I wasted my 20s ...

[@susky5518]

I’ve always found myself dreaming big goals. Even now in my 20s! Despite people saying to find a proper job but i’ve set the goal. Trying to find my ikigai… staying put at one place isn’t for me Because I believe that our brain has no genkai and of course we’ll get hardships too but we are meant to breakthrough . Thank you for your Videos Show nemoto san 🫶🏻💙 And when you say sun is shaaanin baby! It really shines even when its night here

[@shownemoto]

Stay dreamy ! As long as you set goals and plan it , even if it takes time you will get closer everyday ! I will keep saying that ! hahah

[@backupviber6285]

@@shownemoto Hi friend, the secret is, any goal is false, any great goal is only a small step in your life, do not be trapped with goals small or great. Need to know clearly what really is your Whole life, otherwise you will achieve great goals, but you will waste your whole life, you will win many battles, but will lose the war. To know this, is very important.

[@goofyahhh254]

@@backupviber6285 wow, profound

[@backupviber6285]

@@goofyahhh254 this is very expensive secret, of cost of a life. Many extremely rich successful strong and powerful people, various businessmen billionaires, dictators, presidents, sultans, kings and imperators, famous boxers, actors, all of them achieved greatest goals, climbed to the best possible top of success, but wasted their lives. They won a numerous greatest battles, stepped to throat of their enemies, they looks shiny best among others, they have won everything and everybody, but they lost their war.

[@maazrehman6084]

@@backupviber6285 wow, I really like your comment, can you please expand more on that, in terms of what really is your whole life and how reaching our main goal in life, can be actually negative.

[@joanofarcxxi]

I am 50-ish. My advice: dream big but work towards your dreams with a strong dose of reality. Nothing will fall on your lap effortlessly. Build real friendships. Learn how to communicate and form healthy connections. Learn how to have healthy relationships. Starting with yourself. Know thyself. This takes introspection and self awareness. But it really is the begining of all wisdom. When you know yourself, you wil know who you are and what you want, what resonates with you, and what does not. No one will survive as a lone wolf, so make sure you keep people close to you - in the right way. Studies show that when people are dying, no one regrets making more money, having more education, more possessions, or more adventures; they regret not having spent more time with those they love. Don't compare yourself to others, create your own life. And then, learn gratitude. Every day is a gift, and even the air your breathe is a miracle. Never take anything for granted. You don't know if you will be here tomorrow.

[@kiara4345]

thanks

[@infinitefrets375]

can you share any tips you may have for building real friendships?

[@joanofarcxxi]

@@infinitefrets375 start with yourself. Learn to build yourself from the inside. Develop spirituality - that can be different things to different people. Understand that you are not the center of the universe and practice gratitude for everything in your life. Read a lot about many topics. If you go from there you will start to see what the next steps are for you.

[@Evelyn-ox8ef]

Gratitude makes a big differences ❤

[@joanofarcxxi]

@Jad C. and who exactly is this Lord? Not everyone has the same beliefs. But if you don't know yourself with or without a specific religion, your life will be chaos and a disgrace. Do you believe that only the Lord can know who you are? The Lord hasn't given you the intelligence or the insight to know yourself? If you don't know yourself how can you ever be a free human being with the free will to choose? Self knowledge is not about religion. Self knowledge is about choice.

[@KingKhan-kp3mv]

there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal

[@user-lr3es8kj9m]

You're a bot. 1 month ago and 1.4k likes and no replies? And this borlest seems so shady.

[@halfcastify]

Summary: The video is about a person who is turning 29 and reflects on how they feel that they wasted their 20s. They discuss the pressures and expectations put on young adults by society, parents, and themselves, such as getting high-paying jobs, finding love, and achieving their dreams. The video offers five things that the person wishes they knew before turning 20, such as the importance of being realistic versus dreaming big, learning to love and take care of oneself, and dealing with ego and self-consciousness. The person encourages viewers to face their ego and self-consciousness, to accept their imperfections, and to value the present moment. The video concludes by reminding viewers that everyone has their own pace and timing in life.

[@cincereqoutes8844]

thanks

[@flexible_evil4]

Thx

[@eric9164]

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[@Schneeeulenwetter]

Thank uu

[@niallconradpriv]

Why does it sound like ChatGPT wrote this😂

[@Logan-ee5rx]

I'm 36 and still feel like I'm 21. All my friends got married and had children but for me I always wanted to have the freedom of being young and having your whole life ahead of you. Sometimes I feel like I should have done it different - the only advice I have for those still in their 20s is the world won't wait for you. It took me forever to find who I was and I am still finding out. Also, live the life you want to live and not live the life others want you to live. I made the mistake the hard way listening to my mother and wasting years of my life going to college when I should have just done what made me happy.

[@ryan9923]

what made you happy in the end?

[@avoboy662]

Glad to see that not everyone think that having childs is not necessary and doesn't make you useful or useless in this life. (My bru think that tho , hope he's joking but idk)

[@iAmSuperGayAndLikeMen]

and I wasted years of my life not going to college lol this proves you will never be satisfied and always feel like you wasted it.

[@Daenerys1457]

Wow….😢

[@IIISincerelyIII]

Thank you for this, logan. i had to screenshot this to and add it to my notes. ❤

[@rhn8696]

5 things I wish I knew a little bit before in my 20s 1:14 1. Your 20s is an adventure 2:51 2. People will say shit anyway 3:40 3. Your ego and self-consciousness will be the biggest enemy 5:15 4. Learn how to love and take care of yourself 6:12 5. Your 20s is the investment

[@christhescientist]

Thank you for this

[@JohananStarGiver]

consciousness is you. Life is happening for you. U know how mutch had to happen for your to read this? Imagine planets. Universe forming, wars, history, all that happened so you can be here and read this comment.

[@sableann4255]

and save, save, save money. I could have been retired by now!

[@andyng5321]

I wasted my 20s due to sabotagment from bullying, I went to teach the bullies a lesson by cyber harassing them, the police called me, but I have no regrets at all :)

[@JohananStarGiver]

@@andyng5321 Fight Evil with Love, then the circle will stop. If you dont, circle will continue.

[@misakkiayuzawa5414]

I'm already 28 yrs old and I just realized that I want to become a Doctor. Years of being lost,searching and even ruining my mental health, but here I'am pushing myself again forward for that burning sensation of my dream. It won't be easy,atleast we are trying. 🌻

[@tatic3106]

You can do it !! 💪🏻👏🏻

[@fernandoraphael95]

Let us know when you graduate

[@kaliuchie315]

Keep us posted Misakki! Goodluck ❤

[@ITheorey]

Shit I'm 25 and have spent the last 4 years lost making soundcloud rap that I don't even release, lmao.. I think it's easier to become a doctor than a (successful) soundcloud rapper, you got it 😂💘

[@Ty-tn5uh]

This is cool. Good luck!

[@teasis3829]

one the that I learned in my 20s so far is that age isn't physical, it's mental. 🌼I'm glad I came to terms w that

[@shownemoto]

Love it !

