My Roommate Is Trying To Kick Me Out So His Niblings Don't Go Into Foster Care r/Relationships

[@Deedoof]

Story 2: We adamantly protect the ones we care about the most and OP's bf cares the most about Dave. I hope the bf realizes what he's doing.

[@immapotato1]

totally doesn't sound like a closeted relationship and BF covering his grounds with the confession story when his partner said they'd out him to his beard.......

[@helianabanes4875]

I think the reaction from OP's BF is from one a surprise. It sounds like this happened months ago, and OP never brought it up. As a result, I can understand him needing to be hand fed, a bit, but it seems like he is understanding the situation much better now. Dave sounds awful, though. I had a boss that was similar to Dave, just super duplicitous, and catty.

[@yamairad1]

Yes, don't forget the theory of time relativity. You don't accidentally stay working more hours unless you enjoy it. Remember your first date with a loved one. Hours felt like minutes. That's the theory tone doesn't feel there sane based on your perspective of it. So, the fact that 9+hours just flew by means that he was incredibly enjoying Dave's company. Like when you are on those first dates with your partner.

[@Deedoof]

@@yamairad1 And we also _make_ time for the ones we love most, no matter how busy. People seem to miss this fact.

[@ItsjustJayxcer]

Isn't Dave also his boss tho, and the BF as OP admitted is a people pleaser. I agree that things are sus but after that context dump, I'm a little more inclined to think he's just trying to avoid workplace drama and being accusted of homophobia (I havent finished the story yet just me, my thoughts and some heavy copium lol)

[@EnDB]

OP living there first sealed it for me. He definitely shouldn't leave.

[@19nmiller1]

Story 2: OPs boyfriend is going to make an artroom with Dave

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Don't you mean, shart-room?

[@VelcroYuppie]

OP's boyfriend is adding an art room for Dave. 😂

[@Okamithegod]

Only the real ones know what’s up 😂

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

More like a shart-room.

[@satansecretary665]

you get an art room, you get an art room, everyone gets an art room!!!!

[@maryjanedodo]

100% D&D art room

[@josepherhardt164]

Beat me to it. I was going to post, "So when do we hear about the art room?"

[@jbgra2566]

2nd. Story: girl, just dump him. He's not worth the headache

[@juliearmfield2634]

All the bf is doing is blowing smoke up op' s butt.

[@babybookworm003]

I honestly got the impression of gaslighting from ops boyfriend

[@juliearmfield2634]

@@babybookworm003 oh definitely

[@jbgra2566]

@@babybookworm003 absolutely, he was trickle-truthing as much as he could

[@BNezzy]

near the end, OP is using a experience of hers to equate it to her BFs. Her situation was with a straight male who hit on her and confessed his attraction to her. A legit possible intercourse partner as she herself is a straight female. Her BF's situation is 1000% different in that he being a straight male got propositioned by a gay male. Two completely different situations and in no way relatable. The only way OP has any merit with this is if she herself thinks her BF is bi/gay. Now in what world do we advocate for a person being hostile towards someone and controlling another's relationships based upon peoples sexual orientation? Sounds more like OP is wresting with being gaslit by reddit that her BF might be gay and is reverting to being homophobic.

[@avaphynx]

Story 1 Roommate couldn't use correct discernment and decision making skills. That ended up losing his place. He isn't ready to raise children.

[@localvega688]

💯this!

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Ah, you noticed that. 😀

[@B1ack_1otus_Guidance]

I’m glad the landlord made the decision they made.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: Dave wants the boyfriend to build him an art room, whether or not the boyfriend is willing to is too be seen but OP should get out of there either way, boyfriend is willfully oblivious at best and into it at worst.

[@angelicakaufman7183]

I bet roommate thought he was being slick and if he started making it unbearable to live with him Op would move out and he would be able to keep the sweetheart apartment and deal

[@helianabanes4875]

Or maybe he was just driven crazy, and sick with worry for his sister's kids. Why would we think someone that would take in two kids, is also someone that is plotting against his roommate? That seems silly.

