I Raised My Son To Be A Man, Not Gay! | KARAMO

Dakotah says his mother won't accept him because he's gay. TJ admits that her son has robbed her of the traditional family, a daughter-in-law and grandchildren. Dakotah says that his relationship with his mother is already non-traditional because they've had to be more partners than mom and son. TJ says she's making an effort but she's old school. Can Karamo help this mother and child find a better way to communicate?
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[@RecklessInspirer]

A child doesn’t grow up to be who YOU want them to be but who THEY want to be.

[@tierralovely6082]

You can mold your child. So Yeahh

[@sherry3301]

A lot of Serial Killers Mothers have said the SAME THING!!😂😂😂

[@tinajackson6875]

My children grew up to who I molded them to be and they are amazing adults period.

[@jonathanmweze4436]

Bullshit

[@mbembaleba]

So if the kid wants to be a drug dealer, that's ok?😂😂😂😂

[@TheEstheticanLadybug]

He is very well spoken. I pray for his success

[@sitdownwithdakotah]

Thank you friend

[@KultivateWKah]

@@sitdownwithdakotah Respectfully Friend I hope you and ya moms relationship gets better, your story is common place in my family so no judgement their. but the only thing I would encourage is to unharden your heart and try an forgive your mother deep down inside their was no instruction manual to parenting and it wasn’t her fault you grew up in a single parent household, and last but not least I’m sorry that happened to you in college 🙏🏾 and Congrats on all your accomplishments 💪🏾 You transcended all obstacles and stigmas.

[@christopherbarge414]

@@sitdownwithdakotah You ACCUSED your mother of being selfish, but your DISPLAY on that stage was the EPITOME of SELFISHNESS. Your mother was doing the best she could to APOLOGIZE to you, and you BASICALLY spit in her face for it. What you are ESSENTIALLY saying to her is, "IT'S MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY". Something to the AFFECT of, "YEAH, YOU CAN APOLOGIZE ALL YOU WANT, BUT YOU HAVEN'T KISSED MY A$$ YET". I don't care anything about you being gay. BE GAY, if that's what you want, but you didn't have to treat your mother that way, ESPECIALLY when she was TRYING to APOLOGIZE. You could have taken that APOLOGY and ASKED her if she could move toward understanding, while you would ALSO move toward understanding her position. You're like a PORCUPINE, you've got lots of good points, but your always sticking other people with them. YOU NEED TO GIVE YOUR MOTHER AS MUCH COMPASSION AS YOU WANT!!! I've got about three minutes left in this video. I SHUDDER to think what else I'll see.

[@lai8986]

@@christopherbarge414hope u realize nobody is going to read all of this 😂😂😂

[@SDP5230]

​@christopherbarg 12:55 e414 HELLO!!!!, I'm so sure that it is difficult for a parent to hear that her beautiful male child is a homo.

[@user-jw4so1or3y]

He’s a successful black man !! What more could you ask for in a son ?!

[@Roads2RichesRickkk]

A son that believes Gods Commandments

[@user-jw4so1or3y]

@@Roads2RichesRickkk I’m sure you don’t live by them all. Imagine being bothered by a successful man living in his truth !! How does one’s sexually disrupts you’re personal life or have an impact on it ? Yeah there are plenty of men who so call follow all of them and nit nearly anywhere close to this man in accomplishments being a gay man . Him being gay changed what exactly?? This man IS WINNING IN LIFE LOL

[@fresh-eggs]

​@@Roads2RichesRickkkThere's no credible evidence to show or support a God in existence anywhere in reality.

[@a1iciq911]

@@Roads2RichesRickkkshut up

[@Narrow-Pather]

A Straight son....

[@careuhmeltv2093]

The mom is just expressing how she feels. It may hurt but that is her real feelings. Shes trying. Shes apologizing..

[@KamTheeKilla]

She’s not trying. She’s still injecting a reality that she wants. People don’t understand when your family doesn’t validate you, it hurts and damages you internally. They will never get over this until SHE does the work and says whoever you choose to love you .. I will love you no matter what. That’s the reassurance that we all want from our parents.

[@sharondeshay5734]

Right she had a son, you can't tell someone how to heal. God gave her what he wanted her to have ❤

[@Wordalways]

I agree. Why does she have to feel bad for what her natural feelings are? I agree that they need to evolve, but don't ask her questions and expect a lie for an answer. She needs to be authentic while she grows. And this coming from a bi-man.

[@ATSW77]

@@tessok8231 Ppl are still covering up SA. I’m just saying she loves her son. I’m grateful he’s showing his mom some understanding. Also, no one should kick out a 14 year old.

[@darrionjmedia]

She can apologize and still be held accountable. For every action there is a reaction.

[@JaneInThisThang]

“A daughter in law to torture?!” Thank you for bringing awareness to this

[@TaeandDes4L]

“Daughter in law” … but yes that was very strange and crazy for her to even say .

[@TheThirdMuskateer]

I'm sure it was tongue in cheek.

[@LeshaFBaby]

This is a joke that some mothers make to their sons..it seemed harmless she doesn't come off like she would be a monster in law

[@aliciaaa6021]

@@LeshaFBaby never in my life heard that as a joke

[@trinathompson8587]

Come on now,she wasn't talking about litterly torturing a daughter-in-law, she was talking about the stereotype of an overly involved mother-in-law! Her intentions should have been clear when she said she wanted a daughter-in-law and grandkids! 🤦‍♀️

[@jackwalter5970]

He doesn't owe her a daughter in law, or grandchildren. Period.

