Success Doesn't Equal Happiness // Ground Up 094

[@mattdavella]

Ok this a bit frustrating but there’s a bug on my podcast KZbin channel that isn’t allowing us to upload videos over 15+ minutes. My account is verified & I’ve followed every step sent to me by KZbin support (clear cookies/cache, try in a different browser, update browser) but nothing is working. We’ve even uploaded the video 4 times simply because wtf else can we do? It’s like when you’ve lost your keys but you’ve already looked everywhere so you keep checking the same places over and over. I haven’t heard from KZbin since 10am this morning so I’m uploading the podcast here to my main channel. I hope to resolve this issue before next week so we can start uploading over there. Also here's a cool thing! We're now adding highlights if you'd like to jump around the ep: 00:58 - Success and happiness are linked 09:39 - Defining success and advice for people on the journey 14:11 - Practical Steps for success 18:42 - Advice to land your dream interview 27:39 - Using the Inner Man Strategy 31:13 - The danger of too much persistence 36:42 - Preparing for a big interview 42:45 - Advice for people starting out: the idea of the third door 46:25 - Hustling the right way 54:37 - Overcoming fear to achieve the life you want 59:29 - Quick Questions

[@karlos1008]

Hope you get it resolved soon! Insta-subbed.

[@cv2005]

I love your vids Matt your my inspiration

[@sonic763]

Matt D'Avella it’s ok. Just find the backdoor.

[@MichaelPerez-he3sf]

Just found this channel and been watching a couple vids. Super inspiring. Definitely subbed

[@daviddinata6081]

i like 1 hour video

[@carriei7017]

Matt, I appreciate your interviewing skills. You give your guests the time and space to tell their stories, without the need to constantly say, “yeah” or “uh huh,” those empty cues that show you’re “listening.” Your follow up questions indicate you’re listening. You don’t insult your guest or audience with unnecessary interjections reminding us you’re still here. Thanks for this content. It’s extremely valuable!

[@tvdavis]

Carrie Indelicato : Excellent point! Normally I am not a fan of interviews for exactly that reason - interviewers that have to interject Oprah-style every time the guest tries to answer the questions. Matt does a terrific job with his interviews.

[@SeanLunny]

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[@justchickenstrips]

Good lens and color grading

[@SeanLunny]

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[@samaritan29]

not really

[@thehumanexperience4470]

one of the few youtubers i look up and i can truely say has an impactful on my life

[@StorminMormin91]

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[@petarprokopenko645]

watch gary vee. He is amazing to...

[@TinRapper]

@@petarprokopenko645 Bro you don't wanna be Gary Vee. If you wanna go that business route, I believe Dan Lok would provide more useful information

[@primlife99]

BRING BACK THE GROUND UP SHOW!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yours, One of your biggest fans

[@omar7412]

why did he stop it

[@primlife99]

@omar I think he's got lot's of projects requiring his time atm :/

[@rielluzon]

Yes, please!🙏🙏🙏

[@Cassiearan]

There is no better source of success' definition but yourself. At the end of the day, the only person who can measure your succes is YOU. For us, we can say that we're already there yet we're still striving for more! Let me share you our success story. When we first started our cookie business, we were living in our car with very little direction, just a huge passion to be successful. We just graduated college as well. We started the late night cookie shop out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night. We were living in our car in the parking lot of the shop at the time with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (a second launching in January!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Face rejections and making a lot of mistakes are crucial parts of your journey to success!

[@DamonLeeK]

Success is a very personal thing, you need to define it in your own mind!

[@ShivamSharma-ve4dy]

I can already see the day when i wake up and see a notification saying ‘The Rock Podcast by Matt D’Avella’. I can also see myself playing it first thing in the morning for the next few months.

[@KombiLife]

Happiness is the definition of success

[@luserunknownl4023]

I'm going to have to disagree. A person can have all the money and power in the world but still have an absence of happiness. So they try to fill that void by purchasing things they don't need or traveling, etc. You do not need to be successful in life to be happy. You just need to be able to be okay with the place that you are in life. I am open to debate about this a bit if you would like.