[@angelicakaufman7183]

@@helianabanes4875 somebody reacting in a protective parental way will do absolutely anything slick to protect the kids

[@localvega688]

@@angelicakaufman7183 Sad but true. OP needs to contact CPS about that POS's anger problem. Maybe that way he can get into some anger management classes and learn that he needs to control his anger and not take advantage of people if he wants to be a parent.

[@oreolover9321]

THIS!!!​@@angelicakaufman7183

[@flavialm1]

@@localvega688 That would make him th AS, the roomaid is clearly in distress, there's no reason to believe he has anger problems and reporting him would permanently jeopardise his case, this kids would be in foster care until they were 18 and God's know what they can go through in that time.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Ugh, that second post was annoying to hear, just two people that refuse to communicate properly. Obviously the BF sucks and Dave is a POS but it took OP months to even try to get her point across and express her displeasure at the situation.

[@amanda27miller]

Story One: I think that the kids need to remain in foster care. I know it’s a rough situation, but it doesn’t sound like the roommate has the mental fortitude to handle the stress that life with kids can bring. I’d worry about them in his care. Why would you yell at an adult, who can defend themselves? It makes me wonder what he’d be like with the kids.

[@localvega688]

I was just thinking the same.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@localvega688 Same three. “I’m in a stressful situation so I’ll just be a dick to the guy who got me a good housing situation in the first place.” This guy is in no way prepared to take care of kids.

[@hvymax]

Boyfriend and Dave getting some Broke back action 😂😂😂

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Except neither wants to quit.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

Last story: OP is NOT being homophobic. In fact, she’s recognizing David as a fellow person who could date her bf. She takes him being gay seriously and treats him as an equal.

[@BNezzy]

I know what you mean but being devils advocate/trollish to make a point: sounds like if it was a straight guy OP would have no problems hanging around him. She is scared of BF being around Dave because Dave might take her BF as Dave is gay. Being scared of something is called a phobia. The guy is gay so that means factually she is homophobic as she is scared of him because he is gay. So in a literal situation where homophobia exists, people make excuses for it because he is "competition". Not to mention OP (and many commenters) are accusing Dave of grooming a straight male (implying this by worrying over BF entertaining Dave's courting) which anytime some one points that out society and the progressive left call them homophobic. Also odd how those same people also deny and say gays dont groom people. Odd eh?

[@BNezzy]

add to the point, reddit gaslit OP into thinking her BF is bi/gay or could be bi/gay. You can see it in her writing from the first posts to the last how her views on Dave and her BF changed as that seed grew in her mind. IMO BF is just self centered and not good at taking other's emotions into account (ie OP who is his GF). Almost like he is in his 20's lol.

[@BNezzy]

the double standards and hypocrisy that liberal progressives put on situations like this make them even worse human beings that just a regular bigot person IMO.@@jackchop1576

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

@@BNezzy im gay. Im pan. Its not phobic to assume someone who is gay is an option for your partner if they are comparable. What? Homophobia isn’t defined by its root words either. Yall don’t know how the terms work and try to argue the root words mean so and so like it’s not an evolving concept. The entomology guy has a video on the word homophobia you should go watch. Phobia as a MEDICAL diagnosis and phobia as a LOOSE SOCIAL term are very different.

[@BNezzy]

the fact you added the term pan to already stating you are bisexual says all I need to know. Have a great day fellow human.@@drewthistlethwaite8909

[@OneMinuteCreepyClips]

Story One: What?? You can't move into someone else's place and then try to kick them out just because the rent is good and your circumstances have changed! That guy moved into HIS place! NTA!

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Well, there might be something like this on Reddit, but I’m surprised that nobody brought the fact that If roommate has a temperament like this, I’m wondering how he’s going to deal with taking care of those kids. I get that the situation was stressful, but he was being a total dick.

[@localvega688]

Exactly this!!

