I Refuse To Let My Father-In-Law Move In With Us Now That He's Facing Eviction r/Relationships

[@mbyerly9680]

"I'm a surgeon." How to say you are an AH without saying it. What a toxic jerk.

[@rain1676]

Thank you for helping people

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

Add in narcissist, too.

[@SH-qs7ee]

@@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables And sociopath

[@D-Dollie]

Story 1: yet he has time for a side chick!! Wow. Glad she is kicking him out!! Go grandpa!!

[@Keyonne88]

"He wouldn't let me break up with him." Well that's not how that works.

[@SwirlyPinwheel]

It's like those stories where someone quits and the employer says no. They weren't asking???

[@lynettephillip2412]

It does happened. I have seen it.

[@lucyann1573]

As soon as OP said he was a surgeon I was like "yup, that tracks." Oh, and I hate OP2's ex and his disgusting family

[@chb5628]

Wooooowwww. First story.. if that is how you talk about your wife why are you still married?

[@pippo17173]

Well we know how egotistical he is as a doctor. Not surprising on the cheating ether. Ya don't date doctors or police crew without 100% knowing them.

[@LaJokanan]

I wonder how he's gonna feel when his own daughter's are grown up and their husbands want to put him in a ****ing shed.@@pippo17173

[@jennyanswer42]

Yeeeeah. Coming out strong with that update buddy. Dang.

[@l.tc.5032]

Because it's obviously fake.

[@jaimelowe4246]

They’re not. She divorced him.

[@frozenheart7133]

The fact that she is an interior designer and he used the fact that she decorated the living room against her.

[@BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat]

1000% that is what thought. He complained she came from money and complained she worked.

[@LittleMaitea]

„She is a spoiled princess, who doesn’t need to work, but does it anyways and then complains she needs help with the kids“ … 1. this sentence makes no sense! How can someone be spoiled because she wants to diligently work and want help with the kids ..not even from the other parent who obviously shuts himself up to be in his man cave 2. That’s your wife you talking about … you know the woman you love? But you call her a spoiled princess because her mothers family has money??!?!?

[@TisOnlyAScratch]

​@@LittleMaiteadoes he love her? Or is he a gold digger?

[@LittleMaitea]

@@TisOnlyAScratch normally you should love your wife … but he sure is a golddigger…. With a god complex on top of

[@chandajones6897]

😊😅​@@LittleMaitea

[@fruitylooney348]

Honestly the first story is so heartbreaking with how long it seems like the wife and kids have been at the very least emotionally neglectful if not outright abused. I wouldn't be surprised if he was by the way he talks about his wife and kids.

[@pippo17173]

You have to admit, the title was misleading with how I thought was gonna be an entitled parent story. Didn't expect to turn into a doctor not accepting his wife to be equal. Was honestly expecting the cheating to come out and of course it does on the wife's post.

[@shaymorcormick8743]

Dude thinks just because he has a high paying job it means he can't be a pathetic fucking deadbeat loser. He'll wonder why on his deathbed his daughters haven't visited him for decades and have zero interest seeing him off. Seriously fuck pos losers like him. I bet his daughters quickly learned to never expect anything from him

[@ch3rrikiss]

The second story is the wife's perspective

[@Kris-wo4pj]

​@@ch3rrikisswhich just proves he probably would have hit her and the kids if he was busy having affairs with all the nurses he works with. Hes never home so why does he care if the father moves in. Less work for him. Then again im sure its cuz the father would show his wife and kids how much of a loser he is.

[@paperkay]

The first story was over the moment the guy called his own wife a shallow, vapid woman who decorates houses. I really hope that story is fake, because holy cow.

[@Papa_Waffles]

It's too crazy and nonsensical to be made up... This is probably more than likely real

[@kylemendoza8860]

If it's true. He probably married her for a trophy wife. She probably married him for money and status.

[@rodrikrabbit]

@@kylemendoza8860except she already had money. She inherited a trust fund

[@Ms_Pumppkin]

She has money from a trust fund. People change with time​@@kylemendoza8860

[@sylviamalaika785]

She comes from money

[@CannibalChxrry]

First OPs wife is a Queen! We love her!

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

We are not worthy. And idiot OP surgeon is definitely not worthy.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

The whiny troll in his mancave has got to go.

[@ariste01]

Really not surprised by the first story. Having had chronic health issues all my life, the more specialized a Dr is, the bigger their ego and the less they listen to their patients. Not surprised they treat their kids and spouses the same.

[@gabrielle4152]

It's so difficult as a patient when your dr doesn't treat you as an actual person when you're at your most physically and emotionally vulnerable. I'm sorry you've been through that a lot.

[@tagh4055]

Surgeons are the worst -- they don't see people as people, just as problems to be solved. And yes, they believe they're superior beings. Ask any nurse.