[@jimmyboyzable]

When she made the comment that HE had robbed HER of a daughter-in-law and grandchildren, that's when I was thru with the mother cause the mother tried to make it ALL about HER

[@longbranch11207]

And she doesn’t have to accept his lifestyle either

[@bunslvts6926]

@@longbranch11207just ignorance

[@LeshaFBaby]

She doesnt and can still love him​@@bunslvts6926

[@shontae445]

​@@longbranch11207facts

[@Zee-mu1zj]

Give this lady some GRACE- She is from a different generation, it cannot be easy..

[@happyguy2k]

Honestly

[@neptuniantreasure]

y’all always think old people’s ignorance deserves some kind of grace when they know exactly what they’re doing . gay people have been a thing for centuries . her kid being gay isn’t the end of the world i promise you

[@Kneeyah]

Of course we know that but where is the line between an excuse, accountability & grace

[@avidyoutubewatcherr]

@@KneeyahThis is the one! No excuse to be ignorant. You can ‘not agree’ but come on now.

[@butterflyygyrlsworld5106]

Exactly

[@EmilyElizabethxox]

What a TERRIBLE way to be outed!!! Oh my god. My stomach did a backflip when I heard that. Absolute nightmare. Wish him the best and to be strong, this is on another level.

[@tcrump212IsLmbrJck_t]

This brother DID HIS WORK.

[@nicoleraheem1195]

He needs to do the work of forgetfulness and understanding that everyone isn't going to, nor do they have to, accept him being gay. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@sitdownwithdakotah]

Nicole if you’re homophobic just say that friend. And thank you to the OP

[@KultivateWKah]

He needs to stand in forgiveness, and understand theirs no instructions to being a parent especially a gen x new time parent you have to fit into what’s socially acceptable

[@chefqueenscuisines9002]

,😢​@@sitdownwithdakotah

[@four1629]

@@sitdownwithdakotah RIGHT lmao, like wdym accept that some ppl are just homophobic??? that's his mom, what are we talking about

[@tamarapenson7356]

He is so smart and well educated I love the way he talks

[@user-yo6ji6mt6t]

Yes everything about him

[@sharonanderson9584]

🙌

[@Palo.Santisimo]

Dakota is a king. I’m a straight man and I’ll say it he’s a king. The strength and confidence it takes to affirm yourself during this pain ! 💎🙏🏽✨

[@labrea654]

KING!! You're a frigging Kong then.

[@labrea654]

Hes a gd nugget

[@user-tc3my5ic2o]

I feel for his mother. Their is so much hate in the world. I don't blame her for worrying about her son. You can see the love she has for her son.

[@left2rightanimations561]

she knew the world would chew him up and spit him out. it was not helpful that she decided to do it as well.

[@KJay-ql3hq]

I wouldn’t care about his sexuality; if my son turned out to be this type of transparent successful and honorable man I would be a proud mother..period!

[@Lillysaidthat1]

That part!!! That’s all that matters!!!

[@KEW1006]

This! We love a sensible person in a comment section!

[@Theechosenone_]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@magicworld3242]

She wanted him to play the role of Son/Husband to her.

[@IloveJesus777j77]

​@@Lillysaidthat1What matters is that your kid goes to Heaven. If God isn't for it, I ain't. Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved ❤ Its important.

[@daistevens4072]

Karamo be healing folks in under 15 minutes. Iyanla’a son. I love him

[@toyabonilla6797]

😂😂😂

[@speakmymind247]

Facts, Karamo really heals family one family at a time!! ❤ But it's really a hr show on TV and 45m full video on YT too but they jus make it a short 15m for us folks that jus want the juice 😂

[@shaygoodine9247]

Love the Iyanla son 🖤✨

[@goead]

He better than her

[@uwilberforce4628]

Iyanla was not like him. They might be classmates...😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 but he dont come from her.. his style, his effect.. none of this is iyanla styled. Althought it seems like Karamo DOES FIX FOLKS LIVES😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ciel222]

👏👏It's great to see the mother admitted she was wrong , and she is willing to do better to improve their relationship .

[@devion7709]

you can tell they really hAVE so much love and passion for eachother ! the mom is just so stuck in her ways like she said there are things ppl her age barely even know about let alone hurting somebody emotionally

[@christopherbarge414]

She SHOULD be STUCK IN HER WAYS. ALL of this NONSENSE people are EMBRACING is causing a lot of PROBLEMS.

[@JordaniRoss]

@@christopherbarge414cope

[@left2rightanimations561]

@@christopherbarge414 the things she said were bad. a bad person would say those things. conceptually its not hard to understand.

[@christopherbarge414]

@@left2rightanimations561 What, "SPECIFICALLY" did she say that was bad?

[@taliarenee4613]

I seen him on tiktok he is so respectful and loving and well spoken

[@cynthiamey6693]

What’s his tik tok

[@zappinglegos]

sitdownwithdakotah​@@cynthiamey6693

[@bossibunz8143]

He’s very self aware & mature. I love the understanding he has. As someone who has struggled with my sexuality, I’m so blessed my parents accept me & whoever I’m with, as long as I’m happy. Peace & blessings to them.

[@christopherbarge414]

A man/woman can struggle with their sexuality and if they have help (GOD) and KNOW the right strategy, they can win.

