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Mia Findlay

Mia Findlay

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Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional or psychologist. These videos were created purely to share advice from my own experience as a survivor and eating disorder recovery coach and to encourage eating disorder sufferers to discuss their struggle openly.

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@catherinepietsch1362
@catherinepietsch1362 4 жыл бұрын
I wish my brain worked differently because I’ve been “recovered” for nearly a decade but not mentally I guess. I hear this good advice and understand it, but the back of my mind still wants to punish me for gaining weight, I still obsess over my appearance and compare it to previous versions of myself, and I still sometimes have intrusive thoughts saying that I couldn’t live with myself if I am ever perceived as “fat” again. I’m glad you have a logical, rational voice to combat all that.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
That's okay, I was there too. It isn't because my brain works differently - we can all change our neural wiring and that includes you. Be gentle with yourself.
@hal55984
@hal55984 4 жыл бұрын
@ Catherine Pietsch I am sorry to hear that you are struggling and can relate to the intrusive thoughts coming through. Please be kind to yourself and know that you are strong and beautiful despite these thoughts:) Stay safe and take it one day at a time 💖
@catherinepietsch1362
@catherinepietsch1362 4 жыл бұрын
Thank both of you guys. Today has been a good day for me and I’m hoping that it’s got lots of other good days to follow 🌸💕
@jordanleighwheatley
@jordanleighwheatley 4 жыл бұрын
My dietitian always says "All foods fit" so I'm going to paint that and hang it in my kitchen. Ive been massively struggling.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear you're struggling Jordan, sounds like you have great support in your dietitian. I'm sure you're working hard, keep going!
@jordanleighwheatley
@jordanleighwheatley 4 жыл бұрын
@@WhatMiaDidNext thank you. I've been hiding posts on social media that aren't helpful and just trying to get the good messages only.
@EmThrives
@EmThrives 4 жыл бұрын
Love that idea
@jordanleighwheatley
@jordanleighwheatley 4 жыл бұрын
@@EmThrives thank you. That's my goal to accomplish this weekend
@kimh.9124
@kimh.9124 4 жыл бұрын
Love that phrase!!!
@SlaydelRey
@SlaydelRey 4 жыл бұрын
I needed this soooo much right now. Last week I weighed myself for the first time in awhile after realizing that I managed to maintain a healthy weight without weighing in recovery and I had gained 5 lbs. Maybe bloating, maybe real, I have no idea. But it sent me into a total spiral and now I can’t stop weighing myself and I’m even failing back into binge/restrict and a ton of bodychecking. But having someone to turn to that just says “Hey, this is a rough time, let your body do its thing and just take care of yourself” means a lot. i
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
So very happy to hear this can help Annie. Definitely try to stay off the scales, no way that can help you right now and you don't deserve to feel badly about that.
@bellella_6926
@bellella_6926 4 жыл бұрын
You're such a wonderful voice to combat the painful ED thoughts so many of us live with. Thank you
@linatiblier8762
@linatiblier8762 4 жыл бұрын
This is everything!! One of the biggest "aha moments" was when I realized and internalized that recovery and intuitive eating did NOT mean I would miraculously never want to eat "unhealthy" or "junk" food again (i.e. diet culture). Realizing that it was okay for my body to want foods that diet culture demonizes like oh i dont know CARBS was so important for me. It took a long time, but when I started to listen and trust my body and accept that recovery didn't mean diet culture (which sounds dumb but hey i really believed i would be cured of my pizza cravings oopsie), I made so much more progress. I proved to myself (over time and many trips.. okay fine a couple of face plants) that I could trust my body. You said it so much better in your video ngl, but YES GIRL weight can fluctuate and that's good because that's what bodies do! I keep seeing on Instagram that people are using quarantine to "glow up" and/or are commenting SO MUCH about weight gain and how they are going to combat it (if I see one more kETo recipe PeRfeCT for quarantine i'm going to lose it)... it drives me up the wall like I'm over here trying to stay in recovery and not relapse and i really dont need your diet culture ruining my insta feed smh let me eat my fries in peace
@Sarahsavage97
@Sarahsavage97 4 жыл бұрын
I have been opening the window to the sun and fresh air. That is one of my coping mechanisms right now that has been working for me. It helps because when I am triggered, I know that at this point I won't allow myself to engage in disored behaviors, so I tend to isolate myself with that trigger/feeling. Mostly its a quiet, dark space where its easy to feel sorry for myself. So allowing the sounds, sights, smells, sun and air from outside into that space really seems to ground me and release those happy chemicals that I'm needing.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful idea, nature is so freaking healing.
@Sarahsavage97
@Sarahsavage97 4 жыл бұрын
@@chloep4500 awh I'm glad I could help 💗
@caitsmalls2720
@caitsmalls2720 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve found so much comfort in your videos these days. The last month or so has been so difficult, it really helps to hear from like-minded people who get it. Thanks so much for sharing yourself with us❤️
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
I'm just so happy it can help in any way. Sending you lots and lots of love.
@amyoleary9157
@amyoleary9157 4 жыл бұрын
Hi! I am nowhere near to this, in actual fact, I am not able to go back to work as of yet as I am having suicidal thoughts due to my weight gain. I cannot deal with the idea I have to it can accept this body yet. I am free if throwing up for almost two weeks now but binging, wow. I cannot deal with the damn runners, the gorgeous bodies and my constant narrative so I'm seeking help for sure and will be getting the advice of a dietician soon. All I know how to do is binge and diet. Thanks - I may not have been to the extremes I could have and others have also in fact, I was told I don't have an eating disorder but my God, every waking moment of my life and this is no exaggeration is how I look and what I weigh and berating myself as I don't and have i exercised and only feeling pride when I lose weight and fit into small clothes. I'm 41 and up until now this is the life I have been living!
