I Mistakenly Got Pregnant With My Affair Partner, And My Husband's Had A Breakdown About Why I Ch...

[@michealcline7354]

Your husband getting carried away with his hobbies is no where near as bad as you cheating

[@theblackprince5898]

For the sake of mental health the hobbies is keeping him from loosing it. It matters to him more than her because Hobbies don’t cheat on you.

[@benzemamumba]

It's also not a valid reason to cheat. It's a lame attempt at gaslighting.

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

she's so selfish

[@paulinejackson5861]

but some hobbies like gaming are harmful too. Can't always say cheating is worse

[@cal5000]

​@@paulinejackson5861How so? Please explain your imaginary scenario.

[@Kobodyguard]

marriage counseling after cheating is like trying to buy fire insurance for your house that just burned down

[@benzemamumba]

Marriage counseling is only for a mutual problem. Cheating is only a personal problem despite all the lame attempts at gaslighting.

[@annabellegarcia4240]

Op is just a horrible person

[@loganblackwood2922]

Can we not just bring back and apply the word who ore, as it applies?

[@lemonz0880]

​@@loganblackwood2922 yeah this context seems like an opportunity lmao

[@CamCam-mq6ji]

why would the husband care about her affair baby? she's delusional

[@EdwardBray-i1w]

Husband is a POs as well. F him too.

[@samoea19]

​@loganblackwood2922 because it doesn't apply here, who res get money, she didn't even do that.😅

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

Op "Help I cheated on my husband and got pregnant, and my husband wants to divorce me, why oh why, pity me pity me" That what you sound like

[@SteveJones313]

I mean no offence with this, but I always find it odd when people address their comments to "Op" as if they're in the comments or the one who posted the video. I see it on a few Reddit channels where people post comments as if the Op is reading, and it always strikes me as odd.

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

@@SteveJones313 I just started doing it because otherwise no one has any idea who your talking about

[@bloodalpha1170]

This 304 wants to keep the ap baby so she allways has a part of ap she will soon be a single mum of 2

[@VRDejaVu]

​@@SteveJones313because the story is told from OP's perspective so the comments are made the same way. Everyone knows OP isn't reading this but it is more intuitive.

[@crystalgemgirl731]

Seriously.

[@flyguyryee]

Bold enough to have unprotected sex with another man but too scared to get an abortion. I love the internet so much because what did I just listen to LMAO

[@jvbutalid8316]

She even insists that if her husband has an affair child, that he get it aborted. What NIMBY (not in my back yard) mentality!

[@lindah3803]

Hold on now. Remember. It's not about being scared. OP stated that she just can't do it. She already has a child. Knows what it was like to carry and have the child. She already " feels" this child. It's already a part of her. OP is still within termination time limits. She doesn't have a child yet. She has a blob.

[@sadiiie]

Well, because it’s murder, scientifically murder. she’s a terrible person, but at very least she has a conscience.

[@jvbutalid8316]

@sadiiie she doesn't have a conscience. She's fine if any other kid gets aborted, just not her and her affair partner's.

[@Finn-po4kt]

​@@sadiiie "Howdy! All y'all big city folks gettin yer fancy-pants a-bor-tions should be in JAIL fer MURDER! Round 'ere in God's country if we wanna get rid of a bun in the oven we jus' down a jug o' moonshine an' get mama to beat us in the stomach with the ol' belly wackin' stick! Hyuck!"

[@patsypersaud]

We need people to go into these posts and deliberately give these women terrible legal advice under the guise of helping them

[@ReverseRslash]

I already do that bud

[@patsypersaud]

⁠I'd give you a medal for your service if I had one

[@turdguyyt7616]

😈

[@TexasSpectre]

No need. The YAZZZZ QUEEN ijiots on Reddit always give bad advice anyway, both before and after the affair.

[@Leyladjdjx]

​@@TexasSpectre no one would call her a queen for this.

[@sacredseraphim3987]

Cheaters don't get to say "It's not fair." Ever.

