'm kinda just letting a bit out in this comment section.

[@professionalfangirl168]

I think you should just stop trying and standing up for her. other kids your age would have started acting out or make trouble but you are being so mature about it so you should be proud of yourself :)

[@jeanetteliu6821]

professional fangirl thx :) rly needed that. I'm trying to be strong!

[@sbjo]

Be proud of yourself. If you are tired it's okay to not say anything. 👍 You sound like a great young woman who will accomplish great things. Hold onto that tenacity and kick ass.

[@shihina97]

You know I feel like you're wasting your time seeking love from someone who doesn't want to give it to you. Favouritism really hurts and I know you are being constantly compared to your older sister but don't do that to yourself. Don't ever compare yourself to her or ever feel lacking in comparison. Be a good person for yourself (don't let any hate build in your ❤️) , learn to love yourself and block your grandparents words. Just compete with yourself and focus on bettering yourself for your sake because YOU want to. Your sister will regret being an ass someday, she'll see how other sisters love their younger siblings and she'll regret having lost you. So good luck kiddo, you'll turn out amazing!

[@jeanetteliu6821]

uner90 tysm! I've been feeling rly insecure and lost. I didn't know how to accomplish my goal but this comment motivated me!

[@julianna4079]

This poor boy needs much more attention!!!! If a have a son like that one day I would be sooooo proud! And how handsome he is 😮

[@태호-m1i]

사람 바뀌기 쉽지않다 엄마가 바뀌더라도 큰놈은 안바뀐다 물론 이런 상황이면 엄마도 힘들겠지만.. 동생의 결단이 필요한듯 아무리 가족이라도 인생은 각자 가는 법이니..

[@아둥버둥]

둘째 아들 너무 잘생겼다

[@hfcnib2024]

저 나이면 오히려 어머니를 부양해야 할 나이인데 이핑계 저핑계를 될까요 이세상에 안힘든 일이 어디 있을까요. 남인 나도 답답하고 속이 터진다,,,,ㅠ 엄마가 문제네 엄마가 죽을 때까지 아들 먹여살리면 되겠네요,,,,,흠,,,, 엄마가 아들을 저렇게 만들었네 어머니 정신차리세요!!!!!

[@hoshjosh6921]

I want a man like the younger brother. He seems so sweet and so reliable. I hope he get the best in his live

[@나양-d3r]

왕준하님 절대 집하고 엮이지말고 본인가정만드세요 당신은 최고 멋진 존재의 사람입니다

[@fionahermawan2596]

for a moment i thought the younger bro is a celebrity hes freakin handsome

[@destinationaddictionsamsar7894]

The younger brother looks and is more mature than his older brother 😅

[@Mahendra-vk1bw]

Too old to discipline him, he is spoiled by his mother.

[@yogurLAPIZ]

Never is too old to discipline, sure your parents can't anymore, but life is a bad b@ and will take care of it in her bad way :) Parents have to discipline so life doesn't need to do it. As my mom said: is better if I scream at you, than some stranger punches you in the face. And is true XD

[@mariecie6337]

I feel bad for the second son.. Im also face the same problem and I know how it feels.. Sending my virtual hug for you.. I believe everything will be alright and beautiful in time🙏

[@AdroitG]

I feel so bad for Junha, he doesn't deserve to be treated this way where his mother doesn't see how she is doing wrong and how his brother is super spoiled. I hope Junha's hyung gets his life together so Junha won't have to worry about him and his mother. I also hope Junha finds someone just as kind and hardworking as he is so that he can feel the love that he deserves.

[@kiki3826]

Ah I want to married and save the dongsaeng from loneliness bcs his mom favor his hyung. I'll pouring him with lots of love!!!

[@AngelAngel-fs1qo]

The older brother really cannot keep any job can he, he either finds it too hard or doesn't trust people that want to help him.

[@yogurLAPIZ]

It's not like not trust, people fly away from the people who actually can help them, cause once I have helped you, you wouldn't have and excuse for being lazy ass. XD

[@Hoid.]

Okay, I'm just halfway into it and I'm boiling. The mother... I can't imagine how heartbroken the younger son is having such an unfair parent. This is infuriating

[@LightShadowButterfly]

The older brother. Oof, it makes me angry. As someone who has to rely on a scholarship and financial aid as well as still having a job at the same time. I'm partially envious that he can just get everything handed to him without doing anything, but mostly furious because he does basically nothing at all.

[@paradise9340]

Wow why is this relatable? I'm 18, my brother is 32. He has no job and only plays game. Whenever our parents ask him to do something he would give them a attitude and would proceed to tell me to do it or my younger sibling. Watching this frustrates me.

[@하늘소리-k1h]

어머님이 끝까지 아들을 지원 해줄수는 없어요 고기를 잡아주지 말고 고기 잡는 방법을 알려줘야 해요

[@swan3x]

Why mothers always spoil the irresponsible sons !!! the mature ones end up ignored ☹️ The 2nd son is so sweet & kind , I wish him happiness 💕

[@Jay-jw2jk]

This dude should be an actor. Hes probably received lots of offers

[@프라이데이-d4x]

이렇게 잘 생긴 형제들!! 첫째 아들 얼굴이 아깝다 ㅠ

[@audipriskilablegur2261]

yang adeknya udah capek, baik, dewasa, bertanggung jawab lagi astagaaaa sisakan satu untukku yg seperti ini

[@laraasskalany2574]

I keep crying for the younger brother, I really wanna give him a bear hug, ughhhhh I wanna adopt him so he could be my son too

[@인-z6s]

둘째가.. 아들인데 아빠역활을 하게되는듯.. 일단 가족은 다 잊고 외국에서살고있길..다 알아서 잘살아감..

[@sokucm7309]

The older brother probably have a lot of anxiety and depression. There is definitely a mental aspect when not having the will because you think you can't do anything.

[@nursyahirah6972]

Junha have that loving eyes when he look at his mom. His mom should appriciate him more. Once he gave up on everything, his mom will go terribly sad

[@fightingrivers1788]

Can i give the younger bro a hug. My situation is not as bad as him but the similarities, God save me. ㅠㅠ

[@irisxhaferri1957]

I wanna give the younger sibling a hug really bad 😭😭 i feel him i go through this myself