I Studied SOCIAL ANXIETY In Thousands Of Clients & Found This...

[@JulienHimself]

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[@AD-ob5dk]

I'm almost there, but whenever I've tried the entire day to be myself, witty, loud, unapologetic, bold, taunting and stuff, at the end of the day when I'm in bed, everything starts flowing, making me feel too small and like where am i aiming to go with all this, after pushing everyone, acting against everyone, being myself, how will i pave my way out in real world with people and relationships that i know, if i don't get approvals. Because in real world, and with close relationships, there's a lot you need to think and act accordingly about, else you'll be ostracized in some way or hurt someone badly in the process of finding your way. But everyone at some point in their life needs connection so getting that validation becomes important. (Ex: your parents almost everyday taunting you that you're not doing good enough for them. Others trying to pull you to places and then when you don't show up according to their plan, they get pissed for life. Others when you behave some kind of a way that person didn't think you would, they become scared or disappointed.)

[@virtual240]

Hello Julien: Jesus Christ paid the fine on the cross for your sins and desires a personal relationship with you. But you must repent of your sin and ask God to be your Lord & Savior. By repenting, I mean not living a sinful, wordly lifestyle but instead living according to God's Word.

[@Kim-zf1rr]

Hope to see you again soon!

[@BigJayJay_real]

I have social anxiety, but I am very outspoken at the same time I don't know what triggers it to make me feel imprisoned in my head but like some places I feel comfortable, and I can be out spooked and other places I get this sudden urge of people just looking or watching me,amd i start to freak out in my head. and I am a over weight guy who is working on my weight I've lost 100 lbs but I need to keep going but I feel people judge me because of it and so it causes me to be self conscious

[@andrewfuller9156]

Well done! It's a hell of an achievement to drop 100lbs. Anyone who can accomplish that doesn't need the approval or validation of narrow -minded people.

[@Sam-Alexander]

- People are gonna forget about you in 2 minutes - only your ego cares, no one else does - the voice in your head is just a stranger so who cares what strangers say - confidence comes from subtracting whats blocking you, not adding some magical power - who's permission are you waiting for

[@skatecado2897]

great points here

[@notusperson4667]

I mean, you sure bout the first point?

[@jd3990]

People, including myself, remember embarrassing situations years later. I doubt people forget in 2mins.

[@ZhenAnthony]

​@@jd3990 yeah but they won't really care enough to conciously think of it. It's not like they go "Oh shit let me think of thay guy who did this thing yeats ago" while they are eating their breakfast. In some cases they will, BUT it only happens when they start by thinking of themselves. Like "I am planning to do this. Oh this is similar to this thing. Which brings me back a memory of this guy that did this". No one conciously and willingly try to think of you as a main topic. Only if they go offroad from what the main topic came from is only when they start to remember things you did years ago

[@Moshka627]

Living in a self imposed prison distorts reality. What happens when billions of people are distorting reality by living as false selves? Suffering. It's all gaslighting, undercurrents of confusion, distrust, insecurity.. chipping away at our confidence, belittling our existence. Being a genuinely sovereign, free individual is the greatest gift one can give to themselves and to the world. It's worth striving for every moment of every day for the rest of my life. Thank you for the reminder, Julien.

[@SuccessCoach-qp1fz]

When you save and pay for your own books at home and certifications it helps you avoid delegating your plans to the powers that be, planning by time / yr / day / hr Is importante, all successful people do that.

[@PandarenCH]

Schools are at fault

[@gamtoszinios1336]

Lies only looks matter

[@ghostlegacy5701]

I agree with but a self imposed prison distorts reality can be justified

[@dsweet5859]

@@gamtoszinios1336 this is false

[@HCK_Cat_]

Zack is such a cute, attractive, and humble guy! Seems like an interesting person (that’s my impression just after watching this video) Also, his shyness here is relatable. In my opinion he’s brave and real (admitting he’s nervous etc.)You’re more than good enough, hopefully you’ll believe that one day! 💯Thanks Julien for sharing this🤍I enjoy your channel. Love from girl in Norway

[@brip7186]

Yea, he seems like a great guy who has gone through the trauma of not being excepted because he’s different, and God knows what else. I think it’s deeper for him than just being nervous. He’s been nervous most of his life.

