i REGRET losing my virginity

[@quishaiesha]

Im 26 and im still a virgin I've come to terms with the fact that I don't want to lose it because I've never been anyone's top pick, and I never will be in my life and also because people tend to sleep around alot and its better to be safe then to catch something I can't cure.

[@deborahkm.95]

First of all you will DEFINITELY be someone’s top pick, don’t speak that over yourself ever!!! See this as preservation for the right person who is going to, great care, love and show respect on sharing that part of intimacy with you.

[@talkswithhelena]

Girl don’t speak like that about yourself please.

[@Lordwearehungryforyou]

You are God’s pick! He created you for a purpose! Isaiah 62:4 ESV You shall no more be termed Forsaken, and your land shall no more be termed Desolate, but you shall be called My Delight Is in Her, and your land Married; for the Lord delights in you, and your land shall be married.

[@titlepending1302]

Omg this is exactly how I feel

[@nharnahamabea9579]

It's good You wanna keep Yourself until marriage but please have a positive mentality towards finding true genuine love and to be treated right ❤

[@fedoratheexplorer2038]

This video just showed up on my feed at the right time. I'm a virgin, and my boyfriend (not a virgin) has been pressuring me for sex. I started thinking of just having sex with him to make him happy, but this video seems like a sign. I'm definitely not ready, and I've always wanted my first time to be special and with a man that I know undoubtedly loves me. Thanks for this video. ❤

[@talkswithhelena]

Girl please make sure you’re ready! Sex is a serious thing and you can’t just have it with anyone. If you know he’s the right one and you’re ready, follow your heart but do not pressure yourself.

[@HumbleChilduk]

Be strong minded and firm. Sex isn’t a joke, he shouldn’t be pressuring you either. It’s your body and that’s the most empowering part! This is from someone who is 27 who hasn’t, it’s odd but I feel so empowered. Personally, I’m waiting for marriage so that’s a big motive for me.

[@nharnahamabea9579]

Great Sweetheart..please let nothing push You to doing something You're not ready for yh...know Your worth and guard it unapologetically ❤

[@Urmom-f9d]

Gurlll dontttt

[@nadzk2003]

alhamduliah 20 and still a virgin.. not loosing it till i'm married

[@I.am.PRECIOUS]

It will be worth the wait

[@nadzk2003]

@ Insha Allah🤲🏽

[@nharnahamabea9579]

This is soo Great..keep it up Sweedy

[@skboomba]

Girl the vocals on virginity ate fr🤣 but I love ur personality and this made me feel better about being a virgin at 21 lol

[@talkswithhelena]

😂😂❤️

[@renemae8601]

I’m only 19 and I’m really scared to lose my virginity tbh and I’m an emotional person so I KNOW it’s over for me when I finally choose to sleep with someone. I’ve made it an oath to myself that I will only ever sleep with someone I’m in a relationship with.

[@charitykewal9718]

and make him wait, i was 20 when I lost mine,and we dated for 9 months until we did it. 3 years later and still together

[@trishac.1572]

Wait until marriage. I promise you it will be the best decision you will ever make

[@Girlgonewise]

Wait for marriage hun. I was a 20 year old virgin when I got married. I have no regrets.

[@legalimmagrant]

girl same here 😭 I’m almost 20 and I’m so emotional it’s not even funny, I’d never get over it

[@ShanequaBlack]

Yeah girl trust me its really not worth it if you don't like the person that much or they're not serious about u.. the memory will be stuck in ur head forever its seriously unforgettable.. hell, u will be comparing the 1st person to the 2nd person which will be pretty ass. And if that person wasnt serious about u and u were it'll hurt really bad bc u gave up something that u valued so much

[@acidicsoul4978]

I'm 22, met a guy last year, we really liked each other. Got to a topic, I asked about his body count, he laughed and said he lost count.. he asked me and I said I'm a virgin he then said " I can't be with someone who is inexperienced".. my confidence dropped we stopped talking a few days after. Can't date after that, rather die a virgin then to keep it till "marriage" 🙌

[@Shynegaltemzyyy]

Girl dat is messed up, means he was trash form the start bc who says somn like dat. U will surely find the one🥹

[@_AMD24]

This happened to me as well. I say rejection is God's protection, that young man revealed himself. The one is out there for you luv.

[@talkswithhelena]

Girl you dodged a bullet! I had the same exact thing said to me from some guy when I was a virgin.

