I Walked In On My Mother-In-Law Talking Badly Behind My Back r/Relationships

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@MarkNarrations 2 ай бұрын

As promised to the cheeky so and so asking for the music names, here you go: Intro - Dusty Decks Golden Crates Outro - Sum Wave - Milkyway Have a lovely day all, you deserve it!!

@nekorei2023 2 ай бұрын

Thank you and you too mark:)

@FriedaMMartin 2 ай бұрын

Good morning

@CyndiRoberts-m4s 2 ай бұрын

Praying for your loss dear take care big hugs to you.

@carolroberts4614 2 ай бұрын

Mark, you have traumatised me for ever with the toenail story! That sort of thing makes me queasy! I don't like feet! I worked cleaning offices once, and went to tidy up their cubicle, and there were toenail clippings all over the floor and desk! Ugh!

@MarkNarrations 2 ай бұрын

@@carolroberts4614 Ahhh nasty! Who's cutting their toenails in the workplace?!

@TsukiKageTora 2 ай бұрын

So did I get this straight story one? That the mother-in-law said that she thinks OP is useless, but she has so many people (relatives or paid staff?) to do all the chores… I think that’s weird

@Ashbrash1998 2 ай бұрын

If I had to guess, MIL likes being in control and complaining more than she actually wants results. So she doesn't want OP to do anything in her house but wants to dog on her for it. And if OP were to be more persistent and take charge, than MIL would complain about that too.

@shadowkissed2370 2 ай бұрын

@@Ashbrash1998 Yup, she would complain about how dil is trying to take over her house like she is the matriarch and she is controlling her son and trying to come between them.

@maranathaschraag5757 2 ай бұрын

DIL is another servant and MIL thinks she isn't doing her "job". sounds like a very toxic dynamic.

@hi_stranger9156 2 ай бұрын

I hate to be negative but I would not trust that this 'happy ending' with her husband will last. His initial reaction was as to brush off her concern/hurt as 'women gossip', which is absolute crap. She had to move back to her parents with their baby to seemingly get any kindness from him, and it's not as if he followed her, he's still seemingly living with his family. Either he will wind up trying to convince her to just go back to the status quo, or he'll get their own place with her but slowly re-integrate his mother into their home. I just do not trust at all that he's going to just pick her entirely over his mother when that goes against everything he has been taught by his family and his culture. I wish OP the best of luck, but she's gonna have a rough time of it as long as his mother is around, because that level of passive-aggression does not go away.

@BNezzy 2 ай бұрын

i mean, wife admits she cannot and doesn't cook. SHe admits she isnt in a race nor feels the need to be in a race to learn this skill. She also admits that since having a kid she doesn't do much cleaning and laundry now either. She then hears other women make comments about this and is surprised by it. What am i missing here? People talking about a person doing lack of things when that same person is self aware that they dont do things but yet gets upset that people talk about it??? Well if you dont want ppl noticing and talking about how you do nothing then maybe dont do nothing? Get up and take initiative and do something instead of looking for a pitty party and reassurance that you doing nothing is ok.

@nekorei2023 2 ай бұрын

Is it me or the 20F with a 6mo baby is lowkey a red flag?

@user-wr3vt8uq4s 2 ай бұрын

I can bet that the MIL also had a MIL who did this crap. Instead of breaking the cycle of bad behavior, she's just decided that it's her turn to put out the same BS on someone else. And the son acts like his mom farts Chanel No 5. The MIL is in her 40s, she could be around another 30 years or more. This is a tough scene and she's in for a long ride with this. At least her mom is in her corner. Best that they have their own place since MILs house had 7 people, and honestly, they're kind of rude for not saving any food for the son when he gets home from work. She does need to be able to operate without her son on her constantly, so hopefully she can get some free time and get her son able to occupy himself at least long enough for her to be able to cook or do something around the house. She's got to do some youtube cooking videos and train herself up, as it's a necessary skill in any event.

@bessieburnet9816 2 ай бұрын

Yeah, I heard all that and I was like "did he even apologise though?"

@xxKuroKajixx 2 ай бұрын

Its sexist and hurtful. Thats what youre missing. @@BNezzy

@DarkwaveMistress 2 ай бұрын

It's hilarious when people have kids and then realize they actually have to take care of them no matter what age they are

@jasminerobertson4913 2 ай бұрын

It's very funny but it also pisses me off because "those poor children" y'know?

@DarkwaveMistress 2 ай бұрын

@@jasminerobertson4913 yeah, it's like not haha funny but holy shit funny

@poetryqn 2 ай бұрын

Story 1: Arranged marriage, super young, new baby, living with MIL AND her family, non confrontational, AND the clash of old world, new world values. Plus, she runs home to mother who arranged this whole thing. OP is beyond non confrontational; she's a complete bystander to her own life.

@markanthony1004 2 ай бұрын

Yeah I know arranged marriages happen everywhere even here in the U.S. but it’s still something I just can’t stand but I’m usually anti tradition anyway. Often tradition is just an excuse for abuse and in 2024 wtf are we doing holding on to this crap?

@KJ-sp9jq 2 ай бұрын

S1: I feel like I missed something. Aside from coming to visit OP what exactly has the husband done. I don't remember him saying he apologized, that he stuck up for her to his mom, that he did anything other then visit their kid. Doesn't sound like a happy ending to me.

@yef122 2 ай бұрын

Yes! I came to the comments to say the same thing. Ugh. This is NOT a happy ending.

@pinkesthibiscus 2 ай бұрын

Yeah, I was baffled by that one. I don’t see that working out well.

@GMWILD87 2 ай бұрын

Why would he in their culture it could be them losing home and family and he may not want to do that yes it is a new century but not for everyone and I don't agree with it but not my country not my problem.

@bessieburnet9816 2 ай бұрын

@@GMWILD87 Exactly what a privileged person would say. The suffering of others doesn't matter because it's not happening to me or my demographic.