[@DemonAngel]

The only time I liked a specialized Dr was for my mom when she broke her wrist. Why? Because he wore old, worn down cowboy boots into her surgery 😅 It was the nurse we saw a week later I about knocked into next week (she was taking the warping/gaze off and nearly ripped my mom's skin off and told her to "calm down, it's not that bad")

[@shadowkissed2370]

🙌 I consider myself so lucky to have the best neurosurgeon in the state. Not only is he incredibly skilled, but he's also humble and an amazing listener. His attentiveness made a huge difference in my case. Other doctors had downplayed the severity of my spinal disc issue, but my neurosurgeon took the time to listen and discovered that it was far worse than initially thought. He didn't waste any time and rushed me into surgery. During the procedure, he found that my disc had calcified and was cutting into my spinal cord. It's a scary thought to imagine what could have happened if I had gone to someone else who dismissed my symptoms. Some doctors thought I was too young to have such problems and just wanted pain medication or just dismissed me outright. According to my neurosurgeon, if I had fallen again without the surgery, I could have ended up as a quadriplegic because the calcified disk would have severed my spinal cord.

[@lkayh]

It takes a certain amount of ego to believe you can perform surgery. Unfortunately ego can become narcissism.

[@humancreativity8237]

Story 1: FIL Living Situation The slightest tinge of sympathy I had for OP in giving up his little man cave died with the way he tried vilify his wife. God forbid people take her side considering he didn't even try to give anyone a good reason to as to why he's the wronged party here. Not to rag on his profession, but of course, he's a surgeon.

[@francinetitherington4060]

Honestly, the "God" complex ia pretty much taught in college in those upper level Surgery courses. Thry are pushed on the life or death is in their hands bit. It can turn someone ambitious and dedicated to having very skewed views of who they are as a person as opposed to the value of other people in general.

[@shaymorcormick8743]

​@@Azulakayesonly reason anyone will visit him is hoping to get an inheritance

[@justine8387]

But how could people side with her when she is so clearly beneath him? /s

[@tagh4055]

​@@justine8387😂😂😂😂

[@lauriemeyer7030]

2nd story. NTA Lose the boyfriend. "You can't break up with him?" What a prick. Glad dad pressed charges. SUE THE C#@$ out of him for destroying your things. You did good to press charges. I pray you do find love. True love is not racist. Finally, it is not shameful to receive love from those who care for you. I am glad you recognized the issue WAS NEVER YOU, IT WAS HIM! You are worthy of love and respect. Take your time in your next relationship. As for his family send them one note to all of them. "The trash is in jail, and we sent it back to Spain! byyeeee!" (Yes, I know not all Spanish people are like him and his family.)

[@dianabialaskahansen2972]

Story 1: wow, OPs edit/update really did not help. Before that it seemed like he just didn't really like FIL and didn't want to lose his private space. And then he really showed off his god complex and any miniscule amount of sympathy was gone.

[@permafrost4564]

Exactly my thoughts Like bro you already lost on the Internet proclaiming to be better than your wife cause she is shallow and born with a silver spoon in her mouth, not gonna make it better

[@kaykay8855]

Thing is they have a seven room house, a pool house and a theater room.

[@StrickerRei-Chn]

Nothing can save that man... May be he should ask his colleague to make him pretty.

[@hiro4344]

"That's just how the world works! People cheat!" Looks at parents married faithfully for nearly 50 years still just as in love as the day they first met. "Mm-hm."

[@lauriemeyer7030]

50:03 Yup, my dad was a grumpy, rude, opinionated man who LOVED my mom. They were married 55 years through a LOT of crap. They were faithful to one another. It is possible to not cheat!

[@khaleesireyna731]

Lbr, the only people who unironically say "people cheat, its the way the world works" are cheaters trying to downplay their own disgusting behavior.

[@ebagentj]

Story 2 honestly got me tearing up. I am usually good about staying away from the OPs and not brigading or anything, but I want to find her most recent post and leave a comment. She has not only survived, but she stood up to her abuser and got him out of the country. She feels beaten down and stupid now, but she is so unbelievably strong and brave. One day I hope she realizes that and owns it, and makes friends and forms relationships with people who deserve to have her in their lives, who are drawn to that strength and bravery. But for now, as others said, she should focus on herself and getting the care she needs, even if it means she needs to be with her mom to have a good night's sleep. It doesn't make her weak and pathetic, it makes her someone who is doing what she needs to in order to cope and move forward. I wish only for the very best for her. ETA: Checked her post history. This happened over a year ago, and she stopped posting six months ago, but before that she was going to mostly other AITA and adjacent posts from people being abused or gaslit and not realizing it and giving them comfort and support. I hope she stopped posting on Reddit because her life is full of good things and now it's just slipped her mind.

