“I Want a Divorce” - Lily's Tough Choice | It Ends With Us (Blake Lively)

[@GothEvilButterfly91]

No abusive person would agree to a divorce and walk away calmly.

[@user-se5ef5pl3o]

Abusers always have side chicks.

[@you6382tube]

If they have already acknowledged that they need help, they are educated in the cyclic patterns of abuse - knowing that they are liable to do it again -- then yeah, they might be smart enough to accept the divorce. He knew she didn't want him. He asked her to come back to him. She avoided that finally.

[@vajculo]

@@you6382tube ABUSERS DONT TAKE REJECTION THAT WELL

[@vajculo]

Victim of abuse would never confront her abuser like this, and he would never be this understanding

[@sstrauss2438]

Much less while he's holding the baby!

[@IBeMelissa]

That's exactly what I was thinking when watching this...mentioning divorce/separation to the abusive partner is the LAST thing they want to hear, and she tells him this while he is holding their newborn and they are alone in the room? She put herself and the kid in a dangerous situation. Plus what's to stop him acting dangerously towards her after she leaves the hospital unless she got a restraining order or something?

[@zazilicious]

Not every abuser are the same; some do recognize that they have a problem

[@odetakup8578]

The most fictional part of the story, ruins the idea of how to leave the abuser

[@rupertperiwinkle4477]

Its a movie. They had to wrap it up

[@jenniferarcher-bock9302]

SERIOUSLY?! Trigger your abuser when he’s holding your precious newborn baby?!?! NEVER would a mother do this!

[@Spherecrash1]

Exactly what I was thinking.

[@malley4747]

Total fiction crazy and unrealistic. He would NEVER agree

[@cherrytraveller5915]

Of course he wouldn’t agree.

[@coquettelewis7885]

What's he gonna do at the hospital he works at? He couldn't do anything but agree

[@chae1557]

It’s almost like not everything is black and white

[@MamaTach925]

Exactly. When I asked my abusive ex to let me go he choked me up.

[@jackivoyage]

My mum got a job and an apartment. Then she moved without my dad with four kids. He got mad, but my country favours mothers so he did not have a chance at custody. Luckily she was educted as a nurse so it was easy to get a job. I feel bad for anyone unemployed or uneducated in such a situation. They will struggle to leave or believe in themselves. They might also struggle for custody.

[@merylparks1584]

That’s why people don’t leave, money always comes down to money

[@Summer-ju4pj]

Very true

[@SunFlower-r9c]

6:40 To those who say a woman who just gave birth wouldn't make such a decision right afterwards, let me tell you that this is exactly what my mom said to my father when he showed up in hospital. He didn't yell or showed signs of frustration but changed the door lock before she left the hospital to go back home. So it's not a totally unrealistic scene

[@AmberYoung-i7n]

For those who say, “unrealistic”, Abuse is not black and white. It is many complex shades of grey, and every story and person is different. This kind of mindset is how so much abuse slips through the cracks and goes unnoticed.

[@shania991]

It's unrealistic period somebody beating you isn't going to just wake up an accept a divorce get real

[@AmberYoung-i7n]

@ That’s your experience, don’t undermine the experience of others because it’s not as “bad” as you think it should be. I say this as a public health worker who has seen the many shades of grey.

[@krisdem6435]

@@AmberYoung-i7n Thankyou. I made this comment basically and got a dumbass female in my comments

[@KimRaquelll]

I don’t agree with ppl saying that this is not how to confront your abuser … maybe it’s not how to confront yours but this is what she did to hers even though it’s a movie. What I love about this is the fact that it doesn’t have him as the average drunken abuser … nor is the abuse constant .. because not all abuse looks like what I just mentioned and this shows no matter HOW severe or light … abuse is abuse and you need to get out while you can . Sometimes abuse is subtle … just like this and it’s not always the man intentionally stomping on his partner but it can be in instances like these …

[@janderson947]

I love the movie but they did gloss over it honestly jlo and Billy Campbell did this scene justice right here kzbin.info/www/bejne/n5jVmn2Cjbp6eposi=vsDa4G9qc4hruv3o

[@jalinasasser1353]

Bro I read both books of this series and OMG I was so sad & mad but so freaking happy when she asked him for a divorce like heck yessss so proud of her for having encouragement to leave this situation not only for herself but for her daughter