[@Mermain123]

"i get that the situation is stressful" what does he think raising kids will be like? especially 2 kids who just lost their mother. like even if it wasn't via death their mother is essentially out of the picture. these kids are going to be a mess and ope's roomate just doesn't seem like the kind of guy who could handle it

[@335chr]

​@@Mermain1233 kids

[@garthrogers2269]

1st story. OP is going to have a rough time with his roommate going forward, if the niblings end up in the system. Edit: Roommate forgot the sweet rent deal was because of OPs relationship with the landlord. By ending the lease, OP gets to keep their deal, but in another unit. Dave story. OP isn't being homophobic. OP is treating Dave as a threat to her relationship, which he is, since Dave declared his love for OPs partner and trash talking OP. OP would treat any heterosexual woman the same way, for the same reasons.

[@zafarsyed6437]

Markee, Story 2, 45 seconds in, we all thought it: ART ROOM

[@missinformed9550]

The roomate is not thinking clearly about taking in three children. He likely has no idea what it takes to care for them when it comes to housing, food, school, transportation. The roomate is woefully unprepared and needs to face the reality of his situation.

[@localvega688]

This is true and with his anger problem he's not fit to be raising children period.

[@lillypharaoh5945]

Whatever tf he's willing to provide is better than foster care don't get me started on the child SA statistics.

[@missinformed9550]

@@lillypharaoh5945 He doesn't have anything to offer, despite his desire.

[@lillypharaoh5945]

@@missinformed9550 well he is offering not r*pe them or get them hooked on dr*gs Roommate 2 Foster care 0

[@lillypharaoh5945]

@@missinformed9550 he offers not to r*pe them or delete them Roommate 1 Foster care 0

[@Bleg94]

2. Story: Oh the boyfriend is building an art-room? Update: I think it's called "willfully ignorant"

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Shart-room.

[@sterngerlach9184]

Story 1: I suspect that roommate already was planning to play rich uncle at OP's expense when he first moved in. He knew what his sister was.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 2. Nta but I'm having a hard time believing that the boyfriend was really that naive in clueless. The boyfriend is coming off shady and like he's just blowing smoke up her butt. The smartest thing she could do is get her running shoes out and run. Good old Dave is trying to break down so he can build him back up to what he wants

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

NTA. Children’s services will require that the boy have his own room. Yes, relatives do get money in the states. I have my brother’s daughter and her sister who isn’t related to me. I get paid child support for them. They have many resources to help with expenses

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Relatives get money in SOME states. That is not the case for all states. The US is like 50 separate countries with an overseeing body. Just because something works one way where you live does not mean it's that way everywhere. I'll use divorce as an example. In some states there is a requirement that you be separated for a year. Some states they won't give you a divorce if you're pregnant & you have to wait until you've had the baby. One or 2 states you can get divorced in a month. It works the same way for all family law & this would fall under a family law categorization.

[@redessa01]

I wonder if the uncle misunderstood the "2 bedrooms" thing. The social worker probably meant the kids would need at least 2 bedrooms, not 2 bedrooms total.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@@redessa01 They'd likely accept the kids having 2 bedrooms & him sleeping on the couch in some places so he might not be wrong about that. It's hard to say without knowing the location though.

[@redessa01]

@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 You're right, that could be the case.

[@habituallearner7680]

Truthfully, the roommate sounds like he has temper problems and might not be the best custodian for those kids anyway.

[@leegraves8878]

Story 2 sounds like they're making an art room.

[@shells500tutubo]

15:10 "he's been very against seeing me when he's already made plans". This right there. Op is just in a compartment in her bf's mind, and he doesn't want that compartment to mix with any of the other compartments. She doesn't really have a bf, but she likes the IDEA of having one, thus this back and forth with him instead of just kicking him to the curb. I don't even think he would be bothered, and she knows that deep down. We also only have bf's word on what was happening. For all we know, bf was hitting on Dave.

[@porter0311]

Sounds to me like Dave has an art room for Story 2's SO and the two have been spending a LOT of time in it.

[@myrabeth77]

😂 I was looking for an Art Room comment!