[@SimplyAngelic828]

That explains why I’m physically 23 but felt 80 for the past year (still recovering)

[@АлександраГришина-с5р]

@@SimplyAngelic828 I am sorry to hear that, I wish you love and hope it gets better for you💙

[@elegancia6179]

@@SimplyAngelic828 try drinking lots of colostrum and reveratrol💗diet is everything. Organic, wild caught, pasture raised, eat your bitter greens, root veggies. Stay blessed amigo

[@ALu-nq8rf]

I feel so much younger nearing 30 (even on the negative side, childish or stunted) than I did in my teens and early 20's when my depression felt extremely physical and clouded everything. I felt like 100 years old or even soulless and empty.

[@user-gl6yz1te3o]

You're the youngest as you'll ever be today. To teenagers you're old, to 40-year-olds you're young. You're never too old, never too young. A decade can go by and nothing happened, but suddenly everything happens in a short few years. Keep your spirit up and learn from your decade. In case no one tell you today... you're loved, you're blessed! Onwards!!!!

[@mohamedamine5168]

These are some real wise words to hear from someone who is 29. Now, I'm 25 and things, life, the days, every moment, even my dreams when I'm sleeping are SOOO STRESSING. Then, I realize it's always the " comparing myself to people of my age " then the idea of " everyone has their own timing ' hit then I get relieved. GUYS, it's a loop and that's the trap. Just focus on whatever you're doing right now, if your day was productive than be proud and try be better tomorrow. It's what keeps the wheel moving ... I wish you all make your dreams come true and I'm writing this to my future-self too that one day I'll be back here and write " I made it " ♥ Thank you Show Nemoto

[@moonp8576]

Im also 25 and feel the same. I self sabotage a lot cause I dont know what I want

[@R3V3L]

@@moonp8576 The answer is always the same . We want what we don’t have. This varies from person to person because we all have different interest /desires. If i can offer some advise it would be to really sit down and have a meeting with yourself. Ask yourself: What is it from life that I can realistically obtain with hard work & consistency ??? I hope this helps - from a fellow 25 year old

[@theworldisimmense]

@@moonp8576 enjoy it kid, I’m 29 about to be 30 in a few months. Once you turned 25, you blink and you already 30

[@arcthepaladin2694]

I am on the brink of turning 25 this year, and i would like join you when you come back to this comment, and id share my learnings when i do visit this comment thread in the future.

[@lvfty]

Thank you and everyone on this comment thread for the positive energy. Much love, we'll all make it

[@TheWhale1337]

you didn't waste your 20s, you spent the years understanding how you don't want the rest of your life to look like. That itself is a great acheivment. You gained experience that has formed you into who you are now.

[@strawnut6652]

I'm turning 20 this December. And I just decided to take a break from university where all my friends are to find myself, figure out what I really want in life. And it's reassuring to come across this video in this time where I'm still finding courage to do that instead of pushing myself to the brink of death learning complex math, physics, and chemistry just to not be left behind from my friends.

[@derrandy416]

I am turning 20 this Summer. I finished High school last year took a one year break and this really help me figure out shit about myself and about what I want to do. And it enabled me to just spent time with Family that's outside of my country and on small little things like Amsuments Parks that I never got to visit or Hobbys like Fitness So if you have the luxury of being able to take this brake do it. You can just go to Uni 1 year later

[@mills7101]

@@derrandy416 this is so true I just turned 20 and I want to take a take a break so bad but this is the time to buckle up and do more I guess

[@MarK-tk1jn]

@@mills7101 If it doesn’t make you happy, don’t do it. But, try to find out WHY you want to “buckle up”.If you do not stand behind your why, you wont make it through. When it gets hard, you’ll need your why. If your why is worth the pain/effort, don’t give up.

[@AeroLMS]

19 gang! wishing us luck on life

[@kaiido4gz79]

I turned 20 back in December and everyday since then, I can’t really sleep peacefully without thinking about life

[@showsomedignaty]

I'm about to turn 29 as well and I can say I wasted my 20's being scared to date, introduce myself to people, make new experiences happen or go out to social events. When I try to put myself out there and go to social events. I realized my social anxiety/introvertness gets the best of me and I stick to one or two person I know for the entire time. I find it hard to push myself to change this. To try something new as each year passes and I get older. I'm still trying to self-love and it is nice to be reminded that everyone has their own journey and timeline. But in moments I do feel like I am falling behind when comparing myself to people around my age. I hope eventually I will slowly work my way up to what I want in life.

[@bjingaijinjohnson1620]

I too am going to be turning 29 this year. I feel how u feel to but i know its gonna be ok. We all move at our own pace:)

[@mizzviolet]

I'm 25 so I'm a little bit behind you, but I feel the same way. It's comforting to know other people struggle the same way you do, but also a little disheartening the more you realize these problems dont just "go away" with age.

[@user-sg8kq7ii3y]

If you're introverted, then why do you feel you need to change anything? EMBRACE yourself for who you are. This world leads us to believe that there's something wrong with being an introvert. I am an introvert, and I am married, and I have kids. I prefer to do things with my immediate family only. If I do go out with others, I prefer to go out with just one or two other people. I absolutely hate large parties, but I sometimes force myself to go to them because I know it's important to get out of my comfort zone every now and then. I prefer to exercise alone. I love to read books, alone. I'm a heck of a lot older than you are. Old enough to be your parent. The advice I give to you is DO NOT feel that you need to "change" in order to meet what society thinks you should be. EMBRACE your uniqueness, and focus your attention on daily improvement by exercising, reading good books, and fostering meaningful relationships with people who are important to you.

[@user-sg8kq7ii3y]

@@mizzviolet Problems "don't go away" ONLY if you accept that you have a "problem".

[@nyc9721]

@@user-sg8kq7ii3y This. I’m a major introvert and I want to find a significant other who understands that I don’t want to go out and be social every day🥲 dating/relationships is a constant struggle when you deal with anxiety too

[@-ana-9737]

This is the video I needed, i'm 23 and I feel i'm wasting my 'best years' (as everyone call the 20's); and i'm scared and don't know what to do but your video helped me to don't lose faith in myself even if everything makes nonsense rn. Thankyou

[@somnaventu_s2475]

Same

[@jaytee4300]

I’m 23 and feeling the same way too! I look at others constantly thinking how they can manage everything at once when I’m struggling, but this video was so cathartic to see other people feeling the same sentiment

[@-ana-9737]

@@jaytee4300 exactly, and just as he says, do NOT compare yourself with the rest, everyone's process it's different

[@devinwatkins8953]

20s is your best years?!? You know your going to live to be atlest 60 is you don't get into a accident or something right? That 20s is your best year statement is depressing ASF. Lol 😂 your age ant nothing just a number. Make this year your best year. Make your 30th your 40th the best geez. Relax

[@-ana-9737]

@@devinwatkins8953 i understand your statement but it's clearly you didn't properly read my comment, I said '"as most people call the 20's", I do believe you have the capacity to live better when you're young, for example 30's is it for me, not too young not too old.

[@Kiwicitobaby]

I’m 30, I spent my 20s trying to find what I wanted to do. I worked, struggled and finally by 26 I knew what I wanted and had reunited everything I needed to study my dream career. This is my last year. I’m realistic, I know it won’t be easy to break into the field. But I’ll work on it. My dreams are small and realistic. And I’m taking the steps to achieve them. Focus, don’t let people pressure you into making rushed decisions that you might regret later. 💛 I liked the advised you provided. I’ll definitely take in consideration the side hustle.

