i MASTERED decluttering once I learned this!

[@kristidoingthings]

Hey loves! If you're trying to figure our where to start so that it doesn't feel overwhelming, this video shares EXACTLY what I did: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o3esooCvg5t5fqssi=EoiHxmFVe0JVnZer

[@weriesblack1375]

As a guy i have a 6 months rule if i dont use a item or object in 6 months it goes if im not sure ill pack it in a cupboard for future removals but still usable when needed if i dont use that the next 6 months it goes to the bin. My problem is despite me not having anything or care to horde stuff the rest of the family will think hey i might use this one day and keeps everything. Even the clothes i have 7 identical pants and 7 similar tops it is less then a 1/4 of space hanging the rest is the wifes clotes and half of that she is too big for and keep saying it will fit if i lose weight... I did my part i can only bring a horse to water short from drowning it i cant make it drink.

[@catapultedwizard4810]

To Kristi or any of her followers: If any of you know of a KZbinr that addresses the following, please let me know. I noticed almost all decluttering KZbinrs show how to get rid of stuff when it's attained through the same mindset: simply buying more than you get rid off. This video being a prime example. That's not the problem with members of my family. This is just my theory, but the mindset we're dealing with seems to come from (and been "handed down" from) the Great Depression Era. There's a sense of keeping anything that's not trash because it could be used for something else. Back in an era when most families did that because it wasn't a throw away economy and they also couldn't afford to just buy everything. One example being cleaning out and saving butter tubs because Tupperware was still expensive decades ago. Anyway, that mindset seems to have a rock solid hold, because the various households of my relatives can afford things just fine. I messaged a couple decluttering people, but with millions of followers, I've decided to start putting this comment on every KZbinr/Tiktoker, hoping one of them or a follower can direct me to the correct video/person. Thank you.

[@GenXHeart]

@@catapultedwizard4810 I can be an emotional/practical pack rat for sure. I'll spare the stories but it started when I realized I would be happier if I made a 1 item rule. I have 1 item and 1 photo of every loved one who has passed on. Then a couple years ago I oddly started keeping glass jars (?!) I told myself I can have 1 box of nice, clean jars in the garage and from time to time I do go out there and pull out one to use and then I replace it. I had to ask myself why would I need to hold on to more extras when I have never needed the whole box at once? Maybe that concept would help with the Tupperware issue? OR are they not using the "good" plastic ones because they don't want them to get stained and ugly? Are glass ones too heavy for arthritic hands? I mean, if you think about it cool whip containers are the perfect answer to both of those issues? NOW, could someone please tell me how to deal with the 40 LB MixMaster that gets used once a year to make the family's NY cheesecake recipe? A recipe that is neither good for my waistline nor my wallet but it's one of the last traditions I have kept - and memories DO tie us to happy times in the past. Not to mention there is such a feeling of accomplishment when I pull this creation out of the oven. Yup. In the pantry it stays. LOL.

[@poonyaTara]

@@catapultedwizard4810 I don't know a video about it, but I do know that everything comes with a mental load. The object has to justify not only the mental load but also any stress it might cause to your relationships. My husband's family has a belief that we can only have a finite number of relationships in our lifetime and relationships we have with objects are relationships we cannot have with people instead. Perhaps adopting this idea for a trial period might help? It worked well for me.

[@aliciarubio2783]

The hardest thing for me to clean is papers. Because what if I need them in the future 🫣🤦

[@v.j.cooper2007]

My grandmother would buy nice things and put them away. She would buy sheets and towels and put them in a trunk never to be used. We always had the same sheets for months on our bed, of course, they were washed once a week, but she never used the new sheets or put out the good towels and face cloths. When she passed, all that stuff was so old that it almost disintegrated upon touching it. I found that I was doing the same thing until my husband pointed it out to me that I was buying nice dishes and towels and other things only not to be used. Now, I buy things for my house and myself and use it immediately. Life is short, what are you saving those things for? Someone to find after your departure only to either use it themselves or give it to the goodwill or someone else.

[@kristidoingthings]

I’ve seen a few of these stories and it’s wild that we do that. It makes me sad to think we can go our whole lives never actually enjoying the moment bc we “save it for later”.

[@NoLaGurl18]

This is me. I use some, but I have a LOT of unused/ muultiple items

[@temi4116]

Really like the info this speaker is relaying. She doesn't ignore the psychological factor. Many decluttering speakers ive listened to don't address the psychological aspects beyond a tiny amount. It's important to include possible mental blocks we declutterer people often have. And then implement the ways we can effectively and sensitively work through them. I can think of several things right now, which Ive been unable to let go of until now. Successful reworking of outlook thanks to this speaker. I'm very grateful.

[@eugeniaperry4278]

This mind set also comes from poverty, never having enough, or thought of it will keep you buying things just to say you can, and never use it 🙏🏾😢❤it was in my family too.

[@lyndi9082]

@@NoLaGurl18 My stockpiling really started during covid, being bored at home, shopping online and getting great deals. I thought everything would be a great gift at Christmas, but only gifted a small percentage, or had way more than needed. The bottom line for me is not to leave all this stuff for my kids to deal with, when they will already be dealing with so many other emotions; to not be a burden to my children. This mindset has really helped my perspective on so much stuff- keepsakes, family items and all.

[@edennis8578]

I started saving nice things "for the future" when I was about 25 years old. I'm now almost 70 and I haven't used that stuff! So I'm asking myself, how old do I think I have to be before it's ok to use the nice things?

[@kristidoingthings]

I would say it’s time to start using all your nice stuff!!! ❤️

[@Plethorality]

Use it now. Get rid of your boring stuff.

[@aishasaeed1661]

Omg this is me too, I hear you. Looks like we are looking for a perfect version of ourselves. We need to enjoy our things, tomorrow is not assured❤

[@majesea]

Use the stuff you love and give the stuff that no longer work for you for someone else will want and bring them joy❤

[@kendylthelongway1135]

I used to have that same issue. I wasted so much money and time shopping for things I never used. I now only buy things I plan on using in the present bc tomorrow isn’t promised.

[@pruzzilla3771]

COVID taught me to use my nice things, use my Christmas coffee cups year round, and wear my best clothes I save for special occasions without there being a special occasion. Life can be taken so quickly.

[@Onejent76]

This is good.

[@cinnabun715]

Amen sis

[@theshadylady1982]

Every day is a special occasion!! It's the only day that matters. Good for you for making that change and enjoying your nice things whenever you want.

[@kristidoingthings]

This is so true!

[@poonyaTara]

@@pruzzilla3771 Some people think it's weird to have nice things without an occasion or without "earning" them. You're right; surviving can be a feat that warrants celebrating. (Why else would we celebrate birthdays, anyway?)

[@gingermonette7455]

My favorite question to ask is, "how would I feel if this spontaneously combusted?' If I wouldn't be sorry (or if I'd be secretly glad) then that item should probably go.

[@kristidoingthings]

Love this!!!!

[@serendipityshopnyc]

Similarly, when in doubt about a piece of clothing, I think: if I spotted a stain or a tiny hole in this, would I be relieved to have a reason to get rid of the object, or do I love it enough to keep wearing or try to repair it? On a gut level, you know what you really love.

[@andreaskye]

This is fantastic! Thank you!

[@miaschu8175]

I remember feeling relief when a dish smashed as I was sorting out the kitchen (getting ready to declutter). That made me realise how much I wanted to let stuff go and made it easier to get rid of things. I still need to make another pass over the contents of my kitchen cupboards, but I'm pleased with how much I've let go and donated to charity already.

[@jeanniestaller797]

I found myself envious of the people who lost their homes in the fire in a nearby town. Now what does that tell you?!

[@poonyaTara]

I finally decluttered only to realize that my home was still a mess because I have too many friends who are hoarders and have gotten into the habit of storing their stuff at my place. Seriously, I have entire rooms I can't use, and people refuse to get their stuff for years while expecting me to store them for free. It's actually costing me a few hundred dollars a year to cope with not being able to use entire rooms of my house. This New Year's Day I let everyone storing their trash at my house have two months' notice that I'll be disposing of it. One person got mad at me for being petty since I have such a big house, so I explained that I wasn't going to start charging them a storage fee. Another told me to sell his stuff and give him the money, but I refused to take a volunteer position when my time is already spoken for...by me. I feel much better now, and although I'm sure I'm going to hear more about it I don't see that I have any legal obligation to care anymore when they can't be bothered to care either.

[@saundraandrade9019]

I have a similar situation. My garage and storage room are full of all of my grown children's stuff. I like the solution you've come up with and am going to present it to my kids (27-43 yrs old)

[@poonyaTara]

@@saundraandrade9019 It will make you unpopular for a little while, but it demonstrates the self-respect essential for respect for others. I can tell you from personal experience, though, that children sometimes don't realize how much we're imposing on our parents. My parents responded in kind by bringing a box of my baby clothes I didn't even know was stashed at their home and giving it to me as a birthday present. My husband was ticked, but it made me happy because I realized that they understood how ridiculous the situation is. I want to enjoy their company, not be a burden.

[@shaynannigans]

Yes to this. My mom’s friend left a couple of boxes of stuff at my mom’s house for a decade and I was like if she hasn’t needed it by now then she doesn’t need it and it got trashed when we moved my mom.