[@Chen_Han]

Aussie hubby... Mark you can't just say these things out of nowhere. 😳😳😳😊

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story one no, if he wants the kids he needs to be able to afford it. Their lives are not more important than yours, this isn’t your problem. He can leave.

[@helianabanes4875]

I have to disagree. Him saving money, and buying a house, is not more important than RESCUING two kids from the absolute hell that is the foster care system.

[@kp2223]

​@helianabanes4875 but that's not the landlord's problem.

[@niyablake]

@@helianabanes4875 You mean for the room mate. For him nope .He was there first. Room mate needs to figure it out not OP. What you are suggesting is that OP should be homeless c since they can not afford another apartment .

[@Kris-wo4pj]

Dude cant afford the kids at all. So no foster care is probably better. Its not all abuse and neglect some foster parents are better than actual family​@@helianabanes4875

[@fenris96]

@@helianabanes4875it’s never too early to learn the world blows and you gotta look out for your self in the end if you really want to thrive.

[@patc4586]

Anniversary Freak-out: She's 26 years old!? GET A CALENDAR!!! CIRCLE THE IMPORTANT DATES!!! My teenaged sister had a calendar on the back of her bedroom door. She circled her 1, 2, 3rd, etc. month anniversaries. Again...TEENAGERS CAN DO IT. What do these guys do for a living, again? Hopefully nothing where they're responsible for someone else's well-being. SMH 🙄 OMG 😂😂😂

[@hiphopapotamus6913]

What? If it’s in the U.S. Kinship fosters DO get a stipend 100%. I would know, I was one and my nephew is now 10

[@BusArch42]

Absolutely true. So I don’t know what this guy is talking about. I think the room mate was lying

[@aj628]

Markee It's the art room all over again.

[@mm9374]

Dave is out and out creating a hostile work environment. First the pass and dissing his relationship, the when he was promoted he backed off that, but started the “beefy” business, and the concerns about work schedule. This pass and subjecting him to ridicule in the office should probably be taken to HR.

[@carolrondou6161]

Go to HR. Dave is a predator and is creating a hostile work environment. Perhaps BF loves the attention and drama?

[@anthonygilmour6236]

The biggest AH in story one is the Roommates sister

[@sylokthedefiled7650]

And the various unhelpful social systems.

[@dcg590]

@@sylokthedefiled7650unhelpful? You expect everyone else to pay for bad choices dont you? Why should anyone get tax payers $ because they mess up? I dont think anyone deserves a dime. Youre problems, you deal with them. Why should the rest of us responsible people pay your way?

[@UchuKejiMovan]

Story 1 OP is NTA strictly because it's none of his concern where those kids go to live

[@Peeges_]

Side note for story two: I am 26(f) and have general anxiety. When I have a set plan in mind,(ex: spending time with my s.o) and it doesn’t go the way I planned, I spiral in very much the same way. In the moment, it’s the end of the world. I can actively tell myself to stop, it’s not that serious, etc. but it still FEELS like the worst possible thing has happened to me. When I’ve calmed down, and I’ve thought of a solution, I laugh at myself. It’s actually surprisingly common.

[@SunnyD74]

Yeah, it seems hard for people like Markee who don’t know what anxiety feels like or rejection sensitive dysphoria to comprehend that we aren’t behaving like a 16 year old, but our brains are messing with us and we can’t react rationally at every moment.

[@helianabanes4875]

Yeah, I really didn't appreciate Markee's attitude towards OP. Like, wtf? She didn't even say it was the worst thing ever. She recognized her feelings, and which of them were irrational, vented them, and sought outside perspective. That seems incredibly mature, and self aware, to me. Great problem solving. Feelings happen, to everyone, not just 16 yr olds. Idk what is going on with Markee lately, but he just seems unnecessarily harsh.

[@kichikitsu]

@@helianabanes4875 Right?? Glad others have also pointed that out; thought I was going crazy at how out of left field his attitude felt. And honestly OP didn't even feel that irrational. Just normal human feelings about an accident that she worked through normally.

