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[@slam2680sm]

You do know they can be sued, and should be for discrimination.

[@none4530]

It depends what the laws were in Oregon at the time.

[@morecringe89]

he did not answer yet? because you are right, if he is telling the truth, he has a case

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

And anyway you can't sue people for firing you. If that were possible everyone who has ever been fired could claim discrimination for something.

[@slam2680sm]

Actually yeah you can, it's called discrimination, I'm still in a lawsuit with a former company for firing me because of my sexuality, you need to do your research before you spout lies. I'm not asking for advancement, just equal opportunity.

[@rachelheffron224]

He doesnt seem like the type to do that though. Feels more like hes the type to get hired by their competitor and help their business put these guys out of work

[@harrisonhartman5990]

Hey man, yeah I was recently fired for being transgender at a local bike shop. I started their mountain biking program and as soon as I trained someone else, they got rid of me and filled my spot with that person. But, we gotta stick together and push through with community support. Keep up the good fight, you're killin it! Thank you for all that you have done and are doing.

[@crimsinspin]

I worked in the dental field for 10 years. I attempted to transition at work but kept on getting fired for no reason. Always told "your just not a good fit for our office" Before I transitioned I had no issues finding work and I had a number of references.

[@super_notboring2634]

Hey what kind of work did you do, I wanna be a dentist when I get older ,do you study in college for it? (I'm trans guy too)

[@emmetlorerey1545]

lifestyle... red flag.

[@Bruh-br6ym]

I know, right? Hate it when they call it a "lifestyle". Like wtf?? That's like saying a person who's missing a limb and utilizes prostheses is just someone with a "lifestyle".

[@des1510]

👍

[@aydngentile3723]

I'm a salaried manager at one of the biggest retailers in the world. I came out to my fellow management and group of about 100 employees a few months ago. I received nothing but support and accommodation from my company and am so grateful and appreciative. I urge anyone looking for work to contact me and I can help research openings at my company in a town where you live.

[@exoressdelivers70]

Aydn Gentile + I wouldn't let my guard down just yet. A few months is no time in the whole scheme of things. A large corporation has sophisticated attorneys who would certainly tell management not to do anything right away against you since it will be obvious that it was in retaliation. If you're still working there with no problems maybe after 2 years then you probably could breathe easier.

[@aydngentile3723]

Exoress Delivers I would agree with you had not already been a part of 'management'. It's hard to retaliate against someone who is in charge. I appreciate your concern but I've already made it to the top and I'm hoping to reach out a hand to those that aren't there yet. I've been with the company for five years now and again, anyone looking for a job I can assure you my company is close to where you live.

[@ThomasCGK]

I'm not American, but I'm Canadian and been on the job hunt for months. I'm not passing, and it feels like people judge me right from the get go in an interview. Even had interviewers ask me what I am, what's in my pants. It's very frustrating.

[@chrismclean780]

either you got fired for being transgender or they just used you to get through valentines day. it has happened to me before, on both. even tho they thought i was "lesbian".

[@psychedforlife7176]

I'm sorry that you experienced this type of treatment, it is completely unacceptable. As a Christian cisgender woman I stand with you, I respect you and you are awesome!

[@TravisKerr1]

The ignorance in these comments is staggering. This makes it seem like 50% of Americans have no idea that it's illegal to discriminate in the workplace. Once you become a business and start employing others, you are legally required to be apart of secular society. You can't just go and fire someone because whatever they identify as is against your personal beliefs. Those laws are in place for job security, which is a very extremely important part of modern society. Saying that people should be able to fire anyone they want whenever they want for any reason is terrifying - that implies that workers should have absolutely no rights. Might as well get rid of minimum wage, 40 hour work weeks, overtime, holiday pay, maternal leave, unions, and health insurance through your employer with that broken logic.

[@kristinb8268]

Sadly in the US there are no laws protecting transgender people from discrimination in about 30 of the 50 states, and about 25 of the states have no protections for LGB people either. That means in those places it's perfectly legal to fire someone for being LGBT. It would be great if the US could get federal protections put in place to protect LGBT people in the workplace, and public accommodations.

[@rosarivera2360]

Exactly, descrimination is everywhere. I have been descriminated for speaking my language but one day I told my supervisor that had taken me to the office because someone got uncomfortable by me speaking Spanish I told him to put it on a paper for me . He never did. Never leave a work if place without a written, stamped letter stating the reason for you been fired or brought to the office. I understand perfectly the feeling of descrimination first hand. I'm with you

[@casimiromusic9911]

Travis Kerr The saddest part is that we need laws to validate that people who are different are still human and deserve equal human rights. I keep hearing "well trans individuals have no protections" as if they are not worthy of just being considered human and therefore don't deserve discrimination protection in the workplace. The Civil Rights Act of 1964 literally states that the U.S. outlaws discrimination based on race, color, religion, sex, or national origin. I think that's pretty clear but apparently they haven't discovered if trans individuals are human yet and deserving of equal rights.

[@Jemalacane0]

We should get rid of insurance through employer and implement a single-payer system of health coverage.