[@StarBound_Jirachi]

@@christopherbarge414he isn’t confused on it though. You are confused on reality, and that reality is that people can’t choose their sexuality

[@christopherbarge414]

@@StarBound_Jirachi I choose to believe what God said instead of BELIEVING men who think that they are SMARTER than God. Phillippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." I KICKED ALL that NONSENSE to the CURB i July of 2019 THROUGH THE POWER OF CHRIST and haven't looked back and AIN'T GOING BACK!!! SO, I'm talking FIRST-HAND knowledge, not what I THINK or BELIEVE is TRUE. I have PERSONALLY proved that WHAT MY FATHER SAID IS TRUE, and THROUGH THE POWER OF THE MIGHTY GOD IN CHRIST, will CONTINUE to do so until he CALLS me HOME. HALLELUYAH!!! You keep trusting what MEN say if you want to. Jeremiah 17:5 says, "Thus saith the Lord; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the Lord." REPENT!!!

[@StarBound_Jirachi]

@@christopherbarge414 The Bible is not God’s word. It is a perception made by man on God’s word. You can yell and ramble all you want, but that doesn’t validate your words. A god wouldn’t write a book of “their word” because it is beyond them. You can believe in God, but not everyone does. And the Bible is also corrupt and our time is already beyond it

[@StarBound_Jirachi]

@@christopherbarge414 First, you sound like a cult member. Second, there are scientific studies made on over 1500 species of animals practicing homosexuality. Third, you are denying people’s word right in front of you, but believe something that you cannot 100% prove it exists. It’s insane and pure delusion/evil

[@cutiepumpchickns414]

“A daughter in law to torture” just shows me even more of her horrible character. I hope he heals and finds peace ❤️🩷

[@TremellluvYah]

Nah. They love each other. She didn't mean any harm with that comment.

[@carriberri15]

Karamo is needed! Thank you for utilizing your life to help and heal the people💛😊💫🌻 and thank you for not missing the moments of necessary healing on both sides🌻

[@imonyoasstv]

It’s clear she sees her son only as an extension of her! “A daughter in law to torture” is just a foul way to think. I don’t feel like she had good intentions for her son no matter his sexuality. Sending him peace, love and prosperity!

[@ariamason9324]

It's a son husband relationship

[@kogiman]

Goes to show. Many women are intentionally harsh on daughters in law. And conversely

[@christopherbarge414]

WHY DOESN'T ANYONE SEE THAT SHE WAS BEING SARCASTIC IN WHEN SHE SAID, "A daughter in law to torture". I also DISAGREE when you said, "I don’t feel like she had good intentions for her son no matter his sexuality" I think she had very good intentions for her son. Being a single mother is hard. My mother was a single mother, and she was not perfect, but she did the best she could. GUESS WHAT ELSE? I WASN'T A PERFECT SON, SO WE EVENED OUT. Seeing that son's display on stage, I can GUARANTEE he wasn't a perfect son either. He called her selfish. He was the one that was SELFISH.

[@ZoraVada-kn7tv]

She raised her son to be intelligent and educated. If that is not her having good intentions for him then I do not know what is.

[@kikichelle2698]

@@christopherbarge414this is the moms burner account

[@realmnthrwknives]

Its one thing to mourn the life you could have but what i want people to understand is your child does not exist to be what you want them to be. Lets say he wasn't gay - he still may never bring a daughter in law for her, he may never have had children, he could've never got his education. Instead of dwelling on "what could have been" focus more on "what we can create." She can create a beautiful relationship with her son and vise versa. He can bring home a son in law. She can dote on cute little grandchildren. We only have one life, neither one of them is going to want to go through life without the other.

[@shanisecampbell8624]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@michellehayesnelson3369]

You're so right! My child made some reckless decisions and I struggled at first.... I had to back away briefly for my own sanity... But we are now back engaged and I pour into him whenever I can. I may not have done it correctly but I'll remain in his corner until the gates of heaven open for me.

[@lilianasaba9846]

The mum will get to the realisation. Hope it isn't too late when this happens.

[@KNixx.Fashion]

Yessss exactly

[@jonathanmweze4436]

People get more stupid and crazy 😜

[@GLRWIN]

I’m completely understand the mother. At her own pace!! Not a dam thing wrong with wanting your bloodline to carry on. And nothing wrong with her wanting a straight son. Those are HER FEELINGS and hers alone. None of that as made her love him less. He has his feelings and so does she. Neither side is wrong for that!! Prayers to them both

[@jermdukes2007]

You do know that gay men are perfectly capable of carrying a bloodline, right? Gay men have BIOLOGICAL children every day.

[@Miserello]

Her wanting a straight son is not fair to him. As someone who is a gay black man, why am I as your child not good enough or wanted because of who I choose to love? She can have feelings, but that young man like many other gay black men will feel “Why was I not good enough for my mother to just love me for me?” It’s not as simple as black and white.

[@mirafloyd5756]

She is wrong for wanting him to be straight or demanding grandchildren. Kids aren’t extensions of their parents. They are individual people with their own thoughts, feelings & dreams. Parents need to accept who their kids are not who they want them to be. Or they shouldn’t have kids in the first place.

[@jermdukes2007]

My comment clearly struck a nerve since you deleted it. But I’ll say it again: You do know gay men can procreate, right? We have no problem carrying a bloodline. Gay men have BIOLOGICAL children every day.

[@theplaygroundworstnightmar3366]

She is wrong for what she wants she shouldnt throw it back on his face that she thinks it’s wrong for him to be gay bc of what she wants him to avoid. so to people with narcissist mindsets of course y’all say “ she’s not wrong for not wanting him to be gay” you are a messed up person completely to think you have a say so over someone’s sexuality. And that’s just how it is. This ableist mindset you spread is just as harmful as her parenting him.