[@Peeges_]

My comment wasn’t meant to be overly critical of Markee or his attitude toward OP, nor did I (personally) find it offensive. I understand that someone who does not suffer with anxiety, or process thoughts in the same way may not understand. A lack of understanding leads to misconceptions. (Like being childish/immature/ unstable, etc.) I was merely pointing out that this is a more common problem than he thinks, and something people struggle with everywhere. Love you Markee ✨❤️

[@spibow]

​@@helianabanes4875seriously!! He said it and I had to double take. Wtf?? OP was reasonably a little upset, not acting like a 16 year old. I have a sibling around that age and OP is so reasonable and rational in how they dealt with this.. worst thing ever. Words in her mouth.

[@addicted2mako]

Story 2: Let me see. Dave has through this situation: confessed to being in love with OP's boyfriend while talking about how much better he'd be for him than OP, refuses to distance himself, and started calling BF fat after getting rejected. Guys, gals, and non-binary pals, looks like we have found a gay niceguy!

[@curleyqreviews9793]

You're right

[@lizartfight9157]

I was expecting an art room to be mentioned in story 2 at some point. Also sweet pete that was a downer place to stop

[@wyvern723]

That whole situation with Dave sounds seriously problematic.

[@anonymousyoutuber1405]

Story one: In the state of Florida, relatives are also given caregiver funds. I don't know about other states but doing a service to the community entities you to a stipend even if you're blood.

[@brandinicole1372]

Same in Illinois

[@dcg590]

Which is basically making tax payers pay for your problems.

[@robinronin]

The goofy cowboy-wannabe-detective hat is killing me 😭😂

[@Swamp_Queen]

brokeback mountain!

[@Fangybite]

Omg that one commenter under the story about Dave... Yes. I had a friend in high school who at one point confessed to liking me. I told her I loved her but I wasn't into other girls. She went total psycho, badmouthing me to everybody possible. We didn't stay friends...

[@carlrood4457]

Cue "art room" references

[@twiggygrl84]

Wonder when the BF is gonna admit he's setting up an Art room for Dave....

[@PowerStruggle555]

if they were barely able split rent on a 2 bedroom. how is friend going to pay for rent being alone when he has 3 more mouths to feed, they will have needs as well (clothes, keeping them sane, etc)....plus being the sole renter? I feel for him, I really do. but realistically unless he got snap, got paid by the govt for fostering, landlord gave him a bigger deal (since op stated they already got a deal)....a 2nd job, etc. it wouldnt work. I also can see how the friend can live in a 2 bedroom with 3 kids not same gender. he sleeps on a pullout. the kids split the rooms. not best for him but cps would tell him he'd have to.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

Story 2: The OP's boyfriend and Dave should have gone to HR and asked for a lateral transfer. This is obviously going to turn into sexual harassment at some point unless they work at a restaurant.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

Having listened all the way to the end...it 100% has become sexual harassment. Rejected him and NOW he's fat? BF is doormat and has some reall issues to work through. Sorry Brokeback Markee, I think he's just oblivious.

[@slimecorn]

Last relationship sounds absolutely miserable. I couldn’t put up with it

[@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon]

That last one, the Saga of Dave, has me thinking that OP and her boyfriend are both chronically emotionally constipated lol. I mean that in the sense that they're both terrified of rocking the boat and feeling strongly about _anything,_ so you get the boyfriend lying by omission and with "white lies", and the girlfriend not making clear that she's actually _upset_ by the unfolding situation. The boyfriend later says "I didn't think any of this was a big issue for you, it didn't occur to me that you'd want to know," which is nuts. Oh, and about then he says he feels awkward with Dave now and the girlfriend is surprised by this news because he "seemed fine" emotionally. They just have terrible communication and are terrified of most forms of conflict. I would normally say that they deserve each other, but they're just going to make each other miserable.

[@NewYawkahBroad]

Story 2: The Brokeback Mountain cowboy hat and the singing! I'm DYING!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@gabinathan5499]

I SUSPECT that OP'S BOY-FRIEND IS SCARED OF DAVE bcause he is now his supervisor as being his friend. DAVE does what he LIKES bcause he has the power to.