@jakerockznoodles
@jakerockznoodles 4 жыл бұрын
I think I'm in a headspace that surprised me. Recovering from bulimia I'm feeling surprisingly good as my limited ability to go outside has made me shop less and as a result binge less. The temptation to go out and buy stuff to binge on gets suppressed by the fact that I have to really plan ahead for every shop, which takes time and focus away from that impulse. I truly wish everyone struggling all the best.
@mandylisak
@mandylisak 4 жыл бұрын
Good work
@StockholmSupanova
@StockholmSupanova 4 жыл бұрын
Love the reasoning that you’d never tell a friend ‘you need to lose weight’ or ‘don’t enter my house unless you step on a scale’. This is so true. We need to speak to ourselves as we would our loved ones. As I love my friends for who they are - zero to do with weight. So need to remember that for myself too ❤️
@BellClan37
@BellClan37 4 жыл бұрын
I really appreciated your caveat that you're in a conventionally acceptable body size and that it's ok to be bothered by weight gain too but it's ok to question those feelings. Very validating and very inspiring.
@celinesionkim
@celinesionkim 4 жыл бұрын
You’re out here saving lives 😭♥️ this is exactly what I needed as a person still on the recovery journey. I appreciate you tremendously ♥️♥️ we’ll get though this difficult times together!! 🙏
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
We absolutely will! You're safe in this community, I promise!
@EmThrives
@EmThrives 4 жыл бұрын
We'll get through this together
@XxToxicCandyxX1
@XxToxicCandyxX1 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve gained weight too!! A lot has changed in my life in the past month only, on a personal and professional level, so I’m focusing more on mental health. I started going to the gym early in March and I got results, now I can’t even go take a walk outside. So I’m kinder to myself, and I don’t feel this terrorizing fear that I’ve felt before when gaining weight, because I know I can gain and lose, but my mind is more important. Also, you remind me that I need to take it easy on the coffee too! Thank you for your videos. Xox
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
This is awesome. it is such a lovely feeling to know that you're doing the right thing by your mental health and taking care of yourself.
@ohursoflirty-johnnysuh5475
@ohursoflirty-johnnysuh5475 4 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't worry about it anyway. If you've been going to the gym you're gonna gain muscle so you'll put on weight from that
@ZoeShears
@ZoeShears 4 жыл бұрын
I am so sick of the amount of negative weight posts on facebook at the moment. I have been eating so much bread and pasta that I am so worried. My eating isn't on track and hasn't been on track since all this started but I'm trying to love myself and praise myself for surviving in a way that works for me. I am not allowed outside so exercise is non existent. But forcing those negative thoughts down and just making the best of what i have.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Be very gentle with yourself and your expectations of how you should feel. Taking care of yourself however you need to, this is an unprecedented event.
@annamaria5913
@annamaria5913 4 жыл бұрын
I am very early in recovery so I am still on a meal plan, but I also do a weekly plan to structure my day. I put in rest time and reflection time next to all the activities. Just having a structure really helps me a lot, especially since I tend to scold myself for doing "nothing". But if I put resting in the plan it's like another to do off my list and it feels productive instead of lazy.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
These are awesome suggestions and a great way to challenge beating yourself for being 'lazy'. Rest certainly isn't lazy, you're entitled to it.
@angietrif
@angietrif 4 жыл бұрын
I really needed to hear this right now. Its hard to be surrounded by family who are all weight focused. I just want to be free from the dieting mindset. But on the other hand, it feels difficult to accept body changes sometimes. This video showed me that sometimes its not that big of a deal and were all going through it!
@h2osarahrocks
@h2osarahrocks 4 жыл бұрын
Hey Mia ❤️ your videos comfort me, especially in these times 💕
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad!
@helensunshine8973
@helensunshine8973 4 жыл бұрын
You really are an amazing person. I’m sat on my sofa in the Uk, remembering my oz and nz travels. I just want u to know how much watching your videos give me perspective and motivation. I have just began with an eating disorder outpatient team and I’m so disappointed with the service. I think I was holding out for THE ANSWER and they would tell me what to do to get recovered. I realise now that is it going to happen and I have to just do it. Ima nurse and have been told I can’t work as I’m ‘at high risk’ I have never been so determined to get better. I will push And I really will try and Remember that my weight means nothing of who I am......great word Mia - That is going to be my new mantra. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are a star, your the kind of friend I need in my life!! Take care xx
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you, I love this community. We're definitely all here for each other.
@myriambelkhodja2349
@myriambelkhodja2349 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this videos (and all the others), this is so helpful ! I'm trying to get back on track on recovery after a big and scary relapse so I'm struggling with the situation because it's harder to keep busy and stay in touch with a support system from far away. I started this quarantine weighing myself all the time so my challenge at this point is trying not to do it or at least not as much. Also, people I live with are not aware of my ed so they keep on making comments about my food or there's, about the fear of putting on weight etc. which make things really stressful on a daily basis. So thanks for this !!