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

Thanks for the updates and following up. That jerk really tore her up. Sounds like her giving advice is helping her heal. Let's hope for the best ❤

[@ridgewalker5718]

Back in the 70's my family visited Hong Kong. My dad was so excited to have authentic Chinese food. Learned right t here that real Chinese and American Chinese are very different. LoL

[@wildblue0]

It won't sour his reputation. The side piece probably works there too.

[@wildblue0]

@@Azulakayes Yup. When the mistress is promoted to wife, it creates a vacancy.

[@kaykay8855]

@@wildblue0and the cycle repeats.

[@randomaccount-dq1jq]

"When people think of chinese food the last thing they expect is white rice" Im British and 100% expect Chinese and Japanese dishes to be the main part of the meal with everything else being toppings to the rice. Most British people know we are the ones who are changing it by replacing rice with Chips 😂😂

[@Frostfern94]

We do? Look I don’t eat Chinese or Japanese- Or really any kind of food that isn’t typically found in a British cafe. But I at least eat rice! I EXPECT rice with Asian food. It’s expected. Also what kind of disrespectful British pratts are changing rice with chips?

[@Theoanno7]

Where are you getting your Chinese food mate? Chips is not replacing rice anywhere. Lol

[@randomaccount-dq1jq]

@@Theoanno7 The Chippy lol.

[@DiegoRosado-cq8mu]

I'm spanish and i love white rice..

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Huh? Not at every Chinese and Japanese place in US. Brown rice was only added recently as a customer health fad but when the staff eat it is white.

[@ilovesports5468]

That dude in story 1 sounds like he hates his wife and his hat he’s God’s gift to mankind and women. Dude is a crazy Narc!!! Sounds unhinged. The wife came through and ate him uppppp

[@DocKrazy]

"He's about to be evicted" He literally *Literally* Is going to be homeless. Staying on someone elses couch does not make him less unhoused. Had to do a quadruple take on the sentence where OP claims his FIL is "not going to be homeless" because wow Homeless/unhoused people aren't just people you see sleep on benches or live under a bridge downtown. Couch-surfing for a year doesn't put you on a lease either

[@NicciFreeman]

Every time I heard someone say that they can’t be racist because they have POC friends or a POC girlfriend I like to remind them that slave masters had children with their slaves and treated those children like property.

[@kylemendoza8860]

You think maybe that's a little different?

[@helenbontje15]

Very true! And no it's not different. Racism is Racism!! I would have kicked his family out of my home for that condescending comment, especially considering all the comments made by the nephew. I also would have told them their nephew is ignorant of what REAL Chinese food is! White rice is a staple in every Asian cuisine that I have seen.

[@MrAbomb234]

​@@kylemendoza8860not really

[@kylemendoza8860]

@@MrAbomb234 It is. Glad I could help you up with that.

[@trashcan2748]

@@kylemendoza8860While it isn’t the same thing, it mirrors the situation in question by demonstrating that racists are perfectly able to have some form of relationships with people they’re racist towards hence “my friend is ___” alone doesn’t instantly disprove racism.

[@mag3nta_m4sk]

Wow, I just broke up with someone becoming a surgeon. Totally had an ego & wanted an open relationship. The first story makes me glad we never got even close to marriage, I feel like this is how it would turn out. They ghosted like the manchild they are.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Story 1: dude doesn’t even seem to like the soon to be ex wife.

[@panicwithcompulsion]

For the record, that boyfriend was not crazy and should not described as such. He was entirely sane and in his right state of mind when he went about systematically destroying her possessions, threatening her and her dog, shoving her sister, insulting her, and revealing her abortion. You have to be in complete control to be in a 'fit of rage' and simultaneously only destroy your victims things.. This was planned, calculated, and deliberate. He's not 'crazy', he's just an abuser.

[@catsncrows]

S1 Elsewhere, different topic. A conversation (well, flood) started about people's toxic parents and how they treated their children like pets. Surgeon dad is upset his random pets like another man better. He doesn't want to parent, he wants golden retrivers

[@gabrielle4152]

That's right! To them their kids are an accessory to the image they want to project.

[@Kharmaa7]

This is why I get creeped out whenever my mom used to introduce us to people and say “don’t I make pretty babies??” And my younger sister doesn’t get it, acts like I make a big deal out of every little thing… ok.

[@khaleesireyna731]

He expects his wife and children to be props in his life, to be brought out and paraded about when it suits him. They're not really people to him, they're props/accessories and that's part of why he's so butthurt that his kids bonded more with FIL. He shouldn't have to put work in for mere props in his life. I treat my dogs better than he treats his family and that narcissistic f*cko shouldn't be allowed a dog either.