[@zeevanatashazazhinne3136]

I'm dying! Markee and an oiled up Hulk Hogan 😂😂😂

[@smyl665]

I love Snarkee Markee!!!🤠

[@LisaApril]

Story two: people pleasers are ready made victims. It's unfortunate, but I don't think anybody else would've handled the situation the way the boyfriend did and Dave would've already been fired.

[@HoneyBakedHamlet]

Its 4am currently so yes, i will be falling asleep. Then when i wake up, i go about my routine and re-listen. 🤷🏼‍♀️🫶🏼

[@SeeJthrive]

"And hopefully not falling asleep" I sometimes listen to these videos when I want a mid day nap 😂 That's not the only time, though!

[@colleens1107]

Story one: gods I feel awful for those kids but man their Uncle has no common sense. Good on OP for not letting the roommate chase him out of his own place

[@DragonTwin88]

Story 2: In OPs place I would have made up a story about how a close friend of mine (a female) is hitting on me. Its nothing serious though. I did talk to her and make sure she knows that I am in a commited relationship and not interested. But we totally still hang out and go for drinks. She completely understood and is now over me. Then just wait for him to ask to stop hanging out with her because that is a bad situation. And when that occurs just say "but i thought we could hang out with people who confessed their love to us because it wont ever happen?"

[@austinfowler2707]

Story one the roommate nuked his own chances by pushing and pushing. He had the best chances anyone could have asked for to achieve his goal of getting his niblings. Then he kept pushing.

[@tonykuo4292]

Story 2: sure they were working on DnD for hours

[@David-mh4jg]

When you roleplay it could keep you up all night 😉

[@catherinecox573]

As someone who plays, I find it 100% believable that it took 3 hours to make one character 😅 But the many hours of drinking afterwards was totally unnecessary.

[@MysticMae21]

I take hours making one character as I like to figure out a backstory and base the abilities and stuff around what they would have based on that. I've spent days making one character before.

[@shaystizzy]

Last story. The BF did not apologize to OP at all. He apologized for how she was feeling about the whole thing, which is not an actual apology. The BF is either actually into Dave or he's afraid of retaliation, which he's is already getting at work for rejecting Dave in the first place. I would have sympathy for the situation BF is in if it wasn't for how he completely invalidated OP'S feelings. Long story short, OP needs to dump BF.

[@Hunter-vp3he]

Markee’s side commentary has me dyingggg. I still crack up at “quinoa pilaf”.

[@sersastark]

affordable housing takes months even years to get one once youre on the list. its not the quick and easy option that most think it is.

[@brandinicole1372]

It depends on where you apply for housing. Smaller towns it can take was little as 90 days. Larger cities I totally agree.

[@rubymeaddle]

Story One: Family members should absolutely be given a stipend by the government for foster care, that's the best way to keep families together.

[@dcg590]

Nope. Your problem, you pay for it. It’s not the tax payers job to keep your family together. Always defaulting to spending money you didn’t earn. Taking from those of us who either don’t make poor decisions, or had any situations we have nothing to do with. Deal with your own problems without handouts.

[@britnicox3929]

2: there was another update I saw where Dave tried to accuse the bf of trying to come after him romantically at work when the bf tried to set boundaries, and I think maybe leaving the job, and it finally clicked that Dave was truly a piece of shit. I think it was eventually exposed as a lie but it still soured the bf’s reputation at work.

[@toriibarlow]

Me: opens video to fall a sleep Markee: hopefully not falling asleep! Me: 😮😅 how does he know?

[@bridgetw8688]

Story 1: I actually think the children are probably better off where they are because it’s clear that OOP’s roommate is not mature enough to take care of children. He clearly can’t even take care of himself. I would feel bad for the kids if they ended up with him.

[@HubiKoshi]

Story 1: So even if he'd manage to get rid of the OP what's the guarantee that he'll be able to keep the place? The deal seems to be that whoever owns the place lets them live there for cheap in exchange for that favor they are doing the owner. So if OP gets kicked out and Roommate moves in kids it feels like that deal will be compromised anyway.

