I Want a Gun but My Wife Doesn’t (Should I Buy One?)

I Want a Gun but My Wife Doesn’t (Should I Buy One?)
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[@matw20519]

We are each 100% responsible for our own safety & can not depend on ANYONE to carry that for us unfortunately.

[@aliolivi]

I have firearms and I'm not a "gun person." There's no way I'd live in Chicago of all places without them.

[@inthebooks3947]

Honestly she’s screaming for trouble by not having one in Chicago. He needs to man up n go get it

[@wbae1340]

You are what’s wrong with society

[@b7Hn4eX8yv4m]

Same, I don't really even like guns. They're not a hobby, shooting at the range isn't a pass-time of mine, I don't hunt with a gun (I use a bow), I'm not a "gun guy" either. Mine are strictly self and home defense. I'm extremely pro-2A, which is weird I guess when at the same time, I really don't "like" guns.

[@billspohnholtz2574]

Agreed, move away from Chicago is a start.

[@manzchello4752]

@@b7Hn4eX8yv4mIt is important to get out and practice with it. And be well aware of its functions.

[@firefly9838]

When I starting dating my fiancé I made it clear I owned and operated firearms. I had training and I stored them safely. She had never interacted with firearms in her life until we met. This meant I would dictate how her first experience with them would go. I offered to bring her to a local range I frequent to see what is was all about. We went through safety and the manual of arms thoroughly. She then shot really really well. She didn't hate it. While she will never be a gun enthusiast as I am she no longer fears firearms anymore. I've shown her I can be trusted to be safe and that I know what I'm doing. She's supportive now👍

[@jamestyler3698]

People are scared of what they don't understand. 1 - Have her take a gun safety course, ideally a concealed carry course. If its a good course, they'll teach her. 2 - Look up actual statistics. Guns are a net safety, unless you're feeling depressed, in which case, DON'T GET ONE. 3 - Get a safe way to store it. I'd never touched a gun until I met my wife. Now I can't imagine not carrying one.

[@JudePi-jx7yo]

Actual stats are not that it adds to safety. Most likley to be used by him agains her whatever he says feels at this point.

[@ErinWilke]

I mean, a dog with protection training will be 100x more useful for them. They're natural deterrents

[@knaudi86]

In Chicago? Yes, you need 3. Buy immediately.

[@JakeTerch]

Better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it. As is the case with any tool.

[@bkucenski]

Most American gun owners say they own firearms to protect themselves and their loved ones, but a study published this week suggests people who live with handgun owners are shot to death at a higher rate than those who don’t have such weapons at home. “We found zero evidence of any kind of protective effects” from living in a home with a handgun, said David Studdert, a Stanford University researcher who was the lead author of the Annals of Internal Medicine study. The study followed nearly 600,000 Californians who did not own handguns but began living in homes with handguns between October 2004 and December 2016, either because they started living with someone who owned one or because someone in their household bought one.

[@fauxbro1983]

@@bkucenski "zero" evidence of protective affects. Ok. Sounds like a flawed study

[@random-nz7dy]

@@bkucenski I mean isn't that kind of a no-brainer though? Gun violence is a problem and most gun violence happens with gun owners so it stands to reason that basically anybody with even low level intelligence can figure out that you're more likely to see gun related violence in a home that has a gun. to say nobody has ever benefited from having protection with a gun? I would make an inherent argument that it probably stands to reason that the reason that break-ins don't occur more regularly is because of the assumption that it's very likely there's a gun owner in the home that you are targeting. Like if tomorrow the government snapped its fingers and took the guns out of every single home in the United States, I don't think it's any surprise that breaking and entering would increase because now people would know that there's no danger of a lethal firearm against a burglar. The point is that just because somebody hasn't had to use their gun doesn't mean that gun ownership and self-defense ownership has not had safety benefits.

[@bkucenski]

@@random-nz7dy you're twice as likely to have your gun murder you. It doesn't protect you, it escalates violence and you lose most of the time

[@jshepard152]

When seconds count, cops arrive in minutes.

[@Juantobiasarango]

Get the gun and the training for her as well and keep the freaking phone with you while you are training at the gym 😂

[@AllThingsSoul]

Learn martial arts so you can disarm a person with a gun.

[@georgewelker853]

So what would the phone on him at the gym do?😂?😂? Sure she could have talked to him while it happened but that would have just taken a tool for survival away from her. But nothing is as fast as a trained wife with a loaded side arm

[@pnwsaylorcolumbia8572]

As a gal Realtor, it took one bad incident while showing a home to realize how powerless I was. I had never felt scared for my life in my 45 years by another human until that moment. I went to gun safety classes and my husband took me shooting (which he has always wanted me to do but I was never comfortable with guns.) I now own a gun and have my conceal carry. It stays in the safe most of the time but I have it in my purse sometimes. I’m 99% sure I’ll never have to use it and I don’t want to. But if it comes down to me or someone else, it’s not going to me. My family are hunters and I grew up with guns. I grew up knowing not to touch them. So I wasn’t trained. I am now.