[@marinago7823]

Something I'm learning in my 20s (Im 26) is that success is different for everybody. That you should listen to yourself and think "how do I want to live my life". Not everybody wants the big life, and that's ok. To want to be modest and more "normal" or average its ok. Some peoples success isn't in the professional life. For some people a job it's just the way to earn money and they find happiness elsewhere and that's valid too. Don't try to pressure yourself into "successful careers" if you actually don't care about those careers, or the profesional life. You aren't your job, you're not more stupid or unsuccessful than others just because you prefer less top positions in your professional life. Do what makes you happy. Chase your own dreams and goals, even if they seem less ambitious than others. It's ok. Be smart, save some money and enjoy life.

[@honkhonk6359]

24 y/o NEET here. This video and these comments have given me a lot to think about. Thanks guys

[@orlandookemow7517]

Thank you for this comment

[@-ana-9737]

'You aren't your job' damn that hitted me, thank you

[@Garato-l1u]

@@honkhonk6359 same here mate 24 yrs 👍

[@kodyfroehlich]

Thank you for this comment, it is what I needed to hear 👍

[@zubh3860]

Wow perfect timing, I'm currently just like you, I'm 28 years old now and about to turn 29 in two months. Looking back I definitely wasted my 20s. I made SO MANY BAD life and career choices in my early 20's and looking back I was depressed most of my 20's due to bad life choices and complacency. It was when I turned 26 years old back in the pandemic in 2020 when I decided to DREAM BIG for the first time in my life and it was both scary and exciting at the same time. It is crazy to say that as throughout my childhood and teenage years, I was put down alot by so many people such as family, friends and teachers. I internalised those negative comments from them and stupidly believed it for most of my life, I'm mad at myself for believing that nonsense but I have to forgive myself as I didn't know. It was during the pandemic when I decided to dream big for the first time at the big age of 26 years old, it felt amazing and electrifying. I decided that I was going to start launch my own business, workout, move out my family home, cut of toxic people. So looking back at my 20's I would say my early 20's (20 years old to 25 years old) were wasted in bad choices and complacency and my late 20's (26 years old to 28 years old) was all about self discovery and knowing what I truly want in my life. So looking back I can't say ALL of my 20's were completely wasted. All in all I now know exactly what I want in life and I'm working extremely hard to achieve my goals. Even though they are huge goals, I 100% trust myself to achieve them and I'm excited for this new journey. No more walking through life aimlessly and confused. I'm so ready for my 20s to be over with and ready for my 30's! 😁💪

[@Ty-tn5uh]

👏🏾👏🏾

[@annam7356]

This is great advice. No bs. Real advice. I like when you said that we shouldn’t invest so much emotionally in the early stages of a romance. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on myself. Because it brings me pain when in the end I’m the only one liking the person so much… It gets me frustrated

[@shownemoto]

I used to feel the same way . It might sound cold but if they deserve you there has to be an effort and time .

[@Stanzbey69]

I can’t even get into a relationship bro

[@elsafinstad]

I’m 21 and am trying really hard not to lose my big dreams because of comparison and the weight of reality but this really changed my mindset thank you. Time is not wasted if you are constantly growing and learning and loving.

[@50kekk]

I love this video. Greetings from the Bay Area! During my early 20s I suffered from depression, so I didn't had a big expectation in what I want to do in life. After traveling to Europe and around America, I learned how to dream realistically: which is learning how to be happy and being in the present. It took about 5 years of healing lol Looking forward to see your future vids!

[@shownemoto]

Even if it takes time better to heal ourselves than not facing! Proud of you!

[@timbrandon8474]

KZbin algorithm could not be any better. I am turning 29 years old this year. Looking back my journey during my 20s, there are things that I regretted and also things that I cherished. One thing that I learned during my 20s journey is to have a goal. Does not matter if you want to get fit, get rich or get peace of mind, set your own goal. Goal can be broken down piece by piece and achieve them piece by piece to until you reach your final ultimate goal. To everyone out there thinking we are wasting our 20s, never regret because we get to live through our 20s. It is never too late to reach your goal, you are going to become fit, have your financial freedom and get your peace of life, as long as you start doing something to achieve that!

[@thanhla7080]

As someone whose career has just started recently in my late 28, I feel this. For the last 8 years post university graduation I've been living like a shadow of my own, now it's time to leave it behind

[@rookclark4204]

Literally same

[@Yes-gp1bt]

The only thing that tends to bother me is meeting people who’ve had good jobs, but then getting into major accidents that completely stop them for working that job again. I had a friend who spent a few years learning to be an auto mechanic, only to get hurt from someone who poorly put his car back together. He had a terrible hand injury, and it completely set him back from working his dream job. Nothing in life is guaranteed, and the best skill set to learn is how to adapt

[@ritaevergreen7234]

@@Yes-gp1bt i can relate to this. Had needed surgeries in college for my health only to hit the pandemic and almost die from a car collision at my parents house to now slowly recovering from the health issues the event caused while having to stop going to school even though I am a couple classes away and was still unsure what direction I was heading.

[@sarah_eduron]

Same!

[@0912sooli]

Im 25 and never had a job even the small one...I needed this :)

[@lvfty]

23 now. Living by a 80-20 rule for my goals and taking it seriously has been a huge help on taking the steps I need. Remember to not take life serious and to always care for your mental health. Thank you for the reminder that not everything has to be achieved right now. This will all be worth it later 🙏

[@lethabomakweya4257]

I found myself becoming the breadwinner for my family at 21 when I decided to not continue with my post grad studies and work abroad. I’m 22 now and these past few months have sort of been hell. I often find myself wanting to go back to university, to be like my friends, focussing on their degrees, constantly complaining about lectures instead of bills. It makes me wish that I didn’t push myself to this point. I thought that by providing for my family, I would be successful. I would also be earning a lot more money than many of my peers back at home. But I’m stuck at this point where I don’t even know what I want anymore. Or rather, I don’t know if it is possible to get what I want. But I’m trusting the process. Trusting that God is guiding me to where I need to be. It may not look pretty right now, but I have realised that my path is not meant to be straight and narrow. It’s curvy, long, almost endless and it is filled with so many possibilities. I think I get more excited thinking about how much there is for me to explore. But I don’t know where to start so😅

[@looksmatteronly]

what's your job mate

[@lethabomakweya4257]

@@looksmatteronly I’m an English teacher in South Korea 🥹

[@looksmatteronly]

@@lethabomakweya4257damn sounds amazing bro. I've heard a lot of people having a nice career becoming teachers in south Korea. how do I start? how do I apply? thanks

[@kipetreal]

You are 22 man, you can always change your path!!!