@lina9535 2 ай бұрын

I agree. It might seem supportive in OP's eyes, but I'm not buying it. The other 4 days the mama's boy is home with his mommy, instead of being with his wife and CHILD. I'd almost bet that if he wanted to stay with OP at her parents, they'd allow him to. He could still be cheering on his mom when he is at her place. And getting an apartment together isn't going to solve the issue of him being a mama's boy. This will end badly.

@bessieburnet9816 2 ай бұрын

That one comment, though. 😂 "The deer in the headlights look shows she regrets it and doesn't really believe it" *_HA!!!_* 🤣🤣🤣

@lina9535 2 ай бұрын

Yeah, I rolled my eyes so hard I got dizzy 😂😂😂 It's just a "oh snap, I got caught" look 😂

@KateKanenator 2 ай бұрын

Story 1: Something to bear in mind: a lot of "cooking" doesn't actually involve cooking. You can make salads by chopping and mixing ingredients without applying heat or assemble ingredients into sandwiches and wraps. Plating premade foods like dips, pickles, raw vegetables, and cured meats is perfectly valid, too.

@BNezzy 2 ай бұрын

@bessieburnet9816 2 ай бұрын

Cooling is easy really, just follow a recipe. Not much too it.

@ablankenship83 2 ай бұрын

⁠@@BNezzyI am SO glad I’m not the only person thinking all this.

@TH-hy9kr 2 ай бұрын

@@BNezzyagree. I mean LOTS of people around the world are parents while also working and going to school all at the same time. Most people do not have multiple maids.

@BNezzy 2 ай бұрын

@@TH-hy9kr amazing how many people still think she is the victim in this all eh?

@FrankWhite-uc6gt 2 ай бұрын

1st story: This will not end well. 2nd story: Cheeky bastard, indeed! Mark's story: EEEWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@marshawargo7238 2 ай бұрын

1st story: OP's going to have to learn to cook! Since she mentioned that it's expensive living on their own, buying take out everyday will probably be one of the first thing they'll cut of the unnecessary expenses😢!!! From the way OP's husband acted & reacted in this story, I got the impression that he plays both sides "Yes mama, I think OP is being a baby too!" "OP, don't worry about it, I'll tell mom that we are not going to put up with her crap and to be more respectful of you!" "Mom, I told OP to be more respectful of you!" 2nd story: When that kid said she was a bad neighbor, she should have told him that he was a bad kid because he has no manners & That's Why she won't be the good neighbor & help his mom. OP might want to show Karen how it feels & send her girl's over to tell her that, mom has a big, everybody must attend, meeting & told us to hang out here since she's done it for you a few times😂!!! Maybe make sure the girls start a few fights & maybe ask repeatedly for something that is off limits, like "Why can't we watch TV in your bedroom, the boys are hogging the main TV!" Mark's story: Does this have the same connotation as Markee's couch story? Ewwwweee 😢!!!

@luizad2277 2 ай бұрын

Ok, arranged marriages suck; but OP’s parents did her no favours not teaching her basic life skills. Everyone should know how to cook. You don’t have to be a chef, but at least to be self-sufficient

@wessexdruid7598 2 ай бұрын

I do wonder how old she is. She comes over as very young and innocent. But that may just be her culture.

@WillowGirl11 2 ай бұрын

@@wessexdruid7598 It says in the beginning that she's 20 years old. 20 years old with a 6 month old. Child got married the second she was 18 probably.

@wessexdruid7598 2 ай бұрын

@@WillowGirl11 Arranged marriages can be even younger.

@SherriLyle80s 2 ай бұрын

I mean I'm pretty sure she knows the basics like how to boil water toast toast etc she's only in college most college kids don't really know how to do anything beyond that unless they're actually an avid cook.

@margaritap.9459 2 ай бұрын

@@SherriLyle80sshe's not a "college kid". She's a wife and a mother in a traditional culture. That's a very unfair comparison.

@stuffedninja1337 2 ай бұрын

“Not the toenails, of course, I don’t need to hear about that shit again.” - MarkNarrations, 2024

@marshawargo7238 2 ай бұрын

Kinda like anyone mentioning a couch to Markee?😂!!!

@champslim 2 ай бұрын

@@marshawargo7238 or the pee story!

@CouncilEstateRach 2 ай бұрын

@@marshawargo7238that markees toenails drive me effing mad. No offence but dudes coice is like nails down a chalkboard and sometimes in nlthe middle of the night i click on his toenailz by mistake.... uve tried to block him but cant.

@Rowan_G_Link 2 ай бұрын

the toenails now haunt my mind as well. Yikes.

@Original_Tenshi_Chan 2 ай бұрын

@@CouncilEstateRach I.. um... What? How are you clicking on his toenails?

@tothewonder6248 2 ай бұрын

The 20 year old sounds not at all ready for marriage and motherhood, she needed more time to grow.

@harrymiller7517 2 ай бұрын

20 is WAY too young to even consider getting married and let's not delve into the 'falling in love' stuff. Clearly a cultural thing and pretty sure where this story is, but seriously, this thing about living with the family thing...

@nightstarstar1 2 ай бұрын

Yeah these traditional and conservative communities are not the best for young women. A twenty year old is not ready for marriage and children and expecting them to fully run a household with a newborn baby while husband does nothing. Also living with parents while married is rarely going to be good for a young couple. At twenty you don’t know who you are and who you want to be are still growing and learning.

@KimberlyArrington-dd3wm 2 ай бұрын

That doesn't at all matter they still should not talk about her .

@lisamac2403 2 ай бұрын

My aunt was a teacher and kept me in the summer. Before my mom dropped me off every morning, she told me I better be on my best behavior, her sister was doing us a huge favor and if i did act up, i knew it would be hell to pay when i get home.

@lisamac2403 2 ай бұрын

She would actually let me help her get ready for school.

@mercy8406 2 ай бұрын

Glad OP’s mom stood by her, but I think her parents were “questionable at best” to arrange a marriage so young in the first place. She has no formal education or training, no adult identity, and is already a mother. I’m not against people marrying young, but allowing your 19 year old daughter to become a mother just because it follows your religion is weird. Had she been able to mature and gain more independence before marriage, before becoming a mother, she would at least have more savings and be less reliant on her husband and in-laws. That said, at least she had a strong support network to fall back on.

