I think it's time to open up about this..

[@mrsg3460]

We always wanted 2 and it was always 2 and we chucked/donated/sold nearly everything and then we decided on no3!!! It is hard, I love having 3 and it feels amazing, but just as when I had 1 I missed being able to focus on one, I miss the days of 2. We were going to get a bigger house anyway but yes we needed a bigger car to fit 3 car seats across the back. But I reached a point where I would see photos of people with 3 kids and feel like I wasn't done. It's definitely taken a toll mentally, but this stage is so short...my 1st born is 7 in 1 week! It feels like no time since I was going to baby groups with her clapping and singing away to hello sun ☀️

[@tsvetanapetrova2]

You are an absolute hero for surviving the newborn stage and a toddler on your own! I have a 6 month and a 2 and a half year old and I struggled so much in the beginning. Literally I was crying every day and I thought it was absolute nightmare.

[@LianneOsman]

Your videos are such a godsend Shan. I’m currently in the trenches (6 week old and 21 month old) and feeling constant guilt that I’m not fulfilling each of their needs. I really love your idea about talking to the newborn the same way you speak to the toddler, I really think that will help to make my toddler feel more seen and get less angry with me. Thank you 🥰

[@hollieelizabethbryan802]

Thank you for always being super honest, we’re due to have our second any day and have a two year old. It’s actually more comforting watching realistic vlogs and videos so we know we’re all in this together. You’re a great Mummy xx

[@HomeWithShan]

Thank you so much lovely, I was definitely wary of scaring anyone that is expecting their second bubba soon, BUT I think it’s important to be real and honest about these things in case anyone else experiences something similar. That way we know that we’re never alone in any of it ♥️

[@alexholland8536]

Thank you for your honesty & transparency. I'm a first time mum and I really struggled in the new born stage & don't have any family around. We had very similar issues, tongue tie, osteopath and she's got a cows milk allergy so its been really tough. As my first child I really regret how much pressure I put on myself & didn't enjoy it more! I wish I could turn back time & thinking this way doesn't help but it is what it is and next time I will just give into it ;)

[@ClaraSais]

I struggled too and like you had no family. It was really tough!

[@alexholland8536]

@@ClaraSaisit really was and I was not prepared for it! I also didn’t know who to talk to or how to navigate the system to get help. By the time I spoke to the GO about it things were getting better. However I still get really triggered on tough days because there’s just no break from it when you don’t have a village

[@ClaraSais]

@@alexholland8536 totally get that. Sending a hug x

[@abbiebaker8533]

Watching this has bought me so much comfort. I heard throughout my entire second pregnancy how it’s so much easier going from 1 - 2 than it is going from 0 - 1. That was not my reality at all, even now I’m still struggling so much more than I thought I would be. I have a 4 month old and a 2 and a half year old. It’s so so much more demanding and harder (to me) than it was when I had just my eldest. Hearing other people who’ve had similar experiences makes me feel like less of a failure or a bad mum, it’s just nobody around me has felt this way and have all found it easier the second time around

[@chloegould1482]

Shan please may you pop some of your baby bits on vinted? Would love to have a browse - your children always look either mega comfy and cool or very smart ❤

[@meghaneivers1854]

My house looks like I have kids! Yes, thank you for saying this. Favorite KZbinr xxxx

[@traceygrabham5464]

You are absolutely amazing and an incredible mumma. My sons the same if he stays inside he would be wild. Loving your videos lovely and how honest you are x

[@gemma2503]

Thank you for being so open and honest, going from 1 to 2 is rough! My eldest is 3 and my daughter is 7 weeks now and this video has given me comfort that my feelings are normal and us mums are not alone!X

[@rachxxxx]

❤ Hi Shan! 👋 just wanted to say thanks for being so honest! It really helps! Take care my dear xxx

[@cloudedcolour5329]

My husbands still in but as a foster parent it’s definately made it challenging. As an army wife though it is a lot and for us him staying in was his descision since he’s got 5 yrs till he hits 25 yrs and can start to talk about retirement since it means I can also go back to work

[@princesspinkblue]

My son was the same- stiff in the jaw & neck and had a tongue tie. It was so tough those first few weeks- i totally understand! We got through it though 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻 like you said “ we are so much stronger than we know”

[@sjg250884]

I thought 1 was hard, but 1-2 kicked my ass. It was brutal. It’s weird that now when I only have one around and the other is in childcare or school etc, one doesn’t even feel like parenting 😂 motherhood is weird! You’re doing great x

[@harriethudson1909]

Nice to see reality, glad your feeling happier. ❤❤

[@chloegould1482]

Waiting for it to go live! I’m excited to hear about MAT leave! I’ve watched your savings vids so am intrigued!