[@YerzhanSalimzhanuly]

@@luserunknownl4023 they are buying love, cause everyone wants to be loved

[@luserunknownl4023]

@@YerzhanSalimzhanuly you can't necessarily use money to make people like you though. It may work for some but not everybody.

[@DanielleDeutschTV]

This one practically moved me to tears! I loved this guest and his tenacity. I feel like I've overcome so much in my life (I started from a very low level of cognition than most creatives I seem to see doing well--diagnosed high functioning autistic). I don't let the label stop me from making something (it's an uphill battle everyday though as I push doubt off so I can access and utilize my strengths to create everyday, even if it's a line in my journal or notes to a soon to be published blog post). I thought the talk about our deep rooted fears and how to confront and eventually overcome them to push into what we want to do in life was super helpful and it's something I will revisit again and again to really understand what that looks like for me. The fear has been covered in a dusty attic of my mind too long - but I think everyday when I practice yoga and literally sit with myself, no matter what pose I am confronting it little by little.

[@AlexDingley]

This is the first time I've listened to one of your podcasts and my god was it worth it! got so much value out of this one, you really got me thinking!!

[@PrioBak]

This isn't my first time but yeah this one is very good

[@TheLifeFormulaa]

When you define your own version of success instead of defining it as what society thinks, you can achieve happiness by achieving your version of success

[@Sozubo]

Countless times I’m finding absolutely insanely useful tips from your podcasts and honestly they’re beginning to change my way of life and this one has really changed my approach on my goals for my career and I’m so thankful for that!

[@viewingnewyorker]

I love this interview because everyone says keep pounding at that person door but sometimes you also know when you have to walk away.

[@toolfinderhq]

The Woz story summarises the beauty of embracing an ego-free approach. Loved that! Francesco :-)

[@jaisonthomas5667]

"the rules that are never explicitly said has the strongest grip on us." that really stuck with me. This whole podcast had a lot of useful tips or things do for different situations. Thanks for this … hope You get The Rock to come on the show.

[@alexisp6755]

Alex's stories are so interesting through the way he tells them. Really makes you want to hear what he has to say

[@ossie200]

At 41:30 he said a warmth spread across the room. i felt it listening to this.

[@jayhm9393]

In the same Persian Jewish community as this guy in LA. He hits the nail on the head in terms of pressure from our community to fit into the their ideal standard of success. Dude is the real deal, fantastic talk. And Matt you're improving massively as an interviewer. This podcast flew by!

[@ricosuhanta6978]

This is the podcast that I really learn something for my life. " Just because things aren't working out now. It doesn't mean you do something wrong" best quote ever.

[@DavidPhungyolo]

You guys sound so similar I couldn’t tell who was talking at times 😂

[@fabricekabongo]

Noot true, not true. Lol. Maybe

[@marvinonuoha]

THIS IS SOOO TRUE! 😂😂😂

[@matthewrichard20]

sooo Trueee

[@user-bs8pm1qo8p]

Omg yeah like I was so confused

[@beingpras]

This is so true. I experienced this myself as I was succeeding in my first business but I wasn't feeling as happy as I thought i would be. Happiness is the foundation to achieving success not the other way round!

[@BrennanMoto]

Hey Matt. I Love your podcasts man, Truly. They put me in a mood that allows me to relax and have a healthy mindset for the rest of the day =) I work in a Louder environment, and I was curious if for future podcasts you could boost up the DB on them maybe like 4 Db or so? maybe less even! it's just hard to hear sometimes with the work I do, some of the guests you have(including Alex) talk so quietly, it can be hard to hear. I love these though man. Please keep up the Fantastic work. These Podcasts Truly Make my day, and I recommend it to everyone i talk to podcasts about :)

[@imakemusique]

Alex Banayan, what a prescious soul. His stories are so real and engaging, story-telling at it`s best.

[@marietollett8323]

In my opinion, this is Matt's best podcast so far. There were so many light bulb moments throughout the interview with Alex. I will definitely save and watch again. Keep up the awesome work!