[@Yamiwad]

I was a confident guy as a kid as far as i remember and now for more than 8 year’s i have been so shy and nervous that i can’t even describe. I start shaking, panicking, my face gets all red , i can’t breathe properly when i have to talk to people …I can’t even give my presentation properly…i can’t answer the simple questions , i can’t even read the answer that’s written on a note and also m in a English speaking country but can’t speak proper English as its not my first language ..and this is the first time i have ever commented on a video or anywhere regarding my condition .m so tired of all these.

[@christfollower5713]

Well its good that you did a public presentation , a thing i always escaped from till now

[@Voss155]

I know that feeling very well. I can only say don’t give up, go full in. Don’t do drugs. Do what stressed you out. And than, with a lot of work, it’s get better. I Hope You don’t give up❤️

[@The_NPC20]

I have social anxiety because I feel people would judge the way I speak and can’t think of the right words or phrases on the dime. And English is my first language.

[@dontaye.]

What so scary about people judging you your still gonna be your regardless if they judge you or not

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Definitely been there before brother. What thoughts and feelings do you have when you fear that judgement coming on?

[@fatihaarsmouk4949]

Can you contact me, to change ideas about that?

[@fatihaarsmouk4949]

​@@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702 would you like to give us some insights about Yr journey there, like how you succeed letting go of that judgment zone?

[@brmillgr]

same its like im locked up inside its ridiculous

[@disgruntledvet28]

I just LOVE how he wears whatever he wants and does not care what anyone think!!!

[@erunarmo]

What would you wear if you didn't care what others thought? :)

[@Before-GTA6]

​@erunarmo baggy blue jeans, stripped tiger shirt, white airforce and black shades to a funeral

[@Fireaspect-jp8is]

Dude that outfit looks to uncomfortable 😂

[@DARKMADNESS666]

​@@erunarmo nothing 😂

[@elicthanks7578]

My biggest fear is being awkward! The thought of it holds me back

[@andoi9292]

Embrace the awkwardness! :) Often times awkward moments can become very cute, but only if you are not in resistance to what is.

[@Tiaranachellee]

Yes! And for me also not knowing what to say next my mind goes blank!

[@UknownAfrican]

I personally love awkward people. They’re the most genuine type of people because they show their emotions outwardly

[@keremsozen1]

he is able to talk his mind even in this pressure congrats man!

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Big accomplishment for sure!

[@LordVader407]

It's a room with maybe 20 people. He's a real Billy Graham 😂

[@nickycocaine]

​@@LordVader407 Baby steps jackass.

[@loveyourlaugh]

This was so beautiful it made me cry. Zack was the example of so many people supressing themselves. I loved this session. Thank you Zack and Julien❤

[@Bohnbag]

This is all created once you first start school and realize if you dont act a certain way or do certain things that you wont fit in and you'll be bullied, beat up, picked on all sorts of things and how you respond after those moments is who you end up becoming.

[@AkshitYoutube]

Honestly I'm Someone with cptsd and severe emotional trauma due to neglect, abuse, bullying by my parents and classmates.. this is definitely what i wanted. Julien you always have the perfect timing and your content changed my entire life and helped me resolve tons of trauma in the past months.❤ Sending loads of love and compassion to Zack.

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Good to hear your on the mend brother. Sending love your way :)

[@theoneandonly4464]

What an amazing spiritual awakening here. Sometimes, we all just need a little push in life to be the best we can be.

[@georges.2157]

This guy is so underrated I swear

[@wijny4222]

well he has officially the title of most hated man in the word so idk bout that

[@Kristina-tp2it]

Overrated? Make people scream and rank if they scream good.

[@Bobe_Kyrant.42]

​@wijny4222 really ? Lol is there a video on it . The stuff he says is true tho

[@jarjarwinks7034]

He used to sexually harass women on camera and hasn't changed since. He just rebranded. His new form of abuse is to single out and humiliate his audience members in the name of making an example out of them. Definitely not underrated.

[@TechReviewTom]

​@@jarjarwinks7034 he's trying to get them uncomfortable from what I see in order to expand their comfort zone

[@JustOneKnight]

Well done to Zach. I love how you do this scream example. I had a traumatic event by which I couldn't scream for help, and coupled with being an obedient little girl who was not allowed to be a child, and especially not allowed to be heard in any way, as the adult I had my first scream in my 30s. The loudness hurt my own ears, but the release of pent up energy that was released was just so awesome. Left me exhausted but I felt so empowered to have allowed myself to scream my heart out for a good 10 mins which brought me to tears of happiness and joy. No longer afraid to say what I feel , but still have a long way to go before I am comfortable in my own skin. Im still learning what is blocking me at 58 years of age. Thank you for your time and knowledge.