[@BHarris25]

It’s not gonna do any good when you need it and it’s in the safe. I wouldn’t carry it in your purse either because that’s likely the first thing a criminals going for.

[@dawnr6381]

I’m from a hunting family. I completely agree as a realtor you need self protection. Self protection is different home protection.

[@pnwsaylorcolumbia8572]

@@BHarris25 good call on the purse. They told us that in the class too. I just need to find something comfortable. It’s not always in the safe. I learned a lot from that experience. I was showing a home for another realtor in my office who was out of town. When he asked me to show this to his client, I thought knew this buyer, but he did not. I showed this man a cabin off the grid miles away from anyone. No cell service. I should have been smarter and should have done my “due diligence” before the showing like I always do for new people. I’m just glad I brought my dog with me on this showing. She’s mean to assholes. Thanks again for the tip. :-)

[@Whatorwellsaid21]

I’m a female lawyer. I carry mine in my purse every single day. Since I no longer have to physically go to court (all by zoom since Covid) I don’t have to worry about taking it out of the purse. Always carry if you can.

[@daniellem8790]

Proper training and education can help take away this fear of an object.

[@brightpage1020]

Yes they are inanimate objects. Dangerous inanimate objects.

[@daniellem8790]

@@brightpage1020 Inanimate objects aren’t dangerous lol

[@brightpage1020]

@@daniellem8790 a hammer in my toddler's hands is dangerous. So is one of these. There are realities to be aware of and caution about. To ignore, avoid, or deny those is naive at best and may become what news stories are made of, Heaven forbid. Does it mean I cower in fear of a hammer or avoid keeping one for my household? Or does it mean taking all potential realities into consideration when I make that decision?

[@daniellem8790]

@@brightpage1020 So again, proper training and education are required. A negligent person would leave a gun or hammer or knife within reach of a child. Someone who understands proper safety protocols, would not. Inanimate objects are not dangerous, they are only dangerous if they are not properly cared for or used -therefore it requires a person to make them dangerous. Are there freak accidents where things malfunction, for sure, that’s a very small percentage of incidents though. A hammer on a shelf in and of itself is not a threat or scary. It is the person handling them. Anyone who is afraid of an object, has a lack of understanding, knowledge, and training.

[@bffoxjr]

My wife and I weren't anti gun, but we just didn't make it a priority to own one. She had a bit of a fear of them at first. That changed real quick when my neighbors were the victim of a home invasion. Just the mom and baby at home themselves. Thankfully nothing bad happened to them. That made us both say "let's get this part of our life handled."

[@kyleholcomb0137]

I bought a $31,000 home in a Columbus OH ghetto at age 20. The best defence is a gun and a family dog. Rottweiler, German Shepherd, Pit Bull, Doberman. Train the pup to be nice and use the dog only for looks. Don't let anyone pet the dog you don't trust. You don't want the dog to smell and learn the person who may break in. My parents and family love our Rottweiler! A gun is also necessary!! But, it sounds like you are with a liberal. Lol. Guns are necessary with the threat of big government becoming more popular.

[@farmermarshall]

First, Ben is calling from Chicago. I grew up there. The conversation should go like this. Him: Honey if we were in a dangerous situation together which one of us is going to protect us? You or me? Her: You. Him: If I'm going to defend us then I'm going to choose how & with what. I'm going to purchase a gun. I'm going to take a gun safety course. Please join me. Please go to the range with me? Parts of John's reply were just not based on reality. Yes John, you "married her so you do have to protect her"! It's part of your job! Ben, knows that he can't be with her 24/7 to protect her. Knowing that won't make him "insane"!

[@kellharris2491]

Why did nobody even mention home security systems? He is all worried about protecting his wife but what's the point if she won't even use the gun? The first line of defense should be alarms and cameras going off. Maybe they can work up to the gun.

[@jacobs7140]

Also interesting when people are against a firearm for defense. Are you saying you would rather fight your attacker with your fists or kitchen knife? That’s way more traumatizing and violent than shooting someone

[@BHarris25]

They’re actually usually very pro gun because the first thing they do is call somebody with a gun to handle their problems.

[@kellharris2491]

There are some legitimate reasons not to want a gun in your house. In fact if you have a weapon without the will and mindset to use it then it becomes a liability. It's much more likely to be turned against you. I like guns and have had training but I am scared to have access to a gun because I have severe depression. His go to should be house security first. Alarms and cameras. This should be their first line of protection.

[@BHarris25]

@@kellharris2491 The best cure for depression is a healthy diet and exercise.

[@kateluck1555]

I went to a class, I have my LTC, and I will never, ever have a gun in my house. The risk of my kids getting into a gun safe is higher than the risk of a home invasion. That might not be true for every household, but it’s true for mine, and therefore I will never have a firearm in my house even though I enjoy target shooting.

