I Revealed My Sister's UGLY SECRET To Our Entire Family r/Relationships

[@TheAngelChaz]

story 2 Aphrodite herself is screaming "youre both idiots" and I love it :) so wholesome and glad it turned out for the best!

[@mygodisthemoon]

Story 2: "she snores but I don't want to embarrass her" meanwhile my boyfriend tells me I'm like a piranha while sleeping. This was a cute story, I hope they stay together forever

[@vieweronly3391]

Mine calls me a tractor haha

[@mygodisthemoon]

@@vieweronly3391 hahaha oh no 😂 did he say why?

[@seanhilton765]

My dad says my mom’s snoring sounds like a wounded rhinoceros. My mom says my dad’s snoring is like an old bomber engine trying to roll over

[@jerilwaxman]

Right? And if they choose, have the perfect kids and animals. I feel like they would populate this planet with unicorns and rainbows. And god knows we need that!

[@jerilwaxman]

Oh. My hubs of nearly 30 years says “You sleep very loud.” 😂

[@nev466]

2nd story: my heart. I love when people just fall in love. My friends I have each watch them struggle to be happy, and when they get into that one relationship that just makes them really happy I always root for them.

[@artemishallihan8973]

Awe, that second story gives me so much warm and fuzzies. It's so nice when a guy is pinning for someone AND the other party has dropped enough obvious hints that it's just CUTE when the happy ending pays off. It's a palate cleanser after one too many stories of guys (and sometimes girls) projecting a relationship where there is none, or worse, not taking no for an answer.

[@immortalsofar5314]

Keeps blaming the heart palpitations on Covid - it goes boom boody bum, buddy boom, buddy bum... kzbin.info/www/bejne/eoa9dIuXiNmppMU

[@Queen_Of_Discord]

In story 2 when op confessed, I half expected her to say, "GOOD GOD I THOUGHT YOU'D NEVER ASK"

[@Raaslen]

Story 2: through the whole initial post I was thinking "you idiot, she likes you back", good for then. But I guess things could be easier if society hadn't imprinted on peoples minds that it's the man's job to make the first move

[@Sanquinity]

Yea it was so obvious, though that's easy to say from the outside. Already living together, being that close all the time and her liking that, "jokes" about wanting to do that stuff with her boyfriend, falling asleep on him and not minding going to the bathroom when he's taking a shower, wanting to travel with him, commenting on how funny he is. She was DEFINITELY into him as well, but wanted him to "make the first move". (which was kinda stupid of her, but a bit more understandable considering, you know...) If I had been his friend I would have smacked him over the head and scolded him for how dense he was. Like "really dude? She's practically waving a big flag saying "I love you, ask me out!" in front of your face and you're still unsure!? Stop being so dense and ask her out, or so help me god I will personally go to her and tell her for you!"

[@bjas60]

Ya I saw that and thought the girl was just fucking with the op because that’s how my friends act and they have no feelings other than being friends with me.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

Cue "I can't fight this feeling anymore" for Story 2. I love the update, but man I hate the "Do they like me or 'like me like me?" Feeling because both are afraid to say the thing out loud in case the other one doesn't feel the same.

[@jbgra2566]

Lol soo true! That's what stopped me from talking to my now husband for two freaking years. He liked me back all that time *facepalm*

[@Lightwaverable]

Story 2: “Me and my roommate have been basically dating for and entire year and I don’t know what to do😰” Uh, ask her out?

[@SherlockRhodes]

The first story is vile. How selfish of the mom/sister. How selfish of her parents. I feel for OP and his Dad. There is no reason to not tell someone who isn't abusive that they are going to be a parent. Seriously. The fact she didn't want to raise OP but didn't want his father to raise him is selfish. To keep it from both of them, is selfish. To not have told the husband as soon as they reconnected, is selfish. To me OP's mom/sister is vile. It never should have been a secret.

[@robertx8020]

It would surpirse me if OP went and stayed NC with them! They lied to him ALL OF HIS LIFE! and would still be lying if OP didn't found out!

[@paulineisme]

And the fact that she came back to him is just... selfish and sadistic. If you're going to go that way, just disappear. Have 0% to do with the other person. You are keeping a father and a son next to each other sentimentally and are just watching from afar. Yikes.

