I WAS SEXUALLY HARASSED AT WORK | STORY TIME | CORPORATE | LIFE LESSONS LEARNT | WHAT I DID | 2023

Finally sharing with you my story from when I was sexually harassed at work. It was something that was so difficult for me at the time in 2016 and only now have I had the courage to speak up about it.
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[@successbysanjna]

WATCH WHY I QUIT MY JOB? kzbin.info/www/bejne/pYrZpH-ff9d8n9U

[@jenniehan654]

i was recently harassed by my teacher at school. its caused some depression, stress, and anxiety. this helped me heal, knowing im not alone. and that if you can get through it, i will too

[@ENFPerspectives]

:(

[@NaNa-re3wc]

You are not alone and being harassed by anyone, is NEVER your fault. Never. I understand how you feel as my male coworkers have been sexually harassing me at my new job. I get very anxious, depressed, hyper vigilant, and paranoid. It’s overwhelming, but we can stand up for ourselves and heal. I wish you well in life, stay safe and take care of yourself. You deserve to be valued and treated like you are.

[@jenniehan654]

@@NaNa-re3wc thank you, you as well 💛

[@imanrei7617]

Awful to hear you experienced that, I hope everything is better now.

[@lifebyaneri]

This is brave of you to share! It sucks that even though you were the victim in this situation, you still had to justify that you did nothing wrong. This just goes to show how our upbringing and culture influences our perception of these types of situations. You did a great job at keeping yourself professional during this entire incident! So much respect for you x

[@successbysanjna]

Thanks girl! x Appreciate your support :)

[@jadehalliday6636]

Sexual assault happened to me in the same workplace by two different managers. I had no other choice but to go to the Police. No one talks about the isolation, retaliation from the persecutors / company & acute PTSD that follows after going through this.

[@nyacoustics8373]

I've seen this quite a few times and had this happen to me as well. The repeating themes in all these situations is that once you report the supervisor the company, school, etc will retaliate and get even with you by making your life miserable at work, over scrutinizing you work to make you appear incompetent or fabricating performance issues to fire you. All of this is illegal retaliation. but they do this because they don't care and know it will take a long time to win in court if it even gets that far. In the meantime they can you and you are the one left suffering.

[@tiffany3319]

That’s why I don’t like it when companies try to say we’re a “family”. It makes it easier to use questions like “what are you doing this weekend”as sneaky ways to be harassing and nosy. You are not obligated to make small talk at work about your personal life and it’s amazing to me how people think they’re entitled to this information.

[@meliais8698]

Thanks so much for sharing! And I'm really sorry for what you went through. I also went through a similar thing when I was a grad, I guess as you said when we're new to working in corporate we don't know what's right/what's wrong unfortunately. So really thank you for sharing. I hope people who are out there experiencing the same thing start realising that is not normal after watching your video. Some might think this is not a big deal, but for those who say that, you go through this yourself when you're a grad and have such little power within the firm.. it is super creepy

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you for your lovely message and support! 100% doing this for all the people who are new to the industry and dont know right from wrong - hopefully helps someone! :)

[@akshana6434]

Hey Sanjna, so sorry to hear you went through this :( you've come out the other side so strong and so positive. Thank you for sharing this with us

[@successbysanjna]

Thanks Akshana! That's okay - its our experiences that make us stronger!

[@shoshkigz9454]

Thanks for sharing Sanjna, it's very brave of you to speak on the "smaller" but just as inappropriate flags in situations like this. None of it should be acceptable 😷

[@successbysanjna]

Agree :) The smaller things eventually lead to the bigger things so we need to be mindful of them too! Thanks for your support!

[@Hendra23155]

Thanks for sharing your story, so sorry you experienced this. Thanks to you and your colleagues bravery, you left the organisation a better place for ladies!!

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you so much for supporting and watching!

[@charline2149]

Hi Sanjna. Thank you for sharing your experience. It is very brave of you. I am Indian as well and moved to Sydney recently. Sometimes, I don’t know what to think when something like this happens because it can get blamed on cultural differences. But when it feels wrong, you just know.