[@fionagallagherapologist5968]

i hope you don't beat yourself over this, it happened but it did not lower your worth as a woman! i am 20, and still a virgin and this video helped a lot solidify the fact that i don't want to lose it anytime soon :)

[@123reletive123]

I was 26 when I lost mine, I waited 26 years and I wish I continued to wait. Hold on to it ladies 😩

[@vanessarickford6260]

I lost mine at 17 to the wrong man and now I'm 22 and regret it 😢 He was my first boyfriend and I never dated any man since he tried to S'A me

[@RyanThatGuy07]

I'm 26 and still a virgin, i'm just waiting for the right girl and just don't wanna give it away to anyone, to me it's very special a once in a life time thing, yeah people will make fun of you here and there for still doing it but don't let that pressure you to do what you don't want to

[@oalatishe]

I love these chats😆 the self awareness and growth sprinkled in with the humor!

[@lapidida]

I lost my virginity at 17 to an adult and every day I regret loosing it Cause I was child and he was a 23 or 24 at the time (note we got together when I was 16) He only got with me cause he likes going after little girls that are virgins So my advice to every girl wait until you're married

[@I.am.PRECIOUS]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. You will find someone who is worthy of you

[@AaliAffirmations]

I’m trying to lock in and listen but you’re funny af 😭

[@talkswithhelena]

😂😂😂😂❤️

[@LittIeMissVee]

I regret it because he just left afterwards. I thought we'd be together forever because he asked me to be his gf . Now i feel like i'm not valuable and no other man will like me.

[@vanessarickford6260]

Same here I lost mine at 17 and now I'm 22 regretting it 😢 My abüs!ve ex

[@mary-annesade]

The timing of this is crazyyyy I feel so heard thank you so much for this video sis ❤

[@talkswithhelena]

You’re welcome girl❤️

[@sarahoop5859]

Yes girl 21 and still a virgin bc one man to mi pum pum yeahhhhh

[@M_Kru]

I was laughing so much during some parts of this with the accent. Then when you said the sleep demon thing i spat my coffee out 😂😂😂 and 12:21 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭 the expression and voice got me

[@talkswithhelena]

😂😂😂😂😂but it’s trueee

[@Dlopped]

Im 13 years old and I don’t even know why I’m watching this video because I’m still so young to even be worrying about this stuff😭 But honestly this video came at the right time because it’s been on my mind a lot lately, at least one of my friends have talked about how they had already lost their virginity like it’s the most normal thing ever (for someone that age) and I felt so out of place because people treated it as the norm and obviously I didn’t. But anyways, even though I’m still young my virginity has always been something very important to me. I almost never wanna lose it honestly, because I’m sooo afraid of not finding someone who is truly the one. Even with marriage, what if they divorce me or the marriage turns sour and I’ll wind up feeling ashamed and wasted. In this society it’s so hard to find true love, so imagine what the next 10 years will be like. Like my friends are over here talking about building up their rosters and stuff, and I’m like girl we aren’t even halfway through the school year yet!! Idk just had to get that off of my chest😭

[@I.am.PRECIOUS]

This society is so messed up. I totally understand how you feel. Do what feels right for you, don't try to follow the crowd because honestly they are lost. Your friends are honestly focused on the wrong things and things can go wrong because of it teenage pregnancy is indeed a real thing. Also STDS and diseases and some can't be cured. 13 years is too young to be having sex honestly. It all fun and games until they end up pregnant. Some mistakes can be avoided honestly There is a time and place for everything including relationships and sex. Please focus on school , your goals and creating a beautiful future for yourself. You have your whole life to experience what you want to experience including sex. I suggest that you wait for marriage it will save you from a lot of problems. Some guys (not all) will use you for sex so please be careful. Telling a guy you are waiting for marriage will weed out the trash that just want your body. The right man will wait for you patiently and won't pressure you. You will be his treasure and he will marry you because you're worth it and he would've fallen in love with who you are as a person and not just your body. Sex will just be another bonus to a great foundation of true love not lust. I totally understand your fears about not wanting to lose it at all. Your fears about not finding the one, about marriage and divorce. All those are valid fears indeed but honestly i believe that you will definitely find the one especially if it's something that you truly want. Just be patient and try to not do anything that will delay your blessings

[@shinedest4943]

Girl you’re 13,you shouldn’t even be thinking about anything to do with sex at all,your friends are going down a bad path

[@Cia..thehuman]

i love the way you sing the word virginity everytimes😂😂

[@shiroahmawanparrish8779]

Love the Jamaican accent sis 🙏🏿

[@fifi-ke4rj]

honestly the people commenting and hating are too busy worrying about how others perceive them , you should be able to say what you want , when you want ,however you want , honestly how many crazy youtube and tiktok storytimes and scandals what you watched , and minutes later you dont even think about , i think most people in our generation are too anxious and caught up in the opinions of others like WHO CARES!!!!!!!, where has confidence and individuality gone , keep doing your videos sissss us girlies love them and relate to them , (;

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank you so muchhhh❤️❤️❤️

[@khalanimariee]

i’m 16 and still a virgin. all my friends aren’t. and people make me feel lesser than myself for being a virgin i’ve been called words like “lame” “boring” “lil girl” by men and girls. i think i will remain a virgin until i’m fully ready. marriage or not. and i also don’t wanna lose it because i don’t wanna catch anything people sleep with any and everything nowadays