[@emilybarclay8831]

And the way she blocked her kid after he found out. That’s gotta be heartbreaking. What a great way to tell someone they aren’t wanted. And then there’s her lying to her husband about not having kids. She’s disgusting and OP lucked out not having to be raised by her

[@robertx8020]

@@paulineisme this

[@robertx8020]

@@emilybarclay8831 Not just not having kids ...which would be bad enough but it was HIS fff kid!!! that makes it even worse!

[@rora9553]

Story 2: Aww that’s so sweet! What’s that phrase old folks say on their death bed? “Life’s too short, shoot your shot.”

[@the.evilducky]

Omg that first story has my heart ripped appart, i really hope OP and his dad are able to form a good friendship. Maybe not a perfect father son relationship but I really hope they are able to forge something good from this horrible situation

[@speakevermore]

On story 2 i was SO nervous that she was going to find the post before he got a chance to tell her. Then he started the update with "this is so embarrassing to type" and i was "oh noooo 😥" i'm glad it worked out for them. I love love

[@kateemma22]

OP2 is legitimately THE CUTEST and I love what a dope he is. 'I'm accidentally in love, whoops I accidentally married my best friend, turns out my best friend and I are accidentally having kids, we're now approaching our 25th wedding anniversary and I didn't mean to get here'.

[@shadowkissed2370]

I have learned that guys do not take hints well, subtle or not. There are so many times I have had to tell my guy friends that they were being flirted with and such and such girl was interested in them. None of them realized when they were being flirted with until I pointed it out. A lot of them are now married to the woman I pointed out who was interested in them lol.

[@thetableofelements4472]

Real homie

[@Sanquinity]

Part of it is probably fear. Negative reactions can get...intense, if the guy is wrong about possible hints. "The worst she can say is no" is totally wrong. Just saying no is actually the least worst thing that can happen. So most of us have adopted a mindset of "she's probably just being friendly" for even seemingly obvious hints. The guy in story 2 though? He wasn't just "getting hints", he was having multiple big flags waved in front of him with big bold letters saying "please ask me out already!!" :P It was kinda on her as well, as she could have asked as well. But considering how society still kinda conditions the mindset of "the guy should make the first move" it's a bit more understandable. Just remember this ladies: Unless you're trying to go for a 8/10 or up, there's a VERY good chance that the guy will at least very seriously consider dating you if you ask. Most guys really aren't that picky and just happy that a girl/woman showed interest in them! :P

[@cyn1clcynide]

A true wing woman. I salute you

[@n.a.nameless5435]

You are correct, we don't take hints. Unless it is as blunt as a sledgehammer to the noggen, we ain't getting it. You sound like a good person for being a 'translator'.

[@carolroberts4614]

I asked my partner out by making a half joking approach, and luckily he picked up on it! But if he hadn't ,there would have been no hurt feelings. Together now for over thirty years!

[@emilybarclay8831]

Hiding a child from your spouse is instant divorce worthy. Someone who can do that will hide literally anything and everything from you. OP’s sister (she doesn’t deserve to be called a mum) is disgusting

[@_Sage967_]

it would be better to just call her a family member, they share genetic information and not much else apparently

[@emilybarclay8831]

@Annistar at least there may be valid reasons for hiding your parenthood from a child. There’s 0 reasons to hide it from a non-abusive spouse, especially when that spouse is THE FATHER OF THAT CHILD

[@DFriendVideos]

That last story about the roommates in love is so sweet. Thank you.

[@David-mo4st]

First story. I know how OP feels. I found out (From my late mother) that I was adopted When I was 51! My parents hide it from me for my fathers "pride" He passed when I was 33. They did everything in their power over the years to keep me away from anyone in the family who might slip and tell me the big secret! Needless to say I did not have a great relationship with either one of them.

[@rogerramjet6429]

Story 2. Awesome. Sounds like these 2 are Sure made for each other, and I'd expect a very fruitful life full of joy and happiness.

[@SkyEcho751]

Story 1: Ah yes. I doubt this story will get old. OP finding out his sister is his mom, mom married bio-dad, but also said Bio-dad wasn't even allowed to find out about OP. Bio-mom and/or Parents, are complete dicks, they only apologies once everybody started to shame them. They only apologized for their own sake. Story 2: This sounds so much like a romcom, he needs to sit down his roommate and ask about the whole situation. S2 update: I totally believe she was trying to get him to finally make a move because she was just as scared she would ruin the relationship. She was likely at a breaking point and the moment he said "I'm in love with you" the dam broke. This still feels like a romcom.

[@tistis1362]

The second story scared me, this is how I act with my friends, and how we all act with each other. It would be so awkward if they said this to me. But I guess different friendship types.