@Ashbrash1998 2 ай бұрын

Yeah I feel like in your early years it's good to establish yourself as an adult for a little bit. You gotta practice a bit when you take the training wheels off before you go zooming down the road.

@krazycats564 2 ай бұрын

I'm 25 and would be absolutely lost to be married and caring for a baby. I think people can do it at my age, but 19??? That's gotta be HARD.

@nekorei2023 2 ай бұрын

@@mercy8406Yea i agree

@paulinegallagher302 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for helping me smile while grieving my brother passed yesterday in his sleep.

@KinderKim-b3x 2 ай бұрын

I’m so very sorry for your loss. So painful.n🦋

@Camietoo 2 ай бұрын

So sorry for your loss

@Keita999 2 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss🙏🏾

@lizzyshepler517 2 ай бұрын

The Waffle Gang is here for you ❤

@nekorei2023 2 ай бұрын

@paulinegallagher302 im so sorry for your loss 🤍🕊

@rf159a 2 ай бұрын

Story 2: My sister is a retired teacher and summer was not a break time for her. It was getting ready for the next school year!!

@user-wr3vt8uq4s 2 ай бұрын

If even she was sitting on her behind, she's not responsible for her neighbor's kids. 8 and 12 are old enough to be well behaved. For the summer, they can go to outside events (summer camp, schools, craft projects, etc.) *on their own*.

@paden1865able 2 ай бұрын

My dad taught Shop when I was young and every Summer, he was working as a carpenter or brushing up on his credentials, as well as doing his twe week military obligation.

@amandahardman9395 2 ай бұрын

My dad was a school teacher and in the summer he would mow lawns and do other small jobs to earn extra money to "support his teaching habit", as he put it. Summer is definitely not a break.

@briannaleora 2 ай бұрын

There's also the mandatory "continuing education" classes they have to take, lesson plans to write up, getting their classroom ready, and trying to catch up on those home projects they don't have time for during the school year as well as maybe gardening to preserve some food to help with living on puny teacher's salary.

@krazycats564 2 ай бұрын

My mum works as a teacher and makes sure she enjoys her summers as much as possible. She does some planning and studying but definitely gets a good few trips and lots of relaxing. She works very hard in term time, so I think she earns it. Probably does about two-three works of solid work for the whole 8 weeks.

@diannamacdonald3716 2 ай бұрын

Last story: tell the neighbor mom to send her kids to some sort of day camp for the summer. We used to do this for our granddaughter because she was so bored with just us and no other kids. She swam, played games, did crafts, and just loved it. The best part was she came home tired and just wanted to relax.

@carlrood4457 2 ай бұрын

I have four kids and it gets easier when they're older because they can play on their own with less direct supervision, not harder

@Snowshowslow 2 ай бұрын

This is very encouraging to me :)

@dimariahgunnemann3729 2 ай бұрын

Yeah I mean what's up with that? At 12 years old they could supervise the 8 year old...

@hodgeelmwood8677 2 ай бұрын

The problem seems to be that her boys fight with each other a lot. Then they probably want their mom to referee, while she's trying to work. No wonder she wants them out of the house, but OP is not obligated to watch them.

@matheusrodrigues7921 2 ай бұрын

OP should not be married. Like, at all. She's WAY too immature. Like, holy shit

@juliemcgugan1244 2 ай бұрын

It is so great to hear ‘gobshite’ again, Mark! I’m a Brit living abroad and I feel like I don’t hear it enough!

@BruinPhD2009 2 ай бұрын

Gobshite! Gobshite! Gobshite! I hope that helps a little bit. 😊 I lived out of the US for seven years and I was amazed at the little things I missed, like hearing some of the crazy slang that I grew up with. It never quite survived translation to my German friends. Hah! I hope you do get home to visit every once in a while.

@ayanaatthrivebewhole 2 ай бұрын

As a teacher, I approve of story 2's message! I don't care if the op is sitting around all summer on her butt! That is her right! Those kids work you all year! 😂 Not to mention, we have to get better about not feeling guilty about vacation! We've earned the right to do nothing!

@user-blob 2 ай бұрын

THIS!

@davidransom4476 2 ай бұрын

Story 1: First thing I thought was if cooking is so important for women in her culture, OP's mom let her down by not teaching her. Story 2: Not just Masters, but courses to get and keep up certifications. Why do people have to be "polite" and leave openings? What if the neighbor offered to pay when OP mentioned it? Just bluntly tell her "NO". No explanation is necessary.

@browniewin4121 2 ай бұрын

Good for OP for having a mother who was supportive of her, for having a husband who does not mind her being who she is and not cooking, for her healthy baby, and for her going to school to improve herself. It is sad to find out her mother in law is back stabbing. This is a big deal, and I think if she has a good relationship with her husband she should tell him what happened and how she feels, also tell her mother. After update: Oh dear I am so sorry OP's husband is so misogynistic and dismissive (but what can you expect from a culture with arranged marriages) and lacking in and understanding and empathy for OP's feelings, worst of all, agreeing with his mother's assessment of her as not being able to do anything, and I am really sorry MIL is not sorry and being even nastier and more critical now. How did she even know OP talked to her husband unless he tattled to her, that is bad. I'm glad OP is leaving with her child. I think she is right not to live with that woman. If husband will not defend his wife against his nasty mother and thinks his mother is right, she should not return to him. I'm glad OP went to and told her mother. After 2nd update: Good for OP's mom for sticking up for OP and telling off MIL. It's good her husband is looking for a place of their own and OP continues to refuse to ever go back to being with nasty MIL. I am happy things are working out for the better for OP, I hope that continues. 2) If OP's kids do not invite the the neighbor's kids over and do not want them there they are not welcome and OP was not wrong to say she won't be this woman's childcare and say the kids do not get along. I honestly think OP should have long since said "No.' and just repeated that, no explanation need be given, no is a complete answer. That woman is awful. (Oh my gosh Mark, what a tacky person.)

@pris1378 2 ай бұрын

fun fact: 8 and 12 are old enough to amuse themselves. and if you don't trust them on their own? pay for someone to supervise them!