[@OlliK1193]

Criminals never think it's fair

[@MeMe-ih1wr]

She takes every chance to blame him and talks as if she isnt

[@OlliK1193]

That's women's accountability. I know he's hurting but I'm hurting too. Lol

[@justaboringvegetarian449]

1: So life got busy and OP's first thought was to run into another man's arms? 🙄

[@VRDejaVu]

*d|ck

[@ItzPubby]

Ahhh, the story 2; "My husband is in the military, and i cheated on him and expect him to still love me after he found out."

[@jvbutalid8316]

Heard this joke about military wives. Where we tell the boys in boots "Thank you for your service", we tell their ladies "Thank you for your cervix".

[@lindah3803]

​@@jvbutalid8316😲

[@lindah3803]

The traditional "I was lonely." Meanwhile hubby is waist deep in sand or mud. Stationed all the way over in Afghanistan for the past 6 months. Maybe she should have gone with him.

[@naughtyhieroglyph669]

Honestly it should be a felony with jail time if they cheat while they are deployed.

[@lindah3803]

@naughtyhieroglyph669 A Dad told me about catching his DIL cheating while his son was over seas. The Dad had been helping his DIL out with some repairs, yard work and keep his grand kids a couple of nights a month. She was supposed to be having a girls night out. After he found out that she was cheating. He kept the kids until his son came home.

[@Ullabulladulla]

Wow if this is real op is a complete garbage person.. and the husband is a doormat. What a shame. Op is only sorry she was caught and then blaming the husband for everything 😅😅😅

[@sinpourmoi2765]

Poor, OP. Why won’t anyone just let her get away with what she did??? It was just a mistake; she’s willing to be a stay at home mom to take care of the affair baby she didn’t term because she’s a good person. Why won’t anyone just let her gaslight them???

[@hirohiroarikawa6806]

“I’m pro choice…. But” “Yes I’m at fault for cheating, but it’s both our faults for why it happened”. I hope the ex husband quits beating around the bush and just divorces OP, she’s a POS of a human being, she also expects marriage counseling yet didn’t want to talk about her feelings to her husband. I hope he finds her Reddit post and talks to a lawyer to get majority custody

[@Lauria2875]

HER choice was TO NOT have an abortion. Every other woman in the world has the right to chose differently. That's how pro-choice works.

[@jvbutalid8316]

@@Lauria2875 Nonono. She insists that husband gets aborted any hypothetical affair child he may have, but not that she aborts her own. That isn't pro-choice, that's just biased and hypocritical.

[@Lauria2875]

@@jvbutalid8316 Ok, I read it again and I missed that tiny sentence about her expecting her husbands (nonexistent) side piece to abort. Nice little attempt to switch the narrative, and point the blame to someone else. I think I'm gonna find some kittens to watch. I'm done with humans for the day!

[@AA-ed6ek]

@@Lauria2875 No, it isn't.

[@farhangustiwan1827]

Dude seriously, did OP just equate cheating and having hobby? "Oh yea... I am no longer close with husband cuz he has hobby so I just decide to cheat" Disgusting

[@thalilpinkgnome3664]

Story 2, imagine being upset that your innocent daughter wasn't being punished for her mother's behavior

[@henryzellman]

Story 2: Absolutely NOTHING about this woman makes her worthy of reconciliation. She has done everything necessary to earn a bitter divorce.

[@annabellegarcia4240]

I can't deal.... this is insane.

[@wyattpillington5050]

Why did no one suggest to OP in story 1 to give up the baby for adoption? If she can't bring herself to abort the child, which is entirely fair, and her husband also can't bring himself to raise a baby that is not only not his but the result of betrayal. Then giving the baby up for adoption seems to be the most logical solution for everyone. Why did the damn therapist not even suggest it? WHY IS IT NOT EVEN ON THE FUCKING TABLE??!?