[@aoht06]

WTF so the manager you reported it to had already heard this guy was a weirdo but nothing was done about it? Crazy. Sucks you had to deal with that creep but you stepping up potentially saved a lot of other girls from getting harassed by him as well. Your courage and bravery is admirable

[@successbysanjna]

Yep - I also couldn't believe it! They probably didnt have the courage or support to be able to raise this! I hope this video helps someone out there because this is not acceptable!

[@eshmaashettyy7789]

You should not have gone through this. It's never easy to speak about these things publicly. Thank you for sharing and hope and pray no-one has to go through such experiences.

[@successbysanjna]

I do not wish this upon anyone! Thank you for your support! x

[@LOVETHYSELFDAILY]

Thanks for sharing. I kept a daily written record of what happened to me from the beginning and reported it right away - in the second week and my contract was terminated in the third week because I was victimised by the manager, assistant manager and supervisor at work based on my race. I wasn't getting any training and was treated as if I was incompetent. When I complained, the company were intimidated by my written record and justified getting rid of me because I was new to the job and a temp. Things were so traumatic I had to speak up. I got full pay for my entire contract which to me, validates my complaint.

[@lichiehrb]

I'm glad things turned in your favor. Your story gives me hope. Thank you.

[@marcellakishna4155]

Wow! First of all i wanna say that I'm so proud of you to share this on youtube! 😘 And i feel really bad that you had to face this situation. The organisation handle it so good! I love you ❤️❤️❤️ always be so strong as you are now!

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you so much!! That's okay don't feel bad, it's honestly made me stronger as a person moving forward in my career. Pretty happy that they did what they did! xx

[@imanrei7617]

I know this is a old video but thanks for sharing your experience. Sometimes I blame myself for what happened but I see other people who have been through it and realize I wouldn’t blame them. I hope you have a positive work life now.

[@aleesang]

Thank you for sharing your story, it must've taken a lot of courage for you to do so, and you're extremely brave for sharing it. Much love to you 💜

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you for watching! At the time - it definitely did! Thanks for the love and support! x

[@bindibryce7922]

Thank you so much for sharing. I can't believe you had to go that high up to get the company to take it seriously though.. it should have been dealt with from those earlier complaints.

[@successbysanjna]

I didn't raise the earlier complaints with anyone until it got to the point it did. In hindsight I now what to do if I was ever in that situation again!

[@eulogist8120]

Good on you Sanjna! It was going to happen again and again, he learnt the hard way but hopefully he learnt his lesson

[@successbysanjna]

I think so too! Glad it all worked out in the end! Thanks

[@anewzim]

Clearly, that facilitator was a creep. That kiss (contact) went beyond harassment , that was actually sexual assault.

[@successbysanjna]

Yep!!! Not called for at all!

[@neemadedes4562]

I’m so happy you’re sharing this. Thank you for making us aware of this and how to handle this type of situation. really appreciate it

[@successbysanjna]

You are so welcome! hope it helps someone!

[@Rupshione1]

That is so wrong...🌺🌻🌺🌻🌺 I'm glad you stayed so strong and spoke up like Hold Up! You know what!

[@successbysanjna]

Yes thank you!!! I'm glad i did too! :)

[@pranavdev368]

you know what, you are a very brave and vibrant and strong woman, a woman who becomes inspiration for others, representation of real meaning of woem empowerment

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you so much!

[@megsthegreatest]

Good on you for taking action !! ☺️ Glad the organisation did something about it !

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you!! 😊

[@thefungiblemillennial-fina2207]

So sorry hear this. Unfortunately, it is a common thing that happens mostly to women. Some changes needs to be made and people need to speak out about it. So thank you.

[@successbysanjna]

It's the sad truth unfortunately! You're welcome! :)

[@198506alexandra]

I have been sexually harassed…. I reported the case, but because I didn’t have any evidence…. Just my words.

[@successbysanjna]

That's so brave of you for reporting! So annoying that it wasn't taken forward. Hope you are well!

[@mariamdoumbia7806]

One of the most useful vidéo I watched ☺️♥️

[@selfesteem3447]

Thank You, would like to commend you for posting this. Listening while getting ready for work and feeling sick🤮 as I've been working on a letter to my Boss about a coworker who's been sexual harassing me. Just don't want to deal with this, I just want to earn my paycheck in peace.