[@BHarris25]

@@kateluck1555 Do you not teach your kids about gun safety? Because that is usually the worst route to take, if you don’t teach your kids about gun safety someone else will.

[@Slaythehippies]

Paul Harrell has an episode about best guns for home defense. The last segment of the video, he starts asking "is your smoke alarm routinely maintained? When is the last time you checked your fire extinguisher life? Do you HAVE a fire extinguisher? Do you have any poisons or chemicals out of reach of children?". The point was, people have a tendency to prepare for the most unlikely scenarios and overlook the most likely.

[@LtGrandpoobah]

Yes, get the gun. Get training. Get her some training. Get some USCCA self defense insurance. It's one of the most responsible decisions you can possibly make in your life: to take your safety as your own responsibility. Next year you can get her a gun for Christmas.

[@jennyberger6688]

Absolutely 🎉❤

[@AllThingsSoul]

She doesn't want it.

[@MrHenrymorle]

American retards

[@rithvikmuthyalapati9754]

That last sentence is the most American thing I have ever read

[@farmchick1464]

Two favorite Christmas gifts were a gun with laser sight and a new chicken coop! Btw saved many a chicken with a gun!

[@Price8903]

My husband and I live in a very dangerous city. I’m not a gun person, but he’s taken me the range and taught me how to handle them and the different type of firearms and I’m still not a gun person but I understand and respect his decision to own one.

[@myballsitchsomethingfierce6319]

Look out your window, lol.

[@emmarose6590]

Get a gun and safely learn how to use it and keep it stored.

[@lot2196]

Yes buy one.

[@Rico401Prov]

Don’t tell me what to do bruh

[@Chet_24]

I started with one.....now I have three 😀

[@Hunter2847]

This has nothing to do with being a first time home buyer, the same thing could happen as a fist time renter, first time home seller, first time homeless person or a last time home buyer last time renter, last time seller or last time homeless person.

[@lowkey2262]

After reading the title, I clicked the video and heard John say Ben from Chicago and said to myself, Ben get a gun. Now, back to the video.

[@thermalreboot]

I'm a 4H firearms instructor. I've taught hundreds of kids how to safely handle and use firearms. There's something kind of cool when you give a kid an opportunity to shoot rifles and pistols until they get bored with it. A well trained kid who no longer views a gun as a mystery or an object of curiosity is unlikely to handle one incorrectly.

[@semosancus5506]

I hope you have used the Full Metal Jacket quote: This ain't your Daddy's shotgun Cowboy!

[@dawnr6381]

Knowing how to safely handle a firearm is different than actually killing something. I’m a hunter and killing a living animal is different than shooting at a target.

[@thermalreboot]

@@dawnr6381 Perhaps, but knowing how to handle a firearm keeps you from killing someone by accident, including yourself.

[@wbae1340]

@@thermalreboot yes, or you could just not ever handle firearms and solve the problem, so that’s not a good argument.

[@thermalreboot]

@@wbae1340 Only if you're a sissy who lives in a bubble of you're own delusion.

[@TheEquiss]

That’s why you don’t marry people who don’t share your values or views. I carry all of the time. I would never marry or be involved with someone who doesn’t agree with that. Over being used and being forced to cowtow to someone else.

[@kateluck1555]

It’s almost impossible to marry someone who shares ALL of your views. Gotta pick the ones that are most important to you, and if owning guns is one of your most important values, you’re right, you have to wait to find someone who agrees with that specific value. That’s probably means you’ll disagree on other, less important values

[@kateluck1555]

@@SarahConnor562 hopefully he shares some of those values.

[@girlygirl1890]

@@kateluck1555 Very well said. I don't think anyone could have said your message better. Thank you.

[@bettysmith4527]

Bet she would approve if someone was breaking into your house at 2 am or when she was home alone! A dish broke in my house around 2 am, I was fast asleep, and my brain interpreted I as someone breaking in, and I felt SO much better knowing there was firearm in my nightstand. As long as you can use your brain, and not panic shoot etc, lock them in a safe that only opens with YOUR handprint, it's good. Take a class, as John said, and shoot one at the range.

[@kellharris2491]

I don't understand why they don't get home security first. He is talking about learning how to fight. But...an alarm and some cameras should be their first defense.

[@JP-uy9kq]

Phased Plasma Rifle in the 40 watt range

[@KidCity1985]

This is a before marriage conversation. Educate her.

[@megscott222]

This is a red flag, I don't think that you should marry her.

[@bobthebuilder5779]

Always buy a gun and get training

[@pnwsaylorcolumbia8572]

Emphasis on training.

[@tracygaluszynski1868]

Don't need much training to pull a trigger.

[@pnwsaylorcolumbia8572]

@@tracygaluszynski1868 that’s the problem. They get into the wrong hands. If you feel uncomfortable with guns, like callers wife, the more training she has have with one, the more comfortable she will be. At least that’s how it was for me.