@georgie1214
@georgie1214 4 жыл бұрын
I'm certainly not grateful for this pandemic or the devastation it's caused, but one thing it's done is spark something in my brain that is on fire arguing back against disordered thoughts. I was scrolling through instagram and saw a post where someone was berating themselves for eating a 'comfort food.' Obviously the disordered thoughts happened, but there was this other little voice that said, 'what an absurd thing to be worried about right now.' I was so relieved to hear that; it was almost like my true logical self went 'yes, finally! Thank you.' I'm in the process of recovery and there's still a lot of work ahead but I can't wait for food to just be food. Thanks for this Mia! Spot on, timely, and helpful as always ❤️
@EmThrives
@EmThrives 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing the chai idea
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
It took me a while to notice how badly it affects me - chai is the perfect level of caffeine for me and so delicious.
@chelseataylor7404
@chelseataylor7404 4 жыл бұрын
I've downloaded the app Recovery Record to help with self monitoring & reminders because I am an avoider and this helps keep me accountable!! it also helps me reflect on what might have triggered certain behaviours! Also doing gentle stretching/yoga in the morning in my room with my windows open first thing in the morning in comfy clothes helps remind my brain to be gentle with my body! Houseplants & daily outside walks listening to happy music/helpful podcasts have been really helping!! Facetimes with friends - social distancing meal times/cooking together. Definitely not the same and I am feeling the stir craziness/claustrophobia/heightened ED thoughts but talking about it with others is definitely helpful 💓
@ruzicavasic5667
@ruzicavasic5667 4 жыл бұрын
My favorite youtuber ever!!! You are such a sweet eloquent person with amazing personality. Everything you say just makes so much sense! Thank you so much for taking time to make videos they mean the world to me . I literally watched every single one , some even few times . Thank you ❤️🌹
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Aw, thank you, this is so kind! Thank you for being here!
@Tbird0224
@Tbird0224 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve recently relapsed due to quarantine but it has led me to finally acknowledge and deal with my intrusive thoughts and damaging behaviors. I’ve been dealing with bulimia for years but I never told anyone the extent of it and no one ever thought that there was anything wrong. I lost weight but I was still eating so no one around thought to be concerned. These videos are so helpful and supportive. I know there’s so much work ahead of me but your channel reminds me that the end will be so worth it.
@annatriolo8409
@annatriolo8409 4 жыл бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 once again Mia!!
@AZKflamenco
@AZKflamenco 4 жыл бұрын
I keep thinking just maybe I can use this time to allow myself to finally gain the last few kilos of weight I have been holding back on for too long, then come out of lockdown and post about how awesome it is to gain! Just to confuse diet culture norms 😉.... but in all seriousness it’s hard to keep going when you are completely alone at home 🤦🏻‍♀️
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Awesome, you've got my full support. And I know you might be physically alone, but we're all cheering you on.
@chilltalkswellbeing
@chilltalkswellbeing 4 жыл бұрын
you got this
@rebeccarose4448
@rebeccarose4448 4 жыл бұрын
The most helpful things for me right now have been turning off the notifications for the news app so I can check it when I feel emotionally ready too, rather than when any update is made, and also I started journaling every time I started to feel negatively. It’s really been helping my anxiety. I also cleansed my Instagram of all the accounts that were promoting diet culture a while ago, but that’s been really helpful now as it’s limited my exposure to everyone else’s increased promotion of exercising and dieting!
@meganbrown5189
@meganbrown5189 4 жыл бұрын
I totally agree. Understanding that fluctuations and periods of change is normal and not necessarily a cause for panic; is really important. Also good for those times when you do want to eat healthier and move more, it's not coming from a place of panic and fear, but because you want to for your own pleasure. For me personally however, focussing on my health, exercise and nutrition has helped me through lockdown. For me it's given me some goals and helping me get my mind off being bored or unmotivated. I am a recovering binge eater and having the time to focus on what else I can turn to other than food has really helped. In general this time is kind of like training yourself out of the entrapment of boredom, and these are important skills.
@jessicastunden5562
@jessicastunden5562 4 жыл бұрын
The extreme hunger during my recovery subsided at the beginning of the year. I’ve been a lot hungrier lately and I’ve been stuck at home for over a month now. It’s strange; I just keep reminding myself that my body knows what it’s doing, what I need and how to help me through this situation. I’m not trying to minimise the struggle of anyone else and it saddens me that so many of our community are in this situation. It was the first thing I thought about when the panic buying began and isolation became a probability. People really are so insensitive and we can’t avoid that. We can only mute, unfollow and delete. I’ve also been working on my own recovery projects and social media platforms because, time and time again, I’ve been reminded that people lack understanding so I need to help address that, just as Mia is doing. Maybe not quite as effectively as our Queen but adding another voice to the chorus is better than nothing, I think.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Your voice is so valuable! These insights are powerful, thank you for sharing them with us.
@jessicastunden5562
@jessicastunden5562 4 жыл бұрын
What Mia Did Next and thank you for sticking with us. I know a lot of recovered individuals tend to move on from our community, which is understandable, but we need their perspective on things!
@YummyUmami
@YummyUmami 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for validating how I feel about my weight gain Mia - as much as I am trying to accept it, I'm finding it very hard. I love how you can get your important messages across without being judgemental. The level of empathy you have for those of us at different stages of recovery is one of the many reasons I watch your videos. I thought I was doing ok for a while, but I've been in isolation for 6 weeks now and it's getting really tough. I had been making great progress mentally over the two-three months before we went into lockdown but I feel like that has all come undone. So many disordered thoughts coming back up and I don't know how to deal with them in this weird situation. One thing that has helped me is creating a routine. My partner and I have synched up our work-from-home schedules, and we sit down and have all our meals around the same time every day and usually do a bit of exercise to keep us from going crazy.