[@kristidoingthings]

I firmly believe that while we help others, you also gotta do what works for you! Can't love others well if you aren't loving yourself- and getting your space functioning for you is a form of self-love.

[@Lis_718BX]

Sell my things and give me the money 😂😂😂😂😂 somebody went to Costco and bought the audacity in BULK

[@chantellucky4565]

I just turned 76, I decided to finally use all my finery I collected over 40 years from sets of 24k gold rim fine bone china from England to sterling silver picture frames, limited addition Lalique perfume bottles ( for my $30 perfumes from Target 😂, ) crystal vases for my handpicked flowers on my nature walk, 18 century silver handheld mirror to pluck my eyebrows, 1930 silver bridal flower basket for all my incoming mails & bills to be paid, antique Italian lace tablecloth etc. Those were some of my NICE THINGS passionate collectibles for years carefully wrapped in my cedar hope chest waiting for that someday, some special occasions, (in case the Pope or Queen Elizabeth 😂😂 happened to drop by my humble home for a visit) but today I finally decided that ‘my everyday’ is a special occasion, so I started to use them daily and it brought me so much JOY! One day I’ll sell them or gift them to people that deserve them. 🎉🎉 they’ll find other loving homes.

[@kristidoingthings]

Everyday is a special occasion!! Love this so much!

[@LivinDallas]

Lol I purchased a 24k hostess set for my mom and her two sisters- my mom always used hers during the holidays. Anyway my cousin was having a five year anniversary at her moms house and my mom asked my aunt (her sis) if she was going to use her hostess set and she said no 😢my aunt has since passed on, and nobody knows what happened to that set 🤔

[@katattack907]

It must be so cool to use all your special treasures every day!

[@lotus_puppy]

What's your address? Just curious! Hahah jkjk

[@coldfact.]

​@@lotus_puppylol 😅 lets all have a civilized tea party in the midst of world chaos. Shoot, why not?! 😂

[@TheSabadine]

"No matter where we are in life, no matter our age, we are just in time to live the life of our dreams." I LOVE this sentiment!

[@kristidoingthings]

Thank you!!! It’s my life affirmation! 🤗

[@Hmy8799]

THIS!! Caused me to IMMEDIATELY subscribe and click on the notifications button!

[@dyoung2739]

I ❤that sentiment,too

[@kendragreene5953]

YES!🩷

[@jessicauhlin6594]

Same!!❤

[@PlusVK22]

The hoarder in me: "Maybe my house is just too small" 😂😂

[@marieprince3994]

Haha lol that's me too !!!😅

[@kristidoingthings]

🤣🤣🤣 Um…no, lol

[@jamiesmith2724]

In all fairness, we are having that issue too.

[@tulaniredding6975]

This is Me! 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@yasminehmmm6020]

Declutter book Declutter at the Speed of life talks about this and using the container concept

[@paulathepoodlelover]

Great tips about getting rid of deceased family members' things. The stuff makes me feel sad and that's a great reason to simply get rid of it. Thank you! And yes, they've been gone for 20+ years now. Again, thank you so much!

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, you're so welcome!

[@HerWanderlust]

Bring the family to go through maybe? I know that I don’t need my mom to keep all my grandmothers things for me for the future- I can look through right now, and choose the heirlooms that call to me specifically. That way I have things hers that holds meaning for me as a person…and nothing more 💜

[@missjoasia123]

I’m just gonna say. Birthday cards is what I love I kept now. My grandparents died and that is mainly what I have left over from them talking to me directly their handwriting and words they actually chose for me as I can feel like I can read that and have them there with me for a moment. I’d think long and hard before throwing away letters from family and people you’ll always love and miss

[@kristidoingthings]

Love this! Definitely don't think that things you still go back to are clutter- especially not hand written notes. Keep those memories!!! I was talking about the stuff that we have no attachment to and don't know why we're holding on to it. 💕

[@tinawalker5335]

This is my weakness, I can’t get rid of cards, pictures or obituaries 😢

[@Grace-h4l]

Those are the hardest to get rid of but the photo idea is a good one as paper and ink fade with time.

[@Kelly_Ben]

I wish I'd realized this... what a wonderful way to keep them close.

[@sherrya.marlowe8058]

I totally get your thoughts! I took my grandmother cards and ones given to my mother and aunt by my grandmother cut the important words out and part of picture I liked and glued a collage onto an plain box from Hobby Lobby and gifted it back to them. They were amazed and grateful. Now the cards can be ‘seen’ and have a useful purpose. Cheers!

[@typicalc]

I’ve been decluttering for well over 10years. Started as merging two households into one and then purging what we don’t need, etc. I started to hardcore declutter about 5years ago when I realized I still couldn’t keep up with the house work. I’ve had two key takeaways - first I needed to find my “clutter threshold” and second, I realized I was buying things to “temporarily fill a need” instead of just buying the better item up front. So I was never truly happy with what I owned. Now I buy with intention. If I have to wait a little longer, so be it.

[@kristidoingthings]

This is SOO good!

[@cristina9753]

Yes!!!

[@saradiperna2901]

I too have a problem with mail. What a relief, I thought that I was the only one! 😂 Parting is such sweet sorrow-but it has to go!! 😅

[@Tracywhited2]

My husband recently passed away. He bought our home when he was 19 yrs old. And he did not believe in throwing stuff away. It's was a nightmare for me to get rid of 45 yrs of stuff some which he hadn't used since the 70's. I found two denim bell bottom suits. Suits !! 😂😂. It's taken me months to delete it all. Don't leave stuff behind for your loved ones. It's hard enough to grieve and no one needs to be stuck with your mess. ❤❤

[@kristidoingthings]

I’m so sorry for your loss. And wow, it’s seems you have a really healthy ability to detach the stuff from his memory. ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

[@marthasousa2001]

I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away a few months ago also, and I need to get rid of most of his clothing, so I can have more closet space, which tells me that I definitely should go through my things too!

[@Tracywhited2]

@@marthasousa2001 awww. Thanks. You as well. Bless. Yeah. It's a good time as you move forward to clear the nest.

[@Tracywhited2]

@@kristidoingthings I kept the most sentimental things for sure. The small things he used everyday. But I'm lucky I had no sentiment towards his clothes and tools and other things. But I had no choice. I couldn't keep the house and had to sell it quickly. And it sold the day it went in the market. I know how hard that is for so many spouses tho.

[@metsl1870]

....this!!!

[@ccolin0059]

I started watching this on my tv but came to my phone to comment. I’m about 5 minutes into the video. When you said something about your marriage, I quickly thought “oh she’s married very young” nothing too deep, just a quick thought. Then you said you’re 43 and my mind is blown! Girl what?! You barely, barely look 25! 💕💕💕

[@kristidoingthings]

🥹This is too sweet, thank you so much! Yes, girl- I am grown, grown!!! 😂

[@PatfromJamul]

Hi, I agree with you! I had a similar reaction to her and her appearance. I thought she MUST be very young. Then she told us her age, and I was astonished! She looks quite young and lovely. Her skin is great and her complexion is flawless. Her teeth are gorgeous, too. (I am quite jealous.)

[@VelvetRedRoses]

My first reaction was wow, this woman has it together and how beautiful she is. Look at that smile, it’s perfect. And he skin! What a beautiful soul to get to the essence of a problem and give us a pathway to solve it.

[@peachy_reina]

It don't Crack! Lolol I'm 5'1, 116 lbs andmy 13 year old is more developed and taller than me (and I have 4 other children). When I tell them I'm in my 30s they're like, "Oh.." 😂😂 always thinking I'm 12 😭😭

[@elayned6147]

Incredible looking woman, agreed!!

[@christythomson536]

#3 Layer is also a key to spending money wisely. Discovering how much you buy for your ideal or fantasy self but don’t actually use is a real eye opener.

[@christythomson536]

I lived in St. Louis. Loved it!

[@kristidoingthings]

Oh my goodness, yes- that is SUCH and eye-opener! Also made me realize I wasn't treating myself the way that I deserved. St. Louis is a fun, undercover gem!

[@holyexperience1976]

I would love to visit sometime. But my driving abilities is limited, so am too skittish to get on the highway needed to get there, cannot afford to fly or Greyhound, as for the train, I would got to go 5 hours north then shoot hours back south. Maybe one day. Would love it if at least can go to the mall with my baby boy who can handle the highway driving.

[@LKSTAFF]

OMG, this is spot in ... I love business casual clothes, and I buy way too many that I never get to wear. The person I want to be is a put together business women but currently, I'm in my hot mess momma season and live in leggings 😅

[@bajanrooted1491]

This is me. By time I get a day off I attempt to start to declutter/organize. I stare-eat-walk dog-sleep. I get tired just by the thought of where to start.

[@reginagrayson2465]

Take one drawer in any room of the house. Pull up a garbage can and a chair. Open the drawer. Why is all of that trash in there. Throw out trash and reorganize. Move to the next little thing that won't take long to do. Proceed another small drawer. Repeat as often as you'd like.😊❤❤❤ And do NOT beat yourself up about anything. You'll feel so good from cleaning up one drawer that it gives you the momentum to continue. I'm in the middle of it right now, and I'm loving the lifting of heaviness that lifts more and more off of my shoulders with every single drawer/cabinet/closet I declutter and rearrange. May GOD continue to bless you, my friend.❤❤❤

[@kristidoingthings]

This!!!