[@melvindalis8923]

Trans rights are human rights like if u agree

[@Draconikk]

I was forced to quit my job because of discrimination not only being trans but also being gay

[@none4530]

Ah dude that's awful ❤️

[@musicislife4060]

Sorry man

[@Draconikk]

it's okay, I just got a job at Wal-Mart! :D

[@mychemicalrmancetrash412]

I'm glad you got a job! It's just you should've never been fired in the first place, not for being gay and trans. I just hope I don't get a lot of discrimination for being trans too

[@bdf2660]

Trans and gay? How does that work

[@aurorarockets]

I like this guy. He is sweet. He is a good egg. :)

[@Katherine-ds2ft]

Ok I'm not even 5 minutes into the vlog and I think this is a cult they were apart of. LMAO

[@Katherine-ds2ft]

I'm so sorry this happened to you :( Those people are assholes and it is their loss. But I understand it must have been so hurtful. I'm not trans but I am gay and I am always so scared to come out to employers. Where I am from though you cannot fire people for no reason, it's actually quite hard to fire someone here. hehe

[@rocknroll6332]

it's a hard and a competitive world out there. I will never ever come out to my employers because they are just my employers and not my family or friends. I feel that just to be on the safer side people from the lgbtq community need to stealth at work.

[@rocknroll6332]

And at the end of the day you work to pay your bills. Especially in corporate America people don't give a shit about other people's emotions.

[@BaronVonStauffenberg]

+Ramya Hegde It's not just people from the lgbtq community, who have to worry about being discriminated against. It's really ANYONE who has a lifestyle, belief, or lack there of belief, that isn't accepted by the majority of people in society. It sucks that people can't just be themselves, without having to worry about being discriminated against.

[@morecringe89]

+BaronVonStauffenberg they pay you to do your job, I think is totally fair that companies try to avoid to really know your private life. they pay you for your performance. if they miss tread you, the law will protect you. if they ask you to not get personal on your job and you low your performance because you break any law of the company, yeah, they can fire you. work and private life is not the same and does not go together

[@judson8432]

worked as a cook in a restaurant for 3 years, got to really know the owners and even went on trips with them.. one of them saw an old facebook picture of me as a girl and the next morning was fired because "left a hazardous object in the dish washing sink that could harm other employees yesterday".. didn't even work that day.

[@ConnorYamsek]

I too, was also fired from my job but for being lesbian. It's not even a protected right in Ohio.

[@emmetlorerey1545]

Emily Yamsek dude I live in Ohio too. I have been denied so many interviews for being Trans. sichr bullshit

[@maxinchains8489]

My boyfriend and I are both trans and he's been denied many interviews for being trans and I'm scared that I wont get a job either when I'm able to work. We both live in Ohio too

[@Kale.Brocksieker]

Emily Yamsek that’s messed up

[@judedimatteo471]

That is discrimination and sexual harassment

[@TheSLOfox]

Thanks for sharing this. I'm sorry that happened to you. Ugh. It's awful that some people are so ignorant and bigoted.

[@teebarbarino]

precisely the reason I am stealth where i work now as I've had this happen to me in the past. sorry this happened to you!

[@jamesmoon3177]

Every time i mention im trans in a job interview i always get that "oh ur trans" look and then the interview gets cut short

[@HUMC4L]

People in the comments didn't watch the video because saying "cis" triggered them lol

[@na4002]

I don't get it I need the explanation

[@HUMC4L]

What don't you get?

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

We watched the video. Sob stories don't change the fact that this mutated female is a freak.

[@charliesutherland125]

Kaiser Frost who the fuck even are you

[@GrampiesCorner]

I hate to say it but until we can eliminate hate through education, it is probably better if you don't volunteer that you are transgender unless you are 1000% sure of their stance on the subject. By all outward appearances and outward behaviours you are a handsome gorgeous man! People dont volunteer that they are NOT trans so you dont have to volunteer that you are!

[@ogglamour]

I live in California in Orange County and I never face discrimination like the one I heard today my manager told me that a customer complained to her of the fact that I was wearing makeup and because her child was asking awkward questions that she could not answer she decided to go and complain and to try to get me fired from my job my manager does not care about things like that she looks at the hard work that I put in and the times when I clocked in on time I come to believe that I am a nice hard-working human being and just because of the fact that I like to express myself in a artistic way I don't believe that is reason enough for another human being to try to get that other person fired or in trouble this is a big problem that the world needs to learn about and resolve because we are human beings that deserve the opportunity to live our lives in peace and without harming or hurting anyone else the world needs to educate themselves and better understand those that they do not

[@harehare]

what´s about the US and this LGBT-phobic cake shops? haha Nice to see you´re strong and well! I´m not trans, but gay, and this pisses me off how people discriminate others like that.

[@lilliehicks6751]

I had this happen at a few jobs. I'm back in school and needed something more stable. My suggestion to everyone would be to get a Guard card because Security companies do not give a fuck about anything. They just need warm bodies. Hope this helps.

[@MsSquarebanana]

I remember when I was pregnant, I was offered a job (didn't look pregnant and hadn't mentioned anything in the interview). I was given a start day and all seemed good. As I was leaving, the guy interviewing me was being friendly, personable, and I mentioned being pregnant. Well, 2 weeks later I hadn't heard at all from this person so I e-mailed just confirming that the next day would be my first and if I needed to bring anything. He responded that he had no made any decisions regarding the position and would get back to me. He never did. Not that this is anything like what you have been through, but discrimination is happening more often than people think.

[@andywest2187]

I wasn’t fired from my job but after working closely with a women for over 6 years she told me to my face that my lifestyle was an abomination and she hates people like me. She was super open about her religion at work and judged people who didn’t believe in god. I found a job with a different department a couple months after she said that to me. I was too afraid to report her because she was my boss and I worked so hard to get where I was in that department. It still effects me 2 years later.

[@jerryhill8167]

I learned at an early age being allowed to choose our surroundings can be good. I am gay and mixed race. People often give good impressions, are often ones you can't trust. I don't discuss religion or politics with too many people. I retired from a large corporation and most of we're white females. Some knew I was mixed some didn't. I had very little trouble. I took a buyout with the retirement. After two years I took a job at a hospital. I was given the hardest time by black employees, although I identify as black. Things changed when they found out I was a strong and determined person. We need more people like you but it all is still a difficult battle. Good luck dude.