[@Harpyr1031]

The story in the comments of story 2 of the wife asking the husband out reminds me of my hubs. We met working together although in different departments. We would chat and I’d drop hints. He wanted to ask me out but he wanted to friend me on PlayStation first. The only issue with that is, I have an Xbox. He did eventually ask me out thanks to my best friend. She also worked at the same place too. We’ve been together 5 years and just got married last month.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

How do just not tell your husband about something that big. If I had a spouse that kept something like that from me for so long I'd bounced.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

AND HE WAS THE DAD?! Yeah she dug herself that hole smdh

[@Sanquinity]

He did bounce (divorce her) when the truth came out though.

[@catherinecox573]

Story 2 is so fucking wholesome. They started with such a firm foundation of trust and mutual respect 🤧

[@RokoFireFox]

Story 1. It's the whole finding out ops sisters soon to be ex was the dad. And her whole thing was "we wouldn't have made it through it" man you denied not only your child their actual father. But also denied the dad a relationship with HIS child.

[@mikkareads]

My brother J. was actually my aunt's child. She was 15 when she gave birth to him and had no interest in being a mom already, and my mother was in her mid 20s and married. So they somehow pretended that J. was my mother's child, and six years later, I came along. The only people in the know were the ones directly involved in the switch: my aunt, my mother, her husband (my father) and my grandparents. He grew up thinking he was my mother's biological child, while I thought he was my biological brother. I'm not sure if they would have EVER told him, but when he was 16, he was searching for something, rummaged through a few boxes and accidentally found his birth certificate. You can imagine that he felt betrayed and was extremely angry and upset. After that, it all went downhill. Alcohol, drugs, harder drugs, petty crime, and eventually, the drugs literally messed up his brain. He fell into a coma, and when he woke up from it (which nobody had expected), he had the mental capacity of a little boy. It turned out that his liver was also really messed up, and he eventually died from sepsis of the liver when he was 45 years old. Of course, nobody can tell how his life would have gone, had they sat down with him and explained at a reasonable age, but I often wonder.

[@linneaandersson6469]

Story two was so genuinely adorable. Like damn! So cute and sweet!

[@jaggirl]

I hope it works out for them in story no 2. Aww, he sounds soo happy. I'm soo happy for them..

[@GlucoseGuy]

The boyfriend comment in the 2nd post would only have been 'not obvious' if she was actually seeing someone at the time. We can be pretty dense sometimes. haha.

[@stephaniewithrow4685]

Last story was the best!!! So happy for them

[@notconvincedgranny6573]

Last story: friends first, lovers second. Best possible outcome.

[@jerilwaxman]

Story 2 was over the top in sap. And I am HERE for it.

[@leahdragon]

Lmao @ the second one's update because I made a comment on the post about this saying that I would have assumed it was sapphic (women who love women) if genders were not specified but I didn't know other people had made those comments too 😂😂😂

[@SatinFoxx]

Op in story 2 is the male version of us "Useless Lesbians."

[@leahdragon]

@@SatinFoxx I literally used the term 'useless lesbian stereotype' in my comment 😂😂😂

[@ljh5141]

Loved the last story! Wishing them both all of the happiness in the world.💕❤💕

[@FlinxWeasel]

My dear sweet Primus, story two just had me belting "Kiss the Girl" from Little Mermaid and "I can't fight this feeling anymore" by REO Speedwagon

[@toonyrhythm3173]

Story 2 was the cutest thing ever

[@gh0ulpunk]

Definitely one of your best episodes with that love story omg

[@catalinacaro8183]

Hahah the second op is soooo cute 🥺 reminds me of how mu bf and I started our relationship

[@WardenSpectreCommander]

That first story. HOLY 💩‼️‼️‼️ 🤯🤯🤯🙀🙀‼️‼️‼️‼️ Didn't see that curveball coming.

[@ceridwen04]

Maybe I'm the one with a privacy problem but I have a female best friend since elemenary school, 34 years of friendship, and I'd never enter the bathroom while she is showering to go to the toilet. I'd say feelings are mutual in the story but I get being too scared to talk. But if it can help find the courage, if the other person doesn't feel that way you are lying to them into thinking you are on the same level of closeness.

[@Pastel_Dreams]

2nd Story: Damn you OP for being all cute with your new partner 🥰🥺 JK. Yah for the happy ending ☺️

[@Lyoko2516]

I had Billy Gilman "Oklahoma" vibes from the first story.