[@saylortwift_]

Truth is .. he believes he’ll never hit her again or worse, he believes he’s worked past it. ( I believe he loved his wife unbelievably, I believe he loves that child unconditionally) I believe that he held his composure And “accepted” the Divorce talk and the abuse talk, subconsciously he thinks reacting the complete opposite of how he usually would , it might in his mind get her to rethink the marriage. In his mind I don’t think there’s malice or trickery , in his mind he just wants a happy family ,in his mind he thinks “well, it wasn’t right what but she should work on a few things too/ “in his mind he didn’t push her down the stairs, she lost balance” in his mind “I didn’t force myself onto her, that’s my wife and I was “gently” gifting my love after reading these truths online about her ex, “LOOK HOW CALM AND FORGIVING I WAS, that wasnt SA, or I’m not Bill Cosby , I’m no wife beater?? What?? , no no these circumstances are different !! Im a doctor, I save lives , if she only would of been honest about Atlas, honest about the little lies and big ones …. But thru all that I still love her , and honestly she’s lucky I still feel in love .. she’ll come around , my wife and daughter need to be with the father, THEY NEED ME, THEIR PROTECTOR) -RYLE😮

[@robinfoster3328]

I am sorry for any victim of abuse but you should not judge the actor. It’s just a movie.

[@monisharmuk]

She is not being judged for the character she essays in the movie.. she is being judged for her tone deaf attitude towards the victims as she was promoting the movie…

[@robinfoster3328]

@ I did not realize as it was just a movie I watched. I didn’t see how she promoted it

[@mariyakrivokhat5548]

Movie is not "just" a movie. Movies influence our thoughts, our thoughts influence out actions. Every person participating in the movie is responsible for sharing constructive/destructive narratives because it indirectly forms society and their actions. Any movie can be a tool of the soft propaganda if movie creators will wrap inside of the appealing video with beautiful actors and music the needed narrative the society must believe in. Showing a distorted reality as a real picture can be a propaganda of smth. and yes, it can be dangerous, despite it's influence is indirect. Any book about propaganda could give you more examples how we are influenced by media content.

[@shania991]

​@@robinfoster3328as much as I love her as an actress it was in fact horrible the direction she went

[@SoniaMojica-i6m]

Justin merece otra oportunidad. Hacer una película con el poco dinero que tenga y con verdaderos actores que hayan vivido de alguna manera la violencia doméstica

[@xcrosslan8207]

Some people think staying together for a child is healthy even if they don't lovr each other but thsts far from the point it may be difficult but its better then your child growing up in an abusive household

[@jacquelinebooker6907]

I love this movie... it speaks to my soul on many levels, and the soundtrack is awesome. Please make a Part 2. It will definitely satisfy the movie lover in me.

[@legnashalom4562]

This lives rent free in my head now

[@youngagstudios]

Unpopular opinion, but it seems really realistic that she didn't feel safe enough to have the divorce conversation until they were in the hospital and he was holding their baby. She knew he wouldn't understand until he was a father, and even without that element if he acted out and lost his temper in the hospital that shit would've been shut down immediately. His colleagues would see since he works there, so having a civil conversation at the hospital actually made a lot of sense. Holding the baby in his arms, she tells him to imagine what he'd do if someone ever hurt that baby. She tries to make him understand why she can't be with him, and that he should get help for the sake of their daughter, not for her. Because he needs to be the example of what a man should be. They shouldn't teach their daughter that it's okay for the one you love to hurt you.

[@merylparks1584]

Nothing would happen to her in the hospital, she felt safe with that conversation

[@MsRochieBaby]

EXACTLY!!!!!!💯💯💯💯

[@Beatz123]

Exactly. Small minded people wouldn’t understand that. This was the perfect opportunity

[@marzfun]

EXACTLY 💯💯💯💯

[@Simplyunique-z7x]

Her constant smile and calmness is annoying😒😒😒

[@xcrosslan8207]

She's had enough theres more to a smile then you realize a smile doesn't necessarily mean she's happy or the fact that she's happy its all over

[@mariyakrivokhat5548]

As for me - agree with some comments below - unrealistic and dangerous movie. It would be nice before creating such movies go to subject-matter experts (in this case - to the victim of abuse or to the psychologist) for an advice. I faced with stalking of my ex-boyfriend - my huge mistake was showing him my new appartment (I did that because he promised never behave abusively again, and I believed🙈 After he realized that returning me is not possible, he started to threaten me and came to my house when I were returning after work at 11 PM, next times, when I was not there - he knocked to my door. That was very unpleasant experience). To those why are watching this movie - never - NEVER reveal your new location.