[@LadyAneh]

I don't consider being trans a lifestyle, because lifestyle is a choice, like being a musician, or being really into sports or fantasy/sci-fi stuff. Being trans to me isn't anymore of a lifestyle than a cis person's gender is their lifestyle.

[@buzzbarnes8691]

I'm not sure why you keep saying "lifestyle" Trans people didn't chose this to be their lifestyle. No more than Gay's choose to live a gay lifestyle. It is the way you were born. By using that word, I think it makes people think that it was your choice to live like this, as people that choose to live the goth lifestyle, or hermit lifestyle, as I am, . It's the way your life has developed, but you certainly didn't choose it.

[@Dunnygirl21]

i can see, and have heard, it from both sides. despite him having no choice in how he feels or views himself, he did choose to accept it. so many people choose to ignore that part of themselves in order to properly fit in society. Such as dating the opposite sex or staying in the wrong body, these are, sadly, choices that people have made. and he did choose to be true to himself. maybe thats his frame of mindset.

[@turquoisecrow4513]

He was quoting what they said. The people at the bakery said that too him.

[@JisforJanelle]

I was "separated" from a civilian position I held for over 3 years with the U.S. Dept. of the Army in Germany. I worked as a CYPA (Child and Youth Program Associate) for CYSS (Child, Youth, and School-Age Services). This separation occurred about 9 months after I began socially presenting as Janelle at work. I even changed facilities and began working with a younger age group to prevent undue stress on the kids in my care, their parents, my co-workers, and my chain of command. I was denied access to benefits, despite dozens of requests to be laterally "promoted" from a Flexible Position to a Regular Part-Time Position over those three years in order to obtain said benefits. During this time, I received several diagnoses from qualified medical and mental health professionals, in order to prevent my chain of command from over-scheduling me so that I might better manage my Acute Anxiety and Complex PTSD. About a year ago, I began working a job on the German economy to secure health benefits that would allow me to transition medically without going into debt--after having my ACA health insurance cut off for failing to meet the working requirements. I was regularly working 60-80 hour work weeks, just to get by. I was working 6-7 days a week, sometimes up to 13 hours a day (not including breaks and commutes). I would call out sick 1-6 times a month, because, working in the field of child care, I was constantly barraged with pathogens, and I was stressed beyond belief from transitioning, not to mention working myself ragged. I had doctor's notes when needed, but eventually, after building up a list of dates and times, I was counseled, according to policy, and summarily dismissed from my position with 7 day's notice, according to AR 215-3, Chapter 8-2. During this time, working two jobs, I called out sick on a far less frequent basis than I ever did pre-transition (which is documented, though I have no access to said documents without an extensive FOIA request), working only one job. I had documentation from professionals, even going so far as my psychiatrist proactively writing a letter to my Army employer requesting that I work no more than 30 hours per week in their facility--which, even then, would mean I would work at least 50 hours a week. I even got on Methylphenidate (Adderall) to treat ADHD, which improved my attendance greatly! I even spoke with Sharon Wong, Deputy Director of Policy for the Diversity and Inclusion Department of the U.S. Office of Personnel Management. She was sympathetic, but ultimately sided with my employer, even about issues regarding name change policy (which she is actively working to change). I had this conversation with her when she was in Germany to give a training (which I had request nearly 12 months before, TO THE DAY), and I wasn't even informed of the time to attend. Thankfully, a close friend at work, and a couple other people who'd only just started, gave Ms. Wong hell for me! Ultimately, I know I'll get a good story out of this. Literally within 32 hours of completing my out-processing with the military on 4 August 2016, I was invited this past August to the inaugural Trans Women's Writing Workshop, held at Brooklyn College, sponsored by Topside Press. I got to work alongside 25 other amazing trans women writers, under the tutelage of Casey Plett. I performed my old and new work in venues in Brooklyn and Manhattan. AND, as a result of this experience, I decided from Germany to Brooklyn. I fly to New York in 8 days. So, I guess I can't say that being fired for being Transgender was the worst thing that's ever happened to me. Just trying. But if I can deal with transitioning in a foreign country in a pre-Trans-Inclusive military, I can deal with anything. Thanks for putting your story out there, Aydian!

[@spongebob8679]

I was in the hospital once, they recommended me to a local doctor to have for a yearly check up doc. First of all, no one told me I even had an appointment, of course. Secondly they called me the day before my 'appointment' and told me "I'm sorry, but we can't handle your case". I was honestly too stunned to even ask why. But it was pretty obvious. I get that I live in a town that's mostly full of old retired people, but really? That is why I am terrified to tell anyone that handles 'my case'. I live in a low income building and I can't even tell them. They already don't like me. I'm like the perfect tenant. I pay my rent on time, every time, I do exactly what's asked, and I'm terrified that they'll kick me out. How is this fair? Letting someone just slip in the cracks that's probably just going to be a statistic in a couple years or less. That, is the US in one paragraph.

[@lonnielanz3653]

It was so wrong in the way that they fired you. I'm a gay guy and I been there in the same place. We do need to stand together and fight for our jobs and rights.

[@quinroanpaschedag4794]

Great video and thank you for talking about your experiences. I'm a photographer in the Netherlands and I do notice that there are people who are very hesitant to hire me (I don't hide that I'm trans) or don't want to hire me at all because I'm trans. At first they do want to hire me and are very impressed with my work, then all of a sudden its no longer necessary or they say they found someone else,...when in fact they haven't found someone else. I live in a village where a lot of people know each other, so word gets around easily. Some are okay with me being trans and some are not, but I'm not going to hide who I am. I also do notice that there are more and more people who want to know what being transgender means and want to talk to me about that and I'm all to happy to tell them and have a honest and open and positive conversation with them about it. So hopefully one day people won't be hesitant about hiring someone who is transgender or not hiring someone at all because they are transgender.