[@emmakok2749]

I recently found you on tiktok and now on youtube. Yesterday i watched a video where you helpt a man named mathias and it made me feel sad bc i could relate. I dont have people that get me so watching this helps me to understand meself and it feels great to see that im not alone and that there are people who get me❤ thank you!!!

[@JulienHimself]

You're so welcome! Never forget... What's most personal is most universal! 🙏

[@andersonenvy]

I was at this event in Brooklyn, it was great. I recommend anyone to attend one of these lectures.

[@JulienHimself]

Thanks for making it out in person! 🙌

[@sarahhyden3424]

Your videos have been helping me so much. I've never seen a self help person be so real and get down to the root of the issue. I went to a concert the other day and old me would've said hi to two of my friends there briefly but only talk to the other two good friend I had there. The 5th person I know there is really cool and I secretly thought I'd just bother her and probably was secretly annoyed with me. Well, I made sure to strike up a conversation with all 5 friends and the one I thought probably didn't like me gave me a big hug and we had a really nice conversation. No self help person has ever helped me come out of my shell like that before. I'm trying really hard to feel relaxed and let go of my fear rather than push through it.

[@GR-ir2bu]

What’s the difference between being embarrassed to do something vs having self-respect, dignity… where do you draw the line. How do you distinguish a personal boundary vs fear/embarrassment to do something? Why not chalk anything up to “just a bit of fun” and have zero dignity?

[@mykalhouston]

The underlying fear is that we think were going to die if we get rejected, negatively judged, mocked/laughed at, etc. So when Julien says face fears bluff it’s because you need to let the body discharge all the pent up energy that you are resisting to release Aka Letting go, and to prove to yourself that you’re actually safe and didn’t die by triggering these suppressed aspects of yourself or supposedly “fears” we have. 🤯

[@davidgosteli]

Zach is a legend! Some minutes in and I like this man already!

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, MASSIVE respect to him! 🙌

[@martinnhantran]

9:27 - 10:09 XD I love how you question people's limiting beliefs while making their beliefs sound funny and unhelpful.

[@JulienHimself]

Oh, yeah... Everyone should learn how to call out their own limiting beliefs! 👌

[@oliverplayz8358]

Introverts worse nightmare.

[@HussainWazeeri]

Thanks for this gem 💎 Lots of love from India 🇮🇳

[@JulienHimself]

You're welcome! 🔥👊

[@913_Niyala]

I don't know why I was expecting after "Zack, who are you?" -- "I am.... Batman" 😂

[@FazedSoul]

You are one of my favourite people in the world! Stay safe and stay healthy. I wish you live a beautiful and fulfilling life!

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! I'm glad my content resonates so deeply with you! 🙏

[@neelgadiyamusic8096]

julien make one video on - i feel confident around uderconfident people but i get very uncomfortable and stifled and cant speak a word around people who are confident and they always takes my spotlight and i am shadowed and disappeared , i hope you understand

[@apr670]

Thank you julien. For you being you. You are incredible

[@David-mb5zu]

My drunk uncle giving me life advice after my first break up:

[@elainebenes6485]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@gonzalez6701]

I was thinking the same that this guy was reading porn instead of literature. I think julien is very intuitive and a sensitive person too.❤❤

[@GameOn0-d6d]

Hii, I'm from India Julien. Your videos are really helping me a lot. Thank You So Much Sir for helping people like me around the world. Just wanted to meet you one time in my life.

[@camerondavis3152]

i seriously wish i had this guy as a teacher/coach in my life...i need a more outgoing figure like julien

[@jacobb554]

good video Julian, I liked some of the added humor too, informative and entertaining.

[@pianosongbook]

cool guy, this Zack! Congrats!

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, MASSIVE respect to him! 🔥🙌

[@sahilmalek1108]

​@@JulienHimselfgreat work 👍

[@josephisaround]

Well what do we do when the things we fear actually happens. The reason we believe in those things is bc they happened in the past.

[@Valid4Real]

The point is our on inner thoughts are significant to how we act and when we let the external dictate our inner selves without question we became a slave to whatever we believe the societal/external consensus is.

