binge watching you Helen ❤ seriously you’re an amazing soul and hella funny I love how you make it like a ft call. Im glad I found your channel and being able to relate to the family struggles😢
@talkswithhelena12 сағат бұрын
Omggg not the ft call, i love that🥺❤️Thank youu.
@jesuschristlover8814 сағат бұрын
Helen, your courage and growth is so evident in this video. Your resilience is inspiring hunny! Thank you for posting, you have no idea how this will help others. We love you 💖
@talkswithhelena14 сағат бұрын
Thank you so much girl this is such reassurance ❤️❤️❤️
@ashylaratliff12545 күн бұрын
I finally gave this 49 year old a chance and I’m actually glad I did. I feel so safe and protected. I never have to ask for anything because he’s always offering me things. He doesn’t try to control me, he pays super close attention to details, he’s patient and very understanding. He works out and his friend down there is ALWAYS READY. Im 24 though and the big issue is I’m not sure how my family and best friend will take it😭. And yeah I didn’t have a present father and I’m also the oldest daughter that take cares of EVERYONE!!
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Ah you’re the oldest???? My sister don’t worry continue to be taken care of please😭😭😭🙏🏿
@ashylaratliff12545 күн бұрын
@talkswithhelena girl when I say this is the first time that I’ve ever truly felt cared for in relationships. When I dated people 23-27 I just felt like their darn mother😒
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Uhhhhh must be nice😭
@fifi-ke4rj5 күн бұрын
GURL HE 50 !!!!!!!!!, bumba rasclarttttttttt, he can be yo granddaddyy
@fifi-ke4rj5 күн бұрын
baby girl hes deffo using you beacuse what on earth is a 50yo doing with a 24 year old YOUNG woman , of course he is going to be nice and supportive and offer you things as long as you giving him the kitty kat , be carefull sis
@Ekow-vi1gu5 күн бұрын
I often hear big girls complaining about guys not genuinely liking big or plus size girls that might be true, most of the big girls I know have one thing in mind and that's to be in a much better version of themselves but a lot of them are not ready to take that big step of working towards that. thing about life is that you always attract what you desire if you put yourself in a position to attract those things. as in if you work towards being a better version of yourself for you, you automatically attract the kind of quality guys that you desire. I was once obese I wasn't getting the girls I truly desired so I decided to work on being a better version of me and guess what, I now get any girl I want I have dated a runway model, famous girl, like really pretty girls and ven plus size girls I do love big girls too. It pays to work on being a better version of you for you in doing so you get what you want. You are beautiful though, I love your vlogs keep pushing you will one day find your dream man who will truly love you for you.
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Yes that was the case for YOU and maybe others. But there are some women who are plus size that found men who they’ve truly desired and found the man they truly wanted. Let’s always try to consider you don’t have to always change yourself physically it could also mean having to work on your inner self to better how you think of yourself mentally just so you can attract what you want.
@Ekow-vi1gu5 күн бұрын
@@talkswithhelena I was obese in high school after high school I decided to work on being a better me for me so I started going to the gym and I changed a lot of things and I became ripped like super athletic and shid. I was now comfortable in my own skin I could wear what ever the hell I wanted. I started modeling in college and then I realized girls started coming my way I was in a position of control of some sort that would not have been the case if I was obese, I have interacted with a couple of big girls and most often they tell me low key they don't like the way they look yet they find it difficult to work towards changing that, there's nothing wrong with embracing the way you look though if that's what you truly want deep down I think its beautiful but it always comes with it own disadvantages. even if you get that one guy you truly desire, you tend to always be under his control cos you don't have a whole bunch of options who look like him and so when he leaves you end up being shattered. Unless you are a Lizzo or a Gabourey Sidibe they get the kind of guys they want cos they are rich and famous, your only option is to work on being a better version of yourself which is super easy to do.