[@Rico401Prov]

Especially in a country like America

[@quantum_beeb]

I’m a lefty and five guns to protect myself and what I love. It has never been even a conversation with my partners. They are kept away in particular places, my partner is not expected to ever touch it, but I don’t see why having a strategically placed

[@ellencox8415]

You are ultimately the protector of your home. This includes your wife. If you do, get the training for both of you and proper storage/biometric. Apprehension is the fear of the unknown. If she knows what she is doing, knows that future children can't use it, the fear disappears. Edit: 🤦 If you live in a bad neighborhood, just move? Holy privilege.

[@mirabella2154]

That guy rambles too much. Get to the point.

[@Ruth-vy1qj]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@joeckelly88]

When we lived in a sketchy apartment, we had a hand gun. We moved to a house, still kind of sketchy but we now had little kids so we got a shot gun. We moved to a nice neighborhood and got rid of the shotgun. We’ll teach our kids about guns and go to the shooting range but we probably won’t own one again until they move out.

[@cg741graf5]

No neighborhood is threat proof. In one of the safest town…New Lenox Il multiple car jackings out of driveways are occurring. Females with their kids going about life. Training is key and safety is first.

[@myballsitchsomethingfierce6319]

No place is safe but there are a lot of places that have less "reported" crimes. A lot of evil is done behind closed doors in nice neighborhoods.

[@samrusoff]

This dude does not respect his wife. Dismisses her perspective, can clearly tell he doesn't want to "put up" with reaching agreement with her, and is already justifying going against her wishes because his judgement is just so much better. 🙄

[@AllThingsSoul]

Finally, a man who understands the world does not revolve around him because he was born a male. Compromise.

[@Dhuxul9]

ok beta simp

[@JerryStevens]

We're gun owners but this is what I was thinking. Neither of us disregards the wishes of the other.

[@rachelgee7894]

100% you should. She'll thank you when you save her life.

[@U.SFreedomU.S]

Dude man the eff up your the protector

[@micahwright5901]

You missed the point completely

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

A couple years ago, someone was murdered close to my house. It didn’t freak me out or make me want to move.

[@UnderGod-ie1lk]

I live in Texas I can't understand the not having a gun thing. Am I supposed to wait 10 minutes for police to arrive so save me ? Note: 10 minutes is an extremely fast response. I be lucky if they come before whoever broke in my house find me.

[@cg741graf5]

Most people that are the hardest with gun control and no gun policies have never handled one or trained with one. There are so many shops that have training for women specific classes. Go to ranges and try several different types. Start small and work way up. Heck even start with a high power BB gun from Tractor supply. Guns are a tool and have a place in protecting lives.

[@alabamaspinnymomma6738]

If she doesn’t want to use a firearm, that is 100% her choice. If he prefers to have or carry one that is also 100% his choice. It would be nice if they could agree, but the right to self defense is individual, he doesn’t loose his right just because she objects. I am in the flip situations my husband hates guns but I am training to conceal carry. The reality is that as a woman I am in a much higher risk category than he is.

[@yvonnestoneburner7746]

Yeah I married a Marine lol we have more than I can even count 😂

[@om617yota8]

"Potentially" is right. If she's not onboard, not going to get the training, not going to have the fortitude in the time of of need to use a gun when the need is at hand, that gun will become a liability and not a benefit. Get a big dog, and a can of pepper gel the size of a fire extinguisher.

[@gloriousgal9958]

There's good alternatives to guns to protect a home. Tall barb wire or electric fencing and a gate around the home, installing cameras outside the home that has motion alerts, sirens, can record photo and video, and notify you on your phone. An adt security system that alerts authorities for you during a break in is also helpful. She can take physical self defense classes and maybe stick with pepper spray or a stun gun.

[@megscott222]

Yes, buy it. Self defense is a right for a reason.

[@realrichiewoods]

You see your own first responder! Buy the gun(s) and get trained

[@thejakelegion]

"I understand that I can't always be there. That's why I want to get a firearm to give my wife the best chance of defending herself." "Ehhh... Potentially." Come on, John. This is as simple as buyin' a firearm, taking a couple's trip to a training course and help her become accustomed to using a pistol. Stop over analyzing this and making this hard.

[@micahwright5901]

She’s uncomfortable with it and there’s a very real danger. Don’t oversimplify it either.

[@kellharris2491]

I think it's important to want to protect your home but shouldn't you get home security first? Like alarms and camera's? Shouldn't you go to that first? Honestly it probably is more effective then a gun in most cases because an alarm scares them away before they even get in. That should be your first defense. You can work up to getting a gun.

[@COINsimp2024]

How does a camera help you against an intruder?

[@Dhuxul9]

And hackers hack the cameras and spy on you. She is just thinking emotionally rather than logically but he needs no approval from anyone to protect his family so get the gun

[@gloriack7976]

You’re kidding right? LOL

[@dylanadkins4190]

Cameras and security does nothing. An intruder comes through my door, they get blown away.