@nocassing9946
@nocassing9946 4 жыл бұрын
You’re videos have been helping me so much coping with negative thoughts ! Thank you :)
@bryventura9261
@bryventura9261 4 жыл бұрын
definitely feeling stressed about weight gain in recovery (ESPECIALLY in quarantine) and i'm really grateful you've addressed it. i think its been really beneficial for me to try and use quarantine as an opportunity for me to challenge my eating disorder in a way that would be hard to get the opportunity to otherwise! feeling really anxious, but grateful for you speaking out and giving us a place to be encouraged!!
@antoninatitkow8905
@antoninatitkow8905 4 жыл бұрын
Every morning I wake up and practice yoga. In the first weeks I tried to do some cardio but I didn't really enjoyed it so I quited. I've been also baking a lot, trying new recipes and writing letters to my penpals. Mia, I love your channel so much! It helped me go through the darkest time of my life and still helps me to calm down when I'm freaking out. Sending love from Poland :)
@shiftingrealities4213
@shiftingrealities4213 4 жыл бұрын
You had me at chai 💖🍵
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
It is *chef kiss* so good.
@ortalsalman5198
@ortalsalman5198 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being you❤
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being here!
@georgiamattox4775
@georgiamattox4775 4 жыл бұрын
this video was amazing for me. I’m going through the recovery process right now in quarantine and challenging myself to eat unrestricted everyday. It’s hard with the other messages we get from diet culture and society’s general fear of weight gain. I love how you said though that we aren’t aiming for society’s disordered eating habits, were aiming for complete freedom. You are giving me so much hope so thank you!
@susanmckinstery2875
@susanmckinstery2875 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Mia. Things are hard right now but your videos have been a voice of reason. In particular I've appreciated the reminder to go back to what works, in terms of healthy coping strategies, during times of difficulty. That's something I'm going to take forward.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Awesome Susan, if it's worked before it will likely work again. Sending you lots of strength!
@trussy61
@trussy61 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!! I’m not quite sure where I am at with my recovery at the moment. I have just made a massive breakthrough in my mental health journey. I’ve finally accepted my 18 year old me and let some heavy stuff go!! Reparenting at its finest!! 🤪 But I’m still using some ED coping stuff?? Maybe it’s habit?? Not sure? But thanks for your videos. They really do help. ❤️❤️
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
This is great! If you can achieve that breakthrough, that's evidence that you can tackle even more. Keep going!
@trussy61
@trussy61 4 жыл бұрын
What Mia Did Next thanks. 😊 🙏🏽❤️
@tiffanyroseangeles7517
@tiffanyroseangeles7517 4 жыл бұрын
I like to write & chat via phone w my social worker & my psychiatrist. Plus keeping in touch w my younger brother who lives 3- hrs drive away ...Due to COVID of course we aren't together. I live in Canada right now it's rather chilly. You look absolutely lovely. I have eating issues body dysmorphia. But I gained weight over this period,but have actually enjoyed cooking / finding new recipes. I'm far from fat Naturally on slim side without dieting. Plus I'm tall. Stay safe!!! 😷😷😷 Love your accent! FYI I'm 1/2 UK! Background)
@Madisonday1002
@Madisonday1002 4 жыл бұрын
i have a nasty habit of hyping up weight gain like it's going to destroy me and ruin how i look / more importantly, who I am... this video made a "beast" seem more like a breeze blowing through the trees - NOT A BIG DEAL. Thank you so much for normalizing this weight gain period as a season for our bodies, our bodies really are ever-changing and we don't need to be constantly fighting it like it's life or death. I appreciate this video so much
@Noonecares3203
@Noonecares3203 4 жыл бұрын
Oh boy I’m struggling so much with my ED. I’ve gained weight and i can’t stop obsessing about it. Thank you for helping us.
@erikamackenzie4960
@erikamackenzie4960 4 жыл бұрын
For the most part, I'm doing well. I feel very lucky for the situation I am in and I'm keeping busy. Having said that, I have bad days too. I suffer from IBS and I'm currently in the elimination phase, which is really frustrating because it's quite restrictive and I still get flare-ups probably from stress. I find it difficult that food is not as abundant as it used to be and I just want to feel better. I'm trying to meditate everyday and be kind to myself. I've also gained weight, but I'm finally sort of starting to be comfortable with it, so I'm grateful for that
@jessicas2500
@jessicas2500 4 жыл бұрын
TW: I actually relapsed first the first time since 2017 during this time. It was so so so hard to pull myself out of it. I’m still struggling really hard to stop focusing on food but right now I’m stuck with my thoughts and it’s all I can think about :/
@DeMafiaGirl
@DeMafiaGirl 4 жыл бұрын
I don't even notice whether I gain weight or not anymore. My body dysmorphia is still there sometimes so I don't even know what my body even looks like half the time properly which kind of works to my advantage. Because I tell myself "you're not fat it's your dysmorphia..." But these past few weeks have been so hard because I still have to go to work and it's been so physically demanding and I've got myself some roller skates because I'm losing my mind without the ice rink atm (not because I am scared I will get fat, but because figure skating is literally my life haha) So I'm kind of grateful that I can move my body more than others at this time, because I love sport and movement. I'm happy that it finally comes from a place of love and enjoyment as opposed to punishment and restriction.