[@fashionbliss6110]

i hope you can find your reason and if you want to study i wish that there are ways for you to do so as well, maybe you can search up scholarships or find ways to earn more idk maybe make vlogs if you aren't comfortable there are vloggers who don't show their faces that way you can earn more and invest it in your studies i wish the best for you and i hope you can make the best out of your 20s with little to no regrets

[@aurracle8977]

I want to thank you for this lovely video 💖, I'll be 29 this year and I constantly worry I'm not good enough. I'm taking steps to self improvement and actually loving myself. It's important to learn that it's okay not to have everything figured out in your 20s. Cause even if you feel lost, you WILL find your way. 💖

[@TeenageHeadcase]

Great advice. I'm in my early 30's now and I have definitely wasted my 20's doing the wrong things and I was such a people pleaser for a long time. I feel like I only started living my own life when I got to my 30's and I am still trying to love myself and forgive myself for feeling behind in life. But in hindsight even though I have beat myself up over the wrong choices I made in my twenties and basically wasting a lot of my time, I don't think I would've wanted to miss all the experiences that I got out of my twenties. I have accepted that my twenties were a learning experience, I didn't do much to become succesful at a job or profession and in all honesty, I first thought that that really mattered, but now I don't really feel the need to be succesful at that. It's just a front you can put up to show other people how well accomplished you are, at least to me. But it really doesn't matter what other people think, the most important thing in life is achieving your own happiness, and of course for some people that might involve being succesful at some high paying job, but for me it's just doing the things I love, spending time with the people that matter to me and making lasting memories along the way. You're living your life for yourself and nobody else, that is what my twenties taught me, so I guess it wasn't really a waste 😉

[@sarah_eduron]

There are times when I feel that I wasted my 20s career wise. But looking back, I wouldn't change a thing. I became a wife and a mom in my 20s and now almost 29, i'm going back to school to become a nurse. I believe that everything falls under God's timing. Thank you for an inspiring video

[@BanesBasement]

There's no more beautiful thing than starting a family founded on love. I pray the way things have gone are good for you all! I'm in my early 20s and I am dating for marriage, a woman who has what your priorities were in your 20s is exactly what some of us are looking for. There's definitely like-minded people out there. Blessings to your young family and best of luck on your nursing venture!

[@sarah_eduron]

@@BanesBasement thank you for a nice comment!

[@stephaniegati1051]

There are women who now have a career and we’d love a family ❤. Basically we are doing the same thing just in different order. So you didn’t waste your 20’s 😀. You’re perfectly fine. You just did it in a different order

[@OnTheWorldStage]

Thank you for this video. I'm on the same wavelength as you right now. Recently, I've realized how consuming the ego is. I've seen people I know to have kind and gentle hearts act completely different on social media, just to temporarily fuel their egos. People I love have hurt me because they were leading their lives with their egos. I'm not perfect either, but I can confidently say that I choose to lead my life with my heart first

[@shownemoto]

Yeah I agree with you . Always ego as long as we are willing to build a healthy relationship with it . Ego won’t be a bad element . Hows the life in Tokyo ?

[@OnTheWorldStage]

@@shownemoto after one year living here, I’m finally finding peace with life in Tokyo, so I’m grateful! Almost decided to leave Japan, but had a change of heart in the end

[@mamacitaaaa17]

The fact that I did not search this video, yet this keeps on appearing on my feed. Decided to watch it now and I'm so glad that I did because everything you said were everything I needed to hear today. So, thank you! ❤️

[@chikensaregood9500]

when i was little the thought of being 30 was like death, now I'm 28 and veteran in the military about to get my bachelor's degree living on my own and looking forward to getting old having money and more time to do my hobbies like photography and computer editing.........it really isn't the end of the world as people think.

[@kylersalameda868]

Thank you for this!! I'm about to turn 24 and felt like my 20s so far have been uneventful and full of struggle. But I always forget that we all move at our own pace and we should not measure our progress through other people's journey. Wherever you are is where you need to be and where you want to go will come to be. Nothing is truly impossible if there's a will! 🔥

[@churchk24]

I'm very realistic which has its blessings and drawbacks. I lost my 20s to chaos and self hate which ended up leaving me heavily scarred. Self love is crucial and something I need to work on. Thanks for sharing and much love ❤

[@quit3118]

I’m watching this at 16 and I wished my teen years were an adventure I had strange adventures online with drama, meeting new people and seeing their true colors, etc And I met a girl that I love very much But I wished my life was better, I wish that I was not suicidal, I wish I never did self-harm I wish I got therapy I wish I was not scared every time... I wish I never wanted to disappear from reality I wish I didn’t want to turn 18 just to break free from this mental prison...

[@JoyfulHippy]

You didn't waste those years, you learnt valuable lessons. It took me until my early 50s to start to learn those lessons. I'm now 62 and at peace with myself finally. And if nothing else, you turned into a gorgeous young man, both inside and out. ❤

[@Lv-mu8gd]

This is such great advice. I'm 21, turning 22 this year and I feel I'm already struggling financially and romantically. I feel also anxious about getting my visa as soon as possible to return to Japan and continue living my dream there, so I feel like I am stuck at this stage of my life that was ideally different in my mind. I am an aspiring model and since I was comparing myself to other models that started their careers so much earlier than me I already felt like I was behind even if I'm still 21, it made me feel so much pressure and anxiety about even starting. Now I realized that everyone is different and I was being too hard on myself, I was forgetting about taking care of myself and enjoying the present moment. Your advice was exactly what I needed to hear right now, I feel you gave me clarity and made me realize so many things about life and myself. Thank you so much, I am very grateful KZbin recommended your video! Gonna watch all of your videos from now on, you have such great energy 🤍

[@Steak_Nachos]

I'm 30 now and I feel like I wasted my 20s. I had some pretty bad depression and anxiety for years behind the loss of family, friends and getting cheated on by an ex. After years of sedating myself with weed just to get through the day, I'm finally pushing forward with life again. It feels like i'm behind because returning to life is like opening a door that's been sealed shut for years. Dating, socializing, family/friends, and the world in general just feels different now. I know I can't compare myself to others because we all have different scenarios, so instead i'm trying to push myself to shoot for my dreams based on who I am right now and not who I "should've" been based on alternate choices that no longer exist. We can't torture ourselves with the past or we'll never have a future. For anyone struggling with this, please don't be too hard on yourself. Everyday above ground is a win and another chance to begin.

[@Star_shine7777]

Your post brought me relief that it's not what we are but we work towards that we will become Can you share some advice from your life experiences?

[@Steak_Nachos]

Hey @@Star_shine7777 . Sorry for the late reply, I barely saw this response today in my notifications. If I had any advice to give from my life experiences, it's that you have to embrace all of it. There's going to be times that suck, happy times, and everything in between. I used to get really bummed out when too many negative things happened in a row and it caused me to slowly withdraw from the world. The only you get from doing that though, is protection from "possible" pain. Unfortunately, it also cuts off possible happiness as well. That's why now I've learned to just accept the good and the bad equally and appreciate both because no matter what we experience, it's all a testament to the fact that we're alive right here and now. No matter what's happening currently or whatever took place in the past, we have an opportunity to create a new life as long as we're alive. For all we know, the best moments of our lives are ahead of us, so just keep looking straight and if you really want something - don't wait.