[@jvbutalid8316]

Probably because muh emotion and symbolism. That kid can't be blamed for the affair, as they're the result, but by the end of the day, their very existence is proof of the affair, and that's already messed up by itself. If their existence is even acknowledged, it can be said that the affair is acknowledged or even justified. So yah, muh emotion and symbolism.

[@wyattpillington5050]

@@jvbutalid8316 and that inevitably breeds resentment. I very much doubt that child would experience much love from those two if they 'co-parented'.

[@jvbutalid8316]

@@wyattpillington5050 Even if the kid is raised by someone completely uninvolved in the broken marriage, the fact that they even lived will cause unending sorrow and resentment, because the fact that a stranger parented the kid means that it's not exactly a problem for general society. Still a bad path.

[@henryzellman]

Story 2: Oh, wow another ungrateful single-mother who lies and cheats on her ATM. What a complete non-surprise.

[@raeishimura]

I hate posts from AOAI. The people are in an echo chamber. Only want support and encouragement, no words like "abuser" or "cheater". Like, the rules of the subreddit are basically "be nice to the cheaters and doormats". People don't need to be coddled. They sometimes just need the truth, painful or not.

[@SinNombreYQueWea]

I mean that makes sense. AOAI is a sub for people seeking reconciliation and advice. For me cheating is 100% a deal breaker, but in spite of what you might think, some relationships do recover and thrive after that happens. People in AOAI aren't looking for validation like in certain subs that entertain cheating, and aren't looking for a pity party like in some other subs. They're looking for genuine advice in making up for the hurt they've caused. It stands to reason then that mods wouldn't want most comments to be simply shitting on the OP without giving advice.

[@ChristopherCapersJones]

What's AOAI?

[@raeishimura]

@@SinNombreYQueWea Maybe, but the list of words that are banned is ridiculous. You might want to genuinely reconcile, but if you can't accept someone telling you that what you did is cheating, or if you were an abuser, someone telling you that you were abusive, what does it become aside from a big circle jerk. You can't reconcile until you can understand what you've done wrong. I'm sorry, but it's possible to moderate a sub so people aren't being insulting for no reason without banning words that the person IS going to have to deal with hearing. A cheater is going to be called a cheater. An abuser will get called an abuser. If they can't handle being told the truth, then they shouldn't have cheated or abused their partner. Telling someone "you made a mistake, it's ok" is a lie. It takes a series of conscious decisions to cheat. They need to own up to that, find a therapist and get to the bottom of WHY they cheated, not sugar coat and dance around the subject like a delicate flower. You can't heal until you genuinely recognize the problem and the flak that comes with it. Otherwise you are just deluding yourself.

[@LAOCHPadre]

I agree because these people aren't coming to AOAI to become better. They just want to feel better without having to work or sacrifice for it. I used to offer genuine advice on the forum but left when I realized that most of them just wanted to explain why their miseries were someone else's fault.

[@hughjanus700]

​@@ChristopherCapersJonesAs One After Infidelity

[@PhoenixDragon86]

Dude, cheating is cheating regardless of the excuse. Also blaming the husband for a reason of why she cheated on him is a lame excuse and she should have talked it out or had some couples counseling before but nope she choose to cheat.

[@BooshMasterOriginal]

In the beginning like around 1:25 she claims that she wants to take responsibility….but she goes on to blame him for pouring himself into his hobbies.

[@angelphoenix7784]

What gets me is later, she suddenly doesnt want him to stop his hobbies.

[@jenniferbibi1972]

The cognitive dissonance of a cheater.

[@lashunelillie9896]

They always ask for advice after the fact why not ask for advice before cheating

[@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115]

Story 1: Is this Op for real? Does she really expect anyone to feel pity or sympathy for her crappy choices? She’s a real pos.

[@mercuriete]

Pro choice is the choice of keep the baby. She didn't know what the word even means.

[@larsthegunslinger]

op literally said a hobby the guy had was the same as her having a long term affair.

[@dc447]

I hate weak willed men. Someone send the man from s1 a ssm or mtr video. This women has no accountability and no real repercussions.