@chloec9951
@chloec9951 4 жыл бұрын
Honestly what has been helping me these days is watching your videos. It for sure feels like a logical, but also calming and safe haven ^^
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Very happy to hear this Chloe, thanks for letting me know.
@albadelcastillo5575
@albadelcastillo5575 4 жыл бұрын
Nat king cole is so chill I loved ur video
@ziyuyu3974
@ziyuyu3974 4 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. I was on the process on accepting my body and this video made it so much easier. You are gorgeous, thank you. 💖
@polinayakushenko3499
@polinayakushenko3499 4 жыл бұрын
I have gained some weight too just because of low activity and overeating that causes of hard situation in the world. And it is impossible to accept with my eating disorder background. I am definitely obsessed with the numbers on the scales. I have gained just a 4 kg but for me it is really triggering. This period is so complicated for all of us but we will get across of it, guys. Thank you for the video 💞💞💞
@agskater1914
@agskater1914 4 жыл бұрын
Hi. I've been struggling with BED but one thing that has helped me is that my spiritual teacher told me that the emotional signature of the craving is an enemy, like darth vader, and not to listen ot that voice. I struggled for a long time with whether my binge eating habit was my friend or not because, of course, when you eat a lot of food, you don't have to think about your issue even though at the same time you creat more problems for yourself such as spending all your savings, gaining, and causing many autoimmune conditions such as rheumatoid arthritis, colitis, etc. So that is one thing that has helped me and I went 4 days without a binge which i haven't done in a long time. Affirming with myself that that pattern of thinking that leads to a binge is the enemy and shouldn't be followed really helped me.
@aliciawilliams3778
@aliciawilliams3778 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you 💕 Love your videos. Im been recovering and trying since I was 13, Im now 43. Im stressed because Im going to work, I work at a Drs office. I see all these videos and hear people getting their house organized, their doing crafts and Im just going to work trying to get through the day. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I want to get my house organized but Im too tired by the time I get home. I am grateful however to have a job but want to be home too.
@amyevans5273
@amyevans5273 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, you really do deserve a break. Everything is already so much plus having to tread through an eating disorder. I hope you are able to rest well when you can 💛
@aliciawilliams3778
@aliciawilliams3778 4 жыл бұрын
Amy Evans Thank you 💕
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Definitely give yourself a break. You're doing your very best and helping people, that's all you can expect from yourself. Rest when you can and be kind to yourself.
@aliciawilliams3778
@aliciawilliams3778 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you sooo much 😘
@danaprovenzano3961
@danaprovenzano3961 4 жыл бұрын
I’m going to work everyday too! I was able to work from home for 2 weeks but they needed me so I’ve been back for about a month . I admit I absolutely loved working from home . Another note I want to mention that meditation and a gentle form of yoga works wonders on my general mental state. It is my medicine. I recovered from an ED many years ago, and then drug addiction, but I still have to work hard to stay balanced mentally in other regards . I do not fear turning back but it is still very important to me to feel good on all levels - spiritually , mentally , emotionally , physically etc. it should be important to everyone I think and in the right way. Sending love and support to everyone! I think essential workers deserve extra vacation time for Sure when this is all done ! Then you get can organized and relax 💓💓💓💓
@noodlecatcountry
@noodlecatcountry 4 жыл бұрын
I definitely have been having issues with my weight in quarantine, I started doing yoga and I am trying to be more active everyday so I don't feel bad about food and my body. Little bits of negativity and anxiety still sneak in, but I try not to focus on it, and to find the positivity.
@noodlecatcountry
@noodlecatcountry 4 жыл бұрын
I used to he a barista and drank so much coffee, and I love it do much! I recently had to stop drinking it, and energy drinks, because my anxiety. I will have a small amount of coffee on select occasion though. I started drinking more tea to cut back, so I wouldn't get headaches from lack of caffeine. Now I can have more herbal teas or teas with very little to no caffeine, and I love it.
@Atheria444
@Atheria444 4 жыл бұрын
Allie Hughes Coffee keeps me alive. :-) The odd thing is that it actually CALMS me.
@noodlecatcountry
@noodlecatcountry 4 жыл бұрын
@@Atheria444 I used to be that way! I miss having it more, but I tend to only drink coffee and that's just not good, so I had to make a change. I had some yesterday and it wasn't super bad. I've never been good at doing things in moderation...😅
@sophieward7049
@sophieward7049 4 жыл бұрын
It’s been a really challenging time for me, and this particular video has come at the absolute perfect time because I’ve been out of my mind with anxiety about the idea of weight gain and these awful habits creeping back in. I’ve had a few breakthroughs and positive things to share, yoga and meditation really really helps I do that outside in the garden and get into nature, but also podcasts. I’d recommend Happy Place by Fearne Cotton where she talks to all sorts of different celebrities from all walks of life about all different challenges they’ve faced but it’s great to listen to on a walk! Makes my day and it’s a great way to kick off the day. Definitely wanna keep it up after all this is over.
@amandagarber3914
@amandagarber3914 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Mia! This time is certainly difficult and your videos really do inspire some relief in me. I have been encouraged by you and others to use this time to connect with myself as much as possible, and that I am doing while managing my expectations and being compassionate all the way. This is a rough time for everyone -- just as I wouldn't criticize a loved one for being stressed or experiencing body changes in this time, I don't criticize myself, either. Thank you for this reminder and for the hope you provide through your openness!