[@kaiung7542]

Home security won't stop me from breaking and entering, and trying to merk you.

[@jdkay1390]

Everyone right now go watch the Babylon B California's move to Texas

[@arethouready]

This guy so long winded jeez

[@Chet_24]

100% get one

[@DM-ql6ps]

Take a class with her and go to the range together then ask again. Another thing to think about is getting a dog. Dog ownership is associated with lower risks of burglary and home invasion, even untrained dogs and small breeds can make you safer.

[@christinah.8504]

just move. It's not worth the stress and grief.

[@futurefunk88eddins96]

Masculinity is completely eroding in this day and age All this my wife won't let me or she doesn't approve wtf is going on

[@Eric_Bassett]

Agreed!

[@ButterflyElsy]

YES, sincerely someone's wife.

[@BanditGambitpj]

She won’t know how safe she feels with one until she shoot’s. My wife didn’t care for them but after reaching her she’s extremely supportive now

[@cindygomez9707]

Idk about that. I wanted a gun until I went to go shooting for the first time. Found out I absolutely hated them and don't want any.

[@bitwisegaming]

@@cindygomez9707 You're just proving Philips point though...

[@cindygomez9707]

@@bitwisegaming not really. He says someone will feel safe with guns after learning how to shoot. My experience is the exact opposite.

[@bitwisegaming]

@@cindygomez9707 That's not what he said. He said "she won't know how safe she feels with one until she shoots." His anecdote his wife felt more safe, your anecdote you felt less safe.

[@farmermarshall]

My wife isn't a fan of guns but I took my wife to the range and showed her how to shoot one. She's still not a fan of them but she understands why I have one. All she had to do was to repeatedly hear about the senseless violence out there. Questions for Humans, Couple's edition. One of the questions was "What makes you feel safe?" My wife said "You do!" Yes, I do!

[@lyndalamb3221]

Policewomen often have their guns taken away and used against them. The same thing could happen to his wife. And I agree with his wife about the statistics.

[@ugabuga1361]

Show her active self protection!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@zmanzeta7776]

Yes!

[@mastersfan04]

Get the gun. Lose the fiancé

[@benjones621]

Guns are actually a good investment and typically gain value. Just don't buy cheap trying to save money.

[@luketarplin]

Get the gun dude, because guns are fun

[@bettysmith4527]

😂 Pew Pew Pew. 🔫

[@games68775]

Yeaa it's Chicago

[@random-nz7dy]

If you actually devote yourself to being a responsible gun owner meaning taking classes and appropriately storing it you'll be fine. So much home gun violence comes as the result of people who store their guns like idiots and don't take it seriously. The very fact that she has extreme reverence for a weapon tells me that she would take it very seriously learning how to use it and how to store it. And here's the thing. It's more likely than not that you'll never have to use the gun for self-defense. But gun ownership is protective in a passive way more than active for the average person. Meaning a potential burglar has to consider the fact that the home they are burglarizing could have a gun owner inside. It stands to reason that possibility in and of itself keeps potential burglars away and harm quelled. I give tomorrow morning we woke up and somebody snapped their fingers and guns were gone from every home I guarantee you would see an immediate massive spike in burglary and invasion. And also it's nice to not want a gun and feel like you don't need it but if God forbid the day comes that your family is in danger from a home intruder you're going to be damn glad that You had a firearm. And I don't care how anti-gun You might be but the first thing you're doing when you get a home invasion occurrence is calling 911...so someone with a gun will come defend you.

[@dylanadkins4190]

Just like swim lessons, every child should take a basic gun training course. Regardless of your opinion, guns are a big part of American culture. We would be a much safer nation.

[@TheBmonster1]

I was waiting for this episode

[@TheBmonster1]

I bought one regardless cuz the wife said she doesn't want to see it doesn't want to hold it even though I wish she would learn to defend herself besides kick and scream and depend on the RING system she bought

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

A criminal fired a gun seven or eight times in a parking lot near his house. Okay, so…

[@Okie1977]

These videos need a time stamp to skip the rambling…

[@reedriter2]

Self defense gun use, while it does happen, is exceedingly rare. Much more common, what does not make the news, are the accidental shootings, the suicides, the domestic violence, that happen everyday with guns in the house. Dr. John should have cited the statistics, but was unwilling to wade into the debate and conclude : if we use data and take politics and emotion out of the debate, the wife is correct in this case.

[@bffoxjr]

Getting rid of guns won't stop suicides. I knew a guy that owned an arsenal and ended up hanging himself.

[@reedriter2]

@@bffoxjr It won't 'get rid of suicides'. It reduces the chance of an impulse suicide in your home. I explained this to a colleague of mine, and tragically a few months after, a family member tried to kill himself with a firearm. Luckily, he survived but will have to have reconstructive surgery.