@songsayswhat 2 ай бұрын

Back in my day (rattles cane) the 12YO would have been told to keep an eye on 8YO while mom/dad did their stuff. Or they'd both be kicked outside until the street lights came on. Can't do that now, I know. Just agreeing that they both are old enough to entertain themselves (though a day camp if one exists & is affordable would be fun for them and maybe let them make some new friends).

@lina9535 2 ай бұрын

Back when I was in kindergarten, I amused myself. I didn't want anything to do with the other kids 😂 I've always managed to keep myself entertained somehow 😅😂

@judelbugsrutter6727 2 ай бұрын

@@pris1378 💯

@sparkson1 2 ай бұрын

Posted 30 seconds ago, absolutely by chance. Crazy

@Russman67 2 ай бұрын

Story 2: That neighbor would never get help with her kids again. Between the manipulation and the gossiping, it would be a hard pass.

@JamesL.Wilson-pb1ry 2 ай бұрын

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@beverlystephens6 2 ай бұрын

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

@JamesL.Wilson-pb1ry 2 ай бұрын

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white

@beverlystephens6 2 ай бұрын

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

@JamesL.Wilson-pb1ry 2 ай бұрын

You wont regret it.

@embluvya 2 ай бұрын

Story 1: 20 years old with a baby, arranged marriage, religious community.... The husband will always side with his family, not his young wife. She got married off at 18 to a match her parents arranged, the son of her moms best friend. You can call it consensual all you want, but everyone knows how this goes down, strict religious communities where the parents have chosen matches for you, you're under an incredible amount of pressure to decide something that will make your family happy, as much as they insist that these marriages arent forced. Also, this match was the son of your moms best friend, lets not pretend you, at 18, a young teen girl who just graduated high school, werent under a lot of pressure to fall in love with the guy she wanted as a son in law. Yeah ofc you "fell in love." You were a teenage girl who was never allowed to be alone with a boy before. Ofc you had that infatuation/crush that most people get when theyre 12. That doesnt mean the instant marriage was a good idea. It sounds like OP is doing her best to look on the bright side of her situation, but lets be honest, she had very few real options that didnt involve doing what her family wanted. She's now stuck in this life, realizing she made a hasty decision to attach herself to this man and this mans family by extension.

@AndyyWithAY 2 ай бұрын

20 and 23 and married with a baby. I think they're living way too fast. Even laundry 🤔 Do they have some insanely complicated washer and dryer? Laundry is one of the easiest chores. That living with 5 other people would destroy me. Living with a partner will be difficult enough. Women of a certain age are just messy gossips. Not all, but how many stories have we heard with similar content.

@BNezzy 2 ай бұрын

@One.DeSanctis. 2 ай бұрын

Right? Laundry and meals are not too difficult. OP should have had some time to learn to take care of HERSELF before being expected to care for a child and husband. While home with mommy, OP should take care of herself and her son. She is not working to pay bills. She is in school. Learning to buy and cook food is part of growing up. IDK. OP is immature and needs to add small responsibilities, slowly, in order to learn how to be her own dependent.

@Nathan_Bookwurm 2 ай бұрын

I feel a lot of this could be prevented when they live on their own, not with MIL. Then OP can learn to be the SAHM she wants to be on her own pace peacefully.

@TheSergio1021 2 ай бұрын

That's not fast at all. They just need to live on their own

@DiZoSoMom 2 ай бұрын

This is definitely a cultural thing. I’ve a friend who grew up middle class in Brazil and she said everyone had maids that did their housework and maids that did laundry. Most laundry was washed in pretty old school machines and then hung to dry. It is simple and would probably take ten minutes to teach, but they’re keeping her at a disadvantage on purpose. MIL doesn’t want to be replaced (so to speak) by someone who can do the things she does. They’re not particularly hard, so she makes excuses so OP can’t learn so she always has bragging rights and a feeling of superiority. The saddest part is that OP is very young and naive and doesn’t understand how the world can be. She’s learning, unfortunately, the hard way.

@crystalweible152 2 ай бұрын

I don't know about other families but mine always expects a knock from visitors invited or not. Never ever just walk into a home that is not yours. Jeez. The thought of it gives me hebe gee bees!😰

@MizMorgue1 2 ай бұрын

S1 broke my heart. OP went on and on about HER faults. Questioned HER emotions. Hate to sound harsh, but it's playtime is over, she has a child. That child needs to be raised to become a mentally, emotionally healthy adult, and OP isn't in that space, yet. I hope she seeks therapy, to work through her low self esteem, and realizes she deserves to be treated as well as any one else. If she continues on this path of "I can't, it's so hard", she will pass that on to her kid(s), and this self deprecating thought process will continue through her children, thus poisoning all future generations. This ending sux, and I do agree with OPs thoughts on arranged marriages, but you can't blame being married on your own lack of self esteem and how you allow ppl to treat you badly. Times are changing, OP needs to build on that to raise a happy, healthy family.

@brendacarter4968 2 ай бұрын

It's not kind to shelter children so much. Emotional maturity requires facing challenges with parents support. I see much potential in OP but agree will need help and self work.

@cheekyftoro8962 2 ай бұрын

Do you know much about arranged marriages and how they work in modern times? Op issues don't stem from an arranged marriage the stem from her own stupidity. Her mother told her she wouldn't listen she rushed the marriage she said herself no one expected them to get married so quickly. She was young stupid and rushed into marriage and motherhood before she was prepared seen it happen dozens of times in none arranged marriages.

@Ashbrash1998 2 ай бұрын

@@cheekyftoro8962Yet her mom arranged the marriage anyway and never taughter her basic life skills or things she would need to know in a marriage.

@cheekyftoro8962 2 ай бұрын

@@Ashbrash1998 Her mother gave her an option she didn't have to take it. Once she did her mother just followed through with the offer. Say my dad offered to pay my university fees I say yes and decide to do an arts degree and my dad warns me it may be hard to get a job with that but I decide to do it anyway. And it turns out he is right is it then his fault for offering or his fault for paying or is it my fault for making a poor decision for me? 1 you don't need to know how to cook to be married. 2 You can't teach what a person it to stupid timid meak afraid spinless to learn. Her mother warned her about the mil and her cooking she didn't want to do anything about it. She can't teach her to do something if she refuses to learn it. I think everyone should know how to cook but it is something you can't force someone to learn if they don't want too.