[@bennyfugazzi1054]

Oh the marriage lacked passion for a few months so she cheated Jesus a few months and that’s all it took

[@malasnonton922]

She said her husband is her first choice 😂

[@legendaresn6983]

Remember kids always give cheaters bad legal advice

[@MikeSVZ]

Both of the OPs are terrible people. They are the reason so many young man chose to stay single

[@WeaponXSigma]

Womp to the wompiest womp times infinity regarding the second OP. I remember both posts as I replied to both OPs (I'm no longer allowed to post on the AsOneAfterInfidelity subreddit though. In fact my comment was one the ones that was deleted.

[@TheLuisberg]

Oh womp

[@UchuKejiMovan]

I've been banned from a few subreddits for saying things that others consider "cruel". I laugh and move on 😂

[@MimosaRose]

Some people can’t handle the bitter pill of truth.

[@teramccorvey1989]

Story 1 husband needs to divorce get a paternity test and he won’t have to pay for the affair child she needs to grow up

[@NoOneatallworthy]

Honestly about 1st story, I just hope the child grows health, but my petty side wishes so hard that the husband would let the child be the grim reminder of the worst and most disgusting and most horrendous action that op did, for her to remember everyday that the child she had wasn't made out of love, and I also wish that when old enough, they would be told of how they came to be, to discover that they were made without love, and in a way that broke the trust and affected so badly their father (which also means I wish for her husband to raise the child good, as a way to say to his wife "you did something wrong, and I'll do something right about it, and forever should you remember that I was the one who made things stay together despite your disgusting decision"), and to basically make it so they would resent the mother... Maybe that sounds too edgy, but that's basically the best I could think of

[@Sakyosha]

Accountability is kryptonite.

[@Damen178]

Hubby can't raise an affair baby, I get that. Did this ding-dong never consider giving the baby up for adoption? Does that not exist anymore?

[@iambatman6217]

Still won’t fix the relationship or the trust

[@Damen178]

@@iambatman6217 Hell no it won't, that shit is gone. I'm just going off the fact that in the video, OP relayed that hubby was open to reconciliation but raising the kid was his biggest sticking point.

[@jvbutalid8316]

@@Damen178 It's probably all about what it meant. Y'know, the symbolism that comes with it. Even if the kid is not involved in the lives of the thread's characters, the fact remains that they're a product of the affair, and anyone keeping them alive is, in a sense, insinuating that the affair is justified. Kinda similar to how a kid raised by loving biological parents who also love each other is basically proof that the marriage is good.

[@yueuuj3633]

2nd op = u reap what you sow

[@MrRomeo-v8s]

She took her husband to meet the affair partner ? For what? To show him "look who I fked behind your back"

[@STB-jh7od]

How come adoption isn't an option?

[@lashunelillie9896]

The cheater always bringing up counseling me personally i would never go for counseling i didnt cheat why should i

[@mercuriallily]

Right? Why should I have to fix something you broke? Fix it yourself or end it, don't ask me to attend brainwashing where I get told why I need to feel bad for a cheater

[@OTDinosaurScrubs]

People like OP don’t deserve love

[@dedrickjones8109]

Me in Story 1: Get an abortion or be a single mom

[@dirkcoin1037]

Should be this instead- You in story 1: you've crossed a line that can't be crossed again, bye

[@dedrickjones8109]

@ i agree

[@YouArentSlick]

“What is wrong with me?? I’ve always been pro choice” the idea of her being mad at herself for having empathy is pretty funny

[@SinNombreYQueWea]

Empathy? Pro-lifers can bite my ass

[@marrero8100]

Truly ironic, considering she's carrying some bastard's illegit kid over her husband's.

[@tobiasnivalis2655]

Story 1: Of course, the cheater is trying trying to justify their affair, trying to play the "woe is me" routine, and trying to avoid the consequences. Story 2: Of course, OP's a selfish and jealous POS. She's literally jealous of her own daughter getting to see his family.

[@ikillzuepicly316]

Put the baby up for adoption or is that something they considered

[@luizoliveira7595]

The husband is a fool.