[@bffoxjr]

@@reedriter2 pretty sure anyone can improvise a makeshift noose in short order.

[@krinkle7695]

What also doesn't make the news is the many times funs have saved people from home invasions, robberies, rapes, and murders. If someone accidently shoots a gun it's that person being irresponsible not the gun

[@bffoxjr]

Self defense gun use is highly underreported and many government agencies suppress or ignore it when it is.

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

It’s illegal to have guns in Chicago anyway.

[@cindyasters]

The same thing happened to me years ago. Hubby wanted a gun I didn't. We talked to a friend who was a police officer and I thought he'd agree with me but instead he agreed with hubby. He said he sees a lot and we should protect ourselves. He also said Hubby should take me to the shooting range and learn how to safely use it. So we did and there was only once we pulled it out and I was so glad we had it.

[@gbear34]

Why would you ever want to rely on your fists if someone breaks in your house? You think that's all they brought? 😂 They will have a gun or knife or both. In either case, you'll want a gun period.

[@ricefarmer3036]

John is always going to find a way to take the woman’s side. Don’t waster your time, just do say she wants. Oh, and if you work a ten hour work day make sure you come home and start cleaning. All John can ever tell you to do is simp harder.

[@brightpage1020]

Oh my goodness yes. Get a gun. But also get a locker / vault for it or your collection, or lockable case. Keep it safely and responsibly. And get training or brush up on training with how to use it and clean it safely. If there are kids in the house, be sure they do not have access, and that they know guns are deadly weapons, not toys, and that people could be very seriously hurt by them if they misfire or worse. These days, you may need a gun. Some sheriffs in certain counties are asking citizens to protect themselves, like if their department has been underfunded. Your security is up to you. Whether that means a gun for you - and it shouldn’t if you’re not comfortable with that - or a speed dial with people you trust to show up in time with backup… is up to you. Try asking your wife to come with you to the shooting range a few times. I was terrified of guns in general until I went to a summer camp that offered Riflery. (I’m old so that was before Columbine, let alone cases like Sandy Hook or Uvalde). They’d train 4-5 students per day starting in prone position on a mattress at a 30-50 ft. Range in handling, loading, cleaning, and locking up the .22’s. Some campers loved it. If you didn’t, you were never forced to shoot. It was an opportunity you could take but they respected you and let you read, write in your journal, or play card games at the shooting range while your friends won awards for their aim. No judgement. Just encouragement. It took 3 years of my fear holding me back… but I finally tried it after seeing so many more people get shooting medals along with a strong sense of confidence in themselves when they scored a great paper target. There were common sense rules against shooting wildlife or anything else and if anyone acted out of line, they would be separated from the rifles immediately. I never actually saw that happen because everybody felt careful, respectful, and honored to have a chance to try this activity. The medals were cool. Sharpshooter, Marksman, Marksman 1st class, Bar I, Bar II… all the way up to Bar 9 from standing position after sitting and kneeling… I never got that far or anything but the training helped me see guns as less of a threat and more of a tool. So, I wrote in my journal or read books for 3 summers but then got bold and just tired a round… that’s all it took. Then I wanted to do better and aim for a medal or at least shoot through an old discontinued penny to wear as a necklace. The class idea is a great idea. Take some training and see how flexible you both feel about guns. And maybe it’s a hard “no, not comfortable” and more power to you if it is. As much respect for that as any other choice. The news stories about guns are so sensational and dramatic and horrifying and real and scary. And so are the TV shows… and so was the event down the block maybe too close to home for you? But real life there are more safe, responsible gun owners than otherwise - they simply don’t make the news because they aren’t as remarkable as the awful stories. In the news industry “if it bleeds, it leads”, so keep perspective in mind to the possibility that just because it could kill somebody doesn’t mean it *will* or has to. Most gun owners you’d probably never even know there were guns in their house. They’re not a status symbol. They’re not a toy. They’re just a tool, like a hammer and a nail, employed to do a specific job, and like a hammer, you need to be careful and be safe or people can get very badly hurt.

[@brightpage1020]

PS - I still don’t own a gun. I love to shoot but it just never occurred to me to get one. Always figured I’d get my dad’s shotgun in his will if he ever passes away since my mom and sisters are freaked out by them. I used other methods of self defense when I needed them, not always effectively or as reliable as a gun probably would have been. Might have saved myself some hassle there. Instead, I got a husband and he’s plenty protective and well trained ;o)

[@ericmoore9444]

A grown man asking permission. Is she your mother??

[@mindyl5990]

It’s called marriage. You want to be a divorced man you dang well better get wifes approval first. Otherwise she can also go out and buy a new car bcs she is a grown ass woman. Mk? Happy wife, happy life! Or Man is the head but woman is the neck and the neck can turn the head any way she wants And maybe wife is wiser than you think. My husband bought a new couch I did not approve of. Everyday I get to tell him ‘I told you so’. Part of it is falling apart, and one of his biggest concerns was that our daughter would pee on it. Daughter fell asleep a couple of weeks ago and what happened? She peed. Pee soaked into the cushions. I could only clean the surface. Had he listened to me and gotten a different couch, like all our other furniture, we would not have a pee soaked couch. My stance? Serves him right for not listening to me. One day I predict there will be vomit. That will be fun for me then.

