i want permission to be a worse friend! i want approval to be a bad person!

[@juliadastra]

recently i've been giving myself permission to be mean, like to have a mean thought about a friend or i guess to just allow myself to be hurt and feel my immediate reaction, instead of jumping to trying to be compassionate or understanding. it's good to give people grace!!! but sometimes i think i do that too quickly, without letting myself feel let down/disappointed/confused/annoyed. giving myself permission to feel the negative feelings and think the "mean" thoughts (eg "they're so annoying/i hate them/i wish someone would do this to them so they knew how it felt") doesn't mean i'm going to lash out, it's just allowing myself to feel those things before they dissipate. just observing them. that's not who i am, but it's just my reaction in the moment. which i think is normal, been trying to give MYSELF grace and feel whatever i'm feeling before i rush to give it to anyone else. thank you for this thought-provoking video!! i love your reflections

[@allyson--]

[@truthbetold6942]

My counselor told me, they are just thoughts. That is how the human brain works. Fleeting selfish thoughts, but refusing to act on them is where character is created and earned.

[@--rheu2345]

also wanna add, i'm on my way to accepting i'll ebb and flow between being really good at texting and just wanting to be away from my phone wishing for pigeon carrier letter days to return. and that's fine. i can't help it. all i can do is tell people i'll be on my phone less and will have more days where im extremely boring and have nothing to say but still send me stuff! still talk to me! it has nothing to do w them. the right people haven't minded this. i've just went ahead and given myself permission bcus what else can i do? 😭 i have been told it's okay, so there are people out there who get it the way i do.

[@sylviaodhner]

You're not a bad friend if you don't text people back right away. You just have to let people know what level of responsiveness to expect from you. That's my opinion.

[@humaneconnection]

More than anything I wish the US government would approve my asylum case and give me permission to exist in a country that has the concept of civil protections💀✨

[@Katherout]

PLEASEEEEEEE

[@mawjal-hammadi6861]

will she EVER miss? i don’t think so

[@hannahsmith8164]

I want to give myself permission to be okay, in my heart body and soul. Things won’t fall apart if I’m not worrying

[@rrenatabp]

I always love your reflections! I think the switch for me in being okay with getting 'permissions' from myself was when I realized I could do the things I wanted and then deal with whatever came out of those things (aka I trusted myself to be able to handle the consequences if they were bad decisions). I know not doing the laundry during the weekend means I'll need to get up earlier at some point during the week to do it, but sometimes it is worth it so it's fine. That kind of thing - so long as you develop that trust in yourself, it becomes easier to allow yourself to live a life you want to live, within reason.

[@Katherout]

lovvvvve this. i have so much evidence of me dealing with consequences that pushing forward with permission shouldn’t feel as looming!

[@viewsandrates]

Saving this one. Wow. You dropped some gems here.

[@Katherout]

[@meeralali2203]

i want permission to be angry and express anger (and other unpleasant emotions) without feeling being made to feel like i will only be palatable to my loved ones if i'm experiencing and expressing pleasant emotions. i'm tired of censoring my messy parts and want to still feel loving and lovable with those parts being seen and held and understood

[@eltorocal]

Whatever it takes to hold on to You... do it.

[@Katherout]

beautifully put eltorocal

[@eltorocal]

@@Katherout You cut your hair! Looks great, cutie.

[@franciscatirado4772]

You have my approval. Go and do it all!!!!! Go high and go beyond the stars!!!!

[@msvictoria0110]

such magical editing 🥺and honest thoughts 🧐 you have my permission to be a bad texter at least 🤠

[@Katherout]

love to find magic in my life and in the edit 🧚🏼

[@januaryrose]

was just talking to my best friend about friend breakups, social expectations and nuance etc. -- this video came at a perfect time!

[@ManikandanMani-do7vh]

Hi