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Love this, yes yes yes!
@langzhi1873
@langzhi1873 4 жыл бұрын
Watching your video feels like a breeze of fresh air. Thank you
@paaitje
@paaitje 4 жыл бұрын
I've been losing weight during quarantine. I'm trying not to focus as much on it. I always lose weight in spring, and I'm admitted to an inpatient autism centre, so I only get to weigh myself once every so often, because we're in lockdown and I can't go home. I hope this doesn't spiral out of control again, though. Lots of love!
@kimh.9124
@kimh.9124 4 жыл бұрын
This video was excellent! I love seeing the genuine contentment that you have found in your recovery journey! It’s authentic and believable and hope-inspiring for those of us that get to watch and listen! Though I’ve had several strong seasons of recovery, this season has posed some challenges. One of the best resources I have right now is a form of accountability with a friend to make sure I keep eating during this this time. It’s a tool that I haven’t needed in a while, but it is one I needed to re-implement for now. ime. Also, journaling is a helpful tool for me. I’m aiming to stay on the right path in this season amidst encountering increased challenge and struggle. Thank you for the videos you upload and be posts you share in your Insta account. Both are an encouragement to me!
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, this community is the reason I'm still here making videos. And thank you for the helpful ideas!
@kimh.9124
@kimh.9124 4 жыл бұрын
@@WhatMiaDidNext , I am grateful for the community thats been created by the channel. It's only been a few months since I stumbled across it, but since finding it, it has been a great support and encouragement for me. I currently live in a different country without my normal support systems, so this was a good find for me. ;) Also, jsut an FYI... My name here on KZbin is different than my IG name... I am krhembry on IG.
@kimh.9124
@kimh.9124 4 жыл бұрын
@@WhatMiaDidNext , I sent you a DM via IG about a week or so ago, but I don't know that you had a chance to see it. ;)
@EmThrives
@EmThrives 4 жыл бұрын
Love that you have an accountability meal buddy during this!
@kimh.9124
@kimh.9124 4 жыл бұрын
@@EmThrives Thank you so much! Part of me kind of wishes I didn't need it, but the truth is that I do, and I am grateful for the friend that lovingly brought it to my attention as she saw that I was falling into some restrictive behavior. ;)
@GreatGreebo
@GreatGreebo 4 жыл бұрын
I just found your channel...very glad I did. It’s funny how this quarantine is REALLY making stuff difficult.......THANKS!
@Olhildr
@Olhildr 4 жыл бұрын
Mia, thank you for your timely video. I can see I will gain a bit of weight during this time and consider it a natural consequence of a slow down which was much overdue. On a slightly different topic, I have a question on a topic I was quite embarrassed to talk about previously. I have been weight restored for 5-6 years and my eating has for the most part been in order. I have been thriving in other areas of my life, compared how things were during my ED... However, my digestion has been very unreliable ever since I entered recovery. I put it on my body figuring itself out. 5 years in, the bloating, gas and constipation is very frequent and doesn't help in feeling comfortable in my body. I notice this especially now, in quarantine with a roommate. We eat the same foods ( we cook and eat together) and her digestion seems to be on top. We are really close so we talk about our digestion and I really feel that her body has a far easier time digesting the food. No idea where I am going with this, I feel I might have IBS, SIBO or similar.
@Livingwithgratitute
@Livingwithgratitute 4 жыл бұрын
I love the music(never heard it)! Thank you for including the name of the song. You are blessed to have both your mom and nan with you. Mine are both gone for many years now. The craziness of what’s going on in our world has definitely made my struggle MUCH harder. I’m currently drawing(art therapy assignment) while listening to “It’ll Be Alright”. My new favorite song!
@lilyyadlosky6565
@lilyyadlosky6565 4 жыл бұрын
I've really been struggling with my ED in isolation, and I am very upset by my weight gain because I am an athlete so thats a factor. I really want to be recovered, and I am trying really hard. I am good for a couple days then I have episodes and sometimes when I look at my body I just feels o over whelmed and start crying. You are very helpful with making me feel more okay with myself.
@nightbird5317
@nightbird5317 4 жыл бұрын
You Are Lovely MIA 🌹. Thank you Love . For Always being So Very Kind . Wishing Much love and much light . To you and your loved ones . You Give us All . HOPE. 👏🏼🙏🏻🧡🕊✨✨✨✨✨✨✨🌻
@hal55984
@hal55984 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this and being so candid:) The sun has been shining here in London and I am so grateful for it. I love being amongst nature and the sunshine gives me a sense of peace 😊
@ellenorbjornsdottir1166
@ellenorbjornsdottir1166 3 жыл бұрын
Cathedral house. Sounds great! :D
@morriganlestrange3853
@morriganlestrange3853 4 жыл бұрын
I tell myself that a lot of my fears are practical! I don't know if it's true that the fear I feel is in proper proportion to the inconvenience and downside of gaining weight. I don't want to have to buy all new clothes, because clothes are so expensive. And feeding a larger body is just going to cost extra money, as well as increase my health insurance rate, potentially. It just seems easier and more convenient to take up less space, in general. However, I don't think it's a reasonable argument when dealing with an eating disorder, which will throw literally any reason at all to make you treat yourself badly. I have been dealing with thoughts for years like that, and they seem perfectly rational and convincing, but at the same time, is it really so bad to have to buy new clothes every once in a while, or even completely replace an entire wardrobe? Yes, it's expensive, but so are the consequences of not giving oneself adequate nutrition and being stressed all the time about one's body.