[@katerinakokki2013]

Shan you are such a beautiful person, inside and out! I really appreciate your honesty, I’m on the same journey with an almost two year old and a five month old ab the first few months were HARD! ((and still is 😅) so happy we survived 🥰

[@sarahharrington7674]

I love the tip with your older child to ask your baby to wait a minute etc... Just WOW!!

[@jessicaholden6477]

My baby is the same age as Halle and your videos have helped me so much in the last 4 months! I’m also stretching my Maternity leave until September and really hoping that the ‘free’ hours are still in place. Thank you for being so honest and warm, you are supporting a lot of other exhausted mamas! ❤

[@HomeWithShan]

Love knowing that we’re in this journey together, I’m so glad that the videos bring you some comfort! They definitely do wonders for me ♥️💫

[@jadechandler3054]

That actually made me well up when you was talking about George bless him !

[@charlottebenson4893]

My husband and I are both in the RAF so I can relate! I am 35 weeks pregnant with our first, still in work (which is so so hard!), and already bracing myself for the reality of my husband being away next year for 3 months and being away from me and our baby girl..... cannot wait for us to both be able to live a civilian life, the prospect of leaving is just scary.

[@HomeWithShan]

Ahh wow this does sound tough! It really does take a special breed to do this whole military / family thing, it’s deffo not for the faint hearted! What I would say is, obviously it’s hard but I am so incredibly proud of myself for doing so much on my own when Ash was away. It was a lot of pressure, but I did it anyway and nothing beats the pride that gives me. You’re a strong mama already my love, you 100% have got this🙌🏻 also, I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but the hive baby groups that RAF do are usually free and I actually met two of my best pals at one of those groups when A was based at an RAF camp for a while! Meet people that understand your situation and you’ll get through together 💪🏼

[@charlottebenson4893]

@@HomeWithShan Thank you! It's nice hearing it from someone else who can relate. It isn't easy being left without kids let alone with! Glad your family now are in a much better place and can have more time together. Love your videos btw :)

[@nicolesurphlis1558]

​@@HomeWithShan❤❤ love your video s how baby Callie done she like her dummies s

[@jadekinsey]

Well done for being super honest 👏 👍 👌 😊❤ the first 6 months was the hardest for me. Plus my lb didn't take to my lg until she was nearly 9 months. Thanks for making truthful videos 🥰🥰🥳🥳🦖🦄

[@HomeWithShan]

Thank you so much my love, it’s a hard one isn’t it, but it’s always good to know it gets easier in the long run ♥️♥️

[@chantellemobey8490]

Hi Shan, I just want to say I love your videos! Your so real and so honest witch is not always the case with KZbin now days! I have been watching since before you had your son, just a amazing mumma! I definitely found second time round the most difficult to point I didn’t think I would get though it also.. amazing what we can do has mummy’s. Much love 😊

[@littlesithinilifeinireland3637]

I got emotional with you describing the newborn stage and doing it alone, i remeber how tired youwere in your videos.

[@annawisniewska6651]

This is why I love your channel. Thank you for being so honest ❤

[@user-jd5jf4qq7t]

Have you heard the rhyme ‘something you want, something you need, something to wear, something to read’ with regards to Christmas gifts, we used this last year with our baby and I think we will continue the tradition to try to stop us over spending and going crazy, we don’t want a Dudley Dursley situation haha! Xxx

[@Gambole]

I live in Wales and I’m just praying the Welsh Government decides to implement the same childcare allowances as the UK Government has proposed. It’s so frustrating to hear it being talked about in the news and know it might not apply here 😬

[@Piperbabe22]

Apparently several nurseries here in Surrey is not going to accept the funding...

[@katrinalee5281]

I’m 😢 tearing up watching you ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@mch1811]

I'm also stretching to September 2024 for the childcare reforms 😂 I have a 2 year old and a 6 week old and it's the only way returning to work is viable. So glad things have looked up for you. Gives me hope for the rest of the newborn stage with #2, as I've struggled SO MUCH up until a few days ago when the light at the end of the tunnel came into sight... Thank you for the insight!