[@kuehnerthanyou3409]

He doesn't even want golden retrievers, he wants rabbits or hamsters, a golden retriever's excitement and play time would just annoy him too. It goes without saying but hes an asshole and a narcissistic. How can he see where hes walking with his head that far up his ass???

[@CrystalBruen]

Tell me how that doctorate is going to fair at the pearly gates. 😂😂😂 Even heaven needs an interior decorator!!! Lord knows I have crap taste. 😂😂

[@anya0410]

Leaving the girls with the surgeon husband for a few hours would be classified as child abandonment

[@eph2vv89only1way]

"Other than the racism thing, ..." Yeah. Other than that, Mrs Lincoln, how did you like the play?

[@francinetitherington4060]

Markee..... Swamp coolers were developed in the South US and used in areas like Savanna or parts of Alabama, Louisiana......(Swampy areas) and involve water flowing over a filter that has a fan blowing out the air and using evaporation to function. No, they don't smell like a swamp but DO increase the humidity in the room where they are used. I had one of these in student housing once and it really helped, though not as much as an AC.

[@lianabaddley8217]

My hubby and i both also grew up with a swamp cooler in Utah. Maybe it was the "dry heat" (lol) of Utah. But they worked really well! Then after we got married we had an apartment that had one that didn't work. We didn't think the landlord really knew how to make it work. Whenever i visit my oldest sister in the spring-fall, i have to wear long sleeves/jacket ask the time. Her swamp cooler keeps her house REALLY cold. She's the only hold out with her cooler. Lol Edit: None of them ever smelled like a swamp. Or even like mildew.

[@gabrielle4152]

Thank you for the explanation! I'm from Canada and have never heard of swamp coolers, I have to admit I imagined a cooler filled with... swamp? (Yea I don't know exactly what I thought) Really, it sounds like a low-cost and easy way to cool off a room.

[@cindykq8086]

Swamp coolers don't work well here in the South. They work by evaporation and precious little evaporation occurs in high humidity.

[@JudyHart1]

Swamp coolers are great in dry areas, humid areas, not so much.

[@khaleesireyna731]

I have one and I use it during the day instead of AC to cut back on electric costs. I also live in the swampy southern US, so valid.

[@Aeriesan]

Man at first I was kind of understanding OP because having a parent move in can be a lot depending on the parent personality / size of house / etc. but after all the other stuff and the wife update OMG OOP left a LOT of his assholery out!! Goodness. Good on the wife

[@l.tc.5032]

I guarantee it's made up. Sounds fake OP and OP's wife are probably the same person trying to get karma for their sock puppets accounts.

[@psycojuggalo1642]

I fully agree I'm calling bs on the whole story and if not the wife is a huge C U N T ​@l.tc.5032

[@ondank]

Man cave - I was about to say I wanted someone to send this to OPs wife. The universe was clearly listening

[@MandyLina123]

Does OP even like his wife or her family because he be insulting her in the update lol. They need a divorce since they sound incompatible as a couple and she deserves better Edit: dear God, those updates are a dumpster fire but thank god she is leaving.

[@Rose-yt5hi]

That update was unhinged. Lmao!

[@kingturtle24k81]

😂😂😂I was all here for the show

[@MandyLina123]

@@Rose-yt5hi Oh yes, a dumpster fire we love watching unfold 😂

[@MandyLina123]

@@kingturtle24k81 I didn’t know I enjoyed drama tbh, but it was pretty amusing ngl lol

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

Wooooweeee, the jerk OP's wife is the bomb, that exploded in his doctor face. Once she unloads his massive ego, she, her dad and daughters will finally be free.

[@fionna_cool_girl]

40:00 i genuinely don't understand what this person is trying to say about cheating. Why should OP tell the mom first and allow her to weasel her way out of the disgusting thing she did??

[@elizahamilton5599]

Cause op posted on the infidelity subreddit which is full of disgusting people who try their hardest to justify cheating.

[@SkyEcho751]

I disagree with the people who say cheating is not all about Sex, while they are right it's _only_ about sex, it IS all about Lust. It is about self-gratification, the word we used to use was for that concept was Lust, but people made that all about sex and nothing else. Those who constantly pursue an addiction are those suffering under lust, cheating is all about lusting after someone outside the marriage much they will squander an existing relationship just to pursue it. If the partner is bad, if you have irreconcilable issues, or any other rudimentary problems, then either work on your marriage, or LEAVE. And if they are abusive, don't stoop to their level, be the better person and escape.

[@Papa_Waffles]

It usually ends up with sex, but cheating is because the initial relationship lacks something the other wants and gets to find someone that can provide it. Then a relationship forms from that and just like any other intimacy happens. Sometimes it is a lust thing, but other times it's a power thing, taboo excitement or resentment. The trigger that makes it happen are different the end result is sex.