@sltslt24 2 ай бұрын

Story 1 update was literally her family is okay that she can't do anything 😂😂😂

@Musiyca 2 ай бұрын

Yep, they coddled her to the point she's still 13 in the brain.

@berenicegautier2445 2 ай бұрын

.... But they married her. Soooo they purposefully made a man bang they 13 yo daughter. So, they're are the bad guys, not her.

@potatoempress5731 2 ай бұрын

Story 1 : Soooooo husband gets off scot free here? No apologies at all for dismissing her TEARS??

@davidnash8208 2 ай бұрын

He did nothing wrong. And to take his child from him was very wrong.

@rogrove6325 2 ай бұрын

My goodness. Yes, mother in law might be "good" for a little bit, exactly like she says, and then will absolutely go back to that. And not only that, OP would have then been subjected to constant comparisons to the new DIL coming into the family, which would break her spirit more. I'm glad that the husband is looking for small apartments with OP. Now he can get away from his mother and actually have more of a mind of his own. Hopefully. Also, a funny aside to me, OP commented that her husband doesn't really like home made cooking. That means he doesn't like his mom's food 😂 If the mother only knew

@pinkesthibiscus 2 ай бұрын

Midway through my delicious ice cream cone when Mark goes “if you’re eating, you might want to skip it”. I should have listened 😂 You know we can’t resist your stories, Mark! I’ll survive the toenail tale 🫣

@lina9535 2 ай бұрын

Meanwhile, I'm thd opposite. Going "oh yeah? You can't tell me what to do/watch me." Then again, I've eaten to both SAW movies and the Hostel ones, so I might be broken 😅

@bricksloth6920 2 ай бұрын

Good news waffle gang I got the job offer and I'm leaving retail work. I'm going to be a social worker

@NakaidaBeauzec 2 ай бұрын

Well done and enjoy.

@carolroberts4614 2 ай бұрын

Well done you! All the best to you!

@SilverInkStaind 2 ай бұрын

Good luck 🎉

@CooleyHigh20 2 ай бұрын

That is a TOUGH field. Good luck and congrats! Hope you do well!

@LadyDnMiller 2 ай бұрын

Save the world with one person at a time! Please support your mental health ❤❤.

@Shenn3165 2 ай бұрын

Sounds like neighbor needs to talk to her husband instead of crying to OP!

@vanguardangel6912 2 ай бұрын

Story 2: My little sister is a 1st grade teacher and if it weren’t for her baby right now (hooray! My first nephew!), she’d be going insane preparing for this school year. Teachers are SO under appreciated!

@discopotato675 2 ай бұрын

I love the quote... "I can do every other house chore, even laundry.".... The "even laundry" made me giggle a bit

@misshatfield7334 2 ай бұрын

I love the animation of you holding Poppy! So adorable!

@angerydestroyer 2 ай бұрын

Marks the best channel to wake up too

@trilbynhiss 2 ай бұрын

Their conversation sounded like they were just stating facts, not gossip. The truth hurts, she herself admitted that the only thing she does besides childcare is wash the dishes. I think OP's mother is responsible for OP's lack of domestic skills since it sounds like a very old-fashioned family dynamic and she's correct in wondering why the MIL would have chosen her considering her lack of knowledge. Note: I'm not supporting any aspect of this story, it sounds like something from the 1800s with arranged marriages, patriarchal treatment and expectations of women, etc that should have stayed in the 1800s but she agreed to it. Getting opinions from people on reddit whose lives are firmly planted in this century is a clash of cultures.

@Ashbrash1998 2 ай бұрын

It can be gossip when MIL is omitting the facts that SHE is the one preventing OP from doing anything by hiring cleaners and inviting she cooks in her own house. Notice how she never mentioned that and still had a shocked look on her face when OP came in? That's guilt, because she knew she was talking crap and would have never did that with OP in earshot. Of she really was stating facts, why not try to fix the problem? Or push OP to cook and clean more?

@Poopiepies 2 ай бұрын

@@Ashbrash1998because OP is a grown ass woman who shouldnt need permission and honestly should know to cook and clean bc its part of being an adult. She said take your time to learn not never attempt to make an effort. Try living with grown adults who treat the house like a hotel. How do we know the maids werent hired until AFTER mil saw the OP wasn’t contributing to the chores

@ndawn90 2 ай бұрын

That's actually not what OP said at all. She said that she can do every other house chore, *INCLUDING* laundry. 1:53 The only thing she can't/won't do is cook.

@Poopiepies 2 ай бұрын

@@ndawn90 she can do it but did she actually do it? From the sounds of it she claims to know how to clean, not that she actually completes those chores to contribute to the house

@berenicegautier2445 2 ай бұрын

@@ndawn90and I'm betting the husband do nothing, and yet nobody told him about it.

@lee48lee68 2 ай бұрын

Mark’s story about his neighbour picking her toenails in his living room made me laugh so hard I cried 😅

@katiegeorgeripia 2 ай бұрын

Story 1: OP your absolutely have to start standing up for yourself as your son needs you to protect him. good luck

@igotmyapplejuice7094 2 ай бұрын

I heard arranged marriage and that was all i needed to hear.

@babybookworm003 2 ай бұрын

However arranged not forced meaning both parties were in agreement with it

@Clyde-S-Wilcox 2 ай бұрын

@@babybookworm003Yeah this was less an arranged marriage as we think of it in the west and more like matchmaking.

@user-wr3vt8uq4s 2 ай бұрын

@@babybookworm003 Yeah, but even with consent, it wasn't necessarily informed consent. Not knowing about what the real scene would be, no relationship experience. I'm not talking about dating/sex, but rather what are your goals and philosophy in life. I'm Western and I couldn't imagine having to live with what my mom's idea of a good husband/match would be.