[@iliketoknit]

Alex is such a gifted storyteller...excellent podcast

[@ullascheik173]

WOZ IS A LEGEND 🙌🏼

[@keatsu]

Podcast no. 100 should be with The Rock.

[@keatsu]

@@thisIsCoopexx I HOPE SO XD

[@zeeq7331]

This was a really hard topic to touch on, especially when it comes to his late dad. I admire you guys opening up about such things because such vulnerability takes great courage. Also, I learnt so much in this video especially on the more emotionally driven topic like "Original fear". I am born in a small Asian country where word like hustle is like the 2nd most important language in our vocabulary. Often than not, we work to the bone and suicide rates have increased tremendously, with a lot goes censored and unreported. I myself, have almost gone down that hole and watching Matt videos lifted my spirits a bit.. Knowing that there is a need to step back and breathe, and live again.

[@oddsoul3462]

There aren't enough thumbs up for this gem. There is so much wisdom in this interview. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@jasonfbell]

This is by far the most important podcast of 2019 thus far! Truly excellent watch for people from all walks of life. Brilliant work again, Matt.

[@jv4nderh4m]

I've found the greatest happiness comes from being a part of something bigger than yourself and serving others. Great thoughts as always Matt!

[@alexanderrichtertd]

One of your most amazing episodes, Matt! Love Alex and his incredible and mesmerizing way of telling a story. Miss the Ground Up Show! It was amazing. Hope you bring it back somewhere in the future!

[@elioazar5103]

This might've been the first ground up podcast I truly relate to, often the others are too much about startups or film-making specifically, which are enjoyable but not really related to my life at all. I cannot underscore enough how beautiful this was to listen to.

[@Bardizzle4895]

This was undoubtedly one of the most insightful and honest podcasts I've ever watched / heard. I've learned so much from your talk with Alex and hope you welcome him back soon!

[@vukhiempham7213]

super high quality podcast, this is one of the few rare instances I truly enjoy listening to a podcast, huge props for you, Matt!

[@honzasafranek79]

Matt this one is a masterpiece. Period. Thank you for your effort for doing this!

[@RoxxsSoxxs]

I just tried the cold email template with two of my lecturers for a project they are doing for the winter research program and it worked in getting me an interview when none of them have ever responded. Thank you so much!

[@huntermoranville]

I loved this episode, and it couldn't have helped me more. I have been stuck hard in the grind and haven't taken that step back to find the values in my life. Alex's insight and the stories he told really opened my eyes. Matt, thank you for creating this podcast and sharing these brilliant stories, you're doing great things.

[@JonHigginsMusic]

That hustle question around 47:00 was great. And Alex’s response really hits home because my grandfather died from pancreatic cancer and I’ve always admired his work ethic. I was enveloped in Gary Vee content for awhile which got me moving in my music career and I’ll never say it was a bad thing. But at the end of the day, cranking out content didn’t feel as satisfying as I thought it would. Matt, I’m so glad I found your channel because you’ve really changed the way that I create and work on a daily basis. I write music in a more meaningful way and build better relationships with the people I work with now. Thanks for everything you do and best of luck getting The Rock on the podcast!

[@sarthakgirdhar2833]

"Who is to say Steve Jobs is more successful than Wozniak" That was so amazing man. ❤

[@camilacheca001]

So maybe I'm late to an introduction of Alex Vinayan but I am glad I know him now. His humble way of advising and sharing knowledge is exactly what I needed at this moment. He says there's no blueprint for success but he did a hell of a job breaking down the insights to getting started. Buying the book ASAP.

[@camilacheca001]

Adding a huge kudos to Matt for this interview. Great transitions and questions... Hope you get that sit down with Dwayne.

[@customasmrbyx]

That part where he talked about his dad dying was so sad. Mix that in with the part about the rocks, sand & pebbles representing important people in your life and social media and it just gives you perspective and allows you to reflect on what you give priority or importance to. I've been guilty of posting on Instagram instead of taking the time to talk to family members who have messaged me, I've been guilty of waking up and spending way too much time on planning and organizing my posts. When you put these things first, they leave little time for everyone and everything else, but when you prioritize the people in your life then, like he said, naturally you are able to fit in the rest of the things in your life.