[@rnaxsoo]

this young man is VERY well spoken, watching this brought me to tears i love you all and wish you all the best for the future

[@NamiNaeko]

I'm sorry but he did SO MUCH WORK, what an amazing MAN. And his mother should be glowing with pride because what a son to have. Amazing person who deserves the world ❤

[@ramonahamm6292]

His mom is from a different time . I understand his need to be accepted. But he also has to accept she has different values

[@dees714]

💯💯💯

[@dmcpurplequeen]

Someone gets it. He has to accept and go forward just like she has to.

[@Tru3BratsLife]

Yessssss literally

[@STRSHT]

It’s 2024 she has no excuse for her

[@kathconserv]

a different time? when? 1915?

[@aziabrowder7104]

Omg I couldn’t stop listening to the son he’s so well spoken 🙈 I really hope his relationship with his mother continues to grow ❤️

[@trashycrackers6359]

I have one child, an adult son and I honestly, don't know how I would respond in this same situation. I am also black, and I can understand the struggle this mother is having.

[@iyanaglaze5106]

But what about the son?

[@fallenbee]

You mean pretending to have a struggle? Him being gay doesn't affect her. He's the one struggling, not her. You choose to have homophobic opinions, he doesn't choose to be gay.

[@Ezek-hv9zc]

She's not struggling. accept that he's gay and move on.

[@itsmxt]

@@fallenbeethank you!

[@mirafloyd5756]

What struggle? Children aren’t extensions of our parents. You have to let go of who you want your kids to be and accept them for who they are.

[@floburnett8374]

this by far was one of the best episodes especially because this young man is well spoken.

[@lize5755]

He is intelligent and beautifully spoken. His mother should be so proud of who he has become and the family he's going to raise !!!

[@christopherbarge414]

I DISAGREE. I don't feel that people should be ALLOWED to ADOPT children into their DYSFUNCTION.

[@precioussamuelbrown9838]

Exactly!

[@kashmoney1043]

My opinion. Mother is from an older generation but she feels within her soul that she failed him. Mother's can not raise boys into men. I wish them an abundance of healing! 🙏

[@Vero2yu]

The family he is going to raise? Did he say he had kids or wanted any?

[@jamesromi7973]

​@@christopherbarge414 stfu. straight couples are rearing the children that go everyday without homes, without families but a gay couple adopting them is dysfunction.

[@bellawithbee6447]

This was my favorite one so far! This was beyond heartfelt but spoken with high intellect , profound love, & an immense amount of care! There was some entitlement there, but she’s entitled to her own opinions & personal feelings! However as a mother with two boys I sympathize with her and acknowledge it’s all out of love! He’s a phenomenal son & she’s such a graceful , flawed yes, wonderful mom to raise such a ambitious outgoing successful son! We just gotta give her that! 🌺🌷🌻💐🌹🪻I commend this man & his mother!

[@AyooRedd29]

This was really a a step toward a breakthrough!! Y’all have me tearing up!

[@naquishamarcelle6438]

He is so eloquent and obviously is on his healing journey

[@lovelyculture3545]

Is she not entitled to her opinion? She obviously loves him.

[@worldof2ndfluteclarinet353]

She is the not one who has to live with his decision. He is the one who goes to sleep as himself every night

[@dominiquejenkins5495]

Only if she agrees with him ... smh...

[@steakismynewnamenow8692]

An opinion never ever gives anyone the right to berate or belittle anyone. Especially their own child. That's a disgusting way to treat the people you love.

[@longbranch11207]

Amen, the new gays want everyone to accept their lifestyle without giving grace. Why can’t she have own opinions ?

[@FinDom1]

Do you feel that way about racists?

[@gregoryroper8760]

KARAMO IS THE BEST...We need to have these conversations..

[@thomasinasykes]

Karmo you took the words out of my mouth he needed to give his mom some grace.

[@keishajones679]

This mom is mourning the expectation she had in her mind for her son and he has to understand that as well and at the end of the day she can’t change him but she can heal and do whatever she needs to do for herself just like he made his decision without considering her feelings

[@Choclategirlgirl1]

Yesss

[@bakedtiffany3152]

Made his decision? He’s just gay. She just doesn’t want him to build a family with someone who’s not a woman and that’s rooted in homophobia. She needs to grow up and understand her son has his own life. He’s taking care of her and she still whining about a daughter in law? She has to grow up or she’s gonna lose him. She’ll be the only one being left out.

[@Kirby4life620]

he doesn’t have to consider her feelings boo

[@joycewangui9780]

​@@bakedtiffany3152 Lets be real. No familý is made by two men having unnatural sex. It is fake but this is the world where people try to chande what is natura.l still waiting to hear that two men have given birth without involving a woman. My findings though.

[@Themanhimself677]

What decision???

[@carolharris5455]

Unfortunately THIER pain will never match she doesn’t understand him and he doesn’t understand her. So trying to make her understand how he feels is never going to work but doesn’t mean she doesn’t love him. I don’t think he forgave his self for being caught as a child looking at pornography period I believe that’s the bases of him not moving forward with his mom.

[@tinajackson6875]

I agree

[@1melissawhatnow]

you hit it on the nail I think.

[@debussy842]

Getting caught looking at porn is a common story for boys regardless of sexuality. However, I think it is very traumatizing for someone to bring the porn you were looking at and show everyone at the dinner table.

[@Savoy___]

Kudos to him for being successful! He’s so articulate and inspiring ♥️♥️♥️

[@iambibi616]

One of the best episodes. He's so well spoken and intelligent ! They was exchanging so calmly, it was beautiful

[@kennedighimere]

This isn’t towards the mother but to people out there who want children, dont have them if you aren’t going to accept them for who they are

[@IsaacDaniels777]

Or who they become

[@Remember_Eden]

are you sure about that? you do know that pedo's have mothers too right. should they accept them for who they are?