@annisa8863 2 ай бұрын

@@Clyde-S-Wilcoxarranged marriage is different to forced marriage. The west just likes to 💩 on anything that isn’t their way of doing things

@annisa8863 2 ай бұрын

@@Clyde-S-Wilcoxarranged marriage had always been different to forced marriages. The west just likes to give a bad name to anything that isn’t their way of doing things

@heatherdickau5335 2 ай бұрын

Story 2 OP doesn't have a lovely husband. He went running to Mommy after op told him what was wrong. She is going to have to learn to deal with conflict and get a shiney spine to stay with this man. He is very weak.

@SierraSierraFoxtrot 2 ай бұрын

S1: There are a TON of issues there but I have to say OP has no excuse for not cooking at all, and also for not making sure when husband comes home all the food has been eaten. Cooking is being an adult 101, and putting some food away for when your partner comes home late is basic human decency. OP was clearly not mature enough to get married and have a baby.

@carolroberts4614 2 ай бұрын

How can she stop five people eating the food in her mil's house? I can see that going down like a lead balloon! She said she had to practically force mil to let her cook, and very rarely. The maids employed by mil are not going to let her interfere with cooking and laundry.The poor girl is only 20, I had a 1 year old at that age, and if they're clingy it's not easy. I had no help because my ex wouldn't do anything, but I do feel for Op. Privilege isn't all fun when it's under someone else's regime!

@annamoonc2175 2 ай бұрын

Her parents did her a huge disservice letting her marry this early. Especially since she was still a student. If they were expecting to marry her off, they should have taught her the fundamentals as she grew up. They might need to take her and her child(ren) in to get her away from her horrible MIL.

@SierraSierraFoxtrot 2 ай бұрын

@@carolroberts4614 you take some food, you put it in a separate dish, you cover it with a lid. You tell people "this is for you son when he comes home late at night"

@floraposteschild4184 2 ай бұрын

OP isn't explaining what is meant by "cooking" here well, but I'm 90 percent sure it's not what North Americans think of as a meal, but South Asian cuisine, which has many elaborate dishes and is very important in their culture. Think Thanksgiving every day. It's a woman's prime duty. Not surprisingly, few modern 20 year olds reach the standards of 40 year olds, especially when they're not encouraged to learn by the matriarch of the family. Make no mistake, MIL is the boss of the house. If you're not invited into the kitchen, you don't go.

@carolroberts4614 2 ай бұрын

That won't work, they don't care! They'll take it anyway.

@0ash1ey0 2 ай бұрын

Years ago I worked at a hotel and we had a person who would clip their toe nails and leave them in a stack on the desk. A week or two would go by and the toe nail stack would be there again. No one could ever figure out who was doing it. We would all talk about it. Front desk clerks, housekeepers, maintenance, etc. Even the pool guy was invested! We were all disgusted and baffled. Who was this super fast toe nail growning person, why are they doing this, and when would they strike again? It was one of the night auditors. He never got caught. After he quit, the nail stack never happened again. Plus, he just kinda seems like the toe nail clipping keeping kind of person.

@user-wr3vt8uq4s 2 ай бұрын

Just ew.

@AnastaciaBC 2 ай бұрын

Idk I’m trying to sympathize with the first story but she didn’t attempt to do anything at any point even before the baby?? Like you have maids and has admitted to not doing anything more since having the baby?

@Poopiepies 2 ай бұрын

Admitted to doing even less. Imagine knowing all the dinners been eaten and your husband is working so hard hes coming late at night and has no food is sad. Cooking is just reading. How can OP just not make any effort or attempt to be a wife

@LaineyBug2020 2 ай бұрын

I used to know a guy that not only picked at his toenails and peeled them off, but he would then bring each one up to his nose to smell. You're welcome for the imagery!

@bluebirbas 2 ай бұрын

Take it back

@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64 2 ай бұрын

Arranged marriage? This can’t be good.

@lorddaegoth 2 ай бұрын

I also heard the word "culture" which is another indicator that someone in the story is a complete arse.

@mustangsally9190 2 ай бұрын

Mark you’re fabulous!! I love listening to you and your little side stories have me in stitches. I love this channel. It’s a favourite ❤️

@lalabythesea78 2 ай бұрын

I want a “Bloody Cheeky So and So” tee shirt.

@megnotmegan1966 2 ай бұрын

Me too! Lol❤

@mycupoverflows7811 2 ай бұрын

Mark, I live in South TX, but when I was little my dad was in the US Air Force and Stationed at Upper Heyford. We lived in Oxfordshire (a little place called Middle Barton). When I listen to you talk, it reminds me of the 3 years I lived there. I don't know if that's anywhere near you, but listening to you takes me back!! The neighbor drama, the cheeky little kids. We were always in and out of everyone's houses too. Love your channel and stories!!

@alannahd.7417 2 ай бұрын

Why’s a 20 year old who can’t even cook having a BABY?

@navi2710 2 ай бұрын

Story 1 - This entire story and OP really rubs me the wrong way. My siblings and I are all married. All of us can cook and outside of extenuating circumstances we've looked after ourselves, our parents and our children's. No maids, no parents or cousins cooking for us. OP however admitted she only does chores. What chore is there to do for a 6 month old that OP is overwhelmed. She doesn't even work. OP has lived a cushioned life in a bubble while being spoiled. She spiralled when she learned she is incapable of doing anything. The very idea that OP doesn't see the issue when her husband comes home and there is nothing for him to eat and she has to ask for permission to cook is delusional. She didn't like her husband not petting her ego so she left home and ran to her mother. Man when the penny drops for OP that she needs to actually play her part I bet OP will throw a tantrum and blame her husband.

@NegativeAccelerate 2 ай бұрын

What MIL said is absolutely true. The way OP handles this felt immature imo. But I still the way MIL denied the fact that what she said hurt her daughter was so bad. Also her husband not acknowledging how sad she was was weird too.