[@LashaeA]

This is a movie I literally cried and I will not see it a second time

[@joeyofthejungle]

I think it was incredibly careless of her to tell him something so potentially triggering while he’s holding that baby. A victim of abuse needs to be more cautious, and needs to make sure they are safe in moments of confronting the hard truth and standing up to their abuser. For anyone watching in a similar situation, it is important to not be alone during conversations like these and make sure children and pets are safe during the process/discussion of ending it or standing up for yourself. ❤

[@catherineschwartz2826]

Great point

[@greekgirl9897]

In an interview she said that during the writers strike her real husband Ryan Reynolds, made many changes to the script to soften some scenes. Justin Baldoni said that by then he was so sick of dealing with her he just wanted it over. He actually owned the movie , was the producer and director.

[@Shay-nu7id]

Ridiculous and dangerous movie no women would have survived her abuser like this .

[@linseyv0613]

That's not true just because you abused her doesn't mean he's a monster without impulse control some are that is true but no one knows the emotional state of an abuser more than the person they abuse prides himself on being intelligent so the woman in the story played to his intelligence

[@blackalphagaming8010]

You know the problem with you. People is that you believe so much in some fantasy world that you live in, that you believe every fantasy takes off every single situation at you want everybody to believe what you believe

[@blackalphagaming8010]

The only thing more dangerous than a user.It's a delusional person

[@you6382tube]

Nah. Just shows us that there are many types of abusers and cases that vary in the details.

[@melissajean2011]

Yes have your abuser to show up to your new house/apartment. Yes so brilliant 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

[@SmcdMcd-d2k]

Stupid comment. You really think he didn’t see where she lived

[@steffiemac]

I'm so glad you got such a compassionate abuser Blake 😏 it's cause you're stronger, you stood your ground!! SAID NO VICTIM OF DV EVER

[@Tiff92_]

OH ST4U

[@woodanemone9758]

We need to understand that there's always a line between reality and fiction. They wanted to end the movie on a higher note. Most movies, even biographic ones, are adjusted to please the audience. I think the movie illustrated denial as a victim of DV very well. The ending is something many victims wish would've happened, and sometimes confrontation do happen.

[@ebony752]

Don’t do this in real life, just leave don’t tell them you are leaving

[@gracesanity6314]

If someone hit me once. I could never stay. Never.

[@caitlindonaghy2211]

Me too

[@revlis4891]

One step further. If they degrade, insult, or gaslight, that was my red flag line crossed. Physical abuse doesn't need to be the only obvious reason to leave. Verbal and emotional abuse are just as damaging and sadly not often given a spotlight in this narrative. I didn't want to wait to see if he could get worse.

[@BambiGibson-y5o]

U say that till your put n that place yourself! U nvr kno what someone is dealing with or why they might have to stay! It’s not always easy to just leave trust me!!!

[@Leandra-c3q]

@gracesanity6314 easier said than done. Sometimes, physical abuse can take years into the relationship. Which ultimately makes it very possible to stay in a dv relationship

[@noorarjmand9493]

It’s easy to say that but if you were in that situation it would be a lot harder

[@nuristavarez5716]

Loved the movie & actors! Yes, it’s just a movie but has some real lessons to be learned especially for us women. Just my opinion

[@hristohristov6488]

Unrealistic! The abuser would kill her and a baby in this situation, believe me! They can't control themselfs!

[@johnnyd1824]

It's never that simple

[@babygunz0604]

I think people need to understand that Ryle was also fighting his own demons. He caused the death of his older brother and has been angry with himself since. That anger has spilled over to his relationship with Lily. He realizes this when he holds his daughter for the first time. He realizes that he has issues and in order to protect his daughter, he has to stay away.

[@relativetruth8889]

So in other words a pathetic p.o.s that is (implied in a fictional sense) to be smart (woah!... a neurosurgeon at 29) yet shows horrendous impulse control to such an extent he uses ah, violence & r#pe to exorcise his demons?... oh poor baby!!... how about a 'go fund me' for this misunderstood & tortured fellow? / giving so much to society by operating on brains & no-one will give him room to breathe!!... Gotcha...