[@snomflakes]

Hey, you're a great person and your content is no short of satisfying.

[@beretamez8272]

This episode has been one of the most awesome podcast I have watch... right time, right mindset, right everything for me and beautifully made!

[@mpapaya11]

The part where he talks about his dad really choked me up 💗 such good advice all throughout too

[@PaulWeymouth]

I could listen to this dude tell stories all day

[@TheFAVis]

For me this is hands down the best podcast I have ever listened to. I wonder if your podcast with The Rock will even be better.

[@parisluv536]

in a stage in life where i need more podcasts

[@katazinapaulauskiene1152]

Hello Matt and Alex, this was a phenomenal podcast. It was the first podcast that actually made me take notes! I think this one will stick with me for a long time. Thank You for Your awesome work.

[@assel_askar]

Just two smart, funny and successful men talking about the right things 🤗 best hour of the day

[@SoloQRanger]

I'll like to say that I found your podcast at the right moment of my life

[@ajithragunathan6094]

Hey Matt. The content in your videos , you and your guests are bringing enlightenment in me and I feel refreshed and positive after I started watching your videos. The content is driving me to challenge the difficult phase of life that I am going through. Lots of love to you and wishing you all success. Keep inspiring !!

[@RPGLegendarySoundtracks]

Dear Matt, I know you get many comments so I'll be brief. I really love your videos and your podcast! I totally understand if you are too busy to respond. Even a one or two lines reply will totally make my day. All the best! Eduardo.

[@fabricekabongo]

You didn't say who you are and didn't ask a question.

[@IssamMbarek]

Up

[@StorminMormin91]

This has been one of my favorite episodes of this podcast.

[@annelieschulze3945]

Oh this was such a great podcast. I have a year left of college and want to start off in the art industry. Especially now I have this huge pressure on me to hussle as much as I can. As an artist, you're really responsible for your own success and you have to sacrifice so much of your free time, that it's so important to take a step back sometimes and evaluate the time you're spending. Definitely gonna save this podcast and listen to it again in a couple of months, some great lessons in there.

[@papayaislurve]

Loving the inclusion of timestamps, Matthew! Valuable for when we'd like to revisit some points after listening to the entirety of this awesome podcast. Brilliant work, you two!

[@Naeem_El]

Matt this is another awesome video, but this one really hit home dealing with success. Thank you for this video helped out a lot.

[@arturomaik]

Matt this is gold. We should have this on Spotify.

[@randolphremarkable]

Theres somthing visually appealing in the video quality that is just amazing

[@Danygotaworldtosee]

My favourite episode so far 👍😊

[@NasirNobin]

Just after finishing the podcast, I bought Alex's book and started listening to it.

[@leadautomne]

The best hour i have ever spent on the internet, thank you.

[@kristenvereecken8366]

Thank you for all the work you do to produce these episodes. I get really excited when I see a new one!

[@acqe2463]

I listened to it this morning while I was going to school. Great podcast Matt. I recommended it to my teacher haha

[@VaskoGames]

I really loved the part about how too much persistence can become an issue

[@chimera2544]

I have never clicked on a video quicker than this podcast's. I kept refreshing both of your accounts and the playlist waiting for this!! Thank you so much Matt!💙

[@McGrotes]

Wow Matt. I feel grateful to live in a time where I can consume such valuable content in the palm of my hand so easily. Your content is truly the most valuable content I’ve watched on the internet. You influenced me to create a Patreon just to support your content. I especially want to thank you for this episode though. I connected to this episode especially well because of where I am in my life. I look forward to more of your content but thank you for what you’ve done so far. Of course, thank you to Alex for this episode, too.

[@notjohndoe6878]

Another GOLDEN video. Real talk right here

[@tryingMyBestToday]

This almost made me cry. Thank you for creating such meaningful content!

[@GregoryM1]

I have to admit, Alex Banayam is a GREAT storyteller

[@elioazar5103]

I just wanted to say: this made my day. Maybe my week.