@lina9535 2 ай бұрын

....the timing of Mark's story, and me sitting in the bathroom by the tub and cutting mine 😂

@osaitus 2 ай бұрын

No work today and Mark's voice with a cup of tea... This is a good start for a slow day

@maggpiprime954 2 ай бұрын

Hey Mark! I loved yesterday's creative prompt! So many of your stories are good for that, I should really use them as creative springboards. However, I feel disinclined to consider the toenail story as inspiration, thanks 😅

@mikef2811 2 ай бұрын

S1: I can definitely related to this story. My guess is that they are Indian family based on the arrange marriage thing...but I could be wrong. With that said, being an Asian Wife is no cake walk. As an Asian man, I knew that that the requirement and the demand to be the perfect wife is always expected from the in laws. I took that into consideration when I was dating. I knew that American woman could not handle such a demanding expectation because they were not raised in this kind of culture. So anytime, I was asked out by an American, I just politely turn them down and I said that due to cultural differences. My brother on the other hand, dated only American throughout his teens and mid 20s. And he too eventually married an Asian woman. He eventually understands the expectation. My parents eventually accept our wife and loves them...But it was no cake walk. You got to have thick skin or be very verse in the definition of a dutiful wife...That knowledge has been pounded into every girl...I remember my sisters use to get hounded everyday about what is expected out of them from their future in laws.

@toxigenic 2 ай бұрын

Your neighbor story had me howling. Thanks for sharing, you totally improved my meh mood. 😹💕

@AraAra6367 2 ай бұрын

I consider cooking a necessary skill no matter the gender or age so?? It’s strange that OP describes her skills as “can’t do it don’t like it” and that’s it. No one got her to try. Not even some scrambled eggs??? Cooking isn’t something you just automatically learn. It’s something you practice on and slowly add to your skill set. I’d say that even the most seasoned cooks and chefs are still learning to cook. I got a feeling OP has some weird perception of cooking as a skill that can’t exist with the rest of her life and MIL thinks her attempts are poor. Her husband is also doing her a disservice. This a very weird story.. OP and her husband are not mature enough to be married with a baby.

@Yeahno-ey3rb 2 ай бұрын

Story 1: OP needs to set some serious boundaries with MIL like not let her into the house but go visit her. OP's husband isn't going to fully support her at all and I can see OP leaving him within the year. Story 2: OP NTA. What she could do is be busy during the summer. In and out all summer works even if it's just a day trip to somewhere local. Being a teacher or working in the education field is exhausting that they need to summer to recharge for the next year.

@dzll 2 ай бұрын

Personally I think OP is immature and naive to the world. I'm not saying she wasn't wronged but she's definitely too meek and timid. Even with her cultural differences compared to that of the west I get the vibe her parents dropped the ball on a lot of things when raising her

@claytonfitzgerald782 2 ай бұрын

Thanks mate 😃

@julia7200 2 ай бұрын

The carrot joke made me crack up. Dang Mark. You‘re funny too

@SeraphsGenisis 2 ай бұрын

Good Morning everyone!!

@BritInvLvr 2 ай бұрын

Hey Mark.. wouldn’t join X or Twitter if they paid me. But I would love to see the Roomba pic. I busted out laughing when you went on about the entitled relative flipping out over a friend getting a roomba. Crazy story. Keep up the good work. I enjoy your funny personality.

@chornathome 2 ай бұрын

What on earth being a 70 year old white dad means it's shocking you can cook?? I would think it would be odd for any 70 year old to not know how to cook anything. Not the point but that really stuck out to me

@danpage6907 2 ай бұрын

I know you like to know what we're up to as we listen, Mark. I've been listening to you & some other KZbinrs while doing dishes and procrastinating finishing up my lesson plans for the upcoming semester. You are right; teachers have to do a lot over the summer. Additionally, my wife & I tend to do all of the stuff that other people manage to get time off of work to do, like going to the dentist, checkups, etc., during the summer holidays. I've been telling people that we're teachers for 10 months out of the year, and people for the other two.

@angeleyesgreen1586 2 ай бұрын

Sounds like a family outside the west, patriarchal and abusive older women in the family. What makes it worse is op's family living with those people. She cannot escape them if her small family unit is to remain together. I'm glad they're getting an apartment, but I don't trust it

@videofan1010 2 ай бұрын

Maybe I missed it, but why can't OP#1 cook?

@PinkMarshmallows 2 ай бұрын

"Oh, boohoo, my life is sooooo hard!!1!" - If OP wants people to stop talking about her behind her back, **THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!** Quit your whining and learn how to do some basic sht! It's not that dam hard! I have no sympathy for this OP. All of her problems are of her own making.

@grumpyrhonda6709 2 ай бұрын

Mark, I think I love you! You are so damn funny and your side comments and tidbits are what makes your channel the best on You Tube Neighbour issues = dangling a carrot in front of you! The stories of your youth, etc, So funny. Keep it up because it's just excellent!

@clrtwallace0116 2 ай бұрын

Thanks Mark!

@TsukiKageTora 2 ай бұрын

8:05. This could be true or it could be the “oh crap I’m caught! Hope she doesn’t tell my son about this otherwise I’m going to get in trouble with him” look. Even if people mean what they say when being hot then being hot is the reason why they look like that. Being caught is always the scary thing.

@boneymeroney2674 2 ай бұрын

Sum Wave Milkway. I used a music app to ID the name of the tunes a while ago. It's the sound track of my morning routine as I move my pups outside and in. 😂

@diamonddoll6270 2 ай бұрын

So what if she did have the summers off?!? Heffa!! No is No!! People want you to fuss them out.