[@sherry3301]

There’s a difference between love and acceptance. U can love someone and not accept certain behaviors! Just like parents of criminals, they STILL love their son, but not the fact that he’s a killer!

[@sibonelo_dacu88]

​@@sherry3301💯💯💯

[@babs_babs]

@@sherry3301you’re comparing gay people to criminals.

[@evanewton1974]

This mother does not truly get it! This is HIS life and NOT about her!!

[@Mgamble214]

she is trying...she birthed him and from another generation so her feelings are understandable. They'll be fine

[@Narilay]

But she was born in a different time she shouldn’t get hate for when she was raised it wasn’t right

[@t.c.5456]

Great, thanks

[@katlennon5488]

Yall try to villanize that gen so much, wait for the next gen to have diffrent views than you

[@germainm82]

@@Narilay Exactly 💯 which ppl can't seem to comprehend or blatantly just want to ignore that important factor!

[@hamoOT]

This topic is so real. & the way Karamo helps families realize these little intricate details is so HUGE!! such a fan of you Karamo

[@Christof_The_Great17]

As a gay Black male myself I have to say Kudos to all three people on that stage. Shout out to mom because she is making the commitment to grow because the love for her son. We do have to be understanding not only to our feelings but that of others.

[@lisashaw2334]

I truly believe they will eventually come together and get it right.

[@vincent4087]

I understand the mom completely I feel bad for the mom and I understand the son too.

[@evanewton1974]

I do not understand this mother. She is making her son's life all about HER!! She is not accepting who he truly is.

[@KindHumbleWise]

Being gay is definitely not who he truly is

[@tag3893]

​@@evanewton1974just like he didn't except how the Most High God created him, so I don't blame her..

[@denine685]

​@@tag3893 Very good point! I would be upset as well if I were a Mother.

[@cleonikole]

⁠@@tag3893?? expect? anyways, just say you’re homophobic.

[@TierraKOfficial]

their communication is amazing and the way they're about to articulate their feelings so well

[@Mabeylater293]

To the host THANK YOU for airing this. Thank you for keeping it classy and for keeping a high level of decorum.

[@noreenm5018]

He wants his mother to validate his feelings, but he is not prepared to validate his mother's feelings. Its doesn't work that way.

[@Blue1091]

Not what happened

[@LeshaFBaby]

Not at all

[@tinajackson6875]

Absolute truth, he won't even acknowledge her feelings, but she must acknowledge his. Hogwash. It has to be mutual.

[@christopherbarge414]

💯A MILLION TIMES!!!!

[@christopherbarge414]

@@Blue1091 What do you mean by, "Not what happened "?

[@amarie.e7537]

Isn’t this that Guy and Mom from TikTok???? I’m starting to think they do everything but go to ACTUAL THERAPY.

[@siehop88]

Yupp that’s him 😂😂

[@r.wilson2348]

Damn, what’s tea? I don’t have tika toka lol

[@troypowell4232]

​@@r.wilson2348 say blood wat u kall dat bitch a tika tiko 😭😭😭😭😂 she funny on blood

[@leeandreawright4770]

What’s Their TikTok

[@sitdownwithdakotah]

It is us and yes we do go to therapy…but troll away!

[@Sonoftheeking]

I’m so proud of the mom in this moment. Most parents are not like this!!!

[@user-il5rs6dd6f]

His mom loves him but she also have the right to feel how she feel

[@kennedihill4155]

She does not! He has his own life. She has to kill the version of him that she invented. That’s not his problem, and it shouldn’t be his burden

[@mariasbuggy]

Yes she can be shocked and wtv, but to basically act like your kid is no more, that’s fucked

[@LeslieCYPRESS536]

Exactly!! She came on the show , she doesn’t seem embarrassed. She comes from a different time . When I was in high school and my best friend came out , everyone assumed I was the girlfriend. And I was ashamed and embarrassed. This was the 90s. Now I wouldn’t DARE care what someone said , she was still my beautiful friend . Give people a chance and mother’s grace . As a mom I look forward to grand kids and daughter / son in law , but that’s the culture we live in . HOWEVER , whoever comes or doesn’t , baby or not ; moms will be there . Mothers of this new generation with have the benefit of information and understanding.

[@TheDarkEvil776]

@@kennedihill4155 yes she do who are you to tell a mother what she can’t

[@kentsvlogs5559]

Ikr.. she just doesn’t want her son to burn in hell for his sexuality.

[@CamillaBk11]

I think by her saying those things she expressing why she was hurt and couldn’t process it at that time. I do think she is trying but it’s not at the automatic rate. Even though that’s her child and yes she should/ does seem to love him genuinely her mindset does have to shift from the many years of being raise to think a certain way. He’s an exceptional well spoken for man. I’m glad they are able to work on accepting and growing together. This story was needed! ❤

[@authenticqueen1]

Agree! Well said!

[@NayyAmo]

Yes!! Extremely wholesome & necessary conversation ❤

[@AyooRedd29]

I need a full session on this!

[@jaszminewright3900]

Yall are so articulate… i hope your mom can understand.

[@rubyjaez]

Why do people ask for apologies only to reject it when they get it? Both are entitled to their opinions, thoughts, views and emotions. That’s her feelings both need to respect each other views.

[@sitdownwithdakotah]

What apology did I reject?