[@bunnytarot]

I spent my 20’s running from my abusive childhood & all those demons from being bullied & beaten for all those years. I just wanted so much to prove to myself that I was worthy & everyone else wrong yet still got lost in the nightlife festival scene & drugs. If you were abused at home & bullied at school as a child It’s so important to get therapy ASAP cause those demons won’t stop chasing you, you have to close that portal to the dark side that was opened up by your parents & bullies or you can literally get killed or kill yourself. May kindness & good will reign supreme for everyone, everything, everywhere! 😇🛸💜🐰🙏

[@jhaysenaon6465]

😔

[@user-mj6qr2ky9d]

How long did it take to heal

[@Carmen_Lee_Co]

🙏🏽💕

[@gabrielaanampaguzman7756]

I'm still not in my 20s but I feel I can relate . Maybe we don't have the same experiences but feelings are quite the same but well ..I can only said what one teacher of mine told me once after she found out what I was going throught "You're strong.I know many in your place would have already kicked that bucket " Oh ..I also looking for that teraphy and ..maybe that wasn't the "right "way out you needed ,but it's great it help you find your own path. And thank you for the great wishes,hope kindness and good also follows you throught your life 💖💖💖💖💖

[@Yurikagonoutau]

Yup. 😢

[@ruckus181]

Just stumbled on this video and subbed. Thanks for the words Show. I'm 42, married with 2 kids. I definitely wasted my 20s, and I'd go as far as saying most of my 30s as well. Fortunately, I've been working in tech for a while which has allowed me a somewhat comfortable life for me and my family. But it took a long while for me to learn to love myself. I've struggled with addiction since I was a late teen and it's a battle I will fight the rest of my life. It wasn't until I became clean and sober that I learned to love myself- and that was fairly recent. In many ways, I feel like my life started over in my late 30s. Whatever I should've done in my 20s, I'm now doing. And this time, I'm not only working on bettering myself for me, but more so for my family. Before I go on a rant, I'll finish this post by echoing what Show touched on in this video- no matter where we are in life, it's never too late ♥

[@Star_shine7777]

Your post was encouraging Thank you!

[@lindaw4988]

I really agree with you!! I had to finally start telling people to stop telling me what to do!! I am different than you!! I must go on my own path. Keep up the great advice Show!!

[@shownemoto]

Yes different makes this world complete , you are you and that’s beautiful !

[@lindaw4988]

@@shownemoto Thank you!!

[@Moonflower458]

I’m going to start saying this lol

[@frythechip7930]

Honestly, I really needed to hear this. Being in your 20's, you feel like there is this massive expectations for you to have your life together, be realistic but also dream big. At least for me. Been trying to sort things out with issues from my childhood, going into my adult years, while also having a constant pressure everyday of ''I should be doing something with my life' every single day. It's gotten to a point where, I wake up everyday feeling depressed if I don't feel like I'm doing something, but also at the same time, whatever I do just doesn't feel like enough. It's a constant cycle of be calm for a little while since I did something, then freak out because it's been too long of me not doing enough. It gets exhausting, life ends up feeling like too much, and it definitely doesn't help when you have parents calling you lazy. - It was nice to hear for once that I'm not the only one feeling such expectations on my shoulders, and that it's alright to take it slow form time to time, and despite people all around us telling us to live our lives big while we're young and to go all out, it's ok to not be like that all the time when you're young.

[@kurrves]

I'm in my 40's. Great advice. I wasted my 20s with the wrong men in relationships, didn't dream at all. I had goals any goals because I was living in the moment when I thought I was in love. 20s are for discovering yourself. I'd say go to college, and hold off on marriage/kids. 30s is more suitable for that.

[@shownemoto]

If you are living the best life then that was a necessary years for you!

[@team3gaming749]

At what age did you get married?

[@krisstrendy]

Not for women a woman sexually is at her peak from 18-25 guys prefer younger n fertile woman who don’t have high risk pregnancies so a female waiting till 30 to settle down isn’t a good idea for real dating market wise

[@abduwalimuse7482]

@@krisstrendy ok Kris

[@OneStepDown]

@@abduwalimuse7482 He's not wrong though.

[@TheeRighteousOnee]

I'm trying to buy my first house before 30. I'm currently 28 and so many people my age seem so far behind focused on partying/drugs/etc with no money and it is sad to see. I get life is tough but I feel like i'm so far ahead of a lot of people my age. You have to work hard for the things you want in life and not waste time on other things that won't get you ahead.

[@cincereqoutes8844]

same. so relatable. ppl try to tell me if i have no fun in my 20s. ill regret it. lol

[@Star_shine7777]

Can you please share your life experiences or some advice?

[@marianL4159]

I grew up as the eldest in a family of 5 kids. We struggled financially. We were not poor, but my parents had to work hard to maintain quality education for us kids. This prompted me to be realistic and to manage my expectations. I was raised to hone responsibility and to be a good role model to my siblings. A time came when i felt too pressured and everything was too much for me. I had to step back and rethink my plans and visions in life. Thank you for this video. It helped me.

[@shownemoto]

We are the creature to get used to things . Once you get used to not to leap in . You become better at it . Now you have to get used to decide under the pressure , everything new is uncomfortable but you will get used to it eventually !

[@BlaqIchigo]

As a person who just turned 30 I can say, that in your 30s you know who you are. At the same time we’re not done learning who we are. I’m a writer and my goal is to share my stories to the masses. Realistically I can’t take care of myself as just a writer but I adapted. I still chase the dream while working retail. My 20s was an unorganized adventure, but now i have published a book and self published 2 with another on the way. Take away here is don’t give up on your dreams and forget what people say.

[@ItsKaiOpinion]

As many other comments pointed out, many people have no idea who they are, ever. You don't magically turn 30 and have it figured out. Many people are depressed beyond belief at 30, or suddenly coming out of the delusion of a broken marriage, abusive family, or their first serious trauma. Some of us know who we are from day one, and some, never find out.

[@OcelotsRevolver1234]

What was your book if I may ask?

[@digiornopizza1918]

I just turned 30 in feb of 2023. I lost my house, my job, and I’m going back to classes to learn a skill in coding. I spent the last 5 years in and out of college working dead end jobs that ultimately got me nowhere financially. I stayed up late, didn’t exercise and spent too much time playing video games. Before this I was in the military, after I worked in a police agency where I earned a secret clearance that guarantees me a job, got my college and my classes in coding all paid for. I’m collecting disability that covers half my rent, and I look better than I’ve ever looked. My point is that it still feels like I’m starting over. Like I didn’t make much of myself these last 10 years. But I’m realizing that I’ve done a lot more than I give myself credit for. Give yourself more credit for the things you are proud of. Rather than staying inside like me and being a hermit awake at 2am.

[@Steelice]

Man, ego and self-consciousness really is what's holding me back. Now that I think about it, I don't have a ton of haters and I have a lot of supporters and friends on my side cheering me on. But I really am my biggest obstacle right now.

[@bluebenji2740]

I turn 20 March 11th. I am really glad I came across this video. I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders. With everyone expecting me to have all the pieces to the puzzle. But the truth is I don’t right now. This video sorta puts me at ease. I understand that we all move at a different pace. These years are for me to collect all the puzzle pieces. And eventually I will have the pieces all put together.

[@Ad46blocka]

Birthday twin , I turn 21 this year. May we all succeed in life and the hereafter

[@durandalisdendroarchon]

More people with the same birth date, turning 26 though. I've been questioning my life after I turned 18 all those years ago.....