[@successbysanjna]

You are so welcome! I want us all to be able to stand up too all kinds of harassment! This should not be happening. Good luck with everything x

[@asliyumustutan306]

She starts talking about the topic at 4:52🙏

[@surabhisubramanya]

Thank you for sharing this Sanjna 😓 Appreciate your candidness

[@successbysanjna]

My pleasure 😊

[@amandasetiadi6930]

thanks for sharing! that's quite scary since he already has wife and do that to other girls too. I've been in your shoes before, young and naive (I'm still young btw :P) and I know the feeling that's creeps me out as well.

[@successbysanjna]

Oh no - so sorry to hear that! I hope for strength and power to all women out there going through this xx

[@SP-dx7em]

Always report sexual harassment to HR. Someone asking you out is not harassment, just to be clear. It becomes harassment when you decline any of their advances and they continue to bother you. HR will handle the matter because they have to protect the company from possible lawsuits.

[@renevanderwesthuizen1520]

Oh gosh - its interesting to hear how many similar experiences we had with regards to harrasment. My harraser was telling me that he loves me, even though his girlfriend was pregnant with his child. Those lustful stares like he is basically undressing you with his eyes... ug... how unfair. It's extremely uncomfortable in die workplace and you feel like you cant report that... because like... what do you say... "I dont like the way he looks at me..."? Anyways... I also had the guy touching me inapproprialely and have his face in my face... like inches away of kissing me etc. And you know what... I cant even say I was young and naive. Im 40 now and I finally escaped this man last year. I was told that he just seems to have crush. But he stalked me on social media. Would always find a way to contact me no matter how many times I blocked him. Even somehow knew where I lived. Ug no... this is ridiculous. And I am listening to your video now... because looking back, I realised how much I've actually been sexually harrased since I was a little girl. I always just took it as being normal, but looking back now... I realise how much nonsense I've had to face the last 4 decades.

[@Danielle-nz9tn]

Thank you for your video! It’s surprising how few KZbin videos there are about sexual harassment from the point of view of the person on the receiving end. Almost all videos are from lawyers or HR professionals. I unfortunately will be interviewed soon by HR and was seeking information about what to expect. I reported the incident and it was not adequately handled, then when I tried to address the need to handle it more thoroughly, I was treated as though I was being a problem employee, disrespectful, etc. I was even told that my behavior was perceived as “targeting” the supervisor to whom I was communicating. “Targeting,” meaning what exactly???? It did not make sense in the context unless they meant racial targeting (I am white and the supervisor is a person of color). Nothing I did or said, or the way I did or said it, had anything to do with race whatsoever. I feel like them turning it on me is a form of retaliation, to be honest. Anyway, this is a terrible experience, and I don’t know who to trust. Even my own supervisor-does she have my back or just the company’s?? This is a terrible position to be in, and it’s very depressing.

[@mahekkhan2302]

I am so so Proud of you girll lots of love and power your way💜✨

[@successbysanjna]

thank you so much! xx

[@chrisuk2073]

Every job has their issues. Office workers deal with sexual harassment and gossip. As a truck driver I don’t deal with these typical office problems. However I deal with drivers that want to physical assault me because of road rage. All this to say you cannot avoid issues at work.

[@successbysanjna]

You are so right, it is just a matter of how you deal with these things and come out stronger.

[@chrisuk2073]

@@successbysanjna Sorry you had to go through all this because being sexually harassed is the worst thing to happen in the workplace because you see the individual everyday.

[@veteranpg3d156]

I was twice at the age of 15 by two 20 Year old Women in a public place and no one did nothing (especially the Women). One of the most f***ed up countries. It didn’t happen at once, but it did and I grew more Anxiety Issues from it and can’t even stand close to any Female my age anymore! I know it’s stupid and selfish the way I’m exploding here talking about myself. You’re brave (saying this cause I couldn’t even defend myself) I’m gonna take examples. Thank you!