[@lindachestnut2328]

I think it’s great that you’re willing to speak with people people who ask you question because most of us don’t know it’s the people you are closed minded that piss me off Open minded people at least are willing to learn I say people are people there’s good and bad in all of us I don’t want you to judge me so why would I judge you

[@synthiamiller5990]

Mel D, just a quick question: How did they find out about your surgery? Who from? If it's anyone in the hospital or your doctors office, they could be in huge trouble as they may have broken HIPA laws ( confidentiality laws) I think HIPA is federal!

[@slam2680sm]

One of the reasons I took the job I took is because they knew from the get go of my sexuality, the automotive sales business is cut throat, and this dealership is owned by a man who's son committed suicide do to discrimination, he vowed to never allow discrimination.

[@user-pv7nf3gu8u]

I have real trouble with this. I knew I was male at 3 years old. I prayed every day to have God make me a boy, no answer. Yet bottom surgery still hasn't caught up for FtM. I feel like I can only be a man until my full body has full man capabilities. I'm trapped. I'm not gay. I was supposed to be a male.

[@exoressdelivers70]

M Cutrone+ sorry about your situation. my thoughts are with you.

[@miaposamarie226]

I discovered mine later in life. As a child I always knew something was off... but my family was very religious. At 18 (I'm 20 now) I realized that I may be trans. Everything kind of fell into place and now I can't stop thinking about transitioning and getting help. I feel cheated, like I cpuldove been so much happier if I was just... me... the man I am.

[@dantedarrigo8109]

I’m going through the same thing except mtf. I prayed to the vagina fairy to turn my penis into a pussy

[@mckennalaird2398]

I'm afraid of coming out at work for this reason. I'm pre-T and might be starting in the next 3 months. I've already started coming up with excuses for the changes my body will go through so I won't have to come out at work. Not only am I worried about being fired, but I'm worried about being physically harmed by some of my coworkers. I'm also actively looking for a job that I know will be trans-friendly. The reason I'm worried is because of the religion that is prominent in my area is openly transphobic and I know that almost all of the management are members of this religion, and a lot of my coworkers have said blatantly transphobic things without anyone even bringing up the topic. It pays really well though and has great benefits, so I'm hesitant to quit.

[@mercherolvaag4717]

This situation depicted in this video brings back SO MANY instances of discrimination, etc. that are too many to count. I was out in high school as a "lesbian" from 1985-1989. I attended a small women's college in the South not far from where I went to high school from 1989-1993. I was hopeful that I would meet people in college who would understand me (In truth, I was "nonbinary" before there was a word for it, and I had my own gender dysphoria that I could not really articulate or understand myself. At 50 years old, I finally realize that I am not only nonbinary but I am in fact biologically intersex as well with severe PCOS that I have battled with all of my life lending yet another level of complexity to my situation. I have a trans masculine appearance without being trans per se. I am naturally androgynous, and make many people "uncomfortable" with my masculinity and "more masculine vibes." ). While in college, I made the mistake of falling head over heels for a classmate who was considered "open minded," "artsy," and more than obviously flirted with me (even gave me erotic messages, etc.), went out with me on dates, and even told me that she would be my girlfriend, and take me to a gay nightclub one weekend in another city for an outing one weekend. Not surprisingly, I sent her flowers for Valentine's Day. She immediately broke up with me, and the homophobic slurs and insults began along with stalking and death threats. I had confided in her earlier that sometimes I wished that I had been born a man, and that I didn't really feel like I fit in. She used this as ammunition to get together with some friends of hers (who had a college punk rock band), and they sent me a mix tape of their music that was full of insults directed against me specifically along with a song with the lyrics: "Meet me down at the playground, I'll spread your genitals across the lawn. Hysterectomy/Castration! Who needs those useless glands! Maybe now we can get some sleep...." She told everyone that she could on campus that I was a "creep," and that I was a "queer." Needless to say, I was lonely on campus, but I was determined not to be defeated. I overloaded my coursework to occupy myself, and I graduated cum laude. Ironically, I have looked her up on the Internet 30 years later, and she is an active member of the Unitarian Universalist church, and fights for "Black Lives Matter" and "Antifa." Ten years ago, I tried to contact her again, and she made death threats again. She hasn't changed one bit, and one would never believe that she is the dangerous homophobic that she still is! While in college, I had to do my student teaching in the same high school that I graduated from. I was hated there for being gay as well, but I did not let it stop me from student teaching successfully. Some of the students that I taught openly called me "dyke" and "queer," etc. as I presented my lessons. However, I kept order, and still received good reviews and evaluations from the school. However, when I applied for jobs later, the local school system would not hire me, and none of the surrounding schools would. I worked a number of local jobs in various businesses. People who knew that I was gay would walk in and tell the management that they would not buy from the store again as long as I worked there, etc. I changed jobs often. I failed security clearances due to my homosexuality, and could not work for the government or join the military. I worked for private security services (for lower pay and fewer benefits) to work around the clearance issues. I have very strong Technology skills in the areas of computer programming, cyber security, and computer repair skills, etc. This has enabled me to have employment because I have skills that others cannot do.. l also taught in psychiatric hospitals, paramilitary settings and in some public school alternative and special education settings that required me to work with very violent students (I went on to get a MSEd in Special Education as well). My behavioral management skills have also been very good, and my appearance has not hurt me working in these environments either. I have been constantly underpaid all of my life due to my natural appearance and my reputation for being "a queer." Due to recent changes in societal attitudes, I am presently a special military officer in a private military school setting, and I have done well in this placement for several years. Nevertheless, we have had a great deal of staff turnover in recent years at the top, and I will probably have to start looking for another job soon. I can tell that the new dean (and my direct supervisor) does not like my looks and mannerisms. He has started to find fault with my work already, and I can see that he really prefers people who look "uber Cis." As long as this comment it, it is just a small sample of the discrimination I have been through (and continue to experience).