[@Spirit_Warrior]

Julien thanks for being you and bringing them minds back to Reality, Your doing gods work.🤟

[@grief.1581]

Sometimes I can be confident, and others a complete disaster. I have a problem with women cashiers...They make me feel so nervous, this doesn't happen when it's a man at the checkouts...I guess this has something to do with the fact that I've been yelled at many times by women in my life, me, being a quiet kid never understood why they always used me as an example to make others feel fear....Not only I stutter and become clumsy, but I also blush everytime I start feeling nervous. Does anyone else go through the same ??

[@edwardasuquo3963]

It's funny how he can't see how courageous he is just by being there. Not sure I could pull this off one bit.

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Big time - mad respect ❤

[@losfromla1480]

Give yourself more credit. He did about as bad as possible and look how it wasn't all that bad. You can do it!

[@erunarmo]

13:42 :) You totally could, you just never did it before so you never had the opportunity to prove it to yourself. Of course, it's overwhelming at first, it takes courage. But once you actually did it, your comfort zone has expanded. And that feeling is amazing!

[@ckohl9760]

This all assumes that the problem is merely the way you think. When this is not always the case. That fight or flight response that happens when public speaking for instance is worse in some people. Which is why it’s easier when they drink alcohol to do that. Most peoples heart doesn’t pound so fast it feels like it’s going to explode when they are speaking in public. It’s not all in your mind is the point. Maybe for some but not for all.

[@HolisticHealthWithHarry]

i love this kid and julien u do great work great videos!

[@dameanvil]

- 00:00 😶 People struggle to scream loudly despite claiming free will. - 00:17 🛑 Acknowledgement of being trapped and lacking free will. - 00:41 💡 Free will is limited to comfort zones; everyone is a slave to their comfort. - 01:25 🔒 Comfort zones restrict expression, health, success, money, and relationships. - 01:39 👫 Comfort zones affect social interactions, especially with perceived superiors. - 02:19 🔎 Awareness: The realization that self-imposed limits are the main obstacles. - 03:36 🗣 Self-sabotage: Admitting self-restriction in expression. - 04:19 🤝 Vibing requires feeling safe, similar to children's need for safety to play. - 05:01 🤔 Self-awareness: Questioning why we feel stifled in certain social situations. - 06:09 📸 Zach identifies fear of judgment and being in the spotlight. - 07:31 🎭 Identifying internal triggers from external situations. - 08:41 😟 Zach admits fear of not being seen as good enough. - 10:05 🧠 Challenge beliefs: Comparing expectations for oneself versus others. - 12:01 📝 Self-audit: Essential for understanding and challenging limiting beliefs. - 12:34 💡 Realizing the necessity of uncomfortable self-audits for change. - 13:23 👏 Encouragement: Participants support Zach in confronting his fears. - 15:09 🌟 Unrealistic self-criticism: Zach’s harsh self-judgment lacks external validation. - 16:31 🤝 Respect: Participants respect Zach’s courage to face his fears publicly. - 18:07 😂 Facing fear: Mock laughter shows the worst fear isn’t as bad as imagined. - 20:14 🎓 Following orders: The participant discusses how growing up with the mentality of being a good student by keeping his head down led to current struggles. - 21:00 ❌ Questioning strategy: Julian challenges the participant's belief that his past strategy was effective, pointing out its limitations. - 21:26 📉 Ego and reputation: Julian explains that concern about reputation is driven by ego and that most people don’t care as much as one might think. - 22:01 🌐 Competing online: Emphasizes that people are more distracted by the internet than focused on others, reducing personal anxiety about attention. - 23:00 😱 Fear of expression: The participant admits he’s scared of screaming loudly, revealing a deeper fear of self-expression. - 24:03 🔬 Curiosity and fear: Julian points out that natural curiosity about oneself is often suppressed by fear. - 25:27 🎤 Screaming exercise: The participant is encouraged to scream louder each time to break through his fear of being loud and noticed. - 26:02 🌟 Seeking confidence: The participant expresses his need for confidence, and Julian explores where he lost it. - 26:38 📚 Bookworm stigma: The participant shares he was considered weird in school for his interests in literature and chess. - 28:01 💫 Personal power: The participant is prompted to shout, “The magic’s always inside of you,” to empower and assert himself. - 29:02 🎭 Hero version: Julian encourages everyone to embody their ideal selves instead of fantasizing about it. - 32:34 🚫 Self-imposed barriers: Highlights how self-imposed barriers prevent personal growth and confidence. - 34:57 🧠 Inner work: Emphasizes the importance of introspection and releasing conditioning for permanent change. - 35:51 🌱 Momentary wins: Celebrates small victories as proof that personal growth is possible. - 37:23 📺 Digital distractions: The participant admits to watching KZbin instead of reading recently, indicating a shift in habits.