[@xyiiisprings1194]

@@sitdownwithdakotah period

[@jajuanrequena8800]

​@sitdownwithdakotah sooooooo... you literally created a faceless account only MINUTES ago just to come police and troll the comments?! Your thoughts, opinions and feelings are merely one of trillions!

[@cleonikole]

@@jajuanrequena8800he’s not trolling bc he didn’t reject the apology. if anything he questioned the validity of her apologies bc after apologizing she would do the same thing again.

[@rubyjaez]

6:20 6:57 8:30 9:26

[@nicoleraheem1195]

Nah. The same thing he's saying she does, by bringing everything back to "me me me", he did the same thing. He didn't acknowledge her feelings either because he wants to be accepted. The thing is people don't have to accept you being gay as righteous but they can accept you as a person, as a son, as a brother or as a friend.

[@LeshaFBaby]

Agreed

[@tinajackson6875]

Truth

[@jessicajohnson4438]

I thought I was crazy because I caught that too.

[@mizz_trying_to_heal9134]

I agree

[@minimalistqueen2992]

Well, he didn’t ask to be here so

[@lifewithyana2924]

He’s such an amazing speaker. So fluent and clear with his words. I pray for his healing, and I bet it was very humiliating and hurtful when he got outed because of those videos. I will always understand a parent having a hard time understanding that their child is gay because that is 100% valid and it doesn’t automatically make you terrible or homophobic because you cannot wrap your hand around it, but what is unacceptable is when you are degrading and insulting or unable to ATTEMPT to get out of your programmed ways to get your child. That’s the difference. How hurtful is it for the mother to say she feels robbed. Her feelings are valid, but my goodness to put it like that will scar that child for life. It scarred me just hearing hearing it. Wow.

[@lovergworl_]

He reminds me so much of my old best friend but the nice side of him. Wishing him nothing but the best ❤

[@junesimba]

What a great, what a profound, an articulate and what a whole brother this is!!! amazing how beautiful things can even come from dysfunction

[@christopherbarge414]

DID YOU SEE THE SAME VIDEO I SAW? HE IS VERY INTELLIGENT; NOONE can take that from him, but he is COMPLETELY broken. If he was whole, he would NOT have got up there BERATING his mother for stuff that happened when he was a teenager. I'm sure we ALL had some bad things happen when we were kids, but a whole person COULD move on from that without having to go on the Karamo show.

[@junesimba]

@@christopherbarge414 no most just mask it - he helped the family evolve for real

[@christopherbarge414]

@@junesimba When Jesus was on the Earth, he taught his disciples in Matthew 16:24, "Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me." This scripture speaks to the fact that we ALL have some things within us that are CONTRARY to Christ, and we MUST deny ourselves those things to follow Christ. If we DENY ourselves and follow him, he will lead us to life. The very next verses, Matthew 16:25-27 say, "For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. 26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? 27 For the Son of man shall come in the glory of his Father with his angels; and then he shall reward every man according to his works." You say that most just mask it. You have NO way to validate that. You say, he helped the family EVOLVE. Jesus said that a man CANNOT even follow him if he won't deny HIMSELF. Are you saying that the person who will not deny HIMSELF, but give himself over to his basest desires is more EVOLVED than the person who will obey what Jesus said and DENY HIMSELF? Is that what you are trying to get me to believe? Humanity got to this BASE place because we started BELIEVING we were smarter than GOD. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." If we can do that, we CAN be delivered from WHATEVER.

[@Willnevab2nd]

This is the most satifying series yet❤❤

[@jeannied7743]

Being a black Christian woman with two sons, I understand the mother completely! It’s hard enough for black straight men in this world. If this is how she feels, she can’t change it. Praying for them.🙏🧞‍♀️🙏

[@drewhaynes1874]

its hard for black straight men? how...

[@disco_depression]

She don't need to make it harder for him by being an unsupportive mother. He's a grown ass adult he can handle himself.

[@pvxxyfairy]

She needs to learn how to let go of expectations that are unrealistic to their circumstances & accept things how they are.

[@kenniegeorge4809]

I totally agree with the mom. It'll be hard for me to accept a gay child, too.

[@jeannied7743]

@@kenniegeorge4809 me too. I believe in Heaven and Hell

[@KayezTP]

2:28 So powerful, so aware. What a way to articulate an observation. My respects to you.

[@leafrazer8440]

You gotta be proud of him, he accomplished so much!! What an awesome son you have mom🤗

[@silochnieharipersaud3346]

He is well spoken I love this Guy

[@parlorgemz2405]

He just talks a a woman

[@berta.9912]

i'm a leader@@parlorgemz2405

[@kennyroberson6216]

​@@parlorgemz2405 He talks intelligently and that's more than what I can say for you

[@victoriastanley2995]

​@@parlorgemz2405and u seem like u stewpid

[@happyguy2k]

She doesn't hate you She just being honest with her emotions. She actually excepting you

[@LeslieCYPRESS536]

Yup !!!!!!

[@monicaandiego]

True

[@anthonysmith5854]

I applaud him for his courage and success. But just being honest, she has a right to her opinion just like he has to his.

[@amazingperson326]

Opinions that break people are not an entitlement. Or at the very least a parent should care more about not damaging their children than sharing their negative "opinions"

[@chadacox]

She definitely has a right to her opinion, even if it’s wrong and damaging to the person she’s supposed to be protecting. But okay. 🙃 Please don’t ever have kids.

[@mirafloyd5756]

She can feel how she wants, she’s still completely in the wrong.