[@LittleMaitea]

In case of my ex it was also about Control and power (aka the power to hurt me) … but a sociopath shouldn’t be put under the „normal cheater“ category

[@SkyEcho751]

@@Papa_Waffles I'd argue that the Resentment excuse is the only one that isn't about lust. Taboo Excitement & Exerting Power is usually buying into a fetish. They are turned on by cheating on their partner. Proper Resentment, like say getting into constant fights and try to get even, would more fall under Wrath. Initially about lashing out/taking revenge, focused on hurting the other person, rather then about satisfying yourself.

[@sherylsnell-massie3801]

It can be about lust - about dopamine - about connection - about validation. It isn't about lust only. But it doesn't matter whether you are tempted to cheat because you are seeking validation, connection, sexual release, etc; if you are tempted to cheat, reflect on why you aren't getting this in your relationship and if it is time to leave the relationship

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

40:02 who TF cares why she’s cheating?! That had nothing to do with what OP should do.

[@elizahamilton5599]

I’m pretty sure op posted the infidelity subreddit. That place is full of toxic cheaters!

[@DeathPunk11394]

YES! Needed this for the night. I love listening to longer stuff while I game! Thanks for the hard work Markee

[@DeathPunk11394]

OMG OP in the first story is so disgusting! How can you speak about your wife like that!?

[@DeathPunk11394]

BRO OP is gross. That shit is so funny the wife divorcing him. GO WIFE

[@missamanda2703]

Also, I'm a nurse, and surgeons are the most narcissistic people ever. I am disgusted by most of them. I work in hospice. When I was a surgical nurse, I had them try to initiate affairs with me on a daily basis, and back then, there was no accountability for their harassment. I left the hospital and went to help people pass in kind comfort. ❤ I no longer had to be stressed and screamed at. I get yelled at, but it's different. it's greif and frustration. It's not hateful or harassment they just do not know anything different to handle it. That's why I am here. So the grief is managed, and the patients pain is managed, and I can help them enjoy the last few months, weeks, or days.

[@MrBrachiatingApe]

I only know one surgeon (orthopedic) well (friend of my mom's who was an ER/everything nurse) and he was a super kind, decent man who took over his dead brother's practice while maintaining his own at half-capacity so that his widowed sister-in-law and nieces and nephews could continue to be supported, as all the income from his late' brother's practice went to the (now) owners--the widow and children. I think the only compensation he accepted was fuel for the plane he took? If that. Actually, I kinda knew another surgeon. Kinda. Heart surgeon. Legitimately a sociopath. Complete PoS.

[@kimholland4822]

I sent divorce papers to my ex to his office citing infidelity. I didn't put private on the the envelope. As I knew the secretary and other people who worked there from work party's it was soon going round the factory and I had a lot of calls. In the end some one found out who she was and got her the sack as she was under him and it's not allowed. My husband was given a warning not to do it again.

[@SH-qs7ee]

So wait, the younger junior got fired while the senior who was in a position of power, and should have definitely known better, only got a warning? I can't be the only one who thinks this is messed up, right?

[@KJxxoo]

I love that found an Aussie KZbinr who reads reddit stories! I love hearing you call people dickheads… I feel so at home 😊

[@mht4908]

The guy who destroyed all of his gf's stuff, I'm surprised her first thought wasn't to press charges immediately for theft and property destruction, a restraining order might be a good idea as well

[@ArcanineEspeon]

Oof, well, good thing she doesn't need to file for a restraining order anymore since he got deported! 😂

[@EH-dw3wb]

What’s wild about the surgeon guy is that I know a surgeon who adores his wife, absolutely loves his kids and cherishes every moment he gets with them. Is he busy? Yes. Is he an active member of his own family? Absolutely.

[@TheIronwil]

Cheating Mother: Who in the world would blame this on OP? And I’m sorry, but the complexities of infidelity aren’t something I’m overly invested in. No matter how complex life is, cheating is very simple. To avoid it, you don’t pursue others while in a committed relationship. The cheating starts long before sex is an option in nearly all cases. It’s a series of decisions. I’ve been with my wife for over two decades. I sometimes get attracted to other women, as I’m sure she feels attraction for others sometimes too. That’s simply a reaction, a feeling. When I feel attracted to someone else, I maintain enough “distance” between us that it never leads to flirting or inappropriate behavior. You know, because I’m an f-ing ADULT, and there’s a huge difference between a feeling and a decision.

[@TheIronwil]

Chinese woman/Spanish boyfriend: I’m so relieved OP is OK. I cannot believe the amount of abuse and vile treatment she endured.

[@lkayn4529]

Most people in abuse don't see the abuse. A friend of mine is currently in a financial abusive relationship. Everyone already gave her an intervention but she still kept saying her bf is not like that. Even her parents are aware but she still kept insisting to not break up.