[@samrogers874]

I've applied for a job when I was in Nevada, I pass as male and when I went into the interview it went great, until I had to tell them my Bio Name at the time then they pretty much went silent and said we'll look into your background etc and I never got a call nothing. I knew it had to do with the fact I hadn't done my name change at that point, it just made my depression even worse. I knew my background wasn't bad, as I've had many jobs before and nothing ever was bad in it.

[@kerriannefudge3269]

I can’t believe this is still happening in this world. If those people were so judgemental, they are not worth your time. I’m a Christian woman and I love what you are doing to try to educate this world. We are all human beings. We are all equal. I think you’re great.

[@ozplayspiano2867]

what was it in the employee handbook that got you fired? not sure about oregon but that would be good grounds for a legal case.

[@debbystardust]

Sorry about your terrible experience. As someone who was assaulted at the front door of a dance studio by an ex dance teacher, I can relate to a door suddenly being closed and unfriendly. As a Catholic, I would like to say that I have never heard of any New Testament Scriptural basis that would even support discrimination against LGBT people. For that one verse that briefly mentioned that men maybe shouldn’t wear women’s clothing, we have a verse in Galatians, “there is no male or female in the spirit.”

[@rocknroll6332]

Thanks for being candid brother. It's a hard world out there. There is so much to learn from you.

[@-luke-8804]

My wife currently has her BSW and is working a rocking job. She'll be getting her MSW in a few years. So proud of her profound compassion and selflessness. Our wives are angels. Haha.

[@Finallog]

Same thing has happened to me... I am sorry that happened to you and I wish this would stop happening . It is so messed up that transgenders must go thru this , wish something would change soon...

[@meld6814]

It sucks. Exactly one year ago, last August 31st I got fired from my job after I scheduled my surgery and they found out about my surgery and what it was for.

[@none4530]

Gosh that sucks dude! At least you were able to get your surgery though :/

[@meld6814]

Yea. Unfortunately still looking for another job. Had some dead end ones but still have not found another accounting/finance. Sucks

[@synthiamiller5990]

Mel D, Just a quick question : How did your job find out about your surgery? Who told them? If it was anyone in your doctor's office or in the hospital directly or indirectly related to your care as a patient who told, then they or that medical establishment could be in a lot of trouble! They have breached HIPAA laws by sharing information regarding your care and medical condition with people who were NOT involved with your care. Even though being transgender or having SRS isn't a condition, the fact that a medical procedure was involved throws a different light on the matter!!! You should have a look at HHS.gov

[@meld6814]

My job found out because I thought these people were opening and welcoming of me so I was open with it and told my boss and my co worker. Thank you for your help though. They fired me two weeks after I told them about my surgery. They started acting weird about a day or so after I told them as well. They told me I was let go because of performance. When yet a previous employer I spoke to asked what did I do wrong? And they told me they don't know as I always give 110% in my job. So after that I kind of put the puzzles together....it's sad. I have three kids and a fiancee. And at the time I was the only source of income. Oh well, karma will get them. I will post a video about this topic.

[@nataliehunter3097]

I was fired from corrections as an officer after 21 yrs. They tried to lie about an altercation with an inmate. But I was targeted fired and charged for assaulting an inmate. I was just protecting my self. The cover up is in court in August. We will see. I’m probably gonna get thrown under the bus. And have to go to jail. The inmate agreed to charging me. She admitted corrections told her to do it

[@luisemilio3873]

no se como llego este vídeo A mi. solo decirte que ellos son quienes pierden. es increíble que se tenga en cuenta hoy día la hora de tomar a alguien para un trabajo, su “estilo de vida” y no por sus competencias laborales? Eres lo máximo! Te felicito!

[@Phoenix-uy7nm]

I too was fired for being trans. I worked at hobby lobby for about 3 months, worked my butt off and I'm great at retail, yet one day the (super religious) manager called me in an accused me of being off on a transaction by exactly $1.50. And that since I was within 2 days of the "probation" period they'd have to let me go. I was stunned. I guess it was for the best, management was always trying to get me to go to their bizzare church group, until somehow word about my status got out. Texas has no protections, so I was screwed.

[@Prieze868]

Lokison is a self righteous Fundamentalist definitely not genuine Christian that could genuine Christian's are told not to judge treat others as as you be treated yourself

[@historyhunter5146]

I was told that I couldn't be my sons scout group leader Because I'm trans. They said had I already completed my transition that it might be different but since I'm very early on T that they wouldn't be able to explain to the kids why my facial features might change 🤔 Their example was that I might grow a beard ! I tried to explain to the leader that it wouldn't be a problem unless they were planning on telling everyone that I'm female instead of respecting my pronouns 😡 All this came about after I signed up took the training course and purchased all the troop leader materials.... I'm still upset 😭 and it upset my son so he quit the troop

[@RonNebeker]

I am shocked that this happened in Portland wow

[@TravelingwiththeGramkracker]

I know this video is older however me and my daughter have been discriminated against simply because were disabled. I lost a job because I have a service dog, and have been turned down on many occasions due to my AGAB (female) and she is not found a job in 4 1/2 years of searching diligently every day because of her disability. She is blind. There is a law on the books called the Americans With Disabilities Act that is supposed to end discrimination for qualified employees however this act does not protect us. Now I understand you’re talking about trans discrimination which is pretty much the same as any kind of discrimination. You are right it all has to stop. I’m too old to care anymore about getting a job however I know that I would not be able to keep one because I am trans and disabled. Hope this helps someone and I hope someday there really will be no discrimination for people that are actually qualified to do the job.