[@sydniec4632]

"And hopefully not falling asleep" ... called out. I'm trying to get up in the morning to go to work right now haha

[@katbird5872]

I’m sorry Markee but I definitely use your videos to fall asleep sometimes 😅. But that just means I can watch it again!

[@tfrtrouble]

She's upset about not holding a first date anniversary sacred? A first date anniversary?! Seriously, are they still in high school? I hope this poor guy gets away from his sexually harassing boss AND his controlling drama llama girlfriend (and I say that as a woman).

[@krtheluna332]

I celebrated my anniversary with my partner. It’s based on our very first date because that’s when we met, and we’ve been together ever since. I think it varies couple->couple. I don’t think it’s that strange. And I also don’t think the GF is controlling either in that situation.

[@tfrtrouble]

@@krtheluna332 Sure, but they have been together less than one year (it is the first anniversary of their first date) and this wasn't a tradition for them they were both excited about. If people want to both celebrate a first date anniversary, good for them, but this is really not such a commonly accepted big milestone (like birthdays or wedding anniversaries) that you can assume your partner will remember it and treat it as a big deal and and be angry when they don't.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

The intro including, "It's your Aussie husband Markee." always gives me a chuckle. If I spelled that wrong my apologies. I'm not Australian so don't have much need to spell that short form.

[@lcoq19]

The "oiled up Hulk Hogan" comment took me out! 😂😂

[@scruffylookingNerfherder5742]

Put me in a room with oiled up Hulk Hogan?!!! Dude, did you really have to put that image in my head!

[@cyreneB]

was bullied out of an apartment once to by an ex-roommate, I got out because I feared for my safety

[@dja3456]

Story 2 they did the dirty. Cause if a guy friend of mine told me they wanted to try id be up

[@ALunarLight]

Story one you can Foster family, i have my cousin 2 kid. We took them in for a month without being paid and then become their foster parents by taking the classes and got paid for that, then subsided guardianship which is nice because I don't know if I could afford them without it.

[@emo7636]

Story 1, Yes, relaives can and do still receive money for foster placements. So this roommate is either incompetently uninformed or is lying so this OP will agree to move out. Either way, there's not enough bedrooms in this place for 3 kids when 1 of them is required to have their own room, which is a dumb rule to me. You could theoretically have fraternal twins, one boy and one girl, who have grown up sharing a room and feel that's there 'safety zone'. Then some social worker removes them and suddenly they're no longer allowed to share a room because of the 'opposite sex' rule, it can be disruptive if that's their only family and that's who they feel safe with. But sometimes it's best when the foster placement is not a relative if the relative is ignorant of their needs and ignorant as to what actually has to be done. This roommate relative sounds like he's not a good fit to have 3 kids under his constant care.

[@Dragonemperess]

BF is gonna build an Artroom.

[@Nevertoleave]

Sounds like the roommate should be saving up and trying to get a better job or another job and talking to a social worker to try and get government help. And trying to keep constant contact with the kids so he can prove he wants them

[@natalieg1779]

OP2 is freaking exhausting.

[@clockwork3494]

S2: I haven't seen anyone mention this, but if OP's bf _really_ is worried about Dave controlling his holiday, pay, promotion chances etc because he's now his supervisor, then _why_ would he not report and get this on record with HR? Making it clear there's a huge power dynamic at play with the chance Dave could use this position to blackmail him and therfor one of the two should be moved if not have Dave fired should be top priority for bf's job security, no? OP's bf is either as dense as a brick or he really is into Dave and is telling white lies. OP deserves better either way and the bf needs to set boundaries or remove Dave from his life, because that dynamic doesn't sound healthy.

[@nancynull1472]

After 35 years of marriage, with multiple of the years being a both in the military/ followed by being a military wife, i can say without a doubt days dont matter. If something that was pre-planned or work conflict over laps an important day like anniversary etc just celebrate it when schedules allow. Stressing out about celebrating on the specific day should be a non issue. The important thing is to celebrate the occasion without stress.