[@successbysanjna]

Awww thank you for sharing, it's only after we express ourselves that we'll know what we're worth. I think you'll be able to stand up for yourself if it were to happen again! Lots of love x

[@TheRenard10]

Question, what if a female co-worker ask a male co-worker for a hug?

[@dm5129]

It is really important that victims speak up about this, it will never be addressed at the workplaces, either swept under the rug or the victim is bullied out of the workplace. 12 years ago I was stalked by a young guy at work. Story short: I ended up having PTSD. I liked the young man but did not want a relationship with him. He reacted in anger and purposely hurt me. But what followed is really the kicker. Bystanders ganged up on me at the workplace. To this day I am being tortured by bystanders. I have not had a single private relationship since I was stalked and which also cost me my long time marriage. Just lived a quiet live. The ones who accuse me of wrong doing are all women who have done nothing but sleep around and aggressively pursued married men. I am not kidding, extremely nasty women who are such low lives. Those are the ones who accuse the woman who decided against a relationship with a young man and was then stalked, while they have slept around with everyone within a thousand mile radius. Those are the ones that want to hurt me. They know pedophile rings all over this city that I live in and they make sure whenever I work that I will get harassed multiple times by really nasty guys and pedophiles that they know. They do this to me every single day at work. They threaten me with their cars when I try to cross streets. They will do anything to hurt me.

[@dm5129]

My self chosen celibacy for 12 years because I only accept a real partnership, not anything that is based on physical enjoyment only , clearly shows that I am not the person that the mobbers make me out to be. Me living a clean live for 12 years, with self chosen celibacy because I believe in love only and not in taking advantage of others, clearly shows my true honest intentions. It also shows the nasty intentions of all the people who harass me based on lies, they themselves being people that are having many many relationships with many other people.

[@riddhichauhan7876]

You are strong women and also motiveted me 🙂😇.

[@francish5401]

I quit my job because it was male victim.good job you spoke up against Harassment abuse

[@BelleAntoinette]

Going through this right now and watching stories to make myself feel better. Just sent an email to my HR.

[@fsfsfs772]

Thank you for sharing your story and raising awareness ❤️

[@successbysanjna]

You are so welcome! I hope it helps someone out there!

[@iloveoldschool888]

Good. I'm glad your company stood up for you. I got blamed by my company and made out to be a liar.

[@successbysanjna]

Oh no that's so unfortunate! I hope you're doing okay!

[@dm5129]

Same here, I just did not realize it at first because for years and years I was so ill with PTSD I barely survived. I did not notice the jealous vile women who tried to tear me down to their standards. I did not realize that management was only concerned about profit. I was made out to be a liar, to be the one that carried all guilt. The stalker went on with his life. I have debilitating PTSD and have completely lived alone for 12 years after the stalking. This has not stopped bystanders to force nasty strangers into my way who sexually harass me every day at work. It has not stopped them threatening my well being, where I live they tried to set fire, they try to hit my car in traffic, corrupt officials are even involved.

[@anashwara7000]

You are really brave. Very inspiring

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you so much!

[@lavinabhambra7611]

Thanks for sharing - that is very brave of you!!

[@successbysanjna]

Thanks for watching! Appreciate the support! x

[@thisisROANNE]

I appreciate the video so much! ♥️

[@successbysanjna]

You are so welcome!

[@Rise2392]

Hey Sanjna... Thank you so much for your video. The similar thing happened to me as well, at my workplace. And when I reported it, I was also made aware that other women at work had reported this guy. Thanks for sharing

[@successbysanjna]

Sorry to hear that but you did the right thing. We must report this kind of behaviour! Thanks for sharing x

[@deannaa.491]

Us black and south Asian women have so much in common. I am also going through a situation like this as well and I am so scared to talk about it with my family

[@francish5401]

Good clear understanding video.

[@m.jewelry]

No one deserve to go through this, and some people are just disgusting!

[@daishwarya8119]

Stay strong girl

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you!!!

[@marsstubblefield]

wow - imagine if at any point in that (seemingly interminable story of your saga) if you had just calmly informed the person that some of their actions were making you feel uncomfortable

[@neemadedes4562]

Thank you for sharing 💕

[@successbysanjna]

You are so welcome! :)

[@DBR-tb6oc]

It is very impressive the way things happened

[@davidwoode3810]

Thank you for sharing!