[@rogerramjet6429]

24:04 LMFAO. As someone that has considered myself, shy for my entire life. I've had my fair share of bed partners and relationships. Everything just seemed like such an effort like a chore. 2006 my girlfriend living with me, accused me of cheating. I NEVER have, and even declined when my girlfriend's had asked to get a 3rd party involved in our relationships. As it turns out, I'm Asexual and Aromatic. So I have no libido, nor the desire to be in a relationship, of any sort, with anybody. I am extremely happy by myself, all the time. Then in 2019, I was sent to a psychiatrist, due to sleeping problems. As it turns out, at age 51 (now 53), my personality and character was described as "triple A". That's because not only am I asexual and aromatic, but now I've been diagnosed as high functioning autistic. My self perceived awkwardness, in !I've has been the result of autism. I just wish I had known about these "triple A" in my childhood, because it would have saved me a bunch of BS, because I wouldn't have wasted my life for decades, pretending to be somebody I wasn't, just to try fitting into a society that NEVER accepted me in the first place What a F--king waste of my life, trying to cater to a bunch of fk heads that only saw me as an easy target, then stole money, plus other crap, because I couldn't see the fking games that people play, before it was too late. I now have people and only deal with others to earn money so I can finish sorting a caravan and van out. Then bugger off well away from this lie called "a civilized society", then disappear fully off grid. NEVER married and never had kids, so there's nothing keeping me here to put up with the BS, that others throw around my way.

[@carolroberts4614]

I'm so sorry you've had such a tough time! I hope you get your van and caravan sorted.

[@minsugasmelanin.6656]

tbh on the second story i can’t judge bc when it comes to myself i’m oblivious to people flirting with me. it’s always pointed out by friends or even my mom. my theory is it’s a self esteem issue for those of us who are like this or we’re just overthinking that we just don’t see it.

[@DemonicGoddess]

22:32 The most honest comment here to some stories we hear. Still annoyed with that one story from month or 2 ago where ppl still think that the sister and brother who was 28 and her turning jusy 18 wasnt "incest" when the Gf called out the bs the brother was doin with his teen sister.

[@blackrex828]

Story 2: sounds like me and my ex when we were in the friend stage. Nearly a year into being friends she wanted to move in together after I finished school. She even wanted to move to Cali and go to New York. She even wanted me to hold her while we slept because she found my arms strong. Shoot two months before we started dating she made up this whole story about us meeting in Paris and spending 6 months together there. I'ma always miss her...

[@carolroberts4614]

So sorry it didn't work out for you in the end! But you seem to have fond memories. All I can remember about my ex is bad stuff, and worse stuff!

[@damien678]

omfg they're already dating. they've been dating for ages now. OP's gonna somehow get married to her without knowing and be living the dream 🤣

[@markmka3814]

Op about gracy, it was the cousin and know Grace will never tell why, you could have peer pressure but that was you that was your cousin who told everyone...its mostly your cousin for not asking you.

[@bjas60]

Am I the only one that understands why op didn’t see “dressing up my boyfriend” as a perfect hint. It’s a good thing he took it for consideration, but as a guy who has hanged out with girls who see me as a best friend, I don’t take that kind of talk as “I want you as my bf” at least not until I get the full picture. Women can be confusing sometimes with how they talk to their friends, it’s not fully their fault it’s just hard to interpret as more then just a joke. But good on op for being a brave man.

[@monedameow]

so darn sweet!!!!!

[@sophdog2564]

Get you a man that looks at you like OP in story 2 looks at his roommate

[@pippo17173]

Wow the first story, all this could of been avoided if she did tell the truth. She played him like a fiddle and that is just flat out disgusting holy shit. Also what the hell you don't change your mind on not having kids after giving birth. What the freaking hell.

[@natashacoffey5227]

It took my current boyfriend 10 years to realize maybe just maybe I like him after I told him for 10 years that I liked him we’ve now been together for almost 4 years

[@Keiji555]

A note. Guys don't pick up hints. Even those as big as the pacific. Although it looks cute in anime and cartoons, and even tv shows... But in reality, we are blind.

[@CandaceDreamer]

First story: at first I couldn’t understand why op’s ‘sister’s’ husband would be so mad to not know about op to the point of divorce. But once it was revealed that op was actually his son it made so much more sense.

[@MissL4lly]

Re the last poster, I'm on the spectrum and have massive issues with realising someone is interested. Still single, LOL.