[@ZombieSazza]

First story: guy hates his wife, hates his children, used his wife’s money to better his life, yeah, he deserves the loneliness that’s waiting for him. Here’s hoping the ex wife and her family are able to have happiness going forward.

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

I'd say that he is and always will be lonely. He won't be single for long; lots of women will put up with him for his money. But he will never have unconditional love.

[@melindalafevers7851]

So many people misquote that “blood is thicker than water”. The fuller quote is “The blood of the contract is thicker than the water of the womb”. It came about because centuries ago, contracts were often signed in blood. So basically, the original quote means the exact opposite of what most people think it does.

[@TrulySilentLie]

Almost right. It has nothing to do with contracts, the quote is “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.”. Your chosen circle is tighter than the ones you were born into.

[@charondusk5608]

​@@TrulySilentLie Actually, both of those are likely incorrect. The "covenant" version is attributed to two 20th century writers who both claimed it to be the "original" version from ancient times, but both were unable/unwillingly to provide evidence nor sources as to where they supposedly found it. On the other hand, "blood is thicker than water" has been evidenced in documentation for centuries.

[@Niccy530]

That covenant saying is actually from tumblr.

[@bunch_o_racket]

Holy crap the first guy needs to go ahead and leave so his family can move on and find someone that really cares about them.

[@emo7636]

Story 1, I had a repeating thought while listening to this. I strongly believe this husband doesn't want the FIL to move in to their house because he wouldn't be able to bring his mistress over to the house anymore. He can predict when the wife will be gone because she works, but if the FIL is always around then he can't bring a 'friend' over to play. He sounds gross. I feel like I have whiplash from all the bug-eyed jaw-dropping head turning I did.

[@khaleesireyna731]

Maybe I'm too accustomed to narcissitic a$$holes who have an overinflated ego and get their feelings hurt when the truth comes out, but the surgeon OP didn't shock me too much. What honestly had me horrified was the commenter who mentioned how they had a surgeon fiance who's dad tossed his mother aside like trash and she ended up taking her own life. THAT was beyond disgusting and I hope that the ex fiance has nothing but a life of misery for standing by and allowing that and I'm glad that commenter saw the writing on the wall and left.

[@sapphicgeek24]

The cheating spouses: Honestly, they both suck and I feel awful for their children.

[@justine8387]

For the Chinese food story, I believe that people have come before us give us gifts. I feel the women who have passed down those recipes in your family gave you the gift of being qble to rid yourself of this man before you had children together or his viokence escalated. Also, I dont know a single father who is worth his salt that wouldn't happily put himself on the line to free his daughter from that man. If OP reads this or someone in her position reads this remember, you come from a long line of survivor and one day your story of survival will be told by others, to give them strength and courage, in their dark times. You are already amazing, you just need to heal.

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

She had her chance to come clean 2 years ago. She continued her affair while make you a prisoner in your home as punishment and as a way to keep her affair secret. Get a lawyer and paternity testing done on all of your children

[@kittikats]

The guy that doesn't want a wedding - not even a dinner. OP then going on about how he doesn't do anything for her: no bday gifts, no dates, didn't take her to hospital when sick, didn't give her a ride when her car broke down. Thats just sad. The bar is in hell and he just limbos right under it. Why do other women accept so little?

[@someanon1984]

The cheating couple story is hilarious in a schadenfreude kind of way. 😂

[@ArcanineEspeon]

It is the clusterest of f*cks.

[@Loki-and-Thor]

Sounds like OP in the first story has modelled his character on House.

[@ZombieSazza]

Jesus, the Chinese lass having to deal with an entirely racist family is horrible, she was fully expected to deal with his whole families racism but the second she cooked traditional food from her culture? She’s suddenly the bad guy. OP deserved better and needs to work on her self esteem. The way he treated her when she was trying to break up with him was terrifying, he was volatile, broke her property, violent towards her dad and her, like what on earth?! I’m glad he’s in jail, Jesus CHRIST! Also please report his psycho family, they need reporting with every contact attempt they make. I hope she continues therapy, sounds like this relationship massively damaged OP in so many ways. Markee’s “this is not a güñ” has me DYING

[@aishas2497]

I have a feeling he was always awful to her but mostly verbally. Which she didn't realise was abusive too.

[@missamanda2703]

YTA. My dad passed the day after my honeymoon was over. I would give my husband up for 1 more conversation with him. I'm sorry, I was a kid when he passed. At 47, I realize that 20 was a child. I miss my daddy. If you make her make this choice, enjoy nothing but a man cave.

[@khaleesireyna731]

After those updates, I hope she cleans his egocentric, surgeon ass out so that he doesn't even have a mancave to search for his new bang maid in. Dude deserves nothing but scorn.