[@ladyt_ismyname6643]

So she’s supposed to validate his feelings while he invalidates hers…

[@opulence_prime]

It’s always that. These kids want to do whatever they want and want you to love it. Sounds very narcissistic in the sense that he doesn’t like the way his decisions makes his moms feel so he tries to dictate her responses.

[@ash00001]

@@opulence_primegood thing God made rules and doesn’t play about them no matter how we feel lmao.

[@makedaburnett1672]

Yea because he’s her child…. And plus outside of this show I’ve seen them on instagram together and she basically grew him up to be her personal support partner and not her son. He bought her a house, and everything….. she doesn’t want him to live his own life either it’s sad… her excuses are getting old especially since he’s a grown man now

[@lamargardner5566]

I understand what you mean. However, it's incorrect to assume that someone's feelings should come before you living your life. Control her response to who her son is? That mentality is flawed simply because outdated ideas of morality shouldn't impead growth. She can grow, and he can accept the pace in which she grows. He's not obligated to endure anybody's abuse. Being clear, you don't owe anybody your life. Not even your mother.

[@ThickNCurly1]

What is their Instagram @?

[@klacier5111]

There is a lot of love there. I hope they succeed with rebuilding their relationship❤

[@JasmineWare-tp1dd]

He is SOOOOOOO well spoken 💕💕💕💕

[@michemoses8236]

He is so grounded and so smart. She did a good job with him or she did what she thought was right at the time. When we know better we do better. I pray they get through it and heal.🌻

[@LeshaFBaby]

He said what is the point of apologizing and doesn't seem to want to move forward, well what is the point of bringing her on the show if you dont accept when she tries to..just wanted to hear himself talk..validate her feelings too they have it all wrong these days

[@b.u.dmusic9424]

GREAT GREAT point!!!!! There's something about him that seems bratty to me. She's doing the best that she can and he still belittles her.

[@kirascullark5224]

I agree.

[@biggerthanlyfe9853]

The mom seems like she’s trying. He claims that she always makes things about her but everytime she says something, he brings it back to him. I’m transgender, so I know first hand what it’s like dealing with previous generations and even people of my own generation not agreeing with who I chose to be but this is very clearly a parent who is trying.

[@LeshaFBaby]

​@@biggerthanlyfe9853 thanks for looking at it from both sides because some that are in his shoes will automatically side with him

[@RestorationEdenMinistries]

She doesn't have to accept it or validate it to have a relationship. They can acknowledge they don't agree and not participate in what goes against one anothers convictions without being offended respecting each other. You cannot force anyone to accept, see things the way others want bc its what they think. Thats both sides.

[@egujugapupfh7543]

idk she doesn't seem so respectful

[@bunslvts6926]

So basically, you expect him to be okay with having a relationship with a person who disagrees with his very existence/sexuality that he didn't choose? Madness.

[@djdsmooth72]

exactly

[@jeujeuonthebeatz5918]

He’s so intelligent and articulate ♥️

[@gigga693]

This dialogue was beautiful. They both bared their truth as raw and uncomfortable as it was. Most importantly they listened, came with an open heart, and willing to do the work. I believe his mom loves him down to her core and is still learning to accept him for who he is. She’s on her own journey of grieving what she’d hoped for in a son and that’s ok, even parents of heterosexual children go through that process. It’s growing pains. But once it happens, it’s a beauty to behold♥️ I wish them both the best.

[@gizzel74]

He is so clear about expressing what he needs and wants from a relationship with his mother. I think his mother is just stuck in traditional thinking, but at least she's open to changing that. I pray their relationship heals ❤

[@AlexQuest99]

Very powerful and EMOTIONAL episode. As a gay man myself I can relate to him.....

[@celebritea5813]

no hate but was your dad around ?

[@brianchurchil8230]

Do not judge but why do things opposite to what God condemns

[@AlexQuest99]

@celebritea5813 Yes! He was! And I have brothers too!.......and I don't see how my father has anything to do with my sexuality. I know plenty of gay people with both parents in the household, and they're not flamboyant either!

[@celebritea5813]

@@AlexQuest99 oh wow thats interesting bc alot of gay men ik didn’t have their fathers so thx 🙏

[@Jojo-vo4cu]

​@@brianchurchil8230Your god doesn't exist

[@theboojibabecollection]

He’s very brave and the relationship with his mother is a great lesson for me for sure 🙏🏾

[@Chach-se4nq]

....Mum shouldn't apologize for this. Noooooo. Don't do it Mum.

[@kennyroberson6216]

She should definitely apologize because Because she's trying to hold him close but yet trying to berate him at the same time

[@arthurm.358]

It's *mom. And yes tf she should. You may not want to hear this but gay ppl are human too 💯

[@fauzianalwoga1002]

Disrespectful child😢

[@KamiaMcWilliams]

They both need to validate each others feelings. He has the right to feel how he feels but so does she. I love how he communicated his feelings but what our generation need to understand is, we can be understood + heard without the generations before us agreeing with us and our choices. She has her own beliefs + morals, and he has his, clearly she understands and loves Him but I think trying to make her agree with something she doesn’t is not healthy, because then that invalidates her feelings-just like if he was to just agree with how she felt, it would diminish his feelings. So, it’s okay to be heard and understood without someone agreeing with you.

[@kayotheepotato]

I would hope Karamo is doing his self-care activities off-air, dealing with broken people all day would drive me to a place that would be hard for me to recover from 😪

[@jordanedwards6939]

I can relate to family exploiting him out. That caused all that dysfunction between them like WHY! Its very hard to stomach that experience he had and hope they bond gets better. This is very encouraging to communicate with your loved ones and move on.