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
It’s super easy to do and I’ve done it before and I still didn’t feel comfortable within myself and that’s where I knew I was fucked. I had to realise there was a lot of inner work I had to do. But like I said everyone’s experiences is different, that has worked for you and you’ve spoken to some plus size girls where they didn’t feel as confident enough but it’s just not like that for others. Hearing from your perspective sounds like it’s also coming from your personal experience as you used to be overweight you can also relate but it’s just not the case for everyone because what if you gain the weight back, would you still feel comfortable in your skin?
@Ekow-vi1gu5 күн бұрын
@@talkswithhelena quick question though would you date an overweight guy or a midget(small guy)? your answer will probably be no, cos I watched a previous video where you talked about blocking a guy who genuinely liked you cos he wasn't your spec. Same with a lot of guys, big girls aren't necessarily their spec but they'd love to sample them though. that's something a lot of big girls endure. I hope you get a guy you truly desire who genuinely likes you but hey, there's always room for changes too in case you want to be a different version of you for you in order to attract what you desire. You are beautiful by the way.
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Lol why do men always ask this question😂😂😂. I would date big guys and I spoken to a few shit some don’t even like big girls and some do (which I’ve spoken to before) but men are men at the end of the day. But what you’ve just said is something most of us big girls know already and it’s been spoken about on my channel before. Weight is not the issue to some, but for me and some people who can relate it’s confidence and self love that’s lacking. If someone doesn’t have confidence within themselves how are they going to love the person they are with? How will that help attract the person you are looking for?? How would that confidence radiate through. That’s been the case for me when dating guys they could spot from a mile a way I was insecure not only because of my size but because I maid it so obvious that I didn’t believe their complement on how attractive they found me because I genuinely couldn’t believe and it’s caused so much issues. Some of us can’t even take compliments due to the lack of inner work that’s not been done. But each to their own, not everyone’s going to have the same outlook and perspective.
@xxcxxy5 күн бұрын
By older I would think you’re saying 10 years max because I feel like the older they are the more they actually have standards and know what they want so no messing around and also they have their life together
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Girlll I meant this too! I forgot to be precise about it. And I agree with you , most of them have their life out together by then
@user-ec9rz7xh7e5 күн бұрын
The consistencyyyy. Been loving to see you post. Keep them coming ❤
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Thank youuu❤️❤️
@ashley52775 күн бұрын
Ive been seeing a 40+ man for roughly 2yrs. I did find it odd that he was interested in me but anyways its my bday coming up if he doesn’t buy me Chanel bag then im out! 😭
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Omggg your stories are making me regret blocking this man because I found it so weird😭😭😭
@ashley52775 күн бұрын
@ I didnt know mine had it like that until I heard how nice he treated his ex, so im trying to test him out and if it doesn’t work then ill move on. Trust me we’re young and lit, plenty others out there don’t regret your decision!
@ashley52775 күн бұрын
I did find it mad weird at the beginning, hes the only older guy ive ever spoken to… like sir you were 21 when I was born 🥴
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Omggg when you put it like that it’s so weird 😭
@user-ec9rz7xh7e5 күн бұрын
Where you find him at sis 👀
@stinathesaturnian5 күн бұрын
I’m 23 and I’ve dated 40-48 yr olds. that’s my favorite age range but I need to wait some years and get older bc I even tho I like them I don’t like that they like me back bc I start viewing them as pfiles 😭💀 my current man is 23 and wants to settle down but he doesn’t have the older man funds to provide if we start a family but im enjoying this young man era
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Omggg 40-48😭
@fifi-ke4rj5 күн бұрын
The older men be fioneeee af tho , esp when they good looking like idris Elba , but I hate the fact they acc are gravitating towards a 22 year old woman , like what do do we have in common ????? 😂😂😂😂
@talkswithhelena5 күн бұрын
Omggg exactly, they cute but what is that you want with a 22 year old???😭
@juanitak47246 күн бұрын
I’m in my 4th year of med school, there are literal 30 y/o in my course, like ppl with kids. If you wanna go back to school, go. You’re acc so funny, you’ll find your ppl with ease❤️
@talkswithhelena6 күн бұрын
Thank youu❤️
@ShanaJahsintaWalters6 күн бұрын
The title says it all for me. This is why I've been single for 7 odd years now.