[@crazycat58]

I so want to give hugs to the op with the racist boyfriend. 😢 I've never had a bf make me feel like that but my own father and getting over that kind of abuse isn't going to be easy. I wish her the absolute best, one low self esteem girl to another. ❤

[@Ace-ed9yu]

The fiance that doesnt want a wedding - when OP said that their fiance told them they relied on their parents/family way to many times it brought up huge red flag- Abusers tend to try to separate their victims from their support system. Op's fiance was showing signs of being an abuser, and Im so, so glad op got out of there. Honestly suprised to see no one else commented about it.

[@ZombieSazza]

“He’s allowing racism, he’s surrounding himself with racism, he’s aiding and abetting racism” Yup, her partner doesn’t respect OP, he expects her to put up with very blatant and hateful racism and just accept it, it’s so depressing and awful. Plus his family had a horrid racist opinion? He wants pats on the back for “standing up” to racism? Yeah, I’m very glad she left, she deserved so much better OMG

[@thelifeandbreathofsamantha9878]

Honestly, if this man wants to save his marriage and his humanity, he needs to be in therapy. It sounds like everyone in his life he views as possessions and he’s not even aware of it. He saying he can’t connect with his girls, but he needs to go to therapy and figure out how to connect with people in general.

[@khaleesireyna731]

I think its too late for him. His last comment where he went on about his oh-so-important job saving humanity vs his wife's job was a huge mask slip. He doesn't see himself as the problem and he probably never will. The only thing he'll have is the question of why his kids don't talk to him 20 years from now.

[@Greeneyedcat99]

She wanted him around to keep the excitement in her affair. No marriage . No taboo. I guarantee after the divorce her affair will be over. Their interest for each other will be over.

[@nwilady1867]

Story 1. He doesn't love or respect his wife. I would hate to be his patient .caring so little about the people that he loves. How does he feel about his patients. He may have a God block complex, but he knows deep down inside he's killed several people. all doctors have.

[@TheScaletIbisNW]

Wow.... Just wow.... Why tf did he even marry his wife if he feels this way? This guy is such an ah. I really hope that the wife finds a better partner or frankly, just a better life.

[@l.tc.5032]

It's fake. I guarantee you this is just rage bait.

[@BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat]

18:32 Divorce 📃 papers.. hospital is the only place he is at most of the time.. other options? On the golf ⛳️ course or with the mistress LOL😮

[@thegirl4genius797]

Saying "It meant nothing" is the biggest BS and pisses me off every time I hear someone say it. It meant ENOUGH to risk everything you have. It meant ENOUGH to be willing to completely wreak your partner's life, your life, your affair partner's life, your affair partner's families life. It meant ENOUGH that so many people self delete because of it.

[@NicciFreeman]

Cheating Spouse trying to fix it: Plot twist the wife has been cheating since the 2nd baby. Revised: I wrote this before the update. I just knew that her being a warden was more than him cheating.

[@mikehilbert9349]

Absolutely. I was half asleep listening and was like, she is cheating. She was getting off on controlling him and cheating at the same time. She is all levels of evil.

[@maryann3820]

The karm she was talking about was his brother yelling at him and then dragging him to apologize to her.

[@mariehayes29]

The comment that said all surgeons have affair partners just to then have it validated by the wife saying she knows about his affair. Lol

[@Myaa1980]

Aw man that first story was brutal! I admire the wife for taking control and not being a doormat.

[@VidGirl88]

Story one: that megalomaniac is a surgeon. SHOCKER.

[@worldissuesmatter1643]

Story 1 reminds me of something I was told by several doctors: Do you know the difference between a surgeon and God? God doesn’t think he’s a surgeon.

[@DragonLady465]

That first story good lord, tell me you hate your wife without saying you hate your wife, what an asshat

[@littlegreycat]

1:42:13 buy himself a new computer. That's so money saving!!!

[@Deepossibility]

In the story where he threw everything out: I would ask him to go to the Dr. And let them know he has impulse issues all of a sudden, and personality changes. Hopefully they'll do a brain scan and see if it's a tumor.

[@mothertrucker936]

Dude, build a bloody shed in the yard. Many men have turned them into really nice man caves. How sad

[@kdhebskh]

They only know that Chinese food is panda express lol.. if you dont travel enough pls at least educate yourself lol..

[@nanrobbins2916]

The only-want-to-do-the -paperwork marriage rang true for me. We lived together for 22 years before getting married at a municipal building in Mexico and were married for 23 years. Never got a ring and he didn't celebrate any birthdays, anniversaries, holidays. The kids and I figured out after he died that he probably had Asperger's . A successful partnership overall. We just had to accept each other for who we were. I'd rather have the relationship over the extravagant party any day.

[@muhname6052]

Story one: surgeons are just highend service workers.