[@mantis7911]

My dad one time came home with this ugly van. I didn't like it. I felt embarrassed being in it and driving it but after a while I started to realize how nice of a van it was. It became my daily. My dad ended up losing his car so he needed the van back and I was left with this beat up manual truck. Thing was a million times worse then the van. I didn't pay for it so I was grateful to have something to move around with but from time to time I got to drive the van. Driving it put the biggest smile on my face. Drove so smooth and no manual shifting. I appreciated it. Every time I drive it now it always feels like I'm driving a spaceship. That's what I grew to call it :) I don't think it matters what you get in this life but what you build with yourself, family, and friends.

[@brandonethereal1084]

I'm 35 and I have no regrets about what I didn't accomplish. Was I a immature screw up at times? Sure. However I have my my head screwed on, so not only do I dream big, I take action even bigger. Enjoed the honest video bro.🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@EddieYettie]

I’m about to be 25, so far it’s been a wild ride. A lot of psychological challenges, a lot of physical challenges, and it’s taught me different lessons. I’m actually looking forward for my 30’s. I wanna know the different lessons life will teach me. It will be the same challenges but it will be harder.

[@afoxcatartvideos4877]

I learned the hard way to make friends. People became you're friends if you have what they want. If you are not their friends. Took me so long to realize

[@onelifeoneme3648]

I am turning 24 next week. From last year I thought I was close to know my purpose in life. I stated waking up at 6am and sleep at 9:30pm, reading books, exercising and doing meditations. However, everything falls apart and I am back to old me. The one who is so attached to phones and spending hours on watching dramas. I know this isn’t me, I can do more and become anyone I want. I felt trapped in a metal box, so attached to the old habits. From this day I promise to myself, I will find my true self and my purpose in this life. Hope everyone will find your own purpose.

[@Star_shine7777]

You know don't push yourself too hard, improve yourself at a pace you aren't uncomfortable with

[@snuppl512]

Same issue, i tried to change but fall back on same old phone addiction and dramas habit. I hope we keep trying every time we start to fall and don't giving up!

[@GorgeousPuree]

I downloaded an app called Forest and it helps me to stay focused. Not a promo

[@bvrlxxxn804]

This video is so important to my life. you gave me a lot of positive energy and inspired me to follow my dream, living a happier life. Love you show, thank you.

[@shownemoto]

I am happy to hear that ! Let’s keep working on ourselves !

[@MrSotero123]

I spent most of my 20’s overweight, entitled, lazy, and unreliable. I didn’t take charge of any opportunities that came and I made excuses for every little thing I did wrong. I’m now down 55lbs and have been living happily for the first time in a long time. I used to always be so bummed out about wasting my youth, but I’m still only 29 and I see so many people older than me still doing incredible things. I’m finally awake!

[@aminkamara6060]

Society plays a great role in our 20s as it did to mine We have been turned into this zombie like creatures who must or should do as community thinks it fit But as i grow I grew out of it and start healing and love myself more And appreciate myself

[@BigdaddiZ]

I had kids in my early 20s, I’m 29 next month. My 20s went by so quick, constant stress, constant struggle, 5 consecutive years with no vacation. To be honest? I’m so glad I went through all of that young. My 30s are going to be a cake walk because of the work and stress I went through in my 20s 😂.

[@tiff2072]

The most important thing to focus on: Communication skill, side hustle, dating. It speaks so much to me. Thank you.

[@JamesFuller-o1s]

Thanks for this video! I just turned 18 in January and I'm constantly putting pressure on myself and I need to realise that its not about comparing ourselves to others because at the end of the day its about our own personal journey

[@anastasiababutsidze8793]

This video is crazyy good !!! I think we have to dream big ,love this saying “if your dream dont scares you its too small” sociaty ,school system raising you to be to “realistic” work 9-5 job whole life etc.. when we are only ones who create our reality ,nomatter how hard our goal is we have to be patient during process &if we truly want it and work for it we will achieve ,anything we want,most important we need strong mindset to not to be affected by small failures and peoples opinions💯 About people it’s always better to be alone than with people who don’t value you 🙌🏻

[@shownemoto]

Exactly ! Love your comment ! Young philosopher !

[@Kungoe767]

Bro you are exactly right. I feel the same. i am now at 28 and i learned so much about my mental state. its crazy in 20's you have to be fun and never take life too seriously. Let it flow and finding your life purpose is the main thing to seek. Everything else will take place automatically. You should be calm and don't ever rush. Because of the nature of this greed and desperation. Great things will be never be achieved out of desperation. With ease and confidence then it will happen. If you do anything out of desperation then some how it will become an obstacle. And something will go wrong.

[@juliem1930]

Best video ever. I’m in my mid 20s and the reality is just upside down from the expectations. Maturity is definitely hitting me out of la la land. Thanks for sharing. ❤❤

[@farahfarzana8752]

Life is never a waste, as long as you're breathing and allowing yourself to learn from your each and every experience, be it good or bad, then there will be a point you will shine brighter than ever. So never regret and find reasons to love your life and make it more beautiful. Therefore let go of all the "should have" and "could have" and focus on the things that are awaiting in front of you. - Wisdom from a 28 year old lady

[@mandychin]

Thank you for sharing this, I am also in my last year of 20s, truly inspiring:) you have great spirit and energy! Hope you have a wonderful upcoming 30s Show!

[@shownemoto]

Awesome ! Let’s enjoy the hell out of our last year of 20s !

[@ianchen472]

This video could not have come at a better time, im 23 I just want to say thank you. Thank you so much

[@ellak7629]

I just turned 18. And I always thought I am so complicated and thats why for me its so hard to connect with new poeople or stay in contact with my friends. But now I realized, that its hard for me to keep up a friendship because I never wanted to live a life for someone else or for my friends. I always wanted to do what I want... and my friends didnt understood that and thought i was being egoistic. But now i know, its more important to do what I want and to grow and learn for myself. And since I undersood that, I am feeling happier even tho im more alone. At the beginning I was to scared to cancel friendships, because I thought I would be happier, if I would have more friends... But now I am such more happier since I starded to love myself first! Thank you for this yt channel, it really helps me!!

[@Lily-888]

Sometimes people go through what they don't prefer so they can truly define a direction for the life they do prefer. Blessing to you on the rest of your life :D Your journey is the destination 💚

[@jamieshimmin4377]

At 21, these are all the things my perspective is beginning to shift towards, learning these lessons and working to integrate these into my life, I really appreciate you saying and reinforcing this, it resonates and feels earnest. Thanks

[@insertusernamehere119]

"People believe their opinions, yet they don't believe themselves. Because it makes them feel better, not too scared." That is a great quote!

[@leoramichaldillow]

This really resonated with me when it comes to career goals. I had severe learning disabilities and wanted to be an art major; mostly because it was the only thing I was good at. When entering college I spent three years working on university prereqs because in the US, you need to pass algebra II in order to get into a good university regardless of your major and I retook the class five times! We spend four years in high school trying to get into a good school, the first two years of university on prereqs then the final two years on specialized courses. When are you supposed to figure out or know what you want to do for the rest of your life during that time or make life changing decisions at that age? 2022 statistics: In the United States, people between 18 and 24 have an average of 5.7 career changes. Meanwhile, people between 25 and 34 change jobs about 2.4 times, people between 35 and 44 years old switch occupations roughly 2.9 times, and individuals between 45 and 52 years old change jobs about 1.9 times. The school system should develop our skills and let us figure all this out and not waste time on standardized testing. In kindergarten they ask us what we want to be but then beat us down to only work a job that pays an average or unlivable salary or undergo so much stress to make so much money for the sake of making money. Passion has little to do with it anymore as well as the maturity to make big decisions at such a young age. Sorry… rant over.