@Atheria444
@Atheria444 4 жыл бұрын
Something I heard the past week or two that really hit me was a quote about convincing women we need to be smaller. “They” want us to be less. That pissed me off. Regarding clothes, I just found out about ThredUP.com and it’s AWESOME. It will save you a lot on clothing costs and is a sustainable company.
@morriganlestrange3853
@morriganlestrange3853 4 жыл бұрын
@@Atheria444 Omg thank you! That is a great reminder! I used to look on that site and remember thinking how cute and affordable everything was, but I forgot about it completely! Yes, being smaller to take up less space, almost to be less 'offensive' to others with my existence. It is upsetting to think that others/society in general also expects me to be that way.
@elenaalejandra1372
@elenaalejandra1372 4 жыл бұрын
I literally turned to my sister this morning and told her that eating feels like a waste of food. We haven't been doing so well.
@SB-dk1ty
@SB-dk1ty 3 жыл бұрын
Mia do you realise there’s an ad at the start of this video talking about finding your metabolic type and how you need to do this quiz and never have to worry about gaining weight again? It’s not specifically diet related but seems inappropriate to appear at the start of one of your videos? The ad finishes with the slogan ‘burn fat faster’ and then the website to go to in order to take the quiz. Don’t mean this to be a mean comment just flagging it in case you were unaware ❤️ love you and all of your content you have helped me so much xxx
@SB-dk1ty
@SB-dk1ty 3 жыл бұрын
Ps love how you called your cat a person 😂
@merrycat4913
@merrycat4913 4 жыл бұрын
Mia - you always say exactly what i need to hear exactly when i need to hear it. Thank you. Ive noticed my body has changed shape recently too and this happens from time to time for me in late stage recovery. Most of me is ok to just shrug it off and accept it, but part of me says 'and how long are we going to let this keep going for?' My answer to that for now is 'until i stop asking exactly that question!' And to continue on with intuitive eating and joyful movement. X
@lindsey_isla
@lindsey_isla 4 жыл бұрын
Such a great video, thanks so much for sharing this. I love how you described popping your friends on your scale, it's so true! I've tried my best to avoid urges to take up running - I know I don't enjoy it, it hurts my knees and I'm not in a place to take up that kind of exercise right now. Being stuck inside and not going on a walk every day even though we're allowed here in the UK to go out once a day has been quite good for me I think. I used to feel so awful if I didn't move for the day, I'd over-walk and use it as a way to 'earn' food. I'm learning that my body needs food to just function! It's so tempting to see other people running and want to do the same or feel like I should be doing the same! Thanks again for a lovely video, you're a star! xoxo
@mitchrc3
@mitchrc3 4 жыл бұрын
A little food baby is adorable. : )
@trailofdebris
@trailofdebris 4 жыл бұрын
i know, not the actual topic of this video, but finally someone else who has the same experience with caffeine and anxiety! i didn't notice how much it kicked mine up, before i stopped drinking coffee and energy drinks and coke, and now when i have a normal coffee i get the anxiety jitters lol. black tea, green tea, chai are fine for me, i get the boost but not the jitters, and occasionally latte macchiato and cappucino also work, but those i have to be mindful of how much i had. i've been bad about feeding myself lately, mostly because staying at home has lead to a return of bad habits regarding sleeping and not having a daily structure. before lockdown, i used to get my lunch almost daily at a place that had full lunch for 2€ for people on benefits, and besides the monetary impact of having to pay for every meal myself, i am realizing more and more how much this lack of structure is impacting me and how it wreaks havoc on my mental health. i need to get a handle on that, but idk how to do it without triggering more brain gremlins from emerging.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
I know what you mean, I have friends who can drink cups of it, but it often sends me off the deep end. So sorry to hear about how you're struggling. Try to implement some structure gently and slowly. Too much too fast can definitely spark the brain gremlins.
@bresurridge2031
@bresurridge2031 4 жыл бұрын
Love this! To be honest I am struggling a bit at the moment with this so this video is exactly what I needed!!!
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
You got this!
@petitehippie7064
@petitehippie7064 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much! This was so helpul. I am really struggling at the moment.
@ChanelCoco-pk7mp
@ChanelCoco-pk7mp 4 жыл бұрын
Sending much love to everyone x I have been turning to gardening, cooking and baking in order to tune out all the stress. Your hair looks gorgeous lovely lady 💋
@carrieotoole340
@carrieotoole340 4 жыл бұрын
This came at just the right time - thank you so, so much. I feel like lockdown is an opportunity to really notice the things that I had ignored in my recovery so far, and to neurally rewire to a position of freedom (not pseudo-freedom) Thanks so much again, and definitely keep your hair like that!!!!
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Love this Carrie, this can be an opportunity and I'm so happy you're taking something productive out of this!
@laurannedaniel-simon7745
@laurannedaniel-simon7745 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video !!
@PogieJoe
@PogieJoe 4 жыл бұрын
That Buffy shoutout! Also coffee gives me lots of anxiety. Thanks for the chai recommendation.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Buffy forever!
@PogieJoe
@PogieJoe 4 жыл бұрын
@@WhatMiaDidNext Hear hear!