[@Afrogirrl]

Pro-choice doesn’t mean abortion is the end all be all in bad situations. It’s a “choice”

[@patsypersaud]

And she made all the wrong choices

[@sadiiie]

@@patsypersaud mud3ring someone is never the correct choice.

[@LowTierKam]

​@sadiiieit is

[@AA-ed6ek]

Sure.

[@NominDonutz]

@sadiiie It is still a choice

[@mr.h1389]

I don't love him like I use too. So I got pregnant and I wanna keep the affair partners baby 😂😂😂 this woman is horrible

[@grahn3878]

She blames her husband for all of her bad behavior.

[@urchbsmirch22]

Both women and both these stories are absolutely shameless

[@lashunelillie9896]

The daughter didn't cheat. You did

[@inhumanjoey310]

He gets cheated on and he's wrong because he has hobbies? Wtf... Counseling is bullshit... No matter what happens the man is wrong... His wife can go hang out with her baby daddy...SMH the utmost disrespect. The man did nothing wrong.

[@MimosaRose]

S2- It’s my fault , but what’s happening isn’t fair!!!! Lady, these are the consequences of your actions. The ball isn’t in your court anymore. What happens at this point is up to him!

[@ilefthemfree2jizz]

Fr. She's like why does my daughter get to hang out with his family. Like girl your daughter didn't cheat. So why would she be deprived of her cousins

[@henryfebrino1873]

she couldnt help it, cheating is normal and natural for them

[@musiclova6368]

Women cheating has been normalised because of tv and movies. What men see as blatant infidelity women see as romance. Look at any movie in the last 20 years that women call romantic. Ffs Nicole Kidman just won an Oscar for playing a deceitful wofe

[@funbro99]

Story 2: you reap what you sow and likewise tho you have tried to supposed ""fixed it""" YOU BROKE IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. Seek true redemption and forget this guy for you have broken it beyond reproach

[@ianeBeee]

I haven’t even started the video yet and I’m already angry and calling her the Ahole. 😂

[@MimosaRose]

Blaming his hobbies? No, this is on your bad decision making. She put herself in a bad situation. She got drunk with friends while her husband at home and was home alone with him. These are all red flags!

[@johndavidson2365]

Not his baby, not his problem.

[@michellealinateague9892]

OP needs a lead aspirin

[@boblee7998]

The violation of her own values line.... hard to violate something that dosent exist

[@Arizona1776]

304s gonna 304.

[@yueuuj3633]

Op= delulu

[@WeatherStone]

if you give attention you are either clingy or taken for granted, if you dont give enough attention women dont "feel appreciated", either way, you gonne get cheated on

[@joevanreyb.bacuyag8300]

Cheater is always cheater you destroy your marriage with your affair.

[@turdguyyt7616]

lil sis living in her own world 💀😭

[@juanpabloobregoncastillo1451]

Oh wow nothing new just another cheatere who puts all the blame on others instaed of a knowledge the responsability of her on actions. 🙄😮‍💨

[@lamargordon6017]

"I've always been pro-choice but..." You're still pro-choice if you keep the baby. Thats what you *chose* to do. Her thinking she's betraying her stance or being a coward just supports what I've always said: They aren't pro-choice. They're pro-abortion. Why not just call it that?

[@patsypersaud]

She is a coward for making her husband raise another man's child to stay with her, as if she's in any place to make demands

[@jvbutalid8316]

@@patsypersaud She's a bigger coward than you say since she'd insist her husband's hypothetical/nonexistent affair child aborted but not her actual affair child aborted.

[@cameron765]

Story 1: So let me get this straight: she stopped feeling the passion in her relationship for a few months, and her first thought was to get close to another guy and cheat. At the same time, she tries to say her husband is her first choice. I don’t care how much people call you insecure; never let your partner spend so much time with the opposite gender. It doesn’t matter how much you "trust" them-biology is going to kick in. It takes a lot of morals and restraint to not do something with someone you find attractive.