[@kristidoingthings]

@reginagrayson2465 said exactly what I was going to say! You gotta start somewhere. Doesn’t need to be big but just “show up”. 🫶🏽

[@tonyawilliams9550]

This is absolutely me!😕 I told my family that I wasn’t going to travel this year, so I could get my houses in order, and it’s August, and it pretty much looks the same that it did back in November, when I said it!😢 I get tired and overwhelmed thinking about where to start. Then when I do, sometimes I think I make things worse…it’s depressing.😞🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@tiffanylarson2104]

it doesn't matter where you start. You could literally flip a coin to decide where you start. also you can spend minimal time like 15 minutes a day. even 2 minutes a day!

[@feliciajenkins5041]

Doing this for my mother. She has been doing this for other people and family. She deserves an uncluttered safe space.

[@kristidoingthings]

Awww, I love this! 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@quyenielam5058]

Very hard to do it for your parents, unless they are ready to make a change. Though, most elders don’t think clutter is not healthy 😕

[@MizJilly]

Girl, I just donated my dad's tuxedo a few weeks ago. He's been gone almost 25 years. I kept one of his sweaters and I use his old scissors and shears when I sew. Those things make me feel close to him. The rest didn't. My mom - I kept her nurse's cape and a housedress she used to love hanging out in. Those two things make me feel close to her, and celebrate who she was. But it takes time to realize what those few things are and pare down the rest.

[@kristidoingthings]

Love this! It sometimes takes a while to figure out what is most valuable to us.

[@lisapalmer4059]

Same here, I kept three clothing items of my dad. I may add them to a quilt. I also saw someone make an apron out of her dads dress shirt.

[@sharilhouston8916]

THANK YOU GIRL hubby of 49+ years moved to Heaven 2 1/2 yrs ago. Moved from 2 bed/2 bathroom and large garage with his maintenance Shop with stacks of wood on his side/ my supplies for crafts/tutoring/drawing and chalk-acrylic At projects... Writing supplies/ Hosp Pro Med Caring Clown costumes and supplies Sewing supplies... Whew !!! Moved into Senior Housing security Hotel ONE BEDROOM...YEP... You get pic. Two seniors helping with move suggested "just renting smallest 5x5 TEMPOARILY"of boxes too tough to go thru "because might need some day". Well... When Good Lord asked a simple question, " how long been since you've looked here?) Over year. Justify ""But it's onlY $63" YES... COULDN'T THAT ANY N BE BETTER USED TO BUILD PERMANENT KINGDOM ABOVE? WHEN I'D FREALIZED ID SPENT CLOSE TO$1,000.00...I was sick to my stomach. Thanks for your kind questions and layered concept. Gratefully for your vulnerability!

[@kimmaldonado3640]

​@@lisapalmer4059 we did this also. There were 5 girls, we each got a different pattern. Plus with extra fabric we cut into hearts and put into a picture frame with our favorite picture. So each daughter got an apron, a wine bottle holder made from the sleeve & a picture.

[@janelast5177]

Sweet comment

[@plainandsimple2576]

I’m 60 and don’t want to leave a mess for my children, I’ve been widowed 4 years and have 2 special daughters who will be with me until I die. I not only want but need to de clutter! I feel like my stuff controls me! I am happy I found your page.

[@kristidoingthings]

I'm so glad you're here. It can be really difficult to let stuff go, but we have to push ourselves to do it. Take small steps toward it if you need to. I just did this video as a follow up and I think it'll be helpful. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqrYqmasdseboqM

[@sherrivaldez9832]

@@kristidoingthings

[@larryherbert252]

I certainly hear what your saying, l don’t want to leave a bunch of stuff behind for my family, l have stuff packed in storage boxes,its memorabilia so they can keep what they want or get rid of it.

[@lbanks1164]

Yes!!!! My mom passed away in my late twenties. I felt like I was obligated to hold on to her things: 1- because mamaaaa!!! 😭and 2- as the only girl in the family I was expected to be the Chief Mama Memory Protector. 🙄 So it was really hard to declutter her things. ON TOP OF THE FACT that she was the family historian and the eldest daughter of the daughter! So she had her things, granny and pawpaws things, my brothers things, ALL THE THINGS! C L U T T E R - C I T Y It was hard but I made a lot of headway. Still a journey tho... Thank you so much for your videos!

[@kristidoingthings]

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's a shared bond that none of us really want to have but helps us to understand what each other is going through. Wow!!! Yes, that's a lot. Being the one who feels duty-bound to manage all of the memories is quite a heavy load. So proud that you've made some headway!!!

[@maggiepatchett2111]

Someone told me "other peoples stuff is not your burden"...it helped so much dealing with all my mums stuff after she passed. I still have a few things I need to let go...a few bits of antique furniture I have no space for. They will go, I'd rather someone else get use of them than they collect dust, take up space in my mind and home. ♥️

[@MedusaBearJam]

Whew thank you because I'm both you and your mama. My brothers didn't help with anything and they are 10+ years older than me. I started asking my family if they wanted certain memories and trinkets and now I'm trying to digitize things so that others have access to them and I don't leave my future children with the burden that was left on me.

[@M_SC]

That’s a lot of responsibility. I hope you can delegate some to brothers if you still have too much

[@Teyonce_1124]

Same here!!! This is my story.... 2 year grief journey on 2/1 😢

[@uteme]

Something my DinL OFTEN says when she visits my house is, "your house is so peaceful." I believe what she's really noticing is the clean kitchen surfaces, the lack of clutter throughout & the calming effect created by having an easily maintained home. It pleases me, for her, that she has found a place of respite. ♡

[@kristidoingthings]

Clean is so peaceful!

[@farvista]

Now THIS, right here, has inspired me. My grandsons come over, and they LOVE it here because our house is bigger, but also, comparatively clear and neat. However, 26 years has taken a toll, and I really MUST get RID of some of the accumulated stuff. I have my daughter's prom dress from when she was 16! (She's the one with the kids.) I have instruments and board games that will never be played, clothes that will never be worn, dishes that are "too nice" to use, art supplies that will never become anything more, and I'm really ready to divest myself of all of the mental "weight" of it.

[@SandyCheeks63564]

@@farvista Donate it! Someone will be so happy to get just what they were looking for and couldn't afford to buy new. And if there's some art project or game you decide after throwing it out when clearing all that space, you really want to use/do, it's just one thing to re-buy. otherwise it would remain buried, a facet of you that remained hidden

[@farvista]

@ Oh yes, donating our excess is the plan. If it's good stuff. So much of what people donate is stuff they can't get rid of any other way, but they don't want to throw it in the trash.

[@randompixels6237]

When each of my parents (divorced) passed I found a folder of my letters, artwork, school report cards, hand made cards, tests with a gold star or high grade and newspapers of the day I was born and important events. My dad had a folder about him that my grandparents kept and the letters between them when my grandfather was a soldier in WWII. Going through this was heart warming during a time of great loss. The love I felt and the sense of the natural progression of life was much needed. I recommend not throwing them away.

[@kristidoingthings]

What a beautiful treasure trove of love and history your parents and grandparents preserved for you! Those keepsakes are such powerful reminders of the connections we share across generations-thank you for sharing this heartfelt story and thoughtful advice. ❤️

[@janelast5177]

Lovely comment There are some things we need to keep also

[@msstaceylbracey]

THIS IS GOOD. ESPECIALLY THE QUESTIONS. I TELL PEOPLE THAT DECLUTTERING IS A PROCESS THAT MUST BE DONE IN BITE SIZE PIECES OR THEY WILL GET OVERWHELMED AND STOP ALTOGETHER. MANY FEEL BAD BECAUSE THEY KNOW IT NEEDS TO BE DONE BUT THEY DON’T HAVE THE ENERGY TO DO IT. ONE MUST HAVE A STRATEGY, A TIMELINE, AND EITHER AN AUDIOBOOK OR SOME GOOD MUSIC TO SET THE ATMOSPHERE SO THEY CAN GET THAT ONE CORNER OR THAT ONE BOX DONE TODAY. THANK YOU. 😊😊😊😊😊

[@kristidoingthings]

Yes!!! A little bit at a time works wonders!

[@SuperKissybunny]

I extend my most sincere condolences for the loss of your parents. Thank you for mentioning why you kept their belongings in storage. It has been three years since losing my mom in law. I had a very hard time parting with her things, and my late father in laws things as it was like losing them all over again or like disrespecting them by letting their belongings go. I realize it is okay to let someone else enjoy the pieces, whether furniture, knickknacks, or clothing. I also realize I have to have my own things around me, which align with who I am and not live "in someone else's house, living someone else's life." It has taken over three years to unload three storage units and to clear out my own house but I am 90 percent done and I am starting to feel like my old self again. The time it took to fuss with all the stuff was overwhelming, time consuming and depressing.

[@katiejon17]

That’s a lot of loss. I lost my mother 10 years ago (I was 35 and her passing was unexpected). I found that it put things in perspective for me. If I can live without my own mother, I can live without mere possessions. It’s been a good reminder as my children get older as well, and the pull of their artwork and baby clothing feels overwhelming.