@Mayzen02 2 ай бұрын

Just followed you on twitter mark, just had to see the roomba art. Love the I hate drama and cats peeking pic 😂

@yohaneslouise2961 2 ай бұрын

I'm going to give my opinion on the first scenario, but I believe the problem is with her, not her husband, mother-in-law, or even the aunt herself. Assuming you dislike cooking and are in no haste to explore new things. That is acceptable, but what is not acceptable is that this marriage occurred around 6 months ago, and it appears that based on your MIL's statements, you are not making any progress at all. She didn't even bother to pinpoint the flaws in her cooking; does she even taste the basics of something bad if something isn't right in her food? I believe this woman is also exaggerating; she is heartbroken, but it is not a huge thing if you know you are the problem. You can make any type of food in less than 10 minutes and she can still be with her infant; this woman's claim is absurd. There are numerous recipes that may be prepared before going to bed so that you can easily cook them in the morning, and they take less than 3 minutes. It's like telling me you're not diligent but not mentioning it. Before anyone sh*t on me in this comment, I'd want to point out that my mother used to work from 9 to 5 while enrolled in a class for her magister diploma (she was a college student at the time), and she still had time to make breakfast and dinner. Although I must admit that she could not make it look like a restaurant at first, the taste was decent, but right now? She can cook! This woman must tell her what went wrong with her cook before shi*ting her mother-in-law on Reddit and seeking advice from strangers who always come up with a solution to simply quit that family without admitting her own difficulties. It is pathetic.

@breannashell3799 2 ай бұрын

Man y'all are so trusting to just let a neighbor waltz into your house uninvited. I keep my doors closed because I'm an introvert who likes to avoid people at all costs

@brendacarter4968 2 ай бұрын

We never did as had a golden Lab...BUT, carpet layers came and laid stair carpet while I was asleep (on night shift). Woke up surprised to see it. Called business and asked if dog let them in without a problem. Apparently he sat, watched them and shared their lunch. Started locking door after that.🙄🤣

@NoTy-ln2qg 2 ай бұрын

1 MINUTE AGO let's gooooo im at work and was listening to an older video when i saw this 😂

@nekorei2023 2 ай бұрын

I have a similar story to my life (abt the sh-t talking) & it came from both sides of the family, im not sure how their marriage still lasted tbh

@BNezzy 2 ай бұрын

@iforgot794 2 ай бұрын

Another good day to you sir

@TigersandBearsOhMy 2 ай бұрын

Story 1: Everyone should learn how to cook. It's not a hobby, it's a life skill. You don't need to be busting out artisan breads or making 8 course meals, but you really need to know how to do the basics, otherwise you're doing yourself, your family, and children who rely on you to learn life skills, a disservice. This is true for both women AND men. During the big C, emergency room burns from boiling water and things like "avocado palm" went rampant. Learn to cook (and I don't mean things like hamburger helper, but at least it's a start).

@BeingMe-t6m 2 ай бұрын

Story one the truth hurts. She freely admits she can’t cook than gets upset when people talk about it.

@lalvarez5151 2 ай бұрын

Story 1-yta. Maids? Don't cook? Whatd you really do? They are not wrong Op sounds lazy. The husbad works .what does Op do all day?

@samoanjoseph1457 2 ай бұрын

"It's a shame my husband didn't understand how stupid I felt after hearing that." The real shame is he's saying his mother wasn't wrong to insult OP behind her back.

@notevenlistening6072 2 ай бұрын

When my mom's mother died, a few relatives I didn't know at all ended up staying at ours for the funeral. This included two second cousins of mine around my age, about 14. They sat on my bed, making fun of my grandmother's name, which was old-fashioned. I was a bit numb, but they bothered me with their behavior. The younger one seemed a little "odd," but I was still *horrified* when she started chewing her nails. Her TOENAILS. On my bed, in the kitchen, no shame, no awareness. My mother and I kept catching each other's eyes, then looking away quickly so that we didn't burst into laughter at the shock on the other's face. Gobs were smacked, flabbers were gasted

@OKAYOKAY420 2 ай бұрын

I'm having trouble feeling sorry for OP 1. 2 maids and you don't cook? What is so difficult about following recipes? People say "real cooks don't need recipes" but recipes work fine. Coming from someone who cooks without recipes. Recipes are the first step. MIL still sounds like an AH.

@yjjbii-hm3kc 2 ай бұрын

she did say that nobody would care for the 6 month old except her. im sure that goes for the maids as well.

@OKAYOKAY420 2 ай бұрын

@@yjjbii-hm3kc okay, and?

@OKAYOKAY420 2 ай бұрын

You need 2 maids? Really? Wow.

@johnatandelacuso4174 2 ай бұрын

Ayo did anybody else catch that line 'definitely not until the baby gets older' the husband said? That sounds super sketchy

@persephoneszeliga 2 ай бұрын

I love hearing Mark’s stories, even the gross ones. 😂😂😂😂

@TopazFire15 2 ай бұрын

Story 2: I avoid drama like the plague, but I love thinking about how I’d deal with it. A good way to get ahead of the gossip is for OP to talk to some mutual friends about it, but frame it as, “I feel so bad that I can’t take care of her kids, she clearly needs support. Unfortunately, our kids don’t get along, so for my kids’ sakes, I just can’t babysit them. She seemed so angry at me, but I hope that it was just the stress, because I’d hate to lose her friendship.” Now your friends know the neighbor is trying to force you to babysit, while you’ve positioned yourself as a loving friend who sadly has to prioritize her kids. If the neighbor ever tries to gossip to them, she’ll only poison their opinion of her once they hear her more inflammatory version of events. A win-win!

@StephenWest-t2v 2 ай бұрын

I once caught my girlfriends sister and cousin talking shit about me. She saw this and freaked out getting angry. She knew she was effed. And thankfully there was a mutual friend of both me and my girlfriend with me. So I told her that she was going to tell my girlfriend what she said, and she was going to be completely truthful, because both of us, meaning meand our friend, was going to be talking to her after that. She knew that I was saying to her "please lie, so we can destroy you". She admitted it, but of course had to soften language. I didn't allow it. I loved the aftermath

@WildWestRosie 2 ай бұрын

Back when my parents were courting (1945) my dad stayed over and cut his toenails-but didn't put the cut pieces in the bin. (He was a Texas farm boy, she was a California girl) I learned about it because he wrote her an apology letter which I later found and I asked my mom about. Lol

@PuppyKatt 2 ай бұрын

Mark: I love the toe nail stories. Five ways to get me to stop eating instantly: Someone picking their nose at or near the table; Someone cleaning their feet at the table; Someone sneezing at the table, especially those sudden sneezes where there is no time to grab a tissue; The sound of someone puking, or even dry-heaving; Someone letting off a sonic fart.