[@HomeWithShan]

I’m so glad you can see your light at the end on the tunnel my love, it’s always there 🥰 Let’s keep our fingers crossed for the childcare reforms haha!! 🤞🏼

[@JasmineStrongman]

Hey I would just add be careful with natural cycles if you are breastfeeding as your fertility window is all over the place. I only just got my period back and had a bit of a shock when it took 2 months to get another one. It was a stressful couple of weeks and many pregnancy tests later 😂

[@HomeWithShan]

VERY good advice haha!! Thank you! ♥️

[@jacquelineyoung5027]

Now I feel so terrible after my comment in the last video I didn’t want to cause offence , I know we only see 5 minutes of your life , and I’m so glad to know that your happy and getting the help and support i literally adore you and your channel and family x 💕😞

[@HomeWithShan]

Ahh don’t be at all! It just made me think that “oh maybe people think that Ash is a lay about” 😂 which is totally not the case 😂😂 in fact, i’m currently just in the car having done my exercise class tonight waiting for him to give me the all clear that George is asleep 😂😂xxx

[@jacquelineyoung5027]

@@HomeWithShan this makes me so happy just you relax because you absolutely deserve it , your vlogs are literally preparing me for labour , I’m due my little Girl in 1 week and 6 days and I know for a fact I’m going to keep going back on your videos for help , advice and so I can be in the trenches with you 😂💕cx

[@mirandathomas8888]

Oh Shan I got emotional seeing you get upset 😢 it’s silly but I’ve followed you for nearly 3 years so I feel like I know you! You’re smashing it and thank you for your honesty, loved this catch up. Oh and my second baby is turning 6 months next week and for Christmas I’m going in the loft and getting out some of Arthur’s old toys and wrapping them up 😅 no point buying new and Arthur won’t remember them either! Xx

[@kerrihayes3988]

Love your honesty glad your feeling alot better 💖 xxx

[@karenlavery4463]

Your a great mum ❤❤❤

[@creativereindeer]

Appreciate the honesty, I hope you continue to do okay. Just a quick note, honestly saying this as a helpful steer not meant as a nitpick - I think your shutter speed/frame rate might have got knocked out of place for this video, but sentiment over substance, your personality and editing far shine through. 'Done' is 100% better than 'perfect', I'm terrible for getting hung up over this stuff myself! opposite issue! Hope this reads with the warmth it was written with, wanting your channel to go from strength to strength

[@marthamoore834]

You're amazing Shan!

[@liris2833]

20 weeks pregnant with our second. And a 2 year old that has never slept through the night and is a complete nutter 😂 Very nervous about times ahead!

[@babyGee95.]

I'm currently on maternity my boy is 12 weeks tomorrow, I worked all the way up till the week I was due even though they tried to get me to finish early as I was struggling I work in retail and I was doing 5/6am starts and I had to change my shifts from 5 days a week of short shifts to 4 longer ones just so I'd have an extra day off to rest not that I ever did I always found something at home to organise haha , I only get 3 months full pay then the 2nd 3 months is half pay ( I believe from statory pay?) I have no clue how it works haha I'm in Wales so might be different, But I've chosen to only take 6 months off as I can't afford half pay let alone no pay, My last month of maternity pay though will be my holidays I've saved so I get 6 weeks holiday and that will be full pay as its contracted holidays ect, I was originally gonna take 3 months off but they kept saying please don't because you will be upset and might not cope ect and need time to bond with thr baby and 3months is too soon ect so glad I didn't now haha, But I'm only confused because my first month pay thr first 2 weeks of it was the weeks I actually worked so hsd pull pay of that thrn had like 50 wuod from work for week 3 and 400 plus from statory? Idk it fries my brain fp .

[@rebeccahardy6472]

Do you still use the toy subscription service? I haven’t noticed you mention it recently

[@gemmarodwell2733]

They went bust I still haven't received my money back!

[@amyturnill6359]

You are a great mummy! ❤ it’s hard, your children are a similar age gap to mine and it can be savage at times 😂 On another note, I have just opened a store on Etsy and would like to send you a little something. It’s dog mum related, what bread is Molly? I think it’s Molly, sorry if I got that wrong…Can you let me know and send me your PO Box address please? Xx

[@lalala6420]

Yawn...click bait much 😂