[@I.am.PRECIOUS]

I totally understand how you feel. I'm 24 will be turning 25 soon and I'm also a virgin. I went through the same thing in highschool. They are the lame ones for calling you names just because you don't follow in their footsteps. If your friends are making you feel bad for being a virgin then i think that you should get yourself some better friends. Honestly i find it funny that people don't wanna be judged for sleeping around but they will go ahead and judge those that don't do the same 😅 it's ridiculous 😒🙄 Anyway there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. Please continue to wait for marriage or at least the right person who truly loves you. A person who truly loves you will be patient and kind and won't pressure you. He will treasure you. And most importantly he will put a ring on it without ill intent Waiting will save you from a lot of problems like unwanted pregnancies, stds ,sti's ,hiv etc also soul ties. But if you do decide not to wait please please please at least get tested first before doing anything also learn the difference between true love and lust. I wanna end off by saying that It hasn't been easy to wait for so long especially in this society and it still isn't easy😅 I won't lie but I know that it will be worth the wait. I saw on KZbin that there is a man who is 40 years old and he's still a virgin which goes to show that waiting is not impossible 🙂 Sorry 😅 also try to learn from other people's mistakes. I've heard and seen a lot of people who regret losing their virginity too soon and to the wrong people. I don't think the few seconds of pleasure is worth the regret. Regret is difficult to overcome but it's also not impossible. There are just mistakes that can be avoided.

[@paigemaria305]

I’m 24 today & still a virgin I wanna lose it, but I’m scared

[@trishac.1572]

Please wait till marriage. It will save you a lot of heartache

[@I.am.PRECIOUS]

Dang me too i was battling with this, this year. My suggestion is don't pressure yourself into doing it. Don't rush please evaluate the real reason you wanna lose it and how you will feel if you do lose it too soon. I personally think that your fear is a good thing. Waiting for marriage will save you from a lot of problems and will be worth the wait. Don't let anyone use you

[@theoffice2001]

I'm 23 and I was at a vulnerable place in my life where I lost my virginity. I know I shouldn't have done it and now I deeply regret it. I will live with this guilt for the rest of my life and I fear that I will never find a partner for myself...

[@talkswithhelena]

It’s not healthy to think like that.

[@Ihatedonuts541]

Girl, thank you for this. I was so embarrassed because I’m still a virgin at 19, and I’m about to turn 20. I thought something was wrong with me because everyone else was doing it at my age.

[@talkswithhelena]

Girl there’s nothing to be embarrassed about TRUST ME!!!!!

[@I.am.PRECIOUS]

There is nothing to be embarrassed about. Its your life and your body don't let society pressure you into doing it when you aren't ready. BTW I'm 24 (turning 25 soon)and I'm still a virgin i used to feel weird about it in highschool but I'm so glad that im still a virgin i was able to avoid a lot of problems because of waiting problems like unwanted pregnancies, Stds , soul ties etc

[@Shynegaltemzyyy]

I’m so glad u shared ur story. For me I don’t regret loosing my virginity but it’s who I lost it to omg🤢🤮🤡 makes me just cringe and wanna puke lol

[@talkswithhelena]

Girl, I feel you on that one😭

[@BM-dr4eu]

Thnk you for this, you have no idea how edifying it is ❤

[@talkswithhelena]

You are so welcome!❤

[@BM-dr4eu]

@ ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kjsos99]

keep those coming,you have such a pleasant speaking and singing voice 🥺and u are beautiful 🫶🏻

[@shanellemybelle]

idk why u repeating bum is taking me plzzzzzzz ur too funny helena

[@talkswithhelena]

Because that’s what him was!!!!😂😂😂😂😭😭😭

[@lillianheree]

Jesus Christ is The Way, The Truth and The Life. We are all sinners, and the wages of sin is hell (eternal suffering). But Jesus died on the cross for our sins and rose again on the third day. God loves you infinitely and only He can and will give true, eternal love and peace. Turn to Him before it is too late💗💗

[@shyaanclarke1522]

I’m 21 & virgin too I haven’t lost it because I haven’t found the right person

[@jamiiiiilly]

Me too

[@SongsofTiktok]

i literally love ur personality

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank you❤️❤️

[@Stizyella]

even though this story is serious nd sensitive Your humour 😂😂😂😂😂😂 is on another level …. His teeth was beefing with each other

[@talkswithhelena]

😂😂😂❤️

[@pumpkinpie7864]

girrrrl were you singing “virginity” by Vybz kartel 😂😂😂

[@talkswithhelena]

Right dessoooo😭😭😭😭

[@pumpkinpie7864]