[@kristidoingthings]

Thank you and condolences on your loss as well. 💜 The trauma of loss really does a number on our sense of reasoning. I have come to terms with that realization as well that letting their stuff go doesn't equate to letting them go. I think I always knew that mentally, but my heart/healing had to catch up with it. But it has been a weight and it's time to fully heal. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

[@kristidoingthings]

That's such a good and healthy way to look at it! It's always amazing to me to see how differently we all process grief. 💜

[@Hmy8799]

@@katiejon17wow-this is a super powerful way of thinking about things. My mind is kind of blown because I’ve listened to SO many decluttering videos/podcasts/audiobooks etc, and not a single person has ever mentioned this, which is surprising. I’m sorry for your loss, but think it’s amazing that you were able to come to what I consider a pretty profound realization, that I want to thank you for sharing x100000. I’m lucky enough to still have my parents with me, but have been struggling with clutter/overwhelm for as long as I’ve lived on my own. I’m also very ADHD, which certainly doesn’t help things-but I spent SO much time just LOOKING for things….and now I’m thinking about my parents’ ages and how that wasted time looking for things-and honestly, the time spent wasted due to the overwhelm caused by clutter (which makes cleaning much harder and a longer process!). So you’ve kind of lit me up and inspired me to be ruthless in my decluttering-which luckily I’d already planned on doing for half of today! Thanks again for sharing your wisdom!

[@katiejon17]

@@Hmy8799 I’m happy it helped! I shut down my YT channel a few years ago and I’m toying with getting it back up. There’s so much discussion for all of us to have. And certainly when we choose to live minimally, our finances also improve without even trying. ❤

[@mange_du_gateau]

I recently lost 123lbs. I’m currently in the process of moving. I just rid of a construction size bag of clothes that I really loved or never got to wear. I kept them thinking that I can tailor them, but it would basically be reconstructing a whole new garment. I had to remind myself that I now have the opportunity to enjoy the clothes that actually fit me now.

[@meman6964]

I moved from size 1x, then 16, 14, now 10-12 These clothes are too good for Goodwill. Looked around at church, assistant yoyth pastor is a vit larger than I, so two shopping bags and handful of things on hangers, she'll save $$$ and I have space.

[@Wrapitupmk]

Congratulations

[@kristidoingthings]

Congratulations!!! That's so inspiring! Sounds like you are enjoying a whole new life!💜

[@HeronCoyote1234]

I’m proud of you! I know your health is better because of what you’ve accomplished (physical and emotional).

[@carolynprice9288]

Congratulations

[@ireneoligher59]

I just found your channel today. I've already listened to this post twice, and I know I will be listening to it again. My best "Aha!" moment came when I listened to Dana K White's channel, and she explained her "container" definition. definition. Your house is a container. It has a limited size and volume. Then she breaks it down even further. Each room in your house is a container. Each closet, drawer, shoebox is a container. You can only fill each container with the amount of stuff that fills that space. Whatever does not fit must find another home, be donated, or trashed. I'm paraphrasing quite a bit, but once I got that I could not just keep stuffing my containers to overflowing, it became easier to pick out what was most important to me to keep in that container. Six trashbags of clothes were, quickly, donated. It's still a slow process for me, but it's getting better and easier. Good luck to everyone going through this process.

[@kristidoingthings]

That is a really brilliant strategy! Thank you so much for breaking it down. Glad you found the channel! 😉

[@lolabear6788]

Great advice. I have gone through layers of cleaning our over decades. I’m almost 60. Raised 6 children. Married 20 yrs. I like what you have to say here. One category I made up was “props.” This is the delusional category. Hahahaha Things we keep for a life we don’t actually have. I had some home bread making things. I was never going to use them, but I saw myself as a home made bread maker. Lol it was this weird glass tube for long, thin loaves and some other things. I do make home made bread occasionally. A regular bread pan is fine. I didn’t need all this extra things way back when our small house was over crowded. I don’t miss it at all.

[@kristidoingthings]

Sounds like you've made SOOO much progress! Congrats! 🤗

[@jujutrini8412]

I don’t know if they have done studies on this but I strongly suspect that grief or trauma may very well be the main cause for hoarding behaviour. I was never hoarder until certain things happened in my life and then I suddenly started hoarding and found it so hard to stop!

[@kristidoingthings]

I'm not sure either, but I suspect you're right. Hmmm...now you're gonna lead me down a research rabbit hole, lol!

[@stellalowe2346]

I watch the show hoarders. And this revelation is true for many of the hoarders on the show .

[@Diva-bl7sd]

Losing everything in a fire: Being without anything and starting from scratch could turn anyone into, at least, a little bit of a hoarder.

[@shelleycharlesworth5177]

@@Diva-bl7sd yes that is what happened to me!

[@dancing523]

Also people with a history of ADHD.

[@Myextraordinary_ordinarylife]

Thank you for showing your real home in its real state.

[@kristidoingthings]

🤣🤣🤣 Yes, it gets messy! That’s part of life.

[@EekZombies]

I’ve been saving things since 2005. I started selling all those things on eBay and Mercari during the pandemic. 400 listings and 2 garage sales later I’ve finally decluttered my life.

[@kristidoingthings]

Woohoo!!! Congratulations!!! I imagine it feels SOOO good and freeing!

[@zundrasluxury6287]

I sell on all the platforms and it’s taking awhile. I decided not to go back to my bargain stores.

[@marshahill3473]

You inspire me

[@marshahill3473]

I want to develop the bandwidth to sell on a platform. I just don’t feel right about donating anymore. I think I owe it time myself to try to recoup some money

[@kilaa3417]

​@@marshahill3473 mercari, depop, ebay - great platforms!

[@PickleSammich-nd7pv]

I rent a bedroom from this lady I met on Craigslist. I tell people not to give me gifts because I have no space. I’ve had several people tell me I should get a storage room… so I would then be paying interest on items I bought that I’m saving to use? I tell people to give me portrait picture of them. Nobody does that anymore. But a photo to cherish when your old and people have moved on is priceless, and it fits nicely in an album.

[@kristidoingthings]

It's really wise of you to prioritize space and focus on what truly matters, especially when living in a rented room. Photos can hold so much value, capturing memories and relationships without taking up much room. It’s a beautiful way to cherish the people in your life and create lasting memories. Sounds like you've found a meaningful way to live simply and thoughtfully!

[@kimdodsonharris]

This sounds like me. However, I turned 57 a month ago and promised my self this is the end of that tradition. I am going room by room and decluttering and going to enjoy the things I have. I look back at the living room furniture over the years that was never utilized, as well as the vehicles barely driven. I can’t believe I have accumulated so much stuff overtime. I am actually feeling overwhelmed, but I got this.🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@kristidoingthings]

Yes, you've got this! I'm seeing you posted this comment a few weeks ago, so I have to ask- how's it going?!?!

[@Virgophrenia]

I feel so happy to know I'm not the only person sitting around trying to hand shred mail😂

[@kristidoingthings]

😂

[@lindsaywells5225]

I use the garbage disposer. Get it super wet. Works like a charm

[@Virgophrenia]

@@lindsaywells5225 very interesting 🤔 never thought about that

[@TheChickenn08]

Another idea is, if you have a large plastic storage tub, fill with water & just toss them in. In time, they become mush. Then drain & toss out. You can also use it for mulch in your garden. Saves time without shredding/tearing. More time to declutter...lol..

[@Virgophrenia]

@@TheChickenn08 I do that too!!! Then hand shred😂.....well if I can still see what's on them. That paper get heavy! But I never thought about the mulch in garden🤔 thanks for that little life hack.

[@djw8591]

I could hear the emotion in your voice when you talked about losing your parents in your 20’s and saving their things and your memories. They must have been very beautiful people. It touched me.

[@kristidoingthings]

Thank you so much for your kind words. Losing my parents at such a young age was incredibly challenging, but I’m grateful for the memories I hold onto. They were truly the best. I'm so glad that my sharing resonated with you-it means a lot. 💖

[@djw8591]

@ 🌺💐🌺🌼🌺💐

[@cellcat]

The taking a picture idea is a superwoman level solution. 💪 Take pictures and then print them on photo paper or regular printer paper. Put them in a photo album and write a little blurb or the story of the memory with the date of each experience. Then, you really can let go of the actual item. The memory is what is important. 🥰

[@kristidoingthings]

♥️ ♥️ ♥️

[@tek3freak]

Love this!

[@GuidedbyHeartSong]

This. The hardest thing for me to get rid of has been my son's stuff from when he was a kid. This is going to help me break through today. Thank You! 🙏🏽💙💙💙💙💜🌎🕊️

[@meman6964]

Also take before and after photo of each area as you are working on declutter.

[@tipfertool5457]

I'm at the "can I find it the next time I need it" stage. Everything needs its place.

[@kristidoingthings]

Love this!

[@belletwelve438]

The important thing is NOT to be alone in the process. Some folks don't have a support system n find themselves having to deal w/ the overwhelming mess on their own

[@donceltic4631]

Great video! If you need a little more incentive to declutter, calculate how much of your mortgage payment is spent each month for the space taken up by clutter. Say if you have a 1800 sq. ft. house and a $2000 mortgage you are paying $1.11 per month ($2000/1800) for each sq. ft. of your home. If you have a 12 x 12 ft. room full of clutter, that is 144 sq. ft. You are paying 144 x $1.11 = about $160 a month for that cluttered up space!