[@rhondairis570]

It's not always about the generational divide. My Grandma is 93yrs old and she understands the outspoken generation of today. She respects it and envies it because it was nonexistent when she was growing up. She was the outspoken one when she was growing up and now I am as her only Granddaughter. Being open and excepting of your own child is huge and them having this conversation on tv was incredible. I definitely appreciated this episode. Karamo keep doing your thing man!

[@lifewnaya]

thankyou for sharing this, i love it.

[@altariendecloet3303]

Everyone’s so mad at him for still being upset. Everyone’s is not OWED forgiveness.

[@elleurfavoritestvegan1550]

Very true but nobody HAS to accept his lifestyle. People are entitled to feel how they feel if she has been apologetic for years like what more could he want outside of her accepting the way he chooses to live his life?

[@thekalenichannel1812]

​@@elleurfavoritestvegan1550 being gay is not a "lifestyle" it's an innate orientation

[@altariendecloet3303]

@@elleurfavoritestvegan1550 bro she sat up there and invalidated his lifestyle, and basically said him being gay disappointed her… she’s not doing as good as yall think she is.

[@elleurfavoritestvegan1550]

@altariendecloet3303 invalidated or didn't accept? She basically didn't say anything like that. She had a normal expectation and like any normal person when their expectations aren't met they are disappointed. It's the same thing but it's not the same thing. She didn't stop loving him she didn't stop caring she said she doesn't approve of his lifestyle there is not a thing wrong with that.

[@LeshaFBaby]

​@@elleurfavoritestvegan1550 at all and I dont get what's so hard about understanding that

[@pamelajeffrey7592]

Mother is hurt and grieving for the son she wanted him to be.

[@blane6592]

Karamo is such an amazing host!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@Same_ol_jee]

Very well spoken

[@felicous]

The mother has explained and acknowledged her past situations. He has to understand (like she said), that she was brought up in a different era of thinking and hopes of dreams of having grandkids, etc.. overall, she wants to recitify what was wrong. At the same time, her realization is fresh and new to digest on his side. He needs to forgive and want to rebuild a chance of having a great relationship

[@kennedihill4155]

Why do you out all of the burden on him! She needs to get herself together.

[@FeliciaBranch]

I appreciate Karamo extending the mother grace because she has to grow at her own pace because you cant force someone's else's growth. The fact that she wants to grow is commendable.

[@juliel9749]

i think what he s trying to say to his mom..is to stop making him feel like a deception to her. Even though he is a succesful man and is worthy of happiness and good values, that she should be happy and proud of him. He wants to feel more accepted as her son, not just as a man. i can imagine his pain to this day. i hope you heal and grow forward as a family from montreal, canada

[@Soroyalw]

Why would the mother feelk like she can torture her DIL if he wasn't gay. Something is wrong with the mother

[@sitdownwithdakotah]

Bingo

[@TheMoseswoman]

@@sitdownwithdakotahI think she was joking

[@PeggyRabbit32]

​@TheMoseswoman no, she wasn't. I had a mother in law who THOUGHT she could do me that way.

[@jajuanrequena8800]

​@@PeggyRabbit32I'm sorry that's your reality... but that doesn't negate the fact that she probably was joking or being facetious as they say.

[@keningram5324]

Yes, that was very strange, and she didn't say it in a joking manner either.

[@yanioshun3496]

She is right about something. She is a BabyBoomer, they are Narsisist, unapologetic, selfish and when they apologize is only to end a conversation and NOT because they regret anything. Who the heck sais, robbed me of a daughter in law that "I can literature " lady get mental health

[@christopherbarge414]

I DISAGREE WITH EVERYTHING YOU JUST SAID!!!

[@t.s4639]

You are right

[@Jojo-vo4cu]

​@@christopherbarge414 So? Lol, that's because you're delusional

[@patriciabrown8666]

Dakota is so attentive when his Mom is talking this is so cute to me he Honors his Mom 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

[@victoriaawori8876]

She's being honest, she feels like she failed as a mother. Keep praying mum. God is God

[@kimjones6904]

I remember my uncle moving to Dallas to get away from the family because he felt my grandparents would not accept him. Much like this man my my uncle was educated, handsome, and successful. The fact that he is not willing to accept her apology and have some understanding about what she is feeling show a level of immaturity. My grandmother had a hard time understanding my uncles sexuality because she was born in 1921 and saved but she loved her child. My uncle much like this gentlemen had little concern for how she felt about what she thought my have been losing a son. All of my uncle views about how my grandmother felt went out the window when he had to come home with AIDS and she was the one who poured all the love she had into caring for him until his last breath. I still remember her coming home from work to find the coroner taking his body away and lying on top him moaning like I have never heard. My point is you are free to live your life any way you please but you mothers feeling are just important as yours, so try and have so compassion for what she is feeling.

[@sandylane5498]

Love that!!!

[@ebonyjones2246]

Can we pin this ....love it

[@c.johnson1789]

She's not entitled to his forgiveness.

[@leawheat7619]

Apologize does not equal forgiveness

[@badgyalmara]

Karamo is AmAzInG!! 🤩😍🤙🏽. He just knows what exactly to do to help the people who's in need 🙏🏽.

[@jll2985]

This was so good

[@porquest]

This young man is insane in the best way possible. Going through all of that, and he not once gave up- it was his motivation to push harder. His reaction to being alone was success and that is amazing to me

[@KnewYawkPapi]

Wow the way he expressed himself has been helpful to me. Kudos to him and his current and future accomplishments!