[@GabApentpon]

Her dreams came true ❤️❤️❤️

[@HaleySmith]

Why movies are still showing incorrect birthing positions is beyond me

[@jane6989]

Unrealistic, but it looks like an incredible movie!!

[@wandarico8701]

Name of this movie please

[@woodanemone9758]

It Ends With Us

[@deja_vu..]

I wish, so much, I said this when I gave birth.

[@CarolWind]

So each needs to do work to heal - her mom, her, the old boyfriend ,the abusive partner from past traumas and inflicted trauma.

[@luckyahmed200]

Feel like they could have chosen a better cast with the clips I’m seeing

[@you6382tube]

Good scene. He knows he's got a big abuse potential. He's admitted to it. She can see the future without that risk over her head. And with the baby daughter there -- she can't allow the same pattern of abuse, no matter what excuses he proclaims, no matter the promises he declares --- to be witnessed by her daughter.

[@HazyCatalyst6]

i hate that i have this "mother/daughter test" e-learning at work. So men have to be reminded on how if the words/actions are being said/acted on, they should "think" of how if they said the same words to their female coworkers. no female coworker has EVER had thew same teaching REMINDED to them

[@merylparks1584]

Well this movie is also showing that even with money and beautiful home Dr money , happens not just to middle class or poor like so many movies do , it can happen to anyone at anytime, even well educated, when he said come home it won’t happen again, they always say that That’s something I’d never do name my child after my abusers family member dead or alive She felt safe enough in the hospital to ask for that divorce, it’s where he’s a dr, she knew he’d never hurt her there I loved this what would you say to your daughter, loved that, so honest

[@user-se5ef5pl3o]

He had really good acting. Like playing a brand new father..it was very convincing. Her not so much.

[@itssofabulous926]

What is this called

[@marurodriguezg.8020]

It ends with us

[@LuvsAutumn8467]

Yeah because that's exactly what would happen in real life the abuser would totally accept the person they abuse divorcing or walking away from them.

[@kavi9424]

This scene is totally different from the book

[@PopCultureKing2009]

Blake lively is a good actress

[@merylparks1584]

Well this movie is also showing that even with money and beautiful home Dr money , happens not just to middle class or poor like so many movies do , it can happen to anyone at anytime, even well educated, when he said come home it won’t happen again, they always say that

[@iamreborn3463]

Very unrealistic

[@psyourauntie]

This is a movie 🎥🎥🎥 😮😮 remember a young lady on tik tok made this book popular

[@motheryuba57]

In real life this would never happen. The abuser would more likely attempt to kill the mother and kidnap the baby. Never, ever, tell the abuser you are leaving......just leave.

[@rupertperiwinkle4477]

Ryle is a NARCISSIST. Hes got issues.

[@shania991]

He's literally an abuser so duhh kinda the point of his character

[@rupertperiwinkle4477]

@ Your comment offers nothing constructive. “So duhh” What are you 16?

[@novapaige8119]

And the way he offed his own brother at 6 saids a lot

[@rupertperiwinkle4477]

@@novapaige8119 Lol he claims it was a mistake. the gun just went off

[@merylparks1584]

All abusers are Narcissists

[@Nataly-rl8mp]

Прочитала книгу: Лили Райла не любила. Никогда. Для чего она с ним замутила - непонятно

[@tamucommerceart]

In real life, she wouldn’t have brought up the divorce while he was holding the baby - because he might have harmed her - by harming or killing the baby.

[@Jacksmom-tg4bk]

Could have done without the Taylor music ugh lol

[@ceceparra]

Why is she smiling? That almost feels psychotic.

[@AV-me3jo]

Se cargaron la película nada como el libro

[@SoniaMojica-i6m]

Cuando le acaricio el cabello y con el bebé en los brazos y le dice toda tierna quiero el divorcio. Yo pense que la Hiba a golpear o se Hiba a robar el bebé. hizo quedar mal a las víctimas. Eso no sucede así como una fantasía.