[@superwebsitehero7261]

Damn the fact you took the time to write all of this out and put a timestamp to each! So Much Fucking Respect and Appreciation to You!!! 💖💎🙌∞

[@cararussell2547]

dang that was so detailed!! ❤❤❤❤

[@julienatlas2313]

Woww

[@Action2me]

@@superwebsitehero7261it’s from an AI video time stamp generator.

[@bmacc3949]

Chat gpt

[@duskhorizon4791]

***'We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality.' - Lucius Annaeus Seneca***

[@Gizzy9987]

This is literal gold man

[@Samsulek_mdg]

Great video this hits the heart

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Amen brother 🙏

[@billngo3968]

I was a very roudy kid that ended up getting kicked out of his preschool. Somehow my next kindergarten school allowed was somehow able to mnage me for 1-2 years. All of a sudden I became very shy and quiet in elementary school starting first grade. Was it all because of social conditioning I wonder? Even now how do I draw the line between socially appropriate actions vs letting my intrusive actions get the best of me. In my head/my world in kindergarten, I was more my genuine self because I thought it was MY world. But growing up, reality check sets in and I am actually living in a world full of many other clashing realities. I think my actions now is still genuine to the degree that I only choose to do what consequences I can tolerate. Can’t be stomping my foot on the table and shouting, else I’ll be fired from my workplace. I genuinely want to work there more than I genuinely want to let loose and act out. I wonder what your take on this is Julian.

[@CNSninja]

The desire to blend in with a group is ingrained in all of us on such a deep level as part of the ego, the part of us that evolved to protect our very prospects of survival. Think about a group of people living 50,000 years ago, before civilization emerged. They were as much humans as we are, and they were just as intelligent as we are (not as knowledgable, but definitely as intellectually capable.) That group relied on each other for survival and wouldn't have had another group they could just go walk over to and join up with if their own group kicked them out. As a result, being ostracized wasn't just a fear based upon image or structure-being ostracized would be a fundamental and immediate threat to their very survival. These are instincts we're all born with and have to work very hard to overcome. We evolved for hundreds of thousands of years in this way, to exist within this framework. Our psychological and psychosocial evolution lags far behind our societal evolution, and while the ego does still protect us from some legitimate things like wandering bears and cliff edges, it is probably most often no longer actually working in our favor in social situations. We don't need to worry about ostricism in quite the same way anymore (although, with the internet, the world is kind of back to "one big village with nowhere else to go" again, in a way...) But at the end of the day, I'm really only making this overly long comment to illustrate how natural it is to feel yoked by your ego like Zach. Don't beat yourself up about it, but at the same time do abaolutely feel free to consider challenging some of these impulses. A therapist is a great resource for discovering safe and appropriate ways to challenge your ego if you don't trust yourself. I think one of the healthiest things you can do for yourself is to practice inflaming your ego in a controlled way and then ignoring or challenging it as practice. It's really good for you and makes you stronger and more secure. I regularly do things like telling people "You're right, I was mistaken" when I know for sure they're a dumb idiot who's demonstrably wrong about everything lol. It's exercise, just like the gym, but for your mind and personality rather than your body. People who inflame your ego are not a threat to your survival. See them as an opportunity to strengthen yourself by practicing ignoring and overriding your ego. Value them, in a way.

[@aftbenfy]

Great video as always!

[@michelemanzano7715]

I just love your work and your Videos!! Thank you so so much!

[@paulgoethe]

29:00 this!! superbly well explained: fishing for micro-proofs of approval from others to be oneself. The "inner voice" has a counterargument though: if you don't care at all of what others say, then you'll end up doing/saying unethical things. So you can't completely be free. What do you answer to that?