[@johntingle455]

How could the extended family not know that Op's sister was infact Op's mother? Do they live in a vacuum?

[@MsMookalate]

Um because extended family don’t live with op and the family! Duh?! Like I get some foreigners live together with the whole family. But almost 99% of us Americans live away from family and even the noisy family members who might live close still don’t live under our roof. Also even if they saw op’s mom in person it’s not hard to hide a teen or early enough pregnancy if she have a certain shape of right clothes.

[@markkoops2611]

Tell her you love her you fool

[@dylanpicquet8149]

For a story to person tell her you love her

[@kuno3336]

Holy shit Op's Bio-mom, wtf. You were literally with your kid's bio-dad, and you decided to just keep it a secret forever!? WTF

[@lifewithlee6298]

Did not see the update 🙀

[@CodyJonesXD]

*7!*

[@strawberry5404]

story 2: u meant *fortunately didnt u?

[@alexanderhenby1362]

What is with this biological elitism out of adopted kids. OPs "parents" and his parents. they raised him, put him through school, taught him to ride a bike, drive, were there for nightmares and all the bumps and bruises. The hole you came out of isnt the only thing that matters for making a parent. My dad was adopted, didnt find out his mom died and dad abandoned him as a toddler till he was older, My best friend is adopted. I have two adopted young cousins (they know cause mom and dad are white and they are Chinese) Biology doesnt matter. And I dont want to hear the "but what about family history!" New things pop up all the time and doctors arent stupid.

[@MrSophire]

Thank you, yes bio dad did deserve a relationship with his son, but was he abused. I am all for telling the father the truth but why he did need to know her side of the story. Her side was she was not ready to be a mom, she didn’t kill the kid though abortion, gave him to people who she knew would love. “What a monster”

[@immortalsofar5314]

Don't underestimate how clueless/insecure many men are. My ex was once asked by a friend if she thought a girl might like him. She replied, "Dude! How big a hint do you need? She grabbed your junk!"

[@crystalmorgan8039]

I'm not going to condone lying here, but OP is 21 now, a full fledged adult, so adoption and parental rights are a mute point now. I'm assuming OP had a good upbringing and sis had a chance to improve her life before settling down. There was no real issues before the truth came out with the family or sister's marriage. Sometimes you find its better to just let sleeping dogs lie.

[@jessicadias5014]

Other than the fact that she admitted to not telling him in order to manipulate him back into a relationship with her when she admitted if he had known the truth he would have focused on raising OP and not their relationship. Their marriage was based on her lies and manipulation and at least the husband found out eventually. She's vile.

[@brat8360]

with the first story, sorry but I have to disagree with the NTA. it's not "his truth" to tell anyone. it's none of the rest of the families business. and I say that as someone who grew up without knowing my "sister" was my birth mother. yeah, I wanted to know every single detail, but pushing her to tell me isn't the way to go about it. nobody is "owed" anything, especially when it's someone else's story/truth. did op have a rotten upbringing? Or was he loved, well cared for? sounds to me like he wasn't "lied to" at all. there's a difference between a lie & not offering information. his adopted parents didn't lie to him, just didn't offer up the info.

[@randomusername3873]

Considering the update It was definetly his businness to tell the family😂

[@brat8360]

@@randomusername3873 it wasn't any families business outside of the household.

[@MsMookalate]

It became “his truth” as soon as he was born. It stopped being anyone else’s when they failed to properly address this to him and asked him like the human being he is can he kept >his secret< if he wants. At the end of the day once he became part of the story he can discuss “his truth”. If someone stab, you I will hope you will tell your truth outside of the household. But I guess it’s not your truth to tell outside of them home so you just gonna stay stabbed up.🙄😒

[@randomusername3873]

​@@brat8360 What about the dad who was robbed the chance to be a parent to his kid?

[@brat8360]

@@MsMookalate umm what? Being stabbed is 100% different than this situation.

[@Lillypop93]

I think story 2 is fake 🤥

[@shanaabell6252]

The last story is super fake. It’s the same writing and “formula” that many stories in that sub have. Every time I read the obviously same op’s stories it makes me cringe.

[@DisneyChar]

1. YTA, do you have any idea how many women threatened to end themselves when canada considered letting adoptees find their moms.

[@meeri9515]

First

[@St.Ryder999]

Story 1 - no one should expect to know the details of another’s past This is between the parents and child

[@randomusername3873]

And in this case the parent and the child were robbed of their relationship because of op's monstruos family