@georginakither96536 күн бұрын
Ugh love and hate how relatable this is!!! Especially the academic stuff
@talkswithhelena6 күн бұрын
😭😭😭
@iluv2pac0316 күн бұрын
Ur channel is so comforting 🥲❤️
@talkswithhelena6 күн бұрын
Thank youu🥺
@ashley52777 күн бұрын
Ive recently stopped smoking daily as my lips have started turning dark, I guess my self absorbed-ness has helped in some way? 😭
@talkswithhelena7 күн бұрын
As long as you’ve stopped😭🙏🏿
@azaria-mj9kw7 күн бұрын
Everybody has a purpose in life and God put you on this earth so you could fulfill it and carry out his wish. As long as you find your purpose and motivation in life I promise you you can do it
@talkswithhelena7 күн бұрын
Amen ❤️
@ene91767 күн бұрын
Girl I know what you mean 1000% I have lost 100Lbs at least 3 times but depression keeps pulling me back. Now I’m so big I don’t even know where to start from. I know what works but I’m not mentally in the space to do it! Everything you expressed is EXACTLY how I feel
@talkswithhelena7 күн бұрын
Omggg and everything you just said I RELATE to it😭
@patrickbateman60807 күн бұрын
how did he die?
@talkswithhelena7 күн бұрын
That’s something I won’t be sharing🙏🏿❤️
@patrickbateman60807 күн бұрын
@ Ok no problem
@Welcometogrimmland7 күн бұрын
this is crazy. I've been crying all day today. I'm so exhausted and i feel like i hate myself and i just dont have the energy to want to try. I dont feel like i wanna be here but im too afraid to pull the trigger.
@talkswithhelena7 күн бұрын
I know exactly how you feel, but trust me there is a reason why you are still here! Use that as a reminder but it’s ok to feel how you feel we’re literally humans. It’s so hard to push through when you feel so exhausted but please keep your head up🥺❤️❤️
@Welcometogrimmland7 күн бұрын
@ You're so sweet! I'll try but my god, its soo hard. Thanks so much, I hope you keep going as well ❤️
@talkswithhelena7 күн бұрын
🥺❤️❤️
@Lisax7566 күн бұрын
I feel the same way I don't even know what to do
@talkswithhelena6 күн бұрын
I’ll keep you guys in my prayers❤️❤️❤️
@whitneya60847 күн бұрын
I love you Helen keep your head up, do you do therapy xx
@talkswithhelena7 күн бұрын
Thank youu🥺and no I’ve only tired it once and I didn’t I feel comfortable😭I want to give it a try again though.
@frankieloves70787 күн бұрын
The best thing I did was go natural then starting my locs
@notyet3dna8 күн бұрын
9:55 ''don't be these numbers,be this number'' this had me in tears lolzz another day and you're sharing things that I also go through and feel. The long anguish that takes over when you're often intimate with someone that you can't or shouldn't have and you have to stop it [there] bc there's clearly no space for MORE*. So you sit and carry all those needs,desires and consequences (provenient from the dynamic) by yourself and at times,they can be our fault bc we're delulu that is true. All of this can be so unfair in many other instances... I've learned my lesson and I'm standing on business baby! ty xx happy new year
@talkswithhelena8 күн бұрын
😂❤️The way I read this and took it in!!!! It’s so true omg😭
@patrickbateman60808 күн бұрын
Your videos are so funny and entertaining i love your energy every time i feel low i just open your videos
@talkswithhelena8 күн бұрын
Omgg, thank you so much🥺I’m so glad you enjoy them❤️❤️
@Leanabeauty18 күн бұрын
Speaking straight facts 😂😂💯
@talkswithhelena8 күн бұрын
Period!😭❤️
@kkd59728 күн бұрын
LOOL sigh why didn’t you post this 3 days ago 🤦♀️
@talkswithhelena8 күн бұрын
Girl did you spin that block??!!!!