[@successbysanjna]

My pleasure!

[@bhosaleajinkya]

I am a man I am going through sexual harrasment at workplace now, my career, performance have been made miserable by my male manager! My first thought to my therapist was how difficult it would be for women at work! I can relate it to you! I am from indian background and being a man I felt really ashamed to share this with my mum and therapist.

[@kadekeqw23]

Not going to lie, ur initial responses were very naive. I do understand ur intentions though. But sometimes sick dudes take passive acceptance as reciprocation.

[@successbysanjna]

You're probably right, but who knows. All I know now is how to not let this happen again :)

[@blabla6438]

Halo 👋 actually im the also the victim of sec harrasment and i have done report to head of department but they just do internal solving, so i am not satisfy and i am the one who get mental problem, down and hard for me to go to work.. so i di report police for my own protection but still im still down

[@natashaannia1453]

Respect to you Sooo courageous💪

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you Natasha!!! xx

[@HHH81]

Hi, you can request historical records for these instances. Records go back seven years.

[@KarisaKarmali]

You are amazing!!!

[@successbysanjna]

awww thank you!!!

[@kishorgodge6515]

4:45

[@knowledgeispower1029]

Hugging and kissing forehead randomly is completely inappropriate, also trying to be physically too close and touching ur shoulders is unacceptable too, talking about women body- sexual harassment but you talking about him trying to get you know about ur hobbies, your interests, your relationship status is definitely not sexual harassment unless he did it repeatedly after u told him not to do it. If that’s the case then no man can talk to any women or even show interest towards in a genuine way. In ur case it was obvious he crossed limits but complementing women beautiful or trying to get to know her or asking out is not sexual harassment huh!!

[@kadekeqw23]

Thanks for sharing, but stories like this is why you don't share your public name on the internet. Your stalker or harasser could very well be looking up your videos and information. An alias would be better.

[@successbysanjna]

I actually dont care if anyone searches me up. What could even happen?

[@kadekeqw23]

@@successbysanjna Literally your story is one of the things that happened. You should look for youtubers / streamers crazy fans.

[@dm5129]

@@successbysanjna I agree with you, I did not create an alias either, despite being stalked and then mobbed by nasty bystanders for over a decade. They already know where you are, including on the internet. They follow your presence every day and they read every day each and every word you write on the internet. They look up your info and then the next day harass you based on the information you give about the case, in my case they have become so extremely vile it is hard to bear.

[@marsstubblefield]

I feel harassed by the fact that it took you almost 5 full minutes to get to the damn story

[@lenks1018]

Sorry you had to go through this

[@successbysanjna]

Thanks for your support! :)

[@dimpalsmusic814]

Di you are so strong 😘😘😘😘 love from india

[@successbysanjna]

Thank you so much!!!

[@ruushberry]

WHAT? Havent even started watching and Im shocked

[@successbysanjna]

yep keep watching...

[@ruushberry]

@@successbysanjna just finished watching! Really brave of you to do what you did :) Definitely learnt a lot from this video

[@chawsuma1828]

👍👍👍💪💪💪

[@successbysanjna]

Thanks!

[@luchof8364]

Respect for you in holland we make laws now for harrashmemts

[@successbysanjna]

oh woww! that's incredible - what happens if the law is broken?

[@ENFPerspectives]

You shouldn't have added him on social media. Watching this a year later you'll see it as plain as the nose on your face.

[@John-yg3xk]

I did not know being to nice is a bad thing

[@haileyjuliasuarez6988]

Police aren’t gonna do anything

[@jdstreets1]

Wow, this guy was really attracted to this chick

[@sanjanakumarasinghe5461]

My name is sanjana. But with added a

[@successbysanjna]

ohhh so similar!

[@ap226]

So let me get this straight, your up to the 6th red flag..and yet you still accept him on facebook only for him to go ahead and like your photos? Seems as though you were inviting that sort of behaviour by accepting his request. You keep mentioning "i didnt know any better", however seems like you know exactly whats transpiring and your up to the 6th red flag however your still pursuing it. Abit unsure what to believe here?