[@just_nate_8694]

Zach handled it well... totally felt for him ❤️

[@nickp3949]

I feel like I’m just doing or saying something wrong. Like my “being” is my wrong. So I’m always on edge of being judged and I hyper fixate on doing everything “right” from the way I’m standing and sitting to the way I speak. It makes me so neurotic. But it’s so automatic, I don’t know how to change that.

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Thanks for sharing this man. How far back does your 'being is wrong' go for you?

[@nickp3949]

@@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702 I’d probably say since high school. While I wasn’t picked on really, I didn’t have many friends. I was always the third wheel, the tag along, the guy without a gf. I was the wallflower, the lowest guy in the group, the butt of the jokes. So I always did this to try to impress people and made a fool of myself. So I started fawning to gain approval. This continued in the military. I joined to make myself proud of myself and to prove I can be “that guy”, but my treatment continued, and actually got even worse. I was treated like garbage and always the butt of every joke. Still didn’t get a gf. Because of these bad experiences I always felt like I needed to hide my military service or that I don’t deserve it. What makes it worse is that because I didn’t go overseas I have people still to this day telling me I’m not a real veteran or just dismissing my service completely. Since I got out of the military, life hasn’t really gotten better. I started looking online for a long distance gf because I couldn’t get on in rl. I met a lot of girls and I eventually did date one and she was a beautiful girl from England, we did video chat and everything. But she was emotionally abusive to me and treated me like crap. I became an alcoholic, suffered from a pornography addiction and didn’t have a job for years. I paid for my own place with the GI bill while I went to college. I’m 32 now. Still never had a REAL gf. Had a few jobs but nothing sticks because I don’t fit in a lot of places and I’m socially awkward due to low self esteem. I’m 5 ft 2 so that plays in to my self esteem and why u believe I’ve always been treated differently. Maybe it’s an excuse though, I don’t know. No matter what I do in life I always get treated the same. This “growth” that people talk about in life, I haven’t experienced it. I hear stories of people accomplishing amazing things and I just think that I struggle with basic life stuff. I recently moved to a different state for a fresh start, kept a job for 7 months, we got a new supervisor who didn’t like me and made my life a living hell and she wore me down until I called in sick and then she fired me. Now I’m jobless, living with a family member, started drinking again, thousands in debt, still no gf. I truly don’t understand why I suffer so much in life. I drink because it’s too painful to be sober. It’s painful just being me. This shows in my body language when I interact with people. It’s a catch 22. I need good experiences to be validated, but in order to have those good experiences, I need to have the confidence and body language of someone who’s a winner. I can’t do that if I’ve lost at every turn. Even if I stay off good, it always ends up crashing. I had a therapist for five years and she didn’t know what to do. You can’t make society treat you differently. Sorry for the rant bro, I just feel stuck in my own hell. I should also mention that my parents got divorced when I was 14 and it was traumatic for me as well. My mom became and alcoholic, made a lot of terrible decisions. My dad was in and out of jail.

[@ianrose8804]

@@nickp3949you've made it this far. Recognize your accomplishments and mark those down as a win. Another win, you are aware and confronting yourself. What I see, you're stuck in comparison mentality. Infatuating the idea of a gf. Earning her starts with trusting in yourself. Any gf just wants her man to believe in hisself. Prioritize inner work of faith, love and determination. Then the women will find you. Life is short, that's the motivation.

[@KP-nk7fo]

Find someone who relates to your struggles but also is happy about the same things you’re happy about. Only then will you find them and yourself.

[@isaactamplin8905]

This is a pretty cool one that I've seen. It's almost as if Julian is the playable character who takes NPCs and recodes them to be playable characters. This also impacts me in the way that I believe about things, that is reality. This is what just came to me. Jesus talks about a scenario of when you get the house clean from a demon. It needs to be filled otherwise when the demon comes back, it'll come back with worse ones than it. It's always been taught that way, so I need to fill the house. Here it is: Well being one in Christ, God has already filled me and there is no more room. So having to deal with "demons" coming out, reality is the wholeness of being filled is already there. Because everything is already complete, but not yet. That's why God and I have to get them out. But I'm already filled when they get out, if I believe. Also, being a slave reminds me of Paul The apostle talks about in Romans either a slave to the natural of sin or slave to God of righteousness.