[@shownemoto]

That was a great information ! Thank you ! The truth is we should educate ourselves constantly to make sure we make decisions by our own will , not other people or government . Let’s keep learning and enjoy our life while we have it !

[@louera]

This. The educational system needs to reform, asap. The current one is only training us to be corporate slaves. Let your kids undergo montessori education instead- it’s more holistic and allows kids to explore their interests earlier on.

[@stevens1041]

I really agree. My major was math and computer science. I didn't want to do these things. I wanted to be a language translator, when I was a teenager. I feel a lot of sadness that I'm stuck in my life based on choices I made when I'm only 18, 19 years old.

[@AdityaSingh-xd7xl]

Bro, I'm 21 years old and everything that's going on in my life right now feels so overwhelming and suddenly I got this video recommendation. And after watching your video, now I know what I must do, and it's a great help.

[@davdjimenez1150]

One thing that I realized from visiting family in Mexico is that they think my life is so good here in the U.S. but like he said in the video everyone has something we don’t have or want but we must also realize how privileged some of us are to live in certain countries with many more opportunities, and we must use these to our advantage. And the truth is at least for now not everyone can be rich there will always be disparities,but we can be somewhere in the middle and be perfectly happy. We all have things to be great full for from family and friends to safety and self awareness and other privileges living in wealthy countries or not. Love you all

[@blahblahgdp]

Im turning 27 and I have no friends, only held a full time job for about 2 years. Ive had a life long anxiety issues and its been a rough road, especially harder cause my parents arent very versed in emotional subjects, so I was left alone to fend off these emotions i didnt know how to deal with. Im just happy they havent abandoned me while Im trying to pick up the pieces. And unfortunately that full time job I had, I had to leave due to massive stress/anxiety, mainly from my manager that was basically emotionally manipulating my anxiety to her benefit.

[@olaishere]

Hope things get better for u ❤

[@taylorlangley900]

Have you tried forgiving your parents?

[@tomek3818]

Totally agree with you man. I'm 30 and through my 20s I had good moments that I will always remember but I know I could have done it better. 20s is the time of hanging out with people, the time of making friendships and I regret so much that I waste this opportunity. Now I have well paid job but that's not make me happy, I feel that life is passing by and I don't live the life I want. If I had a chance to talk with 20 years old me I would say 1. almost always say "yes" 2. spend time with people 3. travel more 4. don't judge other people 5. live your life. Hope that when I turn 40 I will not regret my 30s and I wish you all the same.

[@brigittesnelson2354]

I always thought I wanted to 'make it big' when I was in my late teens. I actually thought I wanted to work 5 days a week and make money to be happy. Now that I've almost finished university, I see that that was all because of me comparing myself with other people who had that dream. I work 3 days a week now, don't make a lot of money but the amount of stress that has lifted off my shoulder is HUGE. I'm 24 years old now and my biggest wish now is to have a stable family of my own and be a mother

[@paulinarojas6191]

what work do you do?

[@brigittesnelson2354]

@@paulinarojas6191 i work as a sales worker in electrical retail.

[@ashleybaly]

I'm 25 and will be turning 26 soon (it felt like I was 20 yesterday, the 20s go by sooooo fast!!) I currently feel "stuck" because I'm not where I expected to be or where I'm normally supposed to be at my age. So I'm trying to remap my entire life, now this is sounding a lot like a quarter-life crisis. I'm very grateful I stumbled across your video, this has been a reminder to not give up on my dreams and to pursue the things that make me happy without worrying about what others think. Also, I love your accent!

[@dobrevdima]

I'm 24 and having the same thing.. still figuring out what to do but i hope it's a good sign that we're trying, we must keep going!

[@Eliizurr]

Im turning 22 in a week, and last year on my birthday I made a promise to myself: that the next year I won’t be crying on my birthday because I feel miserable, just like I’ve done in the last 4/5 birthdays. The last month my boyfriend broke up with me and in the last weeks I really opened my eyes. I realized that I was emotionally dependent my whole life, going from a person to another and that was what started this journey of setting myself free. From that day everything makes more sense, I feel more open to things and at the same time I’m setting boundaries to protect my energy since I also tend to be a people pleaser. They say to never change what you are, but sometimes if the change actually heals you, then make a gift for yourself and make this change, because life is tragic but there’s no reason to make it a living hell. To me, this is also the most realistic reason of why taking care of yourself is worth it. This video gave me such positive energy. Thank u, have a blessed day

[@shownemoto]

Keep changing ! Nothing remian the same , people who is not willing to change will left in the past . Now write a letter to yourself who is turning to 23 years old with something you wanna promise to your future self . I do that every year . Don’t worry it might takes time but you will make a big change !

[@adanthamer3022]

So Proud of you

[@Jullvo]

I dont think you waste your twenties, you actually live it, and learn from it and now you give us your experiences😊 Thank you so much!

[@ANNiEWiNz]

I’m just beginning my 20s and this video was just what I needed ! I have big dreams and goals, and even though it might not be realistic I want to go for it because I don’t want to regret wasting my life doing something I don’t want to do. I’m about to graduate soon, and I’m gonna move to Japan because YOLO lol 😂

[@woozyzi1173]

😭😭😭🧡🧡🧡 “Your ego and self-consciousness will be your biggest enemy… If you don’t take your time and the courage to face it, it will linger, in your life.” 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I knowww, thanks for pointing it out so brutally 🧡🧡🧡 love this video!!!

[@somnaventu_s2475]

I am 24 and 2 months old now, with Covid starting in 2020 the world was slowed down, and I particularly felt stagnated, I didn’t do anything that felt meaningful or self-enriching, there were good things but I never thought they were the right tracks to go on. Time started flying in a really fast pace because I felt they were wasted away, I am nervous and anxious for my future and how I might not be able to make meaning of my youth, of how it should be. Your words help and I will listen to them, take action, make investments on things and don’t chase conclusions just yet. But it’s just this lingering anxiety and self-blame within that can’t be cleansed yet, I was 21 and in a flash 3 years of insignificance just flew away, I’m starting to see wrinkles on my face, but I still feel like a lost kid.

[@pango4425]

I also just turned 24 and same. I'm starting to actually notice myself aging now. I can't pass for 18 anymore.

[@Jessy_Silva9]

what you lived in your 20's brought you where you are today, not always is good of course, but it's life. Life is beautiful in a hard and sad way. The energy that we put in effort doens't pays off, and life is such mysterious, tasty and amazing in itself.