[@TuAmigoElMorrocoy]

Haha, you said "not following asleep" its funny because I use your vids to fall asleep. I have ADHD and cant sleep at night. Your vids really help me have something to focus and i can be more physically and mentally calm before bed ❤️

[@TailsFan]

S!: "Now he wouldn't be able to save money" Does he really think he can save any money when he has two kids old enough to need their own rooms to take care of?

[@jayryro]

me: aw sweet, new markee video just in time for my nap! markee: where i'm gonna be reading stories from reddit and you're gonna be listening to me... and hopefully not falling asleep... me, all cooed up in bed for a nap: 👁️👄👁️

[@Markee]

😂

[@BabydollXyla]

Watching your videos is legitimately the best part of my day

[@aprilfox9205]

Uhhhm, he's not oblivious. They have been playing hide and go suck for awhile. If she investigates this further I can guarantee there's so much more to this...🙄

[@frankhooper7871]

I'm a cis gay man and a straight woman friend once expressed an interest in moving our friendship to another level (she was unaware that I was gay - it's not something I've ever kept hidden; it just hadn't come up). I explained the situation, but eased off the friendship; I wouldn't have been comfortable continuing the friendship knowing her feelings. IMHO, OP's boyfriend is having an emotional affair with Dave, even if not a physical one. ETA: had to Google "negging" LOL - Learn something new every day, even in one's 70s.

[@LovesGaming37]

Story two: the bf and Dave hooked up for sure

[@DragonArbock]

I find the bedroom thing funny. Children used to share rooms all the time.

[@milaskundric]

u saying hopefully not falling asleep as im turning this on in bed to help me fall asleep 😅 literally cant fall asleep without your voice

[@LordGertz]

Whose name is on the lease? Residential managers often do not have the same protections on their residence, loss of job means eviction or return to full market rate, usually there is either a month to month lease or wording in contract about leaving the apartment or loss of the discount. It does vary be jurisdiction. Because it's a position that can't go unfullfilled the space is needed.

[@TheScaletIbisNW]

Bf was sus from the start. Anniversaries are important, especially to women. Men by 26 know this and don't skip.them to play D and D if they want to keep their SO's. Run. Bf has chosen Dave.

[@cieraallen5888]

Double Feature?❤ you do care!

[@nightdweller6446]

S1. NTA first in, last out. Room-mate was last in and he'll need a bigger flat anyway. Doubt landlord would want 3 kids added to the flat. Sorry but this is on the flatmate to rehome himself and take advantage of the system to prop him up. S2. Colour me old but a 1st date anniversary? Seriously? That's a thing? Getting your knickers in a knot over it? Is that really worth getting worked up about? Concentrate on the relationship not inconsequential milestones. S3. Ah, and now we see why the first date anniversary was such a big deal. Dave, it's all about Dave. The drama is Davecentric. The fact that Dave is now bfs supervisor ,putting Dave in a position of power now, makes all this sketchy af. Dave needs to be de friended. BF needs to realise the boundaries he's falling all over. Unless he acknowledges this, BF needs to go.

[@marchyatt9158]

Howdy cowboy.

[@annamarczuk2030]

Story 2 OP's boyfriend had a date with his coworker and he doesn't understand why his gf didn't like that 🧐 After hearing the ending it sounds like the bf is in denial about being a victim because of stereotypes that it's only what women can experience. 🤦

[@missamanda2703]

If you're in the States, family members are paid. You are required to go through licensing. They can help with housing and a stipend.

[@MalkavianGhoul]

I was not prepared for the Hulk Hulgan comment

[@bearcat999]

Omg, that second story was EXHAUSTING. I could never deal with such a headache and a bf like that. Immediate relationship ender for me. Idk if the bf is seriously that oblivious or what, but I would not be able to deal with that, also Dave just no no nope ew

[@ennamatilda269]

Man I actually listen to these at night in order to fall asleep and now you say you dont want me to😅😅😂 i do listan to these during the Day from Spotify so I dont miss out😊