[@SoniaMojica-i6m]

Jusin se equivocó de actriz y no era necesario hacerlo de una novela, no lei el libro, pero hay muchas escenas absurdas en si solas, no por el tema. Hay muchas historias de verdad y no creo que Blake halla vivido o conocido a una verdadera víctima. Pobre sobretodo que por eso mismo agiantan tanto

[@NoellaHalkett]

Your killing the movie 🎥 For the Ones that’s Hasn’t Seen It Yet. Geez 🙄

[@RobinDebrassio-vx6fl]

They had no right to put a good song in this movie

[@krisdem6435]

1) remember it’s a movie 2) not all abuse victims are the same hence her take in this movie. 3) real Abuse victims know that we mask what’s really going on so we don’t concern others along with confronting it ourselves But remember realty and take it as it is a MOVIE .

[@shania991]

Her take took away from the message of the book the fact your defending that is weird its kit about HER take as she's neve went through it like come on.

[@krisdem6435]

@@shania991 it’s weird to comment on a comment that’s still basically agreeing with you. If you want to bicker we can😂 I’m here for it all day, an I got the time. Ur grown and don’t know that everyone has DIFFERENT takes, opinions, and views. Sorry you just now are realizing that, and to add again not all experiences are the same or stero typical. It’s a movie, BASED off of a book that’s the point. Weird ass u commented on a comment looking and sounding ignorant.☺️

[@krisdem6435]

@@shania991 what’s weird is you acting like you know all abuse victims take and think the movie isn’t SOLEY based on that an the manipulation dv go through lol. Based off a book or not it’s a movie. Not defending anything making very clear an very valid points you clearly are too ignorant t understand . Ur weird for commenting on a comment about a movie carry on now

[@michelleheisler6813]

Stupid comments this is a movie people 😂

[@cherrytraveller5915]

This happens in real life. Both to women and men. If this movie leads to someone realising they are in a toxic relationship then it has done its job

[@shania991]

No really we didn't know

[@xoxoxoxoxoxo3776]

He’s just tired lol

[@chericramer1808]

She is a terrible actress.

[@1tommyday]

Phoney Phoney Phoney He is

[@shania991]

For the "its just a movie people" dude honestly F you its not JUST a movie the books touched a very real topic and gave a more realistic story stop saying its just a movie because its not to alot of woman who have actually bedn abused 🙄 the changes she made didnt make sense idc what you say nobody thats beating you will one day just accept divorce its not this sweet understanding ending which is why so many people didnt like how blake marketed or changed so much of the book. I love her as an actress but some stuff you just dont try to make "lighter" and this is one.

[@Leandra-c3q]

Dumb movie

[@jimnicosia5934]

Garbage for women at its best.

[@miraaronova9188]

Why is that because she stood up for herself. Until you in hands of the abuser it's hard to understand.

[@gabbyjohn737]

So sad she didn't give him a chance after the baby was born.

[@Miss_Meee]

To what? Hit her in front of the kid? To perpetuate that cycle? The name of the movie is It Ends With US. 🙄

[@noqueq9003]

This isn't Disney..

[@2girlsmommalbh]

Take it from a person who gave too many chances for too long..NO. She definitely didn't need to give him another chance. Baby solves NOTHING.

[@woodanemone9758]

She needed to draw a line, to be a role model for her daughter, and to make sure she'd grow up in a stable home.

[@saylortwift_]

Truth is .. he believes he’ll never hit her again or worse, he believes he’s worked past it. ( I believe he loved his wife unbelievably, I believe he loves that child unconditionally) I believe that he held his composure And “accepted” the Divorce talk and the abuse talk, subconsciously he thinks reacting the complete opposite of how he usually would , it might in his mind get her to rethink the marriage. In his mind I don’t think there’s malice or trickery , in his mind he just wants a happy family ,in his mind he thinks “well, it wasn’t right what but she should work on a few things too/ “in his mind he didn’t push her down the stairs, she lost balance” in his mind “I didn’t force myself onto her, that’s my wife and I was “gently” gifting my love after reading these truths online about her ex, “LOOK HOW CALM AND FORGIVING I WAS, that wasnt SA, or I’m not Bill Cosby , I’m no wife beater?? What?? , no no these circumstances are different !! Im a doctor, I save lives , if she only would of been honest about Atlas, honest about the little lies and big ones …. But thru all that I still love her , and honestly she’s lucky I still feel in love .. she’ll come around , my wife and daughter need to be with the father, THEY NEED ME, THEIR PROTECTOR) -RYLE😮