[@Condorito380]

...who HURT you?!?!

[@Alex-hd9ef]

If they don’t have the morals and restraint to follow their marriage vows, then you don’t marry them, simple. This goes for both genders.

[@cameron765]

@@Condorito380 It's ok bro not everyone has self-respect at least you let your partner have a second partner to keep them company

[@Condorito380]

@@cameron765 You are going to look back at this portion of your life with shame.

[@cameron765]

@@Condorito380 I have a fiance and a 6y daughter and I'm doing well for myself compared to others at my age so nah I'm good 👍

[@layersr]

I wouldn’t call you any slur words, but I will call you single.

[@ruaque4791]

the counsil guy doing a lil too much to help this woman ngl like bro just let it all burn she does NAWT deserve all that help

[@748tech]

let him divorce you. he deserves better.

[@xNSAxWarHawk]

story 1 ops husband should have left at the first opportunity

[@amyyakumb]

Both OPs can't seem to fathom that they could get divorced instead of cheating 🤦🏽‍♂️ S1: Hope the husband changes his mind about reconciliation and leaves. If her husband cheated she would want his affair partner to abort the baby, but she can't do it herself? Its so hypocritical and shows she doesn't want to take accountability for her actions. S2: Dude is taking advantage of OP cheating and I'm all here for it. Let cheaters suffer 😁

[@breadogi7118]

Husband is ngmi, its joever for him

[@WeaponXSigma]

ngmi? What does that mean?

[@AllHailJaden]

​@@WeaponXSigmai think it means "not gonna make it"

[@RandomTrinidadian]

He either gonna leave her, treat her like trash or K-word himself.

[@breadogi7118]

@@WeaponXSigma not gonna make it

[@breadogi7118]

@@RandomTrinidadian yep, not gonna make it are we?

[@nessaFernandez-pv5qf]

2nd. She needs to stop changing to please him. She knows 100 percent what he is doing. Yes she messed up, but she doesn't deserve that emotional abuse and him isolating her from her family and his. She needs to get out and file for the divorce because he is not going to stop and she needs to think about her daughter. I don't want that little girl treating her mother the way he is.

[@jvbutalid8316]

"I can't tell him much of my affair, I'm so worried about hurting him!" "It was just a mistake, I swear!" "Husband left me alone and lonely for too long!" How many personalities does this woman have? Edit: "I'd insist that my husband get his hypothetical affair child aborted, but not my actual affair child!" Well, that makes things worse.

[@Twist-The-Friendly-Hunter]

OP: A all round terrible person. OP's husband: As a newspaper, No spine. OP's freind: Major A hole for not telling the husband immediately and actively supporting her afterwards and not chewing her out. Reddit users helping her: Disgraceful. "My husband will always be my first choice" Was this before or after you porked another man, got pregnant and wanted your husband to raise the child as his own all whilst never going to tell him if you never got knocked up? That doesn't sound like a first choice, it sounds like the actions of a selfish individual. If you are at all sympathetic or don't agree with the above descriptions of the people in the story. I'd work on yourself quick fast and in a hurry before you end up like her.

[@vasheskaaronsar1568]

N years later: Hi, Reddit, I was born out my moms affair. My stepdad and older sister always despised me and mom was too passive to do anything... AITA for going no contact with all of them?

[@SohnnyJins-de2zz]

And the 2nd op winners why she's a single mom. Pathetic

[@MJohn319]

Ooooooooooof Yeah you deserve to be held accountable. If I were the husband, I'd leave.

[@Jaydawg562]

Idk if a person can truly be this narcissistic or if this story is fake

[@Elmerweird818]

First story. OP is VERY selfish. Just an overall horrible person with no sense of empathy.

[@happygoluckyscamp]

This is rage bait, right?

[@Feidaykin]

I'm that is so.

[@jvbutalid8316]

Technically? Dunno. Practically? I mean, yeah.

[@Sam-tk9tt]

I have no remorse for women who cheat on military men. Like you know the job your husband signed up for.