[@elib7311]

It’s too early in the morning for that much math 😂😂

[@kristidoingthings]

Oooh, I love this!!! Really puts it in perspective...and, ouch!

[@kristidoingthings]

😂😅

[@sharondalynnewton7562]

OMG I’m thinking you must be an engineer! LOL

[@donceltic4631]

@sharondalynnewton7562 Ha Ha! You caught me!

[@ragsofheartplanning]

I’ve been decluttering for about 2 years. It’s been getting so much easier now. I noticed that some things are harder than others to get rid of. My weak spot is all of my office/craft supplies

[@sharondalynnewton7562]

I hear you on the craft supplies! I’m a serious crafter! Have an entire room dedicated to the hobby. Nope not gonna do it! Lol

[@carinenouboussi5660]

Lol, we can never have enough craft supplies...that we never use🫣😂😂

[@kristidoingthings]

I, too, have a weakness for office supplies/stationary/crafts. 😂

[@miaschu8175]

Same! The main improvement I've made is to stop looking at stationary and crafting supplies, even when there's a sale :)

[@karenkeyes5737]

I thought I was going to need counseling to get rid of my craft supplies, but it turned out to be easier than I thought. I didn’t know about the layers then but looking back, I did go through the layers. I got rid of duplicates. I looked at what my current interest were, and got rid of items associated with crafts I no longer enjoyed or did. I got rid for old patterns with sizes that no longer fit & were outdated styles. For the sentimental stuff, I picked a spot and only allow myself to keep what would fit in the designated space. That made me decide what was really important to me. What made it easier was donating some supplies to teachers. Giving things to people that I knew would use and enjoy them. I sold some items, which put some money back in my pocket. When I start slipping, I remember my reason why, which was to make space for what I really enjoy. Now I’m realizing I need to watch the lack mentality-not wanting to throw things away because I could use it to make something. What can I say…I see treasures in trash. I own it. I just have to be mindful about that. If I’m not making anything with it…I don’t have a current project or use for it, I let it go so I don’t end up going down that rabbit hole.

[@QueenmeT]

“Where I am in my life, would I buy this? I LOVE that!! I’m in the process of moving and needed this.

[@kristidoingthings]

So happy that it helped! ❤️

[@NickeyVamp]

Another component to this is donation. Donate the items you really can’t use that you know someone else would really love, but donate to a cause that is close to your heart for me It was donating to a local, battered women shelter, and a domestic violence, safe house, because I went through domestic violence, this gave me a sense of purpose and love.❤

[@kristidoingthings]

So true. I really love this component of donating to places that mean something to you- makes it a lot easier 💜

[@meman6964]

Scout troop or small private preschool would be so happy with craft supplies.

[@donnahilton8924]

We donate to a store whose profits go to our homeless shelter. 😊

[@CarolinaParra-Pullum]

I'm 68, and 20 yrs ago I learned from my older sister to "lose the love"... and " if you haven't used it in a yr " we got tired of cleaning up after our older loved ones passed away... now at 68 I no longer own 3 houses, and now everything I own fits in my small bedroom in my single daughter's 2 bedroom house, which we are house-sitting. No longer have credit card bills, mortgages, car payments... I craft and sell at craft fairs... it's wonderful.. Thank you sis for teaching me this 20 yrs ago.. It feels so liberating and satisfying that I won't leave my daughter a big mess. Don't get me wrong, I still have a box of memories..even childhood elementary school mementos, photos of events throughout my life, favorite movies, favorite books, they're my babies, and alot of yarn and craft supplies that I will forever use, but my room can be emptied out in 2 hours. It took years, and heartache, but it is worth it... very satisfying..

[@kristidoingthings]

What a powerful journey you've had! It’s inspiring to hear how you’ve embraced minimalism and found such freedom in simplifying your life. Learning to “lose the love” for things that no longer serve you is a profound lesson, and it sounds like your sister’s wisdom has made a lasting impact. Being able to fit everything you own into one room speaks volumes about your growth and commitment to living intentionally. It’s also wonderful that you’ve kept those treasured memories and creative supplies-those are meaningful parts of your life that can bring joy and inspiration. You're not only setting a great example for your daughter but also creates a legacy of clarity and purpose. Thank you for sharing your story; it’s a beautiful reminder of how letting go can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying life. 🌼

[@stephsfromlastnight]

I happened upon this video while trying to clean, and am so glad I did. I lost both of my parents two years ago - right before I hit 30 - and grief brain has made my hoarding tendencies SO much worse. 🥺

[@kristidoingthings]

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Grief can be incredibly overwhelming, and it’s completely understandable how it can affect so many areas of life, including our space. 💔 Please be gentle with yourself as you navigate this journey, and know that it’s okay to take small steps. I'm really glad this video resonated with you, and I hope it offers some comfort and encouragement as you work through this process. You’re not alone, and I’m rooting for you every step of the way. 💖

[@Mr.M.UZ3D]

I personally tried to change my shopping habits by instead of buying everything that i am interested in, i would take a picture of it and if i keep going back to that picture or can't stop thinking about it then i might actually buy it but it often results in me not buying it and helps me to keep my space.

[@kristidoingthings]

Love this so much!!! Great idea!

[@robinrice1540]

I have a craft room that is taking over my life. I can’t get into it and when I do squeeze my way in there, I can’t create anything so after I heard your video, I took an Imaginary pencil and I split the room up into six imaginary parts and I’m going to start cleaning it as soon as I press the send button and thank you for sharing how to declutter. Pray for me I’m going in.😂😂😂 11:50

[@jonathannkuwi5654]

Hi? Are you still alive?

[@kristidoingthings]

Yes, we all want to know how you made it out?!?!😂 What a brilliant way to divide up your space and start getting it in order.

[@robinrice1540]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 yes I’m alive but I have to be honest. I cleaned one corner of the room and started a mess on the other corner of the room but I’m still alive. I’m so sad. It’s funny. I am so sad that I can’t get this room clean.🤣🤣🤣

[@jonathannkuwi5654]

@@robinrice1540 😂😂

[@sarahm3240]

@@robinrice1540I need to do this too. And wanted to share that I am going to divide the hours spent in the room to clean and on what days. Hope that will help you as well.

[@shelleycharlesworth5177]

My home and all possessions burned in a wildfire in 2007. All my old family photos-my wedding photos-all the things my husband and I collected throughout our [ at that time 43 year marriage]. We had good insurance and rebuilt. I had insurance $$ to shop and buy clothes/shoes/purses/household goods/furniture and I over bought. 5 years later my husband died and I shopped and bought clothing as a distraction for my grief. A year ago I began taking things to a re-sale non-profit but I have so much more to do! I HAVE GOT to declutter faster! Last night, I wrote down 9 areas in my home that need decluttering and am glad I came across your informative video. Thank-you!

[@kristidoingthings]

I'm so sorry for your loss and your experience with the wildfire. I'm so proud of you for tackling this decluttering project!

[@OldMooney]

I'm so pleased you told us that the background was staged and showed us the moving imperfection. Love it! So much more relatable.

[@kristidoingthings]

I'm so glad that it was helpful to you! ♥️

[@ravneetgill7377]

Yes, I have felt like a failure, can't get it together to sort out the mess for Years!! Some traumatic stuff with the family which led to this. I've been overwhelmed that it's just there, don't look, don't care but thinking I have to do something about it...all the time. For 3 years. Thanks for this video👍 🧡

[@kristidoingthings]

Thank you so much for sharing this-it takes real courage to open up about feeling overwhelmed. First, let me say this loud and clear: You are not a failure. Life happens, and trauma, especially, can make it hard to face the “stuff” that piles up. It’s not just clutter-it’s the emotional weight attached to it, and that’s not something anyone should feel ashamed of. You’ve got this, and I’m cheering you on every step of the way! Thank you again for being here and for sharing your journey-you’re not alone in this. 🧡✨

[@jlkitz1775]

Decluttering is like cleaning: if you do it on a regular basis, it's not overwhelming. If I haven't used it or forgot I had it, I get rid of it ✌🏾✨️. Thanks for sharing & God speed, everyone!

[@kristidoingthings]

Love this and so true! Thanks for sharing!!!

[@Andre-cr7sv]

Thanks for the advice. I am on a working on leveling up in life and I truly feel that my clutter is distracting and weighing me down. (Crazy but True)

[@kristidoingthings]

Actually, it’s not crazy at all! I actually have another few videos talking about exactly that! Best wishes as you work to get rid of the clutter!

[@lucindabreeding]

Not crazy at all!

[@ebonimami]

Not crazy at all. I'm currently feeling the same way.

[@coleenbrugh7953]

Same!! It can feel suffocating and causes me anxiety which is my motivation to go through the tough process.

[@deboz8793]

Thank you for saying with Layer 4 - there’s no set time to release items. It’s good to hear from the perspective of someone that understands that an emotional loss is the hardest to deal with when trying to declutter.

[@kristidoingthings]

❤️❤️❤️

[@lanepawlowski]

"WE ARE JUST IN TIME FOR OUR DREAMS" wow first time watcher and already in love!

[@kristidoingthings]

🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽 Thank you!!!