[@thaimuayshoo1171]

@@mindyl5990 You sound more like a hemorrhoid near the sphincter than the neck attached to a head. Why are you so furious and vindictive?

[@ericmoore9444]

Wow you have a lot of anger inside you. You have been burned by Chad? Yeah a man needs to be a subservient child to his wife. Yeah no…

[@ericmoore9444]

Wow you have a lot of anger inside you. You have been burned by Chad? Yeah a man needs to be a subservient child to his wife. Yeah no…

[@kellharris2491]

When you share a home with someone you make choices together. Like why does he never even think about home security?

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

4:11 I don’t understand where this is going.

[@bradleymaravalli2851]

Jump to 3:28 to get started.

[@jme92685]

Hollywood is the absolute last place in the world, aside from cnn, to get info on guns.

[@dakotasikes6690]

Welcome to Chicago

[@zachdarr7605]

Without even watching the video I have the answer. Do it, even if you don’t have the money. Dave Ramsey baby step 1A

[@johnbu1981]

Imagine a life where your wife has to agree for you to buy or own a gun. I suggest a new wife.

[@emmarose6590]

Dude, I’m pro gun but marriage isn’t about you anymore. You’re one so you always talk and consult with one another

[@texasrodeogirl3814]

It’s one thing to take classes and become comfortable with a gun. It’s a whole different mindset to be able to kill another human being if your life is in danger.

[@dawnr6381]

I think before buying a gun for home protection, you need to ask yourself “ If I shoot and kill some one can I live it?” My husband and I have a lot of guns. They’re unloading and locked in a save. Get a security system, take self defense classes and get pepper spray.

[@nathannewman6555]

Can you truly answer that question before being in that position though? Everyday someone does something they never thought they'd be able to. Everyday, someone fails as something they thought they'd never fail at. What I do know is that if you fail to defend yourself against a killer, you won't be able to live with your actions.

[@dawnr6381]

@@nathannewman6555 my husband and I have given a lot of thought to this subject. We’ve chosen not to have a gun in the house for self defense. I don’t think a gun is the only way to try and defend yourself. Even if you have a gun, it doesn’t mean you will be able to get to it. I also have friends with kids and don’t want a loaded gun they may find.

[@zmanzeta7776]

@@dawnr6381 we have kids. And guns that are accessible. It’s possible. There is a reasonably good chance that either myself or my spouse can access a firearm from anywhere in the house. Keeping firearms stowed unloaded isn’t ideal when it comes to having any type of quick reaction to a violent situation.

[@nathannewman6555]

@@dawnr6381 None of that means you can accurately answer the question you think all people should ask. "If I shoot someone can I live with it?" Not being able to get to your gun is a different problem than feeling guilty for shooting someone. Worrying about children having access to the gun is also a different problem. I certainly agree that you don't have to have a gun. Statistically speaking you won't need it. That being said I don't think it's unreasonable for someone to have one just in case. Just the mere fact that some people are prepared for the worst gives a criminal another thing to think about when breaking into any home.

[@dawnr6381]

@@nathannewman6555 I didn’t say you had to be able to answer the question. I just think it’s a question you should think about before getting a gun for home protection.

[@SuperKyle309]

Yes you need to exercise your 2nd amendment. You may need to upgrade to a new wife

[@calebburghardt3391]

What a dumb comment

[@SuperKyle309]

@@calebburghardt3391 Modern problems require modern solutions.

[@stevenqueen2333]

Protecting the family is the man's responsibility. The wife does not get to tell the man how to go about handling his responsibility. Also, she is obviously an idiot.

[@haleytruslow7200]

Get the gun and go practice shooting together. Have an instructor train you. Having a gun makes me feel safe since I know how to use it.

[@richlucero3536]

Bet she didn’t know she was married to a chick. 😂

[@futurefunk88eddins96]

Exactly bro what's happening to masculinity

[@Vanilla_Phil]

Sounds like you’re about to marry a Lemon! Run the other way!

[@joeydziedzic7466]

Flex that 2nd Amendment! Its there for a reason!

[@gmoney0987]

Ah, Chicago.

[@COINsimp2024]

Everyone should have a gun and learn how to use it.

[@beththomas2222]

Ahh yeah, get it. You're the protector.

[@AllThingsSoul]

How do you guys find the most long-winded people in the entire world to call in to your show? Could this guy have told a longer story, geez. I appreciate the back story, but get to the point. A gun is not guaranteed to protect you, especially if it's locked up with no bullets in it. Can't you learn martial arts that will teach you how to disarm a person with a gun?