@ lmaoooo I didn’t think it was possible to like you even more 😂😭

[@shanellemybelle]

@@talkswithhelena never change😭

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank you my loves😂😂❤️

[@Xemirah]

You’re so entertaining😂❤🎉

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank youu💕

[@cebile1493]

This woman is so beautiful ❤❤❤

[@hilo6243]

I haven’t actually watched the video but wanted to stop and tell you that virginity is a construct, and yours to do with what you want. If you don’t like how it went when you “lost” it you can reclaim it and hold onto it until you feel good about everything that’s going on. You have the power to make your own rules and define your own experiences. Don’t let anyone else tell you different ❤❤

[@jayviensam]

That emotional attachment is real 🥴

[@veevee9622]

The Lord sending me signs fr

[@user-ec9rz7xh7e]

ok, vocals!!

[@Xoxo.Helena]

We have the same name and I’m team wait till marriage 😭 also why do you pronounce your name Helen I’m in the US and I say Helena 😭

[@talkswithhelena]

😭😭my name is actually Helen but family always call me Helena so that’s where I get it from x

[@seokjinsrunnynose8637]

3:15- 3:33 LMFAOOOOOOOO

[@MayGodKeepYouSafe]

You're beautiful.

[@Urmom-f9d]

21 & still. A virgin. Thisreminds me of my friend who has boyfriend she did it with him when she was 17 . Idont know if it is a codependent situation but she asked me if i was open tonhave sex with her boyfriend friend like we could tak rooms together 😅 . Whomnidont even know 😂😂😢but creepy she was mad i was a virgin

[@cinna5bun]

We luvvvvv you

[@talkswithhelena]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@h3tur]

helena when i tell you our story is the exact same, the way i relate to you in all your videos is insane, i definitely regret mine 😂 i’d had sex toys at this point already, and honestly i wish i just stuck to my dildo that doesn’t have a man or actions attached to it 🙄 my rose doesn’t talk!!!! 😭 and he was a bum! made me pay for my own plan b, never contributed to gas when i was driving 20 minutes to him and i have driving anxiety, anything past 10 is pushing it for me 😅 but i didn’t regret it at the time so meh it is what it issss. although, i didn’t feel a shift which I thank God for, because i thought afterwards id feel like one way ticket straight to helllll, but i just felt really regular (religious trauma is no joke) and not like a a shift to “woman” i just felt like me 😇 im almost two years celibate now in a relationship with the most lovely man & it’s a complete 180, i literally don’t see my card or hold anything in my hands except his hand if he’s around :)

[@Lordwearehungryforyou]

hey girl, if you are Christian, it is important to feel conviction after sinning. Sometimes we don’t always, but it doesn’t mean we aren’t in sin, you know? the Bible says the heart is deceitful above all things. we must test and find out whether our actions align with God’s Word

[@h3tur]

@@Lordwearehungryforyou @ thank you so much for your comment babe 🥺 you’re completely right! he was the first and last man i’ve slept with bc God convicted me and that’s how i discovered celibacy, my bf is on the same wavelength too and on his journey, we know we’re not dating for sex but to build a future that’s actually solid & not built on if im able to perform in that way all the time or simply don’t want to, and i don’t!!! i’m focused on uni, my family, friends, and he’s an addition that adds to my life and doesn’t take away from it:) God bless you and continue to help other sisters and brothers, ur light and intelligence shone bright thru just a couple paragraphs i can’t imagine how smart you are in other areas 😮🤍

[@xauceamani]

Question, if you are comfortable with answering. Did you feel more relief and relaxed about thoughts of sex ? Especially with a religious background. We all know it is natural. As a girlie with her Vcard still. It gets spoken so much even in religious settings. Suffocating the thought of going down belooow for doing something natural. Solely cause it happend outside of the ordained teachings. The way this is written feels like it is downplaying it. I find it important but idk, it makes me panic. Curious on a another persons perspective. I may delete this after you answer. tehehe

[@h3tur]

@ i hear you babe! thanks for asking me 🥺 i’d say as a woman who’s currently not having sex, yes it’s still on my mind often. but there’s days and weeks i go by without thinking bout it, bc of school work, friends hanging out etc, basically i tire myself out with other things to be too tired to think about sex. it makes sense God designated it for only inside a marriage bc maybe us singles wouldn’t think about it so often 😅 also bc of my parents telling me over and over again to not become a teen mom or a single mom, i have trauma from that too, so whenever i think about sex it’s in co existence with children😵‍💫

[@h3tur]

@@Lordwearehungryforyou you’re so right !! thank you for writing to me:) idk if you skipped over but am now celibate! and have been for 2 years, so is the man i’m dating:) we’re tryna build a relationship off actual tangibility rather than just lust, i felt conviction from God & that opened the doorways for my personal stronger relationship with God

[@reactionqueenboss2001]

Me too omg