[@TheEqualizer-3.2.1.]

I have had the honor of cleaning out the homes of four loved ones who have passed away, I also helped my best friend clean out her mother's items. I've only kept some of my mom's items. Like the blazer she would wear. It's soothing for me. I walk into the closet, hug it, and tell her that I love and miss her. I have three pieces of furniture of hers in the garage. They have been there for four years. I wanted to reupholster two single chairs. They're about 45 yrs. old. If I'm completely honest with myself, I'm not going to do it. Besides my mother's items, I have so many things that I need to get rid of. Your video has helped me to begin the journey of decluttering. I know I will experience pain, joy, crying, laughing, headaches, and finally a great relief when it's all done. Thank you so much for this video. I stumbled upon it. I don't believe in coincidence. God brings things to our lives at the right time to make changes for the better. Blessings to you and yours.

[@kristidoingthings]

Thank you for sharing your experience; it sounds both profound and emotional. It's beautiful that you’ve kept certain items from your mom as a way to feel connected to her. I do the same. Starting the decluttering process is a big step, and it’s great that you’re ready to embrace the mix of emotions that will come with it. It’s all part of honoring those memories while making space for new ones. I truly believe that finding your way to this video was meant to help you take that journey. Wishing you strength and peace as you move forward-blessings to you as well! 😘

[@barb32koep]

Thank you for your concise, uplifting guidance ☺️ First time viewer, new subscriber!! ✨🥳 Keepin'-it-real by asking the right questions -- you're so right. What use does an item really offer if I'm not presently using/ready to wear it, etc, is a great reality check! And "the why" is a no-brainer I find myself selectively "forgetting," to address. I do a lot of "just for now," keeping, which means the bin/container is tucked somewhere in the house against the wall. It's so easy for these things to become invisible -- like new interior boundaries of my space! The walls/square footage is decreased, and so is my vitality (just figured this out while writing comment! 🥴🤗). In recent months, after years of feeling mushed & frustrated & helpless over having too much (by my own decisions = victim mentality under this, I'm facing at last!!), when I come across something forgotten that's made it through a few sessions, usually for years/moves 😳, I ask myself when the last time I actually wondered where this thing was? If finding it offers little more than a novel moment, I let go. The forgotten, novel inventory is baggage that I no longer need as my personal cushion. The bottom line? I am ENOUGH!! Aren't we all secretly hoping we're ENOUGH? YESSS, and being worthy isn't about random, nifty inventory items 😂 Thank you, Kristi!! Peace 🥰

[@kristidoingthings]

Welcome, friend!!! Wow, your insights are so powerful and relatable! That realization about how "just for now" storage becomes invisible boundaries-and how it impacts your vitality-is such a game-changer. It’s amazing how self-aware you’ve become, especially by connecting decluttering with the deeper truth that you are already enough. Letting go of “novel inventory” is such a freeing way to honor yourself and your space. Keep going-you're creating a life that truly reflects your worth! 🥰✨

[@christinastevenson3282]

I totally relate to this I have moved between MA and SC twice in the last 5 years. I have two storage units in MA. I finally said enough is ENOUGH. I booked a flight and took off work so I can spend 2-3 days clearing out my storage and moving on. These are great tips to get me thru it. Thank you ❤

[@kristidoingthings]

Get it, girl!!! Love this!

[@QueenmeT]

“I will make sure this doesn’t BECOME clutter by…” LOVE it I work from home now & now i have to actively wear my clothes & jewlry but also acknowledge some stuff i don’t need anymore

[@kristidoingthings]

It’s so easy to have the same outfits on rotation when we work from home!

[@dihett]

"We are just on time to live the life of our dreams." Love this, love your enthusiasm.

[@kristidoingthings]

♥ Thank you!

[@lisfong]

Great video Kristi - thank you! My husband and I are doing preliminary decluttering before I get super serious about it...and even that has been liberating. I'm shocked at the guilt I feel in getting rid of things I spent $ on but it's DEFINITELY not enhancing our lives to just have it sitting there collecting dust and taking up room for 5+ years. I appreciate your nuanced approach that gives some grace for things we might not be ready to let go of just yet!

[@kristidoingthings]

It’s SO liberating to realize that holding onto things we don’t love doesn’t enhance our lives! 🎉

[@hannahsnow886]

I realized I had a clothes hoarding problem when I got a stain on something and I felt relieved that I could get rid of it. It was out of my control, and for some reason, I just sighed and it felt good. One less thing to worry about. It can be so hard to get rid of things. I felt that if I got rid of something, it would be my fault that I was sad or that I missed it, and I understood that my problem extended from abandonment trauma, an obscured sense of self, and when my home caved in and I lost so much. I got clothes to try and feel good about myself, but materialistic things don't heal. You need to rid of stuff that distracts you from your true purpose. You need time to do more things other than constantly decluttering. You will feel good once you open up your time to more fulfilling things, you can do it! ❤

[@kristidoingthings]

THIS!!!

[@sharonbelieves]

Regarding holding on to things that belonged to parents or other loved ones, I saw a video where someone decided to keep just a set number of things that meant the most to them. I believe it was Joshua Becker's wife and the things belonged to her grandmother and she kept about 4 of the most special items. I think this is a great compromise to keeping boxes and boxes of stuff.

[@kristidoingthings]

That’s such a smart way to approach it.

[@janbarstow]

You are the 1st declutter to PRECISELY identify my struggle. I am a master organizer. I can enter any room, closet, or garage overflowing with disordered piles of things, literally floor to ceiling, and put it in orderly intuitively labeled organizers - but my OWN treasures? …they’ve been hanging around. You spoke to my needs. I subscribed!

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, so glad you’re here and that it helped! I truly believe we have to understand why we do things to get to the root of it. I was re-reading your comment and thought about how I am also a really good organizer. I had so much less perfectly tucked away, and home so clean, but I knew there was stuff that needed hanging and could feel the weight of it. Best of luck as you continue your journey!

[@your-name-here.]

My issue is that no one interacted with me as a young child. No one taught me to clean! But I got this 💪

[@stoplayin21]

Same here girl but my mom always blame us for the mess

[@kristidoingthings]

You can do it!!!

[@questioneverything32]

My husband passed in January. I’ve been trying to get myself through the decluttering process and I didn’t even realize I’m someone else now and that’s my block until your video. Thank you.

[@thebestindewest]

#Condolences #1Thessalonians 4 13-18

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, I'm so sorry for your loss. I imagine it feels a bit overwhelming at times. Show yourself grace and don't try to do it all at once. Sending you love and hugs. 💜

[@jaefrizzle]

Girl, your decluttering system with layers and questions is 🔥! I haven't heard anyone else have a process like this. Looove it!

[@kristidoingthings]

Thank you so much!!! I think a lot about the why of things and finally realized what had been holding me back.

[@imleh]

"I will make sure this is not clutter by ____" is so helpful and makes you really think about it!

[@kristidoingthings]

Right?! I love asking myself this.

[@kenpatterson7742]

Hey! Don’t forget sometimes we hang onto things for positive vibes as well! Some folks have tshirts, socks, hats, etc. that they use as memories of fun events or times where they did something memorable. BUT, they are taking up unnecessary space. 10 shirts from The Bahamas!!!! 30 pair of Christmas socks???? Come on now! Let it go. Keep 1 or 2!

[@kristidoingthings]

Very true!!!! Thanks for that reminder. I think that could fit in happy memories (layer 2). Hmmm…thoughts?

[@kenpatterson7742]

Agreed! BTW…we need to get rid of some cards!!!!! And some doggone tshirts!!!!! Grrrr. Round 4 of decluttering in the Patterson household! Kristi let’s do some things!

[@miaschu8175]

I have a t-shirt that was bought on holiday 44 years ago. I could just about squeeze into it, but I would never wear it and haven't since I was a teenager. I think it's time it went to the great rag pile in the sky!

[@LuthienAlexandra]

I struggled with decluttering all my life. Nothing seemed to help. Until one day, when I just realized what I had was an unhealthy attachment to... useless stuff. To be honest, it was almost like a spiritual awakening. Why was I so attached to all that stuff? It was worthless and I always wasted energy trying to organize it, to find new ways of storing it. I was a slave to my own junk. Useless, insignificant objects that I couldn't throw away because I was too emotionally tied to. For example, I had so so many things from my grandparents who passed away. Why did I need so many of them? Were my memories of them depending on objects? Would giving up that stuff mean I would forget they ever existed? Obviously not. So I ended up only keeping my grandma's earrings and grandpa's mug. That's it. I had tons of newspapers and magazines that I kept with the intention of using in my DIY projects, but I never got the time to actually do those projects. I kept telling myself I HAVE to keep them and use them somehow because it's recycling and it's a good thing. It actually added a lot of pressure on me because every day I saw them was another day I would blame myself for not DIYing. Sooo toxic. Eventually I just gave them to a recycling company. It's still recycling, I don't have to do the entire process myself. It's honestly the best feeling ever. To finally understand that stuff is just stuff, unimportant, and I am above it. I am the one that matters.

[@betsychavez2914]

So helpful tome, thank you.

[@kristidoingthings]

How freeing to no longer be a slave to "stuff". It's amazing how when we finally let go, we realize how much these things that we thought were so vital were actually only serving to hold us back- plus we don't even miss them when they're gone. Yes, you are the one that matters! So happy for you!!!