[@joshuadaelen]

I was forced into quitting a job for being transgender. It was for Stanley, working in one of their factories. Was called into the office, where a guy was saying he wasn’t going to whip his you-know-what out in front of a he/she..he didn’t want to share a bathroom with me. So I was told I had to ride a bike to the other side of the factory to use a private guest restroom. I could never get back to my machine in time so I was wrote up multiple times for being tardy. I got a phone call asking me if I would just quit because one more write up would cause me to be fired anyway and there wasn’t much I could do.

[@romanbarry2912]

I feel so badly for so many people in the comments having to deal with such terrible people and losing their jobs over their identities! I’m currently transitioning at work and I’ve had nothing but support from my coworkers and managers

[@jinandsin8829]

I wasn't fired for being trans, but I was not hired because of it. This isn't me saying this because they hired someone else who was more qualified, it's the only reason I can find. So I did my internship with this company, I was doing great at my work given to me and solving issues they had with on going problems. At the end of my internship the CEO told me he wanted to hire me but not until "the project" was released. He gave me all the contact details I needed and told me to stay in touch, and if I haven't heard from him by the time "the project" was released, to contact him directly. That time came around and everything went smoothly, but during this time I went through some major changes In my transition to the point I was CIS passing. He invited me to the opening of "the projects" event and we spoke there. Everything went smoothly but he just seemed a little off. After that I had very little contact with him and now he doesn't reply

[@Joemama-em4es]

I was fired from a lifeguard position for being trans, im right with you brother. you deserve better.

[@freeze9842]

no one will talk to me at school because i am trans your right this needs to be stoped FTM i am

[@kelseyhodge4514]

Oregon is a strange place. It's a liberal state but there are these pockets of super religious nuts. I'm sorry that that happened to you. You guys should move up here to Washington.

[@hremius]

gush i got the same problem at job search. "hey i'm a trangender and my lifestyle it's more important to you than the quality of my work".

[@alexiszahringer5065]

Tbh, its not even just transgenders that are discriminated against. There are people that have issues with race and in my own case, weight. Most don't have the ability to take a fat person seriously. As long as there are people that have these kind of issues, we will always be fighting.

[@cecilivyse6613]

Alexis Zahringer Being obese is a choice. no one wants to hire a person who clearly makes poor choices. It's very arrogant to expect others to overlook this fact about yourself, just because.

[@loganmcguire3980]

I have lived in Eugene, OR for over a year now and have been passing as a white cis male the entire time. I transitioned in CA but grew up in a small town 20 mins from Eugene. Oregon is not a state of progressive people that everyone thinks it is. White supremacy is rampant here, as well as homophobia and transphobia. I haven't been passing for that long, so I'm still trying to figure out when/how to come out to new people. Being stealth isn't comfortable for me. Since living in Oregon as an adult, good jobs are hard to come by. The only jobs I've had that have provided livable hours and wages I HAVE NOT BEEN OUT TO. all of the full time jobs I've had have only had cis men in the position. not to say that I'm happy about not being out at work. if I had been pre T or less than 8 months on T I'm sure I would not have gotten hired.

[@YurioPlisetski]

hey I don't really have a male face and my face is a bit chubby...ish but I wan to cut my hair but I don't know if it will look good so what should I do

[@kodomoshawn6729]

There are apps that can edit a picture of you with different hairstyles, just make sure your hair is tied back in the photo.

[@kodomoshawn6729]

It won't be 100% accurate, but it gives you a good idea of how you might look.

[@reesedombrowski4569]

I had this happen two me three times and one time it was bluntly put that my boss didn't like my life style so i would not be a good fit for his business.

[@gothicfairy96]

i am sorry to hear that happened to you.. I was discriminated against on September 2nd,2016. I was in Louisiana with a group of friends. we decided to get some alcohol at the Walmart and when we went to check out. they refused to let us by anything. the manager Jennifer of the north mall drive in alexandria, LA told her employee not to sale to me or anyone associated with me. I am transgender I have just started my "journey" at this time. the manager and night management that was in the front refused to even look at my License because I looked like a female in the photo and I was dressed as a man.

[@XiLZERt]

i am deeply sorry about what happened to You~`` it's their loss... they lock themselves into their tiny little circle... plenty people out there love, accept and appreciate You~`` ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

[@asaoded2384]

STRONG ISLAND!!!! How do you like Oregon?

[@KimmiBear22]

Wow, This happend to my adopted son TWICE in GA. Lots of ppl down here r NOT ASSHATS and r gr8 people.. BUT..OK Yeah, I guess there is a large amount of asshats here..I'm so sorry to hear about this:( It's not right and it's ILLEGAL too!! U should say this one word to them "LAWSUIT!"..and then walk out..OR just go get a good lawyer and sue ther ignorant butts! Good luck to u, I hope things get better!

[@exoressdelivers70]

Kimmi Bear +the law regarding discrimination regarding sexual orientation is not cut in stone. it depends on the state. SCOTUS has not ruled on it yet. Right now, in most states, you can be fired for being trans or gay.

[@goblingrimm4146]

You can make me a cake any time bro lol. I so far have not yet faced this myself (even living in a small town/bible thumping area) but I expect it to happen some day (unfortunately). It sucks you had to go through this and others who have or will in the future. Stay strong (everyone).