[@santafilipina9020]

Can't you just divorce her?

[@juanzendejas5852]

John is not a TOP-G

[@nickfrancipane5287]

C'mon Bro!Watch the movie Death Wish sheeeesh

[@Guts318]

The left-wing framing is important: It indicates she's making decisions based on emotion, and not reason, in this case. That being said, presenting any logical, evidentiary argument about why a gun might be important is moot; it simply won't convince her. You're communicating on two different planes.

[@lyndalamb3221]

I'm not left-wing and I don't want a gun in my house, for the same reason as Dr. Delony's wife. I admit I would feel differently if I lived or worked in a high-crime neighborhood.

[@Shay-yg7nm]

Get a home alarm and camera first. She may warm up to a gun later on. As a woman I feel more comfortable sleeping at night when my home is armed with an alarm system

[@eeebee6166]

If she refuses to learn about guns and accept one into the home, you should not get married. You can look at statistics all day, they are absolutely useless when you’re talking about specific individuals. Johns wife should probably get that through her head. Stats are good for looking at generalities, not for judging a specific person.

[@micahwright5901]

I too am the exception to all the statistics

[@eeebee6166]

@@micahwright5901 I didn't say all. But not every single statistical average is going to come true for every single person. Only an unthinking idiots believes that. Clearly, that's you. You must be average in every single conceivable way. But I think you're an outlier for intelligence, clearly in the bottom half.

[@sci-fisamurai1594]

Please don't recommend shotguns for home defense. They're unwieldy, heavy, high recoil, loud, there's a steeper learning curve than other firearms, and all that makes them not that fun to shoot unless you're a 6ft 250lb man and flashlight attachments are not as common for shotguns as they are for AR-15's, and a flashlight is a MUST HAVE for any defensive weapon. Positively identify your target and what is behind it. My personal recommendation is an AR-15. Lighter, quieter, less recoil, and easy to mount flashlights. People with a smaller frame have more fun shooting them at the range which means they are more likely to TRAIN with them, and training is the most important thing.

[@joyaustin6581]

But you can’t beat the universal sound of a shot gun.

[@ineedhoez]

I don't understand how people get married and don't know how each person feels about having weapons in the home. I will never have a weapon in my home. I have a very bad temper. I will kill someone. I have just accepted that about myself. Not only that, but as a woman,I am already likely to be killed by my partner. Then you add the risk to my children. What's more likely to happen is that my child will kill himself, a sibling, or a friend. What's more likely is that my husband will kill himself. What's more likely is that my husband will kill me. Given that there is more risk to my family simply from having the weapon in the home, I am going to take my chances with the robbers.

[@tylertyler6418]

Firstly, if you’re that angry you should probably seek some help/counseling, and find mechanisms to control that. Secondly, how do you figure it’s more likely your husband kills you or himself? And what makes you think he can’t easily do that without a gun? You obviously don’t trust him or yourself very much. Y’all supposed to be in love. I’d hope he’d restrain himself from hurting you. But a robber doesn’t know you or owe you anything. I imagine he’d be less likely to restrain himself.

[@michaelh2282]

As mentioned above, I respect you knowing your weaknesses. And you're right that if you are murdered, statistics show it's most likely going to be your wife/husband who kills you. That being said, it's unlikely your husband would actually shoot you. Most men use their physical strength in a fit of immediate anger to attack their spouse, whereas women will usually wait till their husband is vulnerable (such as when he's sleeping) and then use a tool such as a gun to kill him.

[@Nostradevus1]

@@michaelh2282 I think every single person should have to read "How to Lie with Statistics" before ever posting a comment about or referencing a statistic.

[@kellharris2491]

@@wordsalad01 yes what people don't understand is everyone is different. I have gun training and I like guns but I won't have a gun in my house because I struggle with depression. Even though I am working on it I know it would be too easy to use it. Home security is my go to. I know I am actually safer this way.

[@kellharris2491]

@@michaelh2282 naw man. More likely a man will beat a woman to death with his hands in the moment true. But many actually come after a woman with a gun when she tries to leave him. Many of the time murder is premeditated at least in part. Women rarely kill their husbands unless through self defense. More then likely an abusive woman would use emotional and verbal abuse to tare the man down then/or lie to get him thrown in jail. That is far more common. Most abusive women will try to keep the man alive as a money making resource. Killing the man is usually counter productive. Women who kill are more likely to use poison to kill, not a gun, while a man sleeps. Most women are not physically inclined to murder with violence. They may hit a husband true but many are more prone to use more subtle means to kill.

[@pandajin7772]

Women = emotion > logic

[@Guts318]

Correct, in the organization of behavior: Men: Instinct, then reason, then emotion. Women: Emotion, then instinct, then reason.

[@emmarose6590]

Men are emotional too dude. Anger is an emotion lol.

[@lyndalamb3221]

Statistics impacts logic.