[@kristidoingthings]

To me too!

[@rockyourgirlpower]

You just said the number one thing that we have a huge problem with in our home and that is mail. I had to pause the video and go and find a shredder and order it because I had been saying that I was going to order one so now I officially have one on the way. WHEW!!!

[@kristidoingthings]

That's awesome! Hopefully it helps you feel a little lighter!

[@sonyad7723]

I LOVE your layers!!! GREAT explanations of each!!! For layer 4, I recommend if people have multiple items from a past away loved one(s) they are trying to declutter. Think of the memories the items bring up. Every life has its ups AND downs. So only keep a few of the items that bring up the VERY BEST memories of your loved one! The Minimal Mom had a vid on KZbin where she explained how she had these dolls as a child and she loved keeping them in pristine condition. Whenever her younger cousins came over she got anxious about some of her dolls bc of how they played with their own dolls, and wanted to hide them. Then as an adult, her mother 1 day suddenly brought her the bin of all her childhood dolls for her own girls. She looked at them and the happy memories were there as well as the anxious feelings about her cousins ruining them. Instead of giving them to her girls, she decided that she didn't want to see them in her house and think of those anxiety thoughts all the time whenever she see she kids playing with them, so she donated them to charity! Much like my story of a person who broke into my house while I was sleeping...(long story cut out)... I never wanted to see that same bedroom again. I changed my entire bedroom from blue & green plaid to pink and white. I even got rid of my side table. And the old bed set? I brought it to an animal shelter in a different city than the one that I volunteered at (just to make sure that I would never see it again!)

[@kristidoingthings]

I love that! Keeping the very best memories!!! So often we only remember the good things and don't realize why we have mixed feelings about an item.

[@beatrevino4826]

Thank you so much you are encouraging...I am almost 64 and I currently have 3 storages taking up my money not to mention the garage and my advice is get on it sooner then later while you are strongband healthy and you have your husband while I still have my husband of 44 years praise God he is going truogj some health issues at the present and now it's oh no why didn't I do this sooner stop putting it off...I'm trying to save someone money here...om still trying to get to mine...I blew out my ankle in auto accident 20 years ago which gets in my way from time to.time especially in those times where I feel like ok let's do this...I a retired teacher. .and yes I still have my stuff...ugh....pray for me and I pray that God will keep giving you guidance and wisdom and strength

[@kristidoingthings]

Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s inspiring to hear your determination, especially with everything you’re navigating. I completely understand how those storages can weigh on you both financially and mentally. Prayers sent and thank you for your prayers as well! I’m cheering you on as you make progress with your decluttering! You’ve got this! 🙏❤️

[@grace7216]

Lao Tzu said, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I say THANK GOD YOU MADE THIS VIDEO. I am sitting in the chaos of boxes trying to pack to move… then avoiding that task by watching some KZbin. Suddenly, you appeared. I can’t tell you how much I needed to learn the practicality of this lesson. Thank you for the clarity of the questions, rather than just theory, so that I could IMPLEMENT this right now!!

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, thank you so much. I am so happy that it resonated with you. You found it when you were supposed to. I love when that happens!!!🤗

[@kimhoitomt8527]

I have a problem with mail too (everything, but mail seems like it should be the easiest to conquer). There are stacks of paper everywhere. I can’t figure out what to keep sometimes. These types of videos are always inspiring, so thank you!🙏

[@kristidoingthings]

You're so welcome! I now let my hubby manage the mail because we've both accepted that it's not my strength.

[@mssassy1038]

Thanks for the "questions" to ask ourselves. We are getting ready to move soon, ourselves. When my husband and I got married, I put a tub in our utility room. I told him it was there and if there was anything he didn't want, need, like, used, or couldn't wear to put it in the bin. Once it got full I would be taking it to Goodwill. This still gave us a chance to "go back and get it" if we needed to. After 16 years, there has only been 1 time that he/I went back to get something out. He repurposed said item and is still using it today. 🙂

[@kristidoingthings]

I REALLY like this idea!!! Thanks so much for sharing! Good luck on your move 😊

[@mssassy1038]

@@kristidoingthings Thanks! Hope you get settled in soon to your new place.🙂

[@jewelsbarbie]

I absolutely love this idea! Thank you so much for sharing it. ❤️😊

[@jenmdawg]

I’m in love with your whole vibe, attitude, look, voice and presentation. You’ve found your best self and I’m here for it.

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, thank you so much!!! I appreciate this 😊

[@heaven-sent_and_hell-bent]

Brilliant! 🌟 I've watched countless decluttering videos, none of which have touched the mental & emotional challenges (overwhelm, guilt, grief, etc) holding us back from a tidy life. Your process is 👏 brilliant: a navigation guide for balancing emotional attachment & logic. Decluttering truly starts within the mindspace. Thank you for that epiphany & for sharing your approach.

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, thanks so much!!! I haven't watched much (actually any) decluttering content but I knew how it felt for me. I am so happy that it resonated and has been helpful!

[@livelifeprettyy]

I’ve been struggling with cluttered clothes, I just lost father and now I am determined to let go. I appreciate this video ❤

[@kristidoingthings]

I am so sorry for your loss. It's not an easy process but you’ve got this! 💪🏾 Sending you so much love!

[@HTB.5784]

i got so overwhelmed i got depressed and stopped my journey of decluttering which compounded it. Thanks for talking about the fourth layer , the heart. ,this explains why moving or geting rid of thing that were m y mom's was so very hard while onlookers kept saying you need ot get rid of all that. It felt like someone was ripping my heart out

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, I completely understand. It's incredibly painful when it feels like that is all we have left of our loved one. You'll know when it's time. 💜

[@larryherbert252]

I realize that less is more and I’ve been working periodically on decluttering, everywhere l look in this house is stuff, 50 towels, dishes etc- I’ve gotten rid of some things and don’t miss them at all. Real good video

[@kristidoingthings]

Thanks for sharing!! It's wild when we realize how much stuff we've kept. So glad that it resonated with you. 😊

[@sandrahbradley1511]

Thank you, I am slowly in the process of decluttering, I've decided that the nice things I'm going wear them whether it's to the market or going for a walk, fine dining china/silverware and all the wedding gifts use them your worth it I had to ask myself what am I waiting for a special occasion I guess, we,me,you are the special occasion.💜

[@kristidoingthings]

Using and appreciating the special things every day is such a beautiful way to honor yourself and embrace life. You’re absolutely right-you are the special occasion, and life’s too precious to keep the good stuff locked away. 💜

[@TeresaLawlor-l8c]

This is very useful. My mom passed away 2 years ago. She had already sold her home & car & had been living with me. She brought a few items that even though she told me to get rid of I couldn’t while she was living because that was all the “stuff” she had from her previous life. After she passed i methodically got rid of it the way I thought she would have. Her clothes went to a homeless program. Her medical supplies went to our church for a give away. Her yearbooks went to organizers of her class reunion to auction off as a fundraiser for scholarship funds. The only think I have left are pictures. I still find hard to look at & they are tucked away for now.

[@kristidoingthings]

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s amazing how we all process grief so differently. It helped you to think through it logically and systematically and not have extra stuff to deal with. I know she’d be proud of you! ❤️

[@mccartyzoe]

“This is what we’re actually working with “ 😂😂😂thank your for showing what moving really looks like !! For being real !❤. Great video !!

[@kristidoingthings]

🤣🤣🤣 Thank you!!!! Moving is UGLY!

[@frostykitties2050]

Best advice we can offer after getting rid of literally a warehouse of lifetime things. Family things our adventures living in other countries in the military even a couple of pool tables! Now we just need one truck for 1800 sq ft. 3 people and 7 pets! My none minimalist husband has the most with all the garage tools. To be honest we both did go utilitarian! Theres a difference between minimalism and utilitarianism. If we do not use it it goes( except my husbands garage items-- and half attic he has hidden up there lol) Planning a move within a month and feeling relief that we do not have to declutter is golden! Take pictures several, then create a book and add a paragraph underneath, you can make these online and even have them printed for entire family. Much easier have a memory book that you can relive those memories that time in your life your families life. Also fits in a box with other videos and books. I have go through twice a year my books. During college the lst four and half years boy I got books! And I personally have a love of books. I actually passed on four books from dec 23- to dec 24! I did ! 😂 Most people read novels I like text books. Weird I know. But if you have something you love and enjoy using again then KEEP it do not do what I did. I over went minimalist. I had a complete library not joking and a complete collection from cons and events of Star Trek n SciFi things and I wish I had it back. If there is any question my best advice is hang onto a little while! If you're not moving it can stay a little bit for you to think about it. I wish I had 1/2 my library back and a few of my collectables and a few pieces from Germany that meant a lot to me. Yes I have the pictures but sometimes holding that item just gave me a warm and happy feeling. Good luck everyone and really enjoyed this video of advice.! You're such a pretty and vibrant lady and had great tips! I hope to watch another one of your videos ❤ Blessings

[@kristidoingthings]

It sounds like you’ve done an amazing job decluttering, and I love the advice you shared about holding onto meaningful items, especially memories that bring warmth and joy. Finding the balance between minimalism and utilitarianism is key, and your tip about creating memory books is a fantastic way to preserve those special moments without taking up too much space. It’s great that you’ve found a system that works for you, and your story is so relatable to anyone who’s faced the challenge of downsizing. Best of luck with the move, and thank you so much for your kind words! 😊

[@frostykitties2050]

@kristidoingthings You're welcome, you are so sweet! Thank you for your reply. It has not been easy, we had carried and moved so much stuff it has taken us about ten years to reach this point. I believe it is a comfort for many of us and a system working against us. It's constantly wanting us to buy things! Ooo look ahhh nice! New trends! We used to meet with friends for a 3 days shopping and being together event. This happened 3-4 times a year! Now we go to the beach we take tours of historic homes and have a wonderful supper by the beach! I cannot stress enough how easy it is to buy something because your brain is wired to do so. The music the environment and the magazines work against all of us! We found now in our '60s that we enjoy peace and time todo the things we always wanted. Helping others is key to enjoying a simple life! When you feel good about helping you go home to a warm space say your prayers enjoy a soak and some books in a corner completely fulfilled. I hope that we all realize it is the best life. Do toss it out but Do make sure 3-4 times that item doesn't bring a total fuzzy feeling when you hold it! Have to tell you I showed your channel to my hubby and he watch a piece with me and he is going through all those drawers full of tools and wood! Thank you ❤️ New subscriber!