[@udeshdhawan6202]

Hi Matt! I am in the middle of this podcast and well, this is the first podcast of yours that I've listened to. I must admit that I ended up looking at the success ladder from a different perspective. Supporting you on Patreon today. Great work man!

[@joedouaihy8249]

Man! It's the third episode I've watched today , thanks for getting me hooked up on these podcasts , those are amazing !! oh and yeah I threw half my things out ...

[@zaritiez8851]

This is my third time listening to this episode, so impactful and full of knowledge.

[@anthonymehring2064]

This is my favorite podcast episode of yours and actually it my favorite podcast period. This is the third time I’ve listened to/watched it. Casey Neistat and Matt are tied for my favorite KZbinr. Thanks for the great content.

[@audreymcmullen7947]

I got so excited when I saw this episode! My favorite podcast and favorite book combined into one. Thanks for all your amazing work, Matt! It's so impactful.

[@aimeebernadettedesmond7096]

This conversation has brought so much value to my life today. So many different and enlightening topics that were touched on and I enjoyed the vulnerability that you both shared. (I listened as I cleaned my house and took a walk) it was very therapeutic. Thank you!

[@alexhampson9684]

Loved that Woz story. That was exactly what I needed to hear. At a crossroads of where I want to go in my career and this helped me see where I need to go. Thank you!

[@Moonlitchick]

Wow, been listening to the ground up show here on KZbin and sometimes on castbox... This episode has been the most impactful one by far just ten minutes in! Thank you so much for bringing this guest onto your show!! Big fan of your work Matt!!

[@dawnglessner7432]

Excellent interview! It’s wonderful that people are figuring this out in an earlier part of their life.

[@KarinasaurusRexx]

You interview some awesome people! I love that I can listen to this podcast and be exposed to so many badasses. Keep kicking ass!

[@OscarWard]

I loved hearing the stories of Steve Wozniak. Inspiring stuff

[@oki1985]

you and many of these minimalists channels/gurus...whatever u want to call yourselves...YOU GUYS are onto something!!!! thank u so much for sharing your knowledge with us...you have found your calling in life!! 🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@taylorrobertson2745]

Beautiful podcast! I feel so inspired whenever I listen to one. As a college student, I find them all really motivating. Keep up the good work. You will reach your ultimate goal soon.

[@smeddy7854]

Alex is an absolutely excellent story teller

[@CalebImmel]

Love this guest! I got the most value from this podcast out of all of yours

[@brauliobla]

Gosh Matt, this interview made me check your patreon, you have no idea how much it has already helped me. Thanks a lot, gonna watch more of your podcasts from now on!

[@oddwolfhaley]

Miss this show so much. Mine of great content!

[@eugeniosolo]

Yessss I love this podcast!! 👏

[@WorldTrotterHereandBeyond]

Thanks for the inspiration. As long as you know your self worth and do more than what is expected you will be successful.

[@jviegas]

If you want to interview Dwayne, start with people with whom he already worked and is more into social media. Use that as a way to be introduced into his inner circle.

[@MoonbearDiedHere]

Wow this was a really powerful one. I relate with the bit where Alex was talking about death as it's one of my fears but also a constant motivator for me.

[@ChessMasteryOfficial]

*Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. □*

[@jacksbas]

This is one of the best episodes I've seen/heard, great job Matt.

[@SweetAngelPinay06]

I'm listening to the podcast on Google Play, and I'm enjoying the interview. Thank you so for the both of you for sharing your thoughts, wise words, and insights.

[@LorenzMerdian]

I have a addition to that lesson with the rocks, pebbles and sand. "After that lesson, a student took a can of beer and flooded that jar with the beer so that all free space has been filled with beer. Lesson of this? No matter how filled or fulfilled your life is, there's always some space left for a beer." -- I know, it's cheesy and silly, but it reminds to enjoy the process of life. Or to put it like Steve Wozniak: "Have fun while doing it."

[@janbakker1741]

Your setting is simply perfect!!

[@kylejaytv2932]

What an incredible podcast for young people out there!

[@AndrewRMontoya]

bro, your grading is SO SMOOTH