[@HollowTomajikate]

My friend was fired for being trans from a nice job as a real estate agent. They forged evidence from the top that she was incompetent :/

[@BaronVonStauffenberg]

About 13 yrs ago, my wife (Well, sort of ex-wife) was working at this school for kids who had various problems with learning. Some of them had things like add, adhd, dyslexia, or even mild forms of autism. Other kids had rough home lives, and would act out, and other kids had other problems. Anyway, she was Wiccan (she may still be, but Idk. I haven't talked to her in a few yrs), and her employers, and the people she worked with, were all VERY Christian. After she had been there for at least a few months, they somehow found out that she was Wiccan. One of the people she worked with started saying things about her killing cats (which obviously wasn't true. She's a huge animal lover, and she loves cats). This girl just kept causing problems. After about a week, she was fired, because they didn't know ANYTHING about Wicca, and they *thought* it was some evil religion (like it's some kind of cult or something), where people sacrificed animals and babies, and did all kinds of other really messed up, and evil things. That is all EXTREMELY far from the truth. So, yeah, she got fired, for being Wiccan. I usually try my best to keep my beliefs (lack there of beliefs), and certain other things about myself from being known by most people (in the real world). People I'm close to know pretty much everything about me, but they are the only people. Employers, or even most of my extended family don't get to know everything about me. I really don't want to have to deal with any unnecessary bs, just because people are afraid of what they don't understand. What's worse, is when people refuse to inform themselves about something that they don't understand. When they would rather continue to think the way they do about something, instead of actually learning about it, and maybe changing their minds about something. Being accepting of something. Having an opened mind. It sucks that you were discriminated against, for being transgender. Some people are close minded. Just don't let that experience stop you from doing what you want to do. Keep going. It seems like you had very positive experiences before that. So, don't just become a "victim", and stop trying. Keep going, and be what you want to be. It sounds like you're good at it. I wish you luck.

[@TheGrizzly-FTM]

I got nothing against transsexuals or gays, but I would ignore a woke application, I know gays can work and I know trans can work hard, but very few woke have the character to work hard.

[@StarchildsAbroad]

I quit a job at a community org cuz of trans discrimination. it happens way too much. thanks for sharing.

[@SteveA25414]

probably better that you're not working for those idiots anymore. One other thing that I have learned. Keep work at work and home at home. Sometimes we need to be polite but reserved with our private lives.. Keep strong and good luck with everything you are doing... And take your Wife out to dinner this weekend!

[@xdashlydia]

Aydian, you are all kinds of awesome. Anyone who would fire you (which they ought NOT have, because discrimination is WRONG as well as illegal) is probably merely jealous. Speaking as a religious person myself, I don't like religious fanatics - they're nothing but trouble!

[@KurosakiMAN]

I was discriminated against badly in a 3rd shift stock job by all the managers and human resources for being transgender. Though they could not fire me because of their policy, though they tried very hard to they could not. Instead they cut my hours and even after the problem was agreed to be over with without me filing a lawsuit, they just went right back to it as if I didn't matter. It went from me being told that I was doing a great Job, to "because I got my paperwork switch to show my new name and gender" I was now being treated horribly. Like oh you're a man? Well you should be able to handle more than full time hours on parttime status with none of the health benefits like everyone else has, and even though you have been called by only male pronouns and your new legal name while you have worked here... it is suddenly an issue with us and we dont want you to use your bathroom now, we dont want to use your real name, or use your pronouns, you make people uncomfortable for just being here. I ended up quitting my job there because of how much it stressed me out. I was working this 3rd shift job so that I could spend more quality father son time with my toddler during the day. I cannot project that stress on my child. If I'm going to be getting next to no sleep, a work place treating me like garbage is not an option.

[@theirishman8455]

Living in the Southeast, I guess it's odd for me to hear people of the church of scientology to maintain a "normal" acceptance, yet I understand they have laws protecting their religion and right to practice, etc.. WE DON'T IN EVERY FACET OF SIMPLY BEING. So in that sense, yea...I get it. Aydian, I gotta tell you though, being in Vegas for these next couple of weeks and working/volunteering, and simply being surrounded by family: I've never felt more empowered and happy. Indeed we have a long way to go, but Florida is way behind the curve. Talk to ya soon, and never stop the good fight, bro! -Y

[@adrianaalonso3902]

it happen all the time don't worry you go find something better. . all go back to normal

[@mrkittypaws124]

i start a new job on monday, and being fired or them changing their mind about hiring me because im trans has been on my mind a lot. clearly i look male, and they see me as male, next month im one year on T, but once i fill out my paperwork i have to ask them which ID they want, cause my name is gender neutral, i never changed it, i just changed my gender on my license, but im sure it has to match my social info, so im curious as to how coming out with affect my job. i dont think it will because they have had LGB workers there, but no matter what its still a concern for me. my last job i got injured at so i collected workers compensation, i havent worked in over 2 years, and at that job i worked as a female employee, i was out as trans, but that didnt mean much at all. but now i think legally i have to come out to make paperwork match everything.

[@poke3121]

Don't ask them which Id they want. Hand them the id with the gender you identify as. I'm almost certain you'll be fine. If they happen to come across a problem when they look at your social, then explain it. But I'd push it off until I'm forced to say it.

[@orelas167]

I agree. Why shouldn't you think it's a decent idea to agree with the driver's license your state signed off on? You know how many people blitz through without changing their maiden names on all their docs?

[@dapperdoggy]

I live in Oregon, we are pretty liberal. Can't you sue them for discrimination?

[@bingewatchingintesifies809]

This dude might have been a girl but he is literally a representation of manliness.