@notyet3dna8 күн бұрын
@@talkswithhelena LMFAAOOO
@CheyaneKN8 күн бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@KaylaRants8 күн бұрын
And sista I spun the block this weekend…. Felt like magic… then I got OUTTA DERE OUTTA DEREEE
@talkswithhelena8 күн бұрын
Luckyyy!!! Mi wan fi try 😭😭😭
@KaylaRants8 күн бұрын
I loooooveeee your channel. You need to have a membership or something
@talkswithhelena8 күн бұрын
Thank youu❤️I’m going to look into this for sure
@Yasmine-qd6nu8 күн бұрын
Helena I love your accent switch girl you’re literally so entertaining ❤️
@talkswithhelena8 күн бұрын
Thank you boo 💕
@che61509 күн бұрын
Girlll don’t do it ! I’ve got bad brain fog and feel slow, wish I never started smoking. since stopping i’ve feel tempted to go back so I can sleep properly. I know it’s a challenge but try and stay off it xxx
@talkswithhelena9 күн бұрын
Tell me about it, the brain frog that I used to get was a nightmare.
@che61509 күн бұрын
@@talkswithhelena no literally, how did u get rid of it?
@talkswithhelena9 күн бұрын
It’s been 5 months since I’ve stopped smoking, it just went by itself but I still be getting brain frog here and there it’s not as much as it was before. Once I stopped smoking I made sure I was getting good sleep so maybe that’s what helped it idk😭😭😭
@user-ec9rz7xh7e10 күн бұрын
I literally went through the same thing. I also started as a social smoker. Being in that cycle of smoking everyday is draining and it makes you feel so bummy😭😭 I was smoking daily during Covid. Thank God I smoke less now. But it’s such a spiral. Stay sober because once you pick up the habit again. It’s hard to stop😭😭
@talkswithhelena10 күн бұрын
Bro i literally felt like a bum too when i was smoking heavily😭
@notyet3dna10 күн бұрын
12:45 talk about ittt!!! Because hell yeah! it feels like ''fun'' or ''liberating'' but the illness that comes after???? Loooolzz and then we repeat again... omfg free us!!!!! and happy new year baeee may this year be more glorious to you than last!!
@talkswithhelena10 күн бұрын
It’s like a hangover the next day😭😭😭and thank you so much❤️the same to you!!!
@theoffice200111 күн бұрын
I'm 23 and I was at a vulnerable place in my life where I lost my virginity. I know I shouldn't have done it and now I deeply regret it. I will live with this guilt for the rest of my life and I fear that I will never find a partner for myself...
@talkswithhelena9 күн бұрын
It’s not healthy to think like that.
@fionagallagherapologist596812 күн бұрын
"aerobics pon di cocky" ily so bad 😭 i love how raw you are, keep working on yourself and you'll attract the right people 💓
@talkswithhelena12 күн бұрын
😂😂😂❤️
@KaylaRants13 күн бұрын
Every time you made a point I agreed with, I had to like and unlike the video each timeee🤣🤣
@talkswithhelena13 күн бұрын
Bye😂😭😭😭
@victoria.491613 күн бұрын
your so real , i love this
@talkswithhelena13 күн бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@Daniscorner173813 күн бұрын
15 seconds in and I love your voice
@talkswithhelena13 күн бұрын
Thank you
@Xoxo.Helena13 күн бұрын
I feel like you’re looking in all the wrong places cause wdym the club?!?! 😭 You should imagine the kind of person you want, then think of the kind of places they would be. If you want someone loyal, respectful, and marriage minded then their most likely not gonna be in the club 😭 Not saying all club goers aren’t what I listed, but their most likely not gonna be there 😭 Also focus on yourself and become the person you think they would want!! Good luck 💞
@talkswithhelena13 күн бұрын
Girl it’s because I always up in the clurrrbbb😭
@Bigdadyjdfjf11 күн бұрын
I think it’s cause nowadays the club is a common place for young adults. Think of it as a meeting place it serves more than one purpose