[@lashunelillie9896]

Cheaters have all the nerves

[@sliversoulfly]

I've never shook out of hatred for one of the OP's in these stories like this one. Pure gd evil.

[@SimonsafSimonsaf]

He shut never agree to married counesler ! She is the problem !

[@Levithos]

Why would she expect him to worry about the baby? It's not the husband's monkeys, not his circus.

[@valeriecomplex9685]

This is not a real post because there’s no way

[@jayallen9198]

There is an epidemic of narcissistic women

[@schmalzilla1985]

It doesn't really matter what he was doing. You made the choice to cheat. You lost and right to say you cheated because husband was doing this or that. His actions are irrelevant to your choice in actions.

[@lordcirrhosisofliver]

THere seems to be a profound lack of self awareness in story 1. Not to mention they both seem desperate to ignore the elephant in the room. That fetus is going to be a baby in less then a year and it is going to take up most of at least OPs time. if the husband wants to forgive her but isn't willing to accept the child then he cannot truly reconcile and there is no point in trying. Personally if I were the husbands friend I would have advised him to leave even if there was no baby, but if he wants to stick around then he needs to accept the baby. What is the point of couples counseling when there is an unnaccepted affair baby in the picture? no amount of effort he puts into reconciling is going to matter if the baby is a dealbreaker. Seems this man is setting himself up for a mental hell for the rest of his life. It honestly seems weird to me how desperate some cheated on people are to maintain their relationships when leaving would be so much easier.

[@kgunitkeese17]

Story one: OP you have only three choices and all of them are going to result in a divorce. One, you get an abortion and get divorced with joint custody for your daughter. Two, you give the baby up for adoption as soon as he/she is born and still have a divorce with joint custody. Three, you keep the baby get divorced and spend the next 18 years being a single mom. You’re in a completely lose lose situation here and you have no one to blame but yourself and just listening to this entire thing I am beyond disgusted. Cheating on your husband is disrespectful enough. Cheating and getting pregnant by another man while married is both extremely disrespectful and treacherous. There’s no coming back from this and if I was the husband in the story, you’d be out the door as soon as you announced that you were pregnant by another man. Story 2: Hate to break it to you, OP, but it seems to me that you have a giant ego problem. You were so obsessed with getting the validation that once you weren't getting it, you'd get it somewhere else. You might not have slept with the man (which I don't believe), but sending provocative photos and videos while married is equivalent to cheating because you are seeking personal things with another man. Your husband's biggest mistake was marrying a single mom, because behaviours like this are what single mothers do. The truth is is that you don’t truly care about him. You cared about the security your soon to be ex-husband was providing for you.

[@Vipershadow1]

S1: gaslighting.

[@QueenViolet8]

What a fool what did she expect 😔

[@emanx222]

Good lord the secomd story was pathetic. OP somehow managed to really talk up her man only for her to highlight just how shit he was as a partner in the very next paragraph, as the story progressed it was clear why she cheated, shes a coward that genuinely knows no better, given that her ex is useless and her current partner is emotionally distant to the nth degree, its clear OP doesnt know how to choose good men 😅

[@Shinigami-ve1mf]

That guy in the second story can honestly go fuck himself tbh like he did neglect her *she shouldn't have cheated* but he neglected his wife

[@Calories_To_Calibers]

Quit trying to blame the guy

[@jvbutalid8316]

@@Calories_To_Calibers They both deserve blame. Best the guy can do is divorce and either remain civil with the ex or go no-contact. But dude had to be that petty. I guess he's justified as he was cheated on first, but c'mon man.

[@Euphoricsloth]

It feels wrong.... So is cheating on your husband and getting knocked up by another man but OK.

[@sergbarianthefirst3070]

Second story nope you totally wrong not husband if you are unhappy about marriage and they wont change you leave not cheat.

[@jvbutalid8316]

Well, gold star wife (isn't that what you call the wife of a serviceman?), he's using you and treating you like a doormat...cuz you did it to him first!