[@ibtiamat]

I'm from Oklahoma and I'm terrified disclosing my true identity.

[@marymoraites4207]

They were so nasty.. What did they care if you were a transgender?!! You are a HUMAN. Period. You, as everybody else, have the right to have a job, whether you are transgender, straight, or whatever.. No one has the right to do this to a lovely human being. Any human being. I hate it when 'people ' do these things to other people, and discriminate them for their preferences, their colour, or whatever it is. I am sure they have many skeletons in their closet.. Bunch of two faced rubbish.. Wish this world would stop, so that I could get off.. I am straight , I love God, and all the people that are faced with these kind of discrimination problems. You are a fine young man, and a handsome one at that (!) So sorry for your ordeal, although it is 2018, but hope you have settled down with your cutest wife, and are happy, and please, don't be so trustworthy with all these scumbags that pretend to be your friend.. Love you both.. You are a sweet and loving couple..! p.s.just subscribed to your channel.. Lots of love from Athens, Greece!

[@jeffreyfrechette855]

I m,a mtf transgender and experience d the same thing happened to me at restaurant were I worked as a cook ,one day at work I get called in office at the end of my shift and I'm being let ,go they didn't give a reason eather

[@omohosp]

Being fired for being trans is a hude concern for me. I live in a really small, traditional town, practically no one here is accepting. I'm pre T and not completely cis-passing, but I also look masculine enough to raise question. I've just started applying for jobs, and I've worried.

[@chrisdouglas7891]

I got fired from being a short trans man she said that their will be other opportunities and she would give me a call but she lost my resume and then she said that she couldn't recognize me im in Florida and had to be on ssi cuase I couldn't find any jobs at all

[@carlylindenborn8171]

I've been fired from three different jobs because I'm a lesbian and I didn't even tell anyone they just found my Facebook and I guess saw pictures of me and girlfriends. It sucks when you feel like you have to hide your whole life just so you can make some money to live like everyone else

[@Stewart_PDX]

Man, I'm so sorry this happened to you. What is up with the Oregon bakeries of hate?? First it was Sweet Cakes in Gresham and also the cake shop in your town. Granted, Oregon is an 'at will' state meaning employers really don't need a reason to sever the employment relationship but this makes me embarrassed to be an Oregonian. Not to mention this is the stuff of HR nightmares. The lack of communication or feedback, firing someone via email, the 'handbook' that I'm willing to bet doesn't exist since you never knew about it, not to mention the violation of final paycheck rules. Oy... as a gay man, if I had the money I'd love to open a bakery with a LGBTQ focus so everyone would feel safe going there and we wouldn't have to deal with hate. I'd like to think that Oregon is better than this.

[@rachelheffron224]

Yeah, you were most definitely fired for being trans. Happens to all of us hun. lol I got mine handed to me the same day I disclosed to HR. Stay strong and lots of love from your Tsis

[@jayraines3457]

Was thier anything in thier handbook a out gender or sexual orientation

[@lilidiaz3158]

not only in th USA. I live in Denmark and its the same. sometimes I really dont understand why people can be stranged and react really negative. they make us believe its in our heads. the psychological war is horrible and be treated from time to time as if transpeople are not human is so mind destructive. thanks for talking about it, for there is a silence in the community for fear of being labelled not passing if we are discriminated against for being trans. and I think it doesnt make sense.

[@jessegeluz1072]

I am sorry that this happened to you. Glad you seen that it was not you. You deserve nothing, but the best. #PositiveOutcomesOnly

[@jordanmontoya7515]

how tall are you? also LOVE THE VIDS!!

[@leonardo899]

It sucks! But employers are allowed to fire you simply for not liking you. I'm not trans, and I've been fired before solely on the basis of the employer not liking me.

[@Katherine-ds2ft]

That is not allowed in my country. It's actually quite hard to fire people here.hehe

[@leonardo899]

You don't know anything about the leeway small businesses have.

[@Katherine-ds2ft]

+leonardo899 in my country small business don't have leeway. it actually makes it hard to run small business here as it's difficult to fire people ... so you could be stuck with someone really bad. but at the same time it's good as it protects employees.

[@slam2680sm]

leonardo899 actually all businesses have to follow state, and federal laws. regardless of their beliefs.

[@lindachestnut2328]

Shame on those business owners I just think it’s sad that in this day and age where still concerned what people look like and what they’re doing in their bedrooms instead of who they are inside and what they’re doing in the world It’s time we start loving ourselves and each other so we can make a better place for our children and ourselves

[@ladycmitchell1396]

I have been harassed for being transgender on the job...I knew someone who worked there..They told them I was transgender..I left I hated the treatment I got.. It was at Wendys

[@toowierdtolivetooraretodie473]

What part of Oregon does he live in??

[@sarahscarsella3362]

I think you can still sue them if you feel you were wronged I would look in to it.

[@littlebottleofink]

Same thing happened to me except it was because I'm very pro LGBT rights and I live in the Bible Belt south. They let me go without telling me why, which I figured out on my own, and even paid me for the entire week (it was Tuesday, paid me through Saturday).

[@Leah-ro8ry]

Where is this place at. I live in Oregon

[@fluxboyant]

You haven't been fired for a "lifestyle" but for your identity. I really don't like when LGBTQ+ adopt the wording of "lifestyle" as it's just a Queerphobic term used to dismiss identities and validate unacceptable discriminations. If my message reads harshly, please know it's by any mean not against you but against all the cis-heterosexist queerphobic vocabulary that is ingrained in everyone's brain. I'm sorry you were fired for your identity and wish you very well, always.

[@vetboy97]

You can be fired for any reason it's freedom speech and business