[@jcristi321]

Thanks for this. I have a storage unit too. I could have built a temperature controlled storage building in my mom’s backyard with the money I’ve spent on rent. When I moved in, my brothers and mom said she would only be around a couple more years and then I would need my stuff again. But apparently my mom isn’t going anywhere soon. She’s nearly 92 now. My brothers have both died and so now it’s just me and mom and a huge storage unit. And I’ve cluttered her house as well. Sheesh! Mail is a huge thing for me too. Good suggestion to start with that. Easy peasy…right? Jan

[@kristidoingthings]

Sending you all the good vibes as you work to tackle this. Don’t overwhelm yourself ❤️

[@jcristi321]

@@kristidoingthings that’s a problem. I see the whole pile and don’t know where to start, but since I can only do one thing at a time, that’s where I should start. 👍

[@stephanieper]

Thank you for your authenticity in sharing your home and talking about your parents’ things.

[@kristidoingthings]

💜

[@oceanegele3559]

Side note: I found as an empath, when I decluttered my relationships as well, that helped give me emotional and mental clarity to declutter my home. My home was reflecting my exhaustion emotions-worry, stress, etc. There were some friendships that were draining me because the people had toxic qualities that I always accommodated. Once I finally made the decision to not be afraid to choose freedom and happiness over pleasing people, God blessed me with uplifting friends and that in turn changed my mental space for the physical.

[@kristidoingthings]

That's so powerful and inspiring! 🙌

[@lgude]

I’m 82 and have largely gotten through the first layer. Plenty of the second too but you sure right about the layers. I’ve digitised some, more to go. Great self questions. Thanks for your help. Funnily enough I finally got rid of some really great 36 size pants because I hadn’t lost weight. Then I did keto 5 years ago and have been buying 36 waist pants! At my age I appreciate irony.

[@kristidoingthings]

It’s wonderful to hear you’re making progress through those layers! Digitizing can be such a game-changer. So funny about the pants!!! Thank you for sharing your journey 😊

[@Angelica-uo7bw]

I've had the same issue with my mom's stuff since she's passed. It feels like you're letting go of her memory. I've slowly been learning objects are not memories, the life we had with her is. So our basements have been cluttered for years. And all it does is make me sad, still to this day, seeing her life in boxes. It's basically ruining her memory for me. It's been a huge process to get through.

[@kristidoingthings]

So glad to hear that you’re coming to terms with how to best hold on to her memory in a way that doesn’t overcrowd your home 🫶🏽

[@officialbesttimeever]

I love how you broke down the layers in this video. It takes a lot of strength to go through our items and get rid of them. The more we practice letting go the easier it is. You have beautiful facial features as well!

[@kristidoingthings]

It does get easier over time. And thank you so much!

[@johannagarcia6579]

This video is gold for me. Just got divorced, I have been living in this small 2-bedroom apartment and it is STACKED with pictures of all sizes, big and small, all occasions. Not to mention other handy items like the sewing machine and like you mentioned, there's games, kids' artwork, so aside from two fish tanks and that closet full of my clothes too, I got a whole bedroom that I cannot use because, memories.

[@kristidoingthings]

Wow, sounds like you have just a few things to sort through. Don't overwhelm yourself. It's a fresh start to make things what you want them to be.

[@wilhelmina8843]

You started to win me over when you showed the real state of your house because it’s the eve of moving. 😂 (But I appreciate the calmer background for the rest of the video) This is the first video from your channel that I’m watching but I’ll check some others out.

[@kristidoingthings]

Yeah, I didn't think you'd appreciate a messy background the whole vid. Stick around- we have fun over here 😉

[@lmr45241]

Sunk cost w/storage unit for years, and mail paper....yep. Great video, thank you! A middle-layer tip: If this is something I rarely use or don't use yet, and could readily re-purchase it? Then maybe I can get rid of it.

[@kristidoingthings]

Absolutely! It’s all about shifting that mindset-if you can easily replace it, why hold on to it? Letting go of those sunk costs can really lighten the load. Keep rocking that decluttering journey, and thanks for sharing your insights! 😊✨

[@pixieazul19]

I always say, the more stuff you have, the more you have to take care of, the more time it takes, the less time you have for the things that really matter. I'm currently decluttering! Thanks for posting this ❤

[@kristidoingthings]

Whew, this is SO true!!!! Thank you so much for sharing that perspective!

[@darlenedeleon5523]

i took a huge tub of photos, art work, certificates, documents and scanned them all and put them on an external hard drive. A lot of work, but well worth it.

[@kristidoingthings]

I need to do this too!!!

[@cedrichotspot]

Me too, what a relief!!!!🤗

[@kimberlywilliams447]

Same

[@kizunakei]

I've been loving this since I started my decluttering journey. I've donated and thrown away a big portion of my stuff, keeping only the things that spark joy. However, I've realized that I still have clutter because of these items. So, I now have a donation bag near my door, where I'll put things I haven't touched in weeks. Then, I'll see if I miss or remember having them. If not, they're going to be donated 😊❤😂

[@kristidoingthings]

What a great strategy! Having a donation bag ready makes it so much easier to keep the momentum going in your decluttering journey. It’s amazing how we often forget about things we thought we needed. I love that you’re giving yourself the chance to see if you truly miss those items-such a great way to ensure you’re only keeping what truly brings you joy! Keep up the great work! 😊❤

[@katwoman6523]

As a rule, I really love to declutter. Even so, I get bogged down at times (okay, pretty often lol) and then search for a thought-provoking channel to refocus. There are some good videos out there, but yours is one of the BEST I’ve seen. Thank you for explaining your concept of declutterring layers. It’s an excellent way of understanding the process. I haven’t yet looked to see if you already have, but you should definitely write a book!

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, thank you so much! I haven’t, but I’m loving the idea!

[@alliedomo4950]

Idea for cards and paper memories, you can use a scrapbook or photo book, cut the cards in half and put them in a way that lets you read what’s written if you’re the type to have attachments to those things. That way it’s functional and can easily be put on a bookshelf or somewhere accessible. Only suggest this route if you actually go through them regularly.

[@patty6375]

I put all of my Mom's photo albums in one spot....or thought I was. There were so many it filled the entire closet under the stairs (abt a 6x4 floor space stacked all the way to the coat rod) and half of her empty laundry room. I would love to scan and save to flash drives for my brother and I and my deceased sister's family. But that would take years. I get tired just looking at it.

[@kristidoingthings]

Yes, really like this! I so wish I was an aspiring scrapbooker.

[@judyrobertson9479]

3:40 made me got whoa!! I'm a relatively new widow and that's a whole nother place. Very well done Thank you

[@kristidoingthings]

Aww, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope it gave you a little bit of encouragement.

[@genxkay358]

I can’t imagine the difficulty in trying to let go of your parents’ belongings. I’m so sorry you lost them at such a young age. Sending lots of love and hugs your way. Taking a picture is the main way I can get rid of tons of stuff. Great advice. I love this video. I will definitely subscribe. Love your sense of humor at the beginning too! ❤😊

[@kristidoingthings]

Thank you for your kind words and for subscribing. It means a lot, and I’m glad the advice resonates with you. We have a good time over here! Sending love and gratitude your way! 😊❤

[@jeanniescott7857]

I soooooooo can relate to this and I've gotten a little better donating things. Me & mail have the same relationship as you mentioned 😅 I hate going through it.. I lost my husband 4 years ago and our bedroom/his closet still looks like he's coming home 😢 I've managed to donate two boxes of his clothes/shoes.. it's hard but your video has inspired me to get going even if it's with other "stuff" first 👍🏾

[@kristidoingthings]

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 Letting go can be so tough, especially when it comes to such personal things. You’re already making incredible progress, and even starting with other items is still a big step forward. Be gentle with yourself, and keep going at your own pace-you’re doing amazing. Sending you strength and encouragement. ❤

[@juliekostas7322]

I really loved how this concept was presented!

[@kristidoingthings]

😊