[@ohmystress8442]

I'm in my 30s and I have to say, being older is way easier than being an anxiety-filled 20-year old that feels perpetually lost in the world. I still have anxiety and can feel lost but I also feel that I don't necessarily have to live up to other people's expectations and that it's ok to do things at your own pace. I can relate to the feeling of having wasted your 20s, you waste all that youthful energy by worrying about shit that doesn't matter as much later. And then you are in your 30s and wish you still had that kind of energy... haha. So to all the youngsters out there, life doesn't end if you don't become rich and famous in your 20s, just relax and enjoy being young and stupid because pretty soon you won't be able to :P

[@rayofhope2210]

I love this! I'm 24 and I someone who has thrid a few different things in live, from fashion designer to social assistant. Right now I'm studying Illustrations and yet I have not found what I want to do in my life. My parents always ask me what I want to do with my life and I really hate this question, because I don't know how to answer... I grew up moving a lot so I get used to new things easily but I also get bored easily. Learning that I don't have to decide just yet. That I can take my time to see the world and try different things, takes a lot of anxiety from me. I have watched a few of your videos and honestly, they help me a lot. So thank you very much! Please keep doing what you do! ❤ Lot's of love form Germany 😊

[@f9nineteen]

I’ve seen so many of these videos but this is the one that I truly like. I needed to hear the advice regarding our own ego and self-consciousness. Thank you for this.

[@anwesha__96]

I have randomly come across this video and I am currently 26 with a job and my parents on my back forcing me into the societal norm of settling down with a partner before my 20s are over.. I cannot explain the amount of relief that washed through me to hear you out and find many confused yet still going strong souls in the comment section.:)

[@Leart_of_heart]

I just turned 20 in February, so this video couldn't have come at a better time😄Thank you Nemoto for this video, I really needed to hear this 🥰

[@manahilsaleem6045]

Even though I'm still not in my 20s yet, but still as a teenager, I needed to hear all of this. So thank you soo so much for sharing your wisdom. ❤🙏🏻

[@eggytoasty_]

This video reflects my current situation. Even if not in my 20s, it will come soon. I've been working on myself, on healing about traumatic childhood, and my relationship with w/my parents is still just OK, but at the same: take time with it. School is still 1 year left. What next? I do have one in mind, but I remind myself: "Focus on the present and think about the future when you feel like it again." Please don't think about it. My idealistic goals: - school (graduation soon) - stable job (without a higher degree) unless I don't apply to higher education yet - adulthood experiences - social skills, aka "networking" with others. - There is room to grow and learning never ends. - Focusing on yourself (in a good way) etc.

[@AndyNC]

I think the only time you're wasting time of your life, is when you are not yourself. It's not about getting rich or successful. A lot f people with tons of money are unhappy, because they hate what they do, they would like to do something else. Being yourself brings you inner freedom and happiness. In my 20s, internet and social media was barely a thing, and so I was not under that urgent need to compare myself to others. I lived my life based on my desire for experience and memories. I was never rich in my 20s and 30s, but I was full of emotion and hunger for changes. At some point I got caught in the rat race and made some money, but I lost myself somehow. Now I am back within me and because of my kids every day I want to be a better man and father like I was the day before.

[@suatt38]

Just turned 21. All my teen years all I thought of was making it big, living my dreams, thinking of the future, every. day.

[@ralitsa_borissova]

"detach yourself from the result" - the most important line for me

[@mooke7919]

I just turned 20 two months ago (Jan 19). This video popped up on my recommendations and I never clicked so fast. I would like to manifest that this new chapter in my life will bring out the best in me🥺. This vid really help me not to beat myself up so much coz based off the comments, we all going through similar struggles. I'll take it one step at a time and not rush or make irrational conclusions just to please others (esp family). Funny enough, some of the things mentioned are the things I have already been putting into practice😭. I'm so glad I came across this video!! Quote of the day~ "Some people have what you want, but many other people want what you have"♥

[@chitsanthwe2901]

I started my 20s 2 years ago and I was so excited to become 20 when I was in my teenage years. Now I have realized I had tons of adults shit to learn, control myself , learn myself and adventure my life. It's too stressful sometimes to be 20s. I have so many expectations yet so little accomplishments. But now that after I watch ur video, I feel like I can relate to you a lot. And I always wanted to have a conversation with someone like you because I believe I can learn something from someone who's been thru their 20s. Thank you so much for sharing your 20s experience. I think everyone's 20s is really beautiful whether we messed up or we made it. Hope I can have a most meaningful 20s of my life. Wish everyone the same as welll. XD

[@hellswindstaff91]

my only regret in my 20s was i kept trying to be a Mr Fix It. Be the good guy all the time and i put too much energy into that instead of working on myself. Im turning 40 in 2 months i realized my mistakes when i was in a terrible relationship with a girl i thought i was going to marry i think i was around 33 at that time. You have plenty of life left man. Just focus on you and KNOW YOURSELF. Dont worry about having too many friends because theyre gonna go their separate ways . set goals but have some perspective of reality too.

[@preshuswilkins9523]

Thank you, this really helps. I’m 20 turning 21 and I’ve been so stressed that I’m wasting my life and this just took some of that weight off and helped with some direction. Thank you :)

[@janitapegram]

I don't know why this video was recommended by KZbin but I'll just say... I feel you. I'm 27 and I'm not where I wanna be or where I thought someone my age would be, but it's best not to overthink. I feel like I'm late with understanding my career goals but I'm slowly working towards them, taking classes, etc. To anyone that feels unhappy about their situation, don't give up. Don't put an age limit on yourself. Just find your interests (which might take years to do, but that's okay!) and plan and be diligent towards those goals 👍🏽

[@Star_shine7777]

Reading this already gave me support that even i can do what i want ( though i am not in my 20s) Goodluck to you too!

[@christineclark9073]

It’s good to remember these things. Thanks for the video. It made me feel more motivated this Monday morning. I love remembering this phrase; ‘Sone people have what you want, but many people want what you have.’ This is so true. Good to have that perspective. Thanks!

[@kikikimty8934]

I’m 22 about to 23 this April, did feel what you’ve said about the 20s. I did feel like that too, all the pressures or wanting to be success so quickly and think I should have my life in the right track, succeed my goal and many things all done before 30 despite knowing things takes time and people path are different. Thank you for sharing those in the video it’s like a very helpful self reminder, I’m really appreciated. By the way about thinking flat on the dating life I’m quite not really get it, what did you mean by think flat…I’m not sure that I understand it correctly or not but I’m really wanna understand it. if you could explain more about think flat on dating life that would be the most generous thing for me. I hope you living your best last 20s and have a great 30s awaits!

[@yepyepIlove]

I wasted my 20’s too and I feel the exact same way but I’m going to enter my 30’s with a lot of wisdom. I’m going to make my 30’s my best decade!

[@Indra..x]

It’s crazy how these types of video find you at the most convenient times. I’m 27, turning 28 later this year and I feel a 100% everything said in this video. It took me a while to figure what I want to do with myself and throughout the years I was working a regular job and kept comparing myself to others who seemed to be doing what they want in life and the more I compared the more I died a little on the inside and it was so bad I’d stagnate myself. Fast forward, I now know what I want out of life and I’m taking the steps to achieve it. life is your journey not a race against others.

[@byzoemay]

What you mention about not rushing is so true. I am 22 and I find myself wanting to make my KZbin/art business work so badly, that I'm rushing out mediocre content, instead of taking my time, and in the long run, that will only hurt me.