@aaa45028
@aaa45028 4 жыл бұрын
Me too. Post surgery and no excercise. And needed the extra feul to heal. I let myself have alot more foods. I think I healed faster by being able to push through the eating disorder and let myself really eat. It's so hard !!!!!
@jboop6
@jboop6 4 жыл бұрын
YES MIA! 🙌🏼 thanks for sharing this. I think I need to get some chai in my life also
@julietsteed6474
@julietsteed6474 4 жыл бұрын
8.10 wow I needed this! Forever convincing myself that 'everyone else kind of has an ED anyway they're just not moaning about it like you so shut up you're not special' 😳😳
@isabelsmit9609
@isabelsmit9609 4 жыл бұрын
ahhhh ur videos are so calming and comforting, really helpfull 🙆🏽‍♀️
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
I am so happy they're comforting, I love making them.
@GloriaGloom
@GloriaGloom 4 жыл бұрын
Omg, I did the exact same thing with my hair! HA! Dyed my roots, it turned out strawberry blonde. That was a month ago. I just dyed my roots again and accidentally left it on for like 55 minutes instead of 45.....and it was closer to blonde than reddish blonde this time. Also, the red in the reddish blonde fades in time, I find. Your hair looks great! Thanks for addressing the main issue in this, vid though. I think coping during all of this is proving really difficult for people that struggle with food/nourishment/body issues. Really helps to have a voice of reason!
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the tip Gloria! I was actually wondering how to maintain the strawberry blonde, so will be more careful when I touch it up.
@aimeelouise
@aimeelouise 4 жыл бұрын
I SOOOO need to work on my caffeine intake, I feel like it has just sky-rocketed since I had to self-isolate. Funnily enough my anxiety skyrocketed too, wonder why haha! Loved this video and the message was very needed during this time. It's hard to be in the fitness industry during this time as there is immense pressure to have a home gym and to keep up a crazy fitness routine and honestly I think it's making us all feel quite unsettled in an already unsettling time.
@MC-hx9ub
@MC-hx9ub 4 жыл бұрын
So much thanks Mia, this is me and so many of us right now☹
@lizrower1751
@lizrower1751 4 жыл бұрын
Beautifully said. 😊
@OfWomenAndFiction
@OfWomenAndFiction 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve been feeling so low about my weight lately. Especially since the weather has been getting warmer.
@mandylisak
@mandylisak 4 жыл бұрын
I'm getting to know what triggers me, like what kind of foods and amounts. Trying to take care of my physical health helps my with mental health. Putting in a lot of effort and I feel like it's working.
@onelanestudios
@onelanestudios 4 жыл бұрын
I’m only 3 minutes into the video but just had to say I love your hair! I’m naturally strawberry blonde, so I’m here to officially welcome you to the club lol
@cv2919
@cv2919 4 жыл бұрын
Another amazing insightful video Mia!!!
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Christian!
@shoeboxenterpriseslinda3151
@shoeboxenterpriseslinda3151 4 жыл бұрын
Gardening. So much gardening!
@Kel.eclair
@Kel.eclair 4 жыл бұрын
I think your hair looks beautiful and healthy.
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@AF-fn9mu
@AF-fn9mu 2 жыл бұрын
🧡 Ron Weasly Tribute 🧡
@juliamollcerda2570
@juliamollcerda2570 4 жыл бұрын
I've recovered from depression and currently have a body focused repetitive behaviour Problem, i've been doing Mandalas which really help calm me down!
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Mandalas are excellent, I love them too.
@Noone-lc1mm
@Noone-lc1mm 4 жыл бұрын
Honestly I love your hair as it is rn :)
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, me too!
@ohursoflirty-johnnysuh5475
@ohursoflirty-johnnysuh5475 4 жыл бұрын
I've been struggling with exepting weight gain. I've been working out and so I'm putting on more muscle so I'm heavier now and I've only put on 2 pounds but it's still hard to except that if I want more muscle I'm gonna have to except the weight gain
@katie_a1075
@katie_a1075 4 жыл бұрын
As someone who struggles to enjoy working out, this quarantine has me urging to move my body in a fun, loose way. I don’t care to workout for “body goals” or anything like that, I just want to let loose and get my heart pumping. Anyone have a recommendation for fun dance style cardio? Thanks!
@partofurworldbaby
@partofurworldbaby 4 жыл бұрын
kzbin.info/www/bejne/f324i61mo6x4eKs check this!
@starvationandsalvationon_i2024
@starvationandsalvationon_i2024 4 жыл бұрын
yeah nah i've gone into total relapse during quarantine. and a messed up part of it is, right before our prime minister officially put stay home orders on melboune, i was actually hoping he would- just so i could be with my eating disorder ... like some sort of holiday with it. away from workmates and friends and family.
@EmThrives
@EmThrives 4 жыл бұрын
@erin_the_extra2329
@erin_the_extra2329 4 жыл бұрын
What is the song called that played while she was making the chai? I love it
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
In the description for you.
@erin_the_extra2329
@erin_the_extra2329 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@Findingmyfitjenny
@Findingmyfitjenny 4 жыл бұрын
You’ll never get through it if you’re constantly immersing yourself
@pleh7019
@pleh7019 4 жыл бұрын
Link to the chai set or something similar? Great video! ♥️
@WhatMiaDidNext
@WhatMiaDidNext 4 жыл бұрын
For sure, have just popped it in the description box for you.
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