[@vixenvalenzuela]

bohemian Julian 🔥

[@JulienHimself]

🔥👊

[@preksha.sunshower]

Seeing these videos makes me realize how much we downgrade ourselves!! Zach is absolutely beautiful and I'd definitely wanna talk to him if around!❤ And I'm 100% sure I won't be saying the same about myself was I in his spot

[@drgato5231]

I respect him

[@kpaxian6044]

I think I have social anxiety disorder because I was emotionally abused growing up and I started to become my owm worst critic to avoid others criticizing me. I know where it comes from intellectually, but it is sure hard to get rid of...

[@Kim-zf1rr]

We are all slaves of something within us! Let’s start releasing and letting go of the things hold us slaves! Be the slave of God! For he has given you the ultimate freedom and created you free of these hypotheses! Nowadays people are EXTREMELY running away from the within and living such a miserable lives by coping and being unaware of the reality inside of them!

[@cteegs6893]

This guy is brilliant

[@augustburns933]

Oh poor Zach. I feel nervous and uncomfortable for him! 😂 Seems like such a good guy though! I’d totally hang out with you buddy. No need to feel so nervous, I accept you for who you are.

[@rabbitwastaken]

"what are the beliefs? what are the assumptions? where did they come from? why do i believe this? whats scary about questioning or challenging this, whats scary about letting go of this, and that is how you free yourself" just a clip could be helpful to the questioning part. 12:10

[@janviyadav612]

I love these breakdowns , ❤ Thanks a ton

[@Jahvere]

The audience is very good , they weren't scared to say i agree with him and be the first one to share their opinion,

[@nothingchanges014]

I love Zach the way he is. He doesn't have to overcome anything. Just be himself and stay that way.

[@earthvariety]

Honestly I'm more likely to date someone like Zach then I would be Julien. Julien has some good points but people who just don't care what anyone else thinks and do whatever they want can be exhausting. I tend to enjoy being around people who are a little more reserved.

[@NoahArk-xy2nb]

​@@earthvarietyi dont think julien is crazy in his everyday life as he is in his videos. He is this way in his videos to show people that if he can act crazy, then you can act like yourself which most likely wont be as extreme as how he acts here. The comment says "i love zach the way he is"..most likely, zach is not like this when he is his comfortable self. He needs to work on bringing that comfortable-self out whenever he shys away. The point is not to act crazy. The point is bring out your authentic-self. And even your authentic-self might need some work if you are not being socially aware of how you make others feel

[@ettel8358]

It's not really about what you want or the kind of person you'd date. It's about him. He went to the seminar because he doesn't like how he is, he wants to learn to love himself. Other people telling him they prefer him the way that he doesn't prefer himself isn't a help for him.

[@530Issa]

i like to use my testosterone to help with my confidence. Feel it running through your veins and scream. Exercise helps release testosterone. When you feel like your muscles can crush things somehow conversations and people become much less intimidating

[@530Issa]

Also i used to have extreme social anxiety but one day i used my adrenaline at school to get up and sit at this pretty girls lunch table and talk to her. This was 15 years ago and i still remember today. When you REALLY breakthrough you realize what your capable of and everything seems alot easier suddenly. Also over the course of years of putting myself out of my comfort zone has helped as well. Put yourself in social situations. One of the most powerful thing i learned was to be successful you have to put yourself in the right position to be successful. Really opened my mind to realizing its all about the situations you put yourself. Also the not always trusting yourself in this video is a great GEM you gave us. Thank you!

[@isayawhaat1634]

your personality is not the problem its a lack of knowledge and first hand experience keep in mind that your brain trust experience more than knowledge and baby steps toward doing something can migate delusion of your logic caused by emotion

[@tarapetropoulos6153]

Breaking thru being a donkey, bust up people's fears and anxiety, keep being a donkey....be fearless people ✨️ 💪 ❤

[@bicguy2923]

Julian u are great I love your work, you are an amazing person

[@you1thesound]

I commented before I watched the whole thing

[@naturallybecoming831]

Yeah I’ve wanted to gain confidence and let go of social anxiety. Defining it as letting go instead of things I need to enhance myself definitely changes things. I love how he came up with the p star name so fast 😂😂😂

[@eliseotellodemeneses860]

i believe i am the way that i am because of my mother, and i still live with her. can i "heal" or "let go" or whatever, while still living here, taking her abuse?

[@rabbitwastaken]

Honestly i dont believe i have the right to give any advice here, but Julien said this in the video: "Its this person who did this messed up thing, but its you who's abusing yourself over it" Not exactly the words but pretty much it.