[@jonku]

Story 1:Chump got put on blast and chucked to the side to be with the side piece🤣🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍👍

[@TisOnlyAScratch]

15:30 - SHE'S A BOSS HERE! I LOVE IT!

[@vidhead85]

Oh god....the update is even worse. Does he even LIKE his wife? I see divorce in his future ANYWAY! Yeah I called it. Love that the wife just came in and crashed his house of cards completely. She wrecked him easily

[@thiamay7927]

Wow. Did not expect to here the Game Theory/Film Theory line today!! Lol, you made my day

[@francinetitherington4060]

Told dad about cheating Mom....wish I could reach out to the OP and let her know you CAN find love that lasts a lifetime. I did, my siblings, our only cousin, and my children ALL have found that lifetime partner.

[@ukchanak]

The poor daughter. If anyone is in this position, you can find love like that. It's hard work but you can. I feel so bad for her and her father and brother

[@mandylloyd]

Accidentally re-listening.....still just as mind blown as I was the first time over the white rice lol

[@Tar_Pick_Piano]

I’ve never had Chinese food that doesn’t have white rice. 21:50

[@shonnaallen2225]

Hahah I love how u started laughing listening to how much the 1st OP yelled how much he hate his wife without saying I hate his wife lmao

[@dianecheney4141]

When the wife goes for divorce she should get future wages for dad taking care of his grandkids. You know child care

[@ChinchillaQueen]

Goddamn...he compliments his wife that way? Way to talk someone into a divorce faster than snow melts in hell.

[@Nothingtoya]

Oh my, I couldn't imagine even being friends with the guy worried about his man cave. My wife and I just barely get by, however, when her grandmother started having a hard time getting around, I pushed the 2 of them to get her to move in with us.

[@gabinathan5499]

LIKE THE OP WHO WAS TREATED NASTY BADLY BY HER BOY-FRIEND I HAD SOMETHING SIMILAR HAPPEN TO ME I ENDED UP TRAUMATIC FOR YEARS. SEVERAL TIMES I WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF .

[@projectjupiter5523]

i am so sorry that happened to you. no-one deserves abuse of any kind and as is the case for the OP here, please know that you aren't stupid and it isn't your fault. the only person to blame for abuse is the abuser, not their target. if i'm reading your comment correctly, it sounds like you're now out of that situation, in which case, well done as it's hard to leave when horrid people have their claws in you but is so necessary as freedom from abuse is liberation like no other. if you're still in the situation in any way, i hope that you are able to exit as quickly and safely as possible. either way, i wish for you the utmost peace, happiness, and healing. you have been through so much but just like a diamond, surviving that excruciating pressure and getting out has allowed you to sparkle and shine in the way that you were always meant to. have an amazing life and i hope that no-one ever hurts you again ❤

[@Justheretowatch321]

I always find it so funny that surgeons are so soulless 😂 that ego eventually drowns them

[@shewolfinubaka]

Op’s update is WILD like he really does hate his wife

[@charliesangel1]

Markees comment about housewives of orange county made me chuckle

[@dreamart3395]

I’m really sorry Markee … I was trying to listen to your super long story compilation but kept falling asleep. Oh, no … you weren’t boring me … I was just really tired and thought if I just laid down for a while and listened to you I’d be ok. But, as I said … I kept falling asleep and having to go back a few minutes to start listening again. What kept waking me up was when you’d giggle and laugh. You’ve got quite the laugh if you didn’t know it already. And, as I said before I’d have to search for when I’d nodded off and start listening again. Well, the Sandman won … it’s nearly three hours later and I’m just waking up. Obviously I’m going to have to listen to this while sitting in a tub of ice water. That should keep me awake.

[@AwkwardLey]

I couldn’t believe the second update for the first story

[@petitmains]

Partner doesn't wanna get married? To the point where it sounds like OP is gonna end up on a life insurance murder episode of 20/20...

[@magnarcreed3801]

I like how dude unapologetically cheated but he’s the victim.

[@deballen7031]

Abuser bingo card? Strewth Markee, I'm both shocked and amused! 😊

[@creedom5676]

Matt Pat. 😂😂

[@ten5h1]

Passport Bros story: watch Hetalia. It’s an anime in which the characters are the countries exhibiting the stereotypes. Sealand is an adorable kid. Canada is polite and soft spoken, Italy can’t drive and loves pasta, and America constantly shouts “I’M THE HERO!!!!”

[@hilarymurray8741]

OP, sounds like you need to get one of those 'home office' buildings to put in the garden to turn into your mancave. You can equip it with all sorts, even a bed, power and running water. Either that or build a more substantial annexe for your FIL so he can be living with you but still have his own front door. Many older people prefer the bit of autonomy that bit of privacy provides while his daughter can still look after him as much as he needs. It will increase the value of your property as well.