[@bebeserio6072]

The worst case scenario that bothers me is they thinking that I'm going crazy or insane and that's making my mind goes blank and i dont even know what to do and how to act normally when this scenario pops up in my mind.

[@macaroon147]

The video just ended and now I forgot about him an am googling Haley Rider. Thanks Zack

[@Berthold.6743]

I mean I get his point but if you think about it, Zach as any other person in that situation is not moved to scream because there is no need for it, he is not moved to scream so he doesn‘t want to scream. Isn‘t that free will?

[@lonely_moments6283]

It’s the willingness to not scream rather than the free will not to.

[@theford8532]

What an amazing video this youtuber is fucking awesome it gives me hope people lile this go around helping others so much

[@o.g717]

I really love this

[@just_nate_8694]

Same

[@refabricationsart]

This was fun but what I really want to know is where you bought that blue & orange batik robe! I might need one.

[@TalhaaArt]

The screaming thing is actually ain't that easy btw. Try it yourself and most of you won't be able to scream fast. We are all acting instead of being ourselves.

[@dadlord689]

But the reason this dude is shy is because he have passed a narcissist obedience training. It's when everything is wrong about you and every behavior was punished with reaction every time. Just like a dog training. School is a perfect place where it is happening. And if you afraid of that treatment - you'll compete for joining the narcissist as a minion. Classic

[@brip7186]

Yes! I sense the same thing.

[@dadlord689]

@@brip7186 I assume you were forced to go to school everyday same as me))

[@brip7186]

@@dadlord689 I was actually! Is it that obvious ?! 😭😂

[@brucedwaynezabdieldecastro4065]

In Asia, no one will forget you until you doe

[@hawikebede5843]

I feel bad that people are laughing at Zac as he is put on the spot light!

[@dosta_e]

poor Zach xD he did a 10 year character development arc in half an hour

[@asilentvoice2661]

Really really helpful❤

[@TalhaaArt]

That's literally me before my presentation and then when i get comfortable on the stage I'll literally make jokes about everyone and everything 😅 and after each presentation i am ready to do one more but then the cycle repeats...

[@RheaMoore1486]

I really wanna know where I can buy that Cardigan

[@nicktube3904]

You doing great work, but I’m always distracted by those crazy clothings

[@Savatar_Spart]

I have social anxiety as well 😭

[@britlmao]

Yoo do you wanna connect through discord??

[@davidcohen637]

So glad seeing a lecture without swearing, because i relate with everything he says, but i struggle finding a vid not filled with so many F words etc

[@rabbitwastaken]

why should an f word get in the way of a good presentation? just ignore it, unless you're a child

[@davidcohen637]

@@rabbitwastaken i don't like hearing swears, and yes i still listen to his lessons, but i enjoy this video much more since there is no swearing. Thank u for trying and make it personal, but i won't go there

[@rabbitwastaken]

@@davidcohen637 I didn't try to make anything personal. Its true children shouldn't hear swears since it badly influences them , but being no child means you won't be easily influenced.

[@sickopathogen]

Dude... Grow the fuck up 😅​@@davidcohen637

[@AarjavDua]

I loved the attendees laughing. I laughed along!

[@matej_u]

I want to know if Zach is screaming his lungs out every day from that encounter

[@rabbitwastaken]

haha loved it ❤ the ending was perfect

[@lem8540]

The only time I’ve screamed is at a concert where nobody can hear me and everyone else is also screaming, or when I get frightened. I was so excited to get a car so I can have a safe space to scream alone because I never do. At that point I just didn’t know how. couldn’t do it, I sounded like an alien pretending to be human😭

[@Thepsychedelicverses]

Be your own guru.

[@vibrationalcurrency]

HALEY FUCKING RYDER !!!!!!!!!!!! 👏

[@donn1473]

Lol funny thing is, i paused the video to surf around abit and when i got back Julien said "people are on different tabs" very true!

[@whelkshuffler]

sublime

[@FearfulFellow]

No idea who this is but i love his fashion sense

[@jimmurray8483]

Free will is an illusion

[@martykaspik]

3:40 nice 4th wall break

[@goerky89DE]

Thanks for the Videos and positive vibes! Gz from Germany.

[@JulienHimself]

You're so welcome! 🙌

[@Aleks_Mechanics]

Have a Great Weekend!🎉🎉🎉🙌🏼🙌🏼